After 33 years of absolutely no contact, I am now va k in touch with my first live - the first man I ever had sex with (willingly) on my 20th birthday in 1990. (My rape at the age of 17 doesn't count!). I talk about how we got back in touch again after all these years after he dumped me in a very public and emotionally violent way bavk on August 4, 1990.