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My name is Alex, and sometimes I absolutely
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hate social media. Nor
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no, al right,
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will be alright forever, No,
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be alright, alright,
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we'll be alrights ever, what
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is up, y'all? You thought we were done, We're not.
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We never die. We are here right
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now. We had to do an extra episode
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because the way that we do this podcast,
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um, is that I get to talk to Catherine, who shout
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outs to Catherine as we end this season, like just
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absolutely fantastic and work
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so hard on this podcast, Like you're you're just absolutely
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I know you can hear me right now, and you're gonna have to edit
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this and you can't cut this out. I'm not gonna
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let you. But you're absolutely fantastic,
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um. And and it's just so much fun. But we just talk
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about what we want to talk about. So we're like, you know what,
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let's give him a bonus episode. And this episode
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is going to be talking about Instagram. And I
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want to preface this whole thing because I'm very,
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very ucky that I that I've been able to
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build an amazing group of people
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who support this journey that I'm on, especially
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on Instagram. UM, So I don't want this
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to be me kind of
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looking this gift horse in the mouth and
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and just pretending that it's not
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an awesome thing that can be used in an amazing
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way. But I think it was very important
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to me and to Catherine to talk about
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the reality of the negative
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aspects of social media, especially
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Instagram. I will be the first
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one on this podcast to say I'm
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gonna I'm just gonna come out and say it. I face tuned
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my photos sometimes I still
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do. I still do to this day if I
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have like a big pimple on my forehead, or
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if I feel a little bit bloated or this
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or that, and I do it. And it's the worst
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thing because I don't know what makes me do it.
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But everybody that I talked to also
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does it, and we all do it. And it was
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just one of those things where I just remember thinking about
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it and being like, Yo, that's not that's
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not right, right, Like we're not all
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just faking what we look like because
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one person did it or one person actually
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looks like that, so we all have to try and fake
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our way there. And that's just one aspect
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of it, you know. I I see people who
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I know flexing this this
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a brand new car or a brand new watch, or
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you see people who I know
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aren't necessarily in the happiest relationship
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posting about how amazing their their relationship
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is. And I think it's not about telling
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everybody exactly what's going on. But I think that
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we've reached a certain level, especially in the
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last few years, of just over
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over hyping what's going on and not
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talking about the reality of things. I actually
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one of the through lines of this last year, especially
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with with everything going on in society,
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one of my through lines that I saw was that it
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did get real for a second, got very
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real for a second. I think it kind
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of shed a light on the idea that
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we can be real, that we can stand up for what
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we believe in, and we can be who we really are, and
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we can talk about all of that. I
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have some amazing guests on today and we're gonna get
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into them for a bit. But first I just I
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couldn't stop but think, is
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anything on Instagram real? What
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is up? This is? Let's get into it. I'm alex I O
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no, this is my podcast. This is the last. This
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is I promised the actual last, Like, we're not doing
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another encore after this. This is
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the end. The final and we're talking
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about Instagram and its effects on reality,
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how Instagram changes reality.
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And I have to absolutely fantastic
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guests on here today. One
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of them is I I. We have the craziest
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story that we're gonna get into of how we know each other
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or the way that we actually ended up connecting
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with each other. He is an absolutely
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phenomenal artist. The the idea
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of a journeyman, a man
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that I know, is proof that good
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people in the industry when that you can
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be happy, You can have the American
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dream of a life with a beautiful wife and a
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beautiful child. Just became a
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dad this last year, so many amazing
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things, releases, brand new single Blueberry Eyes, dropped
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a remix of it. Everything
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you might know him. My favorite song of his is still
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Lights Down Low. I know it's I know it's corny
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to say, but he is one of my favorite artists.
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And he also sent me
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a Rubik's Cube if you know I love Rubik's Cubes.
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And he's got He's just got the best march in the game.
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He is my friend, and I'm so happy
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to say that he's my friend. The one and only Max.
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What's up man? That's so happy to be on
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the podcast. Thanks for dude. I'm so happy
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that you're here and and you of all people
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you know, like I mentioned, not only just
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in the social media around, but you understand the journey,
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you know, you understand what it takes to be an
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artist, all of the good, all
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of the bad, all of the ugly. So
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I'm excited that we get to jump into it. Also
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with us, I have a writer, a perfectionism
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expert. I had never heard of this term, and it's
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so cool. A perfectionism expert. The
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founder of Monday Vibes, which is a personal growth
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newsletter and a network for women UM.
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She studied burnout and perfectionism at Columbia
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University. If you don't know what that is,
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major school UM, and if you don't know what that
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is, you probably won't get there
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UM and is currently working on her first
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book right now, The One and Only Elizabeth
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Sue. How are you? I'm so good.
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Thank you for having me. Oh, thank you
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for being here. I mean, I think it's what I love
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about this setup. And again, Catherine, love
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you to death, because you really set this up perfectly. As we
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have somebody who's an expert on this exact
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topic that we're talking about, and you have two
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people, including myself, who are living
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it like still to this day, are living
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it. So we're gonna be getting into some sick topics,
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first one being that Instagram isn't real,
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uh. The sec what topic is going to be that we're just
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consumed by our screens. And last,
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but not least, we're gonna be all talking together about
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taking the control back into
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our own hands. But before we get into
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that, I have a question that I ask every single one of my guests.
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This is the last time that I get to ask this question for the season,
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and I think next season we'll have a new question because
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we've gotten a ton of different answers. That
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question is what have you been doing this week to
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improve yourself, your life?
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You know anything? There's I one time I talked
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about how I built a garden. Another time how I talked
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about how I let myself eat a doughnut every day
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for a week. So we've done there. No answer
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is off as off limits. I would say
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for me, the biggest thing that I've been doing
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is it's something that I used to do all the time and then
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I stopped doing it for a while. It's making
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my bed in the morning. And I
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remember watching this like old I don't know if it was
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a Ted talk or it was like a speech about
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and this like this military vet.
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It was talking about when you meet you know, when you make your bed in the morning,
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you have a calm, You start your day by accomplishing
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something, and it sets you on the right path. It
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also reminds me that I'm not allowed to get back in bed
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until it's bedtime, because if I'm especially staying
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in a hotel right now, I look at that bed and
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I'm like, damn, that ship looks just
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phenomenal right now. So I've
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been making my bed. That's something that I've been
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doing and uh and and it's always good to get
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back on track to stuff, especially for me. I'm
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very much so a systems person and
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uh and so having my bed made
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and clean reminds me that that's also
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how I am. I am well made, I'm clean,
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and I'm ready for whatever. That's what I've
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been doing. Max, you got something for me. You'd
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get along with my wife really well. She
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she I lost a bed to her and I had
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to make the bed all week the way that she likes to
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do it, which is very military style, touch
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the front into the into the full house
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like full housekeeper. Oh yeah, she's
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like two pillows on the top. That wasn't right, she would
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she would got She got upset with me because I put the two
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pillows behind the blanket instead of over the
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blanket. So but I felt I did feel accomplished.
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That's a good one. I tried to do a no phone day
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with the family on the weekends,
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like a Saturday, and I did it
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on Saturday, and we took a trip. We brought our
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baby at the beach for the first time, and she like felt
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the way, Oh my god, cute. And
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I think I realized how And it's funny with this episode,
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I realized how attached I am.
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I always do when I do this, because I just I
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actually give the phone to Emily and she hides
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it somewhere in the house so I have no idea where it is,
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and then we leave and it
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was the drive back because we're listening to music stuff. It
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was the drive back where her friend was in the front
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and she was on her phone and I and
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I felt it. I was like, oh, I wish I had my phone
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right now. I would be able to put when you don't have it,
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you both realize you know how you use it. But also
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I definitely feel more present. I was looking
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out at the you know, driving on the pc H
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and I'm looking at the waves when I probably would have been on my phone,
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and it definitely puts things perspective. Absolutely.
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There you go that we're we're we're already here.
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We're talking about the topic. Elizabeth,
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what have you been doing this week to improve yourself?
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I love that example. I both
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of your examples. I've been reflecting a lot
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on getting better at
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relaxing and both
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the physical sense of not needing to be busy
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and productive all the time, but also in the spiritual
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sense of just letting go of control and trusting
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that things will work
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out the way that they're supposed to. And both
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of those aspects are very difficult
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for me. Yeah, I
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can get behind it. Well, I'm glad that we're talking about it then
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today, because we're literally gonna figure
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out how to fix it, or at least take the right steps in
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the right direction. So Max, you and I were
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going to go one on one first. Elizabeth, you can
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take a break and we'll be with you
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in Justice sec. So again, Max,
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because we're about to get into and I want you
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to be able to be free to
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talk about how bad of a phone
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addict you are, because I'm going to talk about it myself.
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I want to start by talking about how really
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truly, like incredible of a person
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Max is. Max met my
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dad I was I couldn't
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have been more than twelve or thirteen years old.
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And my dad, if you don't, you've heard him on the podcast.
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If you haven't, go check out that episode. My dad
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is talkative and we'll always talk to anybody,
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especially if he sees especially
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if he sees a musical instrument of any
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kind. But my dad
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sat next to Max on an airplane
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and Max had had a kalle in like
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he was traveling with one, and um,
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I don't remember the converse. You probably remember the conversation
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better. But that's what exactly what makes me just
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it reminds me all the time of how just a
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good of a person Max is. Uh. He
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had this conversation was when I was I was probably
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like twelve, and I remember my dad was like, I
9:59
met this guy and he's on a he's on a TV
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show and he's awesome and you should be
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like him and Dada da da, And I was just like, all right, cool.
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I met Max then for the first time. I
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don't remember. I just remember your meeting your dad. I don't
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remember where we met for the first time. Though I was twenty,
10:15
I was like twenty years old. This was eight years later
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and I met I met Max, and I was like,
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I think my dad sat with you on an airplane
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and no, Lie he goes was his name? Martin,
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like full blown remembers my dad.
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And it was a conversation on an airplane.
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I've had so many conversations on an airplane.
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And I couldn't tell you. I couldn't even tell you. I couldn't
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point him out in the crowd if it was if that happened,
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Like no, you could not convince me that
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I had met somebody on an airplane, and I just
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it was. It's still to this day so
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special to me that that that is um.
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Also, if you talk to anybody in the
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industry who has been able to work with Max
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or Meat Max or No Max or even
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c Max in concert, you will never
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hear a bad thing about him. You're just like, I'm
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just so happy that we got you here because
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you're the epitome of good
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people do win in the end like good
11:04
people. If you're a good person, you know,
11:06
the character matters, you know what I mean. So I again,
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I'm going to absolutely just
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light you up like the star that you are on
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this podcast. Just man, thank you. I appreciate
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you, baby, thank you for that being said, not
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being said. Pick your poison, what's your
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What's what's the social app that you're just addicted
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to? I mean, it's all of them, for sure,
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but but I'd say the one that's most toxic
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to me is Twitter. I'd say
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Instagram. I get
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the most addicted to. I get lost in it
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the most. I'll scroll through the most. And
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then I tried, man, I tried to.
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When I'm I haven't taken the deep
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dive to TikTok, I feel like I am
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in the TikTok game. But when I take
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the deep dive, it's almost as bad as Instagram. But
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for some reason, I don't let myself go there. But
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with Instagram, it's so comfortable that
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you know, It's like I go to get a midnight snack and
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I happen to have my phone, and that's the one
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I'm turning to to just screw
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and then you can last that
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one. Twitter, to me is hard to I think
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Twitter is actually the hardest on
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my mental health because it's
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so um.
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The people who are good at it are fantastic
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at it and get insane likes and and
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it's like one of those things where I feel, like with Instagram,
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I know, at the end of the day, if I if I decided
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to do like some thirst trappy like
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shirtless this, then like it's gonna be like you
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kind of know how to get likes
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right like on Instagram and on
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Twitter it's different, like you don't know. Like you
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could tweet. I could tweet like peanut
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butter sandwich and it could get forty thousand
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likes. And I could tweet the funniest joke of all
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time and it gets ten likes.
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And it's just like I think the as
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a person, like I mentioned somebody of systems,
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like, there's no system to Twitter. It's just as
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so random. And that's why I love using it as a fan
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of it, because you find the just the stupidest,
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craziest, most absurd humor.
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But also you're like, how
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do you feel, how do you crack the code? You
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know, it's raw stand Twitter
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is the is the most and
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you are and you're so heavily in the k
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pop and uh and like the pop
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world and those fans those like
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stands are
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full blown like military force
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of just power. I love
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Twitter because of the freedom of information.
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I would say it's but the downside
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to that is that there isn't a lot of checks and balances
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that I mean besides the obvious where
13:29
they like kick Trump off Twitter and all that, but as
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just a society of it, things can spread
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so quickly, which is kind of beautiful because
13:36
a lot of these social media is the you
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know, they really they go into
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the algorithm and then you actually don't like to see what you
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actually signed up for. You know. It's like someone
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like my wife asked me yesterday, do my photos
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even come up on your feet anymore? And
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it's so bizarre because she's my wife, But I mean I see
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her all the time, so I'm not constantly searching here, so
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it doesn't put her stuff on my feet. But with Twitter,
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at least, I know it really it's
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like what SoundCloud was for music in the beginning,
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where people you really could just spread
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each other's stuff in a really beautiful way, and it wasn't
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really algorithmic based, but
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I feel like it also again,
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things can be fake and it gets spread
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so quickly, and it's just that's it really
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does have a double edged sort effect. It all does. Though.
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Yeah, I think you already you've
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already talked about it, um with the One
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of my questions was like, do you have any things that set
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like that help you set limits on using your
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phone or being You already answered that with your with
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your previous answer, But what got
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you there? What made you? What was the moment that you
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go, you know, was it having your daughter, was
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it you know, being with did you have
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a moment where you're like, wow, I'm really just
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locked into this or this isn't well, this isn't
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good for me. It just affected me too
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much. And then I was realizing that these are tools.
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They're not our life, and I think there's a fine balance
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and and it's our we for
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what we do. It's really important
14:53
to utilize these
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tools to put our work
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out there, and oftentimes
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it it's you know, it makes the work even
15:01
bigger if it's used in the right way. So
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it's hard not to be obsessed with it when you know it
15:06
has the power to spread what you've
15:08
been working months or years on and
15:11
you can't just discount. And Emily always
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says this to me too, It's like it is a part of our job in a
15:16
way now, And I think
15:18
that for me, I realized
15:20
though that I was spending too much time like looking at
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what everybody said, too much time in the comments,
15:24
too much time really diving
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in and then you know, it's the classic.
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I would see something bad and I'd keep
15:31
looking for more bad just because
15:33
you see the good and you you scroll
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through that, you don't put as much weight
15:38
into it. Once you get the bad. Oh, it just deeper
15:41
and deeper in your gun. And I think especially and
15:43
You're the same way. There's a there's an empathetic
15:46
feeling to it where you don't just see these as fake
15:48
accounts. You see these as people on the other
15:50
side of the screen saying
15:52
this. And so when you think of it that way, and you
15:54
think they'd have the you know, the audacity to say.
15:56
But the thing that really made me realize that
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recently, through a few different journeys
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was I realized that we put
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ourselves in this position. What we do
16:05
is we say we have you know, a movie
16:08
or an album or songs, and we put them
16:10
out there and you just really it's the acceptance
16:12
of people are gonna hate it or they're gonna
16:14
love it. It really has to you have to be okay
16:16
with the polarization because if
16:18
you just do what you think people are gonna
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like, you're you're just gonna stay in
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the middle. And it's it's hard
16:25
because you do take it personally
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because it's so deeply personal and it always
16:29
will be and you're totally And the thing that's
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crazy too, is is it it's all about self
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confidence right like when you
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start listening. I remember when I was I think
16:38
I was like eighteen, and I had and I had
16:40
just booked, I just uh released
16:43
the first season of Royal Crush or the second season,
16:46
and I wasn't fit, Like I wasn't as fit
16:48
as I am now. I wasn't like as like about fitness,
16:50
and I was like a little you know, like a little
16:53
frumpy dad body like asked. And
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I remember the episode where I was shirtless.
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All of the comments and and it's like you said, like
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good comments are are? I wish that I cared
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about good comments as much as I care about
17:04
bad comments, like I'll scroll through and I'm
17:06
like, I don't care if you liked it. I don't care if you like not not
17:08
if you're listening to this, I don't actually feel like that. But when
17:10
you're not in the right headspace, you're just searching,
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like, yeah, but who's where's the where's the criticism?
17:15
And I remember screenshotting a comment that
17:17
was like Alex would be the biggest star in the
17:20
world if he wasn't so fat. And
17:22
I remember that comment to this day, and I screenshot
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at it and I made it my wallpaper. I cared
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so much because, like you said,
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there's a person when it's when you think about it,
17:31
like, that's a person and my job
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is to make people happy, and that person is
17:35
not happy that I'm this, and you kind of you
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really turn yourself. And I
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think another thing that it really does is it it turns
17:43
an album, right like for instance, your album
17:45
Absolutely Beautiful. I still listen to
17:47
Acid like literally, it's my it's
17:49
my first, my warm up song for everything
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that when you're creating a piece of art and
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you have that in your mind, no matter what it is,
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it's an album. It's this it's that you're already
18:02
pre preparing for what
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comments are gonna come. Well, okay, well it has to be this because
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I don't want people to say that I'm not this, and it
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has to be that. It really changes
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subconsciously, it changes your full
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like self confidence. For
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me, it's my weight, you know, it has always been
18:19
my weight, and I've done We've had episodes talking about
18:21
binge eating. It's always been my weight, and I'm so
18:23
happy that I finally found a place where I work out
18:25
for me, and I don't work out because I
18:28
don't want people to comment about it. For
18:30
me, it's it's it's all about my weight, and it was always
18:32
about my skin until I until I luckily ended
18:34
up clearing it up. Is there anything specific
18:36
for you that you're like, I that
18:39
it's really social media is really messed up.
18:41
It's not you know what's interesting. It's not a specific
18:44
physical trade or anything like that. I
18:46
think it's just, um, yeah,
18:48
it's just this striving for my best,
18:51
I guess, and I guess this is
18:53
truly recently, the acceptance of people
18:55
just not liking even your best,
18:57
your personal best, because it's just they're
18:59
just not to it, you know, and that's hard
19:01
when you know that you're striving for
19:03
that, when you're trying to put what you feel
19:06
is the best you can offer out, and then
19:08
the realization that it's just some people just don't
19:11
like that thing, like some people just
19:13
hate raps, some people just hate countries something,
19:15
and even if it's the best damn country music
19:17
you will ever hear, Like Dolly Parton
19:20
is my is my idol. And if
19:22
someone says, I remember I told a really good friend
19:24
of mine, I was like, oh yeah, man, Dolly wrote me this
19:26
letter. It was the craziest thing in my life. I have
19:28
to make a song with her whatever. And she was like, Dolly,
19:31
pardon what. And the thought
19:33
that I could worship this person and
19:35
another person could hate them
19:38
is mind blowing. But then when you're in
19:40
our position, it just I think it
19:42
makes it less harsh because then you just realize,
19:45
man, I mean, but imagine if
19:47
she tried to convince, if Dolly Parton tried to convince
19:49
that person who didn't like her, you
19:51
should like me. It's like that wouldn't be something
19:53
she do. She just brushes it off, baby, and
19:56
you just the more we can brush it off, whatever
19:58
it may be, but that septance and that
20:00
self confidence, like you're saying, finding that the
20:03
more that you have that armor for what we do, you
20:05
just keep building that big gas you know,
20:07
coat and suit of arms exactly the
20:10
better it feels when it does it just
20:12
it just starts to just ping off of
20:14
you. If you know that, you know you couldn't have given
20:16
it any better than than what you gave. That's
20:18
why I'm so glad that you're on this episode,
20:20
because I think you have such a good grasp
20:23
on what is real, Like you're kind of not
20:25
necessarily on the other side of it now, but you're
20:27
experiencing it in real time, and
20:29
you're also having you're experiencing
20:31
it with the knowledge of hey, this is this you're
20:34
very it's a very grounded sense. Um.
20:36
And I think because it's such a grounded sense, you are
20:38
so good at it. Like it's like it's
20:40
everything you post feels like authentic,
20:43
right, everything from the curated
20:45
whole page of yellow to you
20:47
know, to the photo shoots and everything
20:50
thematically is just m It's
20:53
just clean and precise. I
20:55
think a lot of people see that. And and again
20:57
as anybody with the following, they'll
21:00
see that and they'll think that
21:02
it's the that it takes the same amount of effort as
21:04
somebody who's just posting a picture, you know, they're
21:06
at the beach and they snap a quick flick. But because
21:08
a lot of people then try and compare how they
21:11
post to how we post
21:13
or how somebody who's who puts in hours
21:15
and hours to edit pictures and
21:17
and and set up photo shoots and
21:19
and drive, you know, at sunrise
21:21
to the certain locations so that they can get this amazing
21:23
shot. I think a lot of people compare how
21:26
they post and making sure that they look good
21:28
and doing all of this, I think it started spiraling downwards.
21:30
And so I think a big piece of of helping
21:33
change that narrative is getting real
21:35
about how we get things
21:38
done. You know, Like I remember
21:40
a Wonderland photo shoot last year that I
21:42
did and I look
21:44
like I looked awesome, my six pack and my hair
21:46
was perfect afro, and it was like amazing, and
21:49
people are like, wow, like, you look so effortless in
21:51
this I remember that sortain effortless. You look effortless in this
21:54
picture, And I was just like, are you do
21:56
you know what it took to get to that? Like
21:58
I was eating is eating kale
22:01
and dreams for breakfast,
22:03
and then I would have like egg white like and I was just working
22:05
out and I worked out for that one photo shoot,
22:08
and then after that photoshop was done, I had a huge in and
22:10
out burger and I did this whole nine and all of that. So
22:13
can you help elaborate on how much effort
22:15
really goes into something, because you are, I
22:17
really feel like, just one of the top pages
22:20
to follow when it comes to having that cohesive
22:23
thing. I mean, we're talking glam squad. We're talking hair
22:25
and makeup, and we're talking a backdrop, and we're
22:27
talking props and all of this stuff. What
22:30
what do you feel like people don't really fully understand
22:32
that goes on behind the scenes to create something
22:35
that people compare their everyday life
22:37
to. One of my newest favorite things is
22:39
it's a both. It's like for the album cover,
22:41
for example, I think people thought the Rubi's Cube was photoshopped,
22:44
but we built this giant, life
22:46
sized Ruby's Cube, And you know, I've took photos
22:48
on and stuff, and I think it's the combination of that
22:51
for what we do that's fun. It's like showing we
22:53
actually built that. So it is a little
22:55
it's hard to do, but also it's physically
22:57
you can you know, it's not like we're
23:00
aliens. We're humans and somebody became
23:03
a workshop person and they built that because
23:05
that's what they do. And I think, if anything,
23:07
it's just you know, be obsessive
23:10
with with what you do, what you love in your vision.
23:12
And then on the other side, I've realized I really
23:14
like the whole disposable thing now, like a
23:17
lot of if it's not that it's the opposite, it's
23:19
like something I can't edit it all, or just disposable
23:21
shots from studio whatever, so that it
23:23
I have no way. For one, it's just
23:25
there. It's not like I could, you know, I
23:28
could edit the photo or anything else. And hopefully
23:30
that rawness is something that comes across.
23:32
But also I feel like why I've loved it recently
23:34
is too because the rawness of those photos
23:37
always just feels like a moment in time,
23:39
and I feel like we lose that with Instagram and
23:41
all these things, like we're always we're using
23:43
it, like you're saying, there's people of the beach
23:45
or whatever else, and and we're like
23:47
we're doing something for Instagram
23:49
rather than doing something and sharing it with the
23:51
world. That's
23:54
that I feel like, that's and I'm I'm
23:56
I'm I'm with it. Man, I've did
23:58
that. I've just recently and this is hugely
24:01
because of Emily, because I have a baby, and you
24:03
just realize that time is such a different
24:05
construct when this little human is going to change
24:07
so quickly. Um, it's
24:09
not that you can't use these things. I know this is kind of
24:11
a tangent of what you were asking, but I just
24:13
I think it's one of those things where, yes,
24:16
it's like a gymnast goes in and you see them
24:18
do you know, triple spins and it
24:20
looks effortless like you were saying. But um,
24:22
but in the end, it takes so much time and work to do that.
24:24
But also that's their thing. And
24:26
I feel like, you know, when
24:28
you're creating these visual worlds for
24:31
music or you know, for videos, like what we're
24:33
doing, and it is very clean to Christine, that's
24:36
what we do though, that's the time we're doing and
24:38
you don't have to don't replicate that, do you. I
24:40
love there's this TikTok account and she's just
24:42
a beekeeper and she just shows
24:45
that she's the best. It's
24:47
the and you know what, I'm obsessed. I'm obsessed
24:49
because it is raw. And
24:52
you know she I'm sure she takes
24:54
photos of the beach too, but sure clearly her
24:56
thing is she's obsessed with these bees. She goes places,
24:59
she makes these videos. So finding
25:01
your thing that is, so you're
25:03
obsessed with that's uniquely you. That doesn't
25:06
feel like work because you're working
25:08
so hard at it, but you're not drained by it. That's
25:11
that's what we should be using these tools to spread
25:13
and share because we all have that
25:15
thing, whatever it is to us. I feel like at
25:18
the end of the day, it just comes down to being authentic. You
25:20
know. It's authenticity, it's being yourself and
25:22
you again are I think it's like
25:25
you're such you're like I
25:27
think because I'm lucky enough to know you, I
25:30
see and I'm like, dude, that's him.
25:32
Like people, if if you want to, you don't have to
25:34
ask, well, what's Max? Like like literally look at
25:36
his posts like that's who Max is, you know. And
25:39
that's something that I think we should all strive
25:41
to do, Like, we should all be authentic.
25:43
And I think up on social media, everybody was just their authentic
25:45
selves. We can still post you know,
25:47
your your beach pick where you worked really hard
25:49
and you have an a six pack and you're feeling great
25:52
and you're confident, but authenticity
25:54
is like so huge. I have a lot of other
25:56
friends and not to call them out or and I'm not gonna
25:59
say any names, but I have friends who
26:01
I'm like, why are you posting that? Like you're
26:03
not that's not you, Like, that's not you're
26:06
talking about you know, life
26:08
is great, life is this, And then you're calling me crying
26:10
like or or the opposite, like somebody
26:13
just bought a new Lamborghini and is like life is good,
26:15
and I'm like, life's not. The life's not good, Like we're
26:17
in the middle of a pandemic that probably
26:19
wasn't a financially smart idea to do.
26:22
Like sometimes I get upset or I have
26:24
to, like I find myself having to like mute people, like if
26:26
you had to have you had to mute anybody like because
26:29
you're just like either there you don't feel
26:31
like they're being their most authentic self, or what they're posting
26:34
isn't relatable because it's not it's
26:37
not off, it's not a real thing that people
26:39
go through. I've had to do that, and honestly,
26:41
I'm gonna I'm I'm gonna admit it. I've had to do it to
26:43
friends, like I've had to do it to like really good friends of
26:45
mine, you know, because it that
26:48
authenticity is huge, you know what I mean? Yeah,
26:50
No, totally, Man, I feel like it's it's always
26:53
tough when you know the person so well and you
26:55
feel like, if anything, sometimes it just feels
26:57
like it's they're they're just reaching out for help. And
26:59
I even see with haters, you know, I've I've really tried
27:01
to recently realize that hating
27:04
anybody who criticizes all
27:06
the time or hates all the time, they're just looking
27:08
for someone else to connect with who also feels
27:10
that way. It's just another tool
27:12
to utilize to say, I just
27:14
you know, did you hate the weekend super
27:17
Bowl performance? Like this is why I hate it's like
27:19
and which is, by the way, the most polarizing
27:22
performance you could do those my gosh, because
27:24
I thought he was fantastic and I thought he did a great
27:26
job. And I know what you invest
27:29
in people like how do what it takes
27:31
and what it takes you see those thousand people on the field
27:33
who you think is paying for that? Who did there? So's
27:35
the COVID test all this stuff. It's like people wonder,
27:37
but point being, I
27:39
think, you know, but he also put himself
27:42
on that stage, and therefore that
27:44
stage can be criticized. And as
27:47
long as he keeps doing his thing no matter what
27:49
people are saying, amen to him.
27:51
And I feel like exactly, but
27:53
those kinds of people I try to
27:55
cut out more and more in my life. Like you're saying, maybe
27:57
muter when I just see that it's constant
28:00
criticism and hate. It's not even to make
28:02
better, it's it's almost like that's their identity
28:05
is too criticize or
28:07
hate. And to the point where I just feel
28:09
like, where what do you love? Then like,
28:11
okay, find goodly, I
28:13
see what you hate, but whereas you
28:15
know, it's like there's this dude, um
28:18
Anthony Fantano. He's a music critic, and
28:20
personally I'm into because I just feel like he
28:22
really does give love word where
28:25
he feels it's due, and maybe he
28:27
gives criticism where he feels it's due. But I do appreciate
28:30
that it is both. It isn't just
28:32
a guy who just like this album sucks. This album
28:34
sucks, he goes, this album is a masterpiece.
28:36
And here's why I feel it so at least
28:38
with those like if those are the kinds of people
28:40
I don't want in my life as much, who
28:42
just feel like they're draining you more than they're
28:44
giving you energy, right, and that that's
28:47
not worth it. It's not about being positive
28:49
all the time, because that, I think is also a huge,
28:52
a huge problem. It's about being
28:54
authentic. I think, just authentic, you know, and
28:56
and again I can't you're not
28:58
iterated enough. It's just awesome seeing your face.
29:01
Man. And by the way, forgot to say,
29:03
great bowler, a great bowlder. Um,
29:06
when life is when life is back to normal
29:09
and bowling isn't the weirdest germyst
29:11
thing in the world, We'll we'll have to
29:13
have I have to come to a bowling night. Um. But you
29:15
really are You're you are the
29:18
same, Max, whether we're in like,
29:20
whether I've seen you at a at a a large
29:23
group of people, whether I'm sitting in your dressing
29:25
room, whether we're in the d m s, whether you're
29:27
posting on social media, whatever, it is like, you
29:29
are always the same, and your
29:31
fans I feel like, get to
29:34
see that and sleep
29:36
peacefully knowing that you're not like one of
29:38
those. By the way, these people are real secret
29:41
like awesome, positive celebrities who like
29:43
behind closed doors is being a psychopath like
29:45
and treating everybody like garbage. Right, So
29:48
the people that follow you online who
29:50
love your posts, who are super happy,
29:53
um, but might
29:55
be missing what your biggest
29:57
message that you want is. I would love
29:59
to hear what is what is the biggest message
30:02
that Max on
30:04
social media and in life would
30:06
love for his followers to
30:09
to feel and understand. Honestly,
30:11
I just want them to find what I was saying their obsession,
30:13
because I think we all have that thing that we
30:16
feel guilty that we enjoy doing so
30:18
much whatever it is. Like my wife, for
30:20
example, she is so great at
30:22
shopping and that sounds funny, but as a style
30:24
she does the video Emily
30:26
style is immaculate, so
30:29
good she does. She's dressing our baby like a little
30:31
queen. And I think for a long time, and
30:33
I mean, she can't spend all the money that we have left. You
30:35
know, baby's got to go to college. But I
30:37
do there was a second where you know, I was
30:39
telling her like I hate shopping, which sounds
30:41
crazy too, but don't put me in a store
30:43
for hours, don't do any of these things. And she
30:46
really she loves it. She'll spend
30:48
hours looking for the best outfits and it
30:50
doesn't drain her. It's she's into
30:52
that and I see the joy.
30:54
But I sometimes see the guilt in her face, thinking that,
30:57
like, you know, that's not that's not a job, or she's
30:59
not doing a great job doing it, but that
31:01
is it. And I only hope that because people
31:04
are their happiest when they do find that obsession
31:06
that they're into and they realize that
31:08
they shouldn't feel guilty for it because someone
31:11
like me hate shopping, which sounds crazy, But
31:13
if you love it, you're meant to do it. If you love being
31:16
a trainer, if you love being a
31:18
doctor. I want the doctor who's obsessed with
31:20
being a doctor to my doctor, the person
31:22
who live our baby. That woman walked in
31:24
her name she whatever else said, and her name
31:26
is Dr Bliss, best name, Oh my god.
31:28
And this woman, this woman shows up every day and
31:31
she loves bringing babies into the world.
31:33
That's who you want. So all I can hope is
31:35
that those people out there, hopefully
31:37
see how obsessed I am with what I get to do, to the point
31:39
where I have to put my phone away because I'm
31:42
just looking up more music. And I hope they find
31:44
that because everybody deserves to have that in their life.
31:46
Well, my guy, I'm
31:48
gonna use the line that you you gave me
31:50
and uh and when I got my nice little merge pack,
31:52
you have the voice of an angel and the heart of one
31:54
to my friend. We're gonna take a quick
31:56
break when we come back. Elizabeth and I are going a
31:59
deep, deep dive into what's going on behind
32:01
the screens. Don't go anywhere, all right,
32:03
We are back and I am here with this
32:05
is I still can't I still love this title.
32:08
A perfectionism expert, and
32:10
we're going to figure out what that means. Elizabeth. Sue
32:13
is here with us. Elizabeth, how are you today?
32:16
I'm so good. I can't
32:18
wait. This is a topic near and dear to my heart,
32:20
so I can't get into it.
32:23
I know you're an expert in all of this, but we
32:25
do have to start the same way I started with Max.
32:27
What's your poison? What is it that gets
32:30
you hooked? Oh? Go
32:32
on, you know, I think
32:34
it's a toss up between the
32:36
constant checking, like it's
32:40
I'm like making dinner, I'm like in line,
32:42
I'm waiting for
32:45
a friend and I just can't stop
32:48
checking. Um, and that that
32:50
feeling of like what
32:52
did I miss? I hate that feeling
32:54
because it's I literally
32:57
didn't miss my husband's like what do you think
32:59
changed between the three seconds that
33:01
you just checked? And it makes me feel
33:03
crazy. And
33:05
then my other big, big
33:09
thing that just destroys
33:11
my mental health is comparing myself to others.
33:14
It is it's running
33:16
a business and as a writer trying to get
33:18
published, it's just constant.
33:22
She's doing it better. They have a bigger
33:24
following, they have better connections,
33:26
Like I am a worthless piece of crap like it it
33:28
gets dark so quickly. So
33:31
I'm gonna just take an awesome segue
33:33
because you describe yourself as a self
33:35
love evangelist. You
33:38
just said that.
33:40
That being said, does
33:42
social media teach us anything positive
33:44
about self love? Or is it all negative?
33:47
That's a great question. Um.
33:50
I think in your conversation
33:52
with Max, like, I really loved it. That actually
33:55
brought me me a lot of joy because it
33:57
did bring me back to the good things about
34:00
it. And I am also, you
34:02
know, on this journey of building a community and building
34:05
an audience, and for so long
34:07
it did feel very frustrating
34:10
and it felt very toxic,
34:12
like it was it was hard
34:14
for me to separate that business
34:18
strategy from
34:20
my self love journey of trying not to
34:23
tie my worth to people's
34:25
approvals of me and likes and comments
34:27
and followers is exactly
34:30
people's approval of you. So it's really
34:33
it's been very confronting.
34:36
But I think you're right in
34:39
what social media does do is
34:41
it brings people together from
34:43
around the world in a very cool way. And
34:46
I've seen that happen, and I think for
34:49
me, because I can't ditch it,
34:51
I don't think any of us can, especially where
34:54
we are right now in the pandemic, And
34:56
so it's trying to figure out how to make it work
34:59
for you and take
35:02
take the good. And I think for me, it's
35:05
showing up as as
35:07
you were, saying as authentically as
35:09
I can, and putting myself out there and
35:11
hoping that hoping that that is
35:13
enough and if it isn't, at least I
35:16
can go to bed feeling like I
35:19
was an integrity and I was
35:22
continuing to put one foot forward
35:24
on trying to feel good about
35:26
myself. Absolutely. I mean that's but that's why
35:28
I love your Your title is amazing
35:30
self love evangelists. Like an evangelist
35:33
like you're. You're not claiming that you
35:35
are, that you have all the answers. You're not like a professor
35:37
of self love like you are an
35:39
evangel like you're you're also going through it.
35:41
You're just trying to help others get there too, you
35:43
know. And so I think it is important for us
35:46
to to find the things that social media
35:48
can teach us about self love. That's why I love like
35:50
you'll have those I love seeing
35:53
my favorite things to see on on Instagram or
35:55
weight loss journeys, like people who are
35:57
like I lost a hundred pounds this year, and you go in
35:59
those comments and it's so like, yes,
36:01
you got this, and you see it. And I think a lot of people,
36:03
especially me, like I see those and it
36:05
does inspire me to go, you know what, I want to do
36:08
that because because I see how happy
36:10
they look, and I see all of these things and it gives
36:12
you. And I think a lot of times
36:14
for me especially, I feel like fitness is a way
36:16
of me giving myself self love because I'm giving
36:18
my body what it needs and I'm taking care of myself
36:21
and you see things like that, and there are definitely
36:24
moments, you know, it's those glimmers of light
36:26
that are just so helpful, you
36:28
know, or I wish there was, like I don't know if
36:30
there's like a social media app that only is that stuff,
36:32
but I feel like we spend
36:35
it's and it actually studies show that we spend
36:37
like three times more energy
36:40
and more free time on apps that are draining,
36:42
like social media can be. Then the
36:45
ones that actually enrich our lives, like a meditation
36:47
app or a or an app that that what's
36:49
that app that I use that? Like you you start
36:52
a clock and it grows a tree, and if you use your
36:54
app, then the tree, if you use your phone then the tree dies.
36:57
Things like that like we use we spend three
36:59
times more of our free time there, right,
37:01
And Max and I were just talking about how we
37:04
search for the bad comments. We're trying to like
37:06
we're almost like going for it. Why do you
37:08
feel like we can't stop using social media even
37:10
when it makes us feel bad. Sometimes even because it makes
37:12
us feel bad. Absolutely,
37:15
it's it's very
37:17
intentional the forest app. Thank
37:19
you, Catherine, the forest app. That's what it's called.
37:21
I got myself a little forest, right,
37:23
and I love I love that. No, I
37:25
think I think that's where that's
37:28
kind of where we have to begin, and we have to
37:30
give ourselves and each other grace
37:33
and compassion for the fact that
37:35
that is literally what
37:37
social media is designed to do, is
37:39
to pick at your insecurities and
37:43
scarcity and all these things
37:45
that get us hooked and get
37:47
us addicted and want because
37:50
it psychologically that's what it was
37:52
built around. And the likes and the comments
37:54
and that follows all of that hits our pleasure
37:56
centers in our brain, so of course
37:59
we would want more of that. And so I think
38:02
that's a really important thing to keep in mind
38:04
when you're feeling it's I always
38:06
think about this, it's like there's nothing worse and
38:08
feeling bad about feeling bad. So when you're
38:10
like starting to like
38:13
hate on yourself for not being able
38:15
to get your social media addiction
38:18
under control or disconnect, like we
38:21
it's kind of at this point we all know what
38:23
we should do. We all know, you
38:25
know, we live happier or more peaceful lives if we
38:27
meditated, and we drink a lot of water,
38:29
and we exercised, and we
38:32
didn't spend a lot of time on our phones, but spend
38:34
time in nature. Like we all know that, and yet
38:36
we are in this digital
38:39
age where for so
38:41
many of us it is a part of our business. It's
38:43
how we make money. And until you
38:46
know, capitalism dies, it's kind
38:48
of going to have to be something that
38:50
we think about. And so I
38:53
I think it is important to just keep that in
38:55
mind when you start to feel insecure about that,
38:57
to have compassion for just
39:00
what is actually at play. How
39:03
do you think we discern between
39:06
I'm being enriched right now because I think
39:08
criticism, you know, like Max said, he has his favorite
39:10
like critics who and I and
39:12
I we just dropped finding a Han and there's critics
39:14
and I love reading the critics like who actually have
39:17
things that I think are constructive.
39:20
But how do we tell how how can the listener at
39:22
home, who's like, well, sometimes I look at Instagram and I
39:24
feel really good, but sometimes I feel bad. But sometimes
39:26
I feel bad but it's good, And sometimes I feel good
39:28
but it's bad. How do we discern whether
39:31
we're being enriched or drained by Instagram
39:33
or another platform that is
39:36
the life. That's what we're all
39:38
trying to It's like, I
39:40
mean, that's what I'm trying to practice
39:43
every day in relationship,
39:45
you know, all the business opportunities, everything is
39:47
is that discernment. And what I love about
39:49
what you just shared about all the different versions
39:52
of emotions around social
39:54
media is to be aware
39:57
that it can be different.
39:59
And actually, I think
40:02
comes back to your own
40:04
heart and your own body and where you are
40:06
at, because we tend to think so
40:09
much outside ourselves,
40:11
like what is this thing doing
40:14
to us? And how do we then
40:16
change our behavior? But I
40:19
think we can flip it and take stock
40:21
and how we are feeling in
40:24
any given moment and kind of take that
40:26
lead. And so I know, for me, if I'm feeling
40:29
very raw and vulnerable and
40:31
I go on social media, it's
40:33
almost like my egos going
40:35
to latch onto things that are going
40:38
to fuel that fire of
40:40
worthlessness, of feeling
40:42
unworthy. And so
40:45
I try to you know, I
40:47
don't get it right every time because I am
40:49
indeed and perfect, um,
40:52
I you know, try to check in
40:54
with myself how am I feeling today
40:57
and have that intention
40:59
going into whatever it is that I'm
41:01
doing usually for for business,
41:04
and and then kind of step
41:06
out, step out of that and to
41:09
see how that is making me feel. But
41:11
I think when you have that constant scroll,
41:13
in, that constant checking, you can go
41:16
so quickly from like oh,
41:18
like this is a tool, or this is I
41:20
just did this like really fun. I g live right,
41:23
um, listen to this cool podcast and sharing that
41:25
with your community too,
41:28
like oops, I just got triggered by this
41:30
like person over here doing this
41:33
thing that upset me over
41:35
here. So it can fluctuates so quickly. Absolutely,
41:38
I totally agree with you, Like it's it's
41:40
so easy to jump, like the
41:42
switch over. I could be watching one I could
41:44
be looking at one post and feel incredible, and
41:46
it's like it's kind of like um a slot machine,
41:49
you know, like you you might you swipe
41:51
one time and you're like, oh my gosh, like I love that
41:53
sad video to that sad song about like
41:55
the Sun who pays off his parents debt,
41:58
and you're just like love awesome. And then next
42:00
post you're seeing like a riot
42:02
and you're just like, oh, okay, all
42:05
right, like there's nothing
42:07
there, right, And and so outside
42:10
of that um and getting more
42:12
into the your your personal experience,
42:15
and I think a lot of people are dealing with this. And you're obviously
42:17
a perfectionalism expert, and you've also
42:19
talked about your drive for perfection
42:21
and how you had to overcome that, and I relate with that so
42:23
much. I remember, even to this day,
42:25
like I have a tiny gap in my two
42:28
front teeth because I didn't wear my retainers
42:30
enough. And now I'm like, it's the only thing I
42:32
think about. Or I'll get one pimple on my forehead
42:34
and I think I look like the dude
42:36
from Goonies, the hey you guys. I
42:40
think Instagram, specifically, all social
42:42
media's that include visual stimulation
42:46
trigger that need for a perfection
42:49
and and it's really a
42:51
problem for me, and it's a problem for
42:53
a lot of people. So, as an expert, as
42:55
we're closing out this segment, what's
42:57
your advice for the for the watcher out there
42:59
who, even if they're not I, strive
43:01
for a perfection outside of
43:03
social media. So it even doubles
43:06
down on social media. But even if you don't
43:08
strive perfection, you watch social media and you feel
43:10
bad about yourself because you're not this or you're not that,
43:12
And then you you try and do the fat diets
43:14
because you didn't look like that model, and then
43:17
you get like, you get drained,
43:19
So then you're feeling sad and you're looking and it's
43:21
just it can be such a downward spiral. What
43:24
is your advice? Because you obviously this
43:26
is this is your study. You know, people can feel
43:28
burnt out, they can feel completely
43:31
useless, they can feel purposeless,
43:33
they can feel lost, and and it can all
43:36
be triggered from one
43:38
post. It can all be triggered from one thing.
43:40
You know, what's your advice? Ah,
43:44
I know I have, I've been there,
43:46
and even someone who studies
43:48
this all the time, I well,
43:51
it's I study it because I struggle
43:53
with it. And I think
43:55
something to think about two is,
43:59
you know, if if you're on this self love journey
44:01
and trying to embrace your imperfections,
44:04
like you're not going to be able to do that
44:06
perfectly. You know, I'm I'm
44:09
in the self help world
44:11
a lot and the personal growth world,
44:13
and I think there is this
44:16
idea that you're either you
44:19
know, someone who's really struggling or
44:21
you know, putting all this like negative and you're
44:24
using social media um to kind
44:26
of drag down the world or
44:28
you're over here, like being
44:32
overly positive and overly
44:34
like here here are the
44:36
five steps to achieving like
44:39
a peaceful life for happiness
44:42
or whatever. And even though
44:45
those things are helpful
44:48
and useful, I think there's
44:50
a middle ground that is reality
44:53
and that is more authentic and
44:55
that does show okay here, like
44:58
this is a like cool
45:00
piece that I just wrote that I can't wait to share with y'all
45:03
um alongside you know, a
45:05
picture of me crying where it was like,
45:07
today was a terrible day. I've
45:11
I've had posts like that where it's like I actually have
45:13
no advice for you right now other than like
45:16
some days suck and that's okay.
45:19
And then there's another, you know, a picture
45:21
of me dancing that's like, you know, I
45:24
like I got some fun news and like I'm
45:26
going to celebrate, Like here's for celebration,
45:29
and so it's it's
45:32
I think that being
45:34
able, that that is part of the
45:36
vulnerability of social media
45:39
is I think as long as
45:41
we're able to be
45:45
okay with who we are,
45:47
and that that is what the studies show
45:51
is the number one way to combat perfectionism
45:54
is to cultivate unconditional self
45:56
acceptance because kind of to backup,
45:58
perfectionism really is
46:00
that feeling what psychologists
46:03
call you have a contingent
46:06
sense of self worth. So this
46:08
idea that I am only worthy
46:10
of love and acceptance and approval if
46:13
I achieve something, and it's killer
46:15
because we live in a society
46:18
that keeps beating us those
46:20
messages. And with what I found
46:23
astonishing in my research
46:25
was in the last thirty years, perfectionism
46:28
has increased thirty three percent,
46:31
and that is mostly due
46:33
to societal expectations.
46:35
So there are actually three components
46:37
of perfectionism. One is self oriented
46:40
perfectionism, which is kind of being
46:42
hard on ourselves. The other is
46:44
other oriented perfectionism, which
46:46
is people being hard
46:48
on other people. So if you if
46:51
I judge myself very harshly,
46:53
I'm going to judge other people harshly, even
46:55
if, like in my heart, I'm a good person,
46:57
Like that just is what happens. And
46:59
then the third is socially prescribed, so
47:01
it's you can look at it in terms of um,
47:04
academic institutions, workplaces,
47:06
Hollywood, you know, all these avenues
47:09
that tell us we need
47:11
to be perfect in order to succeed.
47:13
So we have kind of this coming at all
47:16
angles. And social media really is
47:18
that perfect storm where it's coming
47:20
together. You're putting content out, you're
47:22
seeing other people's content, and then you have this
47:25
like how your standard to try
47:27
to meet which is impossible, absolutely
47:29
absolutely, and you said it. Social media
47:31
literally is all of that and it's everywhere
47:33
and it's so easy, and I'm
47:36
so glad that you would. Thank you for giving
47:38
all of this information. We're gonna take a break
47:40
and when we come back, we're gonna figure out how we
47:42
fix it, what we can do to actually make
47:44
a change about all of this madness. Uh,
47:47
do not go anywhere, Elizabeth, to thank
47:49
you so much for coming on. Alright,
47:52
it is time we are here. Everybody's
47:54
where, we're all chilling, and we're talking about how we fix
47:56
all of this. Right, we're taught. We we've been talking
47:58
about the problems. We've talked, talked about what's going
48:00
on behind the scenes. How do we fix
48:02
this stuff? I feel like it's kind of easy,
48:05
but not easy, And it's just I
48:07
think it's just about how much time and energy
48:09
we give into it. Right, So,
48:12
um, obviously it's easier said than done.
48:14
We use our phones, especially if you are
48:16
working from home, or you are out and about,
48:19
You're using your phones more than anything,
48:21
and opening your social media apps is just as easy
48:23
as opening you know, your other apps.
48:25
So what do you guys think is something that we can do
48:28
to minimize? Um, If
48:30
we can't minimize the amount that we use our
48:32
phone based off of our job or based off of
48:34
you know, the fact that that's just who we are as humans
48:36
right now, what can we do to minimize
48:39
the impact that social media has
48:41
on our minds? How that the impact that has on our emotions
48:43
and the impact that has on our self worth go for
48:45
a queen? I have
48:47
so many thoughts. Um, one is
48:50
is what Max was saying before, and
48:52
it seems so simple, But taking breaks,
48:54
that's like textbook. All
48:57
the studies show that that's the
48:59
way to you distance
49:02
ourselves from from internalizing
49:04
those messages and from perpetuating
49:06
that problem. And I think it's important.
49:08
It's going to be different for everyone. Um,
49:11
it's going to be very individual. But I think
49:13
you need to take a hard look of at your
49:16
own patterns and what you know
49:18
about yourself. So for me, I know that I
49:20
have a very addictive personality and
49:23
so things are very all or nothing for
49:25
me. So moderation is actually very difficult.
49:28
I've had like thirty different
49:30
interventions with myself on how
49:33
much when I use social media, at what
49:35
hours, for how long? And
49:37
for me, I've decided that
49:41
because it's such an all or nothing game,
49:43
Sundays, I take off and my team
49:45
knows that, my husband knows that, like everyone
49:48
knows that, and so
49:50
I think being upfront with your needs
49:53
and I similarly, I hide
49:55
my phone, and my husband hasn't much more
49:59
healthy or relationship with his phone
50:01
and social media, and so we kind
50:03
of joke that he's my personal assistant, Like if
50:06
you need to get in touch with me, you
50:09
reach out to him. And to
50:11
me, it's like it's it is a sick addiction
50:13
that I absolutely will admit
50:16
that I struggle with. Mm hmmm, mm
50:18
hmm. Yeah, I couldn't agree
50:20
more. I feel like the brakes are so necessary
50:23
with anything in our lives, truly. I mean, it
50:26
gives you perspective. It makes you feel like, oh,
50:28
this is who I am. When I'm obsessed with
50:30
my phone all the time, or I'm missing out
50:32
on these moments because I'm looking at Instagram even when
50:35
my baby is right next to me. Those kinds of moments are
50:37
important for us to internalize and
50:39
then I feel like, yeah, it just gives you more of
50:42
your You're in the moment of this time
50:44
in your life. But it also really
50:46
just connect and that you know, as much as we
50:48
talk about the negatives of it, I think realize
50:51
what actually brings you the most joy from using
50:53
it? Why do we actually care about these things? Every
50:55
time we think about that, why do we care? And
50:57
it's for me It's like I can't believe that I
51:00
connect with, you know, somebody in Korea via
51:02
Instagram and then we create something together.
51:04
That's something that is such an incredible
51:06
use of the tool of these social
51:08
media So I feel like when we pinpoint
51:11
what brings us the most joy and
51:13
subtracts, I don't need to go through the comments. What am I
51:15
doing? Right? Why do I Why am I spending hours going
51:17
through these comments? How much joy is that actually
51:20
bringing me with any of these places? I
51:22
feel like the more we do that, the better
51:25
relationship will have with these
51:28
apps that we are obsessed with. Well, that's actually
51:30
where I was going to go with this, is like I don't think
51:32
the answer is to delete social media,
51:34
Like I like, that's not because there are so
51:36
many amazing things. I got to feel
51:39
like I was a part of your birthing
51:41
of your first child. Because and I
51:43
and I haven't seen you in over years,
51:46
like over a year. I got to feel like I
51:48
was a part of your process. And I feel like we still
51:50
get to have podcasts and we still
51:52
get to connect with each other. I met my girlfriend
51:54
on social media, Like, there is a lot that
51:56
you get to do. There's so many amazing
51:59
things about social media. What to
52:01
you, uh, both of you guys,
52:03
would be something that I just kind of just spilled
52:05
out everything that I love about social media. But
52:08
for you guys, it could be something different. Is there anything specific
52:10
about social media you had mentioned Max about connecting
52:13
with fans on the other side of the world and building
52:15
a fan base. You used to have to tour everywhere
52:18
to build a fan if you want to if you want fans in Korea,
52:20
you'd have to go to Korea and either open
52:23
up for somebody or do a tour or sing on
52:25
the street or promote your record there. And
52:27
now it's a lot different. How do you feel, Oh,
52:29
yeah, it's that exactly though. It's and even more
52:32
so in my specific position there's
52:34
so many artists that I'm connected with around
52:36
the world. Like a great example is this really
52:38
cool artist's name is Keshy. He's the bomb
52:40
if you don't know his music, amazing musician and
52:43
uh literally we dammed on Instagram and then
52:45
we both got you know, covid tested for a few days
52:47
and then he came over to my studio and we made some music
52:49
together. And that was solely
52:51
because Instagram connected us
52:54
and we saw mutual people that we worked with
52:56
and stuff. But that was the means of how
52:58
we not only it from point
53:00
A to point B. That was it
53:03
was like a text message or anything else,
53:05
but something public that we could utilize.
53:07
So I feel like there really are some magical
53:10
moments brought to you by Instagram,
53:12
were brought to you by Twitter, and and we can't
53:14
discount those. Oh absolutely. I mean
53:16
I think about the like our relationship,
53:19
you're my relationship has been strengthened
53:21
more on social media than it is everywhere
53:24
else. I've met so many amazing artists in Australia. Cody.
53:26
I met Cody on social media and yeah,
53:29
I've connected with I've connected with Cody
53:31
from that. Cody plays saxophone,
53:33
plays everything with Max. Literally that
53:35
dude, It's it's insane. Cody dot Deer
53:38
on Instagram makes I met him on Instagram to great
53:40
examples, he did a cover he did
53:42
a cover of one of my other group, this group called
53:44
Party People, as he liked just ripped sacks
53:46
over something. And he posts these videos and
53:48
he's been playing. He's toured around the world with us for
53:50
the last two years because we saw
53:52
a video of him ripping saxophone over our
53:55
cover of Miss Jackson. So as artists, it's
53:57
so it's been. There are so many
53:59
useful things. That's why I wanted to preface this whole
54:01
episode with I'm not antisocial
54:04
media. There's just sometimes where it's really bad
54:06
for me. But I do think it's important that we do point
54:08
out there are amazing things, because I think throughout
54:10
this episode, if you don't appreciate it,
54:12
then you can kind of fall into a like, well whatever,
54:14
let's just delete it. Um. Outside of the
54:16
artist world, Elizabeth, is what for you specifically
54:19
social media really done in a positive
54:21
way in your life? Yeah? You know what surprising
54:24
is it's actually helped my
54:26
own creative expression and my own
54:29
trying to show up in the world
54:32
is my whole self. That's kind
54:34
of one of my intentions
54:37
because I come from
54:39
Silicon Valley, Like I had that whole
54:41
life for a while, and that was one version
54:44
of me. And then I showed up in my business
54:46
as this very like authentic
54:49
but still very buttoned up.
54:51
It was like professional authentic. I still
54:53
had that part of me that was, you
54:56
know, painting my nails like light paint, you
54:58
know. And then I went through this whole phase of like everything
55:00
was black and I was like in this rebellious
55:03
phase. And now it's kind of coming into
55:05
my own and I see that it reflected
55:07
in my feed. And
55:09
I remember there was one day at the end
55:11
of last year and I was just like, oh, this just feels
55:14
too serious. Like yes, I talked about a lot of
55:16
serious topics and we go deep and I
55:18
love the heart to hearts and at the same
55:20
time, I was like that
55:22
that also isn't all of me.
55:25
I Actually I love dancing.
55:27
I love nineties boy band so I started
55:30
these uh Instagram live dance
55:32
parties, which was like so silly
55:34
and weird, and but also
55:37
that is as much me as
55:40
talking about my history
55:42
with an eating disorder or anxiety. That's
55:45
probably one of the things that I've most
55:47
gotten from Instagram is
55:50
the ability to just like play
55:53
with who I am and to and
55:55
to give myself permission to evolve
55:59
as my writing evolves and my content
56:01
evolves, in my personal growth evolves.
56:04
Yeah. Absolutely, So I have one I have
56:06
one last question for each of you, um, and
56:08
I'll start with you, Elizabeth. I think a
56:10
lot of responsibility obviously falls on ourselves
56:13
and how we view and how we how much time we consume,
56:15
and how much that we invest
56:17
ourselves into other things. But I
56:19
think a lot of weight also should be given
56:22
to these social media platforms.
56:24
And I think some platforms have done a really really great
56:26
job at at you know, you have your
56:28
TikTok um they started
56:30
implementing those like if you're scrolling for a certain amount
56:32
of time, like a TikTok will pop up and it's that guy
56:35
that everybody knows from Vine and he's like, hey,
56:37
you've been on TikTok for quite a while now, Like, why
56:39
don't we take a break. I've had that, So if I've
56:41
got to hit that every night this week honestly, because
56:43
I've been a TikTok feed this week. But there's
56:45
some things, or even Instagram when they wanted to start implementing
56:48
not showing how many likes you get and not
56:50
showing comments or um,
56:53
you know, different ways. But I also think that there's a lot
56:55
of things, especially in the visuals,
56:57
is really kind of where I am. We have all of these phil
57:00
turns on tickto and And this is
57:02
not to call any social media out again. We
57:04
just talked about how much we love social media. But like
57:06
TikTok has a mode that's called beauty
57:09
mode, and I think that there
57:11
shouldn't be Like, in my opinion, I think they should
57:13
remove it. I don't think that you should have a button that
57:15
a kid presses that makes
57:17
them now pretty because whatever
57:20
was before was not beauty, but now it's beauty
57:22
mode. Or same with the face, it's
57:24
like you can change your face to look as the way
57:26
that you wanted to and all of
57:28
these things. Elizabeth, how do you feel,
57:31
especially somebody who studies perfectionism,
57:33
um, how do you feel social
57:36
media apps and those platforms can
57:39
can make even more change, especially
57:41
in the visuals, uh and and
57:43
the and the societal standard that
57:45
that a lot of kids in today's world are are
57:47
gonna be dealing with if things don't change
57:50
absolutely. And I love the example
57:52
of filter because I've been thinking about that myself,
57:54
because I also
57:57
sometimes most of the time use filters,
57:59
and oh I use filters, by the way,
58:01
that is not me being like you shouldn't use filters.
58:04
I use filters. I'm gonna be I'm absolutely
58:06
the kettle. I'm the kettle and the pot at this point,
58:08
like I am both um and it's all about
58:11
to me. It's like, it's more so, how do we all stop?
58:13
Because I use beauty Mode and I look at beauty Mode
58:15
and I go, I just wish I looked like
58:17
that, you know, But but it's not fair
58:19
to say that. Yeah, And what's
58:21
interesting is I noticed all the filters
58:24
that I use on Instagram are of
58:27
like beautiful white women, and I'm mixed.
58:30
I'm half Chinese, and I have
58:32
had this whole, very
58:35
dark reckoning of my
58:37
racial identity. And it has
58:39
occurred to me, like just the other
58:42
day, I was like, gosh, you know, what
58:45
is that message? What am I sending
58:47
to my subconscious every time I use this
58:49
filter to be this like blond, like blond,
58:52
blue eyed person um?
58:54
And so I think we can go kind of even
58:57
deeper there in terms of not
59:00
just what the filters are telling
59:03
us about beauty, but also like,
59:06
what are these filters telling us about
59:08
race and our our
59:11
ability to love ourselves just the
59:13
way we are? And I think that's
59:15
something that is very important
59:17
to me as someone who studies perfectionism,
59:20
because the number one combatant to perfectionism
59:23
and learning to really love yourself is
59:25
that unconditional self acceptance
59:27
and self compassion. And so when you're constantly
59:30
trying to morph yourself into
59:33
what you think is
59:36
better or what the world truly
59:38
does perceive as more
59:41
beautiful, because that that is
59:43
the the zeit geys, that's
59:45
that is what we have told everyone,
59:47
then it just continues to perpetuate
59:49
that problem. So I think you're onto
59:51
something with with the filters,
59:54
um And I mean, the
59:57
other thing that just really gets me
59:59
is that kind infinite scroll of
1:00:01
those visuals, and it's it just
1:00:05
it's this never never
1:00:07
ending feeling of things
1:00:10
could be more, things could be
1:00:12
better, or I could look like this, or I could
1:00:15
oh, she's achieving that, and that
1:00:19
it manifests in the endless scroll and
1:00:21
it seems like, gosh, that's
1:00:23
just like a silly feature over here, but I
1:00:26
think inside of our minds, it
1:00:28
kind of it never allows that loop
1:00:30
to close. And so even after we put
1:00:33
away our device, it's still going.
1:00:35
It's still like oh yeah, and this and that and that,
1:00:38
and it's then, of
1:00:40
course we're never going to feel enough because
1:00:42
we are flooded with these images
1:00:45
that are different. Yeah,
1:00:47
I mean I opened I opened up, I opened up my fridge
1:00:50
multiple times, and the same stuff is in the fridge.
1:00:52
I open on my fridge five times in
1:00:54
an hour, and it's going to be the same thing. So
1:00:56
imagine if my fridge had a new thing every
1:00:59
time I opened it up, I'd be a pening it up every minute,
1:01:01
you know. And that's to me what social media is. As you
1:01:03
guys can tell, I'm very hungry, um
1:01:06
Max, now for your question. You're
1:01:08
kind of doing double duty. You and m are doing double
1:01:11
duty at this point because not only are you
1:01:13
living it and you are, for lack of better term,
1:01:15
feeding the machine by being a part
1:01:17
of this, especially in a in a huge way, you're
1:01:20
also having to be a parent. I remember watching a Ted talk
1:01:22
where um Steve Jobs was interviewed
1:01:24
about the new iPad and said, you know, do your
1:01:27
children like the new iPad and he's like, oh, they don't use
1:01:29
they don't use the like they're not like
1:01:31
And I feel like most of the most of
1:01:33
the tech monsters, especially
1:01:35
in Silicon Valley, they don't
1:01:37
let their kids do it because they
1:01:40
see the ugly in it. They see what's going on and
1:01:42
being a parent right now, Like my sister has a has
1:01:44
a almost two year old, and
1:01:47
in my mind, I'm like that, I don't know what what do you
1:01:49
do? You know? And how do you even
1:01:51
think about the next
1:01:53
ten years as your daughter, as
1:01:56
as Eadie Selene just grows up and
1:01:58
has to deal with this? Are you planning? Do you have do
1:02:00
you have any idea of what you're gonna do? I
1:02:03
feel like it's just all I keep talking with Emily
1:02:05
about is it. It's if anything, it is
1:02:08
more of a self reflecting moment because I
1:02:10
feel like it's just leading by
1:02:12
example. I don't I don't want to if I got to use
1:02:15
my phone and or I do all these things, I
1:02:17
don't want to. I don't want to be a hypocrite to her. I feel
1:02:19
like the only way I'm gonna be able to do it is tell her, you
1:02:22
know, if if I'm on my phone too much,
1:02:24
then I feel like she's gonna soak that in. So
1:02:26
I hope that we can just be you
1:02:29
really want to be the best example. But by doing that,
1:02:31
it's a responsibility to say, well, then I
1:02:33
really do have to hide my phone or when I don't
1:02:35
really need to use it, or tell her I'm on
1:02:38
my phone because this this this
1:02:40
manager texted me about this song. I'm
1:02:42
not ignoring you. It's like the communication
1:02:45
is interesting Emily as a really intense
1:02:47
psychology of it, because she was a nanny for seven years
1:02:49
and she baby sat and was the nanny
1:02:51
for so many other people's kids, and I think that made
1:02:54
her feel like, oh man, I don't want It's
1:02:56
the same thing. She's like, I don't want to ever have a nanny. I was a
1:02:58
nanny for seven years, just like how
1:03:00
these you know, silicon value people feel. But
1:03:02
but I do. I feel like anything that we
1:03:05
tell I tell my my baby
1:03:07
she can't do, it's just gonna be the opposite effect
1:03:10
exactly, And why why why are you doing
1:03:12
it? Exactly? Why can you watch TV or all these
1:03:14
things? So I feel like I the
1:03:16
only thing I'm gonna know how to do is
1:03:18
be able to say, you're right, I'm gonna
1:03:20
stop watching TV and go outside
1:03:22
and play with you because I don't. I
1:03:24
don't want to limit your experience with the world. And
1:03:27
I think that's the other thing for parents. You've
1:03:29
already experienced it and you want to be better for
1:03:31
your kids. But you know, I'm super new to this
1:03:33
game. But all I can think is like, but she hasn't experienced
1:03:36
anything I've experienced. She doesn't. She
1:03:38
needs to, She needs to explore
1:03:40
the world so that she knows what she likes and she doesn't
1:03:42
like the Hopefully we can instill some
1:03:45
values in her to to make those choices for
1:03:47
herself. I just want to keep trying to do
1:03:49
that, but it is tough. I have a little baby
1:03:51
cousin who's now nine, and she's I
1:03:54
had obsessed. Well, that's the thing. It's
1:03:57
not only how you treat your children. But then she's going
1:03:59
to go out into the war world where there's other kids who
1:04:01
aren't being regular, like, they're not being regulator,
1:04:03
they're not being led by example, and then
1:04:06
she's going to see pick up on that. Oh, she gets to
1:04:08
bring her iPad to school, so during lunch,
1:04:10
instead of running around and playing tags, she gets
1:04:12
to play, you know, Clash of Clans
1:04:14
or I don't know whatever the kids are
1:04:16
playing these days. But it's like it's just it's
1:04:18
everywhere, you know, and and right
1:04:21
now, the negativity is everywhere.
1:04:23
And I think that's the biggest thing is how do we, as
1:04:26
not only adults and not only as you
1:04:28
know, people who are are very fortunate
1:04:30
to have a following on social media, how
1:04:33
do we change the conversation
1:04:35
not just for e Selen, not just for my
1:04:37
Niemila, not just for that, but for the future
1:04:40
of This is where reality
1:04:42
is going to sit now. This is and social
1:04:44
media is very gapped from
1:04:46
reality at the moment, and I think how do we close
1:04:49
that gap and get it as close as we can. I think
1:04:51
it's always going to have a little bit of a filter on
1:04:53
it, and that's not bad to have a little filter on it, because
1:04:55
it's fun and and it is sometimes a
1:04:57
good way to get out of the world that you're
1:04:59
in at a moment and feel like you're in another place
1:05:02
and and kind of how concerts are for some people,
1:05:04
you know, sometimes social media can be that for me where I'm like,
1:05:06
I'm having a really bad day, but if I look at a
1:05:08
hundred memes. I'm gonna be really, I'm gonna be in a lot
1:05:10
better of a mood. You know. So how do we change that
1:05:12
gap? Your title the titles you
1:05:14
said. I think that's a big thing. It's that
1:05:17
is that is messed up. There shouldn't be a beauty
1:05:19
mode that you know, we shouldn't. I
1:05:21
think you can't. Like again, you can't get rid of filters
1:05:23
and all these things. But I do think how we title
1:05:25
them is important. I wouldn't want Eaty to
1:05:27
see a mode that tells her this is what
1:05:29
beautiful is, says yeah, beauty and then it changes
1:05:32
what ugly mode or whatever, you know,
1:05:34
that kind of stuff. That definitely that that
1:05:36
feels like a choice for these apps,
1:05:38
which are tools to make to say
1:05:41
we shouldn't say this because to this
1:05:43
especially tiny human, they're
1:05:46
reading that and there. That's that's what
1:05:48
the learning fels. You know. What one I like though,
1:05:50
is the baby one. That one That filter is great
1:05:52
because there's no it's not offensive to anybody.
1:05:55
You're just example like, that's perfect.
1:05:58
Let's okay, I'm gonna start a petition right now. We're
1:06:00
gonna make baby mode the only filter
1:06:02
allowed or old people remember the old people
1:06:04
one. Yeah, wrinkles and gray hair, those two
1:06:07
are totally fun. I think those ones are
1:06:09
fun, and it's and other than that,
1:06:11
we I think I could do without. But I think
1:06:14
you're right. It's it's just how do we
1:06:16
change the narrative? You know what is how
1:06:19
what do we what do we change about it? Do
1:06:21
we fix that? Fix beauty
1:06:23
modes so that it's just set to like you
1:06:25
know, lighting mode. The titles are definitely
1:06:27
toxic. I think my biggest takeaways
1:06:30
are that we allow
1:06:34
social media so often to govern
1:06:36
us when in reality, like you said
1:06:38
in my favorite I think one of my favorite lines that you said
1:06:40
today is that we it's a tool. It's not it's
1:06:43
not our life, it's not our it's
1:06:45
not our responsibility. It's not
1:06:47
like our If if we deleted
1:06:49
our social media tomorrow, then we're just going to continue
1:06:52
going on about our lives. So if we think
1:06:54
about it in that way and we take
1:06:56
the weight out of it and understand this
1:06:58
is the other thing is like understand that everybody is
1:07:01
thinking what we're thinking, and everybody's
1:07:03
we think everybody's going to judge us, but
1:07:05
everybody else is worried that they're going to get judged as
1:07:07
well, and it's just like how do we how do we alter
1:07:10
that? And so if you're listening to this, I'm
1:07:12
so glad that you got to listen to two
1:07:14
amazing guests on this episode who have
1:07:16
have an awesome grasp on things, and I'm
1:07:18
so grateful for both of you guys coming
1:07:20
on. Um, this is the wrap up segment.
1:07:23
It's called Shameless Promo, and I just want you
1:07:25
to talk about everything that's going on in your lives.
1:07:27
Where people can find you on social media, where
1:07:30
they can find your authenticity on
1:07:32
on social media hosts and all of that. UM,
1:07:35
go after Elizabeth, let's here, where can we find
1:07:37
you? Yeah, so you can find me
1:07:40
on Instagram at Hail Elizabeth Sue.
1:07:42
That's h e y Elizabeth Sue
1:07:45
s U. You can also sign up for
1:07:47
Monday Fives my newsletter which is super
1:07:50
fun on my website Elizabeth
1:07:52
Su dot com. And then, as
1:07:55
you mentioned, my biggest project
1:07:57
right now is my book and finding
1:08:00
a good home for that. So if anyone
1:08:02
knows of a literary agent or someone in the publishing
1:08:04
world that would be interested, shoot me
1:08:06
a message. I'd be grateful to connect.
1:08:09
That was Oh my gosh, Max, you gotta follow
1:08:11
that up. That was That might be the best shameless
1:08:13
promo that like just it was just so clean, it
1:08:16
was precise. Everybody knows where
1:08:18
to find you. Everybody's excited.
1:08:20
I'm excited. Do you have a title for the book yet?
1:08:23
I have a tentative title flawed feeling
1:08:26
worthy in a society that demands perfection.
1:08:29
I love those books that have books that have
1:08:31
a colon just are are automatically
1:08:34
big best sellers for me, Like, I'm going
1:08:36
after it, Max, Baby, talk to us.
1:08:39
My shame was from Yeah, my album
1:08:41
coverage is out, have a deluxe version with a bunch of
1:08:43
goodies on it coming out, and I think it's early
1:08:45
March. I got pushed poopy, but anyway, Yeah,
1:08:47
you can check that out. And then yeah
1:08:50
at Max Music and at Max where I got lucky
1:08:52
like YouTube and stuff. Some
1:08:54
some hockey player got it on Instagram. So at
1:08:56
Max Music, go for it. Don't you
1:08:58
hate it when your name just gets taken by somebody else
1:09:01
has your name? Yeah? Man, come on,
1:09:03
you're you're not. I'm going by this
1:09:05
one. Very hard to google name. You go, you
1:09:07
use your last name. I don't know my last
1:09:10
literally as a hockey player. You literally use
1:09:12
your last You have dates on your shirt. Your my
1:09:14
name is on my shirt. Your last name is on your shirt.
1:09:16
This is my max. I don't even know your last name.
1:09:19
I forget it. But if you're listening, if you're a big
1:09:21
fan Alex podcast, give me my damn
1:09:23
name on Instagram. That's our second petition. We got
1:09:25
two petitions going on one to get mad even
1:09:27
name on Instagram. Give
1:09:30
it to me, man, we want it. Um,
1:09:33
I'm so I'm so happy. Yeah makes you guys
1:09:35
listen to color visions. Color is great and if you're lucky
1:09:38
enough, you'll get color visions hoodie. That's how you
1:09:40
know you're a real one. Um.
1:09:42
I still rock my color vision hoodie to this day.
1:09:45
You guys know where you can find me at alex ion O
1:09:47
A I O n oh. Best part about having a weird last
1:09:49
name you don't have to compete with hockey players.
1:09:52
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