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Love. Is not something you get.
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It's. Not something someone else has, an something
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the you have to earn. It
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is not something that exists outside of you
0:10
when someone doesn't want to express affection and
0:12
love and respect to you. You.
0:15
Have two choices. You. Can
0:17
try to change that fact? And.
0:19
You know, keep yourself stuck. Or.
0:23
You. Can keep giving love. Which.
0:26
Will actually help you move on. The.
0:28
Pain of not having love is the
0:30
pain of your heart being closed. The.
0:33
Pain of losing love is a pain of your
0:35
heart closing. The. Pain of losing love
0:37
is trying to change or manipulate
0:40
someone into thinking are seeing differently.
0:42
It. Is not actually a loss of
0:45
love. It. Is a step
0:47
into the illusion and denial. It.
0:50
Is adoption of the idea that you are
0:52
not lovable as you are. Love.
0:54
Is not something anybody can take away
0:56
from you. It. Is not
0:58
something also that anybody can truly give
1:00
you either. It's not
1:03
something big you get. It.
1:05
Is something you experience.
1:08
And. That exchange requires an
1:10
equal, an honest and willing
1:12
contribution on each side. It's.
1:15
Not something that anybody is responsible
1:17
to do for you. And.
1:20
It's not something that anybody owes you
1:22
in a life. The following podcast is
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a Deer Media Production A Profile events
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in your favor may have been in
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job that. Are
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you. Ready! Hi everyone and welcome to
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a brand new almost adult in the
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largest Alpha Park! Yes a movement your
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a half Am a big sister and
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your hosts Violeta and today I wanted
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you are getting what originally was supposed
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to be a to the episode but
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you're getting on a Thursday am. Basically
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my choose episodes are all part of
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Benson Book Club since I am writing
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a book this year. very excited for
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it is taking time and it's a
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lot of work and I'm really proud
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of the seer But in the meantime
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since I'm writing a book the Seer
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various books and various authors depending
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on whatever the topic. Of
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the month is for the podcast.
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So since we are entering March
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was is all about Love Know
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I have thought that today's episode
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is perfect to read a chapter
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all about. Why? We
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hold on to on reciprocated. Love.
3:19
How do we like of people who don't love us?
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How. Do we like a one
3:24
sided love? Why do we love those
3:26
who don't love a back? How do
3:28
we like of the idea of someone.
3:30
And why we're so drawn to
3:32
people who don't love us. So.
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That's going to be where we are
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going to be reading and sharing today
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anyway he dies. I hope you enjoy
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today's episode. I love you and whatever
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you're going through. Don't forget, you will
4:51
get through it. He will get better.
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With whoever is currently waking your heart.
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I promise you one day you will get
4:58
over them. They are Not your person.
5:00
They were your person. Than
5:02
they will feel the same way you did.
5:05
Okay you person softer love you. Use.
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To wonder. How. You like of
5:10
the things that are killing you when I feel like
5:12
you will kill you to let go. How.
5:15
You decide between if things are meant
5:17
to be they will be and if
5:19
you wanted. You. Have to go get
5:21
it. I. Think we hold on
5:23
the tightest of the things that are meant for
5:25
us because some level we know. They
5:27
are really hours. Were. Always
5:29
seeking the love we know we don't have
5:31
Role was trying to prove the things that
5:34
are not entirely self evident. We.
5:36
Know that when we stop thinking and
5:38
talking and racking through the details again
5:40
and again and will really be over.
5:43
When. All that exists is an idea.
5:46
Holding. On is the only way to
5:48
keep it. Hi everyone and
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won't won't have brand new almost adult
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growth and mental health. and you big
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sister and your. Violeta Welcome
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to another brand new Tuesday! All
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About Benson Book Club! As you
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know, I am writing a book
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this year which is why I
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am reading lives of Books and
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learning how to write a how
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to read. This will not really
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how to read but you get
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my dress. And that
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is why every to say I will
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be taking you on this journey with
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me by reading through some of my
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favorite book, some of my favorite chapters
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whatever the topic of the month is.
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So. Today. I
6:34
will be reading. Why?
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We hold on the titus on the things than
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are and for us. And
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how to finally stop loving someone to
6:43
doesn't love us back of the finally
6:45
like girls date year. Of.
6:47
Someone. And choose
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our souls. This. Is all from
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one on one essays. They will change the
6:53
way you think. So
6:55
why we hold on the tightest to
6:58
the things that are meant for us.
7:01
Maybe. It's because letting go has
7:03
little to do with giving somebody
7:05
permission to leave our allies or
7:07
declare that they don't love us
7:09
anymore or walk away for good
7:11
and everything to do with accepting.
7:14
The. They already have. The. Already
7:16
left before we ever told them that it
7:18
was okay to leave. I.
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Don't know the fate, but I do know.
7:23
The. Things that are hours don't require
7:26
some mentally and emotionally latch onto
7:28
them to remain. To.
7:30
The best things are never forced.
7:33
Though. Never created out of ultimatums, the
7:35
never leave us reeling and questioning
7:37
them for months or years at
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a time. I. Do
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know. Be. You cannot prove how
7:44
much you love. By. How
7:46
much your paint over loss? They.
7:49
You do not prove your character. By.
7:51
How well you can convince other people you
7:54
doing the right thing. And.
7:56
I do know. That. It's never
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the love, the. hurts you.
8:00
It's the attachment to the idea of
8:03
what it's supposed to be. I do
8:05
know that we will never
8:08
be able to find real love unless
8:11
we learn to detach from what it should
8:13
be. I do know
8:15
that we're never going to find true happiness until
8:17
we do the same. I do
8:19
know that nothing here lasts and
8:22
the idea that it does is an
8:24
illusion. We eventually
8:26
lose everything.
8:29
Every last thing we have and
8:32
own. So the point isn't what we
8:34
lose but what we
8:36
had in the first place. We
8:39
are meant to attain things like bullet points
8:41
and a resume. We're supposed to
8:43
go through them and let them go through us. Some
8:46
love teaches us what it has to teach us in
8:48
the month. Some a
8:51
lifetime. Neither is more
8:53
important than the other. The
8:55
things that are meant for us are
8:57
the things that force us to stop
8:59
seeking an external light but
9:01
to start becoming it. The things
9:03
that are meant for us are
9:05
trying and joyous and beautiful and
9:08
excruciating. They're the things that
9:10
we don't think about. The
9:12
things we don't have to hold onto
9:14
tightly to make it happen. So
9:17
what is the one question to
9:20
ask yourself? If you're
9:22
finally tired of fighting
9:24
for someone's love. You see we talk a
9:26
lot about how to
9:29
get love. In fact we talk about it
9:31
nonstop. How to land a
9:33
date. Turn someone on. Find
9:35
a boyfriend. Make yourself respected, admired,
9:37
seen as successful. We talk
9:40
about how to convince someone to commit. How
9:42
to convince someone to get married to take us out
9:45
again. All of these things
9:47
are the ways to try to manipulate the
9:49
love that people give us. We
9:51
talk a lot about how to get love.
9:54
But we talk very little about how to give it.
9:57
We talk about getting love as though it's a It's
10:00
prerequisite to give the love
10:02
back as though giving if
10:05
we aren't receiving makes us weak as
10:07
though No respectable person will keep being kind
10:09
and loving to someone who didn't love them
10:11
back as though being loving
10:13
is being devoted Rather than
10:16
being strong and honest and
10:18
true and sometimes walking away
10:21
You cannot convince someone to love you if they
10:23
don't This above
10:25
most else is a rule Love
10:28
is not something you get it's
10:31
not something someone else has and something that you
10:33
have to earn It
10:35
is not something that exists outside of you
10:37
when someone doesn't want to express affection and
10:39
love and respect to you You
10:42
have two choices you can
10:44
try to change that fact and
10:47
you know keep yourself stuck or You
10:50
can keep giving love Which
10:53
will actually help you move on? The
10:56
pain of not having love is the pain
10:58
of your heart being closed The
11:00
pain of losing love is the pain of your heart
11:02
closing The pain of losing love
11:04
is trying to change or manipulate someone
11:06
into thinking or seeing you differently It
11:10
is not actually a loss of love.
11:13
It is a step into Delusion
11:15
and denial it is
11:17
the adoption of the idea that you are not lovable
11:19
as you are Love is
11:21
not something anybody can take away from you
11:25
It is not something also that anybody can
11:27
truly give you either It's
11:29
not something that you get It
11:32
is something you experience and
11:35
that exchange requires an equal
11:37
and honest and willing
11:39
contribution on each side It's
11:42
not something that anybody is responsible to
11:45
do for you And it's
11:47
not something that anybody owes you in a
11:49
life If you go
11:51
on living as though other people required to give
11:53
you love you will never actually experience it If
11:57
you go on living as though love is something that is
11:59
always required of you you, then
12:01
you will actually find in everything. In
12:04
every stranger on the subway, on the
12:07
three-day long relationship, six-year
12:10
love affair that almost was it, and
12:13
everything else, all of
12:15
these different loves become equally important.
12:18
The pain of losing
12:20
transmutes into the beauty of having
12:22
discovered something more important than someone who
12:24
can promise you of forever. Your
12:27
life turns into a series of
12:29
little love stories, all
12:31
of which teach you how to
12:34
love better, how to give more,
12:36
how to be more of yourself, what
12:38
you like, what you don't like, how
12:41
to walk away with grace, how
12:43
to respect yourself genuinely, and how
12:45
to listen to your intuition. When
12:48
you want to pity yourself over how little love you're
12:50
getting, I implore you
12:52
and I ask you to stop and
12:54
consider. How much
12:56
are you actually giving? So
12:59
yes, you must give love and you
13:01
have to continue giving love because that's
13:04
how you get that love back. The
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But then sometimes we fall into
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the space where sure, we learn
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how to love ourselves because
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we constantly give love to everyone around us,
18:25
but. even though we
18:27
love ourselves, we can help by
18:29
loving someone that doesn't love us back. And
18:32
eventually, it becomes unhealthy to
18:35
keep giving love to somebody
18:37
that doesn't reciprocate, somebody
18:39
that doesn't respect
18:41
you, someone that takes it for granted. It's
18:45
up to you to figure out what
18:47
your boundaries are because it's one thing to
18:49
give love to everyone around you, and it's
18:52
another thing to be taken for granted. When
18:55
you spill over too much love that you forget
18:57
to give love to yourself. Because
19:00
the truth is, when you start to really love yourself,
19:03
you start to remove people who don't love you
19:05
in your life, people who disrespect
19:07
you because you will stop and see, well, I
19:10
never speak to myself this way, I would
19:12
never treat myself this way, then why would I
19:14
allow this person to speak to me like that?
19:16
Why would I allow and put up with this
19:18
person to treat me this way? That's
19:21
what happens. But for those
19:23
where it doesn't happen fast enough, how
19:27
do you fall out of love with
19:29
the idea of
19:31
someone? Because a lot of
19:33
the time, it's not our need to fall
19:35
out of love with someone, it's the fact that we
19:37
are in love with the idea of someone that we
19:39
cannot let go. So what do we do?
19:42
There are two ways things turn out. You
19:45
lose a thing, you're placed with something else,
19:47
it's better than what you lost, you're happy.
19:50
Or you lose a thing, it doesn't disappear when
19:52
it's replaced, not having it becomes as much of
19:54
a presence as having it was, and
19:57
you're told the things you can't forget about
19:59
are meant to be on your mind. mind
20:01
the simple aftermath of having loved
20:03
somebody so deeply you
20:06
hold on to is someone
20:08
and somebody that was
20:10
supposed to be yours. We
20:12
are told to believe that not being
20:15
able to let go of things we lose does
20:17
nothing but prove how much we love them in
20:19
the first place but I
20:21
don't think that's true. Living
20:23
with a ghost, crafting an idea
20:25
that you need to hold on to to
20:27
fill a space or insecurity with is
20:30
using the idea of someone to fix
20:32
something about yourself. We
20:35
love heartbreak and
20:37
we love putting it on ourselves. We're
20:40
more nostalgic for things that never happened than
20:42
we are grateful and present the things that
20:44
are. We start missing things
20:47
we never had that we
20:50
just created in our minds in this
20:52
false alter reality. The things that are
20:54
easily replaced are usually the ones that
20:57
you haven't attached existential meaning to. That
21:00
is to say they're the things you don't
21:02
rely on to give you a sense of
21:04
self. The things that
21:06
don't leave your head are not the
21:08
ones to show you what's quote-unquote meant
21:10
to be. They're the things that show you
21:13
what you're still not okay with on your own.
21:16
You know what unconditional love is? Unconditional
21:19
love is loving someone even if
21:21
they don't unconditionally love you in
21:23
return. That's a section
21:25
without pretense. That's what we
21:28
claim we're after and yet we can
21:30
barely grasp the idea. Most
21:33
people we enjoy because their contact
21:35
highs. The idea of
21:37
types and standards are proof that
21:39
we're just looking for somebody to
21:41
play a role. Heartbreak
21:43
is the aftermath of when somebody sets
21:46
out of the very specific notion you
21:48
had of them. Suddenly they're
21:50
not doing what you think they should
21:52
be doing and so they are wrong.
21:55
The inability to detach is holding on
21:57
to the fact that the package looked
21:59
so profound. perfect at first, the
22:01
pieces seem to fit. But
22:04
still, being in love
22:06
with somebody that you only used to know
22:08
is like falling in love with a book,
22:10
which I know sounds like some
22:12
dumb example, but people really do fall in
22:14
love with them. The point is, you
22:17
can love it all you want, but
22:19
it's a story that runs parallel to
22:21
yours. At the end of
22:24
the day, it's static, it's memory. It's
22:27
a sentence that you cannot change. It
22:30
ends how it ends. It
22:32
says what it says. A
22:34
friend once told me that the secret to
22:36
finding love was not actually to look for
22:38
it, but to heal the things
22:41
that were preventing you from seeing and
22:43
receiving it. I think
22:45
the biggest one of all is, what
22:48
will having this love fix, what
22:51
will having this person next to me make
22:53
me feel better about? What
22:55
do I need them to tell me? What
22:58
do I need them to prove? Who
23:01
do I need them to look great in
23:03
front of? What purpose do
23:05
they serve for my ego? This
23:08
is true of many things, not just of love. We
23:11
confuse genuine affection and real love
23:13
with the light, happy, free feeling
23:15
we experience for a few seconds,
23:17
a few days, a few months
23:20
when we have fed our egos. That's
23:24
why it doesn't last. That's
23:26
why we hold onto ideas of things that
23:28
were and things that we need to be. The
23:31
idea of someone saving us, the
23:34
idea that someone saved something about
23:36
ourselves. And the more
23:38
we hold onto these fragments of a person,
23:41
those sound bites, those
23:43
dreams that distract us from the
23:45
moment, we end up with a
23:48
few distilled memories that we've turned
23:50
into life sustaining hope. And
23:53
we piece it all together and we place it
23:55
onto the shoulders of the person who we thought
23:57
loved us enough to make us love ourselves. And
24:00
if you're not careful, the person will
24:02
become a part of you. They
24:04
will become the good part, the whole part,
24:07
the love of your life. When in
24:09
reality, it should be you. Wow,
24:12
I love that ending. So what is
24:14
the very important reason why we keep choosing
24:16
love? We keep choosing to love people who
24:18
cannot love us back. Well,
24:21
the purpose of a relationship is not
24:23
to be loved perfectly or forever. It
24:25
is not to have our every whim
24:27
and wish met and fulfilled. It
24:29
is not to be completed or to have
24:31
our minds and hearts fueled by the
24:33
hormonal simulation we think is a feeling of
24:36
love. The purpose
24:38
of a relationship is not the
24:41
universe way of saying you are worthy and
24:43
here is someone to prove it. The
24:46
purpose of a relationship is to see
24:48
ourselves completely. It is
24:50
to see the parts of ourselves that we are
24:52
otherwise unconscious of. The purpose of a
24:55
relationship is to infuriate and overjoy
24:57
and destroy us so we can
24:59
see what angers us, what thrills
25:01
us and where we need to
25:03
give ourselves love. The
25:05
purpose of a relationship is not to fix us
25:07
or heal us or to
25:10
make us whole and happy, just
25:12
to show us where we
25:14
need fixing and what parts of us are
25:16
still broken. And perhaps
25:19
the most brutal of all
25:21
that nobody can do this work
25:23
or make us happy but ourselves. We
25:26
choose to love people who cannot love us
25:28
back to teach ourselves that we are in
25:30
fact worthy of being loved back. We
25:33
choose these people because they represent the
25:35
parts of us that we don't
25:37
love. Why else
25:39
would we waste our time on
25:42
people who do not return our feck-hearn?
25:46
We choose to love these people because
25:48
they are truly the only ones with
25:50
whom we share an intimate connection deep
25:52
enough that we can awaken
25:54
and illuminate the darkest corners of
25:57
ourselves and they are the only ones who
25:59
can love us. who can leave and let
26:01
us do what we are here to do, to
26:04
resolve and actualize and heal them
26:06
on our own. It
26:08
is not the nature of love that
26:11
people struggle with, but what
26:13
it is designed to do. Most
26:15
of our turmoil simply comes from never
26:17
having been told that, that love will
26:19
keep breaking our hearts until they open
26:21
and that we will be the ones
26:23
throwing ourselves in again and again and
26:26
again. Our life partners are
26:28
the people who come after the
26:30
love that opens us. Our
26:32
big loves are the
26:35
love that emerges after. We
26:38
think we've lost them already. They
26:40
come after already, after
26:42
we've already cleared out the damage, only
26:45
after we've learned what it means to
26:48
love ourselves. It is
26:50
in this we realize that love is
26:52
sharing what we already have, not
26:54
relying on someone else to give us something
26:57
to supplement. It is
26:59
in this that we realize how crucial
27:01
it was to love the people who
27:03
can never love us back. They
27:06
were never meant to. And
27:08
the rest only depends on how long it
27:10
takes us to realize this. I
27:13
love that page so much. So
27:15
if you're looking for love, then
27:18
the truth is you have to be the
27:20
person that you're looking for. You
27:23
have to live as if it's already yours.
27:26
That's part of the manifesting
27:28
stuff. And you
27:30
have to know when to walk
27:32
away. Everyone thinks that the hardest
27:34
part of dating and love is
27:37
finding someone. But the truth is
27:40
the hardest part of dating is knowing when
27:42
to walk away, knowing when
27:44
enough is enough, knowing when you've learned
27:46
the lesson you needed to learn. You've
27:49
taken all the love you can get from that
27:51
relationship and now it's time to choose
27:54
yourself all over again. And yes, love
27:56
will keep breaking you, But
27:58
love is also beautiful. And exciting
28:01
and. You. Can't
28:03
have. The joy you
28:05
see can live without also experiencing pain.
28:08
And. I think.
28:11
Like a previously said, you need to get
28:13
your heart. And.
28:15
Really go through it sometimes in order
28:18
to find the person you're finally went
28:20
to be with because you will get
28:22
to become the person. You're. Meant
28:24
to be in order to be with
28:27
the person you want to be with.
28:29
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