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Karen blames me for her son's failing

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grades, but years later she begs me

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to tutor her son. Here's what happened.

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context first. I live in a seaside

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resort where the majority of the population

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is white, conservative, and quite well off.

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This story takes place while I was

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still in primary school, so I think

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I was around 8 or 9 years

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old. Not exactly sure. The primary school

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I went to basically everyone knew each

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other, and most of the parents were

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friends leading to the creation of a

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sort of community. My parents and I

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were labeled as outcasts, and while they

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tried to be friendly with us, we

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weren't invited to parties, barbecues, or

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even birthdays. Now, what did we

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do to deserve such treatment? Well,

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uh, exist, I guess. They never gave

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us any real reason, but I think

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it was a mix of me being

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black, my mother not quite fitting into

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the lovely soccer mom archetype, and my

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dad's past. He's from that town and

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used to hang out with metal heads

1:04

when he was younger before basically disappearing

1:06

for several years to travel around the

1:08

world. Anyway, at that time I had

1:10

average to good grades, but was often

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reprimanded by teachers because I was talking

1:15

with my classmates during our lessons, especially

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with my best friend at the time,

1:19

that we'll call F for the rest

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of the story. The other parents did

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not like us very much, but F's

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mother, the entitled mother of the story,

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took it to a whole other level.

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She absolutely hated our guts. I think

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it started when my mother became really

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good friends with her ex-husband. It was

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to the point that I was banned

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from going to her house, even for

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F's birthday. F and I bonded a

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lot because of our mutual love of

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video games, but while F wasn't allowed to

1:46

play during the week, only on Wednesdays and

1:48

during the weekend, and was limited to one

1:50

or two hours, my parents didn't care a

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lot about me playing during the week as

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long as I did my homework and had

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good grades. This infuriated entitled mother of the

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story. mother, because F often came to

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my house when he was with his

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father to play games. So when F's

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grades started to drop a little, she

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went off on my parents, calling my

2:10

mother on her cell phone. Yes, are

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you original poster's mother? Uh,

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yeah, what can I do for you?

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Look my son's grades have dropped significantly,

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and I think your son is to

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blame. He's disturbing the balance of our

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family, and causing us to have to

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punish our son. Your son's a

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bad influence on my son, and on

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the other pupils as well. He's

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not playing outside or doing sports like

2:33

other kids. Instead, he just keeps playing

2:35

his stupid video games or reading fantasy

2:37

novels. I'd like for you to punish

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your son. Take his DS and tell

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him to stop contacting my son. I

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understand your concern and I'll discuss the

2:46

issue with my husband. My mother was

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ticked, because it wasn't the first time

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we had to deal with that woman.

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See the aforementioned you're not allowed to

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enter my house or go to my

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son's birthday party. And entitled

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mother even went to the teachers to

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ask them to put us in different

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classes. If I was already being treated

3:05

like trash before, it got even worse.

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And that's around the time that other

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pupils started playing a game where they

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basically ignored me. Saying crap like, oh

3:14

I think I heard a voice in

3:16

the wind when I was talking. I

3:18

also got bullied for being black, but

3:20

that's a different story. Now if you

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want a satisfying ending, while the shunning

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continued throughout the rest of primary school

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and a part of middle school, eventually

3:29

F&I parted ways, because we weren't

3:31

enjoying the same things anymore. And he

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became kind of a jerk. Entitled

3:36

mother's perfect boy had really bad

3:38

grades, was berated by the teachers

3:40

in our high school because he

3:42

never worked during or outside of

3:44

classes and was only disturbing everyone

3:46

else. He also got into

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parties and substances and was rejected

3:51

by every school and university he

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applied to. So he was forced

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to enter an expensive private school.

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I live in Europe, and here

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private schools aren't usually the best, especially

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in the fields he and I are in,

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and public schools are way better, and also

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free. In high school, I was one of

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the best students in my grade. I was

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in the same class as F, and because

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his mother assisted with the reunion where the

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teachers decided to give an award to the

4:17

best students each trimester, she had to watch

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the teacher praise me while she got the

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stink eye for F's behavior. One day, she

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even called me to ask if I could

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give her son lessons because he was failing

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so bad this trimester. I feel kinda

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bad for F, but his mother is a

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monster of entitlement. I should also add that

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due to an incident that occurred just a

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few weeks ago, she's now getting shunned by

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all the other parents from that group. Some

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jerks do get what's coming to them. Yikes.

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There's a lot to unpack with this

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one. Let's start out with the entitled

4:49

mother who has the wrong idea about

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her perfect son. Guess what? No

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one's kid is perfect. I know a

4:56

lot of parents like to think that

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theirs is, but they're not. They're probably

5:00

also not that special. Every once in

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a while, they're gonna need help. They're

5:05

not gonna be great at everything. It's

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okay to acknowledge that, and not necessarily

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blame it on other outside factors. In

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this case though, your issue with the

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original poster and their family goes beyond

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just spending time there. Too bad you

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can only see skin deep, cause there

5:20

was a lot more to offer there

5:22

if you were just willing to get

5:24

past that. Your son had a good

5:26

friend, and you ruined that, and this

5:28

person could've also been a positive influence

5:30

on them, and helped them through school

5:32

and topics that they struggled with. But

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no, of course it's not a problem with your

5:37

kid. It has to be them. You

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can submit your own stories to be featured

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here on the channel. The story submission link

5:45

is in the description below, and if you

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want to listen to some bivy music in

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the background, check out EZ Mode, also linked

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below, and don't forget to subscribe. I

5:54

decided to take legal action against the person

5:56

who hit me with their car, 11 years

5:59

ago, when I, 28 year old

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male, was 17 and still in

6:03

high school. I got hit by a car.

6:05

The car sped through a red light and

6:08

ended up hitting me while I was crossing

6:10

the street. The accident left me in the

6:12

hospital for three weeks. I could have died

6:14

because of the driver. I received a spinal

6:16

fracture from the situation and I lost a

6:18

good chunk of my mobility. I had a

6:21

baseball scholarship lined up for Kansas State University

6:23

and I had that ripped away from me.

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My mother is a single parent. She had

6:27

me when she was still in high school

6:29

and had to drop out because of

6:31

me. She couldn't hold down a job

6:33

apart from part-time non-intensive work like a

6:35

waitress. We couldn't afford my medical bills

6:38

so my mother had to sell a

6:40

majority of our possessions just to cover

6:42

a bit of it. She started taking

6:44

more and more shifts at work just

6:46

to pay off my bills. Eventually we

6:48

had to turn to banks for loans

6:50

just to pay them off. My mother's

6:52

credit has been in ruin. Last week

6:54

was my 28th birthday and a friend,

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we'll call him Jack from high school,

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invited me over to his house just

7:00

to have a few beers and to watch

7:02

a movie. Jack introduced me to his girlfriend

7:04

Ashley, 29-year-old female. She

7:07

was very pleasant to talk to. She had

7:09

some wacky stories to share and some great

7:11

life advice about addictive substances since she's a

7:13

recovering addict. Then she told me about the

7:16

time she ran over a high schooler. Her

7:18

car fit the exact description of the car

7:20

that ran me over. The details of the

7:22

story fit the exact version of my story.

7:24

I asked her what happened to the high

7:27

schooler she ran over and she said, I

7:29

have no clue really, the kid is

7:31

probably 10 feet in the ground right

7:33

now. She didn't have a single bit

7:36

of remorse in her voice. She seemed

7:38

to be stifling back laughter. I got

7:40

up and left Jack's house. Two hours

7:42

later Jack phones me and asks why

7:44

I left. I told him, Jack, your

7:47

girlfriend ran me over. She completely ruined

7:49

my life. Jack just laughed

7:51

and said, so it's been

7:53

11 years, let it go. I yelled at

7:55

Jack and told him I could be happy

7:57

right now. I could be enjoying my life.

8:00

life, not sitting here broke and depressed. Thinking

8:02

about the what ifs every night, I told

8:04

him that I'll be finding a lawyer and

8:06

taking Ashley to court for damages. Now for

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the past week, I've been getting messages from

8:11

my high school friends, Jack, his family, and

8:13

Ashley that I'm a jerk for not just

8:15

letting it go. My mother says I should

8:17

go through with the lawsuit against Ashley, but

8:20

I don't know if I want to do

8:22

it. It would have been much easier to

8:24

just let it go and to continue on

8:26

with my life. So am I

8:28

the jerk? Uhhh

8:31

no. This girl ran someone over, possibly

8:33

killed them, and she's gonna sit there

8:36

and laugh about it and talk about

8:38

it casually to a person she just

8:40

met? No, this girl is a problem.

8:42

And I'm sorry if your friend's gonna

8:45

be ticked off about it, but you

8:47

know what, he's a jerk too. This

8:49

isn't something you let go. This had

8:52

a massive impact on your life and

8:54

will continue to have an impact on

8:56

your life. All because of this girl's

8:59

negligence and general attitude. She absolutely needs

9:01

to be taught a lesson about how much

9:03

she's hurt your family and how much she's

9:05

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9:07

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Boss walked into the office where I

11:13

was team lead over three engineers. I

11:15

was out at the time but heard

11:17

this from the victim. Boss was angry

11:19

about a mistake one of my guys

11:21

made on an architectural plot. Not a

11:23

mistake so much as a failure to

11:26

use telepathy. Boss got so angry that

11:28

while standing behind the seated engineer, he

11:30

punched the guy in the side of

11:32

the head. As if immediately realizing what

11:34

he did wrong, he said, fix it,

11:36

then left for the day. I got

11:38

back to the office soon after and

11:40

they told me what happened. We made

11:42

a pact that if he ever put his

11:44

hands on one of us, we'd all stand

11:46

up and put him down hard, and back

11:49

each other up. Well it never came to

11:51

that. After approaching upper management in HR, I

11:53

got the run around on reporting the incident.

11:55

They all basically said, if it was that

11:57

bad then report it to the police. but

12:00

he's too high in the political structure

12:02

to fire for this. Unhappy with that

12:05

answer and with my guy unwilling to

12:07

involve the police, a plan was set

12:09

into motion. We invited his

12:11

boss, the district manager, to see the

12:13

progress we'd made on a day when

12:15

Boss wasn't around. During this, I asked

12:17

the DM to have skip level 1

12:19

on 1s with my guys, saying that

12:21

it would be good for morale. He

12:23

agreed. Each one of my guys opened

12:25

with, the biggest concern I have is

12:27

that Bossman punched Tony a couple months

12:29

ago and HR told us they couldn't do

12:32

anything about it. How can you ensure my

12:34

safety? I got called in and gave my

12:36

story, but had to say I wasn't there.

12:38

I had tried to report it up through

12:40

the proper channels and failed. I was told

12:42

it was political suicide for my entire team

12:45

if I was to push it. District

12:47

manager didn't buy into the political bull.

12:49

He made things happen. We agreed that

12:52

my guys should not be in fear

12:54

of physical attack. I also had district

12:56

managers backing in case of political fallout

12:58

and he was a personal friend of

13:00

the CEO. So that was

13:02

good enough protection. Bossman

13:04

was let go. Don't hit my

13:06

guys, jerk. Uhhh

13:09

yeah that's assault. That can't be ignored.

13:11

I don't care who this guy is

13:13

in the company. It needs to be

13:16

dealt with. Unless it's the CEO himself,

13:18

it's HR's job to back you up.

13:20

It's about the only guy I would

13:22

think that they wouldn't want to mess

13:24

with. And if that really is the

13:26

case then yeah, you guys go to

13:28

the police or something. But living in

13:31

fear of being punched as a result

13:33

for poor work is not a situation

13:35

that anyone should have to deal with.

13:37

I still think a police report should

13:39

have been filed, but hey, at least

13:41

this is a start. I'm

13:44

your teacher, not your friend. A bit

13:46

about me first. I'm the type of

13:48

guy who likes to let people make

13:51

their mistakes and bask in their embarrassment

13:53

when they realize. I'm also a chronic

13:55

malicious complier, but that's irrelevant for this

13:57

story. So I currently work in a

13:59

school. as a French teacher. Recently

14:01

I was on my way back into the

14:04

school after retrieving my lunch from my car

14:06

when I saw a student of mine walk

14:08

down the road with a pair of his

14:10

friends. The friends aren't my students and don't

14:13

know me. The student sees me and waves

14:15

to me. I wave back and to my

14:17

great amusement his friend sees him waving and

14:19

raises his hand and shouts, Hey bro. It

14:22

was hella funny watching my student stumble over

14:24

himself trying to get the guy to lower

14:26

his hands and explain that I'm a teacher

14:28

and not one of his friends. So

14:30

there you go. Not a very exciting

14:32

story but it was funny to me.

14:36

Ok this is kind of a weird one

14:38

I guess. It's always a little awkward when

14:41

you run into a teacher outside of school

14:43

but this guy's friend just made it a

14:45

little more awkward. It's not his fault though

14:47

how's he supposed to know. Nice to have

14:49

a little one in the middle here with

14:51

no jerks. Just a fun interaction. Someone

14:55

orders a plain omelet and then gets

14:57

ticked off for me bringing her what

14:59

she asked for. So my

15:01

first job was to serve her at a very popular 24

15:04

hour breakfast diner chain. We had lots

15:06

of colorful customers. One morning I'm serving

15:08

a woman sitting by herself. I ask

15:10

her what I can get her and

15:12

she says she'd like an omelet. We

15:14

have a list of pre-built omelets or

15:16

you can build your own. So I

15:18

ask how she'd like her omelet. Just

15:20

a regular omelet please. She tells me.

15:23

Ok so do you want one of the signature omelets?

15:26

What would you like inside of yours? Nothing

15:29

just a regular omelet. I pause

15:31

for a second because this order

15:33

does occur but not often. Some

15:35

people like their eggs scrambled and

15:37

cooked then rolled up so you'd

15:39

like an omelet with nothing inside.

15:42

Yes a plain omelet. So I

15:44

enter the order. A 5 egg

15:46

omelet with no fillings and no

15:48

toppings. A few minutes later it

15:50

comes out and she's appalled. What

15:52

is this? Your plain omelet.

15:55

But where's the cheese or the ham

15:57

or the onions? Cheese I

15:59

rate. Ma'am you ordered an omelet

16:01

with nothing inside. She gets cocky

16:04

and says, an omelet

16:06

is eggs rolled up with ham,

16:08

cheese and onions. Everything else

16:10

is extra. You should know this

16:12

working at a breakfast place. I

16:14

look at her deadpan and inform

16:17

her, actually, ma'am omelet is french

16:19

for scrambled eggs that are fried

16:21

and rolled or folded. Everything

16:23

else is extra. I'm busy so

16:25

I walk off and help other

16:27

colorful customers. Meanwhile she flags down

16:30

a manager to complain who confirms what

16:32

I told her and points out that

16:34

in the menu there is very specifically

16:36

a ham, cheese and onion omelet with

16:38

a large picture in the middle of

16:40

the page. Then tells her she is

16:43

to reorder her meal and wait a

16:45

second time. The jerk didn't leave a

16:47

tip. I mean

16:49

our original poster tried to confirm

16:51

with you several times what it

16:54

is you wanted and you said

16:56

yes every time. She even confirmed.

16:58

You want nothing inside. You said

17:01

yes. How much clearer do

17:03

you want them to say it? That might

17:05

be your standard omelet but that doesn't mean

17:07

it is the standard omelet.

17:10

Plain means plain. Nothing at

17:12

all. Just the one ingredient. This one's just

17:14

on you. I don't know what else you

17:16

want me to say. Entitled

17:19

parent feels sorry for me because I

17:21

never had a daughter. I have four

17:23

sons. They're fourteen, twelve, eight and four.

17:25

The older two are biological and the

17:27

younger two were adopted after a birth

17:30

complication made us infertile. I was at

17:32

the park over the weekend with my

17:34

younger two boys. I got to chatting

17:36

with another couple and I mentioned that

17:38

I had four boys. She said something

17:40

like, ugh you poor thing. I wanted

17:42

a girl too but he, pointing at

17:45

her husband, didn't want to have a

17:47

third. I told her that I

17:49

didn't try for a girl and that if

17:51

I wanted a girl we could have put

17:53

that in our adoption paperwork. But we didn't

17:55

have a gender preference. I had no strong

17:58

desire for a girl and loved it. having

18:00

sons, so she has no reason to feel

18:02

sorry for me. It rubbed me the wrong

18:04

way. That way she said poor thing, like

18:07

my boys aren't good enough for me, and

18:09

she said it right in front of them.

18:11

They already have to field questions about being

18:13

adopted. They shouldn't have to feel bad about

18:16

their gender too, you know? Anyway,

18:18

the lady got upset, told me I

18:20

was being rude for no reason, and

18:22

walked away. I spoke to my sister-in-law

18:24

about it and she also felt I

18:26

didn't handle it correctly. She is three

18:28

girls and one boy, and said it's

18:30

just a normal thing people comment on. She

18:33

said people will tell her that her son

18:35

is going to be feminine because he only

18:37

has sisters, and she just shrugs it off.

18:39

So should I have done the same? Am

18:41

I the jerk? Mmm,

18:44

see for this one I feel like your

18:46

mama bear instincts maybe came on a little

18:48

too strong. It is a natural thing

18:50

to say. Everyone knows that boys

18:52

can get a little crazy, and I'm

18:54

sure your household can be quite loud

18:57

and hectic sometimes. It's just casual conversation.

18:59

A joke. I understand

19:01

how you might feel a little bit

19:03

slighted by it and how you could

19:05

see it the way you did, but

19:07

you gotta understand that's not how anyone

19:09

means it. I'm sure that your boys

19:11

are great boys, and you seem perfectly

19:13

happy with them. That's all that matters. When

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background to finish listening to all the stories, or

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if you want to listen to some vibey music

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in the background, check out Easy Mode. If you

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like Am I the Jerk? Give Am I the

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Genius a shot. Everything linked in the description.