Asexuality and kink?! Isn’t that a contradiction?! Nope! Asexual BDSM is quite common. In fact, a significant segment of the kink subculture is on the ‘ace’ spectrum.  On ep 195, Evie Lupine joins to talk about it. A few of the things we discuss: Asexuality vs. Responsive Desire & how to tell the difference How someone can be asexual but still have & enjoy sex Why the kink community appeals to many aces What IS sex? Do we have the definition all wrong? The relationship between sex & BDSM + why some allosexuals prefer “platonic kink” How asexuality factors into the “Kink at Pride” discourse & more Are there asexual folks in your community or life that you’d like to understand better? Maybe you’ve considered this identity for yourself? Does it blow your mind that many ace identified people practice kink & enjoy sex? We cover a lot in this episode that will help you answer those questions! Evie Lupine Bio Evie Lupine is an asexual kink educator and YouTuber that first began her journey into the lifestyle about 7 years ago. In that time, she's been a 24/7 collared submissive, a petplayer, a bondage freak, and an occasional sadist. Her passion for learning as well as her diverse interests within kink naturally led her in the direction of helping others with their own discovery processes. She focuses on supporting folks developing happier, healthier relationships while separating the fantasy from the reality of doing BDSM everyday. Episode 195 Helpful Links & Resources Evie Lupine YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/EvieLupine Evie Lupine Twitter https://twitter.com/EvieLupine Evie Lupine Patreon https://www.patreon.com/EvieLupine AVEN Forum (Asexual Visibility & Education Network) https://www.asexuality.org/en/ Emily Nagoski Come As You Are (book) https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Come-As-You-Are-Revised-and-Updated/Emily-Nagoski/9781982165314 Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb com https://zippermagazine.com/ Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/ Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292 Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy Episode 195 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links *by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win! 20% off an at-home lab test at http://everlywell.com/sunny For 40% off unlimited access to Calm’s entire library go to http://CALM.COM/Sunny Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric& http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts 10% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear) 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetbwith code SUNNY 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactoryand the code SUNNY at checkout 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15with code SUNNY _______________________________________________________________ –Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to [email protected] –To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) –Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com –Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter Sunny & Ken, xo!