Fact: The BDSM world has a race problem. Queer, Black, kink educator, Phrygian Monk joins us to talk about it. This conversation stemmed from one of their no-nuance November observations: “Kinktok is heavily segregated and pretty racist – like 1950s level.”  They bring all the nuance and then some.  We discuss why it’s essential for everyone to consider how different forms of play relate to POC kinksters, why we should take a pause before condemning all forms of race play, why many kinksters of color never feel fully safe playing with white folks, what those in the community can do to foster genuine inclusivity and be actively anti-racist, and more.

Guest Bio – Phrygian Monk

Phrygian Monk (They/Them) is a BDSM presenter and educator who is bringing diversity and a new outlook to kink education. With a 5-plus year background engaging in the kink and leather communities, Monk has decided to take the education that they have received, and pass that on to their fellow peers. With classes in subjects such as vetting, negotiation, and various forms of play, Monk hopes to connect with fellow younger kinksters and provide a space for peer learning and education. Also an activist in the kinky world, Monk uses their experiences and knowledge as a black queer individual to share about and fight for a more inclusive and safer community for all people. Having hosted and participated in various talks, discussion groups, and panels on the subject of race, racism, and how they impact the kink community, Monk hopes to see change, growth, and diversity flourish in local communities and individuals as they introspect, grow, and become active participants in fighting for a community that is for everyone.

Episode 197 Helpful Links & Resources

• Phrygian Monk TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@phrygian_monk
• No Nut November https://zippermagazine.com/whats-the-fuss-about-no-nut-november/ 
• Race & Kink Series with Marla Renee Stewart & Luna Matatas https://www.eventbrite.com/e/race-kink-a-discussion-series-tickets-244730093297
• Loladex, Dirty Lola’s list of marginalized pleasure educators https://twitter.com/i/lists/1028473897627385856
• Challenge at the Intersection of Race and Kink: Racial Discrimination, Fetishization, and Inclusivity Within the BDSM (Bondage‑Discipline, Dominance‑Submission, and Sadism‑Masochism) Community https://www.dropbox.com/s/hj0yzhzcv401eue/Erickson%2C%20Slayton%2C%20Petersen%2C%20Hyams%2C%20Howard%2C%20Sharp%2C%20%26%20Sagarin%20%282022%29%20Challenge%20at%20the%20Intersection%20of%20Race%20and%20Kink.pdf?dl=0
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy 
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
• Zipper Magazine website https://zippermagazine.com/
• Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/
• Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom
• Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292
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• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy

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