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Welcome to and then
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it's a podcast where we look at
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what comes after the struggle, a
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tough season, or even just a
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setback. My name is Susie
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Chafin. And I'm absolutely
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passionate about helping people
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transform from struggle, and
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surviving, to absolutely
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thriving.
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If you are anything like me in
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the beginning of the year, I
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take inventory. Do you do that?
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I look back. And I think, you
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know, what? Am I really proud of
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what what did I do well, this
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last year, and then I look at
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what did I miss the mark on?
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What do I want to change? It's a
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reset of sorts, I wouldn't
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really call it a resolution. But
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it's a time to determine, you
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know, what am I on track for?
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What do I want to leave as my
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legacy in this world. And what I found is the number
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one detriment to achieving the
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things that I feel like I'm
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supposed to do, or God put me on
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this planet to do, or
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distractions. And so it's we're
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going to talk about today.
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distractions, in my opinion, are
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the number one Joy killer,
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Mission robber, purpose stealer
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we can encounter. I also believe it's one of the
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enemy's greatest tools, he
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doesn't really have to work that
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hard to throw big sin or
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temptation in our way, when we
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can grow so busy doing
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unnecessary tasks, busy tasks,
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even tasks that seems seemingly
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good that we miss our greater
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purpose, that unique gift that
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God has given you to give to the
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world.
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I want to share a story to kind
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of illustrate the power of
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distraction. One time when our
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kids were very small, the twins
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were nine months old, we had an
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almost six year old and a four
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year old and we thought it would
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be really great to drive to
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Colorado Springs. We loaded up
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our suburban and the entire
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drive, the 12 hour drive from
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Dallas to Colorado Springs. The
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twins cried and cried and cried.
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Sometimes simultaneously,
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sometimes individually. But
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there was not even a probably a
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30 minute period and that whole
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12 hour track or somebody wasn't
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screaming and it was exhausting.
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And we made the very wise
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decision to when we made the
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return trip that like we are
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never living that ever, ever
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again. So we were like we're
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going to change up the strategy.
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And we're going to drive through
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the night my husband and I were
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going to take turns that way all
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of the kiddos could be sleeping,
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and we could have a peaceful
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drive home. Well, the strategy worked great.
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And it came time for my my turn
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to be driving and it was the it
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was before you had Google Maps
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or Apple Maps or navigation on
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your car. I got all you had was
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your printed out Mapquest
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directions. I know that makes me
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a dinosaur, but that's what we
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had. And as we were approaching
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Amarillo, there was one
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particular area that I needed to
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be very aware of as to where to
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stay on the road and exit and
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not turn or something like that. And my
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husband grilled me on it. Okay,
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when we get here, you have to do
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this and this and this and this
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and I'm like, okay, got it. It's
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like no, do you understand,
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like, you can't do this or this.
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I can't remember what it was.
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And you know, because I'm
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getting annoyed now because I'm
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like, I got it man. Like, I'm
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not an idiot. I know how to
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drive. Like I can do this. So he
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trusts me to that. And we get
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through Amarillo. I do what I'm
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supposed to do. And I keep
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driving. About two hours later, my
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husband wakes up and he's
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watching the signs go by, you
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know, one after the other show.
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And he's like, Suze, where are
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we? And I'm like we're on the
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Whatever road we were supposed
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to be on. And I set it very
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convincingly. I was convinced we
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were on the right road.
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And my husband's like, looks
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he's like No, no, that's not
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where we are, we have to stop,
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we have to turn around, we're in
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the wrong place. And, much to my dismay, we were
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in the wrong place. Somehow, I
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had gotten distracted, I had
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done something that I thought
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was right. But we were
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completely lost. And I didn't
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even know it. And that mistake
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cost us not only the two hours
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going in one direction, but
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another two hours just to get
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back to Amarillo to go to get
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back in the right spot, a four
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hour waste of blissful sleep.
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And it's a it's a story just to
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illustrate that when you get
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distracted, there's a cost. And when you get
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distracted, you don't even
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always know it, you feel like
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I'm in the right place. I'm
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doing what I'm supposed to be
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doing. This is good. I'm on the
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right track. And so today, I want to really
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dive into this because you could
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be distracted right now, you
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could be on the wrong track. And
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there could be a really great
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cost that's more than just a
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four hour loss of blissful
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sleeping children. It could be,
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it could be so much more, it
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could be the mark that you were
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supposed to make on this world. So I want to dig into first,
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what are the ways that we can
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become distracted? We have become so good at
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numbing our minds. Let's think
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about some of the ways we do
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that. binge watching Netflix, or
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Amazon Prime, or Disney plus, or
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Hulu or whatever it is that you
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subscribe to. We can we can get
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sucked into it for days,
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weekends, a whole weekend can be
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gone from watching a TV series.
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Or how about when we wake up in
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the morning and we reach over to
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our phone and the day starts
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with Reddit, tick tock
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Instagram, Facebook, whatever.
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And it continues that way
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throughout the day whenever we
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have a free moment. Lunch Break
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time in the carpool line that we
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go to what is nine, Monday night
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mind numbing. And we looked at
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those forms of distraction.
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Video games I know for kids in
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my children's generation that
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these 20 year olds, these
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teenagers, video games are huge,
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and they take such such blocks
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of time.
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But if you're an oldie like me,
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it can even be things like
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Wordle I admit it. I love
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Wordle.
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And in the moment, it's like
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yeah, everybody just needs some
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downtime, you just need some
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time to not think which is true.
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We do need to reset. But when the downtime turns into
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hours, weeks, months in a given
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year, what has been the cost?
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What else could have been
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learned? Done? Loved, given,
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shared, instead of just been mindlessly
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consumed?
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Of course, there's other distractions to fear. Yeah. Well, what if I,
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what if I do actually do what
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God has really written on my
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heart that I feel like I'm
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supposed to do and I try it, and
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I fail?
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Well, guess what, you probably
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aren't going to fail. That's
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totally normal. And you're
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probably going to succeed some
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failure just means you learned
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something, it just means you're
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putting yourself out there.
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failures, not to be feared
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failures, just part of the growth. To comfortable, who sometimes we
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are just so comfortable exactly
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where we are. And I could tell
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you in this past year and 2022,
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that was something I really
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wrestled with. I found myself in
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a role professionally. That was
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not utilizing my gifts, even
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though it was comfortable. And I
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could do it.
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It was not something I was made
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to do. And I found myself
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saying, I just God put me on the earth to do
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forth in this. This I have
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important work to do. And even
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though I was making a nice
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income, even though it was
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work that I could do, it wasn't what I needed to do.
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And I had to quit. It's a little
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scary. Is very liberating.
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And now it's given me the time
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and energy and excitement to
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really pursue the things that I
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do believe God has put
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is written in my heart for me to
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do. And to accomplish
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presentments all band that can
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be a big distraction. It's
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really easy to sit in that miry
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pit of resentment. Sometimes we
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love just kind of rolling
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around. And that resentment and
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rage that we don't want to get
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out, it's too too comfortable.
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Maybe it's resenting that
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something that was stolen from
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you in childhood or something
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that was really wrong to you.
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And it's never quite healed. And
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you just can't seem to move
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forward. Or maybe a relationship that
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ended that you didn't want it to
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end. You're just kind of stuck
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there, unable to move on.
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Or unforgiveness for something
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that was done to you, that
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wounded you and wronged you
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deeply. And instead of being
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able to move forward with
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healing, you remain stuck in a
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pattern of victimhood. And I'm not saying wounds
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shouldn't be recognized. tended
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to cared for, counseled,
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nurtured, healed.
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But God does not want you to
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stay in that miry pit. He wants
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you to come out and have a
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victorious life. One that's full
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of hope, and meaning and lasting
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legacy.
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Busyness, that can be a real
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distraction, right? We get so
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involved in so many worthy,
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great things that we have no
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margin for what's really
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important. And I can definitely
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attest to have being a busyness
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person, the person who said yes
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to being on the silent auction
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fundraising committee, driving
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countless carpools, booster
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clubs PTAs, serving on the
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boards. It feels great, like, wow, I'm
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doing things that are important.
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They're all good things. But do
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we really need to be in all of
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them? Do we have to say yes to
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everything?
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Do we have margin left in life
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for the things that could be
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even more important? Or what about the life that we
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the lie that we tell ourselves?
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That happiness will come when
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fill in the blank? I don't know
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about you. But here's few of the
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ones that I've been guilty of
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telling myself. Oh, you know,
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when when the baby's sleep
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through the night? Oh, yes,
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that's, that's when things will
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be better. When we have a little
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extra in the bank account,
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when we can finally take that
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nice vacation. When we can have
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date night, wouldn't it be great
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just to have three hours of
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adult conversation. When we can't get a bigger
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house, oh, just more room, we
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just need more room to spread
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out. And when we get the kids
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out of college, when we get that
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when you are when I get that
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promotion, oh, then everything
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will be better. It'll be just
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Just what we wanted. When When,
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when, when when Joy robbers,
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those are Joy robbers. Those
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things may or may not happen.
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But living thinking that any one
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of those things is going to be
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what fulfills you or brings you
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happiness or makes the
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difference, then you are robbing
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yourself of the absolute
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wonderful blessing you are in today. You know what if you do get that
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bigger house, you get the bigger
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house and then all of a sudden,
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you could feel in bondage to it.
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The taxes, the maintenance, the
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cleaning, the sheer keeping up
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of the house, something that was
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supposed to be a blessing is now
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feels like a curse. Or you get
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the promotion. And it comes with
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debilitating stress and travel.
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And while you may still be with
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your family and may be present
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with them, you're not present
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because you're thinking and
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stressed out about work.
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Eliminate the win, eliminate the
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Win win when we do this when
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this happens when that happens.
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Look for the now. Where am I
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now? Look for the amazing,
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wonderful things you have now.
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The last distraction to be aware
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of is the one of good
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intentions. It's, and it's a dangerous one.
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Because we actually believe that
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we are going to do whatever it
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is that we intend to do.
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You know what, tomorrow off tomorrow, I'm going to start writing that book.
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Tomorrow, I'm gonna wake up in
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the morning, I'm going to start
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exercising. Yeah, I've always
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wanted to serve in prison
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ministries, I'm gonna look into
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that tomorrow.
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And we trick ourselves into
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thinking that because we want
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to, and because we believe that
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we will tomorrow, we actually
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believe that we will, that tomorrow comes. And most
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times, very often. And again, we
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get distracted with the with the
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social media, scrolling, the
15:46
Netflix, the whatever, we pin it
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again for the future. We don't
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make the call to the loved one.
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We don't begin the book. We
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don't begin the ministry, we
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don't begin the podcast,
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whatever it is, because you know
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what we have tomorrow.
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There is a cost. Remember, I
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talked about the drive that that
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we lost four hours of a blissful
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car full of sleeping kids, that
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was a real cost? What is the cost of being
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distracted right now costing
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you? What dreams? Have you given up
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on? What relationships are no longer
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functioning?
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What are the passions? That you
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know God put in your heart? He
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knows you know, that he put this
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dream, this desire this love of
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something in your heart, and you
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have not yet actualized on it?
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What is it that you want? Do you
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want to write a book? Do you
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want to volunteer? Do you want
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to spend time with your parents?
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What is the great passion that
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God has grafted on your heart,
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that you have the unique ability
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and desire and passion to give.
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So as we wrap up, I want to
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challenge you limit your screen
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time how device down policy should come
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through the door, like maybe you
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have a box, throw it in there.
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Maybe you only look at it so
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many hours a day, maybe you
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decide I'm only going to look at
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email. So this time or at this
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time per day,
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audit yourself weekly, daily.
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How are you doing? Are you
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getting, you know, kind of
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suckered back into the
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distraction world? Are you
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finding that you're being more
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intentional? The last thing I would say is
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bring others in
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business coaching, performance
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coaching of therapy, friends,
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colleagues, bring these people
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into your life who can help you
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be more on purpose?
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Now, don't go to the people who
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are more distracted Did you
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don't go to the people who
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played more video games than you
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or who watch more Netflix than
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you that will do nothing except
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make you feel like you're not as
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distracted as they are. You need
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to be around people who are
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living on purpose and creating
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the life they want. And helping
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you be accountable to creating
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the life you want. Share from
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them learn from them. What do
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they do to stay on track and
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live on purpose?
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Enclosing Life is short. It is
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so short.
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No one is promised tomorrow. And
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you have this one great life and
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you have a legacy to live and to
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give. You have gifts to share.
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You were created to do something
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unique and purposeful.
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Don't get distracted.
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19:07
helpful, it would mean the
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