Automatic Negative Thoughts do not have to control your life or the way you think about yourself. Don't believe everything you think.  

Staying positive in a negative situation isn't an act and doesn't always happen automatically. The secret to the mind is that there is no secret. The reality of life is in your control through changing the mindset while you learn to understand it.

The remote control is in your hands but what if you didn't know how to use it? Is there a manual, could you YouTube how to use it? Sure, but every person will give you a very different answer on how to use and learn the remote. They may indeed answer your question in the end, but the explanation is for you to understand and then take action.

The remote is in your hands. Unless the person is in your house, there is no way they can change the channel without the remote. YOU are the remote, you have the manual but it's your responsibly to aim,click, and change the channel. 

Be easy on yourself. Be a Boss. Your mind is available.