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Welcome to the Stepping Into Meaningful Relationships

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podcast . I'm your host , carissa

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Stepp . I'm a relationship and

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human design coach , and this podcast

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is designed to help you create a stronger

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connection to yourself so you can

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transform the relationships around you

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, whether that be with your partner , a

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friend , a parent , a child or

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your business . We'll be looking at relationships

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through the lens of human design , and

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my guests and I will bring you the tools

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, tips and tricks to create deeply meaningful

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connections with others . But first

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, let's start with you . The

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most important relationship you have is the one with

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yourself . Thank you for tuning in

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. Now let's get to today's episode . Hey

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, hey , everyone . Welcome back to another

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episode of Stepping Into Meaningful Relationships

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. I'm your host , carissa Stepp , and

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this is the podcast for you if you are looking

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to improve your most important

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relationship , which is the relationship

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with yourself , so that you

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can more meaningfully and intimately

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connect with others around you . I

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am going to be sharing with you today

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some intuitive guidance for you

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as you head into December

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of 2023 . And also

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I'm going to be sharing some messages about

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, perhaps , maybe , what you've experienced this

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year in 2023 and what

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you can expect as we head into a new

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year in 2024 . Now

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, for some of you that may not know

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, I am someone who identifies

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as an intuitive . Now , that's

1:40

not to say that I'm special

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or unique in any way , because I am

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not special or unique in any way

1:46

. I believe we are all

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naturally intuitive and

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the only difference is that some of us

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have had a little bit more practice or

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have learned how to access our intuition

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and the various ways in which it speaks to us

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. For me personally , I

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have some mediumship skills

2:04

right , which means that I'm able to connect

2:06

with people who have passed . I experienced

2:08

my intuition through all different senses

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. So I hear things

2:13

. Sometimes I see things . And

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when I say I see things , it's not that I see them

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as if they were right in front of me , like if

2:20

you were standing before me right now in person

2:22

. I mean it's in

2:24

my mind's eye , right . It's

2:27

like on the movie screen of the

2:29

inside of my mind where I see things

2:31

. I will sometimes get certain

2:34

smells or scents . Other

2:36

times I might taste things

2:38

in my mouth . So it's interesting sometimes

2:40

if I'm doing a mediumship reading and

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I have someone who has passed , who

2:45

used to be , say

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, someone who really loved potato

2:51

chips or something like really salty , I'll

2:53

get that taste in my mouth like popcorn

2:56

or something like that , and so that would be a

2:58

way in which sometimes , people who have passed

3:00

will use as a

3:02

way to identify who they are , so that the person

3:04

that I'm reading for makes the connection

3:07

that oh yes , that's my uncle , charlie

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, or something like that . I also

3:11

feel things , I get sensations in

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my body , so I might

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get chills or I might actually

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experience some sort of pressure

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or something that's uncomfortable within my body

3:22

that will alert me to let me know that

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either I'm on track or there's something

3:26

off , or perhaps someone

3:29

that I'm reading for might be experiencing

3:31

, maybe something that they're struggling with

3:33

. If they're struggling to use

3:35

their voice right , or feeling like they

3:39

can't speak their truth for some reason , I

3:41

might feel like someone's like literally strangling

3:43

me , because obviously

3:46

, if someone's strangling you , they are cutting

3:48

off your circulation right , they're

3:50

cutting off your airways , and you're unable to then

3:53

scream or speak or cry

3:55

or anything . So , anyway , so those

3:57

are just some of the ways in which my

4:00

intuition speaks to me , and

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it's interesting because although I'm going to

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get into the intuitive messages in a second

4:07

, the reason

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why I want to say we're all intuitive

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, we just may not always know how to access

4:14

our intuition or how our intuition speaks to us

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, is because I remember having two

4:18

very distinct experiences

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. One is a child , one

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in my early 20s that

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freaked me out because

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I had no idea that

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I had these capabilities . So

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the first example is I was about

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I think I was like eight or nine years old

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, so like in third or fourth grade

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my grandfather had passed

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away and he was the first

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person that was close to me

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that passed away . Now

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, we didn't have a

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super close relationship because

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I was actually a lot closer to my mother's

4:55

parents than I were to my dad's

4:57

parents , and this was my dad's dad that

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had passed away . But

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I remember being in my childhood home and

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he had just passed and I

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was in the kitchen and I happened to

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peek out of the kitchen and look down the hallway

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, which , if I looked down the hallway , I'd

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first see our foyer . I

5:15

might be able to see a little bit of our like formal living

5:17

room . I might be able to see a little bit into like the family

5:19

room and then the hallway to my parents'

5:21

bedroom . And I

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remember distinctly seeing him

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standing in the doorway

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of the hallway to my parents'

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bedroom and I

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freaked out . I

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was like I never want to see that again . Please don't do

5:37

that . That's really scary . I don't

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want to see you . I'm glad you're okay

5:42

, but like I'm done , and

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I believe that it was at that point

5:46

that I literally shut down my ability

5:48

whether it was full site or

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it was just more of like seeing it in my mind's

5:53

eye because I had a very

5:55

similar experience at the transcend

5:57

retreat , where the house we

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were in was haunted and I saw a woman kind

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of walk by and again , like I didn't necessarily

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see her physically with my eyes , but I saw

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her image flash before my

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inner mind and when

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I was describing her to somebody else that was at

6:13

the retreat , she also saw

6:15

the same exact thing . So we were kind of like throwing

6:17

out details at the same time and I was like yes , and

6:19

she was like yes every time we were going back and forth

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on some like descriptive , adjective

6:23

or defining characteristic

6:26

of this woman that we were seeing . So

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anyway , that was

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the first experience that I had

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, and the second

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experience that I had was I

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actually worked downtown

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in Manhattan and I happened

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to be working on the day of September 11th , right

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, so I literally worked

6:46

at the very tip of Manhattan in a building

6:48

called One New York Plaza . I

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was working for a firm called Goldman

6:53

Sachs it is an international

6:56

investment bank , an investment firm

6:58

and I

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was traveling

7:03

on the subway once the

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subways had reopened . This was probably like I

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want to say . It was like three weeks , maybe a

7:11

little under a month , right after 9-11

7:13

. And maybe I'll share my story

7:15

about what I experienced that day if anyone's interested

7:18

in hearing it on another episode . But

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I remember being on the subway and there was this

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couple that was sitting and

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I happened to be standing holding onto

7:28

the railing across from them , but

7:30

I happened to see them in the reflection . You know , as we're

7:33

going through the tunnel , you

7:35

can see , you know , through the reflection

7:37

on the glass , the people that are kind of behind you . So

7:40

, for whatever reason , I decided to kind of turn around

7:42

and look at them and I

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heard this voice in my head and

7:47

felt this presence and , again , like I could

7:49

kind of make out the features of who

7:51

this person was . It was talking , but it

7:53

was really weird to me and I was very

7:55

uncomfortable with it , but

7:57

it was this younger gentleman

7:59

who was older than me , but was quite young

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I think he was like in his late 20s who

8:04

said to me please tell them that I'm

8:06

okay , please tell them that

8:08

I wasn't in pain . And

8:11

my whole body got chills

8:13

. And I remember thinking like , oh

8:15

my God , like I need

8:17

to say something . I need to tell them . Because they looked so

8:19

distraught sitting

8:22

on the subway and it had seemed to me that they had

8:24

just been down to that part

8:26

of the city like downtown Manhattan

8:28

, where I was coming from right . We were all heading uptown

8:31

because I was going to Penn Station to get my train

8:33

out to Long Island at the time where I was living , and

8:36

I didn't

8:38

. But I was like I felt this , like

8:40

anxiety and this pressure , like no , you need to tell

8:42

them . You need to tell them , they need to know . But

8:45

I was so afraid that they were

8:47

going to look at me like I was absolutely crazy

8:49

that I decided not

8:52

to say anything and I felt really

8:54

bad after and it was one of those things where eventually

8:57

, I had to let it go and make peace with it . But

8:59

that was the second time that I had an experience

9:02

like that . Now

9:04

, fast forward into my early 40s

9:06

, I had been

9:09

experiencing this big

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sense of loss . I had a dear

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friend of mine who was also

9:16

in her very , very early 40s , who

9:18

passed away from metastatic breast

9:20

cancer , leaving behind two very

9:22

small young children , and

9:25

it sent me into this dizzying

9:28

journey , I would say , of

9:30

self discovery , because it was almost like , okay

9:33

, she lived such

9:35

a full and meaningful life

9:37

, and witnessing

9:40

all the people that came together

9:42

during the time while she was sick and then

9:44

even in the funeral home

9:46

at her wake , seeing all of these people

9:48

who loved her dearly and had all of these

9:50

amazing memories of her

9:52

and with her , made

9:54

me realize , like , wait a second . Like what am I doing

9:56

with my life ? Right ? Like what

9:58

? Who would be there for me ? Like

10:00

, have I established those types of connections

10:03

with people ? And am I living life

10:05

to the fullest ? And am I happy

10:07

? Like , if I were to die tomorrow , would I

10:09

be happy ? Would I be okay ? Is

10:11

this all there is ? And

10:14

it really kind of set me down this rabbit hole

10:16

of asking a thousand and

10:18

one questions . I

10:20

realized at the time that I was not happy . I was deeply

10:23

unhappy , but I couldn't understand

10:25

why , and

10:27

so I had in my

10:29

search for answers . A

10:32

month or two later , I had booked a reading

10:34

with an intuitive , and

10:38

it was the first time I had ever really done

10:40

a one-on-one reading

10:42

with somebody who was supposedly psychic

10:45

, and she was someone that I had heard , actually

10:47

, on a podcast . The host of that

10:49

podcast was someone that I held

10:52

in high esteem , so I figured , okay , why not

10:54

give this a shot ? So I had this reading

10:56

with this woman and

10:58

, first of all , blew my mind . She was able

11:01

to articulate what I was experiencing

11:03

, what had been happening in my life , why

11:05

I was so unhappy , and

11:08

even started to outline some

11:10

of the decisions and choices that I needed to

11:12

make in order to turn

11:14

things around or to shift and change my life

11:16

. At the

11:18

end of the reading , she said two things to me . The

11:21

first thing she said was there's

11:23

this thing called human design . I

11:26

have no idea what it's all about . I

11:28

literally only heard about it very recently

11:30

, but your guides are

11:32

very insistent that I share

11:34

this with you because this is a big

11:36

part of your next part of your journey . And

11:39

then she said and

11:41

there's something else . You are

11:43

also very intuitive

11:45

and your guides really want

11:47

you to learn how to access

11:49

your intuition , to trust it

11:52

, because they have been sending you messages

11:54

and they

11:57

want you to know that those messages

11:59

are coming from them and you need to trust yourself

12:01

about what is coming through and

12:03

you need to learn how to use your gifts

12:05

. So , of

12:08

course , I jumped off that call . The first thing I

12:10

did was Google human design . I

12:13

kind of jumped down that rabbit hole first and

12:15

then , a month or two later , actually

12:17

through a human design podcast , I

12:19

got in touch with somebody who was

12:22

beginning to offer classes on intuition

12:24

, and so within that

12:26

year of that phone call , I

12:29

became

12:31

certified as a human , a quantum human design

12:33

specialist , and

12:35

I learned how to access my intuitive gifts . Those

12:39

two things have been so

12:41

impactful for my

12:43

life and for

12:45

the healing and the journey that I have

12:47

been on since then . So

12:49

something that I have been

12:51

wanting to do is to bring

12:54

back more of my intuitive

12:56

gifts into my business , into

12:58

things that I'm doing and

13:00

into this podcast , which I haven't

13:02

done so much of . If

13:05

you're on my email list , last

13:07

week you would have received an email with

13:09

my intuitive guidance to help you

13:11

manage some of the things that might have been

13:14

coming up for you over these next couple

13:16

of weeks , as we are kind of heading into this holiday season

13:18

, and so I

13:20

decided like you know what , it might be actually kind of

13:22

cool to do an episode on

13:24

talking about

13:26

, potentially , the journey

13:28

that you may have been throughout this

13:30

year in 2023 , and

13:32

then where we're headed

13:35

in 2024 . And

13:37

then I'm also going to give you more specific

13:39

messages around the themes

13:41

and the energies of December

13:44

, specifically , and

13:46

I feel like this is good timing because this episode will

13:48

come out on November 28th

13:50

, so just before we're heading into December . So

13:53

I'm hoping that this is helpful for you , and

13:56

if this is something that you guys enjoy

13:58

and you like listening to , then please

14:00

let me know . As always , drop

14:02

me some feedback and maybe

14:04

we'll make this like a regular thing . I don't know . So

14:07

, anyway , okay , let's talk a little

14:09

bit about what came through , about the

14:12

journey that maybe you have been on this

14:14

year in 2023 . It

14:17

feels like perhaps maybe you started at the beginning of this year where

14:19

you felt a little bit of this dynamic

14:22

of you against them

14:24

, right , whoever them is right

14:26

. It was just you against everybody

14:29

else that these other people in

14:31

your life maybe didn't understand

14:33

you and who you were , and

14:35

it's been a journey that you've been on throughout this

14:37

year to move from maybe

14:39

more of this defended

14:42

position , right , or a victim

14:44

mindset of feeling

14:47

like , oh , they're never going to understand me , they're

14:49

never going to get me , why do they always

14:51

judge me ? Or , you know , why do

14:53

they always make me feel like I have to

14:55

explain myself . And perhaps

14:58

you've sort of moved now , as

15:00

we're entering the end of the year , into this new

15:02

and this different place where you are more empowered

15:05

, right , where you're able to

15:07

walk beside

15:09

others with

15:12

compassion and with empathy and

15:14

with full awareness of your

15:16

patterns right , so

15:19

that you can understand better . You

15:21

know , maybe , where they were coming from at

15:23

the beginning of this year , right ? Or where they

15:25

are coming from now , with more awareness

15:27

, where you're able to see , like , okay

15:29

, I can understand , like , why they would feel that way

15:32

. Or I can see where maybe

15:34

they are acting out an old

15:36

pattern based on , you know

15:38

, some underlying belief that they

15:40

hold about themselves . That's

15:42

not true . And

15:45

you're able to look at the people in your life now

15:47

, as opposed to maybe in the beginning

15:49

of this year , and see , okay

15:52

, I know I can see

15:54

, like , their truest intentions

15:56

, I can see their

15:58

most authentic self beneath the

16:00

surface , but unfortunately

16:03

, it seems like perhaps they have been

16:05

acting from this place of their wounds

16:07

, right when they don't feel safe , and

16:10

they've only been able

16:12

to attack me or make me feel

16:15

like I'm being . I feel like I was being attacked

16:17

because I was in that place before , where

16:19

I didn't really understand my

16:21

past patterns right , where

16:24

maybe you didn't understand , you

16:26

know what your limiting beliefs were

16:28

about yourself , and so , as

16:30

a result , perhaps you started the beginning

16:32

of the year with a little bit more tension in some of your relationships

16:35

, and so maybe there was this idea

16:37

that , like you felt like you had to always be

16:39

on defense , to defend what

16:42

you thought , how you felt , where you were

16:44

coming from , all of these things

16:46

. And now it's like you've

16:48

almost come full circle , where

16:51

now , because you have done

16:53

so much work on yourself , because

16:55

you are no longer the

16:57

victim , right You've

16:59

moved into this empowerment phase

17:02

where I see how they're

17:04

now behaving because I was there before

17:07

right , meaning that now

17:09

they're the ones being defensive and

17:12

you can look at them with compassion and say , listen

17:14

, like I'm not trying to offend

17:17

you , I am not trying

17:19

to trigger you , but I can understand

17:21

why . Perhaps maybe you feel like

17:24

, let's say you're not important

17:26

and , as a result of not feeling

17:28

important , you feel like

17:30

what I'm saying or what I'm doing

17:32

is making you feel more

17:34

of that unimportance

17:37

. Right , if that makes sense . I'm sort of talking

17:40

in very vague examples , so

17:42

I'm sorry if you're losing me here , but basically

17:45

what it is , it's like because you've only recently

17:47

been able to open your eyes

17:49

. Over this last year , right During

17:51

this journey that you've been on , where you've

17:54

disrupted patterns , where you've

17:56

learned to self accept , where

17:58

perhaps maybe you've freely come

18:00

to love all the parts of yourself

18:03

, despite your wounds and

18:05

despite the parts that maybe in the past

18:07

you were masking away out of shame

18:09

for so long , and

18:11

you were finally able to feel safe enough

18:13

to show the world your true

18:16

, authentic self , that

18:19

you're able to see that there are like a few steps maybe

18:21

behind in their journey , and that's okay because we're

18:23

all on different points along the

18:25

same path . So it's possible

18:28

that you felt like you had to justify

18:30

your position

18:32

, justify why

18:35

you are the way that you are or who you

18:37

are , or maybe you had to justify what you believed

18:39

, what you had experienced , but

18:41

somewhere along the line you

18:44

learned to surrender . Somewhere

18:46

along the line , this year . Maybe

18:48

you have been able to

18:50

take enough of a pause

18:52

to listen to your inner

18:54

truth and

18:57

become grounded in this idea

18:59

that there

19:02

is something better

19:04

available , that there is a bigger

19:06

, more expansive possibility

19:09

, that maybe there is a

19:11

different life waiting for you

19:13

. And you

19:15

have had all of these experiences up until

19:17

this point that were necessary

19:20

for your growth so

19:22

that you could get to that next

19:24

chapter . And

19:27

maybe throughout the year you learned how

19:30

to become curious . In that surrender

19:32

sometimes comes peace and

19:35

there can be a little bit of feeling

19:37

like you're sitting in a void , but

19:40

it's when we're in the void where we begin

19:43

to get curious and

19:46

we begin to eventually set

19:50

out on a journey of discovery , a

19:53

journey of understanding . And

19:57

it was within that journey , perhaps , that

20:01

you learned to let go of

20:03

a scarcity mindset or

20:05

a lack mindset or the idea that you were the

20:08

victim . And maybe

20:10

you realized that that abundance and

20:12

the life that you dreamed of , that felt so

20:14

elusive , is no

20:16

longer elusive , because

20:20

what you found is that you

20:22

were able to be grateful

20:24

for all of the

20:26

healing that you've done , all

20:29

of the deep inner work that you've done

20:32

. Maybe you've even

20:34

learned to be grateful for all of the experiences

20:36

that you've had , even if they've been crappy , and

20:42

so you learned to transmute that

20:45

victimhood consciousness

20:48

into one

20:50

of abundance , gratitude

20:53

, empowerment , where

20:56

you finally feel safe to

20:58

open your heart and

21:01

allow yourself to not just give

21:04

but receive , and

21:06

to give abundantly

21:08

, because you found

21:10

that you have all the real resources

21:12

that you need within

21:15

you . Perhaps

21:18

part of your journey in 2023 has been realizing

21:21

that you are the resource

21:23

and

21:26

that , as you self-accepted and

21:28

loved all the parts of you that perhaps

21:31

in the past you hit away out of shame and

21:34

as you shifted your mindset , you

21:37

began to feel more confident

21:40

, more calm

21:42

, more present , and

21:46

you're coming to a place where you're able to now

21:49

see others for

21:51

who they truly are , and

21:53

you will have built an awareness of

21:56

again when they have been

21:58

acting or when they are acting from their deep

22:00

wounds , and still

22:02

be able to accept them for

22:05

where they are at , knowing

22:08

that you're not better than them

22:10

, they're not better than you

22:12

, but

22:14

we're all on our own

22:16

path with our own timing , having

22:20

different experiences

22:22

, but

22:25

ultimately all getting to the same place

22:27

. And not that

22:29

there is a destination in

22:31

mind , but the point is that

22:34

, collectively , all of our

22:36

experiences that we are having are happening

22:38

concurrently at the same time

22:40

. So

22:43

, even though in this construct

22:46

of time that we have created as

22:48

humans , it

22:50

feels like maybe we are ahead of them

22:52

on our path and our growth

22:55

, that really time

22:57

doesn't really exist and so we are

22:59

all deeply connected , we

23:02

are all experiencing things collectively

23:05

at the same time , and

23:07

it feels like as a collective , we are moving

23:09

into a new world where

23:12

we are being asked to rely more

23:14

on our five senses rather

23:17

than just on our eyes

23:20

or our mouths

23:22

to communicate . We're

23:25

stepping into a

23:28

time where communication is going

23:30

to be more full-bodied

23:32

, full sensory

23:34

. Our emotions and our sensations are

23:37

going to be able to communicate so

23:39

much more than what words can intimate

23:42

. Words are inadequate

23:44

. So when we can move past

23:46

the fear and the doubts of

23:48

the mind and

23:51

instead feel and sense and

23:53

allow the information that comes through

23:56

our bodies , it's

23:58

going to change the way in which we relate

24:00

to one another . We're going to allow

24:02

in information through I'm

24:05

going to say all six senses , because we're going

24:07

to say that intuition is a sixth sense

24:09

. So when we allow ourselves

24:11

to take in information in all

24:13

of these different ways , we

24:17

can then become curious

24:19

rather than judgmental

24:21

, we could become open minded

24:23

and open-hearted instead of being

24:25

closed-minded and cold-hearted

24:27

, because we

24:30

are allowing in information right . When we allow

24:32

ourselves to receive , we are in a position of vulnerability

24:35

, and when we're vulnerable we

24:37

are more open . That doesn't

24:39

mean that we're weak , but if we can see

24:42

past the patterns , we

24:45

can see through the words where

24:47

even our emotions offer

24:49

us information to better understand first

24:52

ourselves and then each other

24:54

, because

24:56

right now our verbal expression

24:58

of those emotions and our

25:00

verbal expression in the way in which we communicate is

25:03

inadequate . Emotions

25:05

are so much more complex than

25:09

the words we use to describe them . The

25:12

words are trivial , they're one-dimensional

25:16

, they're flat . So

25:19

this shift will change how we see each

25:21

other , how we view ourselves and how we

25:23

relate to one another . And

25:26

when we step into our own self-leadership

25:28

by doing the work

25:30

to heal our unresolved

25:33

trauma , to heal our

25:36

deep inner wounds , we're

25:38

able to then connect in

25:40

a different way . And when we can

25:43

take in all of this information

25:45

and learn how to process

25:47

it and experience it

25:49

, life becomes so much more

25:52

fulfilling , it

25:55

becomes more enriching . This

25:57

way of being and living and thinking

25:59

and acting gives way to a

26:02

whole new way of experiencing life without

26:04

grudges , without that unhealed

26:07

trauma , without the pain , without the hurt

26:09

, and instead with more compassion

26:11

and more love and more empathy and more understanding

26:14

and more acceptance . So

26:17

perhaps some of this journey that I'm explaining

26:20

is not

26:23

exactly representative

26:25

of what you've experienced this year , and

26:27

if it's not , that's fine . Take what resonates

26:29

, leave what doesn't , but

26:32

just know that maybe you're in the middle of this

26:34

right now , and so maybe part of

26:36

this is what's going to unfold for you in 2024

26:39

. If we look at the way the world

26:41

is today , we

26:44

can see how much we have created from

26:47

our unresolved trauma and our childhood

26:49

wounds . And as

26:51

we work to recover from

26:55

our past trauma and heal our deep

26:57

inner wounds , the world that

26:59

we co-create is

27:01

going to be very different

27:03

. Listening to podcasts like

27:05

this , where you're trying to do

27:08

the inner work on yourself right

27:10

, reading books , taking

27:12

classes , reading articles

27:15

and doing the work

27:17

on yourself , is

27:20

going to have a big impact

27:22

on

27:24

the world we create

27:27

the life that we experience

27:29

and the way in

27:31

which we relate to others , and your

27:33

kids will thank you one day . So

27:36

in the month of December , you're gonna be asked

27:38

to continue to let go of some of these

27:40

things that you have been releasing , shedding

27:42

and letting go of over the last few weeks

27:44

. There's a reminder here

27:46

to do that in moderation , right

27:49

? So allow the shedding to happen , even

27:52

if it feels a little bit intense at times

27:54

, but allow yourself to still experience

27:56

and be present in the

27:59

joyful moments , right , the moments where you

28:01

do get to connect with people that maybe you don't

28:03

get to connect with on a daily basis . You

28:05

know , the holidays oftentimes bring together

28:08

friends and loved ones that don't see each

28:10

other that often . So , allowing

28:12

yourself the time to

28:15

shed and let go of the things that need to go , and

28:17

that might happen Kind

28:21

of in the background . It might even happen on a very

28:23

subtle level where you're not necessarily as aware

28:25

of it . Right , it's not going to feel like

28:27

you're necessarily gripping on

28:29

with , you know , a kung fu grip

28:31

onto these things that you need to let go of

28:34

, some of which might actually include some relationships

28:36

in your life . You might see that some of the people

28:38

that are no longer a good fit for you might

28:41

very slowly sort of slip

28:44

away , right , they might tend

28:46

to pull away naturally on their own , without

28:50

you having to go through some sort

28:52

of difficult say breakup

28:54

, right ? Or having to have a difficult

28:56

conversation to end that relationship . You

28:58

might find that the things that

29:00

are no longer serving you are quietly

29:03

slipping away right

29:05

or are releasing and detaching

29:07

themselves from you in some way , as

29:09

we're talking about like tying up loose ends here for

29:11

the year , and this also could

29:13

look like even shedding and letting go of things in

29:15

your physical space . This could look like a

29:17

clearing out of you know things

29:20

, maybe in your home or a specific

29:22

area of your home , so that you can

29:24

feel like you're ready to welcome in some new

29:26

energy , the new energy of the new

29:28

year . So this clearing

29:30

out , this letting go , this

29:33

releasing that is happening , just

29:35

know that , like some of this might even be just like old

29:37

stories and old mindsets that

29:39

need to just go and get released , and it's interesting

29:42

, because I'm recording this right around the full

29:44

moon which is all about releasing

29:46

and letting go of things that

29:48

are no longer serving you . So take

29:50

this as your opportunity if you listen to this close

29:52

to around the date that this is going to drop to

29:55

literally be intentional

29:57

about what it is you want to let

30:00

go of . And again , these endings don't

30:02

have to be dramatic in any way . Take

30:04

them in stride , you know , allow whatever

30:07

needs to go to go right . So

30:09

let it flow out , so

30:12

that whatever is ready to come in can

30:14

flow in very easily as well . You're

30:17

making room for new relationships

30:19

, for new thoughts , for new narratives

30:22

, for new experiences

30:24

, for new opportunities that

30:26

are aligned with who you are

30:28

now after all of the work

30:30

that you have done this year . Okay

30:33

, so stay grounded . Stay grounded , actually , in

30:35

your emotions . That was another big theme

30:38

that kind of came through , which is , you know , you've

30:40

gotten very good at learning how to feel your

30:42

emotions , allowing them to flow through you

30:44

, which is very important . So stay grounded

30:46

in that right . Listen to what's coming up , listen

30:49

to the emotions that want

30:51

to be shed and released , allowing

30:54

yourself to feel what comes up , almost

30:58

as a way of allowing your body

31:00

to let go of it . Right , that's the whole purpose . When

31:03

we hold on to our emotions , they stagnate

31:05

and they can cause things eventually

31:07

, like physical illness , they

31:10

can cause chronic pain , but

31:12

when we allow ourselves to feel them , then we're

31:14

able to let them go

31:16

and release them . So , if you think about

31:18

, even with a storm , right , when

31:20

there's a storm brewing and the clouds are

31:23

rolling in and the winds

31:25

are picking up . Eventually , at some point

31:27

, it's going to likely start to rain . And

31:29

what does the rain do ? The rain

31:32

allows everything

31:34

that has been unsettled by the wind

31:37

to settle back down and to

31:39

clear and to cleanse . Even

31:41

if things have gotten reorganized and shifted

31:43

around during the storm , the

31:45

rain comes in to clean it all

31:48

away , right , to clean it all up . And

31:50

it's the same thing with when we , for

31:52

example , allow ourselves to cry . It's

31:56

allowing us to release those

31:58

emotions that have been built up and

32:01

pent up right when the pressure builds and

32:03

builds and builds , and we don't know what else to do . And the only way our

32:05

body knows how to clear that is by crying

32:07

and releasing and cleansing with

32:10

that cry . So

32:12

allow yourself , if the tears come this month , allow

32:14

them to come Again . It

32:16

doesn't have to be fully dramatic , right ? This doesn't

32:18

have to be you laying on the bathroom

32:21

floor in the fetal position blessing

32:24

sad love songs from the 80s , okay

32:28

. But you know , if

32:30

you need a few minutes to release some tears

32:32

, then do it . Maybe

32:34

it's anger that needs to come through , and that's fine

32:36

too . It

32:40

feels like this storm that's coming

32:42

, that's clearing out , is more of an internal

32:44

thing than an external thing , and that's why I said like if

32:46

you're letting go of relationships or letting

32:48

go of certain people in your life , like that's not going to be very

32:51

dramatic , it's going to kind of happen in the background

32:53

. It feels like it's just sort of going to shift it

32:56

behind the scenes kind of right , like the nature

32:58

of the relationship is just going to naturally change

33:00

. And part of that might be because maybe

33:02

you're getting better at setting boundaries right

33:05

. So someone that you had in your inner circle you're

33:07

now placing boundaries and they don't have to be

33:09

boundaries that are spoken out loud

33:11

and verbalized to this other person

33:13

. It could just be the way in which you have these

33:15

internal boundaries now around what you're sharing

33:18

with this person , right , or how

33:20

close you're keeping them to the things that

33:22

are going on in your life by what you tell

33:24

them or what you bring them into or what

33:26

you have them involved in or what you invite them into

33:28

. So

33:30

this cleansing and clearing again you're

33:32

cleansing and clearing your vessel

33:34

, like your body , your mind's body

33:37

and your spirit , but again it could

33:39

also be your physical space to

33:41

make room for something new , to take root

33:43

for the new year , and this

33:45

is all going to be tempered by the love

33:47

and the joy of the holiday season . So

33:50

, as you're wiping the slate clean

33:52

to tell a different story , it's

33:55

allowing you this space and

33:57

the time to write your

34:00

next chapter . And

34:02

in that next chapter , as we get closer

34:04

to the end of the year , it feels

34:06

like you're going to have

34:08

to start making some conscious

34:11

choices to decide which path

34:13

you're going to go down . And this

34:15

clearing of space internally

34:17

, and maybe even externally , is

34:20

going to bring in new opportunities . But

34:24

you have to be able to release all the things that have been holding you

34:26

back so

34:29

that you can be clearheaded about

34:32

the choices that you're going to be making come

34:34

the new year . Right

34:36

, it's this question of are you

34:38

going to continue doing more of the same and

34:40

staying in your comfort zone , or

34:43

are you going to courageously move

34:45

in a new direction ? And

34:48

, depending on what you've been clearing out , it's going to help

34:51

you determine which of

34:53

that it is for you , right

34:55

. You either will have cleared

34:58

out all you need in

35:01

order to feel safe where you are , so

35:03

you can stay where you are , or

35:06

you might determine that the things

35:08

that needed to be cleared out are not things

35:10

that you can control , and

35:12

so the best thing for you to do is

35:14

to walk away and forge a new

35:16

path forward . But

35:19

you can't make that decision until you let go

35:21

and bring to a close those

35:23

things that are commanding your attention over the

35:25

next couple of weeks . So just

35:27

a reminder to allow yourself

35:30

time to play and to have fun . A

35:33

part of this experience is going to be all about exploring

35:36

what you want more of in

35:38

your life and what you want

35:40

less of in your life , so

35:43

there may be some experimenting involved

35:46

to help you gain some clarity , and

35:49

that's it , so I hope that that

35:51

was helpful . If you

35:53

have questions or you want

35:55

more specific information relative

35:57

to your life and what you're going through right now

35:59

, feel free to reach out . You

36:02

can always book a session with me and

36:05

we can do a personalized

36:07

reading for you , or

36:09

we can do a coaching session . We

36:11

can do a human design reading . Just

36:14

let me know I'm here for you . I

36:16

hope that helps . I know that that was kind of a little

36:18

bit all over the place , but I hope that there were enough

36:21

messages in there that were clear for you

36:23

and that you have an amazing

36:25

week ahead . Until next week

36:27

, everyone be well , if you're hearing

36:30

this message , that means you've listened

36:32

all the way to the end , and for that

36:34

I am truly grateful . If

36:36

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36:38

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36:43

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36:45

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36:47

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36:50

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Stepping into Meaningful Relationships .