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Welcome to the Stepping Into Meaningful Relationships
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podcast . I'm your host , carissa
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Stepp . I'm a relationship and
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human design coach , and this podcast
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is designed to help you create a stronger
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connection to yourself so you can
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transform the relationships around you
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, whether that be with your partner , a friend , a
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parent , a child or your business . We'll
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be looking at relationships through the lens of human
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design , and my guests and I will
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bring you the tools , tips and tricks to
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create deeply meaningful connections with others
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. But first let's start
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with you . The most important relationship
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you have is the one with yourself . Thank
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you for tuning in . Now let's get to today's
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episode . Hey
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, hey , everyone , welcome back to
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Stepping Into Meaningful Relationships . I'm your host
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, carissa Stepp . In today's
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episode , we're going to be talking about some of
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the energetic themes that are coming
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through for January 2024
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. These are my intuitive insights
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. I pull tarot cards to
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feel into what to expect in
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January . What are some of the themes that we're going to
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be exploring throughout the month ? Of course
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, this is a collective reading for all
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of you and it is in relationship to
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your relationships . Right
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off the bat , what came through is that we've
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been spending a lot of time maybe focusing on our relationships
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and understanding the roles
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that we
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and our partners play . We've been in this phase
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where we've been trying to balance
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the power in the relationship and maybe in the
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past there has been a little bit of an imbalance of power
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. It feels like to me that we're being
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called to notice
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and become aware of all the ways in which we have
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been trying to create
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more flow in our relationships . We've been trying
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to open up the doors to communication
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. We've been trying to level
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the playing field in some kind of way . We're
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really being called in January to
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begin to start to let go of that
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maybe scarcity mindset , or where
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we're trying to control the outcome
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or we're trying to control the trajectory of
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the relationship that we are in . We're
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being asked to really just
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have some gratitude for
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how far we have come so far in
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our awareness of what's going on
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in the relationship . Then also
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where we're being called to maybe step
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beyond just doing what's best for
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the family in general , where
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we're really being asked to cultivate
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a stronger relationship with our partner that
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doesn't just involve having conversations around
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the kids or around what's needed for the home
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and all those kinds of things . We're being
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asked to get more vulnerable . We're
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being asked to really open our hearts
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and share from a deep sense
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of vulnerability . We're
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also being asked to sit
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in our discernment around who
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we are giving our time , our energy
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and our love . To Be careful
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of the wolf dressed in sheep's
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clothing . Be mindful of who
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are the people that are not actually safe
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for you to be connecting
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with in a vulnerable way . We're being
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asked to be mindful
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of the types of relationships
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that you are surrounding yourself with , because
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not all of them are healthy . This
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idea of being in your discernment around
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who you'll give your time and your energy and
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your love to is really really
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important for the month of January . Of
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course , we're heading into a new year . Perhaps
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January is usually a good time
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if you had not already
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done this in December of reevaluating
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maybe some of your relationships , which
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was one of the themes that we had back then then
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you're really being asked to do that this month
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. Look
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at your relationships , try to understand who
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the safe people are , who the unsafe
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people are , who are the people that you want to bring into
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again your inner circle and who you want to place
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maybe somewhere on the outside or to the middle circle
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. That's going to be really important . The
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other thing that came up and this is something
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that we talked about in December , but the other
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thing that came up is just being open
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to the possibility of where things are going
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in your relationships . You
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know it could be that , you know , maybe you
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are trying to discern whether or not to stay or
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go in a primary relationship , or
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who's gonna stay or go in
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your inner or outer circle , or middle
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circle , even the thing is is
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that you're being called to really
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be open to the possibilities
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of new people coming in . You're
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being called to be open to allowing
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the journey to unfold instead of trying to control
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the outcome . But the other thing that you're being
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asked to do is to extend an
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olive branch , and that olive
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branch could be towards the people that maybe
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have hurt you in the past . Maybe
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you're being asked to let
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go of some of the resentment that you're
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holding , and maybe this resentment is something
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that you're not even consciously aware
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of . But you're being asked to really
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sit in that stillness , sit in the quiet
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and try to understand
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what's actually happening
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and how you are feeling about it , because
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it feels like there is some element of this where maybe
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you've been ignoring how you
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deeply feel , and maybe there is
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a lot of anger , a repressed
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anger , or disappointment or hurt
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or frustration or resentment
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that you have been holding in some of your close
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relationships that maybe you have
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been too afraid to look at , and
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so maybe it's time to extend the olive
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branch and maybe some of that forgiveness
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actually is something that you
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need to offer to yourself . A
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lot of times we don't think about how the role that
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we play in our relationships can sometimes end
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up hurting us as well , and it's not
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necessarily that we're doing it purposefully
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, but when we
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whittle away at our own self-trust
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, when we whittle away our own self-worth
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by allowing others to treat us in ways that
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are not reflective of our value
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, of our worth , or where we allow others
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to influence
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us to back down on our boundaries that we have set
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to keep ourselves safe , it can really
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hinder the
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depth of connection that we have to
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ourselves . It can chip
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away at our self-trust right
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. We can unknowingly take that chisel
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from someone else's hand who has been
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trying to devalue , diminish , belittle
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or hurt us and start using
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it on ourselves . So be
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mindful of where maybe that might
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be playing out in some of your relationships . Give
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that chisel away , give it back
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right , or not even give it back but destroy it right
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and forgive yourself for that
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. If that is something that you have experienced , and
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forgive yourself for maybe where you
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didn't act in a way that you felt
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was really reflective of who you actually are , right
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. Where maybe you have been emotionally reactive
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in some way and you were becoming
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this person who felt very argumentative
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or who felt like you were always on the defensive
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. Forgive yourself for that , because that was , that
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was your nervous system
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or your subconscious
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trying to protect you from something
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. So pay attention to the red flags
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, right . Pay attention to who
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actually is supportive , who is safe
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, and where do you need to offer
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an olive branch ? Maybe
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you have been distanced from certain
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people in your life because someone
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else in your life drove a wedge
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between you and that other person , and
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maybe you need to forgive yourself for
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allowing that to happen . Or maybe
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you need to ask for forgiveness from the other person
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for how you showed up in that relationship , and that's okay
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. But that's where we're going to be wiping
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the slate clean for the month of
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January , where we're going to really
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be focusing on watering
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the seeds of the relationships that
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we want to cultivate and
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where maybe we're going to be weeding out the things
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that are not healthy
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for us , that maybe are strangling out
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these new relationships that want
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to bud , that want to grow , that
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need your time and attention , that deserve your
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time and attention . And when we start
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to weed out the garden and remove the people from our
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lives that are not healthy for us , that are
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toxic , it allows the garden
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to grow in a way that feels
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sustainable , that feels fulfilling
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, that feels nourishing
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, that feels enriching , and
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so that's what you're being called to do
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this month , in the month of January . The
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other big theme for January is gratitude
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as well . It's being grateful
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for the journey that you have been on up
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until this point . It is looking
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back on , perhaps , some of the more painful
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experiences that you have had , or the trauma
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that you have experienced , and being grateful
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for what those experiences
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taught you about yourself
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. It's learning how to
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transform that pain into power
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. It's being grateful for what
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you have created . Right , perhaps
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, maybe you have this beautiful family
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that is reflective of
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the love that you shared with this partner
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, and even if that relationship is ending or changing
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or whatever it might be , it's just being grateful
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for what the two of you did create together , and
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maybe you can even look at your partner and say
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that you are grateful for them too , because
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you learned so much about yourself . You
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learned , maybe , so much about what it is that you do
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want and what you don't want , and
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that you are grateful for the
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experience that you had that you created
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together , whether or not it was healthy . That's
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fine , but we can still
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have an appreciation for
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what we learned , right , and
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we can still have an appreciation for what it opened up our eyes
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to , for the awareness that it
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created , for the unfolding
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of that relationship
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that led us to this point
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, to become who we are today
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and to maybe also understand who we
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are not . So
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being grateful for the family that
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you have together . And then how
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to move forward in a way that
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feels like the right next
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step for all of you and , of course
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, where you're not continuing
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to self-sacrifice or self-abandon what
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you want , what you need and how you
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deserve to be treated . And remember to
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rely on your intuition when
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you are noticing red flags right
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. Really tune into how your body
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is communicating to you as to whether
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or not you do feel safe in
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the relationship . Allow
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your body to tune into whether or
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not you feel like this person
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is supportive , that they
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are safe , that they do
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value you . If you're starting to
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get any kind of inclination
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that this relationship
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is not one that you
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want to continue because of how it
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leaves you feeling , how it leaves you feeling
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drained or depleted or undermined
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or diminished or undervalued
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in any kind of way , then lean into
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that Trust , that Trust
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what your body and your intuition
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are trying to communicate . I hope
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you enjoyed this episode . Any of this resonated
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with you . I'd love to hear from you , because
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it means so much to me to get
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your feedback . Until
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next week , everyone be well . If
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you're hearing this message , that means
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you've listened all the way to the end , and
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for that I am truly grateful . If
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you enjoyed this episode and found it valuable
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to podcasts and sharing it with others ? If
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you'd like to connect with me for one-on-one coaching or
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human design reading , you can find me on
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my website or on social media . Also
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, if you have a topic you'd like me to discuss on a future
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episode , please DM me . Be
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sure to tune in next week for another episode of
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Stepping into Meaningful Relationships .
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