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to teach you how to be yourself. I'm going to teach

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you how to find yourself. I'm going to teach

0:35

you how to go into and start being yourself

0:37

and everything wrapped up in it. Because there's so

0:39

much confusion online about how to find yourself and

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discover who you are. This episode is going to

0:44

clear up all the confusion you have around it

0:46

and be the actual steps you need to

0:48

find yourself, feel like you are who you

0:51

are, you know who you are, and start

0:53

walking into it. And right now, if

0:55

you feel lost, good. The

0:58

only way to find yourself is to lose yourself

1:00

first. I'm going to give you everything you need

1:02

to know about being your damn

1:04

self and not caring about

1:06

it. And I'm so hyped about

1:09

this and so excited because I've had so

1:11

much clarity recently around all of this. And

1:13

for the past few months, I've felt like

1:15

I've lost myself. And I'm sure all of

1:17

you have noticed on my past few podcasts,

1:19

something's just off. It was. I was not

1:22

me. And that's one thing I

1:24

want to warn you about is when you

1:26

find who you are and you start discovering

1:28

it and you start being yourself, for you

1:30

to not be yourself will drain you. You

1:32

will feel like you are dying inside. So

1:34

if you notice something seems off and something

1:36

just don't seem right, literally come

1:38

back to this video anytime you need it. When you

1:40

feel like you're depressed, when you feel like you're just

1:42

drained and tired, this is how to

1:45

get back on track. So everything that's just

1:47

become very clear to me that got me

1:49

back on track, and I know you can

1:51

already feel it. I'm about to share with

1:53

you in this episode. But like I said,

1:55

if you feel lost, there's nothing wrong with

1:57

it. You're in the perfect situation right now.

2:00

everything to get better and change and improve.

2:02

Your relationship with yourself is about to change.

2:05

Trust. I do

2:07

have a little secret I'm gonna tell you about

2:09

of something I've been working on. So we know

2:11

how I launched merch, right? Well, I've been working

2:13

on a rebrand, like a full rebrand

2:16

of everything that I've been making clothing

2:18

wise. And my first collection of Leo

2:20

Scepi Collection, like the actual brand, not

2:22

merch anymore, is coming out

2:24

on December 10th. But if you're watching this

2:27

before then, I'm gonna give you access

2:29

before everybody else. So right now it's doing

2:32

pre-orders, but if you want to get into

2:34

the site before everybody gets a chance to

2:36

get in there, I'm doing this for my

2:38

podcast first, so everybody who listens right when

2:41

this comes out, you're getting the inside scoop.

2:43

This first drop is just a taste of

2:45

what my clothing line is gonna be. Like

2:48

it's just the first little like introduction

2:50

to it. All the quality is different,

2:53

my whole manufacturer is different, everything is

2:55

custom, like I've been so hands-on in

2:57

everything. The quality is impeccable, the designs

2:59

are all in my control now. I

3:01

can control every aspect of everything and

3:03

just know everything to do with customer

3:06

service is different. Returns are now accepted.

3:08

There's a lot better everything

3:10

to do with this. So like I

3:12

said, transitioning from merch to brand, if

3:15

you want to be in the first

3:17

portion of it and see what I've

3:19

come up with, the website is leoscepicollection.com.

3:21

I'll put it in the description, but

3:23

the password to get in early is

3:26

LS 2.0, like

3:28

Leoscepic 2.0 because this rebrand is

3:30

nuts. So like I said, this first little

3:32

drop is just to give you a taste

3:35

of the direction that things are going. My

3:37

clothing is everything I cannot find and

3:39

the first collection is chronically unimpressed because that's

3:42

what we are. But my biggest goal behind

3:44

this clothing line is to make clothes that

3:46

make you feel strong. That's how I base

3:48

my style around. So I wanted

3:50

to make these things. Everything I can't find that I

3:52

want to buy, I'm just starting to make

3:55

it. So if you want early access, I just gave

3:57

you the password. It's LS 2.0 and the link is

3:59

in the description. will be in the description where you can go

4:01

shop. And under that I will leave the

4:03

link to my tour for my live podcast

4:05

I'm going to be doing on confidence. So if

4:07

you want to start the new year off right

4:09

with me yelling at you flipping your whole mindset

4:11

around confidence and literally instilling it into you, get

4:14

you a ticket and I'll see you start on

4:16

January 5th. We're kicking off the new year right.

4:18

Okay now let's jump into finding yourself and

4:20

the biggest thing that's going to clear up

4:22

a lot of confusion that people

4:25

talk about online is what I've found

4:27

is you cannot define yourself by yourself. So

4:30

if you're trying to find yourself and discover

4:32

yourself in isolation it's not going to work.

4:34

You're going to run yourself stupid. It's literally

4:36

going to be a little rat race circle

4:39

running around the same track. You're never going

4:41

to get anywhere and you're never going to

4:43

be able to define yourself by yourself. You

4:45

need to go out and be around people

4:48

and experience contrast. Other people in

4:50

life are your way of revealing

4:52

and discovering who you are. You

4:54

need to be around people and

4:56

have experiences because it becomes

4:58

very clear when it's not inside you

5:00

when it's a mirror reflected outside of

5:03

you. What do you like about certain

5:05

people? What personality traits do you like?

5:08

What character traits and personality traits do you not

5:10

like? What do you see that you want? How

5:12

do you see that you want to be? You

5:15

get all of this by experiencing other

5:18

people and it's not that you're

5:20

faking your personality and like building

5:22

your personality around certain things. What

5:24

you resonate with will just fit. You will

5:26

just feel it and if you listen to

5:28

this podcast you're aware enough to know how

5:31

to reflect and discover what's like a shadow

5:33

and what's actually one of your desires and

5:35

who you truly are. What do you resonate

5:37

with? What actions? What character traits? What values

5:39

do you resonate with that you see in

5:41

other people? What people do you want to

5:44

pull close to you and what people do

5:46

you want to push away from you and

5:48

find out what it is about them. You

5:50

want to push away or pull close. This

5:52

is going to give you all the information

5:54

you need about who you are and then

5:57

I'm going to tell you what to do

5:59

with it but just remember me saying you

6:01

cannot discover yourself by your yourself. If you

6:03

want to find out who you are, get

6:05

around people and literally treat it like an

6:08

experiment and you're collecting data, you're gathering information,

6:10

you're seeing what feels like you. Like when

6:12

you see it outside of you, what do

6:14

you resonate with? What feels like you when

6:16

you see other people dress, talk, act, or

6:18

just be a certain way? What feels like

6:21

comfortable, familiar, like you? What do you resonate

6:23

with? And keep note of all of this.

6:25

Also keep note of everything you do not

6:28

like and things that you do not want

6:30

around you and things you don't want to

6:32

be. So the reason you want to do

6:34

all of this is because it's going to

6:36

reveal your beliefs and your values and a

6:38

lot of people talk about your

6:40

beliefs are who you are. I'm

6:42

gonna take it a different avenue because

6:44

it's true but it's like the whole

6:47

you crew your thoughts create your reality

6:49

shit. No they don't like your actions

6:51

do. Your thoughts influence your actions but

6:53

people forget to add that point. They

6:55

just say thoughts reality that's what makes

6:57

it. You your beliefs that's not what

6:59

makes it. Your beliefs and

7:01

what you value is who you are.

7:03

So my point here is get very

7:06

clear on what it is

7:08

you value. What character traits,

7:10

what everything do you value

7:13

about other people, about yourself, and about

7:15

life. Because as soon as you find

7:17

out what you value that

7:19

is what you're going to use to base

7:21

your life around. You're going to

7:24

become what you value and who

7:26

you are is going to be

7:28

constructed by taking actions in line

7:30

with those values. So I'm

7:32

gonna list off a couple of my top

7:34

values and you're gonna

7:36

see how this all kind of

7:38

plays out and then I'm gonna go a little

7:40

bit further with it like to figure out what

7:43

you want to do with life how you want

7:45

to be how everything is like what you truly

7:47

feel like all of this is gonna fall in

7:49

line as soon as you find your values. So

7:51

here's a couple of mine and then we're gonna

7:53

like dive into it. So honesty being straight

7:56

up being genuine being honest that is one of

7:58

my values that is one of of my

8:00

top values. Being reliable to myself

8:02

and other people is another one

8:04

of my top values. Being physically

8:06

fit and healthy. That's a value

8:08

of mine. I like that. Being

8:10

strong. I think that's my top

8:12

value. Is being strong. And that's

8:15

what I've had to reconnect with recently where I

8:17

haven't felt like myself. I

8:19

have not been in my strengths

8:21

and tapped into my personal power

8:23

as much. I've been too fucking

8:25

nice and I'm sick of it.

8:27

I'm back to strength and

8:30

power. And that's what feels like me.

8:32

It's not me to be weak. When

8:34

I'm over here trying to be so

8:36

sweet and care take everybody and understanding,

8:38

I'm that to a certain extent when

8:40

it's fostered with the strength. When you

8:43

just try to be weak in

8:45

my opinion, it was draining me. It was sucking

8:47

the life out of me. Being strong is my

8:50

number one value. And I

8:52

don't just mean physically strong. Yes,

8:54

duh. I like to be strong.

8:56

Who doesn't? But I'm talking about

8:58

emotionally strong, mentally strong, every

9:00

single aspect of life, just

9:02

being strong and solid. That

9:05

is my top value. Another one of my

9:07

top values is my personal peace and my

9:09

own sanity. And a couple things that go

9:11

in line with that are sleep and

9:14

energy levels. Those are two values of

9:16

mine where my sleep is something I

9:18

value so I can have energy. And

9:20

making sure I'm well rested gives me

9:22

personal peace. It makes me feel better.

9:24

It makes me feel strong and able

9:26

to handle everything. So these all kind

9:28

of like tie into each other. But I'm going to tell

9:30

you how I structure my life up around all of these

9:33

in a second. Now another thing I really value is knowledge,

9:36

learning and growth. Even when it's uncomfortable.

9:38

That's where the strength kind of plays

9:40

into that. I value growth

9:43

and learning and progression and

9:45

development of myself mentally, emotionally and physically. Like

9:47

I value growth and knowledge so much. And

9:49

my last little value I want to bring

9:51

up in this, I have so many more.

9:54

Like I probably have like 50 that are

9:56

my top values. But being

9:58

courteous is... a

10:00

very very big value of mine. I

10:03

don't care what the situation is, being

10:06

courteous and being sweet, kind, considerate,

10:08

and just a caring human being

10:10

is a big value for me

10:12

for many reasons. The reason I

10:14

wanted to explain some of

10:17

these top values is because I'm gonna tell you

10:19

how I go about daily life and how I

10:21

structure my life around this to

10:23

give myself a sense of self and to

10:25

give myself a life. And my family is

10:27

also on that list, but I feel like

10:29

that's just a given, you know? But with

10:32

honesty, that's one thing

10:34

I base my life around. So for someone

10:36

that doesn't know who they are, if

10:38

you value honesty, you

10:41

have to go start being honest. You have to

10:43

be honest about the way that you feel, what

10:45

you want, what you like, what you don't like.

10:47

You have to just start being a lot more

10:50

honest with yourself and with people, and your entire

10:52

life is gonna change. Your entire self is going

10:54

to change. It's not gonna be the most comfortable

10:56

thing when you start living in line with your

10:59

values, but what it's gonna do is bring

11:02

you into your sense of self

11:04

so strong, no one can knock

11:06

you out of it. You're literally

11:08

gonna have the most peace of

11:10

mind, happiness, fulfillment, everything in your

11:12

life is gonna feel better and

11:15

just good. You're not gonna

11:17

question yourself because you live in line with

11:19

your values. You're not gonna question your life.

11:21

You're not gonna question your decisions and your

11:23

actions because you're gonna run them through this

11:25

filter. Getting clear on all of your values

11:28

gives you a filter to run every decision

11:30

by. So, like I said, honesty, if that's

11:32

one of your values, for this situation, if

11:34

you're wondering, how am I gonna handle this?

11:36

I don't know who I am. Well, you

11:38

value honesty. So you're gonna handle this situation

11:41

and this conversation with honesty. You're gonna be

11:43

straight up, you're gonna be direct, and you're

11:45

gonna tell the truth because that's what

11:47

you value. If you value honesty, run

11:50

your decisions in everything you're gonna say,

11:52

do, and how you're gonna act through

11:54

that filter. Are you gonna be

11:56

honest, yes or no? Are you gonna

11:58

be yourself, yes or no? Living in line

12:00

with your value is how you find yourself. That's one thing that's

12:02

going to help you get a better idea of how

12:05

to handle things and what

12:07

to kind of do. And at any

12:09

given situation, you have to filter now. That's why

12:12

I'm saying like really list out what your top

12:14

values are and base your life around it. Like

12:16

commit to living your life in these values that

12:18

you hold. The next value I talked about was

12:20

being reliable. You're going

12:23

to have to be reliable to

12:25

yourself. If that's something you

12:27

value, if you don't value it, that's

12:29

okay. This is just one of my values. So the way

12:31

that I structure my life around this is

12:34

I value being reliable to myself that

12:36

comes in many forms, many shapes and

12:38

sizes. Do you do what you say you're going

12:40

to do? Do you have your own back?

12:42

Do you stand up for yourself? Do you make sure

12:45

you do what you need to do? If

12:47

this is one of your values and you do

12:49

not live in it, you're going to feel like

12:51

you're drained and the life is being sucked out

12:53

of you. It's going to suck to go and

12:55

live in this while you go through the change

12:58

of like being reliable to yourself with

13:00

the discipline aspect of everything. But

13:02

it's going to feel way better. You're not going

13:04

to feel drained anymore. And as soon as you

13:06

like make that break and start going, it's like

13:08

that momentum all of a sudden will like shoot

13:10

and you're like, just be living in your value and

13:12

you'll be living in who you are and have

13:14

a clear sense of self and your actions are

13:16

going to be based so differently around that. So if

13:19

there's something you want in this life, if

13:21

you value being reliable, are you going to show

13:23

yourself, you can trust yourself to put your ass

13:26

behind it and make sure you get it. And

13:28

the other aspect of being reliable is to other

13:30

people and the people you love and care about.

13:33

I am someone who I value being

13:35

reliable and I value reliable people when I need them,

13:37

they're there and they know when they need me, I'm

13:39

there. I will prioritize what I need to do. I

13:42

will move things around to be able to be there

13:44

for those that I care about. A friend of mine

13:46

had surgery the other day and I had a whole

13:48

day planned of all the things I needed to do,

13:51

but I value being

13:53

reliable to my friends, health, safety, and

13:55

wellbeing over some work shit that I

13:57

can do later and reschedule. everything

14:00

I needed to do to go and be there for my

14:02

friend and take care of her. I was a nurse for

14:04

three years and also I can physically

14:06

protect people. So taking them

14:08

to and from a surgery center

14:11

when someone is not in the right state of

14:13

mind they're coming off anesthesia getting

14:15

them in an uber is not safe

14:17

they're vulnerable okay. So me being reliable

14:19

also comes to being protected that's another

14:21

like one of my values but for

14:24

me to not do that I would have

14:26

felt guilt I would have felt like shit

14:28

I would have not liked how I felt

14:30

about myself had I not been

14:33

there for my friend because of the thing that

14:35

I value this is what I'm saying all your

14:37

values are gonna guide you so I put everything

14:39

to do with work aside that's not life or

14:41

death I got to it later

14:43

and I handle it all but like

14:45

when there's a dire situation or something

14:47

needs to be prioritized prioritize it by

14:49

what you value. I value work and

14:52

doing everything I need to do I value

14:54

being reliable more to the people I care

14:56

about well-being it's just over that it's not

14:58

that I don't care about this anymore it

15:00

just is a priority. My next

15:02

value of being physically fit and healthy going

15:05

to the gym exercising it doesn't have to

15:07

be going to the gym if you value

15:09

your physical health and being physically fit and

15:11

you value the way that you look you're

15:14

gonna have to put effort into these things

15:16

if you do not you're gonna feel

15:18

bad depressed sad drain like I said so this

15:20

is how you can structure your life around what

15:22

you value and you know it's the right thing

15:25

to do because you value it you can trust

15:27

that you can trust your own judgment so you

15:29

know to start making some kind of

15:31

routine for exercising getting out and doing whatever you

15:33

need to do to get that

15:35

value met of like physical health

15:38

and exercise also with physical

15:40

health start eating better take care of yourself

15:42

take a multivitamin like make sure you're giving

15:44

your body what it needs and also if

15:46

you value like looking a certain way and

15:48

looking put together and being taken serious that's

15:51

something I value a lot put the

15:53

effort in do your skincare do your

15:55

clothes do your hair make sure everything

15:57

looks good put the effort in And

16:00

a lot of people think that like when you start

16:02

putting effort into things when you're already tired You're

16:05

so used to putting effort into things and

16:07

feeling more drained when you put effort into

16:09

the things that you value into being Yourself

16:11

you get motivated by it. It's like that's

16:13

not wasted energy. So don't be sitting here

16:15

looking at it Like oh, there's no point.

16:17

It's useless. Well, it's not and I'm speaking

16:19

from experience Because the first

16:22

few days are gonna suck how

16:24

you feel a week after living in line with

16:26

your value and who you are The

16:28

energy level you're gonna have is ten times

16:31

different You're drained because you're not living according

16:33

to your values And I'm gonna keep saying

16:35

that because I need everybody to get it

16:37

and this is something that hit me in the head so

16:39

hard recently of like something I've just gone through and I

16:43

feel so back on my game like I've

16:45

been drained for the past few months I've been

16:48

so just tired and sluggish kicking

16:50

back into this girl ready to go.

16:52

Don't give a fuck about shit I literally

16:55

am like so back in my strength and

16:57

so back in myself. You can't sway me.

16:59

I'm not emotional anymore Like I was I'm

17:01

not sensitive I'm not being weak like my

17:03

life is structured around me being me and

17:05

supporting that I'm back to being unfuck with

17:08

a ball And I'm happy As

17:11

hell. Oh, this feels good now the

17:13

next value I talked about was strength right like being

17:15

strong is something I value How

17:17

what a strong person? Handle

17:20

whatever it is you're facing whether it's a

17:22

breakup Someone crossing

17:24

your boundary someone messing with you

17:26

you being extremely upset or feeling

17:28

hurt or going through something Devastating

17:30

or your life just not going

17:32

right what action is strong to

17:35

take what feels strong for you

17:37

to do Personally when you

17:39

live in line with that value, you know

17:41

how to handle everything You're gonna

17:43

have this boost when you rely on yourself

17:45

and create yourself by living like this You're

17:48

gonna know how to handle everything and

17:50

strong people do not behave

17:53

Certain ways and I'm not gonna nitpick and

17:56

give you examples, but cut the weak shit

17:58

if you value strength Start

18:00

acting strong. Start taking actions that strong people

18:02

would take. Take actions that make you feel

18:04

strong. Even if it's like something other people

18:06

wouldn't do, you got your own fucking idea

18:08

of it. You know what to do. Start

18:10

taking actions in line with strength. And if

18:12

you want to help bring

18:15

yourself strength, surround yourself

18:17

with things that make you feel

18:19

strong. Like buy things, then decorate

18:21

with things that make you feel

18:23

strong and solid and dress in

18:25

a way that makes you feel

18:27

strong. Your environment and how you

18:29

look and the things that you're around dictate

18:31

a lot about your mood. And if you

18:34

can help yourself feel more strong by like

18:36

listening to certain music or watching certain things,

18:38

do it. Conjure up that feeling and

18:40

go with it. Take actions in line

18:43

with that and think thoughts in line

18:45

with strengths. Over here beating yourself up,

18:47

being insecure, seeing how you're not good

18:49

enough. That's not strong.

18:51

That's emotionally weak. Not being able

18:54

to handle the way that you

18:56

feel. Taking actions based solely off

18:58

of how you feel is weak.

19:00

Feeling something, being logical about it,

19:03

seeing it and deciding your reaction

19:05

is strong. Weak people just react.

19:07

Strong people feel things also, but

19:09

they choose their reaction. But

19:12

one more piece with the strength thing. If

19:14

you're trying to express yourself in a certain way or

19:16

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19:18

value strength, you're going to have to do it. You're

19:20

going to have to face risks and face rejection and

19:23

face things that feel uncomfortable because you want to live

19:25

in line with that value. It's not going to be

19:27

fun, but you're strong enough to do it is what

19:29

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19:31

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19:33

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back into the podcast. So the next

22:32

little example was my personal peace value

22:34

and sleep and valuing my energy

22:37

levels. I have to be

22:39

very selective with what I do. I value

22:41

my sleep so I do things to make sure

22:43

I get good sleep. I dictate

22:45

my life around making sure I'm well rested

22:47

and even if I don't get an opportunity

22:50

because I'm busy to sleep like a long

22:52

time like eight hours if I can only

22:54

sleep like seven or like six and a

22:56

half I make sure I

22:58

get deep sleep. Very deep,

23:00

very good. No disturbance. Phone is not gonna

23:02

ring. Phone is not gonna make a sound.

23:04

It's muted and on do not disturb. My

23:07

lights are gonna be off. There's gonna be no

23:09

light in my bedroom. I'm gonna be so deep

23:11

in sleep. The AC is gonna be kicking. It's

23:14

gonna be cold as shit. I'm gonna be nice

23:16

and bundled up. I'm not gonna have caffeine at

23:18

least 10 hours before I go to bed. I'm

23:20

not smoking. I'm not doing any stimulants before like

23:23

a good while before I go to sleep because I want

23:25

to make sure I get good deep sleep if it's not

23:28

gonna be a full amount but even if I'm gonna get

23:30

a full amount of sleep I still don't do these things

23:32

because I want to make sure the quality of sleep is

23:34

good because I value the energy level. I value the sleep.

23:36

I value the personal peace and I value the energy. So

23:39

doing things that are gonna give you energy is

23:41

next. Don't waste your time on stupid

23:43

bullshit. That's gonna cost you energy. If

23:46

something is gonna cost you energy and it's

23:48

not productive, it's not getting you nowhere, it's

23:50

not getting you anything, cut that shit. You've

23:52

got to be selective with your energy. Very

23:54

selective. I have a full podcast episode about that

23:57

and that dictates a lot of what I do

23:59

and don't do. Who I will and

24:01

won't hang out with? What events I do and

24:03

don't attend? If something seems like draining to me

24:05

or I get there and it's draining, I'm out!

24:07

I'm selective with my energy because I value it.

24:09

I like to have a high level so I

24:11

can put it into what I want to put

24:13

it into. Energy is not just this thing that's

24:15

like every last thing, you go to the gas

24:17

station and just pump more in yourself. No, it's

24:19

not like gas. You can't just get it. So

24:21

when you have it, you got to be selective

24:23

with where you put it and put it into

24:25

the things that you value, like I said. And

24:28

the other thing with personal peace with

24:30

all of that is like taking care

24:33

of myself, but also mentally making sure

24:35

I'm okay. Having relatively a simplistic routine

24:38

schedule things like my uniform

24:40

that I wear, like I wear the same

24:42

things all the time. I've started to like

24:44

change it up a little bit, but it's

24:46

all the same stuff, just like different designs,

24:48

different accessory, whatever. That gives me peace of

24:50

mind because it's simple. I like things to

24:52

be clean. I like nice, clean, simple. Like

24:55

that makes me feel peaceful. It makes me feel

24:57

comforted. The way I check in with myself, the

25:00

way I handle my emotions, the way I have

25:02

time set aside to be there for myself because

25:04

I need myself and you need you too. You

25:07

need to have time in solitude

25:10

at certain times. Not always, but you

25:12

need to have time to take care

25:15

of yourself and make sure you're okay

25:17

and you're attended to so that you

25:19

can continue forward. Like personal peace, mental

25:22

clarity and emotional and mental stability is

25:24

a value. So you got to act in line with

25:26

it. You got to make time for it. You have

25:28

to do that thing. And that's why I write a

25:30

lot. Like I will have like I have a notebook

25:32

and I just like write what I'm feeling out and

25:35

I'll go in my notes app in my phone if I'm in public

25:37

and I'll like sit with myself for a minute and like get out

25:39

what I'm feeling. Get clear on the decision

25:41

that I'm making. Get the emotion out of the way

25:43

so I can see clearly and do what I need

25:45

to do and take the action that is in line

25:47

with my value, not just what I feel at the

25:50

time. The personal peace thing is going to take many

25:52

different like views and it's going to

25:54

look a lot different for a lot of people.

25:56

Like you have to figure out what makes you

25:58

feel peaceful and good and calm. if that's something

26:00

that you value. Some people can just run around

26:02

in chaos and be perfectly fine. I

26:05

don't like how it makes me feel clouded and

26:07

like weird and like I

26:09

need mental and emotional stability so I do

26:11

what I can to give myself that when

26:13

it's not like that. Because like I said,

26:16

I want to take actions that go through

26:18

this filter of what I value to

26:20

remain and stay in line with myself, my higher

26:22

self, whatever you want to call it. Be

26:25

in your damn self. This is how to do it.

26:27

But also with personal peace, you

26:30

might have to cut off some people

26:32

and stop going to certain things and

26:34

stop doing certain activities that take

26:36

away your peace. And I'm not saying you need

26:38

to isolate yourself. Don't be a sensitive little bitch

26:40

and just go like isolate yourself like everybody else

26:42

does. This whole healing era. I'm gonna do a

26:45

whole episode about your healing era is fucking over.

26:47

But I'm not saying isolate yourself. I'm just saying if

26:49

there's a thing you need to go to and you're

26:51

like, oh I'm anxious, I don't want to go. Go

26:54

to the goddamn thing you know you need to do.

26:56

If it's in line with your values, do it. But

26:58

if there's certain things you see no good outcome and

27:00

it's like it's not even worth trying, just stop

27:03

doing it. Like if you know what

27:05

something's like, if you know what an experience is like or

27:07

a certain person, get away from

27:09

it. Get over it. Like literally let

27:11

it go and protect your peace. And

27:14

protecting your peace does not look like not

27:17

doing a certain thing. So you can go home

27:19

and cry in the bed. You're gonna

27:21

go protect your peace and your energy and put it

27:23

into what you need to do. So

27:26

that maybe that's the time to reflect. Like maybe

27:28

like if you're not gonna do something, but you're

27:30

gonna go home and cry, something's actually upsetting you.

27:32

That's the time you need to be honest about

27:34

how you're feeling with whatever's going on and

27:37

communicate some shit. That's another value

27:39

minus communication. We're not gonna

27:41

go down that road. I'll be here for three hours. But

27:44

my next little example for my value

27:46

was knowledge and growth. So if

27:48

that's something I value, that's something I need to

27:50

be fostering. That's where people ask like hobbies and

27:53

what do I do with my time? I don't

27:55

know what I like. If you know you value

27:57

knowledge, go learn shit. Figure out what you'd like

27:59

to learn. about and do it. Spend your

28:01

time doing it. Read about it. Go to

28:03

events about it. Watch movies about it. Meet

28:05

people who also share that interest. It's going

28:07

to give you something to base what you

28:09

do with your time around. And I always

28:12

feel such a drag and like I feel

28:14

down or like not that great when I'm

28:16

not expanding my mind and learning things. And

28:18

I'm not even saying like learning. You have

28:20

to go read a book. Maybe

28:22

you just learn about yourself and you reflect on yourself.

28:24

Why do I do these certain things? Do shadow work.

28:26

Do what you got to do to get a better

28:28

understanding of anything. And when I do that, I

28:30

feel like I'm gaining knowledge, gaining awareness

28:33

for the gaining knowledge and it's expansive.

28:35

I like that feeling when I'm not

28:37

doing things that are letting me access

28:39

that feeling and developing my mindset and

28:41

like my knowledge base. I

28:43

feel drained. I feel like shit.

28:45

So that's something that I personally

28:48

do every single day is something

28:50

to learn something

28:52

or get a new perspective or just reflect

28:54

on something, understand something better. That's something that

28:56

I have to do to feel good because

28:58

it's such a big value of mine. So

29:01

that's another example of like something that you

29:03

value, how it can take place and take

29:05

up time in your life to actually be

29:07

doing it. Cause when people see you and

29:09

look at you from the outside, you have

29:11

a sense of self. You know that you

29:14

value this thing and you do these activities

29:16

around this. So you're not going to feel

29:18

like you don't have a life. Like you're

29:20

gonna be in what you're doing and

29:22

like people are going to see you as a very like

29:24

contained and like busy person. And I think that's where a

29:26

lot of people think that they have no life and no

29:29

sense of self cause they don't know what to do. You

29:31

know what to do. Well, I'm teaching you what to do.

29:33

Now you really know what to do. Find your values and

29:35

go do it. I did mention

29:37

a big value of mine is my family. So

29:40

recently since I've been like knocked in the head with

29:42

all of this about being yourself, I've been talking to

29:44

my family a lot more. I've been going to see

29:46

them a lot more. I have another shit plan to

29:48

go see them at the end of this month. I'm

29:51

taking the steps to live in

29:54

the thing I value and foster these relationships

29:57

and spend time with these people. And I'm

29:59

not drained by. I'm excited by it.

30:01

I'm happy again with so

30:03

many things and That's

30:05

another one where if it's something you value you got

30:07

to put your ass behind it You got to do

30:09

it and make time for it It's totally fine to

30:11

do that and if there is something that you value

30:14

That a lot of people think is a waste of

30:16

time Like me sitting down and

30:18

reflecting and like going into my brain a lot

30:20

of people see it as a waste of time

30:23

They're a dumb shit because this is what I

30:25

do for a living is explain emotions and human

30:27

psychology on a level people can't access I have

30:29

to sit down and discover it to be able

30:31

to talk about it So that's what I mean

30:33

Like don't worry about other people what they think

30:36

about what you're doing with your time And if

30:38

there are certain things that you enjoy doing that

30:40

are actually like a waste of time time You

30:42

enjoyed wasting is not wasted time who gives

30:44

a fuck if people think what you're doing is a

30:46

waste You know why you're doing it. Maybe you get

30:49

an enjoyment out of it. Maybe you feel good Maybe

30:51

it's just to take care of yourself who

30:53

cares that people don't understand it do

30:55

it for you and stop fucking caring

30:57

Give it up Stop trying to be

30:59

nice and consider it to people and caring about how

31:01

they feel when they don't care about how you feel

31:04

They don't give a shit how you feel when they're

31:06

over here criticizing what you're doing They're not trying to

31:08

understand why you're doing it and what you're getting out

31:10

of it They just want to make fun of you

31:12

for it. They can eat shit and die How about

31:14

that? Cuz I really will be damned

31:16

if anyone's gonna come into my life and

31:18

tell me what I'm doing for my own

31:20

sanity and peace Is dumb or stupid you're

31:22

dumb and stupid go talk to

31:24

someone else Because I will swing

31:28

and my last value I talked about

31:30

with being courteous That's

31:33

a big one and if you

31:35

ever wonder how to go into a certain situation If

31:38

being courteous is something you value do it if

31:41

you're having a bad day You

31:43

will lose yourself if you don't act in line

31:45

with the thing that you value if you're having

31:47

a bad day and you're looking for an excuse

31:50

to not be considerate and Polite

31:52

to people and you just lash out and

31:54

act a certain way because you're just emotional

31:56

that's weak remember But that's not

31:58

living in accordance with your values So

32:00

even if you're having a bad day, I'm still

32:02

courteous, I'm still nice. Even if

32:04

something is inconvenient, I'm still polite about

32:06

it. Like when things go wrong and

32:08

I handle situations, I'm very polite and

32:10

courteous. But this

32:13

gives me peace of

32:15

mind to act how I

32:17

want to act. After you piss

32:19

me off. Like I always start out

32:22

courteous. I always start out sweet and

32:24

kind. When it's taken for granted.

32:27

And when I see someone is discarding the

32:29

way that I feel. When I'm showing nothing

32:31

but consideration for how they feel and what

32:33

they're going through. I'ma match that

32:35

shit. And I'm gonna walk away with no

32:37

guilt because I started out as

32:40

me. I lived in accordance with my values.

32:42

But I also value reciprocity. So if you're

32:44

not gonna reciprocate my consideration for your feelings,

32:46

I'm not gonna consider yours. But people don't

32:48

like that. People don't like when you treat

32:51

them how they treat you. When you're gonna

32:53

be an asshole to me, it's fine. It's

32:55

dandy. When I'm an asshole back, you're over

32:57

here. You don't care how I feel. But

32:59

as soon as I don't care how you

33:02

feel, then it's a problem. Well, let's

33:04

have a problem then. But always

33:06

starting out courteous is gonna give

33:08

you that peace of mind. When you do

33:10

tell someone to go fuck themselves or you

33:13

do lash out or you are kind of

33:15

like rude. You started by considering their feelings.

33:17

You didn't get that back. So

33:20

you're free to do what you want. And that's

33:22

how I genuinely don't question myself. When I

33:25

do stand up for myself. Because I

33:27

know I gave it a fair, genuine shot to

33:29

handle this politely, courteously,

33:32

and nice. How

33:35

that goes is up to them. Takes two to

33:37

tango. Like, if you're nice to me, I'm nice to

33:39

you. If you're nasty to me, I'm a nasty to you. And

33:42

I think that's one thing that baffles people the most

33:44

about me is because I

33:46

am so incredibly strong and cutthroat, but

33:49

I am very courteous and sweet. And

33:52

it's weird and people never know what

33:54

side they're gonna get of me. But

33:56

it's always nice. Like I'm always courteous

33:59

and sweet. until I feel discarded

34:01

or I feel like someone's being

34:03

inconsiderate. Like, if

34:05

you meet that side of me, you met it for a

34:07

reason, bitch. I always start out courteous, like I said. I

34:10

think I've given you guys enough examples to

34:13

make this very clear and give you a

34:15

better sense of self and how to be

34:17

yourself because you get clear on

34:19

what your values are and you run

34:21

every action and thought and behavior through

34:24

this filter of is this in line

34:26

with these values? If it's not, it

34:28

doesn't pass. You don't do it that

34:30

way. You find something that goes in

34:32

line with your values. And this is

34:34

not an easy thing. This is

34:36

not just to, oh, like, go be an

34:38

asshole, go be self. Like,

34:40

everybody makes it seem like, oh, you just wake up

34:43

one day and you're just yourself. No, this is a

34:45

discovery process. This is very uncomfortable because

34:47

you're not used to living in line with this

34:49

if you don't know who you are. But as

34:51

soon as you discover your values, get ready for

34:53

your entire life to change and everyone around you to

34:55

change and how they treat you to change and how

34:57

they look at you to change, it's all going to

34:59

be for the best, but your current

35:01

reality is going to break. Everything

35:04

you know, everything you do, it's going to break.

35:06

Not everything, most things, because

35:08

you're already living in line with your values somewhat. But as

35:10

soon as you really commit to living

35:12

in line with your values and like really commit to

35:15

being yourself is not an easy task. But as soon

35:17

as you do, you're good, you're set. You're going to

35:19

be more than fine. And I

35:21

want you to come back to this video if

35:23

you actually implement this in

35:26

a few months. The version of you

35:28

commenting now is not going to be the version of you that

35:30

comes back in comments later, but please do it so I can

35:32

see it. If you're interested in

35:34

the first shot of my clothing, like I said,

35:36

I will leave the link in the description for

35:38

the early access code. And if you're watching this

35:40

after December 12th, there's most

35:42

likely clothes available. I

35:45

don't know because everything sold out last time I did a

35:47

merch drop. So now that I'm doing a clothing drop, I

35:49

don't know how it's going to go, but it's pre-orders for

35:51

a little bit and then things will be available. My next

35:53

drop is in March of 2024. And

35:56

just you wait because like I said, this is

35:58

just a taste of the direction. is

36:00

going. Tickets to my live podcast

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on confidence, my tour, my little mini tour for now.

36:04

We're gonna add more dates next year don't worry. The

36:06

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36:09

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36:33

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Cozy up to all the holiday classics, like

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Elf, 8-Bit Christmas, and the Harry Potter 8-Film

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Collection. Just log in with your Cricut username

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and password to experience Max on all your

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favorite devices. While in plan streams

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and standard definition programming subject to change, fees, terms,

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and restrictions apply. See cricutwireless.com for details.