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details. Hi,

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friends! This week, we're doing a What Would

0:33

Leo Do? And I'm already laughing at the

0:35

first situation I just read. We're

0:38

just gonna have to dive right into this, because I'm pissing

0:40

myself. I do want to tell

0:42

you, tickets for my tour are selling out. Three

0:44

shows have already sold out. So, if you do

0:46

want a ticket to one of my shows in the beginning of

0:49

2024, hit the link

0:51

in the description, buy a ticket. I wanted to let

0:53

you guys know, because it's coming up, and I'm excited

0:55

about it. But let's jump into this What Would Leo

0:57

Do? I have them on my phone this week, so

0:59

I'm gonna be looking here, because I did ask you

1:01

guys to, like, send in some on Snapchat. But

1:04

the first person said, they're in a

1:06

long two-and-a-half-year relationship. They're happy in love,

1:08

but they can't get over the

1:11

height difference of them and their partner. They

1:15

said, I can't tell if it's just my insecurities

1:17

showing I'm the taller one and feminine, or

1:20

if this is something that's non-negotiable for me.

1:22

What Would Leo Do? Okay, I was giggling just

1:24

because it was funny. Because I was

1:27

thinking of the narrative, like, society pushes. Like,

1:29

people act like masculinity

1:32

and masculine people have to be tall,

1:34

whether it's men or women. Like, whoever

1:36

holds, like, the dominant role in a

1:38

relationship or a situation has to be,

1:41

like, super big or massive or, like,

1:43

the taller one or the bigger one.

1:45

And it got me giggling, because, like,

1:47

people really do act like you can't

1:50

respect someone unless they're tall. That's not

1:52

the case. But the key

1:54

word there I want to hit on is respect. Look

1:57

for ways to respect your partner. even

2:00

though they're not taller. You

2:02

gotta look for their strengths and look

2:04

for things that make

2:06

you respect them aside

2:08

from their height. Because there are little

2:10

people who are very mighty and

2:13

some of the best bodyguards I've met for some

2:15

of the celebrities and other influencers that I've hung

2:17

out with, some of the best security guards

2:19

are the little ones. Like they're like the little crazy ones

2:21

and you can tell when you meet them. There's

2:23

a lot more to people than just their height. And

2:26

I'm over here speaking as someone who's tall.

2:29

Damn, bitch, like people really are so mean

2:31

about it. I'm happy, I don't have to

2:33

deal with it, but like, damn.

2:35

So first thing I would do if I thought it

2:37

was like, okay, maybe this might be a non-negotiable for

2:39

me, try. And look

2:42

for things about your partner that make them

2:44

strong in your eyes. Look for ways you

2:46

can respect them. Look for their strengths, look

2:48

for their dominance and other things that are

2:50

not just like size. Maybe try

2:52

and buy them like a little shoe with a

2:55

heel, a boot with a big platform. There's like

2:57

these little inserts you can put in shoes and

3:00

it makes them a couple inches taller. Maybe try

3:02

those things. But if it's like a giant height

3:04

difference and you genuinely do have a hangup

3:06

about like someone being shorter than you,

3:09

if you wanna be the short one, that

3:11

might just be a hangup that you're not okay with.

3:13

There are ways, like I said, to go around it, get

3:15

the little fake shoe, get the little boot, get the

3:17

platform, get the something. To make him, her,

3:20

I don't know, you didn't specify, taller.

3:22

But at the end of the day, if someone

3:24

being too small for you is a thing,

3:27

that's valid. It's like if someone has too

3:29

small of a ween and

3:31

you're like in a straight relationship or a gay relationship,

3:33

like if that's just something you want, it's something you

3:36

want. Like you can't help it.

3:38

And like I always say, you can choose to

3:41

neglect yourself or you can

3:43

choose to go for what you want. Even if

3:45

it means having to leave someone. It's sad, it

3:47

sucks, but you're allowed to be a

3:49

little bit superficial. Like you're allowed to want certain

3:52

things and there's such a stigma around it in

3:54

society now. Like God for fuck a bitch, you

3:56

have an opinion. God forbid you have a preference

3:58

or something you're a truck. who are not

4:00

attracted to. People lose their mind and they

4:02

try and shame people for what they really

4:04

want. There's a way to be disrespectful and

4:06

rude about it. There's a way to be nice

4:09

about it. Okay, be nice. Like I said, look

4:11

for the respect thing. See if you can

4:13

respect them or like admire their strength and

4:15

see that as enough to get past the

4:17

height thing. Part of

4:19

me really wants to be like, if

4:21

you got someone that loves you, great,

4:23

but we don't settle over here. We

4:26

don't do that. So if someone

4:29

being taller than you is a need that you

4:31

have for whatever reason, look into the psychology of

4:33

that too. Like why you need like the difference.

4:35

But if that's what you want, that's what you

4:37

want, then go for it. And there was another

4:39

girl that asked about her boyfriend

4:42

having bad teeth and like he's

4:44

great. He's like everything she wants.

4:47

But he's got like fucked up teeth like bad.

4:49

Not like a little like tolerable like oh, they're

4:51

bad. It was like she was saying that

4:53

they were very bad and she's like am

4:55

I an asshole for not being

4:58

into it? No. Like you can fully

5:00

mention and see if someone is

5:02

down to get their teeth fixed or their teeth

5:04

done. Like you best believe anything ever happens to

5:06

my teeth. I'm getting fake ones. Some

5:08

people just don't understand like

5:10

the teeth thing. As long as they're

5:12

hygienic, you're okay. But like teeth

5:15

make a big impact and

5:17

some people aren't able to afford it. I get it.

5:19

But like if there's bad dental surgery that needs to

5:21

be done, insurance will cover a lot of it. But

5:25

you're not an asshole is my point for

5:27

not being into certain things and preferring certain

5:29

things. Your preferences don't make you mean or

5:31

an asshole just because someone else is not

5:33

what you prefer. You don't have to carry

5:36

any guilt for that. You should

5:38

carry guilt if you're mean about it and

5:40

you like degrade them for it. That's not

5:42

cool. But just having preferences that don't match

5:44

someone, it's not rude. Okay, the

5:46

next person said I'm a liar. I lie about

5:49

a lot and to a lot of people from

5:51

white lies to changing parts of stories to literally

5:53

making shit up from the past. I feel so

5:55

much guilt and shame for this. I want to stop,

5:57

but I can't. It just comes out of my mouth.

6:00

How do I start telling the truth and gain

6:02

trust back for my loved ones after

6:04

this? Okay. So if you have

6:06

a pattern and a habit of lying,

6:10

what are you lying for? What are

6:12

you scared people cannot face?

6:14

Like for you to tell the truth about

6:16

something, you're lying in every aspect.

6:18

So the first thing is you need to

6:21

understand people are strong enough to handle the

6:23

truth. You might have different

6:25

experiences in the past where every time you

6:27

told the truth, it was a goddamn issue.

6:29

That's annoying. But people are fully capable of

6:31

handling truth about a situation.

6:33

Like, even if it's something that hurts

6:35

their feelings, people can handle the truth

6:38

better than a lie. Like

6:40

they'll handle a lie better. Cause it doesn't give

6:42

them that initial jolt and like hit of

6:45

whatever you were hiding from them. But

6:47

it's going to jolt them twice. It's like

6:49

a two piece when they find out the

6:51

truth and you lied. Like that's

6:53

a whole different ball game. It

6:56

hurts way worse. So like being worried

6:58

that people can't handle the truth, I

7:00

get that. But you're also lying about

7:02

things from the past. So you're having

7:04

a real issue with constructing the way that people

7:07

look at you or the way people think about

7:09

you. What are you scared for them to see?

7:11

Why do you feel the need to control people's

7:13

perceptions? And what do you think would happen if

7:15

you didn't control that or if you couldn't control

7:18

that? I'm going to go ahead and reveal it

7:20

to you. You can't control people's perceptions of you,

7:22

no matter how much you lie. The truth is

7:24

there. The truth is always just going to feel

7:27

right. And when someone lies to you, it doesn't matter how good

7:29

you think you are at it. I've had people in my life

7:31

who are like compulsive liars and I kind of want to do

7:33

a full episode about it. But people

7:36

know when you're lying most of the time, even

7:38

if you get away with a couple of things,

7:40

if you get around someone like me who pays

7:42

attention to absolutely every detail of every story and

7:44

I start seeing shit don't line up. I remember

7:47

everything. I remember every

7:49

key little detail about

7:51

a situation. Like you'll say something to me in

7:53

one situation. And I'll literally be like, well, you

7:55

said this on this date. We were driving in

7:57

the car on this road. This song was playing.

8:00

And this is what you said. Like I can recall

8:02

information like that when it's something important. Not when

8:04

it comes to remembering my keys and shit. Like

8:06

when I'm leaving for the gym, I'd be forgetting

8:08

them. But when there's a key piece of information

8:10

or something that matters to me, I will remember

8:13

every single detail about it. So like I said,

8:15

it's gonna be fun and games for you to keep

8:17

lying until you meet someone like me. But the

8:19

biggest thing here is not to like shame you

8:21

or get mad at you. What

8:24

are you lying for? And what are

8:26

you lying to avoid? There's something

8:28

in you, you don't want

8:30

people to see. And you also, I think don't

8:32

trust people to be able to handle the truth.

8:34

And also you might think people look at you

8:36

like you're an asshole when you tell

8:38

the truth and it hurts them. Or like you

8:40

do something that hurts their feelings. Like you're trying

8:42

to control the pain that others feel. That's something

8:45

you also can't control. Use me as

8:47

a reflection for a second. When I tell the truth

8:49

and I just stand on some shit, even if it

8:51

hurts people's feelings or not, what

8:53

about that do you feel resistance

8:55

toward? Like when you see me speak the truth,

8:57

what makes you feel weird? And what do you

9:00

wish you could do? Like I know you wish

9:02

you could do it, but like what about it?

9:04

Like what is the resistance that comes up? Pay

9:06

attention to the emotions and the thoughts because that's

9:08

what's gonna lead you to the truth of it.

9:10

It's like, this is a self-sabotage

9:12

thing. There's no such thing as self-sabotage. Lying is

9:14

serving you in some way. If this is a

9:17

behavior you wanna change, it's your responsibility to figure

9:19

out how it's serving you so you can stop

9:21

doing it. It's serving you in so many ways.

9:23

I pointed out a couple, but

9:25

it's way easier to lie. And

9:27

that's why so many people lie

9:29

about what they think, what

9:32

they feel, who they are. Everybody lies

9:34

about everything nonstop. It's very, very hard

9:36

to tell the truth and be honest

9:38

and be authentic. It's very difficult. People

9:40

act like it's easy. More people lie

9:43

and hide than be themselves

9:45

and tell the damn truth. There's so many

9:47

reasons, like I said, of why you could

9:49

be doing it, but Leo would reflect on

9:51

it because when I used to lie a

9:53

lot, there was so many things, like I

9:55

said, with the controlling people's perceptions, I wanted

9:57

to control people's perceptions because if I could...

10:00

Have them perceive me as more valuable than

10:02

I actually felt or convinced them

10:04

of something that made me feel more valuable to

10:06

them I could control them wanting me caring about

10:08

me or not leaving me There's a lot of

10:10

things that go into controlling people's perceptions of you

10:13

that I want you to look into But

10:15

that's a good place to start. Oh,

10:17

no, here we go. Someone said hi Leo. So in

10:20

relationships. I am very similar to you Oh,

10:22

I'm sorry Everybody

10:24

thinks we're nuts. How is it? Do you like it?

10:26

I don't like it. It's annoying Everybody thinks we're crazy.

10:28

If you like me, I'm sorry But

10:31

I get you is one thing I want you to know Let

10:33

me read this cuz you're not gonna feel crazy

10:35

after I read this like I'm about to validate

10:38

you she goes I'm so loyal. I don't follow

10:40

x flings. I don't even have guy friends. I

10:42

have tunnel vision of the man I'm with and

10:44

that's it my boyfriend knows this but he's different

10:46

He will talk to anyone follows everyone and doesn't

10:48

think twice This just gets to

10:50

me as I feel like give him nothing to

10:53

worry about but it's not the same for me

10:55

That's fucking huge a lot of people with me

10:57

when I'm upset about something they

10:59

get mad when I question shit

11:02

and when I require

11:04

honesty and safety

11:06

and like you're gonna reassure me of things

11:08

improve things and they never seem

11:10

to understand why I feel the way that I

11:12

do and I always say I'm

11:14

happy you don't fucking have to feel the

11:16

way that I feel because I don't make

11:19

you fucking feel that way I offer you

11:21

peace and stability and security and the ability

11:23

to trust me So no, you don't

11:25

fucking understand it cuz I don't have it back So

11:28

people judging your reaction for that they could judge

11:30

it all they fucking want But I fully get

11:32

what you're saying with I offer them this and

11:35

they just get to walk around and be happy with it

11:37

And they wonder why I'm over here feeling the way that

11:39

I am because you don't offer the same fucking shit back

11:41

You're able to sit here and make all these claims About

11:44

how secure and safe you feel and I'm glad you

11:46

get to make them But don't question me when I

11:48

say I don't feel the same fucking way look at

11:50

the discrepancy in our actions I'm sure if you were

11:52

following a bunch of dudes and Interacting

11:54

with a bunch of shit and having eyes

11:57

for other people entertaining other shit. He wouldn't

11:59

like it neither. He would not feel as secure.

12:01

So one thing before I even go deeper into

12:03

this, don't let him shame you for jack shit,

12:05

alright? And this is something about

12:07

you that is to be appreciated and

12:09

valued. And if you are with someone

12:12

who does not value this about you,

12:14

good fucking luck. I've dealt with it

12:16

before and I will

12:18

never be with someone again who does

12:20

not appreciate certain things about me. And

12:22

this is one of them. If you're

12:24

not the same way, it's a no-go.

12:26

If you're over here following people and

12:28

diddling and dallying and people's fucking messages

12:30

and even just following people liking people's

12:32

shit, I don't like that. I look

12:34

at it as disrespect. I'm not

12:37

doing it. The fuck are you doing it

12:39

for? What do you get out of it?

12:41

It's my thing. But my point here is

12:43

I just want to reassure you, this is

12:45

something very valuable about you. Do not let

12:48

someone make you question it and question if

12:50

you're crazy or not. They do not have

12:52

the capacity to appreciate what you're offering them.

12:54

They're not gonna understand to appreciate this about

12:56

you until they go get with someone else

12:59

and experience the opposite and have all that

13:01

fear and worry and all this shit that

13:03

they didn't have to deal with with you.

13:05

They'll wake up to it but it's gonna be

13:07

after you. I'm sorry that's how it goes. I'm in the

13:10

same boat with you. But let me keep going. I

13:12

told him how I feel about him following a bunch of people and

13:15

he unfollowed some girls but he still follows

13:17

a bunch. That he knows. Key

13:19

point. I just want someone on my level

13:21

who thinks like I do about the matter but I

13:23

don't want to sound insecure by saying I don't want

13:26

him to have female friends. It would just give me

13:28

peace of mind but I also don't want him to

13:30

feel that he has to hide things. Him

13:34

having female friends like

13:37

that you're allowed to have friends

13:40

and your partner is allowed to have

13:43

opposite sex friends if you're straight and like if

13:45

you're gay your partner is fully allowed to have

13:47

other people that are friends that are the same

13:49

sex. Like they're allowed to be friends with the

13:51

type of gender they're attracted to. That's

13:53

mine and I just want to reassure

13:55

you you are not

13:57

gonna feel insecure about your

16:01

I didn't even feel this bad about.

16:03

I notice I develop deep crushes and then have

16:06

trouble letting them go even when they're completely out

16:08

of my life. What is something I can do

16:10

to keep this from happening? It's

16:12

a projection you're obsessed with. If you have a

16:15

crush on someone, you're

16:17

fixated and convinced

16:21

of this person being a certain way. When

16:24

you date somebody and you know the truth about

16:26

them, like you said, you weren't even this fucked

16:29

up over your ex because you saw the truth

16:31

of him. There was no potential of what he

16:33

could be. There was no convincing yourself he was

16:35

different. You saw it. You spent all the time

16:37

with him. You developed that connection. You knew what

16:39

it was like to be cared for by him

16:41

and to care about him, what life was like

16:43

with him. There was no unknown left. So there

16:45

was nothing for you to project about what you

16:47

hoped he would be. So of

16:50

course it's easy to let him go and not really think

16:52

about it. He wasn't what you wanted. And you

16:54

see that with the crushes, there's

16:57

so much of the unknown and there's so much

16:59

you can project into it about who they are,

17:01

how they are, what life would be like and

17:03

all this shit that makes you so excited. The

17:05

version of someone and the concept of someone you

17:07

can come up with in your head is

17:10

a hundred thousand times more

17:12

enjoyable than usually the reality

17:15

of them because you

17:17

cater all your imagination and all your projections

17:19

to your needs. You see how they're going

17:21

to be exactly what you want and meet

17:23

all of your needs. It's fucking fairy tale

17:26

land. You're falling in love with literally a

17:28

projection when you have a crush. And

17:30

it's like that unknown and that convincing

17:32

yourself that they are what you want,

17:34

that it's making you feel so strong

17:36

about it. The best thing you can

17:38

do is get square

17:41

fully face down in reality

17:43

about them. Like face that

17:45

shit. Like look at who

17:47

they really are. And

17:49

whatever you think you like about them, like ask

17:51

yourself, what do I like about them? And as

17:53

you start to list things off, do

17:56

I know if that's true? Do I know

17:58

them enough to know that? Do I know the for

20:00

him. For context, his ex reached

20:02

out asking to talk to him about giving

20:04

him a second chance a month into us

20:06

dating. But he told me he was meeting

20:08

a friend for food one night but it

20:10

was his ex. And basically he had

20:12

to find all of that out. So

20:15

I don't want you to give this

20:18

motherfucker more credit than he deserves. He

20:20

came to you upfront and came to

20:22

you honestly you said about he

20:24

still has feelings for his ex. No he fucking

20:26

lied to you. He lied to you about going

20:29

to meet up with him and then

20:31

came home acting weird and you had to figure

20:33

out why the fuck you all here acting weird

20:35

and it all came out because you kept asking

20:38

questions. Always ask questions. Always be a nosy bitch.

20:41

But that's the first thing I want to say is

20:43

don't give him so much credit that he's just so

20:46

like what's it called? Respectable

20:49

for coming to you and telling you he had feelings for his

20:52

ex. What would I do? Lose

20:54

my fucking shit. I would freak

20:56

out mentally and emotionally. Would I let him see it?

20:59

No. That's low-key like

21:02

the weirdest dynamic

21:04

of like there's betrayal

21:06

because he lied. He

21:09

low-key like half cheated. That I consider cheating going

21:11

to eat with your fucking ex and you're hiding

21:13

it from me? If you got to hide something

21:15

with somebody else I'm probably gonna take that as

21:17

cheating. You didn't physically touch

21:19

him but you fucking lied to me what

21:21

were you going and I'm sure they fondled

21:23

or fiddled or kissed or something. So Leo

21:25

would absolutely cut this shit off and I

21:28

would not be nice. I would not be

21:30

like super considerate. Like you

21:32

fucking lied to me. You played me

21:34

a little bit and you're gonna come

21:36

to me and then try and act

21:38

all noble and be oh I do have feelings for

21:40

him. I just wanted to be honest about it. Well take

21:42

those feelings and shove them up your fucking ass because I

21:44

don't want to hear it. I would not

21:46

leave it on good terms. I would leave it on

21:49

all right what happened happened. Don't fucking talk to me.

21:51

Don't reach out to me. I don't wish you well.

21:53

We're not cool. We're not friends. If you see me

21:55

in public don't act like you know me. That's

21:58

how I would leave it because You're

22:00

a liar. Like,

22:03

I get why he would lie. I don't

22:05

give a shit. Like, for someone to

22:07

just blatantly play in your face like that and

22:09

lie to you? No. Stop being forgiving. Stop being

22:11

nice. And don't give him more credit than he

22:13

deserves. And try and be

22:15

sweet. Because he came to you. And I didn't even fucking

22:17

come to you and tell you. He lied. And went and

22:19

met up with his ex. I would

22:21

be upset. I would be pissed off. I

22:24

would be heartbroken. I would be all kind of all

22:26

the emotions. But I would still handle

22:28

it with strength. And handle it. In a way

22:30

I would not regret. So I wouldn't

22:32

like lash out and do anything insane. I wouldn't fight them. I

22:34

wouldn't anything. I would,

22:37

like I said, just end it on like, we're not on

22:39

good terms. I don't want shit to do with you. And

22:41

move forward. Like, I

22:44

get you were sorting out how you were feeling emotionally and

22:46

figuring out what you were doing with your ex. But

22:49

that's not fair to do to somebody. And

22:52

if someone is still entertaining and questioning things.

22:54

If they want to work things out with

22:56

their ex. Or if they even

22:58

have feelings with their ex. They shouldn't fucking be

23:00

dating anyway. I don't like that. That's

23:02

your responsibility to put that to rest before you come and

23:04

try and get involved with me. Or go and try and

23:07

get involved with somebody else. Don't

23:09

date if you still are

23:11

contemplating your ex. Okay? That's

23:14

a fair warning. For everybody. In

23:16

my opinion, you need to know that you're fully moved

23:19

on from the ex. Like, even just

23:21

entertaining the idea of maybe I still have

23:23

feelings. Maybe we'll get back together. You ain't

23:25

done with it. You ain't made

23:27

the conscious decision yet to walk forward without them. It

23:29

doesn't mean you have to stop caring about them. It

23:31

doesn't mean you have to fully be over

23:33

them. But you have to fully

23:35

have decided you are not going back to

23:38

go into an ex relationship. That's my views. That's my opinion.

23:40

And I wish more people handled it like this. But

23:44

a lot of people are too weak to even make

23:46

the decision. Of no, I will never go back to

23:48

this ex. When something ends with me, I'm not getting

23:50

into something else. Until I

23:52

know I'm fully done with what that

23:54

was. Not that I'm done feeling

23:56

things. Not that I'm done with all this shit. Like,

23:58

I'm fully done with it. done not going

24:01

back because I will not do that to

24:03

the next person. Oh my God, that pisses

24:05

me off. People do not spend enough time

24:07

in the opposite perspective. They just get like

24:09

this dude like, I always change the

24:11

thing. You don't have my eyes out. You should

24:13

have done that before me. You fuck. Okay. That's

24:16

how I would have handled that. OK,

24:18

the next situation I was about to read, I'm not going to

24:20

do it because it's going to make me cry. It's too close

24:22

to home. I'll hold. We hit it in the next episode. Not

24:24

right now. Oh my God.

24:26

OK, here's one. What would Leo do?

24:29

Last year I was in a relationship. We've

24:31

been no contact and I found myself again

24:33

and I recognize how emotionally abusive and manipulative

24:35

this person was to me. During

24:37

that year, I had gifted them a typewriter

24:39

that was in my grandmother's house for their

24:42

birthday. Now I've been asking for it back

24:44

and they've locked me on everything and threatened a restraining

24:46

order because I showed up at the coffee shop that

24:48

they work at. How do I get my typewriter back?

24:51

Babe, you're not going to get the typewriter back. OK,

24:54

it's not in his character to just give it back. That's

24:57

why whenever I buy gifts for someone,

24:59

I don't ever expect them back. If

25:02

you're going to give something to somebody, you

25:04

give it and give it away. It's no

25:06

longer yours. You're no longer entitled to it.

25:08

That's my relationship to giving gifts and giving

25:10

things to people. If I give something to

25:12

you as a gift, it's yours. It's no

25:14

longer mine. You're like giving up any rights

25:16

you have and like any entitlement you have

25:18

to the thing you gave it up just

25:20

because you ended shit don't mean you get

25:22

to go get it back. And

25:24

I'm saying that kind

25:27

of like harsh because a lot of people like to

25:29

do the whole like, I want it back shit. Like,

25:31

do you really have any fucking use for a typewriter?

25:33

Do you really give a fuck about the typewriter? Does

25:36

anybody else like you

25:38

learn your lesson next time? Don't give away shit

25:41

that you're ever going to want back. If you

25:43

give something away, it's permanent. So

25:45

like if you're not comfortable with giving something

25:47

to someone permanently, don't give it to them.

25:50

That's my perspective because it will save you from

25:52

shit like this. Like now you're going to be

25:54

dealing with trying to get it back from

25:57

them. The restraining order crap like girl over

25:59

a typewriter. Negotiating

28:00

in good faith? Bullshit

28:03

people are not good for faith. You

28:05

can't have faith in people Don't negotiate

28:07

nothing in good faith and that's a

28:09

term that's like for contracts But

28:12

it's just basically a verbal agreement with somebody

28:14

don't take that shit serious If

28:16

they're getting something out of it Don't expect them

28:18

to hold up their end of the deal and

28:20

if you can accept they may never hold up

28:22

their end of the deal Are you still comfortable

28:24

giving it? If no don't oh? Okay

28:28

Okay, this one's funny the

28:30

whole like section where you

28:33

can type things it said being

28:35

blocked That

28:39

just got me that was funny like nothing

28:41

else to say just being blocked okay, what

28:44

would Leo do about being blocked? Let

28:48

them I would let them block me well

28:51

depends do you know where they live? No,

28:55

don't show up at their house. That's that's old

28:57

us. We're new and improved and mature now I

29:01

always joke. I'm like girl if you wanted to see me. Just say

29:03

that you don't have to block me Because you

29:05

know I'm gonna show up But I

29:07

don't do that no more like for real

29:10

if someone blocks you Let

29:12

them let you go They

29:15

don't want to talk to you for whatever reason and

29:18

if it's that petty bullshit where it's like

29:20

block unblock things like that I'm

29:22

not good with that. I don't like that if

29:24

there's a situation where something actually happened, and you

29:27

were blocked And it's like a solid block Start

29:30

the mourning process you're gonna have to

29:32

mourn this person like they died and

29:35

I do want to do an episode about like Mourning

29:39

people who are still alive. I've

29:41

had to do it a lot, and it's

29:43

very hard But I got some tricks up my

29:45

sleeve even though I'm sleepless But

29:49

literally let them go They

29:52

don't want to talk to you do not ever

29:54

beg someone for their attention If they don't want

29:56

to talk to you if they don't want no

29:58

part of nothing to do you let it

30:01

go. It sucks, it's

30:03

hard, I know you're emotionally vulnerable

30:05

as hell and you're

30:08

going to have such weak

30:10

moments do not act on

30:12

them. You will regret begging

30:15

someone, you will always regret chasing

30:18

and begging and throwing your ego

30:20

up like that. Have an ego,

30:23

have some self-respect, do not

30:25

chase nobody that don't want

30:27

you, ever, because when you

30:29

get over this motherfucker, whether it's a

30:32

year, two years, a month, however long

30:34

it takes you, whenever you get over

30:36

them you're going to look back and

30:38

be disgusted with yourself, that you finally

30:40

recognize yourself and your power and your

30:43

worth and you love yourself and to

30:45

look back on an experience where you

30:47

acted like you saw none of it

30:49

and did not care about yourself, you

30:51

acted like you just needed this person.

30:54

When you stand from a different viewpoint

30:56

of not needing this person and being

30:58

back in your control and your

31:00

strength and your love for yourself, seeing

31:02

that action you took is always going

31:05

to sting. It's always gonna sting

31:07

when you look back and see a time

31:09

when you didn't act like you loved yourself

31:11

or valued yourself. So what I'm saying right

31:13

now is I know it is hard, it

31:16

is one of the hardest things you will

31:18

have to do, but you

31:20

will be happy, you let them

31:22

go in the future, give

31:25

it time and come back to

31:27

this episode in the future when you're

31:29

like thank God I listen to Leo and just

31:31

shut up and let them go, thank God I

31:33

didn't keep embarrassing myself like that, please

31:37

come back and tell me, I'm speaking rough

31:39

because I know what's best for you and

31:41

that's it, trust me. And

31:43

that's all we got for this week, what would Leo

31:45

do? Like I Said, tickets to my tour, I will

31:48

link in the description, I'll also link my new clothing

31:50

that just dropped, my chronically unimpressed collection, I have a

31:52

crew neck and it says it down both sleeves and

31:54

sweatpants and they say it down both legs and the

31:56

sweatpants are the most fuck you thing I've been wearing

31:58

every day, I Love them. Looming. To submitted

32:00

scripts and also all my social media and the

32:03

description. Everything you need for me to go look

32:05

in their of your wasn't as a you tube

32:07

video. Thumbs up! And if you listen to the

32:09

audio version on Apple podcasts and spot advice you

32:11

know the drill bait size that V. Thank.

32:13

You love you. but that's all I've got

32:15

for this week's episode. Everybody Be Safe. Take.

32:18

Care of yourself and I'll talk to guys next Sunday.