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for everyone. We're gonna get
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into this. Hi, friends. This week, I
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need to reality check you about your
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attention and your focus because your attention
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and your focus is what makes people
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special. So if you have someone in
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your life that you are just fixated
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on, cannot get your attention off of,
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I'm gonna tell you everything you need to
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know, one, about your attention, and two, how
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to let them go, whether it's a relationship
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or a friendship or anything, and also just
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a general understanding about how powerful your focus
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is. Because your attention is
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what makes people special or not.
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I really need you to understand
1:06
how powerful your focus and attention
1:08
is. Where you
1:10
place it is gonna dictate
1:12
and determine a lot. When you put it
1:14
on yourself, you know things get
1:17
better. You listen to this podcast. You
1:19
already got that down. But I need
1:21
you to understand your attention and focus
1:23
is very powerful. And when you put
1:25
it on someone, you can convince yourself
1:27
of anything. Your brain can make anything
1:30
or anyone special. And most of the
1:32
times, you make people more special than
1:34
they actually are. You can literally convince
1:37
yourself a peanut on the ground is
1:39
special. You can convince yourself through psychology
1:41
and just like delusions in your own
1:43
brain that something is special or is
1:46
more special than it really is. You
1:48
can make yourself imagine this little peanut
1:50
on the floor. If you decide to
1:53
make that special, you can. When you're
1:55
very, very aware and you
1:57
have the gift that all of us have
1:59
which is awareness. It's a gift and a
2:01
curse, but you become very very convincing. You
2:04
can see all the different angles
2:06
and aspects of things that most people can't
2:08
and you and your brain can kind of
2:10
do this dirty little dance where you fill
2:12
in voids and make things more special than
2:14
they are and you convince yourself of it
2:16
and you get trapped in it and so
2:18
much more of this is in your own
2:20
head than you even realize. So I want
2:22
to teach you how to crack this and
2:25
I have to break your heart a little
2:27
bit. Like this is a very heartbreaking thing
2:30
to do is face the reality of
2:32
things and to understand the power of
2:34
your focus and your attention and you
2:36
have to be very selective with what
2:38
you give it to. You can run
2:40
yourself stupid and get yourself overly attached
2:42
to things if you do not watch
2:44
your ass. So like I said,
2:46
you can literally take a peanut on the
2:48
ground and convince yourself it is the
2:50
most special thing in the world and you can fully
2:52
make yourself believe it. And I say that again because
2:55
I just want you to get it. You know what
2:57
I mean and I have to use the peanut example
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and I might use it a few more times
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throughout this episode. But with people, we're
3:03
going to get a little spiritual. Your
3:05
attention and your focus is the
3:08
only thing that keeps them alive.
3:10
And what I mean by alive is
3:12
existing in your current reality. People and
3:14
things will cease to exist in your
3:17
experience in this life as soon as
3:19
you take your focus off of them.
3:21
There's a lot of fear and crazy
3:23
shit in that because like I said,
3:25
if you take your focus off of
3:27
it, it dies. It's like when you're
3:29
a child, when you have your parent
3:31
walk out of the room, you don't
3:34
have any certainty. They're going to come
3:36
back. Your brain will convince you you
3:38
just lost this person forever. And then
3:40
you learn the habit and the routine of
3:42
when the parent goes out of the room and
3:44
then comes back. You understand that
3:46
they're coming back and you can fill in
3:49
that void and give yourself that reassurance. And
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another example is the dark. People are not
3:53
scared of the dark and the unknown. You're
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scared of what you think is in it.
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So like if you put someone in a.
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dark room by themselves. Your brain is
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going to start automatically thinking of like
4:04
scary ghosts and scary demons and shit
4:06
that could be in the corner of
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the room. The dark itself is not
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scary. It is what you think
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is in there. Your brain can trap you
4:14
in a false reality. If you start to
4:16
think there's a demon in the room, you're
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going to start seeing a little random shadow
4:20
or you might see a figure or your
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brain is going to start looking for proof
4:24
of that thing. Like I said with the
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peanut, if you tell yourself this little peanut
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is special, you will start to see proof
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of that and you will start to
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attract experiences into your reality
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that confirm what you're telling your brain
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or what your brain is telling you.
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But like with the kid, when the parent
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walks out of the room, before your brain
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gets the ability to understand what's going on,
4:46
you will fully think that they just died.
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Your focus is no longer on them. You
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can no longer see them. They're no longer
4:52
in your reality, but you're sitting here thinking
4:54
about them and to a child, that person
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just died. Like they're gone. They're
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no longer like existing in their reality and
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what thoughts they think are going to dictate
5:03
how they feel about the experience. So if
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a kid is sitting here and can reassure
5:08
themselves, okay, the parent's coming back, they're going
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to sit here and be chilling. The other
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kid who doesn't have the ability to say,
5:14
okay, the parent's coming back has just experienced
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a loss and is going to be in
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a panic mode, a panic state, fight or
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flight, freaking out, bugging out. The parent probably
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died. They're not coming back. There's no reassurance.
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There's no anything, but your brain decides
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which way it's going to go, which experience
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you're going to have. So you could be
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sitting here being okay because you told yourself
5:34
they're coming back, or you could be bugging
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the fuck out because you're like, they're never
5:38
coming back. Which one are you going to
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look at? And that's what I'm saying. Your
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focus is powerful and can determine how you
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feel about certain things. But what I want
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you to understand about your focus and attention
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is people are only going to remain
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alive and feel like they're in your
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reality. If you're focused on them, as
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soon as you take your focus off of
5:58
them, stop checking them. social media, stop
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looking them up, stop thinking about them, and
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stop convincing yourself that they're special. There is
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gonna be a form of loss and mourning
6:07
that comes with that. There's one thing to
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lose someone and there's another thing to mentally
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let them go. I'm gonna do a whole
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podcast episode about how to let someone go.
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This is just to make you understand the
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power of your attention and focus. When you
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keep thinking of this person, looking them up
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and trying to hold on to anything to
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keep them into your reality, that focus is
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what you're gonna see proof of. You're gonna
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see how you're still falsely connected, but
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like I said when you remove that
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focus, you're gonna feel that panic and
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the fear and the loss of them
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because your focus is what keeps them
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alive. If you don't think of them,
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if you aren't looking them up, if
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you aren't seeing how they still exist,
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they do cease to exist in your
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reality. They're not actually dead, but for
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your experience and your perspective, they're gone.
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And one more point I want to throw at
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you about attention and focus so you see how
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powerful it is. If you think about
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celebrities online and influencers and a lot
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of these fucking weirdos, the only reason
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that a lot of them are special
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or seen as special is because they
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have people's attention. People watch them, people
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follow them. You decide with
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your focus what is important and what
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is not. For you to keep watching
7:17
somebody, their perceived value by others is
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gonna go up because they have so
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many people's focus and attention on them. And
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that's gonna make other people think, just because
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other people's attention is on them, it's gonna
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make other people think, oh they are important,
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they are special, they have all these followers,
7:31
they have 100 million followers, like oh my
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god they must be special. If
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you look at these celebrities and people that
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society makes famous now, if
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you take away the fact that
7:42
so many people watch them, what
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value do they actually have? A
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lot of them, it's fucking none.
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They're all useless and fucking boring.
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No substance, no personality. Most of
7:54
them are contributing shit to shit.
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Like they're just online and they
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have followers so... It gives everyone
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a false sense that they're important when they're
8:02
not. They don't actually have any value. But
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do you see what I'm saying with the
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connection of people's attention makes you perceive that
8:09
there's value there. When you take
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that attention off and you look at what
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they just are, you see there's
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no real value. Like there's so many influencers, we
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all look at them and we're like, why the
8:20
fuck are you popular? Why the
8:22
fuck are you famous? You're nobody. I hate
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that that sounds so rough and rude. We
8:26
all think it, but I just want you
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to see the power in attention and
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focus on things. But with social media
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now, the way that things
8:34
are monetized is attention. So people have
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been able to make careers and profit
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and make money off of the attention
8:41
that they garner. So that's a separate
8:43
conversation. But what I want you to
8:45
see here is just people's attention being
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on something makes it valuable.
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There doesn't even have to actually be
8:52
value there. Just enough people's attention on
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it can make it valuable. The same
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thing goes with you. You
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guys are all the people who give
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your attention to certain things. You
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make these things important. If you
9:05
do not lend attention to it, it
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ceases to exist. It ceases to be
9:10
important. There's no attention on it. Okay.
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Now I want to talk about how convincing
9:15
yourself of something can really fuck you. And
9:17
this is when you make something more special
9:19
than it is. And this is where your
9:21
attention will make something special. Your imagination is
9:23
very strong. We're also going
9:25
to talk about the potential of people and
9:27
all that in a minute. But your imagination
9:29
is strong as hell. Like I gave the
9:31
example of being in the dark. You can
9:33
scare the shit out of yourself. But
9:36
with people, the realization that hit me the
9:38
other day, you guys know that I see
9:40
visuals. I have a weird way
9:42
that awareness and perspectives come to me. I
9:45
just know shit I'm not supposed to know.
9:47
The visual I saw, it's like if you
9:49
take a box, like a cardboard box. If
9:52
you just put this box in your house,
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you put it on a table and you
9:56
convince yourself there's something special
9:58
in that box. your
10:01
brain is going to hype it
10:04
up. Your brain is going to think that
10:06
this box needs to be protected. It's so
10:08
special. When you tell yourself that the unknown
10:10
of what's inside of it is special, when
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you put your focus on how it is
10:14
special and convincing yourself of this imaginary narrative,
10:17
you don't fucking know what's in it. But
10:19
just by the look of the box, you
10:21
see certain things about the box. This is
10:23
going to relate to people and their appearance
10:25
and what they portray and
10:27
what you see. You can convince yourself
10:29
by the exterior of this box, oh
10:32
my god there must be something so
10:34
special in it and you
10:36
will fixate on that. Your brain will
10:38
look for all of the proof of
10:40
what's so great in this box. You're
10:42
gonna get so excited. You're gonna get
10:44
so infatuated with this fucking box because
10:46
you've convinced yourself there's something special in
10:48
it. You literally can drive yourself to
10:51
a point of madness and be doing
10:53
insane shit for what's
10:55
in this box because you just convinced
10:57
yourself there's something special in it. But
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with people, the mask
11:02
always falls. A lot of
11:04
people portray that there's something special and
11:06
there's something like in the box. Like
11:08
their box is pretty. They decorated a
11:10
certain way. They try to be perceived
11:12
a certain way. But when
11:15
you fixate on the outside and convince yourself
11:17
there's something special in it, when you eventually
11:19
get the box and you get to open
11:22
it. Your brain can
11:24
make you see a false reality. If
11:26
you open this box after you've convinced
11:28
yourself it's so special. There's something so
11:30
amazing in it. I can't wait to
11:32
get it. My life will be better
11:34
once I have it. When you open
11:36
this box and you see nothing actually
11:38
in it, your
11:41
brain is not gonna accept that.
11:43
Your brain has convinced itself there's
11:45
something special in this motherfucker. It's
11:48
not gonna accept there's nothing in it.
11:51
Your brain is gonna look for proof. Your brain
11:53
is gonna be like there's something more to it.
11:55
I'm not seeing something. You're not gonna face the
11:57
reality and the truth of the situation because you
11:59
hyped it up and you put your focus
12:01
on how it's special for so long, your
12:03
brain is trained to think like that. It's
12:06
not just going to let that go or pull
12:08
that focus off and the convincing that you've done
12:10
for yourself of like having this belief of this
12:13
thing is special. You're going to look for proof
12:15
of that belief. You're going to look how, wait,
12:17
it might not be in there or it's hidden.
12:19
Let me keep looking. Or you're going to look
12:21
in there and see something and it's not as
12:24
great as you thought, but you're going to fixate
12:26
on how it's better and your focus is going
12:28
to be on how it's not actually the reality.
12:30
It's on how is it special. Like I said
12:32
with the peanut, when you open the box and
12:34
you see a fucking peanut in there, oh
12:36
my God, wait, there was something special in this
12:38
box. It's just a peanut. But
12:41
what about this peanut is so great
12:43
and your brain is going to fuck
12:45
you. It literally is going to fuck
12:47
you. And I wanted to make you
12:49
aware of this to stop you in
12:51
this process because I don't want you
12:53
to be blinded by your brain and
12:55
your own beliefs and your own thoughts
12:57
and put your focus and attention and
12:59
energy onto something that is not actually
13:01
special. You've just convinced yourself it's special.
13:03
Your attention on it made
13:05
it special. It's
13:07
not actually special. It's a fucking peanut
13:09
in the box. So I'm going
13:12
to relate this to relationships. It can also
13:14
go with friendships or any like opportunity or
13:16
experience that you're wanting. What you have to
13:18
do is get so faced
13:20
down in the reality of what's really
13:22
in this box, what this box actually
13:24
is. Okay, it was a pretty package.
13:26
There's just a fucking peanut in there.
13:29
Like I said, you're going to have
13:31
a little bit of that morning process.
13:33
The thing you thought was so special,
13:35
you have the heartbreak. It wasn't all
13:37
this excitement, all this preparation, all this
13:39
convincing yourself your life was going to
13:41
be better is destroyed. As soon as
13:43
you see the reality of it, looking
13:45
at the truth is very
13:47
hard. And I'm someone who values
13:49
the truth over the way that I feel because
13:52
I'm not going to live in a false fucking
13:54
reality. And that's why I spit the truth so
13:56
hard. And some people love it and appreciate it.
13:58
And some people fight me. because they
14:01
want comfort. They want things that
14:03
feel good and not always the
14:05
truth because the truth will literally
14:07
rip through how you feel. It's
14:09
not good or bad, it's the
14:11
truth. So when you see the
14:13
truth of your little peanut in your box
14:15
of this thing that you convince yourself but
14:17
they say so, you have a heartbreak. You're
14:19
gonna have a morning process and
14:21
it's a lot more than you realize. So I don't
14:23
want you to look at this like, oh, it's just
14:25
no big deal. I should just be over it. I
14:27
should just move on. No, babe, you've been in a
14:29
whole cycle with this fucking box. And you have so
14:31
many emotional ties to it
14:33
and so much emotional investment in it.
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It's very hard to see the truth
14:38
and not stay blind to the fact
14:40
that it's a fucking peanut. Like you're
14:42
gonna wanna keep looking for how it's special
14:44
because you don't wanna give up what you've
14:46
just experienced. And you're gonna have
14:48
to also mourn how you thought your life was
14:51
gonna get better once you got this thing. When
14:53
you realize there's no thing in it and it's
14:55
just a fucking peanut, the whole desire you had,
14:57
the whole idea of what your life was gonna
14:59
be like, gone, wiped out. So like I said,
15:01
your emotions will blind you. And the
15:04
way to get into reality about someone or
15:06
a situation or an opportunity is
15:08
put their ass on paper. This
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is, like I said, very hard because it's
15:13
gonna hurt when you've convinced yourself
15:16
something special and you've just looked for proof
15:18
of how it is. And
15:21
then you start looking for proof of how it's
15:23
not special and looking at the reality of it,
15:25
not even looking for proof that it's not special.
15:27
Looking at just the truth of it. A lot
15:29
of the things that you thought were special about
15:32
it or thought were true about it were just
15:34
in your head. They were just from your focus.
15:36
You were looking for just the good, just the
15:38
special, that's all you saw. Now you're gonna be
15:40
looking for the truth, the reality of it. And
15:43
the way you do it, because your emotions are not gonna
15:45
let you just like think of this. I want you
15:47
to put it on paper. Write down
15:50
the reality of the situation and everything
15:52
going on with the person or the
15:54
opportunity that you convinced yourself was
15:57
so damn special. The best question I've learned to
15:59
ask myself about people
16:02
or situations like opportunities or like
16:04
a friendship a partner if
16:07
you want to get in the square
16:09
ass reality of this box for this
16:11
situation if I were to go meet
16:13
someone new or have a new opportunity
16:16
what exact things about
16:18
this current person or
16:20
opportunity do I hope
16:23
are in my next one and
16:25
that's gonna make you pull out and
16:28
see the things that are actually special
16:30
about it and that list is gonna
16:32
be way shorter than you fucking realize
16:34
you're gonna have to face the truth
16:36
of it and that's a very fair
16:38
assessment that's how you see the truth
16:41
about what is special about this box
16:43
and the peanut inside of it what
16:45
do I hope is in the next
16:47
thing the next person the next friend
16:49
the next opportunity whatever it is you're
16:51
fixated on find the exact things
16:53
you hope are in the next one and
16:56
then look at that list you're
16:58
gonna have to prepare to crack get you a
17:00
box of tissues maybe get a little Christopher something
17:03
get a little comfort somehow maybe have someone
17:05
near you so you can go get a
17:07
hug because it's gonna break a goddamn heart
17:09
but it's gonna hurt you but
17:12
when you chase that truth it puts you
17:14
in a square reality where you're no longer
17:16
just a dumbass who is fixated on this
17:18
box that's not really special and taking all
17:21
these actions and doing all these things that
17:23
should not be taken and you're not doing
17:25
things that you should not be doing for
17:27
this thing because there's a false perceived reality
17:30
of it when you see the truth of
17:32
it your actions get a lot more in
17:34
line with what it's worth and how much
17:36
energy you should be lending to it and
17:39
if you even want to keep this fucking
17:41
box because like I said you convince
17:43
yourself it's special when you see the reality of it
17:45
you might want to withdraw all your focus and attention
17:47
from it or you might
17:49
just be in a better reality of it and be
17:51
able to kind of calm these heavy heavy emotions you
17:53
feel these like false overly
17:57
boastful emotions like you might have felt
17:59
way more more than you should
18:01
and this putting their ass on paper
18:04
will help you not feel so
18:06
emotionally invested and falsely emotionally invested if
18:08
you're gonna continue with them but it
18:10
also might make you aware of you
18:12
don't want this box you might want
18:14
a new friend you might want a
18:16
new partner you might want a new
18:18
opportunity not this one because now you
18:20
see the truth of it you've corrected
18:22
your focus you've gotten a grip on
18:25
your focus and your attention and your
18:27
emotions because your emotions can make you
18:29
blind do not let
18:31
them make you be willfully blind because
18:33
when you're over here just fixated on
18:35
this box and like I said you're
18:37
feeling more than you should you're taking
18:39
better care of it than you should
18:41
you're taking actions you shouldn't be taking
18:43
because it's not as special as you
18:46
think you're prioritizing it in a way
18:48
that you shouldn't because you're not looking
18:50
at the reality of it when you
18:52
finally wake up and see
18:54
the truth of this thing after a certain amount of
18:56
time you're gonna look back at all the effort and
18:58
energy you put into it as wasted
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so that's why I'm saying
19:03
look at the truth of it before
19:05
you continue with all this emotion and
19:07
energy you're putting into this thing and
19:09
prioritization and caring about it if you
19:12
need to stop caring about somebody this
19:14
will fucking do it this
19:16
will really get you emotionally in check
19:19
and make you see the true power of your
19:21
attention and focus get it off that goddamn box
19:23
with a peanut in it another
19:25
question I like to ask myself when I'm
19:27
putting someone to paper or putting an opportunity
19:29
to paper what aspects
19:31
about this current thing do I
19:34
think I will never find again
19:36
what are the things that are
19:38
specific to this person or this
19:40
opportunity that I truly can never
19:43
get again this is another one that's
19:45
gonna make you realize what
19:47
you're worried about is most likely replaceable
19:50
and not as great as you think okay
19:52
so be careful with that but
19:55
pin to paper anything you feel
19:58
so much for pin to paper Make
20:00
sure you're in reality about it before you
20:02
treat it better than you should because like
20:04
I said when you look back You're gonna
20:06
kick yourself. Do not be willfully blind
20:09
so now I want to talk about something that's gonna
20:12
happen and what you're gonna be a Vibrational match to
20:14
when you do not look at the reality of things
20:16
and you let yourself just stay in a delusion When
20:19
you believe a certain thing, you're
20:21
just gonna be constantly looking for more proof
20:23
of it It doesn't matter how much proof
20:25
comes up in front of you that this
20:27
box is not special You're not gonna see
20:30
it. You're only looking for confirmation of what
20:32
you believe about the box. It's special So
20:34
you're just blindly looking at the couple little
20:36
crumbs and the couple little things that are
20:38
letting you believe this is still valuable It
20:41
doesn't matter how much proof comes
20:43
out. It does not matter how
20:45
much is contradicting that belief You're
20:47
not seeing it. The universe will
20:49
wake you up and it's
20:51
gonna do it in a very perspective
20:55
evoking way So
20:58
most people and one of the fastest
21:00
ways the universe will wake you the
21:02
fuck up and show you what really
21:04
matters and what's really important is an
21:06
illness and that's a
21:08
fucking scary thing to Manifest and a scary
21:10
way to be waking up by the universe
21:12
and usually it's not a little illness It's
21:15
usually a big one because like I said
21:17
the universe is gonna try and poke holes
21:19
in your argument about how special you think
21:21
This thing is it's gonna try
21:23
random fights are gonna come up random
21:26
bullshit random things are gonna get exposed
21:29
And if you continue just to ignore it and
21:31
go down the path of consider it's special. It's
21:33
what I'm not gonna let it go I can't
21:35
let it go when you fixate on it the
21:38
universe is gonna have to wake you up loud and
21:40
when it screams it's gonna come through an illness or
21:42
a Really close call
21:45
with death to
21:47
jolt you into a perspective
21:49
to question Everything
21:52
so listen and paint a paper
21:54
their ass While the universe
21:56
is being nice with you because it will
21:58
wake you the fuck up And one
22:00
of my favorite quotes about anything you've been
22:02
through in the past That
22:05
got really really bad I'm sure you can
22:07
all look back and see this quote said
22:10
if it never got as bad as it did
22:12
Would I have still waken up and
22:14
this is a situation where this shit can
22:17
happen? The universe is just gonna turn
22:19
the heat up and make things worse and worse
22:21
and more painful and more hard to deal with
22:23
And more things you just have to Close
22:25
a blind eye to to the
22:27
point where it's just gonna have to snatch your eyes
22:29
open Do not do that to
22:32
yourself No one and nothing is worth
22:34
that because your life is gonna be
22:36
on the line if you don't wake
22:38
the fuck up now I
22:40
want to talk about the potential you see in
22:42
other people and the
22:44
issue with that a lot
22:46
of times with Potential and
22:48
people falling in love with the potential
22:51
of someone Comes
22:53
down to you're seeing what you
22:55
would do if you were in
22:57
their given circumstances You're
23:00
not seeing the reality of them and the
23:02
potential you see is what you would do
23:04
in their shoes How you
23:06
would take advantage of that situation how
23:08
you would handle things how you would
23:10
improve things and you see the potential
23:12
of Them but it's
23:15
really about you. You're only
23:17
seeing how it's gonna be great. It's
23:19
gonna be good You see the potential
23:21
of what you would do in their
23:23
shoes and you think that's the only
23:25
realistic possibility There's absolutely a potential of
23:27
that But there's also a potential for
23:30
them to do what they want to fucking
23:32
do and not maximize their potential and not
23:34
handle things The way that you would handle
23:36
them There's a reality of both and
23:39
it's very hard and like I said
23:41
Heartbreaking to face that the
23:43
potential of someone that you've
23:45
convinced yourself is so great box with
23:47
a peanut is not the reality It's
23:49
just the box. You're convincing yourself with
23:51
all this and that look at what
23:53
is inside. It's a goddamn peanut. I
23:57
Love this analogy. It's so funny. Now.
23:59
I'm gonna talk about something that's a
24:01
little deeper and a lot
24:03
more fucked up with
24:05
loving someone. Sometimes you have
24:08
to see that you're
24:10
not loving someone for them.
24:13
The things that you're doing for
24:15
them and the way that you're
24:17
taking care of them and the
24:19
things you do to make them
24:21
feel special and prioritized and loved
24:24
is just satisfaction for you because
24:26
you know how special you would
24:29
feel if someone treated you the
24:31
way you treat them and
24:33
this is kind of fucked up because
24:36
you're really just loving someone
24:39
the way that you so desperately wish someone
24:41
would love you and that will have you
24:43
looking stupid as fuck. You will be doing
24:46
so much for them and doing all these
24:48
things to make them feel special and cared
24:50
about and prioritized and you're showing
24:53
them how much better their life is
24:55
now that you're in it. You're showing
24:57
them what it's like to be loved
24:59
the way that you wish someone would
25:01
love you. You are gonna
25:03
think you just want to do all
25:05
of these things for them but what
25:07
you're subconsciously doing is loving them and
25:11
trying to love yourself through it in
25:13
a weird fucked up way. You're doing
25:15
all these things for them and
25:17
you don't really know why you love
25:19
doing them. It's because you know how
25:21
special it makes them feel and how
25:24
good they feel from getting your love.
25:26
You see how of use you are.
25:28
You see how great it is because
25:31
you fucking wish someone would do it
25:33
for you. I just don't
25:35
want you to be in that delusion
25:37
of thinking you truly love someone when
25:40
there's a weird subconscious self-serving
25:42
motive behind it because when
25:44
you do this and you put
25:47
love into someone or something that's a box
25:49
with a fucking peanut in it. When you're
25:51
just trying so desperately to love them and
25:53
help them and heal them in a way
25:55
that you wish you could be healed you're
25:58
gonna feel so attached to them. and
26:00
you're gonna feel like you care about them
26:02
so much more because you're investing so much
26:04
time, effort, and energy into them. When you invest
26:06
in things, you care about them more. Why
26:09
are you caring the way that you are? Really,
26:11
like really sit there and look at it. Is
26:13
it like I just said before with like, the
26:15
whole thing of you loving them, how you wish
26:17
someone would love you because you know how happy you
26:20
would be? You know how much you would value
26:22
someone who loves the way that you do. So
26:24
when you give all this love to somebody,
26:26
all you're banking on and hoping for is
26:28
that they will value you beyond comprehension
26:30
and never risk losing you.
26:34
So you might be doing all these things
26:36
to prove your own value to yourself and
26:38
see it reflected in someone. You're not actually
26:40
doing it because you love this person. That's
26:42
a hard pill to swallow and that's a motherfucking
26:45
horse pill. But the biggest
26:47
thing I want you to see with all of
26:49
this is the more focus and attention and effort
26:51
you put into someone or something, the
26:54
less you have to put on yourself. And
26:56
a lot of the times, if you're trying to prove your
26:59
value to someone by loving them the way that you wish
27:01
you could be loved, you're robbing yourself.
27:03
You don't actually have that much energy to
27:05
give. You're having to take from yourself to
27:07
be able to love them the way you
27:09
wish you could be loved. So you're already
27:12
taking all your focus and your energy and
27:14
putting it on them and making them the
27:16
special one. That's already taken up a lot
27:18
of your energy you've already got. So
27:21
where's the extra energy to put into yourself
27:24
and to take care of yourself and to actually love
27:26
yourself? Where's all that? You
27:28
see what I mean? When you're trying
27:30
so desperately to love someone and value them
27:32
and you try and take care of this
27:34
box, you better make sure there ain't
27:37
a goddamn peanut in it. Because if you're doing all
27:39
this for a box you convinced was special and you
27:41
open it and see nothing, you
27:43
just rob yourself of all that attention, the energy
27:45
and focus you've been shoving into this box. So
27:47
get clear on it before you do that. And
27:50
be very selective and protective of your
27:52
focus, like I said, because it's powerful.
27:55
Because you're putting all this shit into other people. Imagine
27:57
you flipped it at you and you put
27:59
that effort in. and focus into you, how you'd feel.
28:01
You convinced yourself you were special and look
28:03
for the proof of that. If you spent
28:05
your energy there, things would be
28:07
a lot different. Better use of your time.
28:11
Before we keep going, we're gonna take a
28:13
second to talk about the sponsors of today's
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podcast. The first one is squeeze.com. This is
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my favorite company for juice cleanses. If you
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little juice cleanse to get myself back on track. But
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I also like to do them when I'm sick because
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it's good to take in liquid nutrients and not give
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your body a lot of food and things to process.
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these cleanses are not a laxative. So don't think you're
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they made really good razors and everything you
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get the hype until I tried them. I
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like their razors a lot. The shave gel is
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really good. Smells good and it like everything just
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or your arms. I love to shave my
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arms because it makes your muscles pop. But
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a lot of my girlfriends actually use Harry's
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razors too and some women use men's razors
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preventing ingrowns. Some people say and from my
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friends experiences they all like them better. But
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the razors themselves are like weighted but not
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too heavy. Like they're just like a good
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I don't know how to explain it but
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don't want to drop something is when you're
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shaving your face or something special. You don't
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use certain hair products. People are gonna look
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gonna talk about deodorant which is something that needs
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to be talked about more. Lume is our last
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sponsor and they're a deodorant company and trust and
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believe. More people need to put effort into wearing
32:15
deodorant because I'm tired of smelling onions when I'm
32:17
at the gym. But a lot
32:19
of deodorant brands do wear off so a lot
32:21
of people do wear deodorant and then it's not
32:23
the long-lasting type like Lume. Some people put on
32:25
deodorant and think it's like okay just one and
32:27
done. I put it on multiple times throughout the
32:29
day but you need a longer-lasting deodorant. So if
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you've been thinking about a new one or want
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to get a new one Lume, highly recommend. They
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actually have a lot of really good scents but
32:38
the best thing about Lume is it's an all-over
32:40
deodorant. You can literally put it anywhere on your
32:42
body. Do you have to? I don't
32:44
know, depends where you smell. But just
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you know it's safe. You can put
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it wherever you want to. Lume was
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actually created by an OBGYN because the
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doctor saw how normal BO was being
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mistreated and misdiagnosed. And like I said
32:56
Lume's got you covered for a long
32:58
time. At 72 hours it
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claims that it works. I do not ever
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just put on one swipe and hope that
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does it. I put it on multiple times
33:06
throughout the day like I said. But it
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back to the podcast. So a couple things
33:36
I want you to ask yourself if you feel like this is
33:38
hitting home for you is I want
33:40
you to take the focus off of what they're
33:42
getting from you and ask
33:44
yourself like all these things I'm
33:46
doing for them all the ways I'm showing love
33:48
to them do I actually want to do these
33:50
things or do I just feel good doing them
33:53
because I know how it would feel to have
33:55
it done to me. That's a reality check from
33:57
hell but really ask yourself that. Do I actually
33:59
want to do these things or do
34:01
I just think I feel good doing it because
34:04
I know how it would feel to receive it.
34:06
Then you want this person to feel like they're
34:08
special. You want to give them that
34:10
especially if someone's insecure and they come to you and
34:12
they say that they're insecure they feel like they don't
34:14
have anything to offer they don't feel like they're valuable.
34:17
It's like if someone said that to you for
34:19
you to heal them and show them how
34:21
special they really are you would die for
34:23
someone to do that for you. So
34:26
check, are you just trying
34:28
to heal them the way you wish someone would
34:30
heal you? Are you doing these
34:32
things because you actually want to do them
34:34
or are you getting the satisfaction and the
34:37
sense of feeling good about doing them because
34:39
of what it's reflecting? Check
34:41
yourself on that please, please, please, please.
34:43
The next thing you're going to ask yourself because
34:45
now you see everything you're putting into this you're
34:48
showing all this love to this box you're convinced
34:50
was special. What are you getting? I
34:52
want you to take the focus off
34:55
of what they're getting because it's reflecting
34:57
how valuable you are and ask yourself
34:59
what am I getting from this thing?
35:03
And that is going to be a
35:06
real slap in the face most of the time. And one
35:08
more thing I want to point out is
35:11
when you fixate on loving
35:13
someone like this and doing this
35:15
for someone and trying to convince
35:17
yourself this box is so special
35:20
what you're looking for is the
35:22
reaction that they see
35:24
your value because like I said you're
35:26
doing all these things you're seeing what
35:28
you're giving them and you see what
35:31
they're getting because it makes you see
35:33
how special you are. What you're
35:35
now going to be fixated on is confirmation
35:37
that they fucking see it too. If
35:39
you don't feel appreciated you're never going
35:42
to and that is where you can
35:44
fixate on any little inkling
35:46
of them seeing the value in
35:49
you That you see that
35:51
they should be appreciating, That's going to be
35:53
your new fixation. So You're not even going
35:55
to be questioning what you're getting out of
35:58
shit. You're just going to keep doing more
36:00
and more and more. and trying to get
36:02
that reaction and that validation through their appreciation
36:04
of what you're doing. You. See how
36:07
it all makes sense? Now you see,
36:09
I don't want you get caught up
36:11
in that's fixation on the way that
36:13
they react to it and was missing.
36:15
Check your. Fixation. You might
36:17
be have been on. The reaction is so
36:19
you don't get caught in it. And like
36:21
I said before, putting all this effort and
36:24
energy and all this shit and the giddiness
36:26
sparking reassurance to do you even need it?
36:28
Do you even want it now that you're
36:30
aware of it and now that you see
36:32
you're putting a lot more into this than
36:35
you're getting with the Spock inbox. Now you
36:37
can't run the risk of being trapped in.
36:39
That's like your fixation will just jump from
36:41
other special and then to how they're seeing
36:44
that your special. Do. Not let the
36:46
fuck inhabit. Okay, so I know
36:48
I just went on and on about
36:50
when you convince yourself someone, especially when
36:52
they actually aren't how to get reality
36:54
about that great. But now I need
36:56
to hit on when you do actually
36:58
see something special and someone. And.
37:01
What to do about that? The biggest thing you
37:03
need to get. His. Of you
37:05
recognize something about someone as special and
37:07
they don't see it, You cannot make
37:09
them see it. You. Cannot love
37:11
someone and so loving themselves. You can
37:14
not make some one aware of the
37:16
thing that you recognize. If they don't
37:18
see it, they don't see it. And
37:20
the reason I want to warn you
37:22
about it is because you can drive
37:25
yourself stupid and hurt yourself and gets
37:27
to a point where it's bad because
37:29
you're trying to make someone see something
37:31
about themselves as special when they don't.
37:34
So. Remember me saying you cannot love someone
37:36
into loving themselves and I know it's hard
37:38
to deal with that and a lot of
37:40
times you're feeling like you're leading people to
37:42
suffer and like I thought about before, you
37:45
wish someone would have done things for use.
37:47
you're trying to do it for them. You
37:49
have to worry about yourself to try to
37:51
constantly go around and love people and see
37:53
the special one other people and take away
37:56
yours and hurt yourself to make other people
37:58
feel better. He can't do that. More
38:00
you can is is going cause more fuckin headache and
38:02
you're going to be in more pain. Looking at more
38:04
videos like this. But. The reason
38:06
I say you have to sometimes let
38:09
people. Not. See it.
38:11
If they're not gonna see it is because.
38:14
They have to be the ones to take
38:16
care of it. If you recognize something special
38:18
and someone you can't do anything, it's like
38:20
you guys see certain things and me and
38:22
if you saw me start spiraling and not
38:24
acting in line with the gift that I
38:26
have and what I'm able to do and
38:28
being the ultimate version of myself, if you
38:31
guys saw me slipping and not taking care
38:33
of it because I didn't see, this is
38:35
something that needed to be fostered and taking
38:37
care of it would drive you insane trying
38:39
to make me see it. but you cannot
38:41
control if I take care of it or
38:43
not. The special thing that I have when
38:45
you recognize it and somebody you can't control
38:47
of, they take care of it or not,
38:50
it's one of the hardest things to watch.
38:52
But. You. Cannot control of
38:54
it's taken care of or not. It
38:57
takes the person recognizing it and seeing
38:59
it and seeing themselves in a different
39:01
light and seeing themselves as valuable and
39:03
something worth taking care of To take
39:06
care of it and you can try.
39:08
Oh, you want to make someone see
39:10
it and you can get stuck trying
39:12
to make someone see themselves. And
39:14
this is where I'm going to say letting
39:17
them go. Is. Not
39:19
bad. And letting them
39:21
go. Before.
39:23
They see their own value. Does
39:25
it mean you don't care about them and
39:27
doesn't mean you don't see it If you
39:29
see something special and someone letting them go
39:32
doesn't take that away, you're gonna notice and
39:34
feel like are the only thing that reflects
39:36
the and you're like trying to hold on
39:38
to this person because I'm the only thing
39:40
that's like something good in their life and
39:42
reflecting them, something good about themselves and on.
39:44
The only one that can see it and
39:47
I'm the only one that can help them
39:49
see it. For. use a walk
39:51
away it doesn't go away it's always there
39:53
the thing that you see that is so
39:55
special about this person is ready for them
39:57
to act on it and see it is
39:59
so is they start looking. You
40:01
trying to force someone into finding it is not
40:03
going to work. They have to start looking. They
40:06
can't be a match to it because you just
40:08
put their face in a certain direction. They have
40:10
to hunt for it. They have to look for
40:12
it. This is one of the most heartbreaking fucking
40:14
things, but I want to give you that reassurance.
40:17
It doesn't mean you don't care if you walk
40:19
away and it doesn't mean the thing about them
40:21
is going to go away with you because like
40:23
I said, what you put your attention on, it
40:25
ceases to exist when you don't. This is a
40:27
situation where when a value is
40:29
actually there, it's not going
40:32
to go away because you're not focused on
40:34
it. Like you're looking at it like I'm
40:36
the only thing that's making them potentially see
40:38
it or feel it. It's
40:40
going to be there. What needs to happen is
40:43
for them to come face to face with
40:45
it. And sometimes losing someone is what does
40:47
it. If you notice you're
40:50
hurting yourself trying to make someone else
40:52
see that they're special, you
40:54
putting all your focus, energy and attention into
40:56
them is going to be a neglect to
40:58
you. That's why I'm saying you
41:00
need to get in the reality of shit and
41:02
you need to let yourself off the hook. If
41:04
you notice that you're neglecting yourself and you're noticed
41:06
that you're hurting yourself trying to
41:08
make someone see that they're special, it's
41:11
okay to let them go. Some
41:13
people have to get to a point where they
41:15
learn that they have to save themselves. It's
41:17
a very painful place to get to. And I'm sure we
41:20
have all been there. If you listen to me, you
41:22
like me, we've been to the worst of the worst
41:24
shit, right? You know how to save yourself. Some people
41:26
have to hit that point. Some people
41:28
have to stop being saved. So they look
41:30
for it in themselves and they save themselves
41:33
and they look for their own value and
41:35
they see it for themselves. So don't carry
41:37
any guilt for that. But also I want
41:39
you to see how you
41:42
are hanging onto an idea sometimes when you
41:44
are just desperately trying to get someone to
41:46
see their own value because you're selfishly seeing.
41:48
If you could just be like this, you
41:50
could meet all these needs for me. You
41:52
could be exactly what I wanted if you
41:55
would just act like you were fucking special
41:57
and take care of the thing that I
41:59
see. If they don't see it,
42:01
you subconsciously are gonna look at it like
42:03
they're robbing you of both
42:06
potentials. Let's not go down that
42:08
road, okay? Just hear me when
42:10
I say it's okay to let
42:12
someone go. Because that is what's gonna
42:14
kickstart their journey of trying to figure
42:16
out and see that they're special on
42:18
their own. Trust. And
42:21
one other thing that I've learned through
42:23
this long life of 25 years that seems
42:25
like 50 is sometimes people
42:29
are special because they're not
42:31
yours. What someone would
42:33
have to be and who they would
42:35
have to turn into to belong to
42:38
you, to date you, or to be
42:40
friends with you would ruin it.
42:42
Like what makes them special would be ruined
42:44
because they were yours. Some things are not
42:46
meant to be yours. Some things are only
42:48
special and only allowed to be special because
42:50
they can be their own thing. It's like
42:52
with me and people that I've like been
42:54
with my whole life and people that I've
42:56
like been interested in and dated
42:59
and like whatever. Certain aspects
43:01
about them. The thing that
43:03
I was so drawn to and the thing
43:05
that made me so attracted to them was
43:07
like the way that they lived their life
43:09
and their freedom and their creativity. Like I
43:12
love creativity on a motherfucker. But like to
43:15
be able to be creative means you
43:17
have to spend your time doing certain
43:19
things and going certain places. With what
43:21
I require from a partner and what
43:23
I need to feel safe is not
43:25
gonna allow them to fully express themselves
43:27
for who they are. It's
43:29
not that that's bad, but in order
43:31
for them to continue doing what made
43:34
them so special, for me
43:36
to try and date them, it would
43:38
ruin it. It would take away everything
43:40
that they're doing and everything that allows
43:42
them to be seen as special in
43:44
my eyes. It's fucked up and it's
43:46
very sad. Like your love can hurt
43:48
people. Sometimes love is not
43:50
enough and sometimes love can be
43:52
damaging. Especially to a motherfucker that don't
43:54
see their own value when you pour love at them.
43:56
Ooh, it's like pouring like poison on them. They don't
43:59
realize because they're not. not oriented and they
44:01
don't understand love. But same thing with
44:04
seeing something as special and trying to
44:06
make it yours, you can ruin it.
44:09
And sometimes it's only special because it's
44:11
not yours. It's allowed to be its
44:13
own thing. It's allowed to be free.
44:15
It's allowed to be and do what
44:18
makes it it or
44:20
makes them them. And when you try and put
44:22
them in a certain place in your life, it's
44:25
gonna ruin them and ruin
44:27
the thing that you see that made
44:29
them special because of what you need.
44:32
And that's one of the saddest
44:35
fucking things to realize and
44:37
I've had to let a lot
44:39
of things go. That's really fucking
44:41
sad. It's heartbreaking. Like it's really fucking hard to
44:43
go through and like let shit go
44:45
but like sometimes you just have to. And
44:48
what comes with that is the awareness that
44:51
you might always care about certain people
44:53
and certain opportunities and certain things that
44:55
have happened that you no longer have.
44:57
And you can fully care about something and
45:00
let it go. You don't have to stop
45:02
caring before you leave or let something go.
45:04
You can let it go even if you
45:06
love it. And sometimes you might love something
45:09
or love someone even after
45:11
it's gone. Like you see clearly how
45:13
it's not meant to be. When you
45:15
just see that and you
45:17
make the conscious decision to not go forward
45:19
with it, you might always
45:22
care. And that's okay. You
45:24
might always care about certain things about
45:26
people and that's fine. That's a normal part
45:28
of life. But like I
45:30
said you don't have to stop caring to move forward
45:33
and you don't have to not
45:36
look at something as special anymore because
45:38
having it would ruin it. You
45:41
don't have to degrade it and convince yourself
45:43
you don't like it. You can still appreciate
45:45
it and care about it and let it
45:47
go and let it be free.
45:50
It's heartbreaking. It's very hard
45:53
and you might always fucking care.
45:55
But that's okay. Part
45:58
of you human bitch. One
46:00
really big thing to remember is
46:02
if you're only focused on, like I said,
46:04
with the focus thing, if you spend your
46:06
focus and put it on something
46:09
that you've lost and you're upset
46:11
by it, or you're focused on how this
46:14
thing could just change and be different, you're
46:16
putting your focus here on what is not
46:18
right, what is not compatible and what is
46:20
not a match to you. So
46:24
your attention is not going to be able
46:26
to be put on things that are a
46:28
match to you and things that are also
46:30
special over here. You're only focused on this
46:32
shit. You're never going to be a match
46:34
to seeing the opposite or seeing other things
46:36
that are special when you're just hung up
46:38
on this one thing. And like
46:40
I said before, when you remove your attention and
46:42
your focus off of something, the heartbreak of that
46:44
is hard. It's very, very difficult. You're going to
46:46
get through it. You're going to be fucking fine.
46:49
You're going to be more than fine. The
46:52
true end is when you remove your
46:54
attention and your focus from something. When
46:57
you take it off of what doesn't work,
46:59
what isn't right, what is not compatible and
47:01
what you do not want, what can't meet
47:04
your needs, and just the
47:06
situation you know you need to walk away
47:08
from. When you take your focus and attention
47:10
off of it, you're free to put it
47:12
on what is a match to you and
47:14
what is equally as special and a better
47:16
situation and lining up with what you actually
47:18
need in this life, things that are actually
47:20
going to meet your needs, things that are
47:23
actually going to be so much better than
47:26
what you were just hung up on. So like
47:28
I said, removing the attention and the focus is
47:30
the official end. So be
47:32
prepared. When you do decide to
47:35
really take your focus off and take your attention
47:37
off, that's the real end and it's going to
47:40
feel hard and you're going to feel a heartbreak
47:42
and it's going to feel like a breakup all
47:44
over again and it's okay. And sometimes that's beautiful.
47:47
The special thing you see does not go
47:49
away. You're just choosing to go look
47:51
for other special things that
47:53
are going to fill that spot 10 times more. But
47:56
just enjoy that part of life. Love
47:59
and loss. normal. New beginnings are gonna
48:01
come. They're always gonna come, but you're not
48:03
gonna be a match to them till you
48:05
get that goddamn focus off. So do that,
48:08
okay? And
48:10
that is where I'm gonna leave you with this podcast. If
48:12
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48:34
watched this all the way to the end, I just want
48:36
to say I'm proud of you and thank
48:38
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48:40
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