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about the numbness I've been dealing with. And

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if you deal with overwhelm or feeling numb

0:53

and just like you don't really

0:55

care about life at all, this week's episode is going

0:57

to help you. I've learned a couple of things this

0:59

week. But I learned that numbness helps

1:01

you deal with overwhelm. And

1:04

I also learned how overwhelm is an excuse a lot

1:06

of the time. So we're going to get there. The

1:08

first thing I want to talk about is I've just

1:10

been doing and living life by what I feel guided

1:12

to do. And I felt guided to

1:14

all of a sudden just get up and

1:16

run to New York. And I've been living

1:18

in New York for the past three weeks,

1:20

just staying at different hotels, popping around in

1:22

different areas, doing different things. Just

1:25

having a life of chaos

1:27

and stability is the only thing

1:29

I resonated with. And I realized

1:31

why. My little life I had

1:33

in LA with a stable,

1:35

consistent apartment and everything

1:38

kind of being predictable and everything just

1:40

being stable. I didn't resonate

1:42

with it. I didn't like it. It started

1:44

to make me feel like I was

1:47

going insane. And it's because my

1:49

internal and the way I've been feeling

1:51

and everything inside of me has been

1:54

the opposite. Every single day, I have

1:56

felt completely different. I deal

1:58

with a lot internally. And

2:00

my internal world was such chaos. It

2:02

was not stable. It was not consistent.

2:05

So having a reality and

2:07

an external that was stable,

2:09

consistent, and all the opposite of

2:11

how I felt inside felt

2:13

like a gas light. And that's one of the worst

2:16

things in my opinion is when you're external and

2:18

your internal don't match. So I didn't know why

2:20

I felt guided to just run away and have

2:23

my life be chaos, but I've been liking it.

2:25

Where is my phone? Cause it keeps fucking vibrating.

2:28

All right, phone is fine. Realization

2:31

was internal external didn't match.

2:33

And I felt so much more

2:36

relief being here and my life being

2:38

chaos and everything kind of like being

2:40

all opposite of what it was because

2:43

it matches how I actually feel. And

2:45

having my internal kind

2:47

of be reflected on my external has made

2:49

it feel easier to deal with and manage.

2:51

And I don't feel so crazy when I

2:53

look around, like when I was in LA,

2:55

I would look around and see stability and

2:57

like really no reason for me to be

2:59

feeling the way that I was feeling. Nothing

3:01

really like making sense. Now it all makes

3:03

sense. Now it feels like I can handle

3:05

it and do it. It feels a lot

3:07

more clear because it's outside of me. I

3:09

like when things are reflected as a mirror

3:11

cause that's what your external reality is. So

3:13

everything being actual chaos around me now has

3:15

brought me a new level of understanding with

3:18

the way that I feel and everything going on.

3:20

It's just something I kind of realized with that,

3:22

like feeling called to it. What this has done

3:25

is the feeling of overwhelm that

3:27

I've felt for the past year and

3:29

a half, two years since I came

3:31

out to fucking womb. The feeling of

3:33

overwhelm is now on 10. And

3:36

this period of absolute numbness

3:39

that I'm going through, the

3:41

feeling of overwhelm is kind of

3:43

there, but it doesn't hit like

3:45

it did. I just noticed the

3:48

overwhelm. I don't feel the overwhelm.

3:50

I don't have really any desires.

3:52

Like my desire now is to

3:54

have a desire. And my

3:56

desire is to care. Like I wish I could care

3:58

about shit. And the sense of... overwhelm is

4:00

there not the feeling but like just

4:02

the general overwhelm is still there I

4:05

just don't care that it's there so

4:07

you can't just let things go you

4:10

have to understand why things are in your life

4:12

why you're feeling things sticky things doing things before

4:14

you try and let a thought pattern or a

4:16

behavior go you can't just let it go so

4:18

I went into overwhelm and I kind of like

4:20

did shadow work on it and this is gonna

4:22

build in a couple of layers and kind of

4:24

I'm gonna hit back to the numbness in a

4:26

second but first thing I learned with overwhelm is

4:29

the overwhelm is an excuse to

4:31

be authentic because the

4:33

past like two years of my

4:36

life especially being so fucking

4:38

overwhelmed and having so much I'm doing and

4:40

trying to achieve it so much I'm working

4:42

on served as an excuse

4:45

and kind of was a

4:47

shield to not giving a

4:49

fuck about other people's reactions to me like

4:52

I've been able to say no and

4:54

do what I actually want to do not hang out

4:56

with certain people if I don't want to do something

4:58

and I got an excuse basically of like oh I'm

5:00

working on these things I have this to do I

5:02

have that to do and people

5:05

usually don't fight you

5:07

or have a negative reaction when

5:10

they understand why

5:12

what you're doing takes priority over them or

5:15

why you're choosing to not see

5:17

them or do some shit the feeling of

5:19

overwhelm literally gave me an excuse to actually

5:21

do what I wanted to do like it

5:23

assisted me because for me to say I

5:25

wanted to do something I felt something I

5:27

didn't want to do certain shit or I

5:29

wanted to prioritize what I wanted to prioritize

5:32

myself and my goals I got to hide

5:34

behind a shield it's like making sure everybody

5:36

could see how overwhelmed I was and how

5:38

much I was dealing with and

5:40

showing that it was about work and things I'm

5:42

trying to do it gave

5:44

me like a protection from any

5:47

negative reaction or like a consequence

5:49

and when you tell someone you

5:51

have to work or you're dealing with

5:53

a lot of things you put

5:55

them in a position to have to be understanding and

5:58

if they're not you get to say that they're an

6:00

asshole and that they're a bad guy. So I realized

6:02

a lot of this. There's a lot more to it

6:05

than it seems but that's kind of like

6:07

the generalization about the overwhelm but I started

6:09

to notice I don't give

6:11

a fuck right now because I feel very numb

6:13

but like the feeling of overwhelm

6:16

is still there and I

6:18

realized I've had myself like trapped

6:20

in a mindset of overwhelm like

6:23

because it was such a good excuse and it

6:25

kept me safe, overwhelm was

6:27

safety for me. Because like I said

6:29

you don't have to feel responsible for

6:31

other people's understanding, lack of understanding or

6:33

negative reaction toward you being authentic and

6:36

prioritizing yourself but that was the main

6:38

thing that got popping in my head

6:40

was overwhelm is safety and that's when

6:42

I was like I've been fighting to

6:44

maintain a sense of overwhelm because of what

6:47

it gave me. In certain days I wouldn't

6:49

have that much shit I had to do

6:51

but I consistently had that feeling of overwhelm

6:53

and I started to realize I was kind

6:56

of like diluting myself not diluting what's the

6:58

word like I was in a delusion and

7:00

I was like keeping myself in the delusion

7:02

and piling more onto my plate and

7:05

trapping myself in this feeling of overwhelm

7:08

so that I didn't lose it because it was

7:10

safe to be in it. So I just kept packing shit

7:12

on and taking on more and more and more and trying

7:14

to do more and more even if there was days where

7:17

I didn't have a lot to do I still

7:19

was in that mindset of like I'm so

7:21

overwhelmed like feeling like my attention is and

7:23

everything is like dragged a hundred different directions

7:25

so I still got to maintain that excuse

7:27

and that shield of protection

7:30

from people to not deal with their

7:32

fucking shit and going through

7:34

being in a fight-or-flight kind of feeling state for

7:37

so long like my life was not hell like

7:39

this seems like it would be hell but like

7:41

my life was good I was still having fun

7:43

I was still happy and enjoying things but I

7:46

did get to have that little excuse but being

7:48

in that place and constantly feeling that stress of

7:50

the overwhelm is when that numbness kicked in and

7:52

it kicked in about six seven months ago like

7:55

I talked about in my last couple episodes and

7:57

now I no longer feel the overwhelm I

7:59

just Notice it like

8:01

I noticed the presence of overwhelm, but

8:03

I don't feel that Sting

8:05

and like the emotional charge with it

8:08

and that's the hard part because it

8:10

is very charging emotionally to feel overwhelmed

8:12

and be in fight-or-flight mode, but What

8:15

the numbness has done is like removed

8:18

any emotional boost I feel with the

8:20

panic with the overwhelm with being strung

8:22

out with so much shit and The

8:26

numbness removed any desire

8:28

any enjoyment any anything

8:31

and like numbed out all the emotion and I

8:34

don't feel boosted by the overwhelm anymore

8:36

I feel even more drained by it

8:38

and also the numbness has made me

8:41

not give a fuck that it's there

8:43

like I truly don't care about letting

8:47

people down or Consequences

8:50

or dealing with shit. I'm more just like

8:52

okay. I wish I had the emotion to

8:54

care but my like

8:57

mental emotional everything is like preventing me

8:59

from That emotional

9:01

like thing like there's no emotional charge

9:03

left to be found and I see

9:05

why I see why

9:07

like now I have to really full throttle

9:10

face my shit and take accountability for it

9:12

and like Own it and

9:14

even with guilt Like I

9:16

do I notice guilt But I don't

9:18

feel the guilt if

9:21

that makes sense like I don't feel the overwhelm.

9:23

I don't feel the guilt I

9:25

just notice it and when it comes

9:27

to like letting people down or like not doing shit that

9:29

I'm supposed to be doing Or things that I like Know

9:32

I should be doing not like you have to do it

9:34

But like all this shit that I know I need to

9:36

do and like want to be doing I wish I cared

9:39

to do it And I do not

9:41

feel that I care that I don't do it

9:43

like I noticed the guilt I noticed why I

9:46

would be like damn or like whatever

9:48

but like guilt is very emotionally

9:50

charging and motivating So I'm having

9:52

to navigate all this shit without

9:54

any emotional charge or like jolt

9:57

From anything and it's like I talked about

9:59

before a funk off just like sheer willpower.

10:02

I'm in it, girl, I'm really in it. But

10:05

like how the overwhelm served as an excuse, now the

10:07

numbness kind of serves as an excuse if I wanted

10:09

to, but I don't give a fuck. Like

10:12

I said, I wish I could care, but I don't.

10:14

So I don't really feel like I need an excuse

10:17

while the numbness is here. You see

10:19

how the numbness is here to cope with the overwhelm, but the

10:21

overwhelm was an excuse, but this

10:23

just removed my need for an excuse? You

10:25

see how it all like fills out, like,

10:27

I never look at anything as an accident,

10:29

and that's why I say feelings are visitors,

10:32

and they're there, they have messages. This

10:34

is all happening for me. I'm not through it.

10:36

I'm still in this process. Like

10:38

I'm not like over it and all this shit,

10:40

because it's like, okay, cool. I learn all these

10:43

things, and I'm kind of at a point of like going

10:46

through the motions and like figuring things out

10:48

as I go. But with the

10:50

numbness and the overwhelm and everything going on, I

10:52

kind of hit a point where I

10:55

feel like it's very hard just to

10:57

take care of myself, and I

10:59

hit on this last episode, but this

11:02

has become very apparent, and

11:04

I'm at a point where I feel

11:07

like I can't just be the only one

11:09

taking care of me, and

11:11

that's very hard to admit. And

11:14

part of the reason it's so hard to admit

11:16

is because of the excuse of the overwhelm. If

11:19

you start asking people for help, the excuse

11:21

goes away because you're not as overwhelmed. Like you want to

11:23

be trapped in it if it serves you. That's

11:25

why it's very important to do shadow work

11:27

and see the subconscious of how shit's happening

11:29

for you. You can't just let it go.

11:31

Like I can say, oh, I want to

11:33

have people help me, and I want to

11:36

like go off this feeling I feel now of like I

11:38

can't be the only one taking care of me, but if

11:41

I'm attached to the overwhelm because I don't understand it, I'm

11:43

never going to allow in that help because I

11:45

feel like I need the excuse of the overwhelm.

11:48

You're going to just self-sabotage and feel like you're

11:50

stuck in that cycle. So

11:52

reflecting is very fucking important, and I'm just kind

11:54

of like unraveling everything I've been reflecting on. But

11:56

with getting to that point of, I feel like

11:58

it's getting a little too hard. hard to take

12:01

care of myself and I don't want to continue

12:04

forward being the only one taking

12:06

care of me. I don't. That's

12:08

so fucking hard for me to admit but

12:11

I see how I was attached to the why

12:13

so it's a little bit easier but that's still

12:15

fucking hard to admit. I

12:17

don't want to admit that I need help

12:19

and need people and want to have people

12:21

help me and want to have people just

12:23

take care of myself but also

12:25

I realized with like everything I've

12:28

been doing on social media when it was just

12:30

me building like the audience

12:32

and like growing and making content that was

12:34

my focus but now that I have so

12:36

much of the business back-in shit going on

12:39

it's not just making the content and

12:42

growing online that I can do I

12:44

can easily go back to that and

12:46

get rid of all this fucking pressure

12:48

but this has all become a

12:50

business now because I'm signed to certain agencies

12:52

and people and this has become a business

12:55

and for me to be

12:58

so involved in the business side and

13:00

also still be expected to make content

13:02

and be the talent and like everything

13:05

on the front end and

13:07

the back end is not

13:09

reasonable at all so

13:11

me saying oh I don't want to feel

13:14

like the only person taking care of me

13:16

that's not unrealistic and it's not unfair it's

13:18

very much fucking normal I cannot be the

13:21

only person taking care of me and continue

13:23

forward with the way things are going absolutely

13:26

fucking not I have no desire to continue

13:28

the way things are but I do have

13:30

like great strength in me but there are

13:32

times where I feel kind of like weak

13:34

and a little bit fragile and those are

13:36

the times when I want people to step

13:38

up and kind of like

13:40

help take care of me and I was

13:43

kind of like fighting back and forth with this and

13:45

I was cussing out my spirit guides and I was

13:47

like what the fuck is this about what is this

13:49

fucking about I don't like this somebody give me a

13:51

goddamn answer and I was talking to the universe and

13:54

I was just a little too fucking annoyed and I

13:56

was like give me an answer of Some

13:59

kind of explanation? What is going on with this? Why

14:01

is it all of us and so hard to take

14:03

care of me to the thought of self love issue

14:05

and seven to do with that. It's. Not

14:07

that I don't care about myself.

14:10

it's got nothing to do with.aspect

14:12

is just legs just defeated. fuckin.

14:15

What's the point? attitude and life.

14:17

I started hearing. And

14:19

like the back of my head, it takes

14:21

a village. And. I was

14:23

like. Ah, and I heard

14:25

of again. It takes a village. It

14:28

takes a village. It takes a village

14:30

Nozick. What the fuck is that? To

14:32

have Big D little clear be like

14:34

speaking my regards like I don't care

14:36

to be respectful right now I don't

14:38

care. I don't I was.

14:40

I did, but I kind of sat with

14:42

that for a second. I was a guy,

14:45

he takes a village my stubbornness and like

14:47

now I could fuck do everything myself Only

14:49

nobody for nothing at this point in my

14:51

life. Right now I know I don't need

14:53

any one and I can continue forward how

14:55

I have been. Inches exhaust my willpower and

14:57

keep going, but I don't want to if

14:59

that's what life looks like. So.

15:03

That's when that whole it takes a village.

15:06

I. Realized that was relief. For.

15:08

Me to continue forward. Right now I can keep

15:10

going the way that I'm going to do when

15:12

I've been doing and like it takes a fucking

15:15

village for the things that I want to achieve

15:17

in the things that I want to do. I

15:19

don't really feel like I want them anymore, but

15:21

I know that they're still. There are things I've

15:23

wanted for a while, but it's gonna take a

15:25

village, but I cannot be the only one taking

15:28

care of me right now. The way that I

15:30

feel. About everything and

15:32

just this numbness. Been here. It's.

15:34

Kind of. Giving. Me

15:36

two options of like. Bring. In

15:39

reinforcement, reach out and grab someone's

15:41

hand and ask for help. Or.

15:44

Stop. So.

15:47

Nuts color where I'm at now and it

15:49

is not as easy as just oh. Ask

15:51

for help. I have

15:54

to let go of my entire

15:56

identity to even begin to ask

15:58

for help. And I am grateful

16:00

now. That. The numbness is

16:02

here while I'm in this period of

16:05

transition. To. This next to me. Because.

16:08

Asking for help. There's a lot of guilt.

16:10

With. Me: And like

16:12

I said, giving up my identity.

16:15

For. Being such a strong and like

16:17

independent don't need shit type person with

16:19

asking for help I'm numb to the

16:21

guilt. I'm numb to

16:24

feeling bad right now. I'm not

16:26

that I don't have a conscience,

16:28

but I'm numb to like all

16:30

the shit.is gonna come from. Learning

16:33

to lean on people and ask. Are

16:35

people in learning to like grabbed someone's

16:37

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16:39

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16:42

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19:23

trained to ask for help and include

19:25

people like an avid. An issue right

19:27

now with move into so many hotels,

19:29

I didn't expect to be gone this

19:31

fucking month. I just book this place

19:33

for two weeks. So I'm gonna have

19:35

been gone from L A for a

19:38

month and a week. As of right

19:40

now. I'm probably going to keep staying,

19:42

but. I. didn't tackiness shit i'm running on

19:44

underwear and tank top like i i need to

19:46

get my laundry done i was thinking of like

19:48

trying to book a place with a in unit

19:50

laundry and dryer thing good luck and luck in

19:52

new york but one of my friends told me

19:54

about this service were like they come and pick

19:57

up your laundry take it and clean it and

19:59

then bring it back to you and you pay

20:01

a certain fee. But my friend Brooke has been

20:03

staying with me and like coming to see me,

20:06

because she lives in Jersey and she's been like driving her to come see me

20:08

and hang out. And she was like, Leo, like

20:10

you should have told me, I literally would have taken your

20:12

clothes, went home and washed them and then brought them back

20:14

to you. And like,

20:17

I felt so like shell

20:19

shocked because I didn't even think of that

20:22

fucking possibility. Like it made my heart so

20:24

warm. And I was like, oh my God,

20:26

like what the fuck? Like that was so

20:28

sweet. But like, it made me realize my

20:30

brain is really not trained to even think

20:33

of possibilities where I rely on someone or

20:36

ask for someone's hand to help me. And

20:38

this is gonna be a whole fucking learning process.

20:41

I see how it's gonna be good and it's gonna

20:43

bring me back to feeling connected with people and this

20:46

is all for the betterment. But this is about to

20:48

be a process from hell with letting go

20:50

who I am, how I've been and

20:52

like letting my brain be

20:55

rewired to need people. I've

20:58

prided myself so long off of

21:00

not needing fucking nobody. I've always

21:02

been very, if someone walks

21:04

into my life, I'm gonna be

21:06

just fucking fine when you walk out.

21:09

I've prided myself off of that. I've

21:11

prided myself off of needing fucking nobody

21:13

and always being okay, whether

21:16

I lose the closest person to me or

21:18

just a fucking friend. Like I've set

21:20

myself up to be okay like that. That

21:22

no longer serves me. That no longer is

21:25

gonna let me get to where I

21:27

wanna go. So this next

21:29

version of me is one that needs people. And

21:32

it makes

21:35

me wanna throw the fuck up thinking about stepping into

21:37

that. But I know it's

21:39

what I need to do. So I've

21:42

started taking a couple of steps but

21:45

that's really where I'm at now. I've realized a

21:47

lot of things like this. I'm just taking shit

21:49

day by day. This is

21:51

like just the things I've realized. What I'm gonna

21:53

do about it, I don't fucking know yet. I'm

21:55

literally taking it day by day because I don't

21:57

know really what I wanna do. I'm

22:00

just kind of figuring out how I'm able to

22:02

continue and go through the motions. And that's one

22:04

thing I set myself up to do. And

22:07

I think that's what next week's episode is going to be

22:09

about is like how I'm continuing through the motions. I don't

22:11

know what the fuck it's going to be. I set myself

22:13

up now to go through the

22:15

motions better, where I booked

22:17

a place with a full kitchen and I'm booked

22:19

next to a lot of gyms, like walking distance

22:21

near me so I can get back into a

22:23

kind of like little bit of a routine with

22:26

getting into the gym and like cooking for myself

22:28

because it's been fun and it's been exciting of

22:30

like figuring out what the fuck I'm going to

22:32

eat every day and just kind of winging it.

22:35

That's been cool. But now I'm at a point where

22:37

like, all right, let's

22:39

make it a little easier to go

22:41

through the motions and start

22:43

freeing up some of my effort and energy off

22:46

of just surviving and see what

22:48

comes up. That's kind of what

22:50

I'm going to do. And I'm not going to give

22:52

up on the things that I want, like going to

22:54

the gym and taking care of myself and certain work

22:57

things that I'm doing. I'm not giving up on the

22:59

podcast at all. Even though

23:01

I don't give a fuck about shit right now,

23:03

I'm still going through the motions just in case

23:05

I care again. And these

23:07

are things that I've wanted and cared about so much

23:09

for so long just because I'm in a period of

23:12

I don't care. I'm still going

23:14

to make myself go

23:16

through with as much as I can right

23:18

now while I'm asking for help and

23:21

while I'm like bringing people in to help me do

23:23

it. But that's

23:25

a big thing with going

23:28

through the motions. It's like you care about certain

23:30

things, but all of a sudden you stop caring.

23:32

But it's like, am I sure I don't care

23:34

or is it just like a numbness

23:36

period? So I'm still going to go through the motions

23:39

and I'll share what I learned through that. But

23:42

the biggest thing I'm dealing with right

23:44

now before I end this episode is

23:47

I'm not able to feel

23:50

gratitude. I'm

23:52

not able to be grateful for shit right

23:54

now. Like I do have moments in

23:56

my days where I'm like happy. I'm enjoying shit. I'm having

23:58

a good time. But deep down, I

24:02

can't appreciate anything. I feel

24:04

a giant block to

24:06

it. That's kind of what

24:08

I'm gonna be going into the next few days,

24:10

week, whatever. But it's like

24:12

the numbness thing. I'm not able to

24:14

feel gratitude. Like I notice certain

24:17

things and like it's obvious what I

24:19

should be grateful for and what I

24:21

should feel appreciation for. I don't fucking

24:23

feel it at all. I

24:26

don't feel grateful for shit

24:29

really. I notice where I

24:31

could and should have

24:33

appreciation and gratitude, but

24:36

I can't tap into feeling it. I

24:38

think it's got to do with the numbness, but that's

24:41

a really hard spot to kind of be

24:43

in and it's not fun. But

24:46

like I said, there's no guilt. So like, you

24:48

know, I'm gonna take a lot of things of

24:50

like, oh, you should be grateful for this. You

24:52

should be this. And when you're not, some people

24:54

will like shame themselves. I don't really do that.

24:57

But even if I did try to make myself

24:59

seem ungrateful, I can't feel it. I don't give

25:01

a fuck. Like you should be grateful for this.

25:03

You should be grateful for the way that you

25:05

look and your health and like having a financial

25:07

situation that you've always wanted. Like

25:11

I can logically appreciate it, but I don't feel it.

25:14

And I don't wanna lose it, but

25:17

something's blocking me from accessing and

25:19

appreciating it and I'm gonna

25:21

go into that because this is, this

25:23

is not fun. I

25:26

feel like when I try and convince myself to

25:28

be grateful for things,

25:30

I'm bullshitting myself. So

25:33

I don't look at it like something's wrong

25:35

with me. I'm just looking

25:37

at it like there's definitely a block and I

25:39

wanna figure out what that is. Even just after

25:42

noticing what I explained in this episode with the

25:44

overwhelm and understanding the numbness and all of that,

25:47

it's starting to lighten up a

25:49

little bit. Like the numbness is

25:52

lightening up a little. I'm

25:54

talking a real little, like a

25:57

sliver, a hair that I don't have.

26:00

But I'm really just giving myself permission to

26:03

survive for a little bit and go

26:05

through the motions and just that fucking be enough

26:07

So that's where I'm at right now. If

26:09

you like this episode, leave me a comment. Let me

26:12

know I love that we're on this journey together. We're

26:14

all miserable fucks in the comments I love it. But

26:16

if you want to keep up with me more day

26:19

to day I post a lot on snapchat if you

26:21

want to add me it's Leo Skeppy I'll post in

26:23

the description everything you need from me my tick-tock my

26:25

Instagram I've been showing like what I'm up to on

26:27

tick-tock Like I'm having like a fun moment and I'm

26:29

happy and I'm up and I'm like enjoying shit a

26:31

little bit I post it's fun, but I will leave

26:33

all my social media link in the description I'll also

26:35

leave my chronically unimpressed merch which I've been wearing the

26:38

hell out of cuz I just need everyone to know

26:40

I'm numb right now. I'm chronically unimpressed at

26:42

everything. Leave me alone But

26:45

that's all I got for you this week. So

26:47

I hope it helped or I hope it just

26:49

made you feel a little less alone Everybody be

26:51

safe Take care of yourself and

26:54

I will talk to you guys next Sunday Oh

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