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This. Episode is going to piss a lot of people

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off, but you know where? I'll.

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Do It. Hi friends!

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This week we're talking about how lack

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of discipline makes you ugly and as

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a couple difficult boys, I'm going to

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explain how it makes you ugly. One

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is how other people see you and

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one is how you see yourself. We're

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going to break all that shit down.

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Her: Basically, when it comes to discipline

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and looking and being attractive and feeling

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attractive, it all comes down to respect.

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That's. The core of it? because even if someone's

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kind of ugly, if you respect them, you're gonna

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want to com a little more. But.

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In all seriousness, when you respect someone

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you are more attracted to them, you

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find the more attractive. And when you respect

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yourself, you feel more attractive. So I'm

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very excited for this episode. But one

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little thing I want to throw at you

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before we jump into all this is

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the only way that you will begin

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to respect yourself is by going through hardship.

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There's. No way around it. There's

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no way to. Get.

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The sense of competence and the sense

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of respect. For. Yourself or for anyone

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to get it without going through hardship are

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doing some hardship as just the way it

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goes. Sorry babe survey I tried everything. That's.

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Why I'm here to share. Would actually works and

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this episodes probably going to piss lot of people

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off. So if you're like a little sensitive little

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daffodil the girl dandy lie and you could just

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be like fucked up with one little like blow

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away cook off Now I'm not going to war

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new. This is for the people who really want

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to grow and change themselves though. You've.

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Been warned. Against Us

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Census is about being attractive. We're going to

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start off with how other people see you

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and then will get into your relationship with

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yourself and how you see yourself and how

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you feel more attractive. So. when

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it comes to how other people see

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you first thing we're talking about is

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your body and fitness am i don't

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want to be that mother fucker that

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preaches that shit all the time but

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it's true and there's so much weight

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that's held to it having a nice

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body is just the most unspoken silent

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flex you can fuck and have because

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it's a silent way to

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display certain character traits. Because

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if someone has a nice body and they're into

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fitness and they've built their body to look a

2:08

certain way, that takes a lot. And

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it reveals a lot about a person's character.

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Someone has to be very controlled. Emotionally, physically,

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they have to be willing to endure pain

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and physical things that don't feel good. Like

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you think working out is fun, bitch? No,

2:21

I hate it. It shows that someone is

2:23

able to be consistent and that they're able

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to work hard. And those are really, really

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big character traits that will

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make someone more attractive. So like just by

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having a nice body, it's like people think having

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a Rolex is gonna like make people respect you.

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They're gonna think, oh, they got some money.

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They're not gonna respect you. Being physically

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fit demands a

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certain respect you can't get. Like

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your best accessory to an outfit is a

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nice body, bitch. I

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hate to say it, but it's the fucking

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truth. And I'm not fat shaming. I'm not

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fucking none of that. I'm not body shaming.

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Physically looking a certain way does help. And

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these are the things that I've observed. And

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the big thing about respect when you have

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a nice body, people kind

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of like immediately respect you because

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you hold yourself in high regard.

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So it immediately makes someone subconsciously

3:12

hold you in a higher regard

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because people see it. Like if

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they see the way that you

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treat yourself is good, they're

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gonna know that you expect that from them.

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They know you're not gonna allow no fuck

3:25

shit. And they're not gonna allow you to

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mistreat them because they don't even mistreat themselves.

3:29

So it sets up this barrier of like

3:31

respect and like, oh shit, like I better

3:33

come correct. So that's just something I've really

3:35

noticed and it's fucking hot. Like you

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don't have to say shit. Your body just speaks

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for itself. And that's one of like

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the biggest things with discipline is

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like having a nice body shows you are

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extremely disciplined. And a lot of people are

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like, oh, they're born with a good body.

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A lot of people with good bodies are

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a lot more disciplined and put in a lot more

3:55

effort than you think. So people

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that grew up like genetically.

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Get paid his mother fuckers. They don't have to

4:02

put in like that much work to maintain their

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body or they don't feel like it's that much

4:06

work. Every single person to see what a good

4:08

body has to do something for it. To.

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Maintain it. And. To get it's a look

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the way that it does. whether it's the way that they eat.

4:15

Or. Will they exercise? There's something they've done

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to look The whether they love people, don't

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just look good by accident. I promise of

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people like to make it seem like that.

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And the way. People. That

4:25

look good and just have good genetics.

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You assume that they just look that

4:30

good on accident. Their daily habits

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and their relationship with food or their relationships

4:34

have been active might just be different. So

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they don't look at it as effort or

4:38

like they're having to try to do things

4:40

they were just raise the certain way they

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behave the certain way and done certain things

4:45

to their body for so long. It's just

4:47

their sense of normal so they don't look

4:49

at it as effort. Whereas if you're someone

4:51

who has like a bad body and you

4:53

were genetically fucked up like me, you're going

4:55

out to put in a lot of effort.

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To. Change those habits and behaviors and also the

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genetics that you have to flip it if

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that makes sense. And the other thing with

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respect, I used to look like shit. And.

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I had a lot of misplaced confidence, but

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if I looked now the way I used

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to look didn't really take that good of

5:13

care of myself, I wouldn't be taken serious

5:15

like you wouldn't take the things that I

5:18

have to say seriously. Because. When someone

5:20

just talks about, sit like when I talked

5:22

to, thought what, they don't walk, the walk,

5:24

their fuckin' opinion and all the things that

5:26

they're saying are immediately wiped out there. It's

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just like it's so easily discredited and ah,

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that's not always the case, but. It

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adds to it. Having discipline makes you more

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credible. I hate that that's the way that

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it is, but that's how it is. From.

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Someone has been on both sides. Sabi.

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So for me to talk about anything fitness

5:46

related. It's more trustworthy. any

5:48

kind of holds more weight because I

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have the body to show for it,

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like I have the actual experience and

5:54

result a lot of people want. So

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I'm more credible to talk about it

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like a. Go before you go to

6:01

a therapist who has just read books and

6:03

got through school and has a degree. Vs.

6:06

If you go to a therapist who has been

6:08

through the exact situations you've been through with a

6:10

fucked you think can actually be able to help

6:12

you and who are you actually going to take

6:14

the advice from Syria? Take it from the one

6:16

who's been where you are and has actual experience

6:19

with it because they'll be able to teach you

6:21

the tips and things that will truly get you

6:23

out of the end result things versus someone who's

6:25

read what's worked in a book. That shit barely

6:27

fucking works and realize why is this? So many

6:29

people are on medication. They. Are not

6:31

actually help you bitch. They prescribe be some shit

6:33

and I'm not saying that people who are out

6:36

of shape. Don't. Have value to

6:38

share under saying in the regards to fitness but

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I do want to bring that up like there

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are people who are out of safe that do

6:44

know a lot and have so much value to

6:46

contribute. the you don't get this just right someone

6:49

off because they don't look a certain way. I

6:51

don't like that shit I'm just saying of holds

6:53

more credibility but does that mean that everything they

6:55

say should be written off? know you can learn

6:57

from every once. but when the package. Matches.

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The amount of values you can share, it's

7:03

valued more and it's more credible, if that

7:05

makes sense. Slots. On talking about what the

7:07

whole respect said at the same thing goes like

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if I was a miserable fuck and I'm over

7:12

here sad, drinking every night and like doing drugs

7:14

as if I can get to the day if

7:16

I'm on here making a podcast. Sharon ways to

7:18

like, improve your life and to feel better and

7:20

to be happier. How much of that are you

7:23

really gonna believe if I'm living the opposite. Sex.

7:27

On a derailed for a minute. but you get

7:29

my point with that. Now I want to jump

7:31

into your relationship with food. That's.

7:33

A big one and that was a lot deeper

7:35

than people realize and from someone who has had

7:37

a very bad problem with binge eating in the

7:40

past, I'm free to speak about it. So typically

7:42

when people have an issue with food, they get

7:44

emotional and they'll get upset and then they become

7:46

very careless with the food that they eat and

7:49

how they treat themselves and what they do. So.

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They get upset. and they

7:53

want comfort and they prioritize gaining

7:55

comfort over everything so they would

7:58

discard their goals discard anything

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they're working toward, they'll discard any of the

8:02

consequences that are gonna come, not look at

8:04

them, not pay attention to them, and just

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do right now what it takes to feel

8:08

comforted, which is eat, and I used to

8:10

do that a lot. But this is very

8:12

off-putting, because you can't trust yourself. Like

8:15

you cannot trust yourself if every time you

8:17

get upset, you just throw away all discipline

8:19

and all of your goals and everything that

8:21

you want just for your right now sense

8:23

of comfort, because that's what it is. So

8:25

it proves that you can't trust yourself, and other

8:27

people are gonna see that. They're gonna see it

8:30

in your body, or if you're someone that's skinny,

8:32

but still binge eats and has a bad relationship

8:34

with food, they're gonna see it in your behavior.

8:36

And then they're gonna think to themselves

8:39

subconsciously, if they can't trust themselves, they're

8:41

willing to throw everything away for some

8:43

comfort, why would I expect not to

8:45

be thrown away when they need comfort?

8:47

Because like if we're friends or we're

8:49

dating, and you prioritize comfort

8:51

and do not care about any

8:53

of the consequences, it's human nature

8:56

to assume, and to want

8:58

to stay away from someone, because I'm immediately gonna

9:00

think, it's gonna be subconscious, the

9:02

way that you seek comfort, and you don't care about

9:04

any of the consequences, and you're willing to throw away

9:06

everything that you care about for comfort

9:08

right now, if you get

9:10

upset with me, you're gonna

9:12

comfort yourself, and you don't give a fuck if the

9:14

way that you comfort yourself hurts me. So

9:17

you're a liability. And I know that's like reading too

9:19

much into shit, but I'm a Pisces, it's what I

9:21

do. But this is

9:23

something that will make you seem less attractive, because

9:25

you're not safe to care about, you're not safe

9:27

to be with. If like you show that you

9:29

prioritize comfort and don't care about the consequences, what's

9:32

to say that doesn't lead into your personal relationships too?

9:35

And I guarantee what does, you're just not aware of it yet, because

9:37

I used to. So my

9:39

next thing with discipline is people are going to

9:41

assess how you'll treat them

9:44

by watching how you treat yourself, and

9:47

by seeing how committed you are to things, and how

9:49

much you care about things, and what you're willing to

9:51

do for them. And that's just human

9:53

fucking nature, we all do it. And

9:56

this determines how attractive they see you,

9:58

because the biggest thing with humans Like

10:00

the more people care about you, the

10:02

more you care about them. Like there's

10:04

this weird thing of like the

10:06

more someone loves you and makes you think you

10:08

love them more because like they're seeing the value

10:10

in you and it's like, like it's the

10:12

weirdest fucking shit, the sweetest shit. But it's someone

10:15

that you see value in when they see the

10:17

value in you, that's when you feel

10:19

the love. But like there's plenty of people who will be

10:21

a goddamn simp and you don't go to fuck about them.

10:23

But even with those, like there's someone

10:25

like so beneath your like standards, if they

10:27

show appreciation to you, it makes you think

10:30

that you like them. So basically with

10:32

attractiveness, being controlled

10:34

and being committed to something

10:37

is hot. That's the

10:39

hottest fucking thing you can do because that

10:41

means you're safe and it shows you're willing

10:43

to do what it takes for something you

10:45

care about. That can unravel

10:47

in a lot of different ways, but like however it just hits

10:49

you is how it's needed to hit you. So whatever that just

10:51

made you aware of, good. So

10:54

the next thing I want to talk about

10:56

is achievements with how other people see you

10:59

because to achieve anything, whether it's socially recognized

11:01

or not, like if you get a

11:03

title or a degree or you have some kind of

11:05

accomplishment that shows that you

11:07

have dedication, you're willing to work towards something,

11:09

you're willing to commit to something and you're

11:12

willing to be disciplined for it. People

11:14

that have achieved a lot of shit are more

11:16

attractive. Like when the fuck have you been attracted

11:18

to someone who's like not done shit? Very

11:21

rare because people's entire

11:24

judgment and opinion of me flips

11:27

when they find out that I am a nurse.

11:29

I'm an RN. I worked as an RN for

11:31

three years. I graduated at 21 and became a

11:33

nurse. I quit doing that because

11:35

I'm doing my own shit now and it's doing good. But

11:39

that just knowing I'm a nurse fucks

11:41

with so many people's heads and it puts me

11:43

like in a higher place of respect

11:46

and a lot of people's minds because it's

11:48

a reflection of the knowledge that I

11:50

have, the skills that I have, the

11:52

dedication that I have and the fucking

11:54

drive and also the humility because it

11:57

takes a very humble person and a

11:59

very like down. to earth person to be a

12:01

nurse and to take care of people at their

12:03

worst because you have to do a lot

12:05

of disgusting shit and I'm willing to fucking

12:07

do it and that right there is

12:10

just like a big communicator of

12:12

things about my character that you wouldn't assume

12:14

just by looking at me and that makes

12:16

someone more attractive like if I'm just like

12:18

a cute little face and I just like

12:21

dance on tiktok and whatever it's like okay

12:23

cool but when someone has the character reflected

12:25

behind it and there's so much more

12:27

than what meets the eye and

12:29

what they've had to do took an insane amount

12:31

of discipline ten times hotter it makes you so

12:33

much more attractive like I don't know how to

12:35

explain it I'm explaining it right now I don't

12:37

know why I'm saying I don't know how to

12:39

explain it you fucking get it you get it

12:42

we all get it and another thing

12:44

with like achievements when you see what I've

12:46

built for myself online people

12:48

immediately respect me more it's kind of like they

12:51

hold you in a higher regard and like they

12:53

I don't want to say they put you on

12:55

a pedestal but they kind of do because it's

12:57

a silent communicator like what I've built online was

12:59

not fucking easy it's like a lot of time

13:01

a lot of fucking hard-ass work a lot of

13:03

internal work and a lot of courage to post

13:05

myself online a lot of people don't have that

13:07

a lot of people don't have what it takes

13:10

and you get this sense of respect for someone

13:12

when you see them do it like it's very

13:15

very fucking hard and people are not going to

13:17

tell you that people make it seem like oh

13:19

it's just easy you post a couple videos no

13:21

bitch it's a lot to try and

13:23

like manage and grow and deal

13:25

with hate and then deal with yourself and

13:27

then stay consistent and post more prioritizing your

13:29

time like oh my god it's a Saturday

13:32

night and I'm recording this podcast episode you

13:34

think I have a work-life balance no

13:36

my life is work and

13:39

sure there are guys and girls and whatever

13:41

and like they's and them that get famous

13:43

online just for being hot but

13:46

still you respect them a little

13:48

more because of what they've had to

13:50

do to get there sure they pop off fast

13:52

and they get a lot of followers but there's

13:54

so much discipline that goes into where that they

13:56

look and then there's discipline that goes into how

13:58

much they post and what they post and create

14:00

this image that everybody loves. It's

14:02

very hard to do. You can't

14:04

deny the fact that you do respect

14:07

someone more off of

14:09

their accomplishments that reflect

14:11

their character. It's just how it

14:13

fucking goes. And what did I say about

14:15

respect? The more you respect someone,

14:18

the more attractive they are. 2 plus

14:20

2 is 4. Okay so now

14:23

we're gonna jump into how you

14:25

see yourself and the whole

14:27

thing with discipline and like feeling attractive. Your

14:29

character is what makes you beautiful. Your

14:32

character is what makes you

14:34

attractive or not. And I

14:36

don't give a flying fuck what you look like.

14:39

When you're dealing with people who are truly with

14:41

it and truly get it and can truly appreciate

14:43

you, it doesn't matter what you look like. It's

14:45

your inside. It's the way that you make people

14:47

feel. It's the way that you care for them.

14:49

It's your heart. It's your character that

14:51

makes you more attractive. And that

14:54

is what breeds confidence in yourself.

14:56

Because if your character is solid,

14:58

you feel solid. And

15:01

when you just know you have good character, you don't

15:03

give a fuck about shit. You are so

15:05

much more confident and there's nothing anyone

15:08

can do. It's like okay you called me ugly.

15:10

Okay so what? But

15:12

I'm reliable. I'm consistent. I'm committed. I'm disciplined and

15:14

I'm there for people I care about. And

15:17

what? So what if I'm ugly? Everything about

15:19

you that you don't like turns into a

15:21

so what when you have good

15:23

character. And when someone has that level of

15:25

confidence, I don't care if you're a two.

15:27

You're now an eight. Maybe a ten. Maybe

15:29

get a haircut or something. But like you

15:31

can make that person so much

15:33

hotter physically. But that inside

15:36

is what's gonna breed that confidence and

15:38

confidence that's attractive. And you're just gonna

15:40

feel it. Like it doesn't matter what

15:42

you look like on the outside. When

15:44

you know you're solid inside, you feel

15:46

hot. You feel attractive. You feel fucking

15:49

great. And your

15:51

character is fully in your control. That's one thing I want

15:53

to say. You dictate your

15:55

actions. You dictate the way that you handle things.

15:57

I know things happen and you can choose to

16:00

in a certain way or not, but your character

16:02

is fully in your control and when you feel

16:04

like your character is solid you feel more attractive.

16:06

That's why I wanted to bring this up. So

16:09

something that will make you feel unattractive is

16:12

if you do not show up for yourself because

16:14

you're showing you're unreliable. When someone's unreliable it makes

16:16

them ugly. I don't give a fuck how hot

16:18

you are. If you're unreliable you lose hot points.

16:20

You lose a whole bunch of them. You get

16:23

knocked down from like a 10 to a 5

16:26

real fast and then you got one chance to

16:28

have one other character flop, boom you're a 2. Or

16:32

it will just make someone that's very hot so

16:34

unbearable to be around if they don't have the

16:37

character to match it. So it doesn't matter if

16:39

you're hot, it's discredited. But showing

16:41

up for yourself and doing what

16:43

it takes to like reach your goals and

16:45

doing what it takes to get to what

16:47

it is that you want basically shows yourself

16:49

that you will endure pain and discomfort for

16:52

yourself and that breeds

16:55

self trust. And when you

16:57

trust yourself that is the most attractive

16:59

energy you can fucking walk around with

17:01

and when you finally do trust yourself,

17:03

I have a whole podcast episode about

17:05

how to trust yourself but when it

17:07

comes to discipline and showing up for

17:09

yourself when you are disciplined

17:12

and you know you're going to show the fuck up

17:14

for yourself no matter what and you

17:16

do it that relationship that gets

17:18

built with yourself that's

17:21

just going to make you walk taller. It's going to

17:23

make you feel different. It's going to make you feel

17:25

hot. It's just the best shit

17:27

and that changes like the way that

17:29

you present to others. Like

17:31

when you're fucking with someone who trusts themselves,

17:34

they're hot. I don't care how ugly

17:36

they are actually physically like they're hot

17:38

inside which makes their outside hotter and

17:41

that specifically will make you respect yourself like

17:43

when you can trust yourself and you know

17:45

that you'll show up no matter what the

17:47

trust breeds respect and it's like yeah I'll

17:49

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Now, back to the podcast. But the

20:53

character in the self-trusting has

20:55

me so confident. I don't

20:57

even care if I'm up against someone hotter

20:59

than me. I'm not intimidated. I'm not nothing.

21:01

Like if I'm trying to date a dude

21:04

and this is never gonna happen cause I would cut them

21:06

off. Like I'm never an option. If like a guy was

21:08

trying to pick between me or another guy who was a

21:10

10 and let's say I'm like not that cute, I feel

21:12

like there's work to be done for me to be a

21:14

10. But let's

21:16

say this guy I was interested in was trying to pick

21:19

between me and another guy. Even

21:21

if the guy is hotter than me, I'm

21:24

not intimidated because I know what the fuck's in

21:26

here. I know how I treat people. I know

21:28

my character. I know how I trust myself. I

21:31

know how I feel about myself. I know the

21:33

needs I can meet for people. I know the

21:35

way my brain fucking thinks. I know the way

21:37

that I behave. And like I

21:39

said, emphasis on that character part. Like I

21:41

know that's so strong and

21:43

the people who are truly able to

21:45

see that will value it beyond comprehension.

21:47

Like they'll choose me over anyone once

21:50

they see that character and once they see what the

21:52

fuck is in front of them. So once you establish

21:54

that confidence with yourself and you

21:56

get that character set, bitch, you're

21:59

the most... hot thing in the fucking world like it

22:01

doesn't matter if someone's hotter than you it

22:04

doesn't match internally most hot people are

22:06

stupid most hot people are just dumb

22:08

like empty like they're so based

22:10

off their instincts it's just annoying like if

22:12

they're hungry they eat if they're horny they

22:14

fuck that's hot people typically

22:17

and the next part of this I want to talk

22:19

about is having discipline to take care of yourself so

22:22

when you're disciplined and you

22:24

do things that will better yourself whether it's a

22:27

fucking skincare routine or you work out or you

22:29

eat better or you work toward a goal business-wise

22:31

or like you make more money whatever it is

22:33

if you take any step toward caring

22:36

about yourself and caring about what

22:38

you want when you

22:40

invest energy into yourself you

22:44

care about what you invest your energy

22:46

into so if you feel like

22:49

you don't care about yourself and you don't like

22:51

yourself as soon as you start putting energy into

22:53

yourself you're gonna care about

22:55

it more because you're invested you have things

22:57

invested into it now it's easy to just

22:59

walk away from something you've put no effort

23:02

into and you invested nothing into so when

23:04

you do start investing into yourself that's just

23:06

gonna flip and you're gonna feel like

23:09

you care about yourself and you're going to feel

23:11

better like the thing you invested in is gonna

23:13

make you care about it more and if that's

23:15

yourself perfect that's the first bucket thing you should

23:17

always invest in but when you put energy

23:19

into taking care of something you feel

23:22

better about it and you're gonna feel

23:24

more attractive so if you're doing things and

23:26

putting effort into yourself you're just gonna feel

23:28

more attractive and you're gonna present more attractive

23:30

and then you're gonna gain this confidence that

23:33

comes from that I got truly how to flip it

23:35

from like not liking yourself or not caring about yourself

23:38

just shut up and go through the actions and pretend

23:40

like you care about yourself and just do the actions

23:42

that are caring and you're immediately

23:44

gonna start feeling better because like I said you

23:46

invested energy you're gonna start to care about yourself

23:48

there's no way around that bitch try

23:51

it but when you're disciplined like

23:53

that and you put that effort

23:55

into yourself and you show yourself you're worth caring

23:57

about as you keep going through

23:59

those actions, things are just going to

24:01

get better and better. You're going to look better. You're going

24:03

to feel better. You're going to achieve more. And then the

24:05

competence you're going to have from that alone, bro. Like

24:09

I said before, you're going to walk taller. You're

24:11

going to be the tallest motherfucker in the room.

24:13

Like once you put that fucking discipline towards yourself,

24:15

like your fucking dick is going to grow 10

24:18

inches and you're not going to go

24:20

fuck by nothing. Like you're literally just going to be like

24:22

so competent. And what

24:24

is the most attractive thing? Competence.

24:27

Even if it's misplaced, it's

24:30

ugly, but competence,

24:33

just because you know that you'll take care of

24:35

yourself. The way people walk around that act like

24:37

that, it's just hot. It's so hot. And you're

24:39

going to feel hot because you're just confident. Like,

24:42

yeah, I take care of myself. There's

24:44

no better feeling. So if you're lacking

24:46

the motivation to take care of yourself, listen to

24:48

my episode on motivation. I have a whole podcast

24:50

episode about motivation. It's I think it's on the

24:52

audio version. So it's on Spotify and Apple podcasts.

24:54

Just search of aware and aggravated. But you don't

24:57

have to have motivation to care about yourself and

24:59

to do a skincare routine and to eat. Right.

25:01

You don't. You just got to have the willpower

25:03

and the discipline to do it. And that competence

25:05

I was talking about when you start to care about

25:07

yourself, it just comes

25:09

from contentment because you know, you

25:11

will achieve things. Like when

25:13

you put your ass behind it, you

25:16

just know you're going to do it. And sometimes

25:18

all you can control is how

25:20

committed you are to something and what you're willing to

25:22

go through for it. You can't control how

25:24

a situation ends up or how things go.

25:26

All you can control is how

25:28

committed you are and what you're willing to go through

25:30

for what it is that you want. So

25:33

the discipline is going to get you to a

25:35

point where you have courage and what's hot. Courage.

25:38

Courage is so fucking hot, but

25:41

courage makes you feel more attractive. Let's throw it

25:43

to the side. How other people are looking at

25:45

you. Of course, other people are going to look

25:47

at you like you're more attractive when you are

25:49

courageous, but you're going to feel more attractive. And

25:51

that's one driving point I want it to throw

25:53

in this episode. Okay. So

25:55

the next thing is emotions with discipline

25:58

and being controlled. When

26:01

you do not let your emotions dictate

26:03

what you do or don't do, your

26:06

life no longer falls victim to the way that you

26:08

feel. If you just do

26:11

what needs to be done, regardless of

26:13

the way that you feel, sure, take

26:15

your feelings into consideration, be there for

26:17

yourself, comfort yourself, but if you do

26:19

not let being upset or

26:21

being tired sway what you

26:23

need to get done, you're no longer going to

26:26

walk around this earth feeling scared and uneasy. Because

26:28

when you just live based off your emotions, like,

26:30

oh, I'm going to skip the gym today or

26:32

I'm going to skip work today because I'm tired.

26:36

Whenever you have a goal for something, if

26:39

you've proven to yourself every time you get tired you're

26:41

going to give up, you're going to

26:43

be uncertain about everything in fucking life. Because

26:46

you cannot control anything. If you can't

26:48

control your actions even when you're feeling

26:50

a different emotion, you'll never feel secure.

26:53

With yourself, with anything you want, with what

26:55

you're going to get out of life, it's

26:57

just this uneasy feeling that I'm so fucking

26:59

glad I got rid of. And you're going

27:02

to have that until you just do what the fuck

27:04

needs to be done. And you're

27:06

going to present with an energy

27:08

of certainty and stability. Those are

27:11

another two very attractive traits. Like,

27:13

when you can just feel that someone is certain

27:15

and they're stable with their self because they know

27:17

they'll do what needs to be done regardless, that

27:20

shit, again,

27:23

hot. But

27:25

this basically leads you to feeling impenetrable.

27:27

Like, if nothing can stop you, it's

27:29

more like unstoppable. Like, if nothing can

27:31

stop you, bro, the

27:33

way that's going to make you fucking

27:35

feel when you have that character trait

27:37

specifically, being unstoppable, you know

27:40

you'll accomplish anything you set your mind to,

27:42

shit. There's no,

27:44

like, beating that one. Okay,

27:47

so now I'm going to talk about something with

27:49

motivation when it comes to discipline and

27:51

how to kind of make motivation easier. Like

27:54

I said, I have the whole episode of motivation, but this is

27:56

just like a little nugget for this episode. So

27:58

many times. Most

28:00

days out of the week. I do not feel like

28:03

going to the gym. Right now

28:05

I do not feel like recording this podcast episode.

28:07

I have a hundred fucking things to do. I'm

28:09

sick. I'm tired. I don't want to be doing

28:11

it. But here I

28:13

fucking am. I post on

28:15

Sundays. We got Sunday service with Leo.

28:17

Literally, I post on Sundays.

28:20

And if I'm going to

28:22

identify with that and claim that and state that,

28:25

I gotta put my ass behind it. But my

28:27

point with the motivation is having a

28:29

track record makes things so

28:31

much easier. So basically

28:33

it gets easier to do shit the

28:35

more proof you have that you've

28:37

done it and that you can do it. So

28:40

how I have like 60 something episodes

28:42

now, all the times I

28:44

have been like, fuck, I don't want to record

28:46

right now, but I have to get the episode

28:48

out by Sunday. Right

28:51

now I feel like I

28:53

just don't want to do it and it's easy

28:55

to let those emotions take over. But when you

28:57

have a track record and you

28:59

can see the strength that you've exuded so

29:01

many times, it gives you

29:03

a sense of credibility and it assures you

29:05

and it kind of validates how strong you

29:07

are. And it's very hard to feel incapable

29:09

when you have a fuck ton of proof

29:11

to back up. You will do what needs

29:13

to be done. And that is

29:16

the biggest motivation because knowing I have

29:18

posted for the last Sunday, for the

29:20

last like year and something, I'm like,

29:22

girl, what is this Sunday? I've been tired

29:24

before. I've not wanted to do it before.

29:26

I could do it right now.

29:29

And here I am. But the point I

29:31

have with that is it's easier to go as you

29:33

go. Like it's easier to continue

29:35

as you go and has you have more proof

29:37

of like times you've done it. So if you're

29:39

trying to go to the gym, if you can

29:41

look back and say, oh, I've been to the

29:43

gym for the last two months. What

29:45

the fuck I can go today to. It's just going

29:48

to stack on itself. So you have

29:50

to get through that first like brunt

29:52

of like not having any proof to

29:55

like look back and have proof. You have

29:57

to just do the hard shit and

29:59

build that proof. for yourself to be able to

30:01

look back on and then shit gets so much easier.

30:03

Like the more proof you have of your strength, the

30:05

easier it is to be reminded of it and see

30:08

it, and the easier shit will feel, just goddamn do

30:10

it. And also with that, the

30:12

more you invest in something, the harder

30:14

it is to quit. So how

30:17

much I've invested to this podcast already, like

30:19

how much time and effort and energy you

30:21

think I'm gonna fuck up now? Like

30:24

I've invested so much that I'm like, I'm not

30:26

fucking it up. So that's

30:28

my biggest trick. If you wanna make

30:30

sure you don't quit something, is

30:33

invest so much into it,

30:35

that the pain of quitting is worse than the

30:37

pain of continuing. And that is truly what the

30:39

fuck is gonna keep you on track and kick

30:42

you in the ass when you need it. The

30:44

only time you feel the urge to quit is

30:47

when you feel like there's a relief from pain. But

30:49

if you have so much pain on the other side

30:51

of quitting, you ain't choosing that. Like it's easier to

30:53

just continue forward. So one

30:55

more thing about discipline and

30:57

kinda like being more attractive is

31:00

the most endearing thing that you can do is

31:02

look out for your future self. It's

31:05

to do something now to make

31:07

sure you get where it is you wanna go or

31:09

you feel good or you just do something you know

31:11

you need to fucking do. Like the most caring thing

31:14

you can do is take care of your future self

31:16

because you don't want your future self to have

31:18

to deal with consequences. Like sure, is it easier

31:20

to just lay in my bed right now? Yeah,

31:24

but I'm in front of this camera doing this because it's

31:26

in line with my goals and my values and what I

31:28

wanna do. And also it's

31:30

preventing me from tomorrow feeling regret and

31:32

shame and like fuck and feeling disappointment.

31:35

Like I'm preventing my future self from

31:37

feeling that way. So I'm doing this

31:39

now. So tomorrow I get to have a good

31:41

day. But looking out for

31:43

yourself and showing yourself

31:46

how you can care for yourself and take yourself

31:48

into consideration, that's hot as fuck to other

31:50

people and that's gonna make you feel hot as

31:53

fuck, okay? That's one thing you can't deny. Like

31:55

just feeling how you

31:57

can love someone is fuck. In

32:00

beautiful so for you to give

32:02

yourself that same love. Oh

32:05

My. God. it's just makes you feel so hot! Bees

32:07

are not being very like so if israel or

32:09

makes you feel hot the like that makes you

32:11

feel so good. When. Like I say, you

32:14

experience the love you have to give. So.

32:16

The way you take other people into consideration,

32:18

take your future self into consideration, experience that

32:20

love that you show toward yourself and it's

32:22

gonna make you feel so much more beautiful.

32:25

Because. You are. And

32:27

I'll my final know the last thing I always tell

32:29

myself of where I have to do some shit I

32:31

don't want to fuck and his You're going to be

32:33

happy when you're done. Or. You'll

32:35

be happy tomorrow, because right now.

32:38

I feel the biggest since the release because I'm

32:41

done with this fucking episode and I'm happy I

32:43

did it. I'm so glad I just got the

32:45

sit over with So how This episode was helpful.

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