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In this episode of Balancing the Christian Life , I
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talk about learning from experience . Welcome
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to Balancing the Christian Life . I'm Dr Kenny
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Embry . Join me as we discover how to
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be better Christians and people in
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the digital age . So
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it's late Monday afternoon and we're
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in the car coming home from spending a couple days
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at an Orlando amusement park
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. We left the house after
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church on Sunday and stayed in a
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local hotel . A few months
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ago my wife , Katie , suggested
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it might be nice if we got some annual pass
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holder tickets to one of the theme parks
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around here . What are the benefits of
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living in Central Florida ? It's
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pretty easy for us to get to places
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people often spend years planning to spend
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vacation time . We've been
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pass holders in the past of many
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of the local franchises , but
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Universal Studios is not one we've
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been to in a while , and to some place
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the kids wanted to go . The
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park was running a deal , so I
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pulled the trigger . I planned
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to take my family right after I finished
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my responsibilities with this year's
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Balancing the Christian Life conference
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. I knew I had been
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pushing some of my attention away
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from my family for a few days to
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get stuff done for the conference
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. I also knew it
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would be a good idea to reconnect
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and see what was going
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on in their lives . Abby
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, my 13-year-old daughter , discovered
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she really likes roller
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coasters . She discovered the mummy
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and some roller coaster in the Harry Potter
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themed area , Can't ? My
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15-year-old son decided he probably
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wasn't into roller coasters
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. As a parent , this doesn't surprise
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me at all . All of my kids
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are different and this is me
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learning that again . I
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also got to see my wife laugh
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and smile a lot . We
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held hands and enjoyed seeing Central Florida
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through our kids' eyes . The
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secret to going to theme parks is to
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abandon your dream of riding
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every ride and seeing every show
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but instead focus
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on the people you're with
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and what they want to do . For
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Abby , it was discovering
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if roller coasters are scarier fun
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. Can she embrace fear
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and develop courage ? For
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Kent , it was seeing if
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he had outgrown some interests he had
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as a kid . I was thrilled
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when he figured out one of the rides he enjoyed
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several years ago in those simulators
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that beat you around wasn't
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nearly as good as he remembered
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. He found a lot of clarity
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and even decided he wasn't
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really missing out on some things he
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thought he might be . In other
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words , sometimes not doing
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something is better . One
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found courage , one
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found confirmation . It's
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fun to see that in my kids . When
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I was at the park I was able to put some perspective
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to the conference we had just concluded
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. I learned a ton
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from that . I'm not
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surprised . A lot of things I learned
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from that are reflected in my time
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with my own family , because , well
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, I had just spent some
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time with spiritual family
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. So let me tell
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you some of what I learned and
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maybe you can see how these things translate
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everywhere . First
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, I'm impressed
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with my spiritual family , who
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know how to pull together . In
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the sessions I went to , I
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loved chatting with a few people I
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knew and learning people I
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didn't . When
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we look at the epistles in the New Testament
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, we often get confused about some
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of the endings of Paul's letters . Most
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famously , Romans 16
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seems to be Paul just saying hey to some
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people he really loved . Yes
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, his epistles are about important
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ideas and the theology
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that saves us , but
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they were also letters to
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people Paul knew and
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loved . I've said
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many times , the purpose of the conference
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isn't just hearing some very impressive
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speakers , and let me emphasize
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that for a second . I heard some
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of the best teaching at the event and
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the ability to ask questions
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and have conversations about
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the ideas after they were given
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was incredible . They
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often elaborate on confusing
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points , which was great
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, but the part I can't
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quantify is meeting
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the people in that digital
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room . In one of the later
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sessions I remember myself , Hal
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Hammons and four others of us talking
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about the advantages and dangers of
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using social media . It
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went from a formal presentation to
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something that is really exciting
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an exchange of
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ideas and figuring
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out what we think
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. That's something
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you can do when you are in conversation
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and dialogue and
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not just one person talking
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. In our own spiritual walks
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, some of us have the luxury
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of choosing among several congregations
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to attend , and there's a
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real danger in that . It's
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easy to minimize the relationships
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you have with your church
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family to a few hours
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on Sunday and or Wednesday
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and then not think about
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them until the next week . We
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end up seeing each other a handful of hours
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and the conversations all
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tend to be repeated spiritual
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small talk . How are you feeling
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? How are you kids ? What's
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going on this week ? See you next
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week . Let
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me be clear I'm often guilty
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of this , but when
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you have the opportunity to
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not just listen but
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interact with other Christians for
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more time and not just
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everyone sitting on benches and looking
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the same direction to listen to one
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person , but instead getting
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some coffee or going to lunch or
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even getting in an online
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conference and
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talking things out . The
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conversation changes . You
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start talking about things you have
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legitimate questions
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about . In my
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own family , some of
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the most important spiritual conversations
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I've ever had with my kids were
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on the way to the grocery to get some forgotten
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milk or going to the mechanic
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to get our oil changed . In
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those unguarded moments , my
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kids ask about the parts of Christianity
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that are hard or
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embarrassing to ask in a Bible class
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where nobody should judge you
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for the questions you ask , but often
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do . Yet we all
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know many are simply
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grateful for the questions that were asked
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because they
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had a similar one . Relationships
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are often forged in
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moments of boredom and
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routine . We
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often ask questions that
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matter while we
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are doing things that don't , and
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characters often forged in the
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habits we center in the
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mundane . Something
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I loved hearing from my kids
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all weekend were
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two magic words I hear them say
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often Thank
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you . That's a big
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deal . Second
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, like my kids , I
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realized how grateful I am . I've
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spoken about the power of gratitude
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before on the podcast and I
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keep having to relearn its importance
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. During the conference
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, I worked with some truly amazing
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people Jennifer Ackett
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, Mark McCrary , Sean Hyfill
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, Steve Wolfgang , Hal Hammons and
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Jared Bolman organized and oversaw
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six tracks . The
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speakers they chose were all
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excellent , willing to spend
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some time making content for
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you guys to talk about . I
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think I counted 51
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speakers . That's
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amazing . Then
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my good friends Keith Stonehardt and Edwin
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Crozier agreed to put together a couple
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keynote presentations and again
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talk about their ideas
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after they presented them . I've
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had good friends like Chris Emerson , Jacob
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Hudgens and Hoover , Mark
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Roberts and even people
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I met through organizing , like
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Jay Horsley , Hunter Davis and Tim
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Beyer , promoted on social
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media . I've had several
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pick up slack when I didn't have
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time , like Ann Hoover or
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Greg Prince , and
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then three people Mike
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Wilkes , Julie Adams
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and Chris Osborn all
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stepped up to help pay
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for the stuff we needed to
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make this happen . That's
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huge . And
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then 36
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additional donors also
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stepped in to help financially
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make this possible . Again
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, these may or may not be
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names that mean something to you , but
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, just like Paul at the end of Romans
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, these are people
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who have come to mean something
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to me because I'm
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grateful . In
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your life , it's important
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to recognize those who
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help you , and these
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people did , but
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they are far from alone . I'm
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also grateful for
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the 462 people who
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signed up to attend . Last
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year I was floored because 143
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people were interested in talking
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about spiritual topics with a bunch of strangers
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they may or may not know . This
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year , we over tripled
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that number . Thank
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you , I
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am humbled and grateful
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, but I am also
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simply impressed by how many
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are interested in talking
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about God for
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three days . I'm
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reminded of the story of the Ten Leppers in
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Luke 17 , who were miraculously
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healed by Jesus , yet
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only one came back to say thank
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you . Gratitude
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is nice for the person you're thanking
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, but in the end , gratitude
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makes you better . You're
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able to see how much others
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care for you or
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care for your cause . My
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kids saying thank you doesn't change
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if I feed them or not , but it
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makes them better because it makes
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them recognize they are cared
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for and loved by
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parents who do both . Third
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, I am blown away
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by how digital
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tools can really honestly
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be used to do good
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stuff . Yes
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, I know there are terrible
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websites . People fritter
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away too much time on screens , following
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both the trivial and the destructive
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. These are trying
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to addict you to content
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through algorithms , psychological games
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and manipulation . Agreed , it
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can be overdone and often is
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, and that includes me . But
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part of my criticism of those who
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dismiss digital media out
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of hand is they are using the
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same criticisms the ancient
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Greeks had of writing , the Renaissance
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had of books , the intelligentsia
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had of newspapers , a largely
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farm-based economy had of movies
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and radio and the generation
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before me had of television
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. The criticisms are usually
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warranted and true . Most
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books are useless , Most radio
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is trash , Most movies
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are wastes of time . But
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the answer isn't to outlaw
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books , radio or movies or
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even digital stuff , as if
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we could . The answer
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is to make
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stuff worth consuming
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, and what I saw
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was and
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is worth your
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time . We
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live in an incredible age where
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we have finally seen the ability
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of people to create
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and then distribute globally
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stuff worth
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paying attention to from
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tools available in almost
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every pocket in the world . The
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criticism I do resonate with
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most is that online
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is a poor substitute
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for face-to-face relationships . I
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agree you
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need to have good relationships
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with those physically close
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to you , but
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that doesn't mean you can't also
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meet people around the world
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through an amazing tool
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that introduces you . Some
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of you know I made a missionary trip with my
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friend , Mark McCrary , to the Philippine island
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of Palawan . I
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didn't know anybody there . I
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met with 16 different congregations
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where I preached 16 different
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sermons and watched 106
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people choose to get into a relationship
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with Christ through baptism
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. That was very
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cool , but what's
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even cooler is
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I now keep up with
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a handful of those people . I
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did meet them face-to-face , but
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our relationship is
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now online . Thank
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God for tools that let us
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do that . Finally
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, I am impressed
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by God's growth . A
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lot of people made this possible
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. I owe great debt to
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them , but a handful of people
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reminded me that success isn't
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in my hands . If
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God wants this to fail , it will . My
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job is to seek His will , do
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my best and then
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be content with
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what happens . I
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surrounded myself with people who
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could do what needed to get done , but
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ultimately , if this succeeds
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or fails , it's in
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God's hands . I
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must admit that it is unnerving
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, but it is the truth
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. I hope I'm
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reading this right . I hope God is pleased
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. I hope what we've done has
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served you with something that makes you better
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and connects you more
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with God . A
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few weeks before I opened up the website , I had
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the fear nobody would show up . I
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felt like last year was a fluke . I
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felt like this would end up being one huge letdown
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, but that
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isn't what happened at all . At least
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from what I can see . It
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seems to have worked Again
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. I'm grateful , but
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I hope you were better , because
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we did it . I
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hope we've done something on the podcast that
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makes you think about God deeper . I
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hope the efforts that have gone into this have
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helped you to be good
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and do good , because
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I think that's something that truly matters . But
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ultimately , if you
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seek after God , he's
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promised to be there for you
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. As
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I'm driving home , I'm
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looking at 15-year-old Kent and 13-year-old
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Abby in the rearview mirror . My
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two older kids , Emma 21
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, and Jake , 20 , are
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in the process of leaving the nest . They
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don't take these kinds of trips with us very often because
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, well , in large
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part , they have their own lives . They're
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getting into the business of supporting themselves , setting
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up relationships that matter and making
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their relationship with God themselves , and I'm seeing them
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do that . I'm seeing them do that . That's
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kind of cool . Emma's
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planning a wedding , but Katie
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and I both know the more
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important bit of that is
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launching a marriage . Jake
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is trying on some career fields in college
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. Katie and I know
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they'll both have problems , but
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the same God who takes care of us will
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make them grow as well if
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they will choose to trust him . I
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hope we've taught them that I
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think we have , but
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as long as I can I'll
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try to point them that way . I'm
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just glad God lets us
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learn so much from
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stuff that just happens on
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the way home . As
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for the good thing I'm thinking about , I've
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overcome with so many kindnesses and
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good teaching and Godly people
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. I'm just going to have
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to go with that . If you weren't able
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to attend the conference , let
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me answer the number one question I've gotten . Yes
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, there will be videos you can see in case you missed or
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want to see a session again . No
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, there's no charge . The
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content server that I
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used in order to create the conference generates a mailing list
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from the registrants . If you registered for
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the conference , you'll
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get those links as soon as they're available
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. If you weren't able to attend at all , make
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sure you go to wwwbalancingthecristenlifecom and
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sign up for the newsletter . I'll
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take the mailing list from Hoover and
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the mailing list that I get from the website , combine
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those and send it out to those
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people . Second , Adam
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Schenks and I are working on a conference book
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composed of material written by the presenters
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. I'll make an announcement in
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about a month or so about
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its availability . Yes , that
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will not be free , because it takes
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some time and it takes some expense . We're
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new to the book publishing thing , or at least I
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am , so we'll
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be learning it , but
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we'll also get it out there . Finally
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, yes , we're going to do
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it all again . If
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you attended the conference , I planned to have
19:48
a survey to see what you thought . Yes
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, Jay , I got your excellent suggestions
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and planned to implement several
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of them , but I've heard informally
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from many of you and I can't wait to start
20:01
working on the next one . Speaking
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of that , it will again
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be at the end of July . The
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theme of this one will be heaven
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citizens , and at least
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one keynote speaker will be Hal
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Hammons . There will
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be more details coming , but this
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week I just want to
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focus on what we can
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do to improve the next one . So
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until next time , let's
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be good and do good .
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