When you look out at others, where does it come from? 

Does it come from safety and truth? 

Or are you needing and wanting to confirm some sort of story you’ve made up?

In this episode, Jill explores the reasons behind our need to see other people and make up a story about their successes and compare them to our own insecurities.

Show Notes:

[9:58] - Some of us are in bondage to these made-up stories.

[11:47] - Why is our knee-jerk reaction to focus on the things that other people seem to be doing better, but when we look at ourselves, we focus on the negative?

[13:44] - We play a comparison game because we focus outward.

[16:24] - When you’re focusing externally to find meaning, that’s the pitfall.

[17:49] - Why are you looking outward?

[21:13] - If your “come from” is safety and security, you won’t feel threatened.

[22:58] - There are things you simply won’t know about someone else by looking at them.

[26:06] - We find ourselves looking at other people and we’re thinking that they’re doing things better because deep down we still feel like we are not enough.

[28:29] - If it is coming through the lens of love, we won’t make anything up or add anything to the picture. We won’t make it mean anything about ourselves.

[31:02] - Everybody does this. But is it all-consuming?

[33:03] - Consider who you are looking at and how you are making a made-up story mean something about your own life.

[34:32] - It all boils down to outsourcing our worth.

[36:30] - We avoid being still and quiet to face insecurities. It's easier to look outward.

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