0:00

You probably have people in your life who endorse

0:02

and support you being a loser. I don't want

0:05

friends in my life. I want allies

0:07

in my life. Welcome

0:11

to the Bedros Koolian show.

0:13

Hey, what's happening

0:17

friends.

0:27

Welcome

0:29

to the Bedros Koolian show. I'm Bedros Koolian.

0:32

And today I want to talk to you about something that

0:34

I believe is going to change your life.

0:36

In fact, the reason I wanted to do

0:38

this episode is because I get so many

0:40

messages from people asking me, how do

0:43

I fix my life? And so if you're looking

0:45

to fix your life, this is the topic

0:47

today. But first I want to lean into sharing

0:50

some gratitude with you. And here's why, man, listen,

0:52

this episode, this show, the

0:54

Bedros Koolian show, these are all solo

0:57

episodes, which means there's no guest across from

0:59

me that I'm going to interview and then

1:01

have them share the content and then get

1:03

their followers, subscribers, likes,

1:06

comments, et cetera. It is you and

1:08

me literally building this

1:10

show. And I want to thank you guys. I want to show appreciation

1:13

and gratitude because this is growing

1:15

on Spotify, iTunes, and

1:18

YouTube faster than ever. The Bedros

1:20

Koolian show is a by-product of you and

1:22

me doing the work together to get this message

1:24

out. So if you get any value from these

1:26

episodes that I put out, all I ask

1:29

is for one thing, and that is to engage

1:32

in the content. I don't care if you engage by

1:34

subscribing, engage by commenting, engage

1:36

by liking, engage by sharing.

1:39

But if I could ask you anything, it

1:41

is to engage if I'm able to deliver

1:43

the value. So with that said, let's hop

1:46

into it and we're going to have a

1:48

great time here. Listen, I want to tell you guys a story.

1:50

I feel like we're all friends here, right? So if

1:52

we're all friends on the BK show, and I kind

1:55

of see us as a tribe of, of,

1:57

of men evolving.

1:59

working, growing,

2:03

and really going from that 1.0 self

2:05

to the 2.0 self, I figure

2:07

we're family. We're like a brotherhood. And

2:10

ladies, I know there's about whatever, four,

2:13

five, six percent of my audience that

2:15

are women and great, welcome,

2:18

enjoy, and hang out with us because

2:21

this content here will benefit everyone

2:23

anyways. But since we're all

2:25

friends and family, I do want to share somewhat

2:27

of a cautionary tale and also a bit of

2:29

a funny story because I'm very transparent about

2:32

my life. I've told you everything from the police helicopter

2:34

chase that I've been in to the fight on the

2:37

airplane where I had to restrain someone to

2:40

every dumb, stupid shit I've done that served

2:42

as a cautionary tale or every great thing

2:45

that I've accomplished in life that is hopefully going

2:47

to serve as an example to you, right, in your life.

2:49

And so with that said, some of you

2:52

may know because I posted this on

2:54

social media, on Instagram, on

2:56

YouTube communities, in

2:59

May, a few months back, I

3:01

tore my tricep. Now the jury's

3:03

still out. I've got orthopedic surgeons telling

3:05

me that I need to get a surgery to get

3:07

it reattached. However, I've got some really

3:10

good therapists,

3:12

physical therapists working on it right now with all

3:14

types of treatments to hopefully

3:17

get what is left of the tendon that

3:19

is attached to get stronger

3:22

and put me in a place where I don't have to get

3:24

that surgery, right? But if I have to, I will.

3:26

That's the story for another day. By the way, guys,

3:28

please do me a favor. Do not reach out to me

3:31

with like medical advice and you should try this and

3:33

fish oil and that. I appreciate

3:35

it and I love you guys, but I've got so many

3:37

great people that have reached out to me since May.

3:40

I'm literally doing everything. Like I'm

3:42

on growth hormone. I'm on the BPC157

3:44

TB500. I

3:47

got the best physical therapist. I'm doing

3:49

the blood restriction cuffs,

3:52

blood flow restriction cuffs that I'm using. I'm doing

3:54

it all and I'm getting the results. The tendon

3:56

is getting stronger. The muscle is getting stronger.

3:59

The one thing I didn't. want to do is stop working

4:01

out. So I'm working around my tricep

4:03

and you're probably wondering what does all this have

4:05

to do with anything B? Well, here

4:08

it is. There I was in the

4:10

gym. Now imagine your tricep

4:13

stabilizes any

4:16

kind of pressing movement you're doing. Chest presses,

4:18

shoulder presses, especially with free weights.

4:20

So I haven't been able to do much free weight pressing.

4:23

So what I do is I take dumbbells like on shoulder

4:25

day I'll take dumbbells and I'll do dumbbell side laterals

4:28

for my delts and I'll do dumbbell front raises

4:31

and I'll do use lighter weight you know

4:33

anywhere from 17 to 25 to maybe 30 pound

4:35

front raises right

4:39

and then I'll do a whole bunch of side laterals

4:41

with 25 pound dumbbells. So there

4:43

I was and when I do these side raises I

4:45

really want to get a full range of motion. So if you could

4:47

imagine I bring those dumbbells as I'm doing

4:49

them standing in the gym

4:52

and this particular day there

4:55

I was using a public gym.

4:57

Now you guys know that I have my own gym BK Strength right

4:59

down the street here. It's for me and my team and my clients.

5:02

So you know it's not a paid for gym.

5:04

It was just our own gym that we built out. This

5:07

day my gym was being used, was

5:09

being filmed in so I decided

5:11

to use the local gym here in town and

5:13

I went in and I'm doing literally

5:16

the last set of dumbbell flies side

5:18

laterals right from my shoulders and what I like

5:20

to do is I like to bring the two ends the pinky

5:23

ends down in front of me and just gently

5:25

touch them in front of me right right below

5:28

my belly button and then I bring them all the

5:30

way up and I touch them above my head and

5:33

so I'm doing these high reps like reps of like 20-25 and

5:35

on the last set

5:39

where I was doing 27

5:42

and a half pounds and I wanted to

5:44

do 12 reps my shoulders

5:46

were getting really exhausted. When

5:49

I brought that the dumbbell down right

5:52

in front of me remember

5:54

I'm standing for

5:56

that last rep and as

5:58

the two ends of the dumbbells touch

6:01

I fucking whacked my

6:03

junk. I whacked my junk

6:06

so hard, Ed. I mean, man, I like...

6:08

Now, here's... Ed's behind the camera laughing.

6:11

He's just... He's just hanging

6:13

on every word I'm talking about. He wants to know what the fuck

6:15

happened. This is crazy. It's a dangerous situation,

6:17

Ed. So there I was, man. The dumbbells...

6:20

Thankfully, I didn't hit the main situation,

6:24

but I did pinch the skin on the top,

6:27

Ed. And in that moment, all

6:29

you want to do, all you men, y'all know what I'm talking

6:32

about. Like, any kind of, like, if you get

6:34

that bad boy stuck in your zipper because you like

6:36

to free ball and go commando and not wear underwear,

6:39

Ed's laughing up the storm back there. You

6:42

get that thing stuck in the zipper. Well, you got to... You

6:44

go up, you get it stuck in the zipper, you got to go back down

6:46

over it, right, to free the fucking thing, to

6:48

free Willie. Well, what ends up happening here

6:51

is I fucking whack it so hard

6:53

with 27-pound dumbbells, I immediately

6:56

feel like I was struck by

6:59

the lightning bolt of Zeus. And

7:02

I drop the dumbbells and I try

7:04

and maintain composure because I'm bed-roast

7:06

coolian at a public gym and I've said

7:08

hi to people and shaking hands. We've taken some selfies

7:11

and such. And now, I

7:13

can feel my junk throbbing. I'm

7:16

confident that any minute now, you're

7:18

gonna see blood running down my shorts, down

7:20

my legs because I know

7:22

I just busted skin. So,

7:24

I grab my gym bag, I'm comfortably but urgently

7:28

walking to the locker room, I

7:31

go into the stall, I gather myself

7:33

and I pull my pants

7:35

away from my body, my shorts away

7:37

from my body and holy fuck,

7:39

this thing looks like the hunchback of Notre Dame,

7:41

man. It's all blue and swollen

7:44

immediately, Ed. It was

7:46

bleeding from both ends where the dumbbells hit, right?

7:49

And there was like, bro,

7:52

there was skin, like a

7:54

piece of skin flopped off. toupee,

8:00

right? Like you'd put the toupee back on

8:02

or do you fucking cut it off? I don't know

8:05

what to do, man. And so thankfully the

8:07

body is resilient. Over the next week

8:10

and a half or so it healed. I do

8:12

have a scar on me now and I can definitely

8:15

say it's a battle scar but after 30

8:17

years of working out in the gym, man, I've had all types

8:19

of muscle injuries. I've never had a cock

8:22

injury until now and I blame

8:24

my torn tricep for it. So with

8:26

that said, we can probably make this a full on

8:29

solo episode by itself as a cautionary

8:31

tale for all of you working out. And I know what some

8:33

of these fools are saying too. They're like,

8:35

see, see, you talk about getting jacked and making money

8:37

and all those people, all those fools who leave comments

8:40

that go, uh, yeah, man,

8:42

we don't, you don't have to work out working out. It's not for

8:44

everybody, blah, blah, blah. And see now that

8:47

no Scott hurt. He damaged his,

8:49

his, his junk in the gym. That's proof

8:51

that you shouldn't be working out. Uh, needless

8:54

to say the next day I was in the gym working out again. So,

8:57

but for about a week and a half, I had a damaged

8:59

tricep and a damaged, uh, damaged

9:01

junk. And, uh, let me tell you that,

9:03

that did not look well. Black and blue

9:06

and scabs and man,

9:08

if there was like, it was like the, I don't know if there's

9:10

an STD that makes something look that bad,

9:13

but that was it. Like if there's an STD that makes

9:15

something look that bad, that was it. But it was two

9:17

fucking dumbbells whacking my shit. So with

9:19

that said, let's get started. This is the

9:21

episode that's going to change your life. And what I really

9:23

want to talk to you guys about is the thing

9:25

that matters most, which is the reputation

9:28

that you have with yourself fellas. You

9:30

know, if you want to fix your life, if

9:32

you really want to have an awesome life, you

9:35

want to make good money, you want to have great relationships,

9:38

you want to have a great sense of meaning

9:40

and purpose in your life, then what you

9:42

really got to do is, is,

9:45

is fix your life. And that's the thing I hear from people

9:47

all the time. Like, well, how do I fix my life? It

9:49

starts with one simple thing, and that

9:51

is your reputation with yourself and your reputation

9:54

with yourself is your credit score,

9:56

right? Think about this. We all have a credit

9:58

score. Your credit score. may not be the best

10:01

or it may be the best, but if you have a high

10:03

credit score, you know, in the high 700s, 800s, then

10:07

people, as in businesses, will

10:09

trust you with the car, will trust you with the house,

10:11

will trust you with products. Credit card

10:13

companies will give you lower interest rates to

10:15

higher your credit score because you have proven

10:17

that you are reliable,

10:20

you are consistent, and you don't miss out,

10:23

right? That you are a reliable

10:25

person. Well, just like that,

10:27

there's also a credit score that you ought

10:29

to have with yourself, just like you ought

10:32

to have with others, right? Every one

10:34

of us have a reputation. Your reputation,

10:36

how people perceive you, how people talk

10:39

about you, how people think of you, all

10:42

of that is your reputation, your personal

10:44

credit score. And if you want to know how to

10:46

build your personal credit score, I'm

10:48

gonna tell you. Listen, I stopped

10:51

taking all of those and I started taking

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11:06

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11:08

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11:11

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11:13

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12:21

It's about keeping promises to yourself. Because

12:24

if you're not keeping the promises to yourself, what

12:26

you're really doing is you are eroding

12:29

your personal credibility with yourself.

12:31

And when you erode your credibility, you

12:34

begin to break your promises. You

12:36

effectively ruin your reputation

12:39

with the person that matters most, which

12:41

is self. Think about that for a moment, right? If you want

12:43

to really be a reliable person, a person

12:46

that people look up to, people that see

12:48

as an example of a good human, a role model,

12:50

well, you probably need good, good,

12:53

consistent habits and behaviors that are going

12:55

to set you up to be a winner in life. That means

12:57

you need great reputation with

12:59

yourself. And if you promise yourself

13:02

that you're going to wake up at a certain time and then you hit the

13:04

snooze button on your phone and you go

13:06

back to sleep, you broke a promise, right? If you

13:08

say you're going to go work out in the morning at 9 a.m.

13:10

but then you don't make it to the gym, you broke

13:12

that promise. If you say that you're going to eat clean

13:15

all day long but then you eat, you know, ho-hos

13:17

and ding-dongs and you end up having big fat floppy

13:20

baloney tits, guess what? You

13:22

have broken a promise to yourself, right?

13:25

And so, when you break these promises,

13:27

you begin to erode your reputation. I'm here to

13:29

tell you that the reason most people

13:31

break promises to themselves is because they are

13:33

too comfortable. Like, the reason that you

13:35

don't have this high reputation with yourself is

13:38

because you are too comfortable in your life, too comfortable,

13:40

too complacent, right? And when

13:42

things are comfortable and you're complacent, you

13:45

don't really have a sense of urgency to

13:47

make a change, right? Oftentimes,

13:50

we think that, you know, I want to

13:52

do something. I want to be a better person. I want to

13:54

start making more money. I want to be healthier. I

13:56

want to have better relationships.

13:59

I want to improve my relationships. relationship. I want to find someone

14:01

to have a relationship with but if the urgency

14:04

factor is not there, you're really not going to do it

14:06

if you're comfortable and you're complacent. If you're

14:08

just doing enough to get by, you're

14:11

not really going to do anything about it. But if the pain

14:13

was great enough, which means now

14:16

you're out of your zone of comfort, now

14:19

you're going to lean into it, right? And so number

14:21

one, the reason that you haven't fixed

14:24

your life and that you keep breaking

14:26

promises to yourself is because

14:28

you are too comfortable. Number two,

14:32

you hate yourself. Let's be honest. You

14:34

obviously hate yourself. If you are

14:36

making promises and then breaking

14:39

them, not keeping your promises, breaking your reputation

14:41

with yourself, breaking promises

14:43

to others and therefore your reputation with others is

14:45

eroding, you not only hate yourself but you hate

14:48

the people that love you. Because if

14:50

you truly love yourself, you would keep your

14:52

promises and you would honor them, right? I

14:55

mean, don't you want to be the best person that you can be? Don't

14:57

you want to become the best version of

14:59

a man you can be, the man that you admire,

15:01

that you love, that you trust and then give yourself

15:04

to that woman, give

15:07

yourself to that relationship, give yourself

15:09

to that business, give yourself to that friendship?

15:11

Of course you do. But if you're giving the

15:13

worst version of yourself, the

15:16

lazy self, the self that breaks

15:18

promises, that lies, that

15:21

is addicted to vices, you

15:24

know you want to stop drinking,

15:26

you want to stop snorting or smoking,

15:28

you want to stop binge watching,

15:30

you want to stop being a loser, you

15:33

want to stop being a crop tester and become

15:35

a fighter jet in life, you make

15:37

these promises but each time you break

15:40

those promises, you think that it's

15:42

just a small little promise, what's the big deal? I'll

15:44

start again on Monday. But what you're

15:46

doing is you're telling your subconscious mind that you're a goddamn

15:49

loser. And if you're telling your subconscious

15:51

mind that you're a goddamn loser, you

15:54

are literally telling yourself that you hate

15:56

yourself. I hate myself so much that

15:58

even though I know I need it. Eat clean, wake

16:01

up early, get my workouts, do

16:03

my work, show gratitude,

16:06

journal, do whatever the fuck you need to do, right?

16:09

To become a better human, you

16:11

put that off. That is

16:13

self-hate at the highest level. What's

16:16

even worse is that you probably have people

16:18

in your life. You probably have a

16:20

significant other. You probably have a mom

16:22

or a dad. You probably have siblings.

16:24

You probably have friends who love you, who

16:27

care for you, who want the best for you. By

16:30

you breaking these promises to yourself and to

16:32

them, you also hate

16:34

them. That's the truth. It's the God's honest truth.

16:37

And so when you don't love yourself and you don't

16:39

show love to others because

16:42

you have eroded your reputation, what

16:45

do you have left? You are

16:47

a loser, right? That's the facts.

16:49

And I'm not trying to shit on you because I

16:51

think you're a bad person. I

16:53

don't think you have anyone in your life that's

16:56

willing to tell you this stuff. I really

16:59

don't think you've got anyone in your life, fellas,

17:01

that is willing to tell you that the way

17:03

you're conducting yourself, the way you're living

17:05

your life, by

17:08

taking the shortcuts, by hitting the snooze,

17:11

by not going the extra mile, by not

17:13

going into the gym, by not eating clean,

17:15

by making excuses, think

17:18

about this, man. You

17:21

probably have people in your life who

17:24

endorse and support you being

17:26

a loser. I don't know a better way to say

17:28

it, but that's the facts.

17:30

See,

17:31

I don't want friends in my life. I

17:33

want allies in my life. And

17:36

if I have friends in my life, and

17:38

when I go, yeah, man, I was gonna wake up early and work out

17:40

today, but I didn't sleep well, so I ended

17:43

up sleeping in and not working out in the morning, they're

17:45

gonna go, oh, man, a friend is gonna go, oh, man, I

17:47

understand. I understand

17:50

why you're gonna do that. I would have done

17:52

that too. An ally,

17:55

an ally on the other hand would say, you know what, dude?

17:58

Fuck you and your excuses. You should not have missed

18:00

that workout. You should have woken up

18:02

even if you didn't sleep well. You should have woken up even

18:05

if you had nightmares. You should have gotten up and

18:07

worked out and eaten right even if

18:09

you tossed and turned all night because

18:11

an ally is someone who

18:13

wants the best for you. A friend

18:16

is someone who will endorse your

18:18

excuses and keep you

18:21

comfortable and complacent. That is not

18:24

what you want. I don't want a friend.

18:26

I want allies in my life who will call me

18:28

out on my shit so that I stop

18:30

breaking promises to myself and

18:33

I start loving myself, respecting

18:35

myself, admiring myself. It's

18:37

only then, my friend, that

18:40

you will love others and be able to gift the

18:42

best version of yourself to the world.

18:45

You're wondering why people don't listen to you. You're wondering

18:48

why your business isn't successful. If you're wondering

18:50

why life kind of sucks

18:52

for you, I'm telling you right now,

18:55

it's because you keep breaking promises to yourself. No

18:58

one wants to listen, follow,

19:03

do business with a hypocrite, a

19:05

loser. Even if you think

19:08

that they don't know these things about you, about

19:11

your vices, about the fact that you quit

19:13

on yourself, that you break promises, they

19:15

do because there's an energy. There's

19:17

a frequency that you give off as a loser

19:20

that everyone can feel. They can feel it through social

19:22

media. They can feel it through text messages. They

19:24

can feel it in person.

19:26

They can smell it.

19:30

And so if you're that person who keeps making

19:32

excuses and

19:35

breaking those promises, you're

19:38

not going to be happy in any category of life.

19:41

Instead you're going to end up DMing me, well how do I

19:44

fix my life? I'm telling you. Do

19:46

this one thing. Start keeping the promises

19:48

to yourself. Now how do you keep those promises?

19:51

I think the best way is to have consequences because

19:54

if you have consequences in place, then

19:58

you will

19:59

start to...

19:59

keeping those promises. Think about this. In

20:02

this building, in our headquarters

20:04

here, we have several different

20:06

companies of mine that we run. Fit Body Bootcamp, TruLean,

20:09

Supplements, my coaching business, right?

20:12

Amongst others. And we have

20:15

a bunch of team members who work for

20:17

all those different organizations and companies. We

20:20

are a very fiercely competitive

20:23

team here. And if someone is

20:25

not meeting the expectations and standards

20:28

that their team has set in place, they

20:31

start to feel a sense of pressure. They

20:34

know that there's going to be a consequence. The

20:36

consequence might be that team member, one

20:38

of their team members might have a talking to them. The

20:41

consequence might be they might be out of a job.

20:43

When the consequences are high, you

20:46

will begin to keep your promises.

20:49

That's one way, right? Think about this.

20:51

Like in prisons, there's

20:54

consequences. Like if you don't do

20:56

things right, if you don't

20:58

do things the way they're supposed to be, in prison,

21:01

there are consequences in gangs. Where

21:04

I grew up in Santa Ana, California, like

21:06

there were so many gangs out there and

21:09

they had their fucking rules. They

21:12

had their fucking promises to themselves.

21:16

And if they didn't follow through with it, there

21:18

would be consequences. Someone's getting stabbed.

21:21

Someone's getting beat up. Someone's

21:24

going to have to pay the price for it. There

21:27

are no consequences in your soft,

21:30

comfortable, bubble wrap life. And

21:32

if you don't have these consequences to

21:35

deal with, you don't have any sense of

21:37

urgency to do anything about it.

21:40

Now, little do you know, your wife might

21:42

be like, man, I don't respect this

21:44

motherfucker. He's a fat,

21:47

floppy, gelatinous, tittied, baloney,

21:49

tittied loser. Comes

21:51

home, doesn't go

21:54

work out, takes his clothes

21:56

off and leaves it all over the place. Why

22:00

am I with this guy? But

22:02

she's probably not telling you this. In fact, she's

22:04

probably enabling you,

22:05

right?

22:06

This is that friend mentality. She's not an ally

22:09

to you. If she was, she

22:11

would say, sit down motherfucker. If

22:13

you want me to be the best fucking wife

22:16

that you can have, then you're gonna have to

22:18

be the best fucking husband that I expect.

22:21

See, people don't have these ally conversations

22:23

anymore. They just wanna do the

22:26

live and let live thing. And

22:28

what ends up happening when you do the old live and let

22:30

live is you let people

22:32

degrade and degenerate themselves into

22:35

human animals. And

22:37

a human animal does what they feel

22:39

like. A human animal does what their emotions

22:42

tell them to do. A human animal

22:44

does what ever

22:47

selfishly suits them in the moment.

22:50

A human being who's connected to consciousness,

22:54

a human being says, I will do whatever I

22:56

need to do, even if I

22:58

feel this way. I will do

23:00

the things that I promise to myself and to others

23:03

because I am a man of high

23:05

standards and reputation with myself.

23:08

The number one person I don't wanna let down is

23:10

me. And

23:12

so if I'm not gonna let myself down, I have

23:14

to do these things even if I don't feel like it, even

23:16

if I'm tired, even if it's cold outside, even

23:19

if it's raining, even if I

23:21

just didn't sleep well last night, I

23:23

have to do the things that I promised myself

23:25

to be able to build my personal

23:27

credit score, my reputation with

23:29

myself. And so listen, if

23:32

you are not doing these things, and by the way,

23:34

these consequences are everywhere, you need to build

23:36

consequences into everything.

23:38

Like for example, I've got

23:41

friends who are from all the different

23:43

categories of special operations

23:46

in the military, right? And they

23:48

are the most predatory dudes on

23:51

the planet. It doesn't matter

23:53

if they're green berets,

23:56

it doesn't matter if they're seals, it doesn't matter

23:58

if they're Rangers. If

24:01

they are on a mission and they're doing something

24:04

and one of their buddies Fucks up

24:06

was careless forgot something

24:10

Put them in a position where they could have been

24:12

ambushed shot at potentially

24:14

killed When that mission is over

24:16

and these guys have told me this face to face

24:20

They will handle that guy. They will deal

24:22

with that guy They

24:24

will physically handle that guy afterwards

24:28

Setting consequences in place so

24:30

that he never forgets What

24:33

he needs to do and he's constantly

24:35

reminded to step

24:37

up and Meet the expectations

24:40

of the team so if you haven't put

24:42

yourself in a high-speed environment

24:45

and I don't care if that's a workplace if

24:47

that's a Sports team if

24:49

that is going and doing jiu-jitsu or some kind of martial

24:52

arts any kind of high-speed Environment

24:54

where there's a greater expectation of you

24:57

Then you probably don't have consequences To

25:00

face and therefore it's easier for you

25:02

to break promises, right? That's just

25:04

the facts, right? The other factor

25:07

is you probably don't see yourself as a role

25:09

model See

25:11

if you saw yourself as a role model to your

25:13

kids to your spouse to

25:16

your friends your community to your siblings Your

25:19

mom and dad if you saw yourself

25:21

as a role model of of someone who's healthy

25:24

and I mean healthy physically mentally

25:27

emotionally Someone who is financially

25:30

right? Someone

25:32

who loves and cares for others Someone

25:35

who shows up on time and respects the

25:37

time of others if you saw yourself

25:40

as a role model in every category of life in

25:43

friendships relationships business

25:46

life to your kids You

25:49

would never do anything to let these people down

25:51

once again a consequence,

25:53

right? Because when you see yourself

25:56

as a role model You

25:58

go the extra mile you

26:01

have a higher sense of urgency, you

26:03

have now set excellence as

26:06

the lowest bar to achieve. And

26:08

that is what you want in life. If you want to

26:10

have a high credit score with yourself and others, you

26:13

want to have a strong reputation with yourself

26:15

and others so that before you even show

26:17

up to a room, people are talking good

26:20

about you. You have to keep those

26:22

promises and that means excellence has to be

26:24

the lowest bar that you've set in life, right?

26:28

Personal excellence must be the lowest

26:30

expectation that you've set. Imagine

26:33

if I'm like, well, I tore my tricep, therefore I can't work

26:35

out at all. If you've been following

26:37

me on social media, then you guys know that the

26:39

first three or four weeks when my arm was black and

26:41

blue and I had like

26:44

virtually no range of motion, I can even do flies

26:46

and any kind of like cable flies, nothing like that. I

26:48

was training legs three times a week and

26:50

then just training my right side

26:53

as much as I could. I never once

26:56

skipped or missed a workout because

26:59

if I see myself as a role model to you, if

27:01

I see myself as an example to you, why

27:04

would I ever use my

27:06

torn tricep as an excuse to

27:09

not work out and to start getting out of shape

27:11

and to not represent myself how

27:13

I expect you to represent yourself?

27:18

So I have consequences. I have consequences

27:21

here with my team. If

27:23

I don't work out and I start to get fat and

27:25

out of shape, I'm effectively

27:27

giving my team the green light to

27:30

lower the bar of expectations for themselves.

27:32

We will start making less money. We

27:35

will be less organized. We

27:37

will get gobbled up and eaten by our competition.

27:41

But it doesn't matter what happens, whether

27:44

it's an injury or a bad night of sleep, the

27:47

expectations are always

27:49

the same. Make your promises

27:52

and keep them no matter what. So

27:55

I hope you understand man, the

27:57

value of keeping your

27:59

promises. It's not just like, hey, I'll

28:01

be fit, I'll be jacked, I'll make a little more money, I'll

28:04

have a better relationship. Like

28:06

the reason you are suffering in silence, the

28:08

reason you have anxiety, you have depression,

28:10

you're overwhelmed, you have like these panic

28:13

attacks, is because your conscience,

28:15

your conscience, your highest self, your inner

28:17

self, your conscience is like, hey, motherfucker,

28:20

you are incongruent with the man you want to be.

28:23

And I'm going to show up as anxiety,

28:25

depression, overwhelm,

28:28

stress,

28:29

panic attacks, until you do

28:31

something about it. And of course, what do you do? Most

28:34

of you out there will go and get medicated,

28:37

either by prescription for

28:39

your anxieties and depressions, or

28:42

you'll get medicated by way of weed,

28:45

vape pens, alcohol, food,

28:48

binge watching television,

28:50

pornography, whatever the fuck

28:52

it is, you will start leaning

28:55

into these vices in

28:57

order to escape your

28:59

reality, in order to run away from your

29:02

conscience, which is your higher self,

29:04

who is with you at all times, and

29:07

sees that you are operating as a

29:09

human animal, you are operating below

29:11

your expectations that you've set for yourself. And

29:13

therefore, conscience

29:16

will show up as anxiety and depression and

29:18

overwhelm to

29:21

shake your ass into

29:23

action. Now whether you delay

29:25

that, put it off, ignore it,

29:27

try and escape from it, try and medicate yourself from

29:29

it, it's going to keep coming around and getting

29:31

worse and getting worse. So not only

29:33

do you have a bad

29:36

reputation, do you feel bad about yourself, not

29:38

only do others feel like you're a loser

29:40

and you have a bad reputation with them, but

29:43

you're also constantly in a bad

29:45

state of mind in terms of the

29:47

anxiety and depression

29:49

and your state of mental health. And

29:52

all you gotta do to fix that life of yours

29:55

is one thing, make a promise

29:57

and fucking keep

29:59

Guys, I hope, I hope that I was able

30:03

to influence you, to persuade you

30:05

that you will make

30:07

these promises and keep them.

30:10

And if you're watching this on YouTube, I

30:12

want you guys to let me know in the comments the

30:15

one thing you're gonna do, the one

30:17

promise that you're gonna keep for 30 days

30:19

straight. Let me

30:22

know in the comments section what that one promise

30:24

is that you're gonna make yourself and keep it. I

30:26

don't care if it's consistently working out at 9 a.m. or 5

30:29

a.m. I don't care if it's

30:32

waking up at a certain time and not hitting the snooze button.

30:34

I don't care if it's reading 10 pages out of a self-help

30:36

book. I don't care if it's drinking a gallon and

30:38

a half of water a day. But one positive

30:41

thing that you're gonna do on a consistent basis

30:43

for yourself for the next 30 days without

30:46

breaking a single day. Leave that

30:48

in the comments section on YouTube. And if you want a

30:50

really awesome thing to do that's

30:52

gonna challenge you, put you out of your comfort zone,

30:56

if you really want something awesome, then

30:58

in the description box on

31:01

YouTube, or if you're

31:03

listening to this on Spotify and on

31:05

the podcast platforms, just go

31:07

to bedrosekoulian.com forward

31:10

slash challenge and do my six

31:12

week marathon challenge. It's absolutely

31:14

free. There's a marathon happening

31:17

everywhere across the world at any given

31:19

time. And so you could sign up for

31:21

a marathon, do the workouts

31:24

that are programmed in there. Like I hired a marathon

31:26

coach. You guys know the story. I

31:29

hired a marathon, I'd never run before ever, not

31:31

even like half a mile. Haven't even fucking jogged

31:33

half a mile. And I told myself

31:35

this false story that, you know, I'm

31:37

just built to lift weights and that's it. I

31:40

was like, fuck you, dude. You're built to do whatever

31:42

the fuck you want. You've just put yourself

31:44

in this box and now you gotta get out

31:46

of it. And so I hired a marathon

31:48

running coach. And I said, hey,

31:51

build me a six week running program. And

31:53

I trained for six weeks, followed

31:56

the nutrition program, the training program. And

31:58

then I ran the San Diego marathon. 26.2 miles.

32:03

Proof

32:04

that you can do anything that

32:06

you set your mind to, even if you feel

32:08

you are genetically not made for that thing. The

32:11

human body, then the human mind, the

32:14

psyche is so adaptable that

32:16

you could achieve whatever the fuck you want, but

32:19

you got to keep the promise. And

32:22

so if you go to bedrestcooling.com forward slash challenge,

32:24

you'll get the training program, you

32:26

will get the nutrition program, and you will

32:28

get six weeks of mindset and motivation from

32:30

me absolutely free. All this is free.

32:33

You pay absolutely nothing, nothing.

32:36

And if you're like, well, I don't want to pay for a marathon, I don't

32:38

want to register for a marathon. I got you covered, motherfucker.

32:41

I got you covered. You're going to get in your car

32:44

and you're going to drive 13.1

32:47

miles and then you're going to drive

32:49

back 13.1 miles and

32:51

that just became your marathon path. So

32:54

then what you're going to do is you're going to download this thing, the

32:56

six week marathon challenge. Now that

32:58

you've got your 26.2 miles charted

33:01

out in your community, 13.1 miles out, 13.1 miles back

33:03

gives you 26.2. So you got

33:08

yourself a free marathon. You got yourself free training. You got

33:10

yourself free nutrition programming. You got your self

33:12

free mindset and motivation,

33:15

motherfucker. And if you

33:17

do this and you keep the promise

33:20

and you actually finish, do the marathon

33:23

in six weeks, at the end of that six weeks, you

33:26

will have met the highest version of yourself.

33:28

The person that you're going to be proud of, the person

33:30

that you admire, that you love, that you respect, and

33:33

you're going to break so many limiting beliefs

33:35

that you have that you are going

33:37

to achieve much

33:40

more of your goals in life in every category,

33:42

relationship, money, mindset,

33:45

purpose, meaning, all of it. So

33:48

that's what I have for you guys. I want to appreciate

33:50

you. Thank you for watching and

33:52

listening to the Bedros Kulian show. And I also

33:54

want to remind you this, that average is

33:56

the enemy. Success is your responsibility.

34:00

and change can take place in an instant if

34:02

you are willing to flip the switch. We'll

34:05

see you next time.