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1:12

got to thinking. About

1:14

all the different ways we lie to ourselves and

1:17

we are what is lying and is just our

1:19

ego. When we lie to ourselves in July to

1:21

others as just being an asshole, right? let's be

1:23

honest. But when we lie to ourselves at his

1:25

ego, trying to protect us in his pride, trying

1:27

to protect us, it is. And it's how we

1:29

put our heads in the sand when we lie

1:32

to ourselves because we don't want to accept the

1:34

reality, the truth of what is really happening and

1:36

so. You. Know me? I'm

1:39

gonna be brutally honest. I've been

1:41

brutally honest with myself last decade and

1:43

a half. The last fifteen years and

1:46

I have painfully transformed into the highest

1:48

level version of myself. And the self

1:50

work continues every day. Trust me, when

1:52

I say I learned something new about

1:55

myself. I peel the onion every day

1:57

and the self work continues every single

1:59

day. In some fucking days it is very

2:01

painful and so of hum and expect that

2:04

of you and as long as you're watching

2:06

and listening to my shows than you know

2:08

that I'm gonna lovingly with compassion and care

2:10

and empathy shit on you from time to

2:12

times because I care. So let's get started.

2:14

One of the lies that you tell yourself

2:16

that are limiting your growth, your happiness, your

2:19

success. Will

2:21

break into those in a second. About nine I'm

2:23

forty bucks for some me tell you story. The

2:25

story is this when I was younger and as

2:27

share this story before but for your brand new

2:29

listener. Then. You may have

2:31

never heard this before, but I was the

2:33

king of dating crazy. I would

2:35

they crazy checks. In

2:38

my early early twenties and I

2:40

can figure out why they were

2:42

so bad for me when they

2:44

would do something stupid and a

2:46

would drive me ape shit right?

2:49

Well. I would date crazy and

2:51

in my mind I believed that I could

2:54

change him as ago I can change him

2:56

and I know there's this ah. There's.

2:58

A saying that was my generation. How to sing can

3:00

turn a whole into a house wife. Can't

3:03

turn whoa into a housewife. He can

3:05

turn crazy. And. The same. Anyone

3:10

can change themselves. But.

3:12

You. Can't. Change any one And

3:14

that's the reality. In fact, that as thing number

3:16

one that I want to share with you is

3:18

it. You know few things that I can change

3:21

him or her. You can't. You.

3:24

Can change yourself. They.

3:26

Can change themselves, but you can change someone

3:28

else in the more you believe that you

3:30

can find some once and whether it's a

3:32

business partner, whether it's a friend, whether it's

3:34

someone that you plan on dating or marrying

3:37

a new my God like these things about

3:39

them, but I hate these things about them.

3:41

but I think I can change them to

3:43

camp. That's just how

3:45

it is as on telling you I

3:47

wasn't able to fix crazy, I wasn't

3:49

able change crazy into saying and. You're.

3:52

Not could be able to change whatever those

3:54

traits are. Into. The in those

3:56

personality types and to what you want

3:58

now is that person. Change Bad

4:00

enough. They will do it. But.

4:02

That's out of your control, so understand that you

4:05

cannot change a person. Thing Number two: Is.

4:08

When you say I don't have enough time,

4:10

right? I don't have enough time as a

4:13

lobbyist, Tell yourself. One. Of the biggest

4:15

lies are that I don't have enough time.

4:17

You do have enough time. You simply don't

4:19

prioritize something, right. And that is the trap

4:21

of tomorrow's He never heard me talk about

4:24

the trap of tomorrow. It's when you pick

4:26

something off or do that tomorrow. And tomorrow

4:28

becomes next week. Or next week becomes next

4:30

month. Next month becomes next year. Whether it's

4:32

losing weight, getting fit, eating right, positive mental

4:34

attitude, Whether it's you're working on your relationship

4:37

until it's too late, and then boom. You.

4:39

Get that divorce and your shot.

4:42

Out of this divorce Com about. Up

4:44

when. There was a smaller issue unit work

4:46

on unit six. it's he wants to put it off.

4:49

And. Because he said you have time and

4:51

Youtube putting their ass kicking the can down the

4:54

road. You know you'll say stuff like hey, I,

4:56

I don't have time to do this and I'll

4:58

put it off tomorrow. Yet You make time to

5:00

watch Tv. You'll make times to scroll through social

5:02

media. You make times remember the stats and your

5:04

favorite athlete. right? You

5:07

make time. To.

5:09

Goof around with your homies. You'll.

5:11

Make time to go out with your girls and and

5:13

drink wine or whatever it is that you do get.

5:15

You won't make time for the things that you really

5:17

want to prioritize because he really don't want to prioritize

5:19

and must be honest if it was a priority would

5:21

make the time for it but instead would you do

5:24

you make the excuse for it survives. I'm here to

5:26

tell you that. They are one of the

5:28

biggest lie detectors off. is it I don't

5:30

have the time. You might as well say

5:32

it's not a priority to meet a lease.

5:34

Be fucking honest with yourself and say it's

5:36

not a priority to me because what you're

5:38

doing is you're falling into the trap of

5:41

tomorrow by saying I don't have the time

5:43

to. They are due tomorrow. Tomorrow becomes next

5:45

week and the next month And next year

5:47

and the pain continues to amplify. The problem

5:49

continues to grow my number three that you

5:51

tell yourself which is all. Be happy when

5:53

I get and instill in the blanks rights.

5:55

Manager understand something. we're all wired for. For

5:58

this mild level of dissatisfaction. The

6:00

human condition. We're wired for this

6:02

mob level of dissatisfaction and so

6:04

when we say our behalf be

6:06

when this happens, I'll be happy.

6:08

When I get this, I'll be

6:10

happy when he or she does

6:12

that. Guess what? You're really

6:15

putting the locus of control outside of you.

6:18

The only way you'll be happy as

6:20

when the locus of control is inside

6:22

of you, write internal Locus of Control.

6:25

When. You are saying I'll be happy when

6:27

and then and external things to happen. What does

6:29

that doesn't happen? What is going on? Say what

6:32

you want to say, what you want to hear.

6:34

What are They don't do what you want them

6:36

to do. One of the don't react the way

6:38

you wanted them to react sir just gonna live

6:40

your life unhappy rights? That is unfortunate way. But

6:43

if you take the locus of control internally, if

6:45

you have internal locus of control then you find

6:47

yourself in a position. To. Be absolutely

6:49

happy because I needed understand. This guys

6:51

and gals happiness is an inside job

6:53

To get that happiness as an inside

6:55

job. So the biggest likes that you'll

6:57

tell yourself is it. I'll be happy

6:59

when I get. You

7:02

should be happy where you are today.

7:04

You should be happy for the things

7:06

that you house. You. Should be

7:08

happy for. The.

7:11

Things that you can control. And.

7:13

Then you're going to cope with what you

7:15

can't control, and then you're going to concentrate

7:17

on what counts. And those are the three

7:19

sees that often tell you that I live

7:21

by rights. I control what I can. Which.

7:24

Means I get to control my happiness. I

7:26

cope with what I can't control and I

7:28

concentrate on what they. How often you concentrate

7:30

on the things that don't even matter. And

7:34

then you are not happy because of it's who

7:36

cares? What are the things that are within your

7:38

control? The to make you happy to take that

7:40

internal locus of control. Lie

7:42

a number for. My

7:44

number for everything is great! Everything

7:47

is not great. When. The biggest

7:49

lies: People tell themselves that everything is great. That.

7:52

Is the biggest former denial. If you are

7:54

out there saying that everything is great, When.

7:57

You're in a state of denial. But as

7:59

you. In a place where you like hey look. Most.

8:02

Things are great of my life. But. These are

8:04

the areas that need fixing. And. I'm

8:06

not going to deny them. I'm not going to

8:08

avoid them. I'm not going to bury my head

8:10

in the sand phenomena actively. Pursue.

8:13

Fixing them. That. Is what a

8:15

healthy human does. But if you're walking around

8:17

like yourself in saying everything's great, living in

8:19

a state of denial. Than. You're fucked.

8:23

Because. The things that you are avoiding. By.

8:25

Lying to yourself in denying. And

8:29

saying everything is great. When. There's

8:31

actually problem there. That problem will continue to grow

8:33

and grow bigger and then at some point it

8:35

will detonate in your face. And when it does,

8:37

it's usually when you're like oh my god, what

8:40

a tragedy took place. I didn't see it coming

8:42

when in reality he would just in the state

8:44

of denial. Number

8:46

Five. Everything sucks.

8:48

It is the opposite of number for

8:51

right when you say smaller than sucks.

8:53

Now everything doesn't suck. You wake up

8:55

today because there is probably thousands of

8:57

people that went to bed healthy a

8:59

happy last night and didn't even wake

9:02

up. When you are have that mindset

9:04

that everything sucks you at the human

9:06

your right member member, Winnie the Pooh,

9:08

he or the Donkey this I'll be

9:11

sad and depressed and I go. I

9:13

don't know. Nothings good, Everything. science, Everything's

9:15

bad. It's raining, it's cloudy.

9:17

Everything hurts like not be that guy.

9:21

Like. That person repels all

9:23

things good. You. Repel Money

9:25

He repel. He repelled. Good.

9:28

People You people, good energy as

9:30

he lived this everything sex mindset.

9:33

That is a state of being ungrateful.

9:35

Just like the everything is great. All.

9:38

The time. His denial. Everything

9:41

sucks all the time. Is

9:44

being ungrateful? Because. There's

9:46

a lot of things to be grateful for. You woke up to

9:48

the you're healthy. You have a

9:50

roof over your head, You have a vehicles

9:52

fuck you're watching this or listening to this

9:54

on something. You have some form of technology

9:56

that you can actually reach out to humanity

9:58

with. get help from. Everything

10:02

doesn't suck. Number

10:04

six, I'm not that fat.

10:08

Listen, I can't tell you I used to remember I used

10:10

to be a personal trainer and clients would come to me

10:12

and sign up. They would sign up for

10:14

personal training and they go, I only have a few

10:16

pounds to lose and then I put them on the

10:18

scale and then I put them on the

10:20

body fat test machine and I'm like

10:22

Mrs. Jones, Mr. Jones, like you're

10:24

like 28, 25, 30, 33% body fat, like a third of

10:30

your body is fat. You are over fat. You

10:32

don't have a few pounds to lose. You have like

10:34

40, 50, 60 pounds to lose. Most

10:37

of you out there that think you only have a

10:39

few pounds to lose are lying to yourselves. Proof of

10:41

that is this. What I want you to do is

10:43

get naked in your room, get

10:45

in front of a mirror, snap a

10:47

picture of your naked gelatinous body

10:50

and then look at that picture. See, when

10:52

you look in the mirror, you're only going to see

10:54

a few pounds to lose. When you look at

10:57

a picture of yourself naked,

11:00

naked, you are going to see

11:02

all the weight you need to lose. And again,

11:04

I'm not shitting on you here. Well, I am.

11:06

I can't say I'm not shitting on you. I am shitting on you, but

11:08

I want you to be healthy. I want you to be a shining

11:10

example to your kids, to

11:13

your spouse, to the people who believe

11:15

in you, to the people who

11:17

are your friends and how you're going to be

11:19

a shining example in a role model if

11:22

you're lying to yourself and saying you only have a

11:24

few pounds to lose when you have a lot of

11:27

weight to lose. Like get to it. Start eating right.

11:29

Start exercising and don't be

11:32

in denial and calling out a few pounds

11:34

when it's actually like 40, 50 pounds or

11:36

more. Right? And listen, if

11:38

you're jacked, if you're lean, if you're in great shape, hey

11:40

man, good for you. That's awesome. You

11:42

can just bypass this one. Verse seven,

11:45

I make enough money. Now,

11:48

you know, one of

11:50

the biggest lies you guys tell yourselves is that I

11:52

make enough money. We pay our bills. We're

11:55

debt free. We live a humble

11:57

life. Everything's

11:59

good. Would. You don't

12:01

know when another catastrophe takes place.

12:04

Look at what happened a couple

12:06

years ago as gas prices skyrocketed

12:08

as inflation. Blew. Up. As

12:11

interest rates went through the roof. Your.

12:13

Mortgage. Your. Reds. Your

12:16

car Note: Gas prices,

12:18

food prices, Travel expenses.

12:20

everything went up. If

12:23

you were intentionally. Working.

12:26

To. Make three four five times the amount of money

12:28

that you make. And

12:31

still living on a balanced budget.

12:34

When. The next

12:36

tragedy comes about. You

12:39

can handle it and assad just inflation

12:41

and interest rates and cost of living.

12:44

What? Happens if mom or dad gets sick

12:46

and insurance doesn't cover it. I.

12:48

Just had like oh well I can take care of

12:50

them I can help them What happens if you your

12:53

spouse. One. Of your kids get

12:55

sick and insurance doesn't cover it. Are

12:58

going to run to go fund me and hope that. The.

13:02

Community at large. Will. Help

13:04

fund. That thing.

13:07

Or do you want to be in a financial place? Where.

13:10

You can be like, you know what? Thank God we make a lot

13:12

of money. We've. Got the savings were going

13:15

to have. This family were going to help

13:17

this this parents. Were. Going to

13:19

help Grandma rent to help our

13:21

kid. Like. You want your

13:23

financial cup to overflow my friends? And.

13:25

As you are not there if you're just like

13:27

I make enough money and I'm good as want

13:30

to cover my bills, cover my rent, cover my

13:32

food, of my expenses, and good. That is a

13:34

selfish way to live. Every

13:36

single one of you out there can have

13:38

a side gig. Could be Megan side income.

13:41

They could compete with the income that you're

13:43

making right now. Everything I don't have time.

13:45

Go back to what we talked about earlier.

13:47

Number Two. Which. Is I don't

13:49

have time you're saying is on a priority. You

13:51

do have time them all the different way to

13:53

sleeping and. You're. Wasting time.

13:56

Screen. Sucking video games Tv shows

13:58

binge watching T The. You

14:02

know all the stats of every fucking sports

14:04

team that you follow. Use all that time

14:06

to create another source of income for yourself

14:08

and balance and manage your money well. Because.

14:12

Many. Gives

14:14

you options money, Solves.

14:16

The problem of not having money. Money.

14:20

Is. A vehicle to freedom. And.

14:22

When you have those options and when you can

14:24

solve those problems, and when you can have that

14:26

vehicle to freedom. You. Don't

14:29

become dependent on the system. The

14:31

man. Who.

14:33

Always is trying to oppress you rights

14:35

and tax you and tell you what

14:37

you said, Believe and how you should

14:40

live and what you should do. Money

14:42

gives you freedom. That

14:45

you currently may not have. Money

14:48

was it. A live in a gated community to

14:50

keep your family safe for money allows you to

14:52

get your family the better quality of food. Money

14:54

lousy to take your family to to. To

14:57

be tastes. In.

14:59

A way that this can be memorable for

15:01

years experiences that that. That. They

15:03

will never forget. Money gives

15:06

you peace of mind when you can serve other people

15:08

with that. Makes. A lot of money

15:10

and be kind to others with it. And

15:13

number eight. When

15:15

you say I'm just not good at

15:17

x. right? I

15:19

often hear that. I'm

15:22

just not good at X. And. That I

15:24

could be. I'm just not good at running. I'm just not

15:26

good at making money. I'm just not good at being an

15:28

extrovert. I'm just not good at. Public.

15:31

Speaking, I'm just not good at. Swimming.

15:34

Look. At how much you are missing out

15:36

our life by saying i'm not good at

15:38

and a filling in the x yeah was

15:40

humans we very adaptable, we're very pliable, you

15:43

can be good, and a lot of things.

15:45

In fact the reason I started my six

15:47

week challenges to because I convinced myself that

15:49

I'm not good at running. As

15:51

it, I'm not good at running. I'm.

15:53

Just good at lifting weights, lifting heavy things,

15:57

That. That. That. my creator

15:59

has Has built me in a

16:01

way to build a lot of muscle and be strong

16:04

and not so much to have endurance

16:06

and run I'm not a good runner, and

16:08

I had made that my false identity, and

16:11

I realized like dude You

16:14

could do anything you want like how can you say you're not good

16:16

at? Running and

16:18

that's when I hired a running coach And

16:21

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16:23

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16:25

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16:46

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16:48

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16:51

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16:53

good at running because I never ran And

16:56

I wasn't good at running because I kept believing the story

16:58

that I told myself which is I'm a big guy

17:01

I got flat feet. I'm not good

17:03

at endurance I'm good at lifting

17:06

and the stories that you tell yourself you begin to believe

17:08

and So if you say I'm

17:10

not good at talking to girls if you say I'm not good

17:12

at talking to men if you say I'm Not good at asking

17:14

for a raise. I'm not good at whatever Then

17:17

you're not gonna be good at it as it

17:19

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17:21

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17:23

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17:26

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17:28

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17:30

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to the show. And finally, number nine.

19:02

And number nine is this

19:05

big lie that you tell yourself, which is I'm not worthy.

19:07

And that is a lie that usually comes

19:10

from trauma. It's a lie

19:12

that comes from abuse. It's a lie from

19:15

being bullied. It's a lie because

19:17

maybe your parents weren't good to you, maybe some bullies

19:19

weren't good to you, school teachers

19:21

weren't... someone called you fat, you're clumsy, you're

19:23

big-boned, you're stupid, you're not smart enough. It's

19:27

a lie. That

19:29

inner self talk is a lie. Most

19:31

people have that negative inner self

19:33

talk. And

19:36

if you keep believing these lies that you tell

19:38

yourself, like you

19:40

will live a life that's just underpinned

19:43

with stress, anxiety, overwhelm,

19:45

depression, it will

19:48

be a life that's unfulfilled. Why would you do

19:50

that? Right? And

19:52

so I encourage you guys, I love you

19:54

to pieces and I want to encourage you

19:56

to live boldly, take risks, break

19:59

these lies. these nine lies that you've

20:01

been telling yourself, you

20:03

are very capable. You

20:05

are very capable. You can change,

20:07

others can't change, but you can change.

20:11

You have enough time. You just haven't made it

20:13

a priority. Understand

20:15

that happiness, you should already be happy

20:17

where you are in life. Happiness is

20:19

an inside job. It is absolutely an

20:22

inside job. And no, not

20:24

everything is great. If you

20:26

think everything is great in your life, you are living

20:28

in a high state of denial. And if you think

20:30

everything sucks in your life, then

20:32

you are living a life of being

20:34

ungrateful because you're alive, you're breathing,

20:37

you have food, you have shelter, you have an iPhone

20:39

or Android, which I do believe

20:41

is a lesser phone, by the way, because if

20:43

I'm texting you and it's going green instead of

20:45

blue like an iMessage, I

20:47

do believe that's just a lesser, can

20:50

I say it? That's a lesser person than I'm

20:52

texting. And I

20:54

know what you guys are gonna say and instructor Steve

20:56

from the project is like, yeah,

20:59

but you guys all have the fruit phone and

21:01

my phone has higher pixels and all that shit.

21:03

I don't care. If your shit doesn't go

21:06

blue, I'm judging you. Anyways,

21:09

onward, I digress. And

21:11

of course, I'm here to tell you, don't lie to yourself. If you

21:13

think you're a little bit fat, you're probably a lot of bit fat

21:15

and do something about it. And if

21:17

you're like, I'm making enough money, you probably don't make more.

21:21

Share that abundance, right? And

21:23

finally, all

21:25

of us are not good at a lot of things, but

21:28

we're capable of doing everything. And

21:30

it takes sets and reps and training. And there's

21:32

a good coach out there somewhere. There's a YouTube

21:34

video out there that can teach you and show

21:37

you. And beyond that six

21:39

week challenge, the marathon challenge, I've done jujitsu

21:41

with gi. Now I'm doing jujitsu with no gi.

21:44

And I've done rock climbing and I've done

21:46

surfing challenges and I've done salsa dancing and

21:50

playing musical instruments and improv class because

21:52

everything that I said I wasn't good

21:54

at was an absolute lie. I

21:58

become damn good at those things. Now

22:00

certain things I chose not to continue doing

22:02

because they're just not interesting to me But

22:05

I broke those lies and that's what this episode

22:07

is about guys and gals Hey,

22:10

listen, if you got a lot of value from this episode

22:12

Please do me a favor if you're watching this on YouTube

22:14

and give me a subscribe a thumbs up or a comment

22:16

I really would appreciate it. It would help with the algorithm

22:19

and of course Want

22:21

to let you guys know that average is

22:23

the enemy that success is your responsibility And

22:26

change can take place in an instant if

22:28

you are willing to flip the switch. I'll

22:30

see you next time