0:00

Part of life is about getting hurt, about failing

0:02

and getting back up and dealing with adversity and

0:04

setbacks and realizing that what you thought was a

0:06

short path is actually going to be the long

0:08

path to success. And you're going to have to

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take that journey if you really want it. Welcome

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to the Bedros Coolian show. If

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you knew that you couldn't fail at anything,

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what is it that you would do in

0:37

life that would give you more significance, more

0:39

purpose and a greater sense of meaning? Welcome

0:41

friends. Welcome to the Bedros Coolian show. I'm Bedros

0:44

Coolian and I've got a great episode teed up

0:46

for you today. And

0:48

this actually came from an event

0:51

that we did about a week ago called

0:53

Scale Day. So my friend Dan Fleischman and

0:55

I, we own this beautiful 26 acre

0:58

ranch in Temecula, California,

1:01

Blacksite Ranch. And at Blacksite Ranch, we

1:03

run a whole bunch of awesome events,

1:05

Operation Blacksite, the Squire program, parts of

1:07

the Modern Day Night Project, as well

1:10

as masterminds and events. And in fact,

1:12

the real Tarzan also lives on property.

1:14

And we've got almost 200 rescued

1:17

animals there from zebras

1:19

to camels to, well,

1:21

actually Scottish Highland cows, which

1:24

are beautiful cows because they have

1:26

like little toupees on their heads. But

1:28

anyway, this isn't about the Scottish Highland cows

1:30

or the entire size

1:33

of the ranch. This is really about the event that

1:35

took place, which was Scale Day. And at Scale Day,

1:37

we had entrepreneurs there who were doing anywhere

1:39

from a million all the way to 12

1:41

million a year. So we had entrepreneurs there.

1:43

And what they wanted to learn was how

1:46

to scale their businesses. And what I found

1:48

as we were working with some of them

1:50

is that they had these issues,

1:54

for a lack of a better term, they had these

1:56

issues that would get in the way of them building

1:58

their dreams. Like, let's say the 12. Million Dollar

2:00

Business owner wanted to deal scale busting to

2:02

a fifty million dollar business owner. but there

2:04

was some dream killers in the way. and

2:07

the Million Dollar Business owner had some things

2:09

that they could do that would scare them

2:11

to five million, Ten Million Dollars. But there

2:13

were some dream killers in the way. And

2:15

so as we started to kind of poke

2:17

and prod and ask questions, we found that

2:20

it matters that M One Million Dollar Business,

2:22

Two million, Four Million Twins, Ten million, Twelve

2:24

Million Dollar Business. There. was

2:26

always you stream tillers that where the

2:28

limiting. Beliefs or

2:31

the limiting barriers.

2:33

To. Getting to the other side and I

2:35

realize that's not just in business see

2:37

would think that these dreams he'll as

2:39

you're just in business they exist in

2:42

every category of life and so. I.

2:44

Wanted to talk to you guys about that because

2:46

I think so many people than life kind of

2:48

go through life feeling like. Ah,

2:50

if. I. Didn't have a

2:52

chance of there's no chance of failure

2:55

or doubt or uncertainty. I might try

2:57

facts, right? Well, listen, the reality is,

2:59

there's always a chance of failure and

3:01

there's always some uncertainty. Anything you do

3:03

like: whether you're going to start a

3:06

business, whether you're going to lose weight,

3:08

whether you're going to get ill trying

3:10

to a black belt in jujitsu, Whether

3:12

you're going to try and you know,

3:14

find that honey and get married to

3:16

the perfect woman. right? Like whatever the

3:19

thing is, there's always some level of

3:21

risk, uncertainty, fear, And doubt. And

3:23

so if every time you encountered

3:25

that. And it killed your

3:28

dream. You'd be this lonely dude sitting in

3:30

her mom's basement playing video games with cheeto

3:32

dust all up in your belly button, right?

3:34

We talked about that, but that's not. You

3:36

steer the type of person who really wants

3:38

more out of life and I want to

3:40

tell you what the dream tillerson my far

3:42

because if you have any of these dream

3:44

killers that are limiting your human experience, I

3:46

want you to remove these dreams killers and

3:48

end up living a life that is worthy

3:50

of being a shining example to the people

3:52

around you. And by the way, you have

3:54

one second life, right? Like make about this

3:56

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4:02

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4:04

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4:09

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and so the Dream Killers that I found

5:54

that. Limit people's human

5:56

experience Not only success financially,

5:59

but success. Life, happiness,

6:01

Relationships. Else. right?

6:04

Meaning experiences as a few things man. So

6:06

let's talk about that so they can be

6:08

the first factor. As I talk to people

6:10

start picking it's and I'm like hey you

6:12

got a great story right? Like this one

6:14

woman there at the scale day events. And

6:17

a ranch like? she's got a two million

6:19

dollar business. The does two million dollars a

6:21

year. She does what Twenty three percent profit

6:24

margins on that. Not bad at all. However,

6:26

she knows that she can get the same

6:28

to a ten million dollar business and isn't

6:30

an issue of like I don't know how

6:32

to get there in terms of. You're

6:34

creating. More product or hiring more

6:37

people. It's. Really? I

6:39

don't know if I feel comfortable telling my

6:41

story because I don't know how people in

6:43

my family will feel if I share my

6:45

story. Now you know this if trying to

6:47

grow a business. If he finds you anything,

6:49

the more you can show on social media,

6:52

the more you can share your stories. Be

6:54

authentic, be credible, you know connect with people.

6:56

the more likely they are to do business

6:58

with you. so she actively knows which he

7:00

needs to do. The she knows is a

7:02

story that she's to tell and that story

7:04

would create a better connection with her audience

7:06

and that audience would into buying more for

7:08

products. However, she's constantly. In her head about

7:10

what her parents might think rights now she's

7:12

in her thirties, her parents are in their

7:14

late sixties, and so she's like lox. I

7:17

don't wanna. Have. To hear it from

7:19

my parents? And. So imagine how

7:21

unfortunate it is that the success of

7:24

our business is limited by what her

7:26

parents might think. And quite honestly I

7:28

said had, be talk to your parents

7:30

about sharing that party your story. To.

7:33

See what they would think She said no.

7:35

So I said so you're really doing is

7:37

making an assumption rights. So the first thing

7:40

is that that the number one dream tiller

7:42

out there are the people. Sometimes the people

7:44

that you're afraid to maybe offend, the people

7:46

that you think might get hurt. The people

7:48

who have told you that hey, our family

7:51

doesn't talk about this kind of stuff and

7:53

most people can be parents to be your

7:55

siblings. A to be You know your ethnicity

7:57

right? right? In the army and culture. The.

8:00

After that, I come from it. You know,

8:02

we don't talk about a lot of things

8:04

like it's It's almost like he knows you're

8:06

hurt. If. You got offended. Those.

8:09

Things aren't talked about, you just have to kind

8:12

of pressure under the rug. Well with he brushed

8:14

out under the rug sooner or later that's going

8:16

to come up right. You're going to have resentment

8:18

towards the person who offended you, who hurt you,

8:20

who crossed you, who may be, did you wrong

8:23

and so but your sauce. Always a show of

8:25

happy and be respectful and we can only do

8:27

that so long before you fucking loser shit and

8:29

I share that with you because oftentimes one of

8:31

the biggest dream killers are the people in your

8:34

life and sometimes their dreams killers. Because like I

8:36

said, their story that you want to tell there's

8:38

an experience. Do you want. To share but you

8:40

don't want to hurt their feelings or other times

8:42

the people in your life tell you, be careful

8:45

Much out, Don't do that. It's too risky. What

8:47

if you do this and you fail rights or

8:49

what happens if we do it and you actually

8:51

succeed And you actually make a lot of money

8:53

and you take that money to give it your

8:55

church, in your charity and and you give yourself

8:58

an awesome fucking life and a great experience for

9:00

your family. Like not a lot of family members

9:02

out there are telling you like to watch out.

9:05

What? Happens if you actually. Win.

9:07

At the same rights and most of them

9:09

while they have the best of intentions and

9:11

this is something we talked about it scale

9:13

day, we all know that the past to

9:16

hell is paved with good intentions. Meaning oftentimes

9:18

people have the best of intentions for you.

9:20

but really then double limiting your growth because

9:22

if your your your family, members of your

9:24

friends or school teachers, their siblings, their cousins

9:27

are people that you know. Loving you respect

9:29

you put a lot more weight on what

9:31

they say. When you put a lot of

9:33

weight on what they say, you've end up

9:35

making the decisions and and submitting. Your human

9:38

experience Or your business or your love

9:40

life right? I. Can

9:42

tell you this from first hand experience. That

9:45

arm. When I

9:47

decided that had want to be a smug

9:49

technician. Several. People in my

9:51

family. Said. i was making a

9:53

big mistake and and i was going to

9:56

end up broke and end up coming back

9:58

to my mom and dad's house live with

10:00

them because even

10:02

though we escaped communism and came to the United

10:04

States and the goal was

10:06

that hey you can become anything you want, my

10:09

dad especially was like hey, why don't you be a tailor?

10:12

Run my tailor shop. I was like no, not interested. He

10:14

said well you like cars, why don't you go be a

10:16

smog technician, right? So I ultimately dropped out of college because

10:18

college wasn't for me and I went and

10:20

joined the smog technical

10:22

school, right, where you can, you know, here in Southern

10:24

California and I think in a lot of states if

10:27

your car is up for registration and

10:31

you need to get this damn thing registered, well you

10:33

got to go to a place where they can see

10:35

if the car is emitting a lot of smog and

10:38

CO2 and if it is, well then you got to

10:40

get it fixed and then they'll tell you if your

10:42

car passes smog and then you can get the registration

10:44

and the sticker, right, for your license plate. Well

10:47

guess what, as much as I love cars that doesn't mean that

10:49

I want to be up the tailpipe of a fucking car, right?

10:52

And so as I was going to smog technical

10:54

school and I actually got all the credentials and

10:56

got smog tech certified, believe it or not, I

10:59

decided this wasn't for me and

11:01

my dad's like dude, what the hell?

11:04

Like this is a secure job, everybody has

11:06

cars, every car needs to be smog here

11:08

in Southern California, like this is an opportunity

11:10

for you to have a good, safe career.

11:13

But I wasn't looking for a good, safe

11:15

career because that specific good, safe career wouldn't

11:17

make me the kind of money that I

11:19

would want to be able to give my

11:21

future family the experiences, right,

11:23

the lifestyle. I was like man, I

11:26

see people driving multiple cars, I want to have

11:28

multiple cars, I want to have multiple houses, I

11:30

want to fly private, I want to have businesses and

11:32

team members and like be known and write

11:35

a book and I knew all those

11:37

things early on but

11:39

being a smog tech wasn't going to get me there.

11:41

And so when I decided against it, while

11:44

my parents had the best of intentions for me,

11:47

the truth of the matter is had

11:49

I followed their desire

11:51

for me to be a smog technician,

11:53

I would have had a lifelong of

11:56

resentment towards them and regret in my

11:58

life. And so again, going back to

12:00

the end. to this one run that you have. This is like

12:02

your only run in life, right? Don't

12:04

you, I would rather, wouldn't you rather take

12:06

the risk and try something that you're

12:08

passionate about, that you're excited about, that you know gives

12:10

you the sense of meaning and purpose and that you

12:12

would jump out of bed with

12:15

enthusiasm for, rather

12:17

than a safe career

12:21

in an industry that maybe, eh, you're

12:24

not that warm and fuzzy about, right? And

12:26

so understand that the people in your life can

12:29

be some of the biggest dream killers. And they

12:31

may not always do it with the intention to

12:33

harm you. They truly do have the intention to

12:36

keep you safe, to look after

12:38

you, to make sure that you don't fail

12:40

and that you don't get hurt. But guess

12:42

what, baby? Part of life is about getting

12:44

hurt, about failing and getting back up and

12:46

dealing with adversity and setbacks and realizing that

12:48

what you thought was a short path is

12:50

actually gonna be the long path to success

12:52

and you're gonna have to take that journey

12:54

if you really want it, right? So

12:56

understand that people can be a massive dream killer. What

12:59

else can be a massive dream killer? Well, fear and

13:01

doubt. We talked about that. If you

13:03

have any kind of fear or doubt or uncertainty,

13:05

then you are going to find

13:08

yourself playing it safe. And

13:10

I don't know anyone who's played it safe

13:12

that lives a meaningful life and has the

13:14

kind of life where you're like, man, I

13:16

wanna be like them. I just don't. Like

13:19

you look at any professional athlete, any

13:21

musician, any actor or actress, you look

13:23

at anyone that's done anything significant, right?

13:25

I mean, look at Elon Musk. The

13:28

dude comes from South South South America,

13:30

South Africa, Ed. Elon

13:33

Musk, the

13:35

blackest man on the planet comes from

13:37

South Africa. Get it?

13:40

Cause he's white, but he's from South Africa. And

13:43

this cat has taken so

13:45

many risks. In fact, the most recent

13:47

biggest risk he took was raising money

13:49

to buy Twitter. And I shared

13:51

this at scale day because the

13:54

dude between Neuralink, SpaceX,

13:57

Tesla, The Boring Company, The.

14:00

Guy has so many businesses and companies

14:02

a generate revenue and profits for him.

14:04

He did not a half the by

14:07

Twitter if you understand why he bought

14:09

Twitter and he said this publicly and

14:11

interviews. He bought Twitter because he feels

14:13

that Twitter is America's kind of. Public.

14:16

Forum It's America as City Hall

14:18

it is America's Town Center and

14:21

Twitter as were both left and

14:23

right and middle. All people can

14:25

com and have dialogue and once

14:28

he was able to see that

14:30

Twitter was used by the government

14:32

and the Feds to suppress certain

14:35

type of posts and comments and

14:37

ideologies, he was like spot that

14:39

mazes countries about to go to

14:42

shit if I could buy Twitter.

14:45

I. Could weed out. Everything.

14:48

And make it a legit public forum

14:50

where people can have real good dialogue

14:52

and some to a compromise and agreement

14:54

and see if we can actually move

14:56

this country forward in a direction that

14:58

at once was going right. Sovereignty, freedom,

15:00

capitalism E O having the constitution supporting

15:02

I'd our way of life and so

15:04

he raised money. In fact every interview

15:06

that you see with you on Musk

15:08

is like like have none, Every enemy

15:10

brought every other interview. hotel you that

15:13

doubt the up every now and again

15:15

I I regret buying Twitter. And

15:17

so the interview would our. well why did

15:19

you buy Dennis is like every other time

15:21

you regret buying he goes. I bought it

15:24

because I knew there was some the had

15:26

to do. As someone that loves this country,

15:28

some the comes from a country that has

15:30

limits the doesn't give the same opportunities as

15:33

the United States. I bought Twitter selected help

15:35

this country stay free, stay sovereign and other

15:37

that's a pretty fucking cool thing to do.

15:39

But the man risked. His

15:41

career. Amazing. How many people

15:43

hate him now because of what he

15:45

uncovered a Twitter right? How many people

15:48

hate him? How much more death threats

15:50

is he getting? How many but people

15:52

are are trying to. slander

15:54

him you've got you want to talk about having your

15:56

name run through the mud like you're afraid if you

15:58

put up a post and that post might

16:01

hurt some feelings, right? Well, this

16:03

dude's name is being run through the mud every

16:05

day, there's YouTube videos, blog posts, fucking Wikipedia accounts

16:07

dedicated to slandering him. But Elon don't give a

16:09

fuck, and the reason he doesn't give a fuck

16:11

is because he's a man on a mission. He's

16:13

willing to take the risks and he

16:16

moves past the fear, doubt, and uncertainty. He doesn't

16:18

allow fear, doubt, and uncertainty to stop him. And

16:20

if you allow fear, doubt, and uncertainty to stop

16:22

you, that becomes another dream killer. What ends up

16:25

happening is when you're on your deathbed, you're

16:27

in your 90s, late 90s, 100 and some

16:30

odd years old, you're like, fuck, what

16:32

a wasted life. And the truth of the matter

16:34

is, it doesn't have to be on your deathbed. Regret

16:37

starts hitting early on. I've

16:39

talked to enough people in my time, I'm

16:42

49 and I've talked to enough people in their 60s

16:44

and 70s, who are like, man, I have these regrets.

16:46

When I was 30, 40 and 50, I could have

16:48

done X, Y, and Z, and I didn't. And I

16:50

didn't because it was too risky. I didn't because these

16:53

people said it wouldn't work for me and I believed

16:55

them. I didn't because I didn't wanna offend people. I

16:57

didn't because I didn't wanna feel rejected. I didn't because

16:59

I didn't want to fill in the blank. So

17:02

understand that there's a lot of things that

17:04

are designed to be dream killers. Some

17:06

things like people have the best of intentions,

17:08

but still end up killing dreams. Other things

17:11

like fear, doubt, and uncertainty end up literally

17:13

scaring you to pieces. And

17:15

therefore you choose the path that's safest, but

17:18

most benign, and you have a

17:21

life that's just underpinned with mediocrity.

17:25

Now the third thing that I've found that is

17:27

a massive dream killer is a system.

17:30

And when I say the system,

17:32

I mean like the school system,

17:34

the church system, the university system,

17:36

the government system. It is

17:39

designed to turn you into a good

17:41

employee to earn your wages, pay your

17:43

taxes, stay in debt. In fact, I

17:45

don't know if you know this or

17:47

not, but when you start paying

17:49

your things off, when

17:52

you start paying your things off, like if you

17:54

start paying off your college debt and you clear

17:56

your college debt, you clear your car note, your

17:59

credit score actually. So it begins to drop

18:01

a little bit. And the reason is credit

18:03

score, the higher the better, is designed to

18:05

keep you in debt. You

18:08

know that, right? So while it's good to have

18:10

a high credit score, it's actually designed to also

18:12

keep you in debt because when you have debt

18:15

and you are consistently paying off that debt without

18:17

missing a payment or a deadline, your credit score

18:19

is higher. But if you clear out your

18:21

debt and you don't have debt,

18:23

your credit score begins to drop. How about

18:26

that? Like shouldn't they reward

18:28

you for being financially sound, for

18:31

being financially sovereign, for being able to manage

18:33

your money well? But the system

18:35

itself is designed to make into good employees to

18:37

fear you from being

18:39

a risk-taking, dreaming visionary

18:42

of an entrepreneur. It is

18:44

designed to help you limit

18:46

your ideas and

18:49

they give you ideas. Like think about it, you go

18:51

to university, you can't say, well, I think I wanna

18:53

be this kind of like an

18:55

e-commerce supplement sales

18:57

company or a fitness franchise

19:00

mogul, right? You know, they're like,

19:02

hey, here's the categories for bachelor's

19:04

degree, anthropology, sociology, whatever the bullshitology,

19:06

right? And it's all a fucking

19:08

scam. It's designed to make you

19:11

a good employee. And when

19:14

you become a good employee, now you have

19:16

debt, school debt, now

19:18

you have taxes to pay, now

19:20

life is expensive, inflation happens,

19:23

you find yourself on this hamster wheel of

19:25

always earning and paying, earning and paying and

19:27

never really growing towards your dreams, your passions,

19:29

your life experiences. You never get to that

19:32

place of going like, hey, I wanna go

19:34

experience Barbados or fucking Bucharest or fucking, you

19:36

know, go live in a castle in Scotland.

19:38

Like these are all things that I fucking

19:40

done and they're fucking amazing, man. I want

19:42

you to experience this. But that only happens

19:44

when you look at the system and say,

19:46

I don't wanna be part of the system.

19:48

I wanna break out of the system, right?

19:52

The system is designed to keep you in debt, to keep

19:54

you broke, to keep you compliant and under control. And

19:57

So what else do we have that is a dream

19:59

killer? Rob. This last and final

20:01

one. Swear. How Tactical

20:03

avoidance. And I think a lot of

20:05

you do this. Tactical avoidance is this.

20:09

And then be rich. I want to

20:11

create a business but when you to gather

20:13

more information or I'm tired of being a

20:15

fat fat part of haven't she'll dust my

20:18

belly button and part of having to atlas

20:20

to these. I'm tired of. Having

20:22

my imprints. The. My ass a my

20:24

mom's couch in the basement. From

20:27

playing all these video games. And I

20:29

think I want to do something about my health.

20:31

I'm gonna lose fat and I'm a to build

20:33

muscle. For. Me

20:35

to. Lose. Fat build muscle. I

20:37

gotta do a lot of research and figure

20:40

out what workout is best for me. How

20:42

are you lot of research and figure out

20:44

what diet is best for me That to

20:46

figure out what's would training split is going

20:48

to work the best that you lot of

20:50

research and figure out what business model I

20:52

want to run out of an entrepreneur I

20:54

want to become and tactical avoidance means you

20:56

are doing this Busy works, but it's really

20:58

procrastination in disguise right? You're doing false researchers

21:00

just like research upon research upon research is

21:02

a rabbit hole that never ends quite honestly.

21:04

Rights and you find yourself bites feeling productive

21:06

because you have gathered. A lot of information

21:08

you have actually truly become pretty knowledgeable knowledge. When

21:11

The Hague Joseph Fourteen different die so happy at

21:13

Lean A Job as a eight different training programs

21:15

will help you build muscle and strengths and is

21:17

no like there's these like twenty three different types

21:19

of business models that a hobby for a passive

21:22

income and laptop money right? Most okay great mother

21:24

fucker. want to should try going. One of them

21:26

was a together little more information. A to drill

21:28

down from the twenty three down to one. I

21:30

got idea once you started sucking twenty three and

21:33

go to twenty two and go to twenty Twenty

21:35

One and eventually you'll find the one that works

21:37

best. For you. right? But

21:39

that actually involves. against risk than

21:41

avast bring your neck out there that involves

21:43

creating content consistently that involves the potential of

21:45

getting rejected that involves the potential losing money

21:47

to and of was a potential the people

21:49

telling you that you can't do it you're

21:51

not good enough you don't know how what

21:53

we fail what if you don't make it

21:55

rights but if you're always stuck in this

21:57

tactical avoidance phase of life where

22:00

you're gathering information, you're gathering knowledge, trying to figure

22:02

out which diet, which program, what

22:04

kind of chick you should marry, like, alright, why don't you

22:07

go on some dates? Why don't you make a list and

22:09

then go on some dates and then

22:11

objectively review how that date went, right?

22:15

But when you find yourself doing this tactical

22:17

avoidance bullshit, it's really a false sense of

22:20

productivity. You think you're doing something towards your

22:22

life's mission but in reality, you're not.

22:26

Often times, what you're really doing is

22:28

slowly murdering your dreams. And

22:30

that's why I call this the dream killer episode,

22:32

right? Like, there's a lot of dream killers

22:34

out there, from people to

22:37

fear, doubt, and uncertainty to

22:39

the system that's designed to keep you in

22:41

line as a good little employee working

22:44

just enough to make money but

22:47

in debt just enough to not be able to break

22:49

out of those shackles and then,

22:51

of course, the tactical avoidance. Like

22:53

I want to do something, I want to do something big,

22:55

I want to do something grand, I want to be, you

22:58

know, leave a legacy, I want to be remembered, I want

23:00

to write a book, but

23:03

I need to do more research, I need a fact find,

23:05

I need to gather more information because until I gather that

23:07

information, I don't know exactly how I'm going to do it.

23:09

So a day goes by, a week goes by, a month

23:12

goes by, a year goes by, five years go by, ten

23:14

years go by. And you're like, well,

23:16

the timing's not right, the economy's not right, we don't

23:18

have the right president in place and, you know, my

23:20

finances aren't right. Back

23:23

in the day, I'm going to tell you this one story, I'm

23:25

going to wrap this episode up, I'm going to tell you this

23:27

one story because this is very, very important. So these days for

23:29

Fit Body Bootcamp, I don't do any of the franchise sales. But

23:31

way back in the day, 20 circa 2014, 15, I did the

23:33

franchise sales, right? So

23:39

when someone filled out an application on fitbodibootcamp.com

23:41

to open up a Fit Body Bootcamp franchise

23:43

gym in their town anywhere across the world,

23:46

I'd get on the phone with them. And

23:49

I remember this one particular person, it

23:51

started off, I think in late

23:53

2024 and by, I'm

23:58

sorry, late 2014. Teen. And

24:01

by late twenties, sixteen when they were

24:03

finally ready to pull the trigger. And

24:05

by the way, Nothing. Changed. For

24:08

them, I talked to Larry The I talk

24:10

to them for almost two years, straight from

24:12

late twenty fourteen to late twenties sixteen. And

24:15

pre rp that would get on my radar and they

24:17

would talk to me like having a wanted I think

24:19

I wanted to the zip code in my town or

24:21

I wanted is that zip code my county right Okay

24:23

great malice get you started was good you going with

24:25

the civil kind of territory was and give you will

24:27

help you with the build out will help you with

24:29

finding staff will help you with the marketing systems like

24:31

so you don't fail the Serbian awesome thing you're going

24:34

to do. You can help so many people in your

24:36

community with fitness while making money like what a fucking

24:38

awesome thing and then poof he would ghosts me does

24:40

me for months and impact he would pop up again

24:42

and again. I think I'm interesting to me to do

24:44

this but there's always. An excuse there was I

24:46

was I will. The time is not right

24:48

for something, right? Me like I'm are one

24:50

of times a wife didn't agree. The other

24:52

time we sent him the Ftd, the franchise

24:54

disclosure documents and this motherfucker comes back and

24:56

says in a while my uncle is a

24:58

retired lawyer and he doesn't agree with all

25:00

these different red lines that the uncle put

25:02

through the I'm. Frank. As disclosure

25:04

documents and like. But we can't fucking change

25:06

any of that. Like are hundreds of franchise

25:09

owners have all agreed to that Franchise disclosure

25:11

documents. Like you're not going to start a

25:13

Subway franchise or a Seven Eleven franchise or

25:15

a Jiffy Lube franchise and go to them

25:17

and start redlining shit right? Like that's the

25:20

essay, the franchise agreement. Thus, the Ftd, The

25:22

French as a scorcher document. That's the one

25:24

you have to go with. and it's a

25:26

fair. Essay an Std right? So

25:28

then boom, he would disappear again to By the

25:31

time he popped up on my radar, twenty

25:33

sixteen. Like twenty sixteen, he was residue it. Guess

25:35

what? That. Territory was sold, And

25:37

he was I when an insult I go yeah sold and I

25:40

think and next like ninety days the doors of an open He

25:42

goes what was going to be and I told the zip code

25:44

and. Physical. That

25:46

spike four miles from him. Like cool man. One I

25:48

can go work out a disembodied boot camp. But the

25:50

point of this is. And

25:53

I think General Norman Schwarzkopf said

25:55

dispatched during the nights nineties war

25:57

with Iraq The first are you.

26:00

The War. And I'm

26:02

when the United States military

26:04

was standing by. It's I

26:06

believe it was in Syria.

26:09

And was waiting to

26:11

get the order from the

26:14

President and Congress to

26:16

enter. Iraq.

26:20

And to start that war. Schwarzkopf.

26:23

General Norman Schwarzkopf. Found.

26:26

Himself is waiting. and waiting. and waiting. With

26:28

all these like. Military.

26:30

Men and women that they pretty much built a

26:32

massive city right other in the middle the desert

26:34

and imagine all the cleaning they have to the

26:37

Obama does the gets kicked up in the debris,

26:39

the gets kicked up and the risk that are

26:41

having a face because what if a scud missile

26:43

gets gets meal lobbed on them right and so

26:45

he reached out to Congress in the president and

26:48

he said ladies and gentlemen. Indecision.

26:51

Is costing are American taxpayers more money

26:53

than you guys making the wrong decision?

26:56

Please figure out what decision you want

26:58

to make and let us either invade

27:00

Iraq or pull out and come back

27:02

home. But indecision is costing you more

27:05

Costing Americans more money. Than.

27:07

Making the wrong decision An

27:09

and my friends is a

27:11

dream killer. Make. No

27:13

mistake about it. Procrastination,

27:15

tactical avoidance. Is a

27:17

dream. Til at the show me that I'm

27:20

telling you about who you know was interested

27:22

enough about a bootcamp location and had. Least.

27:25

A good year and a house. To. Acquire

27:28

that territory. Ended up losing an opportunity simply

27:30

because of Fact finding, Fact finding, Fact finding,

27:32

fear, uncertainty, doubts. People speaking into him saying

27:34

it was on a good French as a

27:36

squatter. Documents assign okay and then he lost

27:39

the opportunity and he was like is there

27:41

something you can do because I was the

27:43

first one interested in that know what am

27:45

I gonna do. Give. The other

27:47

person their money back. And say

27:50

sorry. This guy's been indecisive

27:52

for eighteen months now, so underrated. Pull

27:54

the trigger. I'd rather take decisive person

27:56

who's I am ready to do this. And.

27:59

i'm going to figure it out and you guys are gonna

28:01

help me because you guys are the franchise headquarters. And that's

28:03

exactly what we did. So again,

28:05

friends, this is the only run we

28:07

get at life. There's a lot

28:09

of dream killers out there. Some come with the best

28:11

of intentions. Others by design

28:14

are designed to kill your dreams and

28:16

to suffocate your ambition. You

28:18

know what you're meant to do. You know what you desire

28:20

to do. You know what your purpose and your meaning is

28:23

gonna be in life. But you can sense

28:25

it. You can feel the gnawing of greatness in you, right?

28:27

And you know that you have to elevate to

28:29

the 2.0 version to get there. But there is

28:31

risk involved. That you have to face the fear

28:33

and doubt and uncertainty. And you have to go

28:35

against some of the things that the people that

28:37

you love and respect say. You do,

28:40

I certainly did, right? My mom and dad

28:42

wanted me to be a smart technician. They

28:44

wanted me to take over my dad's tailor

28:46

shop. I went completely off their reservation and

28:48

did something very different. And

28:51

I knew that what I was gonna do involved a lot of risk,

28:54

involved a lot of sacrifice. But

28:57

I also knew that if I didn't do it, there would

28:59

be a lot of regret and resentment of

29:01

not only self, but of others who

29:04

were trying to talk me out of it. And it was

29:06

the greatest, single greatest thing I did is

29:09

to listen to my radiance within. Instead

29:11

of listening to the fears and doubts, instead

29:14

of listening to the system and complying, instead

29:16

of tactically gathering

29:19

all this information and avoiding doing the

29:21

real work and launching. And

29:23

so I want you to do the same. This is the

29:25

one life, live it. And remember this, that

29:28

average is the enemy. That success is

29:30

your responsibility. And change can take place

29:32

in an instant if you

29:34

are willing to flip the switch. I'll see you

29:36

next time. What's the difference between you and you

29:39

and you? Back

29:41

with you. What's the only one, the one, the one, the

29:43

one, the one, the one, the one, the one, the one,

29:46

the one.