I think your 30’s are about second tries. This is when you will do things properly. You meet someone in your 20's and fall in love and throw yourself into a hectic romance because it's all so magical and ends just as painfully and now you're gonna do it differently. You want loyalty. You want silent agreements. You also know what you don’t want. You have some standards. You don’t give yourself away so easily. You have worked hard to build a life for yourself and if someone’s gonna be invited into it he better make it better in some way. You no longer do things just to do them.