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All right, Steve, This is from Lisa on Steve

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Harvey FM. She needs some advice, she says.

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My coworker, who I've worked with for two

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years, has always been really nice to

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me, and I thought he might have a

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crush on me. My last boyfriend and I

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broke up a couple of months ago, and I've been kind

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of kind of flirting with my coworker,

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dropping little hints that i'd be open

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to asking to him asking

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me out. But he doesn't seem to be taking the

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hint. Should I take it as a sign that

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he's just nice and not really interested,

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or should I be blunt with him and make

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the first move.

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Well, you can go and be blunt, but you might get blunt

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back. I remember this a new day now, so

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go ahead and be blunt. He might be

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blunt too.

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Oh gosh, if

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she might asked me, well.

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You know the rejection, you know, it could be you know,

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pronoun could be anything. You never know.

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Got to be aware of It's.

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Night. Yeah,

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All because someone's nice to you doesn't

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mean they're in still in that way.

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Well, not no more, not no more, he used

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to, but not no more, not

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no more. Not In twenty twenty four. There's

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too much going on out here.

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You just never know, all

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right, So she shouldn't, you're

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saying. If she does, I still go

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ahead.

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But get ready though.

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Be prepared your feelings

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together.

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Yeah, yeah, you have you know, you know,

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you know, make sure you're mentally capable of handling

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what you're fit to hear.

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Oh, so shoot your shot,

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but.

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Shoot your shot, but get ready to get shot

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shot. Yeah,

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go ahead, feel

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with your hand on your chest. Excuse

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me.

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She says, he's really been nice for her though, and

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he wearrush on her might.

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When the last you might have thought the dude had

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a crush on letter that we're

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from that generation where it might have would.

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Have could you

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ah?

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Here you all

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right?

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Moving on to Melinda and Steve

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Harvey FM, Melinda

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says, the last guy I had sex with was

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a friend with benefits that I was getting

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together with pretty regularly for almost a

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year, and who was only the fourth guy

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I was ever with. Well, he recently

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got engaged. I know we didn't

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love one another, but for some reason

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I'm having a really hard time accepting

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that he's getting married after us only

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having stopped sleeping together a few months

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ago. Maybe I felt more for

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him than I wanted to admit, even

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though we weren't dating, it was the best

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relationship I've had in a few years.

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Is it normal to feel jealous over

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a lost hookup even though it was never

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going anywhere? Do I just need to get back out

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there and start dating to help get over

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this feeling? Wow? Yes,

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yes to everything.

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Yeah, let's just simplify

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this. Merry

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go round and jumped us round? What so?

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Yes, it's normal to feel jealous.

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Oh yeah, lost took up? Okay, even

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though it was never going anywhere?

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Wasn't going nowhere?

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Uh huh?

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And then she all, y'all was was friends

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with benefits.

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With Benny's Yeah. And then she said

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it was test driving bread, Yeah,

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and what's your theory? What you what you're saying about

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testing?

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Women? Gotta be careful test driving because y'all

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always wind up getting drove.

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All right?

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And then the lie you test driving? But he

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driving off in a Mercedes somewhere else. It's

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called a wedding.

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Yeah, he's getting married. And then she wants

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to know, do I just need to get back out there and

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start dating.

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You don't need to get back out there because you stupid.

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You don't know, you don't know the rules, and

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you don't know how it goes. You don't need to

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get back out there. You need to get within

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yourself and discover

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what you want, find out what you're

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looking for, and set yourself some new

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goals and some new principles and

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get yourself a whole whole

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new set of all What am I looking

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for? What it started with?

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Standards?

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Standards? Yeah, you need

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all that, You need.

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All that she needs to value yourself.

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Because you don't have that to get

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stop. The last thing you need to do is go back

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out there with this mindset because

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you're gonna get drove again. Stop

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test driving when it ain't what you

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do. Right.

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So, she she wants to get over this feeling

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and that's only temporary, right.

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Y'all can't get over feeling with another

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feeling. That's what men do. We get

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over another U with a You. You gotta go get

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it, you gotta go find yourself system.

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Yeah, that's right, all right, thank

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you. The Steve Harvey

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