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Hello and welcome to

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another episode of beyond the

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bench. My name is Mo, I'm

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registered dietitian and

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behavioral change specialists

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and every episode I will do my

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best to bring you closer to a

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life free of benching. So you

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can live your best life and not

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worry about binge eating and all

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the complications that it brings

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into your life. And today we are

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going to be talking about

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whether binge eating is an

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escaping escape tool escaping

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mechanism or not how to know if

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your binge eating is because of

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an escape, or because of

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something else. But mainly,

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we're going to try to figure out

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if it's because it's something

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that you're using as an escape

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or not. And before we're talking

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about that, we have to answer

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the question of what would we be

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escaping from? So what are some

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of the scenarios that if present

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would cause us to escape? And

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how do you recognize that we are

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trying to escape this is really

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important is the awareness, we

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have to always bring our

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attention to the awareness, our

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awareness of what we're

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experiencing. And from there, we

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will know if we're trying to

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escape it or not. And if binge

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eating is our way of escaping

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it, because if it usually comes

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right after something we don't

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like or we're trying to escape,

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then yes, chances are, it is an

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escape. But let's talk about

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that. Let's talk about what we

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are escaping what most people

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try to escape through binge

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eating. And to grow into that we

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have to talk a bit about the

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body and the mind, specifically

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the mind and the body. The body

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is a place that we basically

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spend our entire life in. And

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the mind is another place that

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we spend a lot of time and I've

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actually read this article once

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said that people spend more time

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in their minds and they spend

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doing any anything else. And I

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totally agree. Specifically. For

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this time that we live in, we

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are so in our minds, we are

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trapped in our minds. And if

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that mind is a nasty place, then

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no wonder we want to escape it a

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little bit. So we're going to,

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I'm going to off the bat

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challenge you right now, to

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think potentially over our

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recent bench that you had, and

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ask yourself, was there

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something that was going on your

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body in your mind that you just

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really didn't like that you were

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kind of like judging and trying

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to escape? Maybe it's like some

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some things your mind were

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saying or some emotions, your

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body was experiencing maybe a

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lot of anxiety, depression,

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sadness. And by the way, if

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you're wondering, oh, can other

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habits also be used as an escape

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100%. That's what addiction can

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be to some extent. And that is

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why binge eating can be

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addictive behavior. But other

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addictive behaviors would be

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spending too much time on social

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media or buying things online,

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or drug addictions, alcohol

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addictions, smoking, addictions,

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pornography, addictions, all of

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these could be used as an escape

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as escaping tools, if they come

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after a point where we feel like

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we, you know, we just can't, we

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can't stand what we're

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experiencing. If what we can't

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experience in our minds and our

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body, what we experienced in our

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minds, and our body cannot be a

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kind of accepted or it's just

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kind of very difficult to

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accept, then and binge eating

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comes after or another addictive

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behavior comes after then yeah,

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usually it is used as an escape.

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And I'm going to start sharing

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with you a little bit of how to

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change that. And how to start to

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change your mentality around it.

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So that you're able to break

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free from that escaping behavior

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because we both know, we all

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know that that escape might

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might be very temporary.

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Eventually you go back to where

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you were, you cannot even find

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yourself facing it again. And

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that's why we often have to

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escape again. So we keep going

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back and forth between escaping,

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and facing it escaping in facing

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and escaping and facing it. It's

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a really is if you look at it,

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it can be a little bit like What

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the hell's going on, I just

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escaped it. And then next thing

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you know is when I escaped

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imagine like try escaping a

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prison Oh, you find yourself

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another prison and then escaping

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prison to finish off another

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prison and keep going on and on

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and on and on. And it never ever

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ends and you're just addicted to

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the escaping imprisonment

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experience because that's these

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are the only two constant things

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is the fact that there's a

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imprisonment experience. And the

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fact that there is an escaping

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experience. And that's it, there

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is actually no freedom. It's an

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illusion. And so we want to

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learn more about how we can

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break that cycle. break that

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chain, and part of breaking that

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cycle largely involves

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understanding what is going on.

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So let's take the mind, for

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example. And I'm actually going

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to share a story from my life

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just to kind of like, explain a

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little bit. How can be when I

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first Oh, I can't believe I'm

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sharing the story because it

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just actually was just just

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candidate just happened as I'm

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recording this. And I just want

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to say before I share the story

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that I am very grateful for

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Canada, Canada has given me a

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lot of people that I love has

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given me a lot of friends,

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family,

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career education, everything has

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given me really a lot of things

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and I am very, very grateful for

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this country. So I'm going to go

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ahead and share He's experienced

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Having said that, when I first

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moved to Canada, at the age of

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19, I had moved. I had no, I had

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kind of like signed online where I'm going to be staying in the apartment. I was not welcome on

5:10

residents, not because of

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anything, just because of the

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second year transfer students

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that didn't accept second year

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transfer students on residences.

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So I had to find an apartment

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and I cannot booked it blindly.

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And we kind of signed signed on

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it blindly. And so what happened

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is, when I got off the plane, I

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dragged my two big luggages all

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the way to that apartment, which

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was in Waterloo, Ontario. And I

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went to the superintendent, it

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was evening, it was on a Friday.

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And I was like, Alright, I'm

5:37

here. I want my keys. She was

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like, Okay, well, you got to sign these papers. You can't just have the keys. And I was

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like, Okay, well, let me sign them. And then she was like,

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Wait a second, where's your tenant insurance? And I was

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like, What the hell is that?

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It's insurance. I have no idea

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what that is. And she was like,

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well, that's what, that's one

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thing that you cannot get the

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keys unless you have, but it's

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basically insurance sometimes,

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like, where do I get it? She's

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like lawyers. And then she's

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like, but they're all closed

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until Tuesday, because it's

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Labor Day on Monday. And I was

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like, okay, and she was really,

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really mean about it. And I was

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like, so what does that mean?

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Like, I have nowhere to stay. I

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just came from Egypt. And she's

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like, I don't care. And I was

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like, Oh my God. And so I ended

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up dragging my two huge bags of

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luggage behind my back. And

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volume eyes out because I missed

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my friends miss my loved ones in

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Egypt, and was really

6:22

uncomfortable, very difficult

6:26

situation. Kind of gathered

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myself a little bit, found the

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motel online, checked into that

6:30

motel, and then ordered a huge

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family size KFC meal The last

6:34

time I ever had a KFC meal

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because there was nowhere near

6:38

the KFC in Egypt. I'm sorry. But

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the KFC in Canada is horrible.

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Compared to the one we have the

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one the one that Egypt has. And

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that was my comfort food in

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Egypt. So when I ordered that,

6:48

alright, automatically here a

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huge amount of food aid it all

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felt disgusted almost puked.

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And, and that that was exactly

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what that was one of my big

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experiences. So yeah, happy

6:58

Canada. But again, this by the

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way, the amount, the amount of

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negative experiences I've had in

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Canada compared to the positive

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is like not even comparable,

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like No, I'm just want to say

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that Canada is a beautiful

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country with beautiful people.

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And yes, bad things happen

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everywhere. But I guarantee you

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had negative experiences in

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other countries too, in Egypt as

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well. So there's nothing I

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sorry, I had to share this

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story. I'm so close to Canada.

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So point is, let's go back a

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little bit and dissect that

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scenario. What happened? Well,

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why did I I asked myself like,

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years later, of course, I was

7:31

not aware at all what was

7:33

happening situation was kind of

7:33

upset, what's going on. But

7:36

years later, I asked myself,

7:36

like, why did I binge that? Why

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was I going towards that food

7:39

and, and the reality of it is,

7:43

one, I was experiencing a lot of

7:43

pain in the body, a lot of

7:48

negative emotions, anxiety,

7:48

sadness, depression, missing

7:53

people loneliness, not being

7:53

accepted. And that was a ton of

7:58

physical pain, emotional pain,

7:58

which by the way, I always said,

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you know what physical pain, I

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can handle a physical pain, no

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problems, I actually can I can

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handle a lot of physical pain.

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It's the emotional pain that gets me I never really knew how to handle that. And kind of

8:08

think about it because I grew up

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playing sports when I was young,

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and it was subjected to a lot of

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physical pain in the, in the

8:14

sport that I played. But I never

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really practiced coping with my

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emotions and processing my

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emotions and understanding my

8:23

emotions. And that was very

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difficult for me. In fact,

8:25

emotions were kind of shunned

8:27

growing up as being like, Oh,

8:27

you know, what, what, what? Why

8:30

are you being emotional you

8:30

girl, which is horrible to say,

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by the way, for the record, but the reality is, that's what I was subjected to. And so the

8:34

idea of experiencing emotions

8:37

was very, very kind of like,

8:37

almost like a, you know, you're

8:44

not even like mad enough, which

8:44

I'm, again, I'm sad to say was

8:48

Elmo was an insult to me back

8:48

then. Shouldn't be because there

8:51

is girls are, are, there's

8:51

nothing wrong with with being a

8:55

girl, first of all, but just the

8:55

idea that I can make a whole new

8:58

podcast about, about that about

8:58

about mixed messaging and

9:01

sports, motivating people. What

9:01

are motivating young boys by

9:05

saying, don't be a girl, like I

9:05

hate that kind of messaging. But

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that's the messaging that I

9:09

received. And emotions are one

9:12

of the things that you were kind of shunned away from experiencing. It's like, you

9:14

know, what, no, you should not

9:16

be emotional, you should not

9:16

experience emotions. And

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actually, a lot of girls, women

9:19

also experienced that kind of

9:22

upbringing. They're told that

9:22

they should not be emotional,

9:25

you should experience not be

9:25

okay to experience emotions and

9:29

that they should be logical, not

9:29

him. And that is a horrible way

9:32

to put it. It's horrible wrong

9:32

way to send a message to send a

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young person growing up because

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then it makes them develop a

9:38

negative relationship with their

9:38

emotion and so any negative

9:40

emotion they experience becomes difficult and very painful, more

9:43

more painful than physical pain.

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And that pain is so is often

9:48

imprisoning but feels so bad

9:53

that the best that our only way

9:53

of thinking is I want to escape

9:57

that pain and what do we do? We

9:57

escape it by By triggering a

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huge amount of pleasure, which

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is exactly what happens when we

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binge, so yes, in that case, it

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is an escape. But also, let's

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take a look at that what I experienced physically that a lot of anxiety and all these

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negative emotions, but also

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mentally, mentally I was

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experienced something, too, is.

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And this is unrelated completely

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to what the lady has said to me,

10:21

the superintendent has said to

10:21

me, because if I was, if I was

10:24

at a point where mentally I was,

10:24

I was in a good place, then I'll

10:29

be okay, this woman something,

10:29

you know what she's having a bad

10:32

day or something. But I wouldn't

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take it as a sign that I'm not

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good enough and that I'm not

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welcome here. I'm not accepted

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here. And that I'm going to fail

10:39

in my journey and all this

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stuff, because that's the truth

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is that was what was going on in

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my head that was triggered. And

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it was always the story, it just

10:49

that it got really intensive

10:49

intensified when something

10:51

happened when experience

10:51

happened and told me, You know

10:54

what, you're right, you're not good enough, you're not welcome. Anywhere you go, you're going to

10:56

experience hardship. Your life

10:59

is meant to be horrible, because

10:59

you just left your country where

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you had loved ones or whatever. And now you're going to a new place where nobody's going to

11:04

give a shit who you aren't all that stuff like that was the

11:06

story. And that was what's going

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on in my mind. And I couldn't

11:09

stand it when your mind is a

11:12

place that you can stand because

11:12

it's so filled with negative

11:15

thoughts. And it's so it's like

11:15

having this negative coach that

11:19

you can stand, you know, just

11:19

constantly saying the meaning

11:23

things and putting you down, of

11:23

course, you want to run away

11:26

from them. But when that coach

11:26

is living in your head, how are

11:29

you possibly going to run away

11:29

from them? While you can do the

11:32

exact same thing you did when it

11:32

comes to running away from

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physical pain from emotional

11:34

pain, sorry, you go and seek an

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experience that will really

11:39

trigger you to be present. And

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binge eating is one of those

11:43

experiences, it really pulls you

11:45

into the present moment and pulls you out of your mind because you're intensifying your

11:47

taste buds, your senses, you're

11:50

engaging your senses, it smells

11:50

good, tastes good. Oh my god, it

11:53

feels good in my body. Right.

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And this is where addiction

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stems from addiction stems from

11:56

one of the causes of addiction

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is exactly that. A lot of people

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are addicted to other things

12:03

that forced them to be plugged

12:03

to be present and forced them to

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leave the mind. And if you look

12:06

at it, social media does the

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same. pornography, the same

12:09

addictions, alcohol, all the

12:12

stuff the same, it draws them

12:12

away from the mind, it pulls

12:15

them away from the mind and into the present moment. But it's temporary, it's short lived.

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Eventually, they go back into

12:20

the mind again, and they're

12:20

like, oh, and now I'm stuck in

12:23

there again. And then they have

12:23

to live this constant back and

12:27

forth between an insane intense

12:28

pleasure and an escape, and then

12:33

imprisonment, again, into the

12:33

negative emotions into the

12:37

negative mind. And so what are

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the two solutions to this one?

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There's our there are two solutions. We're gonna go through them right now, what are

12:42

the solutions that can help us

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overcome all this imprisonment

12:45

would like so that we are no

12:49

longer a prison? Or think about

12:49

this way? If you're going to

12:51

spend the majority of your time

12:51

in a place, then why not make it

12:56

a beautiful place? That's I

12:56

mean, if you had to live the

12:59

rest of your life in your living

12:59

room, and you had like all the

13:02

money you need in the world, to

13:02

spend our living room? Would you

13:05

not make that living room

13:05

amazing and beautiful? Would you

13:08

not spend so much money on it to

13:08

make it? There's lots of nature

13:13

and activities and fun things to

13:13

do when pleasant people maybe

13:16

you know, maybe you buy a monkey

13:16

or something. I don't know that

13:20

people don't buy pets like

13:20

monkeys who live in the wild.

13:22

I'm very environmentally friendly. Something important for me, by the way. But anyways,

13:24

you get the point. Maybe you get

13:26

things. Maybe you buy things

13:26

that make you beautiful, right?

13:30

Would you not do that? Yeah. So

13:30

think about your mind, then. How

13:34

is your mind? What would you

13:34

describe your mind us? Is it a

13:38

beautiful place to live in? Or

13:38

is it a kind of nasty place to

13:42

be in? Or is it a prison?

13:42

Because for many people, it's a

13:45

prison. It is. It's a prison

13:45

because it's nasty. It is

13:51

difficult to be in but also they

13:51

can't leave it there. They try

13:55

but they can't seem to break the

13:55

connection. They can't seem to

13:58

break the the negative

13:58

narrative, the negative story,

14:02

it's very difficult to break it

14:02

and so they end up being a

14:05

prisoner to it and that is one

14:05

binge eating becomes an escape.

14:09

When you become a prisoner of

14:09

your own mind. Let's take a look

14:12

at the body when you can process

14:12

your negative emotions because

14:14

negative emotions are actually

14:14

your body's way of trying to

14:17

communicate with you. This is

14:17

something people do not know.

14:20

Emotions literally stands for

14:20

emotion, energy in motion, it's

14:23

your body's trying to

14:23

communicate with you trying to

14:25

tell you something, right? It's

14:25

trying to say hey, I need

14:29

there's something that needs to be done here. And yeah, sometimes it's false alarms,

14:30

such as what people who

14:33

experienced dramas could be many

14:33

times for false alarms, but a

14:36

lot of times it saves you so for

14:36

example, you know let's say back

14:38

in the days when when we were

14:38

cavemen and you saw lion eater

14:43

cousin or something then your

14:43

mind's gonna be like no lions

14:45

are bad if next time you see a

14:45

lion it say it says Get the hell

14:48

out of the out of here don't

14:48

stay here longer. And that's

14:51

when negative emotions are good

14:51

for you when they actually save

14:55

you But what happens when they're false alarms and they like going off all the time like

14:57

bills like all the time You're

15:00

choosing to ignore these false

15:00

alarms, you're choosing to not

15:03

pay attention to it, you're

15:03

choosing to say, No, I don't

15:05

want to experience it, they're

15:05

painful, they're loud, but I

15:07

don't want to even take time to

15:07

turn them off or understand what

15:10

they are. While then all that

15:10

all that negative emotion

15:14

becomes painful. And so what do

15:14

we do, we try to escape it.

15:18

Again, by trade by by going

15:18

through things like food, all

15:22

this stuff. So the key is to

15:22

learn how to process your

15:26

emotions, learn, sit with the

15:26

emotion, learn what it means,

15:29

when you expressing that

15:29

emotion, what does it mean, do

15:31

not judge it, do not try to

15:31

escape it, do not try to avoid

15:33

it, try your best to just

15:33

understand it more, and be okay

15:36

with it and welcome it the same

15:36

way you would welcome any

15:39

positive emotion. This is

15:39

really, really important.

15:42

Something I do, I spend a lot of

15:42

time working on my clients is

15:45

getting them to process their

15:45

emotions and understand how they

15:47

can start to feel better by

15:47

accepting the negative emotions

15:53

and by welcoming it and buy

15:53

under trying to understand what

15:57

it means to be experiencing

15:57

about, as opposed to judge it

16:00

and hate it and bury it, keep

16:00

burying it, bring it Oh, I'm

16:03

anxious, I'm anxious, I'm

16:03

anxious, I'm anxious, I'm

16:05

depressed, I'm depressed, I'm depressed. And then next thing you know, they can't handle it

16:07

to the point where the doctors

16:09

put them on medication. But the

16:09

point is that anxiety, that

16:13

negative emotion is there for a

16:13

reason. And is there to be

16:16

expressed it because it's trying

16:16

to tell you something. So trying

16:19

to process it is really, really

16:19

key. So this is where this is

16:23

where binge eating becomes an

16:23

escape is when your emotions are

16:27

crippling, and when your mind is

16:27

a prison. And ideally, you will

16:32

get to a place where you're able

16:32

to process that and also turn

16:36

that prison into a beautiful

16:36

place to be in and to instead of

16:39

it being a prison, it can be a

16:39

beautiful garden where you can

16:42

spend time. And now when you

16:42

spend time in the mind, you're

16:44

looking forward to being in our

16:44

mind, because there's lots of

16:46

things that happen in the mind

16:46

that are beautiful. And then

16:49

also, when you see something

16:49

beautiful happening around you,

16:51

you can get out of your mind and

16:51

look, look go there as well. And

16:55

to then look at nature, look at

16:55

your work, look at spend time

16:58

with your family, your loved

16:58

ones, all that. But when it's

17:01

time to go on the mind, again,

17:01

you know, problems, my mind is a

17:04

beautiful place, I can spend

17:04

time there, I don't have a

17:06

problem with that at all. So

17:06

that is really one of the most

17:09

important things to do is how do

17:09

we turn into beautiful mind? And

17:12

to do that we first have to

17:12

understand what are the things

17:15

that are ugly in it that we need

17:15

to remove

17:17

or change? And then what can we

17:17

install in it to make it better?

17:21

So think about your living

17:21

spaces? For example, what ugly

17:25

stuff What thing? What, what's

17:25

the dirt around there? What's

17:28

dirty, what needs to be removed?

17:28

And what how can you make it

17:30

beautiful? So same same thing goes towards

17:31

the mind. And I know it's very,

17:35

because I mean, that's what I

17:35

spend hours and hours working on

17:38

with people is how do we do

17:38

that? And it doesn't it is no,

17:40

there is no one solution for

17:40

everybody. But there is that

17:43

awareness of what is not serving

17:43

me in my mind that is making it

17:47

an ugly place and make making it

17:47

a prison? And what can i How can

17:52

I change it and turn it into a

17:52

beautiful place to be so I can

17:55

look forward to spending time in

17:55

it. So then there's nothing to

17:57

escape. And this is really the

17:57

solution is when we realize that

18:01

there is nothing to escape. So

18:01

let me repeat the story of what

18:03

would have happened to me. If I

18:03

had experienced the same

18:09

experience the same experience I

18:09

shared earlier with going to

18:13

that place only to go into my

18:13

apartment only to be told that I

18:16

need to leave. If had I had a

18:16

beautiful mind and had I had a

18:21

good relationship with

18:21

processing my emotions. Well,

18:23

first of all, would have walked

18:23

in there with my luggage be

18:26

like, Alright, this is an

18:26

adventure. This is really

18:28

uncomfortable. I'm gonna miss my

18:28

family and my friends are ready

18:30

back home. But you know what I'm

18:30

here to learn something. I'm

18:33

here to experience, this journey

18:33

and whatever it has to bring and

18:37

learn more about myself. Oh,

18:37

hello, Lady have me know what

18:41

I'm here to look for my place

18:41

and to get keys to my place. And

18:44

then she's like, nope, no keys

18:44

because you don't have insurance

18:46

and whatnot. And in which case,

18:46

I'm like, okay, so I made a

18:49

mistake. Great. So, and then

18:49

she's and then she kind of like,

18:52

again, I'm like, I'm not

18:52

changing the fact. So the fact

18:54

is that she looked at me like

18:54

she's like, you know what, happy

18:57

that this is happening to me,

18:57

which is exactly what happened.

18:59

Actually, she was almost like

18:59

that she was thrilled that I was

19:01

going to be homeless for a

19:01

couple days. And so I would have

19:06

dragged my suitcases out and be

19:06

like, oh, wow, that's a tough

19:08

start. I mean, but I'm sure I

19:08

can do it. I could figure it

19:11

out. Because I can figure out

19:11

anything, I can do anything. And

19:13

yeah, you know what, it's an obstacle in the way I'm gonna learn from this and look at it

19:15

as a funny story one day,

19:19

there's many people who are

19:19

homeless, you know what, like,

19:21

what's wrong with struggling to

19:21

finding a place to stay in a

19:24

couple of days, gonna be an

19:24

adventure, and then finding a

19:26

place online than going home and

19:26

then calling up my friends and

19:30

calling up my family and stuff

19:30

and being like, Whoa, so this

19:32

and this and this happened? And

19:32

it was, you know, difficult, but

19:36

yeah, I'm here now. No, don't

19:36

worry, everything's okay. And

19:39

yeah, perhaps I would have felt

19:39

a little bit lonely or anxious,

19:41

but I would have reminded myself

19:41

that it's okay, and to

19:44

experience the anxiety. You know

19:44

what, maybe my body is feeling

19:47

like I'm not really to be

19:47

accepted. Maybe my body is

19:49

feeling that I am not good

19:49

enough or not welcome here. It's

19:53

not true. I'm sure I'm going to

19:53

make friends in my orientation.

19:56

I'm sure I'm going to have a lot

19:56

of good there's a lot of good

19:58

people here. 100 percent sure

19:58

this lady, maybe it was having a

20:01

tough day, maybe I'll send her

20:01

some positive energy, stuff like

20:04

that. And that's it. That's how

20:04

I would have approached it had I

20:07

been in a different place. But

20:07

the truth is, is that I didn't,

20:12

my mind was not was still a

20:12

prison was not a beautiful

20:15

place. And I was not capable of

20:15

processing these emotions. My

20:19

emotions are understanding what

20:19

it means to experience anxiety.

20:23

And that is why I was trying to

20:23

escape. Often with binge eating,

20:26

we are trying to escape

20:26

something that is just not

20:30

serving us. It's always there,

20:30

but it's not serving us. And

20:32

it's intensified when it's

20:32

triggered. So what do we do?

20:36

Well, we have to learn how to

20:36

respond differently to it, and

20:39

how to change what is not

20:39

serving us. Turn the mind to A

20:42

Beautiful Mind, and learn what

20:42

our emotions mean, and how to

20:45

cope with them. And this is what

20:45

I mainly wanted to share with

20:48

you today. And if this is

20:48

something that helped that I

20:51

wanted to invite you if you're listening right now to a workshop I'm doing on the 17th

20:53

of July, Saturday at 1pm.

20:58

Eastern time it is called break

20:58

the cycle. It is a three hour

21:01

workshop where we will be diving

21:01

into why we binge, how do we

21:05

stop binge eating? And how do we

21:05

not work on the right on the

21:09

wrong things? And how do we work

21:09

on the right things in the right

21:12

sequence, which is very

21:12

important and overcoming binge

21:14

eating so you can get it done

21:14

really, really quickly. You will

21:17

leave that workshop with a

21:17

better understanding of why you

21:19

binge, why you struggle with

21:19

binge eating what triggers you

21:22

to binge, what you need to work

21:22

on and focus on and what

21:25

sequence you need to do that

21:25

with. If you're interested in

21:28

that I will leave a link

21:28

somewhere in that podcast or you

21:32

can go to

21:32

www.breakthecycle.morezk.com at

21:44

www.breakthecycle.morezk.com I

21:44

look forward to seeing you there

21:48

if you join us and I will see

21:48

you next podcast. Thank you

21:51

again for listening