0:01

Hello , ladies , and welcome to episode

0:03

204 . I

0:05

am so happy that you're here today and I'm really

0:07

excited about today's topic . But before

0:09

we go there , I want to invite you

0:11

to join me this Thursday , on

0:14

Thursday February 1st

0:16

, at 12 pm

0:18

Eastern Standard Time , in

0:21

my Facebook group . It's a private Facebook group

0:23

, so if you're not there yet , what are you

0:25

waiting for ? I need you to go to

0:27

bitlylycom . Hello

0:34

, ladies , and welcome to episode 204

0:37

. I am so happy that you're here today and

0:39

I'm really excited about today's topic . But

0:42

before we dive into that topic , which

0:44

is all about learning what

0:47

is slowing our progress down , I'll

0:49

share that with you here very shortly , but

0:51

before , hello

0:53

, ladies , and welcome to episode 204

0:56

. Have you wondered what

0:59

could possibly be slowing down your progress

1:01

Today ? In today's topic

1:03

, in today's episode , I will

1:05

be sharing with you what is slowing you down

1:07

and how you can begin to start

1:09

making progress by just simply doing this

1:11

one thing that I have for you today . But

1:14

before I do that , I want

1:16

to share with you and invite you

1:18

to my throwaway , your to-do

1:20

list and optimize your

1:22

routine of Facebook Live that

1:25

I'll be hosting in my Facebook group . If

1:27

you're not there yet , if you're not having joined us , I

1:29

want to invite you to join me . All you have to do

1:31

is either scroll through

1:34

the very bottom of this episode , go

1:36

to the show notes , and you will find

1:38

that the Facebook group where you can join right

1:41

there , or you can

1:49

also go to bitlybitly , where you will find

1:51

the group , and all you have to do is

1:53

click on the link , answer

1:56

two questions , except that you will follow

1:58

the rules , because they're always

2:00

. There's always a set of roles when

2:02

it comes to social media , and I

2:04

want to invite you . Hello ladies

2:06

and welcome to episode . Hello

2:11

ladies and welcome to episode 204

2:14

. I am so happy that you're here today and

2:16

I'm really excited to share

2:18

with you today's topic , which , by

2:20

the way , hello

2:27

ladies and welcome to episode 204

2:31

. I am so happy that you're here today

2:33

and I'm really excited about today's

2:35

topic . Hello

2:40

ladies and welcome . Hello

2:44

ladies and welcome to episode 204

2:48

. What is slowing

2:50

down your progress ? Have you considered

2:52

that something is slowing you down ? Okay

2:56

, let's keep going . Let's keep going . Hello

2:59

ladies and welcome to episode 204

3:02

. Today , I have a

3:04

very excited no

3:06

, no , no , no , no , no . I already say

3:08

excited . Hello ladies

3:11

and welcome to 204 . I

3:13

hope you're doing amazing . If not , that's okay

3:15

too . Today I have a

3:17

very excited topic for you . No , no

3:19

, no , I already said excited . Okay

3:23

, hello , ladies , and welcome

3:26

to episode 204

3:28

. I am so happy that you're here

3:31

and I hope that you're doing well , and

3:33

if not , that's okay too . Today

3:36

, I will be sharing what is

3:38

possibly slowing your progress down

3:40

. What is slowing you down to

3:43

make progress if you're not making any progress

3:45

and if maybe you're making some progress but

3:47

you're not moving at the pace that you would like , and

3:49

that is either in a goal in your life

3:52

or just in something in general that you know

3:54

you've been struggling with and you want to keep going

3:56

, but something is holding you back . I'll be sharing

3:58

that with you during today's episode

4:00

, but before I get into that , I want

4:02

to invite you to join me in my Facebook group . If

4:04

you haven't already , all you have to do is go

4:06

to bitlybitlycom so

4:11

that you can join us on Thursday

4:13

, february 1st at 12 pm

4:15

Eastern Standard Time , where I'll be

4:17

sharing with you and teaching you how

4:20

to throw away your to-do list , I

4:22

know , and optimize a

4:25

routine . It's going

4:27

to be very simple . I'm going to keep

4:29

it very simple and easy for

4:31

you to start implementing

4:33

a process for your routine

4:36

that you need to set in place , if you haven't done so already and

4:40

you guys , I already have a template for you

4:42

waiting over at the Facebook group in order

4:44

for you to get started . Now

4:47

. Today's episode was already

4:49

planned . The topic is already planned , but

4:51

it happened to be that last

4:53

week I had actually

4:55

scheduled this event on our Facebook

4:57

group to actually

5:00

be live on January 25th . As

5:02

you guys probably were there

5:04

, I probably joined right

5:06

for that event because a recording is going to

5:08

be available there too . If you aren't able to make it

5:10

at that time , I completely understand . But

5:13

here's the thing everything that

5:15

was technology that could have gone wrong went

5:18

wrong , and at first

5:20

I was like , okay , maybe this is just my

5:22

computer , my Facebook

5:24

, you know , haven't been on it too . It's

5:28

been a while that I was on actual Facebook

5:30

live , so , like , maybe it's just you

5:32

know me , let me restart my phone , let

5:35

me go on my computer

5:37

and do all the things that I know

5:39

I know how to do in order to get on live

5:41

. So , needless to say

5:43

, I'm like I need to really

5:46

share with you all not only

5:48

how I overcame

5:51

that , but also really

5:53

how I'm now preparing for

5:55

it not to happen again , because it was

5:57

all some admin

5:59

permission issue . My

6:02

zoom and my Facebook account

6:04

were really communicating how I was supposed

6:07

to , and that's what

6:09

I want to share with you today as the example on why

6:11

we're not making progress with

6:13

our goals or

6:15

maybe just with our day-to-day tasks

6:17

, because we don't do this one thing , and

6:20

it's evaluate . We

6:22

typically call this or

6:24

we have this term in the army , not

6:26

sure about the other services or the branches , but

6:29

it's called the after-action review . You

6:31

know , the after-action review can become a little

6:34

intense and detailed

6:36

when it comes to , obviously , having

6:39

an after-action review after a training event

6:41

, after maybe

6:44

something that we did as , even as

6:46

a recombinant , or something

6:49

that we took the time to do . But

6:51

now we need to evaluate , and so

6:53

, in order for us to

6:55

make progress or really get to our

6:57

goal and accomplish

7:00

the mission per se , we

7:02

have to evaluate . Think about

7:04

it for a moment . Why is it so important

7:06

that we do that carefully after

7:09

the fact ? Why do we take

7:11

not only sometimes

7:13

hours , but days to

7:16

fulfill this task

7:18

which is an after-action review ? It's

7:20

because it's important and it's helpful and it's beneficial

7:22

for all the leaders to really

7:24

examine themselves , examine and

7:26

evaluate what they did right

7:29

and what they did wrong , and how

7:31

they are going to improve

7:33

for the next time . How are they going

7:35

to make it even better Maybe

7:38

not necessarily perfect , but how are they going to do

7:40

it better ? And so there's

7:42

always an issue , and then there's a

7:44

recommendation , the solution or recommendation

7:47

that's provided during an after-action

7:50

review , and so it's going to be very

7:52

similar , based on whatever

7:54

your goal is or whatever you want

7:56

to make progress in . So , for example

7:58

, if yours is using weight , if

8:00

yours is writing

8:04

a paper , whatever

8:06

it may be for you

8:08

, specifically transitioning out

8:10

of the military , for me , I am doing

8:12

my , or I did my evaluation

8:14

after I completely failed

8:16

at the Facebook live last week

8:18

, and so , again , being

8:21

accountable is

8:23

very , very important when

8:26

it comes to us making progress . But

8:28

we don't want to be accountable . We don't

8:30

want to feel that negative emotion

8:33

of us not being

8:35

accountable at that time

8:37

or being able to fulfill

8:40

that task , that mission

8:42

, right . So for me , yes

8:44

, I was completely embarrassed , I felt

8:46

discouraged , I felt

8:48

disappointed in not

8:50

catching this beforehand and

8:53

I'm talking about my Facebook live , because it's

8:55

something that I know I should have caught beforehand

8:58

. But here's the thing things

9:00

happen . We can't have control over

9:02

all of the technology , especially technology

9:05

, but what we can do is make

9:07

it better . And so

9:09

, again , going back to this example , I

9:11

was all ready to go . I had done a checks

9:14

technology with Zoom

9:16

, with Facebook live , the streaming code , everything

9:19

that comes along with ensuring

9:21

that I could share my screen and that

9:24

everybody could see what I was doing

9:26

real time on my computer , because

9:28

I have this template ready

9:31

for everyone to start implementing

9:33

. Very simple , it's very generic

9:36

, but it's also very simple

9:38

, a great place for you to start to start

9:40

adding your weekly

9:42

routine items on there , and I break

9:45

it down into pretty

9:47

much a month and I break it down by week . And

9:50

so , in my mind , I had already

9:52

rehearsed what I was going to say . I

9:54

had rehearsed the walkthrough on my screen and

9:57

also doing it through Zoom . But here's

9:59

what I didn't do . I did so

10:01

many things right , but here's the one thing that I didn't do

10:03

I didn't confirm that

10:06

my actual coaching

10:08

account because I have my personal

10:10

profile account but also

10:12

the life coaching business

10:15

page wasn't connected

10:17

, permissions wise , through

10:20

Zoom and Facebook . So

10:22

anytime I tried to stream

10:24

directly from my

10:26

business page , it

10:28

would not allow me to come in , not

10:31

knowing that . I didn't even consider

10:33

to go to

10:36

that profile , that business page and do it

10:38

through there , because I was logged in

10:40

as my profile or

10:42

I was on my actual , just a Winnie

10:44

Ray profile . Tried it on my phone

10:46

, I'm like , okay , maybe it's just my computer

10:49

or my wifi is not strong enough because

10:51

it's not allowing me to broadcast , so

10:54

I give you permissions , whatever it may be . Went

10:57

to my phone , tried to go

10:59

live from my account my Winnie account

11:01

not the Winnie Life Coach

11:03

in one , but my Winnie account and it

11:05

still said the broadcast could not

11:07

take place at this moment . And

11:10

so here I am , hard

11:12

beating really fast . I have no idea what's going on

11:14

. I'm telling the group that I'm not

11:16

able to join . So all of these things

11:18

are going through my head and at the same

11:20

time , time is ticking because I don't

11:23

like to waste other people's time , and

11:25

so I said you know what ? What I'm going to do

11:27

now is go

11:29

to plan B , do the entire

11:32

training , the entire session

11:35

that I had planned . I will record

11:37

it on Zoom and then I will

11:39

post it on the Facebook group . So I

11:41

did it , I got done . I think it took

11:43

less than an hour , maybe

11:45

like 45 minutes , I can't even remember . I'm

11:48

like oh , this is gonna be great , submitted it

11:50

. And because I like to tell

11:52

people that you

11:54

have to go , you know , in

11:56

order , if you wanna skip through , you

11:58

know the 10 minutes of my intro and everything

12:01

else you wanna go directly to the template , I

12:03

wanted to say go to minute 12

12:06

and start taking notes

12:08

from there . So I did

12:10

that and what happened is , as soon

12:12

as I started sharing my screen , my

12:15

audio was completely lost . You

12:18

cannot hear anything . You can

12:20

only see what was going on , and

12:22

so , because of those reasons , I'm like you know what

12:24

, forget it , I'm gonna tell everyone

12:26

what happened . Here's the

12:29

template , here's the partial recording

12:31

. But I will also come

12:33

back next week and I will do this again because

12:36

I wanna do it in a way where it serves the

12:39

people in the group , but also , if they have any

12:41

questions , to be able to

12:43

come back and ask those questions , because that's the

12:45

whole point , right ? So for

12:47

me , I could have been completely in

12:49

my own feelings and just be like

12:51

okay , well , this was very embarrassing . This

12:54

was , you know , complete failure on my part

12:56

, because I wasn't thinking ahead

12:59

of the profiles and

13:01

all these other things . And so

13:03

, for you , I wanna ask you are

13:05

you still in your feelings if you

13:07

didn't lose that one pound that you intended ? Or

13:11

you forgot to set your alarm , or you

13:13

set your alarm but you didn't make it to the gym that

13:15

one day out of the week and that completely

13:18

just put you

13:20

at a standstill and you

13:22

didn't continue to do

13:24

what you know you needed to do go to the gym

13:26

, or continue to a meal plan

13:29

, or continue to type

13:31

up a one-page paper or however

13:33

many words that you needed . Have

13:36

you stopped your search or

13:38

your networking when

13:40

it comes to your transition , because you had one

13:43

bad encounter ? And so today

13:45

, I wanna offer you to take my example

13:47

, take your

13:49

example . Maybe from today alone , maybe

13:51

you forgot to do something and

13:54

that discouraged you . That emotion , that negative

13:56

emotion , discouraged you and

13:59

it's keeping you now either stuck

14:01

or at a standstill . And I wanna

14:03

offer you today that , whatever

14:05

it is that you , whatever

14:07

you're in , I wanna offer you that you are

14:09

able to continue to make progress

14:12

, no matter where you are . And

14:14

so for me , it was a matter of okay , I'm

14:17

feeling embarrassed , I'm feeling disappointed in myself

14:20

. What can I do better

14:22

the next time . So what worked , right

14:24

? What worked ? I already told you everything that

14:26

worked . You write it down , you type

14:29

it up whatever you wanna do . You put it in a voice

14:31

memo . This is what worked one , two

14:33

, three , four , five , six , seven , eight , nine , 10 . All these

14:35

three items worked . We're good there . What

14:38

didn't work and

14:40

that's the hard one , what didn't work ? You

14:43

didn't lose that pound because why you

14:45

missed three days of the gym . Maybe

14:47

your diet was not

14:49

where it needed to be or what

14:51

it needed to be . Maybe

14:53

you didn't have enough time to

14:55

focus , or maybe you weren't in the right

14:58

environment to focus , to write that paper . Maybe

15:01

you're not talking to the right people . Maybe

15:03

you weren't

15:06

able to communicate what you

15:08

needed effectively and

15:10

that could be in a relationship . Right ? Maybe you're like my relationships

15:13

are getting better . I can't solve

15:15

this . This is not getting any better . It's not going

15:17

anywhere . Maybe you're not asking the right questions

15:19

, right ? Maybe there are different questions

15:21

that you need to ask . Maybe there are different things that

15:23

you need to do or that you want to offer

15:26

others to do for you that is

15:28

going to help you keep

15:30

moving in that relationship or be entertained

15:33

, or whatever emotion . You need to be excited

15:35

, to be feel loved or whatever it may be . So

15:38

I want to ask you today to focus

15:40

on what did not go

15:42

right , what went wrong , what

15:45

went wrong . And so when I did that list and

15:47

I'm like , okay , this is what went wrong , I'm

15:50

going to ensure that I figure this out , I

15:53

am going to rehearse it on

15:55

there on the actual Facebook group

15:58

with my actual approved

16:00

permissions Facebook business

16:02

page , and I'm going to do that over

16:05

and over until I know that I am

16:07

good to go on that scenario

16:10

. What else

16:12

did I do ? What

16:15

else didn't work out ? What didn't work ? I

16:18

didn't have anything in place

16:20

to ensure that

16:22

it was going to be live and

16:24

share my screen . So what

16:27

can I do ? Differently ? Maybe is

16:29

send out a link , a

16:31

different link that ensures

16:33

that I'm able to share my screen . So

16:36

, again , things like that , instead of just

16:38

feeling stuck and getting into this whole

16:41

of everything just goes

16:43

wrong all the time and I

16:45

don't know what I'm doing . I'm

16:47

a failure , whatever it may be , whatever thoughts

16:49

you have about you , you know never going to lose way

16:51

. I'm never going to be able to change

16:53

my diet . I'm just going to be overweight

16:56

forever , I am not going

16:58

to find the love of my life , I am not

17:00

going to transition into a successful

17:02

career , whatever it may be , for you

17:04

. I want you to evaluate where

17:07

you are now . So what worked , what

17:09

didn't work , and now what are you

17:11

going to do differently ? So now

17:13

I am going to actually

17:15

go live 10 minutes

17:17

earlier and share my screen at

17:19

the same time , just to

17:21

ensure that I have those 10 minutes of buffer

17:24

, that I am able to use

17:26

that link . If not , I will

17:28

have a link already available and

17:30

send that to the group even ahead of time . So

17:33

you see how all these things starts happening

17:35

. Because I evaluated it , took

17:38

the time to evaluate beforehand . So

17:40

an example for you . Let's say you're losing weight

17:43

. Right , because I'm on the same wagon . I'm

17:45

on the same wagon , lady . I

17:48

am on the journey of losing weight , and that's

17:50

completely okay . Everyone

17:52

is on a journey of challenging

17:54

themselves , and that's what I want to offer you

17:56

, right ? So what can you do differently

17:59

? Maybe you said another alarm , maybe

18:01

you didn't set your alarm , or

18:03

you did set your alarm and you didn't wake up . You

18:05

were too tired . You're going to set two

18:07

alarms , or you're going

18:10

to have somebody come

18:12

knocking your door or whatever . Maybe

18:14

it's your spouse . You tell them to nudge you

18:16

or whatever it may be , or you

18:18

didn't make it at that time . What happens

18:20

when you don't make it at the time ? Are you going to

18:22

go during lunch ? Are you going to go to

18:25

the gym at another time ? Are you going

18:27

to change your diet and

18:29

maybe implement something completely new in

18:31

order for you to see that

18:33

there will be progress ? Because here

18:35

is the focus . The focus is progress

18:38

. The focus is how can you make progress

18:40

, not how many more pounds you need to

18:42

lose or how many

18:45

more inches that you need to lose . You

18:47

want to be able to focus

18:50

on the progress and , in order to do

18:52

that , you want to be able to evaluate

18:55

ahead of time . So again

18:57

, what went well , what went right , what

18:59

did you do right , what

19:01

you didn't do right , what went

19:04

wrong , what didn't work ? I

19:06

should say so , what worked , what didn't

19:08

work and what will you do differently ? So

19:10

what is it exactly that you're going

19:12

to do differently in order to

19:15

help you see if anything changes

19:17

? Because what happens if

19:19

we don't change anything

19:21

that we're doing ? We're constantly , you know

19:24

, eating the same diet . I'm eating a salad and , you

19:26

know , some chicken . I'm drinking coffee and I'm

19:28

eating a donut , and whatever it may be , my

19:31

body is not changing . Is it my

19:33

diet or is it something else ? Do I need

19:35

to explore something different ? 90%

19:38

of the time , it will be our diet , believe it or not . Maybe

19:40

you're drinking alcohol . Maybe you're drinking too much coffee

19:42

. Maybe you're drinking too much coffee with

19:44

too much sugar . That could

19:46

be it . Maybe it

19:49

could be just something as simple

19:51

as adjusting , but you won't

19:53

know until

19:55

you evaluate . So I want

19:57

to offer you today to evaluate wherever you are

20:01

in your journey , whatever goal you have , because

20:04

by that time that you listen to this episode , it'll be the last

20:06

day of January and I want to offer

20:08

you to start fresh on the first . And

20:11

what a better way to start fresh ? In a Facebook

20:14

group with other women that are going

20:16

to help you and encourage you and

20:18

help you stay accountable . So come join

20:20

us over at the Facebook group . I want to meet

20:22

with you and learn how I can better help

20:25

you as well with your time , with

20:27

your overall well-being , because

20:29

that's what it's all about . And you

20:31

can start also on Thursday at 12 pm , eastern

20:34

Standard Time , where I will give you the template . I will

20:36

give you a basic and simple template

20:38

for you to get started on this routine

20:40

. There's no more excuses

20:42

. I've asked so much to do . I

20:44

don't know where to start . Come join

20:46

me . I will be there . I will be answering

20:48

any questions that you have and also helping

20:51

you along the way with your

20:53

routine and also with the challenge

20:55

that you want to take on for February . It

20:57

could be using weight , it could be going to the gym

21:00

five days a week , it could be

21:02

anything that you're inspired to challenge

21:04

yourself with , because , again , this is why

21:07

I want to build a community and

21:09

I encourage you to be a part of any community

21:11

. It doesn't have to be this one . Find

21:13

a community . Find a community where

21:16

women are going to empower you and are

21:18

going to encourage you to keep going

21:20

to make progress , because that's what this

21:22

is all about making progress

21:24

. So what do

21:27

you need to evaluate in order

21:29

for you to start making progress ? All

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right , I hope that this episode blesses you

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and encourages you to continue

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on your journey . All

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right , have a beautiful rest of your week . Bye

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