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Hey , ladies , and welcome to episode
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one hundred and ninety seven
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today's episode is
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all about knowing when
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to take a break and focus on
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new member she mentioned one of her
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the events as a reminder , and
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so the topic when I saw
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that I'm like this is exactly what I need to talk about
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, because I'm actually going
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to be spending a lot more time with my kids this
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year than I did the years before , and the reason
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being I mean , they still get
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off . Every winter break , they get
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two weeks off , but
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this year we don't have a newborn , we
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have a toddler , and
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so I want to be very intentional
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with what we're doing with them and
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how we get to spend this time together and , of
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course , it's coming towards the end of the year . There's
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so many things that I still want to get done and
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, to be completely transparent and honest , there
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isn't a lot that I have left
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to do because I've actually thankfully , I've been
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able to accomplish it
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and got done with that task . But
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I do want to get ahead of planning
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for my Facebook group content
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, anything that I want to post on LinkedIn , on Instagram
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, and again recording these videos . Right
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, I want to make sure that I get ahead of the
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game . So , when it comes time for January
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and everybody is back in school and we're back in the hustle and bustle
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, we're all where we need to be and
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we're not having all this mental drama up here
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or all the drama up here , and
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then I'm exhausted and overwhelmed
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and frustrated and I'm burned out by January
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15th which , by the way , there's also a trip
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that I'm planning in January . Well , I'm helping plan , we're
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going to meet with my book club , and
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so , again , there's so many things going on constantly , which
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is great , but
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at the same time , you want to be able to
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use that to our advantage and not
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use it against us , right ? Like
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not having time for a family , not knowing when
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to take a break , which , again
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, this is something that I know I have to constantly remind myself because
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I'm actually going to be taken off of work , and
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I want to be able to take some time off of
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this podcast , some time off from
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my coaching , and just be able to
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focus on my kids for a couple of days and
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my family to a very intentional but
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also continuing the routine that we have
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when it comes to spending time with them and it's not
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a lot of time , so don't think that I'm spending hours
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a day with them because
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I don't have that much time . There's things that I have
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to do for work and things that
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I have to get done , and so , again
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, it's just so many things that happen at the same
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time that we want to be able to remind
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ourselves . Like Wendy , now
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it's time for you to take a break , and by that I
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mean and I'll be explaining it here in today's episode
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when to actually fully
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detach from the work , because
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most of the times , we're still thinking about it in our mind
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. We're like , okay , I still have to do this , this , this
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and this . Well , I'm
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trying to play with my little one or read her a book , in the
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back of my mind I'm thinking , oh , I cannot
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forget to do X , y , z , and
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I'm not actually spending and
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being present with her at that
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moment . And so , again , it's very important for us to be
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conscious of that , not only as
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individuals , as
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a mom , as a wife , as a friend , but
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also just as someone
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that can take a deep breath and
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to be okay with being
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in one area without
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having to be worrying about
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30 other things that are going
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on . It's very peaceful and
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it's something that I have to constantly practice
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and remind myself . Okay , there's
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nothing in this world that
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really needs my attention right now besides
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me sitting on this couch or
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just looking at my little one . Stand
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up and fall , stand up and fall . Like I
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can find joy in that . But
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here's the thing it
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becomes a problem because our mind
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wants to protect us . Our
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mind is like no
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, you don't need to take a break , you
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don't have time , you have a to-do
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list that you need to accomplish . You have a thousand
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things that you need to get done , not to mention take
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your kids to their volleyball
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or basketball practice , football practice , whatever
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they may be in . And oh , by the way
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, dinner needs to be served , dinner needs
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to be prepared , food needs
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to be on the table . Things
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need to get done with , tina , right ? The
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clothing , your clothing , needs to be washed
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. Your work is requiring you to work
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on this project . So this agenda , this
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slide deck , you also
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have things that you want to get done
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. Like for me , very important is to
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get my nails done , my eyebrows wax , I
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need to take care of myself , and that is something
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that we constantly need to do
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, and it's
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not required , but we enjoy
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it , right , like that's my own
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thing that I love to do . I love to
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get my nails done , get my toes done , take
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care of myself and just go and unwind
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a little bit without having to be
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worried about the kids or be worried about what I
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have to do . What needs to get done ? Oh my gosh
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, the laundry basket is completely full
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. What's happening ? The house
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needs to get cleaned , so on and so forth . So
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again , our brain is going to remind us
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of the quote unquote important
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things , but here's what we need to
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do and here's how we know we need to take
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a break , one . If you
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are questioning no
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one wants to take a break and focus on family , then
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you need to actually be intentional about
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taking a break and actually focusing
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on your family . Now , I know
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, most of the time , too , this is what happens . Our
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brain wants to give us this
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agenda that we need
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to check off for our kids , or the time
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that we need to focus on our family . We need
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to go on a trip , we need to do something
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extravagant , we need to
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just do something that's not out
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of the ordinary is what our mind is going to tell
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us , and that's completely false . It's
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not true . You don't have to do anything crazy
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like that . You don't have to plan
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a trip to the park or plan
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a play date or
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be something that's so
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detailed
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oriented . It doesn't have to be that way
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at all . Our brain wants to not
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only overcomplicate , but
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it also wants it to be perfect
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, and that is one of the problems that
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we run into , because we're like thinking about
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that gives you this whole thought
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of I don't have time for that . I already have a thousand
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things going on which is not gonna happen . I'm
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not gonna plan this ice cream trip or
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this trip to the park , because now
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it requires two hours of my time versus
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20 minutes , and so that's
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like the first thing , right ? Like our brain wants
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to overcomplicate and just remind
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us that we don't have time for it . So
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here's the thing you know that you need to spend time with your
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family we all do but why is
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it that we want to push
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that to the very bottom of our list ? I
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pretty much just told you why we overcomplicate
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it and we don't prioritize
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it . That's really the biggest piece . We think
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that it's not necessary
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because everything else
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is urgent . But if we really think about
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it , if something were to happen to our little ones , if something
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were to happen to our spouse , I
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am 99.9% sure
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that you will drop anything that is
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going on , or really 100%
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guaranteed . You would drop . Whatever
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you're doing , whatever event you're at , whatever
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milestone you're in , whatever
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minute you're in your workout , whatever
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it is project presentation
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that you're given , you will drop that and
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you will go and spend time with
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your family because they need you . We
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don't want to get to that point . We want to be
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able to do it ahead
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of time , and so this is what I want to
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recommend , because a lot of the times
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our brain , like I mentioned earlier , wants to
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keep us safe , and
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having fun or spending
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time outside of our to-do
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list is somehow not
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accomplishing . It's
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something that your brain is like nope , that
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sounds like it's too much fun , it's
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not serious and
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we don't need to focus on that . We need to focus
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on what really matters right now , and that is
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the laundry , that is dinner
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, that is the project that you're working on
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. You have to record a podcast , you have to do
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all these things . There's no story
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time , there's no conversation about how
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your day went at school . I don't have time for that . We
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can talk about that later , and it's okay
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if you already have a routine in
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place . But if you don't , and you continue
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to put family time at the very bottom , knowing
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that it's just not gonna work out for
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you that day , then we
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are not going in the right direction because we're not prioritizing
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our family time . And here's what I believe
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when we can be intentional with prioritizing
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certain things , it will
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get done , no matter what . Now , of course
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, there are things that happen right , like things
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happen . Things come up one child
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will get sick , you can't cater
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to the other two because you have three of them , or you have five
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of them and now you have to focus on that one
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child because he or she's the youngest
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, or your spouse gets sick and now , all
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of a sudden I don't know about everybody
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else , but what I've been hearing is very similar
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to my story . When our spouses get sick , it's like everything
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just shuts down for them and it's completely
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okay . I think that's a part
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of who they are as men . They love
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to just completely shut
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down and then they get back up 100%
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, and I think that's something that we need to do better at too
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, because it does help with
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their recovery and how they rest
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and recover and then they get back up . That's
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a whole nother podcast for another time , but
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what I want to emphasize is
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to truly be able to
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be intentional in deciding ahead
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of time on these
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three things that I'm gonna talk about , so
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that you can continue this routine , because
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if you don't remind your brain , you don't
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remind yourself . It's not
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going to happen . It's just not
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going to happen because our brains
12:19
are going to be fighting against
12:21
what we believe is important , what we believe
12:23
is urgent , because our brain can't
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determine or distinguish what
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really is urgent unless you
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use that prefrontal cortex and
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you guide it
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by not only reminding
12:37
yourself that , okay , yes
12:39
, I'm going to
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take 20 minutes out of my
12:44
workout time or my
12:46
work time to do this
12:48
, but it's going to benefit me
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10 times more if
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I do this or I
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plan this for today . If not
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, I'm going to be constantly feeling guilty
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because I have this thought of I
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should be there and I
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wasn't there . I wasn't present and
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now you're just not going to work effectively when you
13:06
need to get back to work . You're not going to be
13:08
effective in your workout . You're not
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going to be effective in whatever
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you need to do recording a podcast , I'm just
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giving you my example or planning your transition
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, or planning your finances , planning
13:20
your investments , whatever you may be
13:22
doing you may be in real estate investing
13:24
. You may have another side
13:26
hustle . You may be
13:29
pursuing your education . You won't
13:31
be able to study the same because in the back of your mind
13:33
, you're like oh man , I'm not spending quality
13:35
time with my kids . They need me . I'm
13:37
a terrible mother . I
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should be more focused on them . I can't
13:41
focus anymore . I'm just going to go and distract myself
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and do it unintentionally
13:46
. And now they're sleeping and all
13:48
these things keep coming up and then
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you're like , okay , this is not working
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. Like how do I know when to
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take a break and focus on my family
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? And so here are the three
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things that I highly encourage that you focus on
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, and the
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first one is how does this benefit
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the family and yourself ? Like
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, how does this benefit you planning ahead
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of time the intentional
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time of when you're going to take a break from work or
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whatever it is you're doing and
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spend time with them ? So , for
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me , I've actually asked my family this
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question of what
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is it , or what's their love language
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? Pretty much Like , what do they enjoy ? And if you
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haven't read the book , how you recommend that you read the five
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love languages by Gary Chapman . That
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book completely transformed my life
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with how people want to be
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loved and how people want to receive love
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, and it works
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differently for everyone , and for
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my family it is as well . Everyone's
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a little different and it's
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okay . We're all different , but
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the main one that
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came up over and over again
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with my kids and
14:57
my husband was quality time . They want
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quality time , they want the quality time
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with you , and it's crazy
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how it sounds In my head . I'm like what do you mean I
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spent enough time with you already . I
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know crazy , terrible thought
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to have , but here's the thing . The
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key word there is quality , right . And
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so , yes , we go grocery shopping together
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. Yes , I drop you off at school , yes
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, we're here together talking
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and just being ourselves , or
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practicing whatever we're doing , but
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at the end of the day , they want that one on one , they want
15:30
that quality time , and so
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it's like what I can't win , like what
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do you mean ? Like I do a thousand
15:37
other things and you still
15:39
want time and everything else . Anywho
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, step one is for you to ask what
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is your love language ? Your husband
15:46
, your kids , your friends , your family
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, whomever it is that you want to spend
15:51
more intentional time , take a break
15:53
from and focus on them . This is what you want to ask them
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what is your love languages ? And for those of you
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that haven't read or don't know or just don't
15:59
remember the love languages , it's quality time
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, acts of service , gifts
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, physical touch and words of affirmation
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. It's very different for everyone
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and it's okay to have
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. They can rank it from one being
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their highest all the way to the number five , because
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, honestly , we all want these things . We are
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all gravitated
16:20
to quality time . We love acts of
16:22
service , we love gifts , we love physical touch
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, words of affirmation , right Like reminding
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us that we're loved , reminding us
16:28
that we're beautiful , reminding us that we're doing
16:30
an amazing job . We love that . Now
16:32
, some people love it more than others . I'll
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be completely honest I love words
16:37
of affirmation . If you can sit there and
16:39
tell me all day , every day , that
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I'm doing a great job and that you love me and that I'm
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beautiful and I'm
16:45
just doing a great job , please
16:48
do so . Like that would
16:50
be my thing . But it's also
16:52
quality time and it's also acts of service and it's
16:54
also gifts and physical touch , but
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again , understanding what it is for
16:58
your family , because
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you also want to let them know what it is for you . Now
17:03
, for the most part , they
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will not necessarily
17:08
. I don't want to say that they won't care , but
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they just won't . It won't
17:12
click for them at the beginning . You have to show them . So
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this is the way like and my husband does a great
17:17
job of doing this he's like I'm not gonna sit here and
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tell you , I'm just gonna show you and so
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you showing them that you appreciate
17:24
quality time or
17:26
words of affirmation , whichever
17:30
one it is for their , you know , for example , for my daughter
17:32
it's quality time . She's like give
17:35
me quality time , and I know that
17:37
you're like loving on me all day , every day , and I'm like
17:39
, oh , okay , great , so I'm
17:41
just not gonna tell her , okay , we're gonna spend quality time . I
17:43
actually have to show her . So then when she sees
17:46
that she knows that , okay , I'm actually
17:48
spending time with her , having one-on-ones
17:50
with her , and then she's gonna reciprocate my
17:53
love language . That's the way , kind of
17:55
like how we go around in this household . And
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so for you , figuring that out , figuring
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that out ahead of time very
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important . The next thing you wanna do is
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decide ahead of time on the amount
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of time that
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you want to do that
18:12
activity . Or you know , if it's quality time
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, you know , is it gonna
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be 15 minutes , is it gonna be 30 minutes ? Whatever
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you can afford at that moment , right ? I like
18:21
to look at this as a budget . What can you afford
18:23
? Can you afford 15 minutes ? Or
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are you like affording
18:27
, you know , an hour , whatever
18:29
it is , and then , when it
18:31
works best , right , because it may be 15
18:34
minutes , monday , wednesday , friday , but maybe
18:36
Tuesday and Thursday you have
18:38
30 minutes . Or vice versa , right
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, whatever it may be . Or you
18:42
know that you're going on an actual
18:45
training event or a work trip , or
18:47
you have this big event that you're planning and you know that
18:49
the month of January you're gonna
18:51
be completely focused on that
18:53
project or focused on that event or that travel
18:55
. So now , how do you plan
18:58
ahead of time ? And you set that intention ahead
19:00
of time with them . Well , you say , hey , you know
19:02
, in January , you know how we typically we
19:06
hang out every day for 15
19:08
minutes . Well , in January we're only gonna
19:10
be able to do it on Saturday
19:12
for this amount of time . Where
19:15
do you want me to take you ? Or how do you wanna spend
19:17
it ? Right , what if it's words of affirmation
19:19
? What if there's just words of affirmation ? How do I do that
19:21
in an hour ? Right , maybe you record
19:23
something . Maybe you record something
19:25
for them ahead of time . I'm just coming up
19:27
with stuff here , talking my head , or
19:30
if it's physical touch , obviously you can't like
19:32
be there to hug them or
19:35
to like tickle them or whatever they like you
19:37
know for them , but you
19:39
can remind them that , hey , when I come
19:42
back I will give
19:44
you a big hug or whatever it is
19:46
, send you a photo of us hugging each other , or whatever it may
19:48
be . Gifts maybe send them
19:50
a gift while you're gone . Maybe send them a gift while
19:53
or right before you leave , or whatever
19:56
it may be for them right ? Or maybe getting
19:58
them a gift and talking about that gift or just
20:00
enjoying the gift , right , the
20:03
gift may be , I don't know
20:05
, a game and now you both play
20:07
that game , or however you
20:09
all decide to do that , but making sure
20:11
that you set that intention ahead of time , the amount
20:13
of time and when it works best for them , for
20:15
both of you , pretty much . Because what
20:17
if they have soccer practice ? What
20:19
if you have five kids ? Right , thankfully
20:22
only have three , they don't have to worry about three , but
20:24
you may be blessed with five . And
20:26
now how do you do that without five
20:29
? They're all different . So writing it
20:31
down , whatever it may be . But now you know , okay
20:33
, child A wants
20:35
to spend time at a park
20:37
, child B wants to
20:39
spend time by
20:42
me , like cooking them a meal
20:45
or cooking a meal together , whatever it may be . And
20:47
then the last thing , understanding
20:50
the how right . So this one
20:52
is . This is where we get very detailed . So
20:54
then you have that conversation with that
20:56
individual , with your husband , with your
20:58
kids . It's always
21:01
a lot . It's
21:04
simple with kids , because they will tell you
21:06
like what they want . They'll
21:09
give you the truth . They're gonna
21:11
be like oh no , don't take me to whatever
21:13
place , because I sometimes I come up with
21:15
these great ideas right in my brain and they're like that
21:17
was a terrible idea , we're not going there . Like
21:20
no , we're not going there . And I'm like , oh okay , it
21:22
was just the thought , but in my head I
21:24
was like no , it was actually . I thought it was a great idea
21:26
. Again , my kids
21:28
are almost teenagers and it's getting
21:30
harder and harder . You all because they
21:32
don't want to spend that much time with me in
21:34
public . They're like no , mom , I
21:36
want to go with my friends . I don't want to go to the mall with you
21:38
, I rather just go with my friends . Anywho
21:41
, you become very intentional
21:44
ahead of time . Do we want
21:46
to you know , maybe work on homework together
21:48
? Do we want to play sport ? Do
21:50
you want me to practice with you ? That's one of the biggest
21:52
things with my son , like he loves when
21:55
he and I like throw the ball together
21:57
, like football , or he wants me to go out there and play
21:59
basketball with him . Anything that they
22:01
want to get done . So
22:04
we've been very specific . Okay , so
22:06
I'm going to meet you here outside
22:09
for 20 minutes at
22:12
6 pm every day , or once a week , and
22:14
we're going to play basketball , whatever
22:16
it may be . I'm just giving you an example . But
22:20
just understanding on what all of this is going on and
22:23
this is what I want to leave you with your brain
22:25
is going to think that you're going crazy . Your
22:28
brain is like what are you doing ? We
22:30
have so many things to get done . We don't want
22:32
to get disappointed . Remember , we
22:34
don't want to go through that discouragement , we
22:37
don't want to fail . What's going on
22:39
, wendy ? What's going on ? Why
22:41
are we having fun and not
22:43
doing the work that
22:45
we need to get done ? When
22:47
that happens , I want you to acknowledge
22:50
that it's okay . Acknowledge that
22:52
, yes , it's okay that we have things in the back of our mind
22:54
Almost 99%
22:57
of the time , because that's just the way
22:59
our brain works . But
23:01
I also want you to
23:03
be able to guide your
23:05
mind and create those new paved
23:08
or not paved , but
23:10
new kind
23:13
of way of thinking , because
23:16
if we don't , then
23:18
our brain is going to just take over and
23:22
it's going to want to do all the work . It's
23:25
going to remind you that you have so much to do that
23:27
you don't have time to take a break and focus on your family . Like
23:29
, why would you want to do such a thing ? They're going to be
23:31
there , they're okay , they're fine . But
23:35
what if they're not ? What if they want your attention
23:37
? And what if , like them coming
23:39
to you constantly while you're trying to do work
23:41
is the way that they're asking
23:43
for your attention ? And you're just now frustrated
23:46
and overwhelmed and you're like I'm not going to be able to do this . How
23:48
do I accomplish this If you keep coming
23:51
to me and asking me all these questions ? What if
23:53
you do set some time ahead
23:56
of time and be
23:58
intentional with taking a break and
24:01
focusing on family ? Now , of course
24:03
, you can go extravagant , right . Like , let's say , you have
24:05
two weeks off , your unblocked leave , or you have time
24:08
off from work . You're like you
24:10
know what ? We're doing ? Something extravagant for two weeks
24:12
, we're going to do XYZ . That's
24:15
completely fine . You're going
24:17
to be able to take that type of break is also great . But
24:20
I will tell you that your brain is still going
24:22
to offer you those thoughts . You
24:24
should be working , you should be doing this , you
24:26
should be doing that . Nothing wrong with that
24:28
your brain is just doing his job . What
24:31
I want to offer you is to take a moment and really
24:33
plan it out and really say , okay , we're
24:35
going to go on this trip , we're going to go wherever
24:37
you decide to go for those two
24:39
weeks or a week days , whatever
24:42
it is , but be realistic
24:44
and intentional on how you want
24:46
to use that time . If
24:49
this is your first time doing it and you're going
24:51
cold turkey from being
24:53
a constant workaholic to spending
24:55
time with your family it's going to
24:57
be like when you get out , when you try
24:59
to go cold turkey from caffeine , it's
25:03
not going to go the way you planned it it's
25:05
. I'm just letting you know now what
25:07
you want to do is to focus on
25:09
one day at a time . Okay , I
25:11
have 10 days I'm going to spend with my family , or 20
25:14
days , whatever it may be for you . Be
25:16
intentional with focusing with one day at a
25:18
time . Okay , day one , I'm just selling on me
25:20
a family day to . I'm going to incorporate
25:22
an hour of checking my emails or
25:25
doing a project , and so on and so forth . Whatever
25:27
you think is going to work for you and being okay
25:30
with it . Now , if you want to try
25:32
the cold turkey . Go for it . I'm not saying
25:34
that you shouldn't , but I want
25:36
you to be prepared that your brain is going to offer
25:38
you so many crazy things that you know like your business is going
25:40
to be Like shut down because you're not there , like
25:43
just lies , that it's going to feed you or no
25:45
one's going to listen to your podcast If
25:48
you stop podcasting for a week or for two weeks
25:50
, if you don't get this right , they're
25:53
just going to , you know , discount you
25:55
and just not engage with
25:57
you anymore , whatever it may be . So
26:00
I want to offer that you be intentional
26:02
, realistic with the time that you do have
26:04
to spare , in the time that you do
26:06
have to actually focus on
26:08
work because , trust me , I
26:11
don't know about your kids , but my kids , they
26:13
don't want me to be with them all day , every
26:15
day . Of course they want
26:17
their alone time . They want their time with their friends
26:19
. They want time to play with you
26:22
know their game , time to be on the phone
26:24
, time to sketch whatever they need to
26:26
sketch , time to be on TikTok , whatever
26:28
it is . Be okay
26:31
with where you are now and just continue
26:33
to monitor . Okay , if you're
26:35
thinking , do I need to take a break ? And
26:39
you know focus to be with my family , then
26:41
the answer is totally yes . You do need to take a break and
26:44
then just become more intentional with it , day
26:46
by day , week by week . It's hard
26:48
, especially if you haven't done it in
26:50
a long time , but I promise you it's completely
26:52
worth it . Your kids are going to notice it , Everyone
26:54
around you is going to notice it and it's going to be so much better
26:57
. All right , ladies ? Well , I hope that
26:59
this episode was helpful and that you not
27:01
only start taking action right away
27:03
with how to start implementing this ahead
27:05
of time especially as the holidays are right
27:07
around the corner and you'll have maybe a
27:10
day or two to spend time with them but
27:12
also be intentional with how you
27:14
are also thinking and how you're feeling
27:16
, because we don't want the mom guilt . That's
27:19
not necessary . It's something that we
27:21
don't need to continue to compound
27:23
and to feel unless
27:25
we can , you know , manage it , and we can
27:28
. We can manage how we feel , and
27:30
that starts with your thinking . So how can
27:32
you start thinking in a way where , okay , I'm going
27:34
to be intentional , I'm going to set some time
27:36
, I am going to be able
27:38
to do this through an activity or through whatever
27:40
it may be for you and be able
27:42
to actually be intentional in that
27:44
way . All right , I hope this helps
27:47
you and listen . Like I said earlier , if you are
27:49
not in my Facebook group , I highly encourage that
27:51
you join as soon as possible . I'm
27:53
going to start adding so many things
27:55
in there , like the events , the calendar for 2024
27:58
. So stay tuned . There's
28:01
more to come in the Facebook group . Come join us , come
28:03
say hello and listen . If you need some more
28:05
help 101 help , feel
28:08
free to schedule a free consultation Call
28:10
with me . All you have to do is scroll down to the bottom
28:12
of this podcast episode or go to winyarraycom
28:15
for a slash consult and schedule
28:17
a call with me so that we can go one on one
28:19
, step by step , on how we can continue to
28:22
improve your emotional well-being , your
28:24
maybe the things that you are procrastinating
28:27
on , the productivity . Maybe you needed
28:29
a tool help 101
28:31
on how to actually get this to-do list as
28:33
a routine and not just as a list , and just
28:35
completely get rid of your to-do list forever and
28:38
really put together a routine
28:40
that will help you every single
28:42
week , every single day , so that
28:44
you can continue to make progress in
28:46
your life . All right . I hope that this
28:49
blessed you and enjoy the rest of your week
28:51
. Talk to you soon . Bye .
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