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This is BMI Redefined

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with Gin and Mo

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. All right . Hey

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everybody. Welcome back to BMI Redefined

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with Jen and Mo . Yay

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. It is a beautiful day

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in St . Louis, Missouri.

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Oh yeah.

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Oh yeah. Okay. So

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what are we gonna talk about today?

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Well, I happen to

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have just heard an amazing quote.

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Mm-hmm. <affirmative> and what is

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It? Ralph Waldo Emerson said,

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The hardest thing to do is

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to be your self in

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a world which is constantly

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trying to change you.

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Hmm . That is very true.

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It is true. It is. There's

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always people trying to change you, judge

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you all that

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Trying to tell you how you should

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do you.

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Right. And who knows better how

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to do you than you

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<laugh> . I know . Exactly.

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Really seriously.

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Right. So , so

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poo poo on those people <laugh> . So

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Anyway, so

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what we were talking about the other day though, was

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diving into a

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discussion about hidden superpowers.

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Right. Woo . And we

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got this idea because we were

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looking at a magazine called Psychology

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Today. Yes. And there are some things in

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there that we didn't really agree with mm-hmm.

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<affirmative>, but there were many things we did agree with. Right.

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And we'll be touching upon both of those. Yeah. There

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are 10 hidden

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super powers. Mm-hmm.

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<affirmative> that we are going to go through.

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Yeah. And the researchers that will be

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quoting along the way that wrote some pretty powerful,

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super powerful, It's

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Pretty cool articles. Yeah. Super powerful.

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Yeah . And it's kinda like, you know, what is your superpower? If

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you could have a superpower, what would your superpower

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Be like in reality? Or like,

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if I could be like , um, Marvel

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or DC Comics or something

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. Yes. That's always wanted to fly

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<laugh> fly. Okay . Okay.

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Cool. Cool.

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What about you?

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I don't know. I think mine would be

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to become invisible <laugh> because

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then it could go anywhere and do anything people wouldn't

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know.

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Oh yeah. Well, or the shape Shapeshifters.

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The Shapeshifters,

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Yeah . Morphing, right ? Yeah . Yeah . That'd

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be pretty super cool too. Yeah .

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Yeah . That would be pretty cool. So anyway, I don't

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know , but that's not gonna happen. No . But

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at least we can, you know, think that

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<laugh> , so there

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You go. Well, you know, another something

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that I've been wanting to do

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in life. I am currently

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having my house painted. I'm

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gonna do some painting myself, cuz I've just moved

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into a new house.

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Oh, I thought you were going to say get a

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divorce.

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Nope . Already did that. Right.

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<laugh>, congratulations. Five . Thanks.

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Yeah . Yeah. So I just got a house and we're gonna be

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having some retreats and some workshops.

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And what you said Mo, was women

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could come to these retreats to recharge,

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reflect, renew, and rebuild

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their own definition of

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BMI redefined.

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Yeah. Body, mind image.

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Yeah. Because

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We all have our own journey and our own

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redefining of who we are now

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. I have a friend right now who just

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found out that she has

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a father out there through some

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DNA testing. I have another

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friend who has decided that she

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is going to be getting a divorce because

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it's healthier for her. Mm-hmm. <affirmative> , I mean,

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you know, you can relate to that. Yeah. Yeah . It's

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pretty powerful that they're taking

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their life and

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recreating something mm-hmm . <affirmative> that

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will be better for their children and

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be better for themselves.

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Exactly. You know, you nailed it. Yeah.

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It's so cool. It's so cool. Okay,

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so let's go ahead and get into

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the , uh, hidden superpower. So

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the first one is imperfection.

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And this is the classic superpower,

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but in real life pretending to

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have, it tends to backfire <laugh>

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. So instead, those

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who make mistakes and let others

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know it are better liked and

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often more successful. And that

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is an article by Marina

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Harris, PhD , by the way. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>, do

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you want to comment on that?

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Well, I mean, it was kind of like those

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of us who either

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are or have been perfectionist

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at some point in our lives, like

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me before the car wreck, total double

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type a personality perfectionist to

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the hilt . And ,

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And we would not be friends.

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No. And I you , I don't look

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like that anymore. I no

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<laugh>. No,

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No. Like I've

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got , I've got dishes in my sink right now, and I have

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a house that needs to be cleaned and it is not Yeah.

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Which is fine and bother me really?

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But I mean, at that point was I happy

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I was stressed out all the time.

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Right, right .

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You know, if everything wasn't exactly in

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place and perfect, I it

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caused anxiety and stress and all that.

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Mm-hmm . <affirmative> and that brought it on myself.

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Right.

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Nobody else was making me be a

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perfectionist. I brought that on myself. And I , and there

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are people today in this world

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who bring on perfectionism on themselves.

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And it really, I think, leads to stress. What

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is the second super

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Power number two is generativity. We

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often imagine that putting others before ourselves

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is a sign of weakness. But

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research suggests it's actually a stealth

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superpower. The most generative

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people have better long-term wellbeing

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than others. So,

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Eric Erickson, who first proposed

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the theory called opposite

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of generativity is stagnation.

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Okay. And in his

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model, people who stagnate become more

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and more self, which

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I do believe, and I , but , but

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hold on a second. But then he goes, they , uh,

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this person, the article Susan

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Cross whi borne PhD says , um,

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that if that ha people

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who stagnate become more and more self-focused,

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spending money on endless home rede

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expensive vacations and beauty treatments. Do you wanna say

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something about that?

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Oh , well, yeah. I'm

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not spending endless money on redecorating

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my house, I'm just painting it to start with.

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Right, Exactly. That's

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Different. Right .

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So you have to be able to take care of yourself

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first before you can help others. But

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it's the stagnant part that

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when that is put into the mix,

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that's where it gets dangerous. Right. But

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what were you going to

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Say? You well, the oxygen mask

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on the airplane, put your own on before

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you help the other people around you. Exactly.

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That's the kind of thing that I think Eric

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Erickson is talking about. Right.

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And to care for others because, you know, pass

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it on. Right. The

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Generativity pay. Yeah. Pay it forward. Pay

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It forward. Yeah . The , you know , uh, the generation,

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the next generation. And

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if you feel like you are contributing,

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then you're going to be self-fulfilled

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and you're going to be helping others.

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And that's, I think, the core of this.

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Well, it is. And Eric

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also, Eric Erickson also went into the

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stages of life, which kind of mirrors

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Maslow's hierarchy. Mm-hmm . <affirmative> talking about, you

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know, needing food and shelter and

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clothing and then all the way up. And he said

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that stagnation actually kind of hits

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when we get to a

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certain point in our lives. Yeah . It sometimes

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too. And you really have to watch out for that. Right.

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But you don't become that stagnant person

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that we're saying we don't wanna be and that we are

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still thinking of others.

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And a lot of that time that does that

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does happen is what we is what people may

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call their midlife crisis. Oh

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yeah . You know, in their forties and fifties and

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it happens. So how are you

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going to get through and how are you not

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going to be doing the same old, same old? And

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how are you going to be contributing to society and

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not get caught up in your own things

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in your own life? Because really getting

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caught up in your own things, you

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can't take that with you True . When you

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die <laugh> . That's true. So what

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are you doing to contribute and

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to share and to help.

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Yeah. That's a, that's a question

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to really reflect on. Yeah.

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So routine. You wanna ,

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Next one , number three is routine.

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And we're looking at Steve Alexander

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Jr's work on this article

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where he talks about a routine as

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actually fostering creativity. And

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you and I have talked , we've taken personality personalities to

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us . So we do , cuz we've taken personality tests

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and we are not routine, nor

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There's nothing routine

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About us, about us.

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Only thing routine is like if we have

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to be like, your job and my job

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Right. Is keeping us in a routine. Right. But

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if we had our own druthers, we

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would just be wisping

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in the wind.

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Well, but it , but

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Getting things

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Done, right. Well, yeah. We

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Get things done. We

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Get things done. Yeah . Right . Yeah . I

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mean , you look at what , what we do or what we've done. Right

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. Right . But I mean, it's interesting

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because those routines, like right now,

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we've had to plan this time mm-hmm.

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<affirmative> today after our jobs, after

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our task, whatever we were doing mm-hmm . <affirmative>

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to get this production done. Right. Where

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if we didn't have some routine driving the

9:22

earlier part of our day, <laugh> , would we be

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doing this right now?

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Exactly . Well, exactly.

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We have put it off to another time,

9:30

<laugh> . Right. But we have made our,

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We committed to this. Right,

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Right . Right. We made ourselves commit to this.

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So I think I kind of buy into what he's

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saying even though we , like you said , we kinda laughed at

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first, but Right . I think we can say

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this has some truth to it.

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And I also think, remember everything's

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in moderation, right? Mm-hmm. <affirmative>, if

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you have a routine that you can't deviate

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from, then that becomes problematic.

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Well, it can be, or monotony can

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set in. Right. But what we kind of defined

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it as the other day, I was just looking in our notes from our

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conversation, is we talked about having some

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type of structure mm-hmm.

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<affirmative> exactly. In your life. Exactly . And

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two recent studies tie both primary

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routines, hygiene, sleep

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and eating and secondary routines,

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social activities, and work to

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better mental health. And studies

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of both athletes and non-athletes have

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found that routines benefit

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performance by reducing

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overthinking, which tends

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to foster stress and pressure,

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Which we talk about overthinking

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things out <laugh> all

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The time. Right . But the thing is that if you are not

10:35

releasing that stress hormone, and

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if you're not releasing all of that negative

10:40

energy mm-hmm . <affirmative> , what are you doing? It's

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manifesting itself inside of you. Right.

10:44

And you're just rethinking it over and over and over and

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over again. Where if you go for a walk or you go

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for a run, or if you just go for, you

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know, a walk in the woods or something, you

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Know , you know, it's a really good way to

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release that stress. A

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Punching bag ,

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A workout with me anyway.

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Yeah. Yeah . We need to do that right

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after this today. Mm-hmm. <affirmative> four , Oh

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wait, this is a segue right into number four, which

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is persuasion. Would you like to run with

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that one ?

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I suppose, I guess I will know Vanessa

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Bone's PhD says, we

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assume we don't have much influence over

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others. Hmm . Even

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those closest to us, but

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studies show we are more powerful

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than we think. And

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I thought this was really interesting of

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what she said, that, you know, you wanna

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convince, if you want to convince another

11:34

person to do something, the first thing

11:36

is to consider how likely

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they are to agree. And this really

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shocked me. Strangers are almost equally

11:43

willing to pitch in, like they're almost as

11:46

equally ready to say yes

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than close family and friends. Um,

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I thought that was really interesting.

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Yeah . Well, and , and in my mind

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when we were talking about this the other day is there's

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a, there's a nuance between

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persuasion and

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control or manipulation in my

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mind. Mm-hmm.

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<affirmative>. Well, persuasion isn't

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persuasion a little bit of manipulation.

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You're manipulating someone to

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agree with you. Right? True. Yeah

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. So, but it can be used for good

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or evil. <laugh> , right ? <laugh> , right?

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Yes. So really a joker on the ridler or

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you Batman . Exactly. Or you loving .

12:27

Exactly. So, you know , but this,

12:29

all, this, this whole thing of persuasion really

12:31

suggests that we do

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have more influence over

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a lot of different types of people. And

12:40

you know, when you have something to ask or when

12:42

you have something to say, the

12:45

people who are seeking that will want

12:47

to listen to that.

12:48

That's a good point. Yeah.

12:49

You know, so that's just something

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to think about , uh,

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satisfaction.

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All right . So single

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Jenny , do you know

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What

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People who are never,

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ever satisfied?

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Yes.

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Oh wow. That was perfect . <laugh> . Okay

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. So you wanna go ahead and read

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the first part of that satisfaction.

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Think of number five,

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satisfaction, the ability

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to be happy with who you are, where

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you are and what you have is

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a power that those who

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are never satisfied may want to

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emulate.

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Who, where, and

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what.

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Yep .

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That is so true. And

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you know, it's funny because people who are

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, um, you know, I

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mean , what , what is success? What's a narrative of , of

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success? Well, those who make

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a lot of money, those who have a great job,

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those who have the best car, those

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who have a huge house. Oh , oh ,

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Mr. Carter .

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Yes. Go ahead.

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What about being happy or having joy?

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Yeah, Right. <laugh> . Exactly.

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You know, happiness is an insight job,

14:05

really. Right ? It's not exactly, not the material

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stuff.

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No. I mean it's, it's a , it's an inner

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directed, you know, contentment.

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It's a much more eloquent way to say

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what I just said.

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<laugh> . Well , thank you. Can thank Lauren Samuel,

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a PhD for that <laugh> . But the

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thing is, is that, you know, outer, outer

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directed measures of

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success, They just,

14:29

who cares?

14:30

Well, and it gets into not comparing

14:32

ourselves right . To others, which

14:35

is kind of a , a , a not to

14:37

bring up fitness. Again, a gem kind

14:39

of mantra is to not compare yourself

14:42

to the person next to you. Right

14:44

. But to compare yourself to who you were yesterday.

14:47

And are you better today than you were

14:49

yesterday? And not just from physiological

14:51

standpoint, but I mean Right . Mentally,

14:54

emotionally, intellectually.

14:56

Are you better than you were yesterday and let's

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just keep moving ahead and that level of satisfaction.

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I loved what you said in the beginning, nobody

15:03

knows yourself better than you.

15:05

Right.

15:06

You know . Right. And I always tell

15:08

my students, when

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you are standing up here speaking, no

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one knows more about the subject than

15:16

you.

15:16

That's what I've already, that's what I've always

15:18

told 'em too . If they're teaching a case or they're

15:21

doing talking about their project, I said,

15:23

You know more about the company that you researched

15:25

than even I do. Right . As

15:27

the teacher. Because you poured yourself into this

15:29

project. That's right. That's right. And so that

15:32

gives them confidence.

15:33

Exactly.

15:33

Yeah. Cuz I know more about

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It. Okay. Nostalgia. Letting

15:37

our minds wander to the pa wander. Oh,

15:39

letting our minds wander. That's nothing we do

15:42

For Wait ,

15:42

It's a bunny. Yeah, I know. Yeah. You're looking out the backyard

15:44

and

15:44

There was a bunny. I

15:45

Know. Letting our minds wander to

15:48

the past. Oh, to the past. Oh

15:50

. Can be guilt inducing,

15:52

but it shouldn't be fond, nostalgic

15:55

memories can boost our mood and

15:57

make us feel whole. And this is Matt Johnson PhD

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.

16:00

Right. Well, moving, moving on, learning

16:03

from the past Yeah. Looking to the future.

16:05

Exactly. And

16:07

not playing the

16:09

old tapes. You know what,

16:11

if you go back and you're thinking

16:14

about a time of, you know, Yes

16:16

. Or year in certain events or experience, whatever

16:19

mm-hmm . <affirmative> and then that hard part or

16:21

that not so happy part comes to mind. And

16:23

then you're playing what we call playing those tapes

16:26

for those who know what tapes are.

16:27

Right. Exactly.

16:28

Playing that download, if you will. Exactly.

16:32

Not letting that hurt those memories,

16:34

you know? Right. And remembering the good.

16:36

Exactly. So Matt Johnson says,

16:39

Who we were in the past isn't who we are

16:41

now. We may think feeler act differently

16:44

today. And as

16:46

ts Elliott says, you are not the

16:48

same people who left that station or

16:51

who will arrive at any terminus.

16:54

You know, you're like a quilt. Your memory

16:56

stitches together, all of these different,

16:58

Ooh , I like that.

16:59

Paths that have happened in your life.

17:01

My grandmother used to make quilts. My mother would

17:03

see the quilts when we would go visit, and

17:06

it would be, you know, a a square

17:08

sort of squares from, or dress from when she was little

17:11

or something that she would remember,

17:13

you know, a tablecloth that my grandmother

17:15

used to use on Easter or whatever. I

17:17

mean, it would , and it , these quilts had memories.

17:20

Good memories. Yeah. Yeah. Right.

17:23

That's

17:23

Cool. Okay, so number seven,

17:26

which we don't

17:28

really agree with,

17:30

Right.

17:31

It's desire. David led did a

17:33

great job explaining , um,

17:35

what's meant by this hidden superpower. But

17:38

do you wanna run with this one?

17:40

Yeah. So few feelings are more

17:42

guilt inducing than, or as

17:44

resistible, as a crush on someone

17:46

who's not your partner. But in fact,

17:49

research shows that outside crushes, as

17:51

long as they're not acted on, generally

17:54

have a positive effect on people's

17:56

primary relationship. And

17:59

basically, why

18:01

do adults have crushes? The

18:03

researchers who led a recent study suggest

18:06

two possibilities. First, the

18:08

feeling of attraction may

18:10

be hardwired into our sexual identity.

18:13

Mm . I mean, yeah. I

18:15

mean, that's how we met our partners. That's how

18:17

we meet people. We're attracted to them.

18:19

Even if it's like a best friend, you're

18:22

attracted to them because their personality, you're

18:24

attracted to them for what they have to offer. Right?

18:26

Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. And, but

18:28

sometimes we are attracted to people we

18:31

know we'll never have a

18:33

relationship with. So it's a , so

18:35

he's really talking about not just

18:37

any attraction, but a sexual attraction.

18:40

And those who don't

18:43

act on it are secure

18:45

in their relationships because they're like, You know

18:47

what? We're not going to act on this.

18:49

We are going to , um,

18:52

just be attracted to them.

18:54

Well, you could

18:54

Be, People are attracted to like movie stars

18:56

and TV stars all the time.

18:59

I think what he's saying is that it could be healthy.

19:02

Okay.

19:02

You know, it could be healthy, but I don't know.

19:04

It's just, it just seems to be a slippery

19:06

Slope. Yeah. It is. Like

19:08

If you know, you

19:11

know, Yeah . Slippery slope. Okay

19:14

. What's eight

19:15

Hope?

19:16

I like this one

19:18

Do too . You

19:20

wanna start with it?

19:20

Yeah. The power to access the belief that

19:23

things can get better, no matter

19:25

the challenge can quite literally

19:27

change the world.

19:29

It can. And Albert

19:32

Einstein talked about it in a similar

19:34

way when he talked about imagination. He

19:36

said, imagination is everything.

19:38

It's the preview to

19:40

life's coming attractions. And you

19:42

think about having hope and

19:45

having faith and having things that

19:47

are not seen, but are coming to be. For

19:50

me personally, the

19:53

doctors after my car wreck said that I

19:55

would never walk again. Mm-hmm . <affirmative>

19:57

. But did I give up hope? No.

20:00

So in that frame of mind, just

20:03

having, having hope Yeah

20:05

. You know, that , that something is

20:07

coming into your future that

20:10

will be, I

20:13

don't wanna call it an expectation, but

20:15

something that you're

20:17

desiring going back to number seven.

20:19

Mm-hmm. <affirmative>.

20:20

Yeah.

20:20

Right. In a way, what do you think?

20:23

We get married, <laugh>.

20:25

We were all hoping

20:26

That . We were all hoping, and then it turned into a

20:28

miracle. <laugh>

20:30

Miracles do happen .

20:31

Miracles do have it . It's right here. It happened,

20:33

it happened to me. Yeah . You

20:36

know, when you think that you believe

20:38

that it's hopeless, you know, and you have no power or

20:40

no reason to live, or no reason to act, and

20:43

like you can't win or whatever hope

20:46

is, is a feeling of

20:48

, um, you

20:50

know, of power really.

20:53

Well we're talking about hidden superpowers.

20:55

So Yeah. And there , I mean,

20:57

I , uh, there's songs I've listened to Danny Goki

21:00

and a couple others. You know , I guess Mercy

21:02

Me sings a a

21:04

song about somebody who keeps hoping

21:07

even when the situation seems hopeless. And

21:09

we all know people like that. I mean, some people say

21:12

that about me. I'm all like miss optimism

21:14

all , not all the time, but a lot of the time <laugh> . Right.

21:17

So . Right . Yeah . I mean , kinda depends on what's

21:19

going on at the time, but mm-hmm . <affirmative> , you

21:21

know, having, how do you, how do you

21:23

like define, truly

21:25

define hope?

21:28

David Feldman points out in his

21:30

article that people may

21:32

hear or have heard the expression,

21:34

Hope is not a strategy. And

21:37

he says, Don't believe it. Hope he

21:39

says is a way of thinking

21:41

that pushes us into action.

21:43

Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. And I think of

21:46

you and your story when

21:48

you were in your accident and

21:50

your arms were severely

21:53

damaged mm-hmm . <affirmative> , and

21:56

you had that hope of

22:00

holding your babies again. Right.

22:03

And your arms. Right. And how are you going

22:05

to do that if you weren't

22:08

able to use your arms? And so you did, you

22:10

did what it took to

22:12

get better so that you could

22:14

be with your children Right. And

22:17

the way you wanted to be.

22:19

Well, and that's where Yeah, exactly.

22:21

And you could be right, but

22:23

you had to not give up. Right. Right.

22:26

And that's where some people coming in the

22:28

picture in your life and your environment,

22:31

in your atmosphere tell you

22:33

to not follow your dreams or

22:35

to give up on something. And

22:38

you just gotta turn your mind toward

22:40

hope and perseverance and realize

22:42

that you , if you're really feeling

22:45

called to go for something, to go for it.

22:47

And who knows you better than

22:49

You. You. That's

22:51

Right . Okay. Daydreaming Number

22:53

nine.

22:54

<laugh> . Oh ,

22:56

Look at the pretty cloud .

22:58

Wait . Yeah. Another bunny.

23:00

Yeah. There you go. Case in

23:02

point. People Case in point .

23:06

Well, daydreaming. I

23:08

mean,

23:10

Daydreaming can be helpful,

23:14

it can be good. Right? Yeah.

23:16

Far

23:17

From a form of procrastination

23:22

and indulgence in fantasy, or a sign

23:24

of an idle mind daydreaming

23:27

has been shown to deliver real world

23:29

benefits by Brendan Kelly , md,

23:33

PhD . Do you wanna talk a little bit about that?

23:35

I mean, you can get into dreaming,

23:38

having dreams and imagination, which

23:40

is key. Mm-hmm . <affirmative> , I mean, it's key to

23:42

have dreams.

23:43

Yeah. They help us to think, you know Right . Creatively

23:45

When you're working on something and suddenly you're daydreaming.

23:48

But that can have a positive impact.

23:51

Right.

23:52

Ex it can have a

23:53

Positive impact, mean it be a little respite from what you're

23:55

working on. And sometimes you'll come out of it totally

23:58

clear and ready to pursue whatever

24:00

you're working on. Or an idea for solving a

24:02

problem like you came up with.

24:03

Exactly. And the, you

24:06

know, the problem solving and the ability

24:08

to reach conclusions and everything. I

24:11

mean, there have been brain scans and studies that

24:13

have shown this actually happening.

24:15

So we're not just making this up. And,

24:18

you know, it had previously

24:20

been thought that the only part of the brain active

24:22

during daydreams was the default network, which

24:25

is associated with low level routine

24:27

mental activity. However,

24:30

though this research shows that executive

24:33

network concerned with complex high level

24:35

problem solving is also

24:37

activated when we daydream. So

24:39

it's high functioning or low functioning,

24:42

whatever it is, whatever you need it to

24:44

be, it's there for

24:46

you to use in a positive way,

24:49

In a strategic frame of

24:51

mind. We could schedule daydreaming

24:53

into our daily schedule.

24:56

I, Yes.

24:57

I mean, I hear like making a , sitting

24:59

On my bouncy ball. Right,

25:00

Exactly. Doing out crunches.

25:02

Yeah. Rush towards I didn't say that. Um , <laugh>

25:05

A bouncy ball.

25:06

So, Well, I mean, there's always that,

25:08

and you and I have talked about this. Make an appointment with

25:11

yourself every day on your calendar so that you

25:13

have some time yourself to plan and,

25:15

and to figure out life and all that. And

25:18

maybe this is part of that. Well,

25:20

He says that at the , at the very end, we

25:22

could even benefit from consciously carving out

25:24

some time. Yeah . Right. And

25:27

space to allow our mind to wander and see

25:29

where it takes us.

25:31

Wow.

25:32

I think I'm gonna do that right

25:33

Now. Yeah , I was thinking the same thing.

25:35

Why don't you go ahead and do number 10. Well

25:37

, you my daydream. Okay now

25:39

. Okay, go ahead. Restlessness. Go

25:41

Rest . Restlessness. Okay , so

25:44

JTA Jordan is talking about

25:46

restlessness. So when

25:49

boredom sets in, staying in

25:51

one place can be hard on our

25:53

mental health. Those with an urge to

25:56

get out and enjoy new and different

25:58

experiences may have a

26:00

distinct advantage. Mm-hmm

26:02

. <affirmative> . So restlessness is a

26:05

hidden superpower . I

26:08

think I do agree with that because we

26:11

, you and I talked about this, we , we can

26:13

get into boredom or monotony at

26:17

times. Yeah . When things are too structured,

26:20

it has number whatever.

26:21

So , or when things are too stressed out, when

26:23

we're so stressed out, we just shut down.

26:25

Yeah.

26:26

Yeah . And, you know, and experiencing diversity

26:29

and going to new or

26:31

different places and engaging in different

26:33

experiences can improve wellbeing.

26:36

And that's what Juta German says.

26:39

So, you know, positive emotions were

26:41

higher on days when people were

26:45

different places. They , she uses the

26:47

word geolocations. Yeah.

26:49

And so when they were doing things and

26:51

out there and getting out there, then

26:54

their emotions of positive

26:56

emotions were higher and their experiential

26:58

diversity was happening. You

27:00

know, all these new experiences. And

27:04

we know that though. We

27:06

know that if you stay in the house and

27:09

you stay in front of the TV with

27:11

a bag of Cheetos and

27:14

a six pack of diet Pepsi.

27:17

Right. That's no bueno

27:19

. That's no good.

27:20

Right. Well, do you

27:22

think the, the pandemic led

27:25

to some of this?

27:26

Yeah , absolutely. Absolutely.

27:28

It really limited our

27:30

ability to go out there and do things. Mm-hmm.

27:33

<affirmative>, right? Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. So

27:35

yeah. It's almost like we're reteaching

27:37

or relearning, reteaching

27:39

ourselves and relearning how

27:42

to get out there and how to do things. Mm-hmm.

27:44

<affirmative>.

27:44

Yeah. Post pandemic. Well , we're

27:47

still kind of in the pandemic, but

27:48

Yeah. But, you know. Yeah. But yeah,

27:50

I thought this was kind of interesting to talk about and

27:52

to find, you know Yeah . Our , um, you

27:55

know , hidden superpowers. Yeah.

27:57

That was really cool.

27:58

Yeah. Really

27:59

Cool. Top 10 hidden superpowers

28:03

can be very powerful

28:06

for body, mind, and

28:09

image.

28:09

Absolutely. No doubt.

28:11

And so we challenge you to

28:15

find your hidden superpower,

28:17

because we all have one.

28:18

Right.

28:20

Some of us may have to dig a little deeper

28:22

than others <laugh> , but

28:23

She's looking at me as she says that, but that's

28:26

okay. No,

28:27

No, no. What was the one that

28:29

we just did? Uh , daydreaming. I

28:31

already know what yours is, <laugh> . No , no

28:33

, no. It's good. It's good. You're not

28:35

, uh, you're not always in the clouds.

28:38

You're pretty pretty there most of

28:40

the time. That's

28:41

The time . Well, yeah, we

28:43

talked about

28:44

And me too. I can throw myself in there. You

28:47

know, I mean , I think, I think if you're creative, you're

28:49

going to have many of these hidden

28:52

superpowers.

28:53

Yeah.

28:53

And if you're not the creative type, then

28:56

perhaps it's time to tap into maybe one just

28:58

to dip your toe into the

29:00

water, you

29:01

Know? Yeah. And

29:03

the , the one, like the routine one, though,

29:05

that's an interesting one. For somebody

29:08

who doesn't see themselves

29:10

as flexible or whatever, what if

29:12

you examine your routines, your

29:15

structure in your day mm-hmm . <affirmative> , and figure

29:17

out what it leads to. Does it ever lead

29:19

to a certain level of creativity or

29:21

more productivity in certain times

29:24

of your day that you could really investigate

29:26

that and then kind of see, well,

29:29

what are some other superpowers

29:31

That's Yeah . And then the other , it's all about balance, right? Right

29:33

. I mean, we should all have a little bit of these.

29:35

Oh yeah. Right.

29:36

Yeah. I mean, nothing is, you

29:38

know, nothing is totally,

29:41

Nothing's outta totally outta reach.

29:43

No, Nothing is totally outta reach <laugh>

29:45

. Nope , nothing.

29:46

In our next episode of BMI

29:49

redefined, we will be discussing

29:52

The power of positive thinking.

29:55

All right . Alrighty .

29:56

And how that really contributes

29:59

to your body,

30:02

your mind, and your

30:04

image.

30:05

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