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welcome to a another exciting

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All right, hello everyone and

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welcome to another exciting

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episode. My name is Colton

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Cockerell. And with me every

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single Wednesday, I have the

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lovely and trying to think of

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another adjective Trish, I can't, so I'm just gonna go ahead and throw it to you. My

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wonderful co host, Miss Trisha

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Stetzel, what's going on?

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Thanks, Colin.

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You could call me cute or sweet

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or times thoughtful. I

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don't think Dennis would appreciate that.

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Hey, everyone,

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Trisha Stetzel here Results

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Xtreme Business Solutions. And

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welcome. This month on the show,

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we are focused on health and

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wellness. And today we're going

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to talk about meditation and

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relaxation. And we have back on

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the show my favorite friend,

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Miss Chelsea Ward to talk with

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us about meditation and

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relaxation. Chelsea, welcome to

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the show.

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Thank you both so

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much. I'm thrilled to be with

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you here again.

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Yeah, and we're excited to have you and I sadly wasn't able to be with you

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last time. So this is the first

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time for me. So I'm excited.

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Well, excluding the first time

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he came on me years ago. Anyway,

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enough wasting time. I do want

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to jump in and ask some

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questions here. I think the

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first thing that we think of,

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hey, don't we have a sponsor?

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Oh, my

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goodness. And and it's the best

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sponsor? It's Sharer McKinley

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Group, LLC. My goodness. How did

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I forget that? Thank you,

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Trisha. See Trish's On top of it

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Chelsea, as always, but no, what

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I want to jump into is the idea

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of meditation. A lot of people

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think it's a waste of time. They

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don't think that it's worth the

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10, 15, 30 minutes. So tell me,

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what do you what do you say to those people.

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So we waste a lot

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of time doing things that are

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not very productive things like

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scrolling through social media,

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things like you know, we could

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probably list millions of things

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we waste time on. But I will say

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that meditation is not one of

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those whether we think it is or

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not. I used to feel like I could

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meditate and walk. And while

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there is such thing as like

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walking meditations, you can get

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in more of a meditative state,

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when you're working out, you can

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do a lot of different things

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where you're just kind of like

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focusing inward getting present

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in the moment. The big thing to

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remember is where you enter into

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a parasympathetic state when

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you're meditating is that rest

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and relax state, it is not

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something that we do very often,

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because we live in this fast

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paced society, we're running

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from one thing to the next,

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we're, our hair is on fire half

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the time, right? We're picking

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up the kids, we're we're

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managing our businesses, were

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juggling all the balls, we're

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trying to cook dinner, we're

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thinking, oh, I need to get

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healthy. You know, you know what

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life brings us every day.

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Meditation is a way to really

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step away from that and enter

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into a brainwave state called

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theta, which is one that we

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never really enter into. And

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that is the most relaxed state

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outside of sleep that we could

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possibly enter into. It's a

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place where creativity comes

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from, we need that as business

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owners, we need to take that

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time to sit back and allow our

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brain to just be in that state

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of reception where we are

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receiving. And that's one of my

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favorite things about meditation

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that most people don't talk

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about is that we we can use it

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as a time to receive the things

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that we need to really go into

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our day and be very productive

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and very creative. And a lot of

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times you'll have visions, and

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you'll see things during a time

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of meditation that you just

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don't see in other times because

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you haven't given your brain

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space to actually think about

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those things. And a semi waking

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state outside of you know, like

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your dream state, which half the

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time we don't even remember our

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dreams. Right? So it's just

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really is a time for us to be in

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reception mode and to create

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that space for creativity to

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I was reading

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something the other day Chelsea

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take place. came across my feed probably

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right that said we spend we

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spend so much time scrolling is

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you mentioned that a minute ago,

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that we don't leave time for the

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creativity so our brain isn't

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actually able to relax because

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we're looking at all this junk

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on social media. And the mindset

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The thing that I hear people say

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is I'm just gonna scroll my

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phone to relax and chill. And

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it's doing the opposite. Right?

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It really is kicking our brain

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into high gear because we were

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looking at all the junk as we

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scroll scroll through. I'd like

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to ask you Chelsea about when

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people think about meditation, I

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believe most people think of

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this you know, sitting in the

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middle of the floor with the

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candles in the om and the cross

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legs and you have to sit there

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for 30 minutes. Is that the only

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kind of meditation there is,

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because that's hard,

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it is hard, it's

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really about getting

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comfortable. So that's probably

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the easiest way to do it. Some

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people will say lay down, some

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people say set up, I'm not a fan

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of laying down and meditating,

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because I'm gonna go to sleep,

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I'll be honest with you, I'm not

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really good at that, I will do

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anything I can asleep, I'm a

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sleeper, but if you will sit up

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and get in a semi uncomfortable

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state. So that's why people

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cross their legs, because maybe

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their legs could fall asleep.

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But you really want the body to

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feel stimulated in some way so

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that you're in that waking

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state, but you're relaxed. So

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that's why they say sit up

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straight. Because you're, you're

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having to use your muscles to

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sit your body up straight,

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right. So those are the reasons

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behind some of those practices.

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And it's really just getting

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your body still so that you can

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still and quiet your mind and

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focus in and there's really not

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a lot of rules to it. A lot of

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people say quiet your mind, I

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find that men feel like they can

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quiet their mind a lot easier

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than women do. Women sitting

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tend to have these thoughts that

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are going going all the time.

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And men are just like, you ask a

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man what they're thinking about

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nothing, like that's always

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their their thought. And I'm

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like, Oh, they must meditate all

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the time, right. So that's kind

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of the difference. And women

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tend to have a little bit more

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difficult time calming down

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before meditation. So one thing

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I like to say is, if you can

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kind of change the frequencies,

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music brings in a different

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frequency, and it can literally

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change our atmosphere. So I will

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use instrumental music, you may

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play different tones and things

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like that. They're very specific

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tones that are great for

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meditation, great for sleep,

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helping you enter into those

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beta brainwaves. The beta

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brainwave, so whatever brain

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state you're looking for, you

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can choose, just literally get

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on YouTube, and play something

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and you can enter into that

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meditative state just by doing

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that. Some people prefer to use

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a guided meditation where

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someone's leaving them through a

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relaxed state, talking about,

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you know, creativity, and kind

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of helping you helping guide you

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into that just freeing up your

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mind where you're just kind of

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envisioning space, or that's one

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thing that Joe Dispenza talks

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about a lot is really just

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seeing yourself in space, seeing

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each body part in space, like

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what could you experience what

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your throat would be like in

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space. And that really just

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gives us something different to

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focus on outside of ourself,

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that it really helps kind of

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relax us, and get us into that

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different brain pattern. So that

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we can really focus on those

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positive emotions. So it doesn't

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have to be anything specific. It

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can just be it's really more

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about entering into that state

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of rest.

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Yeah, no Chelsea, I know exactly what you're talking about my brain, I

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can tell when I'm in bed, I'm

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thinking about a ton of stuff.

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Immediately, I can turn it off,

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and I'm going to bed my wife is

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like, how does it how can you

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just fall asleep so fast? Like

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what what I'm, I'm gonna get so

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funny, I didn't know that there

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was a man, woman thing. I

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thought that was just Colton

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Madison thing. So that's good to

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know. But hey, let me ask you

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this. With meditation. I know

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it's not, you know, clearing your mind, I get that how important is breathing as well

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with that.

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So breathing is

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used to kind of calm your

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nervous system. So it helps us

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to enter into that

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parasympathetic state. So it's

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one of the physical things that

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we do to help relax the body. So

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it's almost impossible for

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people like I was saying early

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earlier to just like, stop the

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mind, turn them on off and just

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sit there and pause and enter

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into this relaxed state. But

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breathing is something that we

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can do to help us so I love

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using different patterns. And

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there's a whole different talk

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about breath work in general,

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just using the breath to enter

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into certain states. But if you

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want to calm the nervous system,

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one of my favorite ways is to

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just use slow breathing or box

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breathing. So slow breathing,

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for someone who hasn't really

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used breathing techniques

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before, you would just kind of

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breathe into the count of four,

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and breathe out maybe to the

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count of seven. And that really

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helps you get rid of all the

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extra air. And you're you're

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kind of breathing out and you're

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calming down, slowing down the

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heart rate. The more that you do

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that, see what just straight

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into the count of four. And then

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out to the count of seven is

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that mainly just doing that out

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breath a little longer.

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So it's just getting you in the in the state to prepare yourself for

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meditation. And I think let's go

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ahead and like give it like a 10

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second pause, give people a

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chance to just try it because I know that everyone's like thinking oh, I need to do that

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need to do that. So give them a

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chance.

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Yeah, so let's

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breathe in. And then breathe

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out. And then after that you

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would breathe in and out. And

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the other form is box breathing.

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And I know this is Trisha

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favorite. And this really helps

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you enter into that relaxed

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state as well. And it's more

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focusing on the hold of the

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breath, where the other is just

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breathing in and out. And this

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is more holding between the

10:27

breath and the breath out. So

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you would breathe in for a count

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of four. So in 234, hold your

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breath, three, four, breathe out

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234 And hold 234. And you can do

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rounds of this for like two

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minutes. And even as I'm talking

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about this, do you not just

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spill the state like literally

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started to calm over this whole

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call, I mean, it's just, there's

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something about the breath is so

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magical, like, we think we don't

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think about it, because we do it

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all day, every day. But we can

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do so much with a breath just to

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help relax the system, because

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what we're doing is we're

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forcing that parasympathetic, or

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that rest and relaxed state,

11:18

because it's impossible to be in

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a state of stress if we're

11:23

physiologically in a state of

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calm, right. So as we calm down

11:26

the nervous system, we slow down

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the breath, we calm down our

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entire system, and we're forcing

11:35

that relaxed state. So then

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you've entered yourself into

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this very calm state. And

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meditation becomes a lot easier.

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Now you start to receive in that

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state of meditation.

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So I would

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suggest that everyone trade

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scrolling through their phone

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for relaxation to breathing, for

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relaxation, right? That is

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something very simple that we

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could all do. So when you feel

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like picking up your phone and

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scrolling through all the junk

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that is there, stop and just

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breathe, right one of these

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methods that Chelsea just talked

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about. So Chelsea, if one of our

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listeners decides that they want

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to try meditation, what are

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they? Where do they go? What do

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they do? So I love

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starting off with

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like a, it really depends on

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where you are in your brain, if

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your brain is always on, like,

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if you are, the very next thing

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you think about is picking up

12:31

your phone and scrolling. If you

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can't pay attention for longer

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than just a few seconds, if

12:34

you're on one thing and then on

12:38

to the next, then it might be

12:38

difficult for you to just sit

12:41

and listen to some instrumental

12:41

music in the background to calm

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yourself down. Like your your

12:45

brain is gonna say, You better

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get busy, you need to start doing something like you're being lazy, or whatever, you

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know, so you gotta meet yourself

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where you are. I didn't start

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meditating for long periods of

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time, I'll do an hour meditation

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these days, you know, and

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sometimes that's without

13:03

guidance. And sometimes that's

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with guidance. And sometimes I'm

13:06

meditating multiple times

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throughout the day, if it's for

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energy, I want to meditate and

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then go for a walk instead of

13:14

drinking a cup of coffee because

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I know my sleep is going to be

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disrupted if I drink a cup of

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coffee, where if I meditate,

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it's not. So that said, meet

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yourself where you are. I love

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just getting on YouTube.

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Honestly, my favorite instructor

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is right now I'm so hooked on

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him is Joe Dispenza. And he has

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like 15 minute meditations. And

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they're all guarded. So he'll

13:36

walk you through and help you

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enter into that relaxed state.

13:40

He what I love is that he'll

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take the first couple minutes,

13:43

and he'll explain, you know,

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something, he'll give a little

13:47

teaching for about two minutes

13:50

on, you know what you're doing

13:50

as far as the meditation goes,

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and then he'll go into the

13:53

guidance, and then you'll pause

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and you'll have to look through

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and scroll through some of his

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meditations but it's probably

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some of them are like an hour

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long, but some of them are

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really short. If you have

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meditated for a little while

14:08

then you can really just use

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instrumental music, and I kind

14:10

of I LOVE EAST forest. He's one

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of my favorites. So I'll use

14:17

some of the just east forest

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instrumentals our inner myself

14:20

into a relaxed state just by

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using the instrumentals and

14:25

breathing and you know, for a

14:28

couple minutes breathing out,

14:28

sometimes I'll do longer breath

14:32

holds. And then I'll relax that

14:32

out. So you can kind of get

14:39

deeper into some of those

14:39

practices, but then you just

14:41

want to set you know, set the

14:41

timer or pick a song that's for

14:45

as long as you want to meditate,

14:45

maybe 10 minutes and then sit in

14:49

silence for 10 minutes. Just

14:49

relax. You're gonna have

14:52

thoughts come up, and you're

14:52

gonna think about your day but

14:56

what you really want to focus on

14:56

is as I was kind of going into

14:59

that or earlier where Joe talks

14:59

about the space, you know,

15:03

seeing yourself and space, you

15:03

really want to see yourself

15:07

become that nothingness. You

15:07

know, what if you were nothing

15:12

more to what if you weren't

15:12

attached to anything here in

15:15

this present world your work or

15:15

your spouse or your problems? Or

15:21

what if there were none of that?

15:21

What if you weren't sick? What

15:25

if you didn't have cancer? What

15:25

if you what if you just let that

15:29

exist? What if you just

15:29

coexisted with this chair? Like,

15:33

what if you just literally

15:33

coexisted with everything here

15:37

and you just freed yourself from

15:37

any attachment whatsoever, and

15:42

could just be present with who

15:42

you are?

15:45

Well, Trisha,

15:45

I don't think we've ever done

15:48

this before. But let's go ahead

15:48

and give a challenge to all of

15:51

our listeners. I think everyone

15:51

should spend just next week,

15:55

just take three days, Monday,

15:55

Wednesday, Friday, wherever you

15:57

want. Take 10 minutes, two

15:57

minutes or breathing, eight

16:00

minutes, just turning your brain

16:00

off and just just go into a

16:02

place of meditation. Just seeing

16:02

what happens. You know, it could

16:05

start your day off or intraday

16:05

on a great note. So

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yeah, we appreciate you and anybody who takes that challenge, post your

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comments on how it felt in the

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comments below. All right, in

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closing, again, thank you to

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Chelsea Ward, Chelsea Ward

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Wellness, and her contact

16:25

information will be in the

16:25

comments below if you guys want

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to connect with her and please,

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