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Hello and

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welcome to a another exciting

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episode of Bridge the Gap where

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we're balancing life through

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health, wealth, business and

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relationships.

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Alright, welcome to the show

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everyone. My name is Colton

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Cockerell. And this is kind of a

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weird introduction because I

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have with me my lovely co host

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and our special guest today Miss

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Trisha Stetzel. Trisha, what's going on?

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Hey, Colton. I'm

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really excited about today's

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show. And, you know, we talked

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about doing the intro a little

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bit different, but I think we

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just kind of went with the flow.

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And we're just where we're at,

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right? So yeah, welcome,

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everyone. This month, this month

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shows are going to focus on

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business success for the whole

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month of April. And today, we're

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going to focus on success

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mindset. And better,

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who better?

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Better to talk to you about

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mindset and Trisha Stetzel? I

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mean, business coach, my

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goodness, I am

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super excited.

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Thank you for allowing me to

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come on and talk about success

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mindset. But before we dive in,

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I just want everyone to know

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that today's segment is

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sponsored by Sharer McKinley

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Group, LLC.

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Okay. All

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right now, well, thank you so

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much for not for getting our

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part sponsor there. So let's

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jump in. I know, you know, we don't have a lot of time. So I want to make sure we maximize

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the time that we have. I think

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the first question that I have,

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and a lot of people probably

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have, too is you hear the word

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mindset a lot. Can you explain

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what mindset is? Yeah,

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absolutely. So

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let me give you a picture, I

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want you to think about a

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mountain, right in this big

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mountain, you're standing at the

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bottom of the mountain, and

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you're really looking to get to

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the top of the mountain. And

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what I want you to think about

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is the thoughts that you have,

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or the language that you use. So

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that self talk the language that

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you're using outwardly. And

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inwardly, the way you talk about

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yourself, will actually drive as

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we move up the mountain, your

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feelings and your beliefs. So

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that talk those thoughts will

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drive your feelings and your

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beliefs. And as you climb up the

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mountain, those feelings and

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beliefs are going to drive your

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actions, which will in turn

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drive your results, right. So

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we're really starting at the

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bottom of the mountain, and the

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language that we use outwardly

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and inwardly, moving into the

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way we believe or feel turns

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into our actions and our

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results. So if you're standing

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at the bottom of the mountain,

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and you're using negative

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language, and you're talking to

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yourself negatively, and you're

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hanging around negative people,

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guess what that result is going

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to be when you get to the top of

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mountain

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negativity

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yeah. opposite

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of that. If you're using that

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positive language, that positive

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self talk, you're hanging around

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with the right people, then you

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start to feel and believe that

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positivity, which drives your

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actions and your beliefs. So

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that's really what mindset is

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all about. It all starts

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inwardly and with that language

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that you use with yourself.

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Interesting. So the whole adage about, you know, the 10 people you surround

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yourself with that's, you know,

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that's who you're going to become. That's That's true.

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It's absolutely

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true Colton. So I don't know if

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I've ever talked to you about

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this book. I tell people all the

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time, read the book, who is in

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your room. It was co authored by

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Dr. Ivan Meisner, and it is the

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best book it talks about who you

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allow in your room. And once

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they're in how in the world, do

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you get them out of your room if

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they don't belong there? Because

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we know that the five people you

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spend the most time with you

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become the average of so if

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you're not hanging around with

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people that are smarter, better,

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faster, stronger than you, you

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are absolutely in the wrong room.

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That's that's

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interesting. I guess I was being

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generous with the 10. But no,

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five, I think five people I hang

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out with

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friends. It's okay. Yeah.

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So I think so

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we understand or you've

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explained what the mindset is,

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and hopefully you have some type

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of infographic you can give me

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so I can see the mountain. But

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can you also tell me now, what

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is a success mindset?

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So when we, when

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we think about that success

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mindset, in a in a business

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setting, right, the thing that's

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going to be important for you to

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focus on is having a growth

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mindset versus a fixed mindset,

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meaning you're looking at today,

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here and now. And you think that

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that is the end all be all

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right? If you really believe

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that that is as far as you can

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go or as far as you can get.

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Then it's true. Right? But if

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you have a growth mindset, and

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you believe that you can reach

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that goal, attain that goal,

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create that vision, then you

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will, it's the same, right, we

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talked about that. I'm going to

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go back to the mountain, you're

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standing at the bottom of the

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mountain, and you're telling you

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yourself you can then you will

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If you're telling yourself that

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you can't, then you won't. So

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you've got to have that growth.

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mindset. You also need to adapt

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an abundance mentality versus a

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scarcity mentality. One of the

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things that we talk to our

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clients a lot about is Victor

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victim. As you can imagine the

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victim below the line, a little

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guy with the saggy head, right?

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He has a scarcity mentality,

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meaning he doesn't share. He's

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blaming people all the time.

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He's always negative, right?

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Where you've got positivity

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above the line or that abundance

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mindset, there's plenty to go

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around, you're sharing, you're

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collaborating your mind storming

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with people. And that is such a

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better mindset to be in if you

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really want growth or success in

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your business. Here's a good

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one. What if you just stopped

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fearing failure? Do you feel

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fear? Fear of failure? Most of

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us do? Right? in some fashion?

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Yeah, I mean,

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I guess I guess I in a sense, I

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would mean, I feel like I'm doing a private coaching session. This is great.

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What if we just

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stopped it? What if we just

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stopped fearing failure and

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looked at it instead? As an

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opportunity to learn? Yeah,

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that's interesting, right?

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Creating long term visions

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instead of short term goals is

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where a lot of people get stuck.

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You know, that is another thing

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that that a lot of us may do

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wrong. We're just looking in the

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short term, what can I do in the

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next three to six months? What

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can I do in the next year,

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instead of looking all the way

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out to that vision? I want to

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take a vacation next year, I

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want to get married, I want to

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own a business. I want to own 12

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businesses, I want my business

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to earn $10 million. Right?

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Looking out, that gives us a

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success mindset, because we're

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setting that vision out. By the

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way, what if I told you another

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great success mindset is don't

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be afraid to break the rules.

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Break the rules, so you're gonna have to probably go into that one too, a

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little bit.

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Yeah. And it

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really is about Don't break the

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law. Don't break the law.

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Thanks for the clarification.

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Don't be afraid

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to break the rules, meaning

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changes, okay. Don't just keep

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doing something because it's

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always been done that way. Think

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outside the box is absolutely

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okay to go outside of the norm

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and break the rules, right?

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Carve your own path, blaze your

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own trail. That's really what

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don't be afraid to break the

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rules is about and the last one

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that I'll tell you before I let

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you ask me another question is

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listen to your gut. If your gut

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says, ooh, yeah, don't do that.

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You probably don't want to do

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that. But if your gut says, You

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know what? It's scary. But don't

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be afraid. Listen to your gut,

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and go for it. Right. And if

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you're not surrounding yourself

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with people who support your be

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hag or your big, hairy,

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audacious goal, right, your long

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term vision, that big thing that

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you really want, you're in the

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wrong room, you need to hang

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around with people that support

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your goal, and trust your gut.

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So and that

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said, I mean, again, what what

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you're describing sounds

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incredible. Why aren't more

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people doing it?

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Because it's not

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easy, right? It's not easy. Now

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listen, Colton, you and I are

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both people who live above the

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line. I know this about you,

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right? We're very positive

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people, we can typically put a

8:35

silver lining around just about

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anything. You know, when we,

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when we were talking, we're

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talking before this call. I had

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some things right. I like but

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I'm good. We're just gonna get

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past it. Because I have good

8:50

news too. And I think, number

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one, you really need to find a

8:57

mentor, or an accountability

8:57

partners, somebody who's going

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to help you stretch somebody

9:00

who's going to keep you above

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the line. find challenging new

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situations to put yourself at.

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Think of failure as a learning

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opportunity, as I said before,

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right. So don't be afraid to

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fail. Treated as a learning

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opportunity. Keep a folder of

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all your successes. What if

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every time you started to go

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below the line and you were that

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wha wha wha guy you are able to

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pull out a file of all of the

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amazing things that you did just

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in the last six months, or in

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the last six years, however far

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back you want to go. But would

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that help you pull yourself back

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above the line? Surround

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yourself with bigger, better,

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smarter, faster people because

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they will help you along the way

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and pull you up back up above

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the line. Disconnect from things

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that stress you out. If it

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stresses you out, stop it If the

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person stresses you out, leave

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them. Right. I know that all of

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that sounds really easy. And I

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know it is not. It is not easy.

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But if you start to adapt one

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thing at a time, it gets easier

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down the road, but you got to

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surround yourself with the right

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people. If you're hanging around

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with people that are turkeys,

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you'll never soar like an eagle.

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Right? So go hang around with

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those eagles.

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Yeah, no

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turkeys. So and and just just

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for our listeners, cuz I know we've talked about this a lot. But can you just explain the

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line that you're referring to?

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The above the

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line and below the line? Yeah,

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absolutely. So it goes back to

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my vector victim that I

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described right when I talk

10:40

about. So I love to all of my

10:45

friends know what above and

10:45

below the line me because we

10:48

know right everyone smile, we go

10:48

below the line. So that below

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the line, meaning that you're

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really taking on that victim

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mentality, you're negative,

10:56

you're blaming you, no matter

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what you do, it's all wrong.

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You're talking to yourself in a

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negative way. Right? So that is

11:05

below the line. And I'm not

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saying that we don't go there

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because we absolutely do. And

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it's that mentality of scarcity

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as well. Right? I hold things

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close to the vest, because I'm

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afraid somebody's gonna steal my

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ideas, whatever that looks like.

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And then above the line is your

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your Victor. And that is your

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positive silver lining person,

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they probably drive you insane,

11:26

because you think they're there

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all the time, right? Is there a

11:28

positive and they live in a

11:33

world of abundance, and they

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share and they collaborate. And

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that's really what I mean, when

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I'm talking about above the

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line. And below the line is,

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when you're below the line, be

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aware of it and pull yourself

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back to the top and create that

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positive space that success

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mindset.

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And so let me ask because I think and I want to hit on this still, because I

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think this is so important,

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especially for, you know,

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business owners, what besides

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the, you know, keeping a folder

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of you know, your successes,

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what are other ways that you can

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get your mindset, right back out

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of the view below the line

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mentality?

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I really believe

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that if you take inventory, and

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you look internal, right, you're

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looking intrinsically to

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yourself, What are the words

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that you're saying to yourself,

12:26

because I'm good. And I'll go

12:26

back to, which is why we talked

12:29

about the law of self control at

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the beginning, right? This

12:32

amount. If you're talking

12:32

negatively to yourself, if you

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believe negative things, and

12:37

everything that comes out the

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other end is going to be

12:40

negative. So all I'm asking

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people to do is shift one thing.

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And if you say to yourself

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today, here's an example. I am

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not a morning person, I don't

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like mornings, I'm terrible. In

12:52

the morning, I don't like to get

12:54

up in the morning, if you tell

12:54

yourself that consistently, you

12:58

will believe it, you will take

12:58

action or none. And the result

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will be you don't get up in the

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morning, right. But if you just

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take one small shift, and sleep

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is just one of those things,

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right? It could be coffee or

13:11

tea, I don't know, whatever,

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whatever the thing is, right? If

13:14

you tell yourself today, maybe

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I'm almost a morning person, or

13:20

I could be a morning person

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three days a week. Try it and

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see what happens. Right? I'm

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gonna be a morning person on

13:32

Thursdays. When you tell

13:37

yourself that you start to

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believe it, you feel it, you

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take action on it, and it

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becomes a result for you. It all

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starts with the language. Its

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intrinsic, right? The

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constraints that we have with

13:47

anything, when we talk about

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change the constraints 80% of

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the time is something between

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your ears, it's your mindset 80%

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of the time you're getting in

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your own way. So get out of your

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way and make that 1% change. And

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you could be actually a morning

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person. How about that? Yeah. So

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you put your you play golf,

14:07

right, pull it off. So if you

14:12

hired a Swing Coach, and they

14:12

came out and checked out your

14:15

swing, and they made an

14:15

adjustment, it would be a very

14:17

small adjustment, I assume,

14:17

right? Move your thumb or your

14:21

wrist or your hip or your ankle,

14:21

right one way or another. How

14:25

much of a difference does that

14:25

1% that tiny little shift in

14:30

your swing make when you drive

14:30

the ball?

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Oh, it's pretty significant. And Another great

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tidbit by Trisha Stetzel, and I

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it's huge,

14:35

right? It's the same thing when

14:38

we talk about success mindset,

14:38

tiny little shifts, right? Don't

14:42

try to turn your whole day

14:42

upside down and say, Trisha said

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I need to be a morning person.

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I'm gonna get up at 530 every

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morning and work at No, stop it

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right, baby steps. It's all

14:55

about creating that 1% shift

14:55

that's going to run result in

14:59

something really big, right? How

14:59

much work could you do if you

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think you're really kind of

15:00

hovering into I feel like habit

15:04

actually decided you are a

15:04

morning person on Thursday? Huge.

15:13

forming territory, because

15:13

that's kind of what that sounds

15:15

like with the mind with as

15:15

you're continuing this success

15:19

mindset, you're having to form

15:19

new successful habits. And so

15:23

real quick, we've got about 30

15:23

seconds, tell me, what is the

15:26

best way to form a habit?

15:29

Best way to form

15:29

a habit? Well, number one, you

15:33

just kind of start practicing it

15:33

right. So you have to decide. So

15:36

that's the very first thing so

15:36

decide and start practicing it.

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And you need to do it for at

15:40

least a minimum of 21 days. 21

15:45

days is what's going to help you

15:45

create that habit. It also takes

15:49

that long to get rid of a bad one.

15:51

Trisha, thank

15:51

you so much for being on my

15:53

podcast just kidding. Being on

15:53

our podcast. It was great having

15:57

you and again hearing insight

15:57

from one of our own. I'd love

16:01

for you to come back. Do you

16:01

mind coming back next week and

16:04

hosting you

16:05

know what I would love to come back next week Colton. Thank you for

16:07

inviting me.

16:10

Well, just as

16:10

a reminder, Trisha's information

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will be in the description lane

16:13

of the podcast again, great

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mind, and a great friend as

16:16

well. always love hearing from

16:20

her. Thank you all for tuning in

16:20

to this week's podcast. We're

16:23

excited to hear more next week

16:23

as we continue through the

16:27

business success trilogy plus

16:27

one. And we're gonna be talking

16:30

to Coach Shawn next week, and

16:30

we're really looking forward to

16:34

it. So thanks again and have a

16:34

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