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Second dating. I

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think there's a time in everyone's life. Usually

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it's somewhere in your twenties where you're

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having a good time, you're care free,

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the possibilities are endless,

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and then all of a sudden, it

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happens your best

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friend gets engaged. Oh

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wait a second, the party's

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about to be over. Yeah, oh crap,

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I gotta find somebody. It's like dating musical

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chairs now, and if you don't move quickly,

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you're going to be left with just a spot on the floor.

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That type of anxiety saying

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you got to move fast. And that's kind of where

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one of our listeners, Mary Anne, found

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herself a few months back, and she

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said it changed the way that she thought

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about dating man. So, mary

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Anne, welcome to the show. Hey

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yeah, Mary yea, mary

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Anne, tell us about your dating life. What's going on. You

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know, it's been fine and normal and good.

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I've been trying though, to meet a

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guy for a while, right, okay,

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And your requirements are different

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now is kind of what Jeff is alluding

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to. You're looking for something more. Yeah,

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yeah, I'm looking for my

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soulmate now. Pressure. I

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mean, it was like, gosh, I guess the phase

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of life is here. It's like made this alarm go

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off inside me, you know, like what have I been doing?

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You know? Just turn around? And I

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can't be eagle by myself when everybody else

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is getting married. Don't feel peer pressure.

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I founding into peer pressure is a good thing always.

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So it is, okay, how

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have you tried to pursue a soulmate?

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Now? What strategy are you using? Most

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recently, I did speed dating

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whole school in person, like at a bar

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or something. Yeah. Yeah, well so

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this one was interesting because it was lego

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speed dating. Actually what

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does that mean? So what

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you do if you meet and there's like a place

2:02

with a bunch of tables and then there are lego

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pieces on each table and

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they start that timer and you sit down and

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then the person across from you. You guys

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are talking, but you create

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something from the lego while

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you are talking.

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You don't have to have like uncomfortable eye contacts.

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Like there's something else to do, like a big

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fidget table. Okay, I

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made an airplane crashing,

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But it sounds like you're supposed to build something together,

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Like it's like you're teaming up

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to make something of that. Okay, that's that's

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like a metaphor for your relationship, right,

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also kind of an innuendo there how

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the pieces fit together. I don't know if nobody

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would think, but it's

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good to know how many people

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are fighting like, no, we need this piece.

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Well, then you know you're not a good match. So

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how did it go with the lego building? I

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thought it went fantastic, Say, really,

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did you meet someone? Well? When

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I sat down across from Steve,

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we decided that we would

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build Harry Potter's wand

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yeah,

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was it just like one giant stack of

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leg a

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circular? Oh? Okay, wands

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come in many shapes and sizes. Are all kinds

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of wands. It's not just one long stick. So basically

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he's like a dorky Harry Potter head like you

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are, which is also another common interest. It

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sounds like we were like,

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oh, we totally speak the same language, we

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have the same interests here. It

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was going better than I ever could have hoped. And then I

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was like, okay, we have thirty

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seconds left. They let you know when your time is rubbing,

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and I was like, what spell should we cast?

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That was totally just being ridiculous, and well,

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I'm going to cast a love spell. On you to put

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your number in my phone so we can go on a real

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date. Answer.

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I think so, And

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they sat down to a big pile of brown legos.

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It sounds like, yeah, it was smart

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and clever and cute, right, and it was

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like playing along and and so we

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did. A week later, we went out and we

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just went to a ping pong bar and pooped around

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and played ping pong and drank and hissed.

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And it was his Oh whoa.

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I mean literally it was perfect.

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I felt like I had this strong connection

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with him and we were we were talking about the

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future and our brains

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and mind. Well that's what happens when you get a love spell

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cast on you. Yeah, maybe the

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spell wear off. That's why,

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dude. That's crazy though. It's like you put

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out into the universe that you wanted to meet your soulmate,

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and it felt like this universe was kind of delivering.

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Yeah. Like, I mean, here's the deal. I've been on a lot

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of dates, okay, and I have met

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a wide variety of people, but

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I honestly feel like Steve might

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be my soulmate. WHOA, wow,

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after one date, I'm

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not lego building now, that's true.

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They warn you about that. When you build legos to you,

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why would you not be calling you back? I

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have no idea. It just felt like everything

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quicked so well and we were laughing

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and the chemistry was good, and I'm not really

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sure what happened. There's no red flags

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at all, but that's kind of a red flag

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in itself. The flag, Yeah,

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that might be what it is. In fact, if I was

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doing speed dating with the legos, I

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would build a red flag. Actually,

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just the yeah that you are walking

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up exact date

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at your own risk. But we're gonna call Steve

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here and we're going to ask him if he sees

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you two as soulmates the same way that you guys

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do. Can we say that for like a second

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question, Maybe

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we'll ask, and then

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we'll ask if we're

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going to do it with your second next

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second, Brook,

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do you remember the exact moment

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you first fell in love with your husband?

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Hush? I remember the first time I saw him, for

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sure, But we just fell in love. I

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mean, it takes time, and I don't think it happens

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in one My

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husband can tell you the exact moment he

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knew that he loved me for

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him? Oh no, yeah, we were on top of

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a volcano. What true

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story, true story,

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flare. We were very

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well prepared. We had just gone and thought we were going

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hiking and oh my god, goodness, Okay,

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he was having a heat stroke. It

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was very cold. Actually, just

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saying that special moment looks different for everyone.

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And for mary Anne, our listener, at

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moment happened when her speed dates Steve

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picked up some legos and built

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her a Harry Potter wand and cast

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a love spell. That's really cute.

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But after they went out to a bar, love spell

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seems to have worn off a little bit, so we're gonna try

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and reactivate it here with the second date update.

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How long ago was it that you saw him? Steve?

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It's been a week since I've heard of him from

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him, and and just nothing. He hasn't texted

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you back at all. No, he just disappeared.

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That wouldn't have happened if your date was on a volcano.

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Maybe he was actually Cinderella turned

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into a pumpkin. Oh, Harry Potter,

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he has the invisibility cloak on is

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there a shoe involved? Okay, all this talk

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of magic and eruptions and volcanoes,

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we gotta just call Steve before it gets too steamy

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in here? Are you ready? Maryanne? I am

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all right, let's do this. I'm Donard's number right now.

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Hey, Hello, Hey, is it Steve? Yees

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seeking? Who's hey Steve. It's

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your lucky day. You're on the radio right now with Brooke and Jeffrey

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in the morning. Hey,

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I see Okay, okay,

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okay, all right, you got a second right now? Um?

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Yeah, well, yeah, what's up.

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We're calling because we got your number

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from one of our listeners named Mary Anne. Oh,

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okay, okay, okay. She's

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a woman that you met at speed dating and went

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out with once. Yeah.

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Wow, okay,

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So she asked you to call me. Yeah. Yeah.

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Are you surprised by that? Uh?

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No, I guess I'm not surprised by that. I'm

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surprised it's happening. I'm not surprised that

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she would do that. I guess. Well, you don't have to sound

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nervous. It's supposed to be a good thing. It means that

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she had a really good time with you. It did

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a great time with you. Yes, I

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gathered that. Yeah you did well,

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that's good. Did you have a good time? Honestly?

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I did? Um, she was very

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fun to talk to. It

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just started getting a little weird

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towards the end. Um,

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it sounds like you're choosing your words like super

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carefully. Well,

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well, I don't. I don't dislike um.

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It's just a little

9:08

too unusual for for

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me. Okay, actual is this before

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or after you kissed her? Because we heard there was kissing

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involved at the bar Um.

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I would say it definitely got the weirdness

9:21

spike after that. Why is

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it Sai? Then she said what so

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she was pretty openly talking

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about the idea of soulmate?

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Uh huh? Was that she said

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that to you? Yeah,

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but she was just talking about it as like a big

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idea, right, like not your my

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soulmate. She opened it like that,

9:44

and then she was like, you know, I think you might be

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one of my homemates. Whoa

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wait and then one of isn't there only one soulmate?

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Now you can have Mark. Yeah, that's

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the point. It's not soul mate, it's soul mate. That's

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That's exactly what I said. And

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she it is like, yeah, welly, everyone has three

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soulmates three three. I

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didn't know that, Brook. This is good news for you and

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your marriage. No, I

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can see that though it's like your best friend, your

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sister. No, you want to bring your sister.

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It isn't a sexual thing. Soul is

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just someone who you're like connected

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with in this beyond any

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other relationship type of ways.

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Yeah, exactly. I mean that's that's kind

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of how we are understanding it. But

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Steve, how were you understanding

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what mary Anne was telling you? Oh?

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I mean what you guys are talking about sounds great, that

10:37

sounds very reasonable. Um, that

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is not what I was presented with. Um

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to her, it's like a thing where

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you have a past soulmate, a

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present soulmate, and a future soulmate

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and these are all romantic. You have

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three. God, you got to find three of

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them in your life that you want to want to make

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it out with a

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friend. But

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I don't get it. Yeah, just

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a little too absurd to me, this idea of

11:06

like boy friends of past, present

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and future. Hy Hey,

11:11

I have something to say,

11:14

Hey, Steve, Sorry, that that's mary

11:16

Anne. She's she's been listening on the other line and

11:19

clearly wants to talk to you. Usually wait

11:21

till we call him ghost a Christmas past. Yeah,

11:25

oh wow, Um, were

11:27

you going to tell me that? I think

11:29

I just did. Okay,

11:32

okay, okay, yes, Hi

11:34

mary Anne, Marianne something to say. Hi,

11:37

Hi, Steve. You

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sound really confused, and I feel like maybe I just

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didn't do a very good job of explaining

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it, you know, because it's like this

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for everyone. It's just the rule of the universe.

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Right, So you have three soulmates.

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You have a past soulmate and a

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present soulmate and a future soulmate.

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Those was a three fine in

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your life? Right, Which

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soulmate and which soulmate is Steve number?

12:03

Okay? Right? So he I'm pretty

12:05

sure if my presence soulmatee

12:07

right, my past my high school boyfriend

12:10

that was my past soulmate, Steve,

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I really think has a possibility to be my

12:16

present soulmate. Yeah, but that kind

12:19

of indicates to him that he's gonna get dumped

12:21

for another dude along. It's

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better to have, you know, a small part of Maryanne

12:26

than none at all.

12:29

I would agree with that, sure, but

12:31

look like it's not me, Like I'm not making

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this up right, This is like a law of the

12:35

universe. Okay, Steve, how does

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that make you feel, figuring that you could

12:40

possibly be her present soulmate?

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Well, if I if I'm the present soulmate, and

12:44

then suddenly there's a future soulmate, then with

12:47

that future soulmate, then that's your present

12:49

soulmate, and then I'm your past soulmate. So

12:51

the whole system falls apart really fast.

12:54

Yeah, it should be on a numbering system

12:58

rather that deep and just be like

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a date. Yeah, Like, I've

13:03

already had my first soul mate, I

13:05

can't have another, and I'm fairly

13:08

certain, like it really feels like

13:10

you will be the second. And then if

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you're lucky, right, Like, if every pos

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well, then I wouldn't even

13:17

find my future soulmate until after

13:19

you are dead. Oh

13:25

okay, let's let's get on

13:27

that. The most

13:29

romantic sentence that's ever been up about this show.

13:33

I mean, wouldn't you want me to find somebody

13:35

after you die? What are

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you talking about? We're not even together

13:40

yet. What are you talking about meeting someone after

13:42

I die? That's a good point.

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You aren't together yet until we send

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you out, and

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we'll pay for you, guys, to make it official

13:53

as present soulmates to each other. We'll

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pay for it. Maybe soulmate is

13:57

a little bit stronger, we'll send you out on another date

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better, and then you can figure out if the soulmate

14:03

thing is real or Now ate I

14:05

like that? I mean, given that you

14:07

did have a good time with her. She's got some cookie

14:10

ideas, but she likes

14:12

you. You guys had a great time. See. No,

14:14

it is not cookie. It is the rule

14:17

of three soulmates. Everybody

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follows this. Okay,

14:22

okay, wow? Did that convince you to go out with

14:24

her this time? Steve? No, I'm

14:27

sorry. I don't want to find out

14:29

what other rules of life there are

14:31

that I didn't know about. I

14:34

will say it does explain the divorce, right, People

14:38

are just go into their future soulmates. Yes,

14:40

that's what's happening. Wait a seconds,

14:43

wait, Steve, since you said no to the date,

14:45

does that now make mary Anne your past

14:47

soulmate or so that means

14:50

you only have two more to go till you find

14:52

your forever lady. And does it mean that Maryanne

14:54

only gets one or maybe?

14:58

Yeah? Well, when you started talking

15:00

about this, you know, more and more information

15:03

sort of came to me, and the energy

15:05

was just not what I thought it was, and I just canceled

15:07

you in my mind. So it's unsubscribed

15:13

from the soulmates this guylmate.

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I kind of like these universe rules

15:20

Broke and Jeffrey in the morning. You know, it's

15:22

funny that girl mentioned that she had a past

15:24

present in future soulmate somewhere

15:27

in the world. If I got some funny in

15:29

it, Well, yeah, sure, it's just funny because I remember

15:31

when we did a live broadcast from Vegas and I

15:33

walked into one of the hotel rooms and I met all

15:35

three of Jose's soulmates. Yeah,

15:40

remember that their names? Remember

15:44

their names? I doubt Yeah.

15:46

I mean it just goes to show that everybody's got

15:48

a little bit of a different take on what love means.

15:51

Love is, yeah, and how much you have to pay love

15:53

that three

15:56

for one deal on the street. Okay, but you

15:59

know your soul mate might be different

16:01

than you're forever person, who might be different

16:03

than the one who might be different

16:05

than the love of your life. Oh man, I haven't

16:08

any of them. It's not the same. Those are

16:10

all different. Oh my god. Love is

16:12

hard, and we're here to help you with that hard

16:14

love. I think we should go with that.

16:17

I said it was help me in Vegas.

16:19

I know that

16:23

dating can be difficult, and if you want to get

16:25

a little help. Email the show, we'll call the person who wasn't

16:27

calling you back. You could check out all the second Ey podcasts

16:30

up online at Brooke and Jeffrey dot com, Brooke

16:32

and Jeffrey in the Morning,