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Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of
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iHeartRadio and the Black Effects. Hey,
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y'all, what's going on? Welcome back to yet another
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Can'tfully Reckless episode with your girl just hilarious
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and here with me is sheen. I wain't up
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before you step out and take a piss, say what's
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up?
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What's up? And I don't have to piss? Thank you?
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Oh my Ben, you gotta take a shit, all right,
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So we're gonna jump straight into it. We got another voice
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memo today, Drumroe, please leave
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another voice memo. It's not that long,
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however, it should be good. Now listen
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when y'all hear these stories, I'm just
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now hearing them too. Now, when
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it's a paragraph and it's written or you
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know, typed, I will skim through it before
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I do read it. But I'll be wanting to get my album.
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I'll be wanting y'all to listen to my first reaction,
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you know, because it's the first reaction is always
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like the truest. I don't
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be reading these stories, and I don't pick them
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based on how good they are. I just pick them,
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that's it. And then I hear them when i'm
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reading them to y'all. So here we
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are, y'all voice memo.
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It's just christ Off. I want to
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say I'm a big fan.
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Of you, been a fan since
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you was doing videos in your living room
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with edges. But you
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grow up.
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Yeah, motherfucker. I never did videos in
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my fucking living room. You
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you did, I definitely did. But so what But
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I talked about my head edges back
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then.
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No you did, d I didn't. All
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right, It's all right, all right, you right,
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I'm here for it. I'm definitely happy
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for all your success.
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Thank you.
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I wish and pray more for you than all
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your heart hand can hold.
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So I just want to say you know that I love
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you, seceily and and honestly.
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But I'm reaching out because I need you to fix my mess.
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Yeah, now you need me for something that you just
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came at my poor ass living room and my no edges
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having ass back in the day. But go
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ahead, But I'm gonna go ahead and fix your mask because
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that they will. They will break it down
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and build you up, won't it. All Right, here we go.
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I've been dating this girl.
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I wasn't dating this girl for a few months,
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and everything was beautiful, lovely.
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The DOPA means that you're fulfilling.
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Everything was on the same frequency
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vibing, and in the blake of an idol
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came crashing down. Very
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transparent, an honest person,
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and I'm quite direct.
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So I was up front of all my.
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Flaws and my baggage,
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and I also, uh, you
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know, let let it be known what my goals are.
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I'm very I have a vision, I have a program.
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I never lied about who I was, who
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I am, you know, and things of that
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sort. So one of the flaws that
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I informed her about, when it began to show
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itself, she backed
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out.
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I mean, she pulled the road from up under.
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My feet and
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it just all came crashing down. And
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she basically he told me that she
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can't give me what I need, even
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though the things that she that I needed
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I informed her in the beginning. So
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I'm asking if I'm crazy
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for waiting for her.
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And wanting to.
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Take time for myself and her takes
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time for herself and wait
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for.
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Her to become what I need. A
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part of me feels like that I
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was. I was, genuinely, I ain't gonna.
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Say a part the whole part of me
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was genuinely and sincerely
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in love with her, and
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I do see her a wife in her
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I wanted her to be my wife. We went as far
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as getting almost getting married,
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and like I said, it all can't crash
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you down. For her reasons and
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her pulling away. You
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feel what I'm saying. I play a role in that I'm not saying,
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and it's.
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All her doing.
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Kind of the reason she pulled away was
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due to the things that I had already informed
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her about. I am my room
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for wanting to wait around
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and continue to pour into myself, grow
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and evolve in all aspects
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and wait for her to basically spin
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a.
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Block on me. And I
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know that. You know I'm
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a traditional person.
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You feel what I'm saying like I'm a traditional
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woman, you know. And I
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believe in love and I love love. And
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when I know what I want, you feel
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me. I'm thirty one years old, I'll be thirty two
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and Desummer shout out to my set of service.
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Oh so I'm you
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know, I know what I want and she is that.
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So should I just move on and
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just let her come
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to me? Because I'm also a hunter. I go
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after what I want and I'm not used to things
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coming after me or things
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coming to me.
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You know, I go after what I want.
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So should I just move on and
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let her go and just
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just put myself back out there with someone else? Or
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am I crazy for waiting around
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or waiting for her to be what
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I need her to.
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Be for me because she is what I want?
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Okay? Yeah? I feel you
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even sound like this is heavy for you, Like
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this is heavy on you and like
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you're really really trying to figure it out.
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It definitely seems like it's
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a lot there. I want to know what
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you're speaking of when you say she knew
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what I was, she knew
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you know who I was? I you know, because it seems
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as if you were one with her. You
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seem like you're straightforward, you're blunting.
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You also communicated that to mean you're open
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with everything, completely transparent and
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all aspects of this relationship, and
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it seems like with what
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was once agreed upon, something
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changed. She's second
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thought, you know, second having second thoughts
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and regretting, you know, second guess
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and what's you know, what's going on?
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Yeah, what you thought was salid? Yeah? I
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want to know, you know, and let
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me know exactly what that is if
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you're okay with that? What
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were you or what you
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know? What are you?
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Or what you know?
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What I'm saying and I'm just repeating
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it back to you how you you know, presented
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it to me. You
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do know, things can change
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in relationships. Things may
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be overwhelming, whatever it is, whatever your past
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is or whatever, you know, whether you want to run,
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you're a fucking fellon a strip of
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something, you know, a porn star, whatever
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it may be.
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We gotta that's that's the thing we need to know
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to know, you know, we need
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to know what it is that she was
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accepting of.
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Yeah, because things change, Yeah.
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But do you feel like it's somebody
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else? Or yeah?
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Did you ever think of that? That's
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actually a good question. My best friend, you know,
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she I wouldn't even wouldn't
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have even thought of that because I'm I'm trying
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to piece together. I feel like we're talking to Kole's
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boo. But yeah, or
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you just probably you know, may not
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be comfortable enough to share that part
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of it. But I can't really advise
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you on whether to stay or goal
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or to try to fix it or whatever.
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The most I can say is, you know, if a person
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is saying they don't want
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to be there.
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Say she ain't say that she
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she didn't want to be there. I guess that she's having
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second thoughts, like is communication?
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Well, I was just communicated, Like what are we doing? You
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know? What's because like, are we're
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moving forward? All right? Work on it?
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Like what's what's the deal? Can it be safe
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because it's no sitting around. We're not We're
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not sitting around waiting for anybody. We're
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moving on and if that person comes around
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before we end up with someone
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else, then okay, cool. But I
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mean it's basically let's talk
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about it because I'm not gonna sit here and
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wait for you.
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Yeah, I'm not. I'm going to live my life.
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But I think you should heal.
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I think she really needs to heal from
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whatever it is that they have or have if
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this person isn't showing them that they
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want to progress more.
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Yeah, and you're talking about
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marrying her, like you want this to be your wife.
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This is somebody, this is a life partner in your
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eyes.
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So y'all need to really be having that conversation.
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Yeah, because it just doesn't seem like you were on the right
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page. If you're telling me I'm on the same page.
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I'm sorry, it doesn't seem like you are on the same Shut
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the hell up, damn, it
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don't seem like you two are on
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the same page. You know. If you're you're expressing
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these these feelings to
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me for this woman, that's
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the communication thing. Y'a gotta sit down and I need
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to talk about that, and y'all need to do it quickly, you
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know, because time. Yeah,
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we only got time, but we don't have time
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either, you know. And we shouldn't take time
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for granted, so many other
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things that you guys could be doing together or
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a part if that is what
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your heart desires, you know what I'm
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saying, So get on the same page. Put some more
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meat on his bone if you're comfortable
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with doing so. Because
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I can't fix your mess if you're only give me a little
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bit of it, you know what I mean, If you really
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really, I can, but I would rather
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be able to help you and the
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entirety of what's going on. You know what I'm saying,
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So just update me, reach back out, let
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me know. And also
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this is important for people to know as well. When I'm
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helping you guys, or I'm fixing
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your mess, you can write me and tell
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me that you don't want this story
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to air. If you really just really
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need advice, you can
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do that as well, and say I don't want this
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on the podcast because I.
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Have a lot of serious stories that I
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feel like.
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You know, some people wouldn't
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even want exposed on
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a social platform. You know, their
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voices are being heard, and I always joke
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about it, but you know it's truth in every
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joke. A lot of people don't want their voices being heard because
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people know their voices, you know, And a lot
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of people listen to Carefully Reckless every
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Wednesday, so you
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can always, you know, say
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Jess, this is just from me to you. If
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you can find it in your heart to lend
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me some advice you know what I'm saying, without
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putting it, without making it a part of
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your platforms per podcasts,
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then I greatly appreciate that. And depending
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on the severity of it, yes, I will help you
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if I do have time. So I'm for
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sure if you love me, you'll listen
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to this commercial and then we'll be right back.
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We're moving on now. This is
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not a voicemail, though this is a
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long ass too paragraphs, but I
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see a little bit of punctuation marks in
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there, so we should be fine.
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All right, Hey.
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Jess, First off, I want to say that I'm
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a huge fan for a long time, since the Facebook
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DS. Okay, day one, what's going on? I'm
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reaching out because I need you to fix my mess. I'm
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twenty five years old. I just finished
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my career. You finished your career,
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Okay at twenty five? All
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right. I'm happily married and I
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have a wonderful husband.
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I know.
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That's why congratulation ons. We have been
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together for nine years, married for five. This
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man is now. Okay, so you've been with this niggas since
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you was I mean, you've been with this man since she was
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sixteen.
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That's amazing.
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This man is not only a partner, but a provider as
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well. He takes care of me and of everything
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that needs to be taken care of. Oh, that's why
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you ended your career regarding
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finances, Yes, he takes care of everything. Now.
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Emotionally, I do think our relationship
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has shifted a little bit to where I
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think we're both kind of comfortable. Hm.
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That's never good. I
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could say our relationship is very mature.
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I don't want to say that I'm bored, but it
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kind of seems like a routine that we've
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been doing for so long. I
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don't know why. Lately I've been wanting to feel
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an excitement of dating. What
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I just seems kind of boring now, say
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this is why y'all need to send in these voice notes
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the help, all right, I think she's
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trying to say it just seems kind of boring now,
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But I just found out that I'm nine weeks pregnant. Okay,
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congratulations, and he's over the
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moon.
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I know he's happy.
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He is planning the baby shower already
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and looking for names. I see the happiness
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enjoyed that this news has brought him. I
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would say that it's brought us closer to
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talk more about the future with the baby. This
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would be our first kid. Congrats.
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My issue is that I don't feel excited. Oh,
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I have so many emotions, and it makes me feel guilty
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that I don't feel as happy as he does. I
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am terrified to carry a baby because it
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is such a big responsibility. I
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thought that I would feel differently being pregnant,
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but now I just feel like my life and freedom
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is over. I feel like I can't
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even act the same anymore because
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I'm gonna be someone's mother and
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I need to be more mature. I don't know, I
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have some moments where I do feel happy and
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excited that I'm able to experience
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this. I just need your point of view
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help me. I'm a first time all
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well, first of all, to be able to say that is a
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blessing in itself, being as though, you know, we
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have a lot of women out here who can't conceive,
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who want babies, and there they would give their
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right panky for a baby. You know, they
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would give, you know, almost
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close to their life to be able to produce
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life.
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You know.
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So I'm gonna say congratulations, and then
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just for some people, it's not easy.
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I know it's not easy. It's
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not easy getting pregnant for some
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others. But I am
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very very happy for you. I
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do not want you to be
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so hard on yourself. Oh this is this is natural
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for a lot of first time moms, no matter the age,
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no matter you know, whether you're young or older,
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it's it's it could be very scary. You're
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blessed to have a cope
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who actually is excited though, because
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imagine being someone who
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has to do it on their own, you know what I mean. Although
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he can't carry the baby for you, he
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can make it a lot easier. You don't
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have to do it alone. I
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hate to ask you, why are you going to keep it? Because I
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imagine that you are. I
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would love you too again, but it's not my body
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and it's not your husband's body.
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So how do you feel?
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Overall? Are you religious at all? Do
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you pray about things? That's
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it's eleven to eleven? Hey? Speaking
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of uh, you know Brandon
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stuff. Are you
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religious at all?
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You know?
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Do you pray? Do you
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meditate? Do you you know? Do
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you have a therapist? Is there someone that you feel
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that you could talk to you other than your husband that will
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help you feel better about
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being a mom, because that's important
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as well.
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You know, there was no
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room issues.
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Then yeah, she's just the first time
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mim' she's scared. Oh let's go back, little boy,
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she's bored.
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Hold up, hold up, I know this shit getting good, but
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listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial.
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If you love me, you'll listen. Okay,
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So let's go back before we get to mommy world.
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Okay, you new mommy world, first
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time mommy world. Let's say that. I'm so
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excited for you, girl. I
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am just happy to hear this.
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However, prior to finding
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out that you're nine weeks pregnant,
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you were getting bored in your
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marriage. And you've been married for five years,
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you've been with him for almost a decade,
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and you're twenty five. Answering me this,
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Do you feel like you got married to it or too early
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and it's nothing else? Being honest about
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it with me, or being honest about
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it in general. You know, sometimes as women, we keep
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things bottled up, and that's how we
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depress ourselves. We stress ourselves out,
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we lose weight, you start losing
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confidence, you know, and just being in
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our own heads. It's better to talk. It's
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better to communicate, you know. I
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don't care if you have a diary, don't hold it in. Do
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you feel like you got married
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too early? Is this something that you and your husband
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talked about? Does he feel
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the same way. Have you expressed to him
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that you feel bored? That
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you felt bored? Does he feel
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like I said, does he feel the same way?
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Did you have your eye on someone else before
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you were you know, before you discovered
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you were pregnant, because you did say that you
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felt the urge to date, to
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want to date.
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So I wonder if she was talking about them dating
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or her dating outside of them.
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Like like them being open no
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no, no, or just them going on dates more
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because with each other. Yes,
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yes, because she did say
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it was routine right right?
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Yeah? Is that things?
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You know?
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Definitely try a new thing, bucket lists.
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Yeah, it's time to have fun, trap all
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that. Yeah, and you said he is
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financially in doubt. You know, he takes
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care of everything that needs
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to be taken care of, so you guys should travel
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more. I mean, is that something that any guys are in.
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It's crazy because she's pregnant now, so it's like,
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yeah.
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But she look at sexy
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red doing whole performances,
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being that ass, so shake that
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ass, how knees on the.
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Flow, So you call it her sexy free?
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No, I'm not, but no
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means am I not more like
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sexy? No? I said she said,
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you said, now she's pregnant, like they
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can't.
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Treat it's not stopping sexy.
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It ain't stopping sexy. She
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out barefoot just as
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pregnant, her
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gene thongs on on the
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red wig and just doing our things, just
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she has gene thongs, yes, because they
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big.
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Yeah. Yeah, so don't
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put on your gene thongs.
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Go ahead and go out and have a good time before you
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your feat swelling.
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Yes, girl, I uh,
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it's just community. Yeah,
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but I think you should tell me answer all those
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questions and ask all those questions.
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You can revisit.
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Yeah, my point of view is just basking.
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This ambience sounds like this excitement.
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Yeah, it sounds like a really good
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uh.
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Good relations It sounds like a great marriage.
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I know every marriage has its ups and its downs.
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No marriage is perfect, no, and we've seen that
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thanks to Will and Jade. But yes
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we as you know, y'all
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be good. Yeah, and y'all still young.
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I don't know how old. Yeah, your husband
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is, but if he is your age,
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you know, y'all, y'all
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still got a lot more life to live even after
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that. Baby, girl, babies, I'm not gonna
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sit here and tell you that they don't slow your
18:52
life down. But they don't stop your life, that's
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right. And you already finished your career. So
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what what you got to do?
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And baby, I don't have none?
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So yeah, every
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night, yeah, that night,
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yeah, baby, look outside
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every night in
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the alley. Yeah, okay,
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living in the damn alley.
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You don't want to be like that. Oh my god,
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the soud a damn name. All right, never
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mind that that, And just like that, we've
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come to the end of this episode. Her
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name I did not say. I said Sashika.
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Okay, all right, so yeah,
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damn.
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So what's that being said?
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What's that being said?
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Y'all?
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Make sure that y'all sending voice
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notes. And again, like
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I said, if there are any stories
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that you do not want exposed
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on such a huge platform, like carefully
19:45
Reckless, which is a part of iHeart, and
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you know it's promoted on bigger platforms,
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you can definitely just let me know,
19:52
say, Jazz, Hey, uh, my story
19:55
is a little too specific and it's a little
19:57
too much going on for it to be plastered all
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over the N that and all over other
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socials, you know what I'm saying. So I
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was like, if you can fix my messages between
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us, and then yeah, boom, and we can do it
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just like that, if I can get to it,
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guys, because I am busy as well in
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life, be life and for everybody, not just
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y'all. So in my deepest
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pan voice, me and Shana will be out. Yes,
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my son is like a little bird. All right, we're
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gonna do it again.
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All right, There we go, There we go, There we go.
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