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Hello Cheeky's. I just want to say that I'm

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such a big fan. I absolutely love

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your music, covered all your books. You're

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someone that I look up to and that I love

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so much, And I'm just wondering, I've

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draw that you've been through. How

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do you keep your faith?

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You know?

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I know that you always say kund I'm

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currently going through a really hard time and I'm

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having a difficult

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time as well learning

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how to trust him, especially in

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the season that I am currently in between.

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I'm torn between decisions,

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between my thoughts, between my heart

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between my mind, and it's

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so overwhelming. I've been seeking

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him, I've been reading, I've

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been listening to servants, listening

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to worship songs. But

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man, it's hard to trust

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the process. And I'm just wondering how

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you do that, you know, how

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do you overcome all of those

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barriers and keep having faith despite

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all the trauma that you've been through. Thank

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you so.

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Much, Kisha.

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First of all, I'm sending you a big, big,

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big tight hug. I

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know I know what it is to be sad.

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I hear it in your voice. I don't know what you're

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going through, but I'm praying that you

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make the right decision and that God's will

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is done. And when I say that, sometimes

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when I say let go and let God, it's

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it's part of that. It's like, sometimes we want

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a certain something to be done.

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But God's will.

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If we ask for God's will to be done, then sometimes

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even if what we want really

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bad and we want it to be that, but it's not, it's

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because God is protecting us from something.

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I always say this too, rejection is God's protection.

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I think what's helped me, And let me tell

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you, it's not easy. It's not easy because there

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are times in my life where I have questioned

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God, where I have questioned my existence, where

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I have questioned so many

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things like

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why why did this happen? Why did my

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mom pass away when I wasn't speaking to her?

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So many different things and so many different times.

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And I've learned not to do that because I know

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that God's plan is perfect and

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there are going to be moments that

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you're probably right now, You're like God, I'm doing everything

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I have to do, and still my answer, my

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prayer hasn't been answered. That

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is because the time

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isn't right. And I think just knowing for me,

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what's helped me is just literally letting

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go, like saying, you know what, I'm not going to

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try to control anything. I'm not going to try

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to force anything, like I'm just gonna let

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it be. It's not easy, but I

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feel like faith moves mountains,

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and I've seen it in my own life, which

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is why I have never turned my back on God,

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no matter how many difficult

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things have happened. I think that most

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people in my shoes probably would have said, peace

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out. I'm gonna be atheist. I'm gonna be I

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don't know, I don't want to believe in anything, but

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I just feel that God is so good and

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He has shown up and shown off in my life

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so much, even despite so

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many things that have happened and so much shit that people have

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talked about me. At the end of the day, God

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always exults me. But I think it's because

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I really have faith blind faith

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Faith is blind. Faith is not something that's

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tangible. It's it's something that we can't

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see. And it's frustrating, you know what I mean,

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because we're like, I want to see it, and I'm very I'm

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a very visual person. I need to see things.

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But with faith, it's just I don't know. I rest

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in God. I rest in knowing that everything's

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gonna be okay. I have to believe it. I believe it.

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I really do in my heart, or I'm like, all right, cool,

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I don't know how I'm gonna make ends meet.

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I don't know. God will provide.

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I say it out loud, I really believe it, and everything

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works out for me. I think it's just going to take practice.

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It's going to take time, it's going to take patience. So

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don't give up, don't lose hope, keep

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worshiping, keep going, listening to sermons,

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go to church, do whatever it is that makes your

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soul feel good, and little by little it's going to become

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a habit and before you know it,

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you're gonna find yourself in a place where it's

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like, oh, shoot, damn.

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I remember when I was so depressed.

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I remember when I was going through this, and look at me now,

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because you did not,

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manos, you didn't let go of that

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faith. You feel me so, Kisha, I'm

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really hoping and praying that everything it's better.

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I really, from the bottom of my heart feel

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that I'm going to be praying myself. Prayer

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is powerful, girl, Prayer is powerful.

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Don't let up, do not don't

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let that enemy come in and take from

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you what God has for you. Because there's something there's going to

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be a breakthrough.

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When we have.

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Moments like this, it's because something

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great is about to happen. Believe that, believe

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it, claim it, Affirm it.

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Girl.

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Yes, okay,

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So our next question comes from

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an anonymous listener. All right, let's see

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Hei Cheeky's.

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I just want to say that you're

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such a beautiful woman. You're inspiring

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and every time I see you on TV,

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on media, it just it motivates

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you, makes me so happy. So I

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just want to say thank you for that. And

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my question for you is how

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did you transition from

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being in a cycle of being

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in toxic relationships? Because you've

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always been so open about your personal life

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and you know, sharing your experiences.

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You know, I just want to know, like, how

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did you transition that? How did

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you break that cycle? You

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know, because when you are in a toxic

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relationships, are used to being in toxic

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relationships. It

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kind of becomes for forgune

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to be in a healthy

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relationship, So you

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enter a healthy relationship with your guard up.

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I feel like it's not good. I'm currently

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going through that right now, So I'd

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like to know your experience. How

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did you overcome that? How did

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you get the help?

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Mama side, I wish I know your name, but it's okay.

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First of all, thank you so much for loving me those

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beautiful words. I appreciate it so much. Okay,

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So it's not easy. A lot of

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things in life aren't easy, guys, but it's okay. They're

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worth they'll be worth it.

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Okay. So when I started.

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Dating Emilio it's

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about three years now, I

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was also I also had my guards up. There were

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still things that I needed to work on because I

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still hadn't healed from

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my past relationships. I think the key thing here

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is healing. Once I healed,

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once, I continued to go to therapy and read

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certain books that helped me heal

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myself. First, I wanted to be better for

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myself because if I'm not my healthy self,

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then I'm not going to be able to give my healthiest.

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Self to my partner.

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And I realized that even

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though I thought that my ex partners

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were one hundred percent the problem, they weren't.

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I also had things that I had to work on, and

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I had a good partner that was

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willing and patient with me, and

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I was very honest. I was very upfront from the beginning.

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I was like, Hey, I'm going through this. I'm

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broken, I'm a bit jaded, you

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know, from my past relationship. And I was very honest

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and he understood, and I think.

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That helped a lot.

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I was also in a place where I'm like, I am

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just gonna let it all hang out. This is who

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I am, take it or leave it sort of thing. And

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I communicated from the very beginning that

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is so important, whether it's cute

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or not, it's important to

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have those very honest

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conversations with your partner. In any relationship,

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whether it be business or friendship, it's important

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to have open communication. So I had

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that and just healing,

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healing myself, not healing

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myself for another person, but healing myself

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for myself. It took me a while

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to understand that if you have the right

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partner, then they're gonna be patient,

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They're gonna be loving through it and

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forgiving, forgiving your past relationships,

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forgiving your your past self, even

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not holding onto any of that, and saying this

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is a fresh new slate,

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like be intentional about not bringing

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that baggage from your past toxic relationships

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into this relationship

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because it will become a pattern. And

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we have to understand that if we're attracting those

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things, it's because there's something we have to work

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on. So I was like, I don't

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want this anymore. I want to freaking stop

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this pattern, and I'm going to do what I have to do.

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And I made changes within myself

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so that I didn't repeat that pattern with

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Emilio, you feel me, So I

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hope.

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That made sense.

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But healing, healing is it You have

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to heal those things, BIB the

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number one thing, and healing

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is not always comfortable, actually very

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uncomfortable, but that's

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where we grow and that's where we mature being

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uncomfortable. So

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our next question comes from Vanessa

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high.

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Teaky's I love your podcast.

9:35

I love everything you stand for. I love

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every advice you give all of us.

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My question to you is how

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do I manage working with the

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close friend of mine without

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having to jeopardize

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our friendship. I feel like working with

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a friend or family member can

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sometimes become an issue, and

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I feel like I'm having to deal

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with that now with the friend

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that maybe has an attitude

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if I ask her to do something or you

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know, it's just a little uncomfortable.

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And I don't want our friendship to be ruined. And

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I feel like I made a mistake bringing

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her to my workplace and

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getting her hired. I

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just don't want her friendship to get ruined because

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of our business relationship.

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M Vanessa, this is a good one

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because I also I

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have my business partners are

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very good friends of mine, and.

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It's tough.

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It's a conversation that needs to be had in the

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very beginning. This conversation should have happened

10:43

in my opinion, before you got

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her the job, Like, Hey, I'm going to get

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you this job, but our friendship is

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one thing and our work and workplace is another.

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But I feel like you guys are still in time to

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have this conversation.

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Let her know how you're feeling.

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Let her know, Hey, I'm kind of regretting

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that I got you this job because I feel

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that you get upset if I tell you to do something

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like we have to understand that we have to separate

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both. That's what two mature women need

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to do, is you know. I had a

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conversation with my business partner actually her name is Vanessa

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too, and I said, hey, no matter what happens,

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our friendship is first. Yes, we'd love

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to make money together, but if it starts causing

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issues between us, then we both

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have to be okay with walking away and putting

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the business part aside and

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continuing with the friendship because to me, that's more

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important, you know what I mean. So we had that conversation

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and we're very respectful of each other. But

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I feel that maybe your friend

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isn't understanding that is kind of what I'm getting.

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So I think you need to have this conversation

11:42

sooner rather than later, and then just nip

11:44

it in the butt and just say, hey, I'm feeling this way.

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I need you to know and I don't want to feel this

11:48

way because I love you. Or if

11:51

she doesn't take it well, then maybe this is what had

11:53

to happen for you guys to start working

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together to realize that maybe that's not a friend

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you want in your life. Perhaps, but

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hopefully you guys can have this conversation

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and you know you fix it, because

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no one wants to be uncomfortable in their works in their

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workspace, I mean, if you have a higher

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position than her, or whatever the case may be,

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we have to learn to take lead and to respect

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each other's positions. Vanessa,

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I hope it works out.

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Talk to her. Do not let another day

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pass by.

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You need to do it soon because you're going to be so uncomfortable

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and unhappy and that's no way to live girl at

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all.

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All right, guys, so our last question comes from

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Angie. Let's see what's up, Angie.

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We love to hear stories about your mom,

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Jenny, stories we've never heard

12:38

before, But why do y'all

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insist on sharing stories that

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put her under such a negative

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light, for example, what type of

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mother she was and how she chose

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to discipline you guys.

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Mm, Angie, girl, you

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sound upset, but it's okay.

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You guys know I always answer anything and everything

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you guys sent me. And I'm telling you, guys, I

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don't ever listen to these questions prior. I

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don't like to. I like to just speak from the

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heart. And this is crazy

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that you asked me this because my siblings

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and I had a meeting a

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few months ago because I had

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said something and I think I know what

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you're talking about. I think it was when we were

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on TikTok and someone

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asked me what was something that I remembered,

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and I remembered that my mom had cut my hair because it

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was a very traumatic experience for

13:26

me. I understand because

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a lot of people love my mom, and I appreciate it.

13:31

I love how people love my mother. It's

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an honor to be her daughter. But also she

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wasn't a perfect mother. Who is

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perfect nobody. And

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the thing here is I don't want to feel limited

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as a human being and not

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expressing my experiences as

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a human being, things that I lived

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as a human being, because I'm afraid of making

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my mom look bad.

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I don't want to make my mom look bad.

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My mom was also very vocal always

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that she wasn't a perfect mother, and

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it's okay. I give my mother grace.

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I understand. I'm compassionate.

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I don't know yet what it is to be a mom. I've

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raised my siblings, but at the end

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of the day, I've learned from my mom, and

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I know that if she was here, it's something that

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she would talk about, and she has her

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own reasons as to why. You know,

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But why should I feel

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limited because my mom is this famous

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person that I shouldn't say

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certain things as to how she raised us or is

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how she made mistakes as a mom. It's okay

14:30

to make mistakes as a human being, as a mother. No

14:32

one is perfect. So that's why

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it's not to make my mom look bad in

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any way, because I love my mom

14:38

and I respect my mother even though she's not here.

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It's just it is a part of my story. It's a

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part of my testimony. It's a part of

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what made me who I am today. So

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I'm not going to stop myself from

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saying certain things that were already public.

14:53

You know, if there's certain things that I'm going to say that she's

14:55

not here to defend herself, then that's completely different. But at

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the end of the day, a lot of the things that I say

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have been public and we've talked about it before,

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or it's in our books or whatever the case may be.

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So to answer your question,

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that's that's what it is. I mean, I'm

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a human being and I have the right

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to tell my story. With that being said,

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thank you for your question. By the way, all of you guys,

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thank you guys so much. Thank you for listening

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