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Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've

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I'm here to give you advice on anything and

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everything you need help with. Maybe you're going through

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a breakup, maybe you're having issues with your family,

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or maybe you need help figuring out how to balance

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your checkbook or how to start a business.

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What arever the cases I want to hear from

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you. Remember these are my thoughts and opinions,

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and if you're suffering from an issue or hardship,

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you should seek help from a qualified professional.

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All right, now, go ahead and leave your question at

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the sound of the beeB.

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Hi, Cheeky's. My name is Omar, and

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I am a huge fan of you of

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your mother since Cheeky's and Roxy.

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I was like eleven or twelve

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at the time, and I remember just

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loving you guys, and I still currently

1:02

do. I am not twenty five, so Mahina's

1:04

an amount of love I have for the both of you.

1:07

Pollosa's empowering

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woman. I love you guys that

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much. But my first question, girl,

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is how do

1:16

I go about becoming an antista. I

1:18

know there's a lot of self promoting

1:20

involved, but there's

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also a lot more to it. Who do I go

1:25

to, who do I pay? What do

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I do? That's

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my first question. The next one would be, would

1:31

you see Cheeky signing her own artists

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in the future, Sacandosta

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Salelante. If so, you have a prototype

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right here. His name is Wimar. If

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not, it's cool, I get it. But yeah,

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that advice would really help me. Cheeky's thank

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you.

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Oh you're so cute, Omar, thank you

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so much. I love your question. I

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actually have sweet sound records and

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I'm trying to convince John to let me sign him. So

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you never know, maybe you'll be the next artist.

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And thank you for watching me on I love

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Jenny and Cheese and Roxy. That means a lot to

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me. Think you think you? Thank you? Okay,

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So here's the thing now with social media, it makes

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me so much easier, you guys, so you have to put

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yourself out there, YouTube,

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Instagram, TikTok is huge, TikTok,

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especially using the right hashtags, you guys. That'll

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help you a little more. And finding yourself

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a good publicist I think that was the first thing

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to do. Obviously, someone to manage you, someone that you trust.

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I can give you advice on that later on, once you have found

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someone, I'll tell you exactly what you need to ask

2:30

and what you need to carve out or

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having your contract because it's very important. Okay, good

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lawyer's wealth that's going to review your contracts,

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you guys, please, I learned my lesson

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the hard way. So anyways, going back to

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that, a publicists because of publicist, I

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think is a great investment, especially when you're starting

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out, because they're going to be able to put you everywhere

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you need an entertainment publicist. Okay,

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remember that, and yeah, just post

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a bunch of videos. I mean a lot of these new

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artists are being discovered on TikTok.

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So put yourself out there. Be willing.

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And you sound very handsome, so I

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don't know you got that going for you. I don't know

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what you look like, but anyways, but

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yes, put yourself out there, put up a video, and

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if you can tag me, I'd love to hear what

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you sound like and what you're sing and

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yeah, so that is my advice. Omar, thank

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you so much for your question. I really appreciate

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it. Now

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we're going to move on to the next question from Christine

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Hi chiky.

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I'm reaching out because I

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need help and figure out how to go

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about this. I've been dealing

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with toxic family members

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for a long time. Now that I'm an adult

3:38

and I have a daughter, I'm

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like trying to heal and have

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more of a positive and loving

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and caring environment for her. She's

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only a year old, almost two, and

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I just realized, like it's time to

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stop pretending or stop

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letting them, you know, be this

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way and have

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this hold on our family in

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general, Like I want to step away,

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respectfully, leave the I

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guess, leave the door open for possible

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reconciliation. Before now, I don't want

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to give in anymore. I don't want to give in to their tops

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of behavior, their disrespect, and their

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selfishness. So you

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know, what can I do or how can I go about this?

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Thank you so.

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Much, Christine,

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you are preaching to the choir girl. It's

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tough. It's tough because it's family

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and we love them. But I

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say this a lot on the podcast. You guys that

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if someone is not good for your soul, if someone's causing

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you more pain than good, it is okay

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for you to set boundaries. Boundaries. They're healthy, it's

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okay to love people from Afar. Don't

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feel guilty about that. You are protecting your

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daughter now and you want the best for

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her, and you want to break generational curses,

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which I get because I felt

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I needed to do that for my little family,

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my siblings and their kids. It's

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not to say that they won't change, so that you

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keep your keeping that door open for the possibility

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of you know, reconciliation. But

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for now, if you feel this way,

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it's okay for you, Like I said, for you to

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love them from Afar and wish

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them the best, and if they

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need something one day, then you can go

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ahead and do it. Look at the Nasca. You have to

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go with what feels right in your heart,

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but you don't have to make

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it or try to make it work because they're your family.

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Because we were taught blood is thicker than water,

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and sometimes we create

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this false narrative in our mind that

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well, we have to put up with everything because

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that's our family. That's our grandma, that's our uncle,

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that's our cousin, that's and even

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with parents, sometimes you have to create

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boundaries. That's being respectful to

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yourself and being good, a good steward of

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what God has given you and you have a daughter that you're

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trying to protect, So that is my

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advice. I hope it works

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out, and I hope that they realize what

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they're losing and once you, you know,

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once they see that space that you're creating

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between you and the other person or the other

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people, that they appreciate and value who

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you are, and they change. I'm hoping that's what I'm

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hoping. So thank you so much for your question, and

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I hope it works out. I'm going to send you a big, big hug because

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I know, I know, girl, I feel you. Our

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next question comes from cass

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Hi.

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Cheeky's Love Your Podcast. I recently

6:25

started watching it because I

6:28

would watch your sister's podcast, and

6:30

you know you mentioned it not you had mentioned on

6:32

there that you had one as well, and I

6:34

really like your podcast as well, and I guess I

6:36

want some advice on the

6:39

podcast. I started mine recently

6:43

and I am tracking our journey.

6:45

My husband's a nice journey because

6:48

he recently got deported and I

6:51

also made the move to Mexico because I didn't

6:53

want to be in

6:55

the United States without him, and I wanted

6:57

to track our journey. But I didn't want the podcast

7:00

only to be about that, you

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know, I wanted it to be a space for me, a space

7:04

where I can talk about anything I want to, you

7:07

know, La coma Latina and

7:09

all of that. And I

7:11

recently had a conversation with somebody

7:14

and they kind of

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were telling me that they didn't understand

7:18

why I named the podcast the way I

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did, and for me, it was something meaningful

7:23

related to, you know, the situation that I am

7:25

now. I am in now, and

7:28

they were just like, I don't understand what you named

7:30

it if it's not just going to be about that,

7:33

And I feel kind of like it wasn't really much of

7:35

a support. It was kind of more bringing me down,

7:37

you know, And I

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feel like, you know, all podcasts

7:43

don't really relate to what the name

7:45

is about, and I just,

7:47

you know, I want some advice on how to deal with

7:50

stuff like that or and

7:52

as well as you know, being consistent

7:54

on your podcast, growing the podcast

7:57

and making it a better

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podcast for myself and working

8:02

on it.

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Cass, you forgot to tell me the name of your podcast.

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I wish I knew, so I can give you a little bit more

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advice on that. But regardless, it doesn't matter

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what the name of your podcast is and what

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anyone else thinks. At the end of the day, it's

8:15

what is coming out of your heart and what you're trying

8:17

to do, not only for yourself and for your

8:20

relationship, but also to help other people. So

8:22

don't worry too much about what that person

8:25

said, or you know you didn't feel that it was

8:27

they're being supportive. At the end

8:29

of the day, just know that it'll grow

8:32

slowly, maybe, but surely. Don't

8:34

worry if, like right now, you don't have a lot of listeners,

8:36

or maybe you do, that's awesome. I'm just saying,

8:38

like, don't worry much. Don't worry too much about that about

8:41

numbers. I think in the society that we live in

8:43

right now, we worry so much about numbers. And I'm telling you because

8:45

sometimes it does affect me until I remember

8:47

I'm like, Okay, if one person is watching, if

8:49

one person is listening, if five people are going to go

8:51

to my show, those five people are

8:53

meant to be there, and I'm going to give them the best of

8:55

me. So as long as what you're doing is

8:57

coming from your heart and for the right reasons, don't

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worry about anything else, and

9:02

I think the best thing right now. Podcasting is like

9:05

huge and it's so fun. So congratulations

9:07

on that. By the way. Just keep at

9:09

it, you know, and make sure you're staying true to yourself

9:12

and putting it out there. I mean, YouTube

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is a great place as well to

9:17

promote it. And you know, we have all these different

9:20

platforms, so just be patient

9:22

and always be willing to

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talk about things that people aren't willing to talk about.

9:26

Like a podcast is where you can be transparent.

9:28

It's your platform. It's your way for

9:31

people to hear you and to change the

9:33

world. So I hope everything goes well,

9:36

and don't worry about the naysayers. Girl like,

9:40

just stay focused, focused.

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Okay, guys, that goes for all of us.

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All right, Cas, thank you so much for your

9:47

question, and I'm wishing you all the best. Next time, tell

9:49

me please tell me the name of your podcast. Our

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next question comes from an anonymous

9:56

listener.

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Ome ky keys Cool had

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a question for you. I wanted

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to say fri Us that I am hire everything

10:05

you do and your strength

10:08

to keep going forward after everything you went

10:10

through is amazing.

10:13

I was just wondering if you have

10:15

any advice. I don't know if you ever

10:18

dealt with nobody

10:21

like family members not

10:23

believing your abuse, and

10:25

if you did, how

10:27

did you go on without, like

10:31

with them not believing you, or

10:34

if you didn't, if you have any

10:37

advice on how to keep

10:39

going forward when certain family members

10:41

don't believe the abuse that happened

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to you. That's

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the advice I wanted,

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And I just had one more thing. It's

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just a question for you. Do you ever plan

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on trying

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to buy your mom's

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own house?

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Hi, anony misused listener. I understand

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why you probably didn't leave your name, and that's fine. Let

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me start backwards. I'm going to answer your question

11:08

in regards to my mom's house. I get that

11:10

question a lot. I would love to one

11:12

day. Now it's millions and millions

11:14

of dollars. I think that

11:16

it would be awesome if

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I could. I would, But then I'm like, do I really want

11:21

to live in that house without my mom? I've thought about that

11:23

too, and I'm like, I don't know,

11:25

something I got to pray about because I

11:28

don't know. I think it'd be hard for not only me, but all my siblings.

11:30

You know what I mean. So, now

11:32

going to your initial question, Yes,

11:36

there are people that didn't believe

11:38

me and probably still don't believe me till this

11:41

day about my abuse, especially

11:43

like my dad's side of the family, which, to

11:45

be honest, I understand,

11:47

you know, because that's his family and they're going to have

11:49

his back, and I'm not upset about it anymore.

11:52

If anything, I still I actually now talk to some of my

11:54

dad's family. Another

11:56

one is my grandpa's my grandpa's

11:59

sister. She didn't believe me

12:01

and said a lot of things, and that really hurt me.

12:03

I was like, what the heck, But you know what,

12:05

I started understanding that

12:08

there are gonna be people that are not going to

12:10

believe a lot of things. And

12:13

as long as I know in my heart what the

12:15

truth is and I forgive the person, I think

12:17

more than anything, it's you forgiving

12:19

the person. I

12:22

know it's and I'm sure

12:24

I think you're asking about for yourself, I think,

12:27

but if not, I think it's just forgiving the person

12:30

and people that don't believe you, like you

12:32

just got to let it be and probably stay away from those

12:34

people. And I don't know who

12:37

the people are, but it's painful,

12:39

and I think it's just going to take time to heal that wound,

12:42

and you're gonna have to be okay with just putting

12:45

up a wall and a shield

12:48

of you know what. I'm

12:50

going to protect my heart, my mind, and

12:52

my body. And if these

12:55

people don't believe me, it's maybe

12:57

they have issues that they're working through. I don't know,

12:59

but it's for you to stay away because

13:02

you still have You're going through your healing process. It's

13:04

something that's gonna take a while, so I

13:06

hope that helps. It's really tough

13:09

because I wish I had more to tell you, but I

13:12

understand it. It can be very painful, but stay

13:16

away from those people because people

13:18

that love you. That's one thing I think my mom for that. She never

13:20

questioned me. She believed me and had

13:22

my back, and that feels

13:25

good. Stay close to the people that have

13:27

your back and believe

13:29

you, you know. So I'm wishing you

13:31

all the best. You guys, thank

13:33

you so much for listening to another episode of Dear

13:35

Cheekys and watching as well. Now

13:38

we have a set and it's so beautiful and I'm so

13:40

happy. So thank you guys for listening

13:42

and watching, and I will catch you

13:44

on the next episode of Dear Cheekys. If you guys have any

13:46

questions concerns about anything

13:48

and everything, I am willing

13:50

to answer, even if they're

13:52

kind of weird questions or not necessarily weird,

13:54

but I don't know,

13:57

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