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Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've

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I'm here to give you advice on anything and

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everything you need help with. Maybe you're going

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through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with your family,

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or maybe you need help figuring out how to balance

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your checkbook or how to start a business,

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you. Remember these are my thoughts and

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opinions, and if you're suffering from an issue

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or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified

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professional. All right, now, go ahead

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and leave your question at the sound of the beat.

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Hey, Cheeky's.

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My name is Jacqueline and I'm a Oklahoma

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I want to start off by saying that I'm so proud of

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you at all that you do. You have been inspiring

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me since I was a little girl. You have truly

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helped me overcome so much and have

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helped me become the woman I am today, and

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I'm so thankful to have.

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You in my life. That yoo mucho.

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My question is how do you let know of a friend

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who you've had a strong connection with that they have

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manipulated you and hurt

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you so much to the point that you just

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want to have a breakdown and you just don't

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know how to walk away from the situation. They

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keep manipulating you into staying,

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into wanting to be there for them, but

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it's taking a toll on your mental health to

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the point where you don't know whether to put yourself

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first or the situation first.

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Because for me, that's what's going on, and

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I'm kind of in a position where

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I'm stuck and I don't know what to do because

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it's training me and it's straining

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my mental health, and I just need advice

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on kind of how to get out of the situation.

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Jacqueline, thank you so much. Thank

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you for following me, for your

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support, for your love. I really really appreciate

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it. And in regards to the situation, you're

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a smart woman, You're a smart lady.

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You know that there's manipulation, so

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you know the answer to this. I

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think you just need me to tell you. So I'm

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gonna tell you need

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to make a decision and walk away.

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If you haven't yet told this person, hey,

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I don't like how you're making me feel. I feel

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like you're being emotionally manipulative

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and they're still not changing, then

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you definitely have to walk away, you know. So

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if you've already talked to them and they're not listening,

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do it. If you haven't spoken to them,

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talk to them as soon as possible. Because

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this is draining you. It's hurting

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you. It's keeping you from becoming your

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best self. So you need

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to be okay with walking

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away and asking yourself, will I be okay

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without this person in my life? It'll hurt,

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But does it hurt more staying in the situation

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or walking away and hurting a tiny

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bit? Because you will hurt. I'm not saying you won't. You're

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gonna miss the person, but you're

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at a crossroads right now, and this is going

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to find your future. I mean, I know it sounds

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crazy, but if there's someone that toxic

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in your life, especially emotionally

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manipulating you, that's heavy. It's

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a heavy load that you're carrying, and it's not going

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to allow you to advance in life. So

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you are here choosing, Okay, which direction

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do I take? What's going to be better for me? You

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can pray for that person from Afar and love that

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person from Afar, but if

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having that person in your life is causing all of

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this turmoil to the point where

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you're asking me for advice. It's because

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you know that this isn't healthy for you. So you

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just got to step it up and make that decision. You

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got this. I know that you know, Jacqueline what to

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do. I know it's not easy, but you're

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going to feel lighter once you just let

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them go, let them go, and let God.

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So that's my advice to you. I want to hear

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from you again. Let me know what you decided.

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All right.

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So our next question comes from Stephanie.

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Hey, Chicky's So my question to

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you would be what do you do

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in order to keep that self esteem

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high. I've been suffering

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with low self esteem for a couple

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of years now. I'm just turning thirty two.

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Five years ago, six years ago, I donated

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a kidd to my brother. I've had

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a couple surgeries done, you know,

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health surgeries, and I've

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had three sea sections. I

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don't know what you would

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recommend or be able to tell me

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in a way to just

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bring that self esteem up. Any

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suggestions on clothing would be amazing.

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Anything that can just help

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me in general, I would appreciate

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it. I love you so much.

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I have so much love for your family

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and your mom as well. I hope

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God continued to bless you in

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every way, shape and form. Thank

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you so much.

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Thank you so much, Stephanie. Likewise,

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I hope God keeps blessing you because you

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have three children, right, you have three

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sea sections and wow, giving

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your brother a kidney, that's that's

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wow. Admirable. Sol You're

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you're a good person and I feel it and I hear it. In

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regards to your question, self esteem

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is something that is It's

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a tough one in the sense of we're

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always going to feel in some way insecure.

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We're going to like not like certain things about

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ourselves. I think we all feel that, and

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it's something that you have to take day by day and

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also do things that

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are going to help your self esteem, like

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working out, like pointing

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out things that you are good at, things

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that you do love about yourself. I think

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when it comes to confidence, and especially

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in the world that we live in with social media and you see

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all these things and the filters and people's face

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tuning everything, like, it's hard not to

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feel insecure. But I think you need to focus

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and zone in and hone into the good

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things that you have and that you are your good traits,

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you know what I mean. That is like kind of like, hey, I really

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like that I do this, or I really you know, point

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out good things about yourself. That's definitely

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gonna help you not focus so much on the things

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that you don't like about yourself. As far as

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clothing, I love shapewear.

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I have shapewear.

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You know, I feel like when I put on shapewear, I just

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feel so like I feel better, you

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know what I mean. Everything's in its place, everything

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looks smooth. So that's one thing for sure.

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I would definitely say shapewear

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because it's different from fajas. Fajas are a little bit thicker,

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they're a little bit more uncomfortable. My shapewear

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is breathable, it's chill, And I'm not

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trying to sell you my shape where I'm just saying, like you

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asked about clothing, so I'm like, hey, maybe that'll help a

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little bit. And also just kind of stepping out

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of your comfort zone, Like if you are one to

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always wear black, then say, you know what, I'm gonna throw a little

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bit of color in there. Even with your nail

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color, you know what I mean, like taking risks.

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If you usually do white nails,

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try a color, try red, something

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that's gonna make you feel different. And

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work out. That always helps me, honestly,

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I don't know why, but of course yes,

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to lose weight, but it also just helps like release

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stress and release toxins and it just

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makes you happier because you know you're releasing

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endorphins. So definitely working out,

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and of course prayer. You guys know,

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I'm a huge advocate for prayer and meditation

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and that always just helps just ah,

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put you and align you and center you,

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you know. So I hope that helps Stephanie

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and a girl, I get you. It's an everyday

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thing. I think all women and men. Men

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just don't talk about it like we do, but we all

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understand you. So don't feel bad.

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Now we're going with Beth. What's hear from Beth?

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So I was dating this guy and

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we had a good connection and have a

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good relationship, but what of a

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sudden, like it's been three weeks that he has

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stopped texting me answering my calls

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and everything. So it's like I

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went through this really hard time where I

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was like oh crying am I like, I

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literally fall into depression and everything.

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I barely like today, I tried to

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get up and you know, like move on

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and everything. So what do I deal? Because his

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family always tells me, oh,

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he'll come back, he's gonna come back

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to you, he's going to come talk to you again and

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everything. But I'm like, what

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should I do with this time? You know, like when

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he needed the help, I'll

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be simplest to be in the all of

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a sudden, it's like documents

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vlada, Mike Okay

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for Loki who he said? So

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you know, it's like, what do

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I do?

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Mando F

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him? F him? Honestly,

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I know it's hard. I know, I know

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it's hard. But if

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you cannot see your value

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and you were there for him when he needed the help,

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I'm sorry this is gonna sound harsh, but he was probably

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using you and you don't

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need a person like that in your life anyways. If

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he's ghosting you like that and not answering you

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from one day to another, acchal,

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that isulo. I'm sorry, it sounds horrible.

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Bye bye, And if he comes

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back, guess what, You're not gonna be

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there. And I would not suggest that

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you're there. Alsa, No, is

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he so familiar that he said, oh, he's gonna come back, He's

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gonna come back. The family doesn't really know

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that. I was gonna say, Okay, well, maybe something's

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going through something. But if you have connection with the family

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and they're telling you he's gonna come back, and I'm

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sorry, but don't leave

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that door open, because you do not deserve to

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be just waiting for this person whenever

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he wants to come back, and you're just gonna like let him

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in. No, because he's gonna keep doing that. He'll

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do it over and over. You have to teach people

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how to treat you. You have to give yourself your

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place. So what I suggest is you get

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your ass up, Okay, you go

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work out, change your hair color, do

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something for yourself. I don't know. I'll go as

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chee cheese, something like a push

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up, brawl, a tanga, anything that's gonna

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make you feel sexy girl. Get on a dating

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app, a good one, the ones that you can

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pay for, because the free ones I don't know anyways,

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So do something, go out

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with your friends, like you cannot be moping around

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for this person. He's not worth it. I'm telling you right now.

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I don't care what he does, what he is, what

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he says. He's not worth it because a

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good person that has

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good intentions is not going to just stop talking to

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you out of nowhere. They're gonna tell you, hey, I'm going through

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something, or hey, I'm not feeling it right now. They're

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gonna tell you, and they're gonna face it.

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He's a coward. He's a

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coward. I'm sorry. So

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he knows what I think of him. He's a coward, and

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he should have faced you and said, hey, i'm not feeling

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this, I don't know something. But he didn't. So

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he does not deserve you. Period.

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He does not deserve you. And I hope that you

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value yourself because

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he's not doing it. So you need to give yourself

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your place and value yourself. Okay,

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Beth, Sorry to be a little bit rough, but I

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had to because uh uh, we're

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not doing that f him sending you

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a big hug. Sorry, got a little you know,

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rattled up there. But I don't want to hear

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you sad. I don't. It hurts my heart and

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I need you to get up and I need you to do something for yourself.

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Go take a walk something. I need you to

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get out, love yourself. Okay,

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okay, I'm a breath now for our next question that

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comes from Veronica.

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She just kill tis to

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mio,

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starts to estas

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a

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day but against

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to mio.

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Wow, okay, I

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love it. She's asking me what am

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I scared of that? Everything

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I have I I deserve, I worked hard for it,

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and she's just wondering, like, what am I afraid

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of? Amass

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That's it? Yah yao

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no no alfindliados

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maintenance manos Salvian

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familiar sloke, melia

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mucho pero no.

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Navi.

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I'm just like just guard pork

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diocestaviendo Hu's

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guard jo port and

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respects lescosas

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ensten jotas

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cosas.

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Being you know.

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So that's it.

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There in the ocean, I'm very like respectful

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to the ocean pur que el mar

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tro mundo pos

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and nadi. So I

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just told her that I'm not really afraid

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of anything or anyone, not even the devil. I'm just afraid

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of God. I respect God, and I'm like, okay, he's watching

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me, and I got to do things right because

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even if no one is watching, God is watching me all the

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time. So I do my best to do things right, and

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when I don't, I ask forgiveness right away. I'm like, okay,

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God help me. I want to be different, you know what I

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mean. But in reality, thank goodness,

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I'm not really scared of a lot of things.

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I mean, the ocean is something I totally respect because

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I feel like it's a whole other world and we

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haven't yet discovered it entirely.

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So that's that to me is like crazy. But

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other than that, honestly, I'm chilling, like I'm

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not even scared of death, you guys. I feel like

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God has me in his hands and he has my back. So yeah,

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that's about it, and that is from

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Veronica. So Veronica, thank you for your

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question. I

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loved it, so thank you guys so much for your questions.

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That does it for this week's episode of Dear

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Cheeky's. I appreciate you guys so much,

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and I hope my advice helped in some way, shape

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or form. I'm sending everyone a

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big, big hug full of love and light. You

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