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Hi Cheeky's. My name is Rose,

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and I'm a huge fan of Gears and I met

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you when you came to Arizona for your concert.

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But I soot really stuck and lost. I've

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been with my husband for nine years and

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we've been married for three We have one

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son and another baby on the way, and

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I just keep catching him liking other girls pictures

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that are showing revealing photos, and he's

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going out of his way to like these photos. And

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they're not famous people, the people that we went to

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high school with, that we have no

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contact with that they're just girls, and

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that he's known in the past, and he'll like a

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girl's picture because he thinks that she's attractive.

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He messages them all cute, pretty,

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And I'm had multiple conversations with him that this

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isn't okay and I don't like

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it and he needs to stop doing it, and he

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says he understands and that he's not going to

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do it, but I always catch him doing it, and

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right now, I'm at a point where I

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feel ideas are better as a wife and I'm not

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being put first, and my feelings aren't

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being put first, and I honestly

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like I just want to throw on the towel. But he deleted

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his Instagram. He says he's never going to do it again.

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He says that he's dumb and

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that it was just a mistake and he's

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felt disconnected for me for a long time

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and our marriage has been rocky. But

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I just don't trust him, and I don't know what to do

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at this point, if I should leave him, or if I should stay

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and try to make it work for my kids or

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for our marriage. But thank you, Chiekis,

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I love you.

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I'm rose okay. I'm gonna take

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a deep breath. I'm

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taking a deep breath because what I don't

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like is

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the fact that he's doing these things

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and trying to blame you, blaming

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the fact that he doesn't feel close

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to you and it has and hasn't for a long time,

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and that the relationship is in rocky Well, those

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are all things that you talk to your partner

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about before doing something dumb. Because he's

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right, it was a dumb decision.

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I'm glad he raised his Instagram.

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Let's just hope and pray that he keeps

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this promise. And you're expecting

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your second child with this man right

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now, he needs to understand that you are very vulnerable.

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Your body is changing. A woman goes through a lot

2:54

when she's pregnant. We don't feel our best again.

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Now, I've never been pregnant, but I know this. You

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know, I'm a woman that has

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a lot of hormones, you know what I mean. So I

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know, especially when you're pregnant,

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you're feeling all types of ways, and I just think

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that that's so disrespectful. Look,

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I it's

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hard because you are expecting and I'm

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not one to ever say leave your man unless

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it's something where I'm like, Okay, no, this is

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bad. But he's done it

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time and time again, and that's where

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I'm not okay with. I believe

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in people making mistakes and then they

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correct them and you can forgive them. I believe in

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forgiveness. But it

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worries me that he is not going to change,

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and it worries me that he's

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gonna have to lose you in order

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to realize what he has. And I feel

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bad for him and show him this because

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he probably has a beautiful family with you,

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and he's over here trying to get the attention from other

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girls, and that's just going to bite him

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in the ass. And if

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this continues again, Rose, he raised

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his Instagram and you find out that he has another one

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or he's doing it somewhere else. Girl,

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you have to love yourself enough to just say, you know what,

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I'm gonna take my babies and

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I need to find myself a man that's gonna only

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like my pictures. And especially

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if he's going through the DMS and being

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flirtatious, that's that's not okay

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under any circumstances. No, there's

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no excuse, there's no reason. That's

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just super disrespectful to your relationship

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and to your children. So if

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you want to forgive him this one time, I think you need

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to tell yourself. I'm going to forgive him, and

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I'm going to trust him. He raised his

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Instagram. I think that

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that's good. You're doing what you have, what you have to

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do for your family. Let's see if he brings in

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his part and does what he has to do. If he

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doesn't, you gotta cut that shit off, baby.

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You gotta cut it off because it's not gonna change. So

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he needs to find Jesus, Rose, I just got

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upset. Okay, we're gonna start this episode good though.

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I took a deep breath. We're good, Rose.

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I'm wishing you the best. Please keep us updated. Okay.

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I hope that he realizes what he

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has and focuses on what he has at home,

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not these girls on Instagram, even if they

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did go to high school together. But I don't care, no

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excuse. We're

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gonna move on to Ari now.

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Hichi Ky's. I hope you're having the best

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day ever. I

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just want to start off by saying, I

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really really admire the woman

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that you are in

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so many different ways,

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but especially as an

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oldest sister. The way

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you are with your siblings, it inspires me

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to just be more kind and sweeter and

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more nurturing with them. I can honestly say

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that the very first time that

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I watched the very first episode I Love Danny

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because I'm kind of late too, it

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was like twenty twenty. When

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I saw just how

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you interacted with them, I really

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was like, I want to be like her. But

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okay, let me talk quickly. So question

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is, how do you feel that

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you are able to access your

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mother spiritually? I

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don't know what episode, but you said that

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now that she's passed on,

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that she can help you a lot more now. And

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I know that you did an episode

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on here. It was a long ass time ago,

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girl, That's how you know.

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I love you.

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But it was like a reading from

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somebody called AJ. He was

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on the I Love Jenny Show. But how

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do you feel about that? Because I

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saw a reading from your mom and

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I really really think you should watch it. It was on

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YouTube and it

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was just so beautiful and I really felt

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like it was her spirit talking for sure.

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All Ari, look at you being connected in

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every way. You saw AJ on I

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Love Jenny and then he was on the podcast.

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I had actually even forgot about that, so

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thank you for reminding me. You know what,

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I think that there

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are a lot of fake

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mediums, but there are also people that

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really were born with that gift and

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you just never will know. I do

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feel that aj was born with that gift, and

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there are a lot of things that he said, even then when my

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mom was alive that I just I go

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with what I feel. I have to feel it, because,

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believe me, a lot of people have come up to me and be like, hey, your

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mom has a word for you. Your mom, you know, want

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to speak to you or whatnot. And sometimes I

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don't feel it. I actually feel rejection, like whoa wait, wait

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a second, this it's coming from a good place. But

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I go with what I feel in my heart and

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I don't hold onto anything they say, whether it

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be good or bad. I just listen. I'm a good

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listener. I listen, I

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observe, I

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reflect and analyze it, and I don't focus

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too much on either the good or the bad. I think that's what's

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helped me because I'm just like, I go with the

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flow, and I'm like, Okay, whatever it is that I feel,

7:51

if this comes you'll have peace

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right away. So that's what I feel like. If I have peace in

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my heart, it's because it is coming from my mom. It

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is something beautiful. It does come from life,

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because like there is good, there is bad. That's just the

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truth, you know. But I will

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look for the YouTube reading that you're

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talking about. I'm always

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interested to hear certain things. And

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I also on the other side of the token, I've

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seen other mediums or

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psychics say certain things that aren't necessarily

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the truth, where I'm just like, wait, what, Like

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it's some crazy stuff. But again I take it with

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like a grain of salt and I'm just like, Okay, I'm not

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gonna dwell too much on anything. So

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that's basically what it is. And I do feel that my mom's

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helping me a lot more. I feel like if she was here physically,

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she can't be with me everywhere, you know, And now

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I feel like she's with God and God

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is everywhere, so I feel she's everywhere. I'm a woman

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of faith, so I'm like she's opening doors because

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now she can literally be everywhere

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with me, Like even in a room where no

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one is watching, she's there. And

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that's how I see it. That's why I say, I feel like she can

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help me more now from where she is. So Auri,

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thank you. Thank you for your question and for being,

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you know, staying on updated with us.

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I appreciate it. That was so cute.

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Okay, so our next question comes from Maribelle

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Hi Cheeky's.

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I am from Washington State. My

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question is what

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do you do on the day of her mom's

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anniversary. My

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mom died December seventh, twenty twenty,

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due to cancer, and when

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her day comes, I

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feel like I'm back to the day

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that she passed away. Oh

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everything that was feeling like it

9:33

comes back, like the grieveness

9:36

stage is back to one. I

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will love your input, your advice

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on what to do on anniversaries. I

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always go to your grave

9:46

on the day too, So

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anything, I appreciate

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it. Thank you for the podcast.

9:53

I'm always listening to you. Cheeky's. I

9:56

love you, and I love your family as well.

9:58

Thank you, Oh, thank

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you. I love you too, babe, and I and

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I don't. It's just

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tough because for

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a long time, my mom's gonna it's gonna

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be twelve years this year that my mom's been She

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graduated to the to the better

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world to know. And

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I think it took me a long time to get to the point where

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now I can celebrate her life on

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that day. Before I used to feel

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so guilty if

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I smiled on December

10:28

ninth. Even the first year that she was gone, I felt

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like, oh my god, what if people see me happy, They're gonna think I'm

10:32

happy, And it's just this weird thing. And

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for the first I think, I want to say, five years of

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my mom's passing, Like every December ninth,

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I would cry and I would

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just mourn her and I would grieve her

10:46

until I said, you know what, my mom doesn't want this

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from me. My mom wants me to be happy. My mom

10:50

wants me to be strong for my siblings. If I feel

10:52

like crying, I'm gonna cry. If I feel like listening

10:54

to music, I'm going to listen to music. If I feel like having

10:56

a freaking party for her, I'm going to have a

10:58

party. Yes, it's a sad day, of course, it is, like it's

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a day that she was gone. But also I'm

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happy for her because she's in peace.

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She doesn't feel any pain, she's not

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dealing with a lot of bs. That's happening right

11:10

now in our world, in our personal life,

11:12

you know. So I'm in a way happy. So even

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this past year, on December ninth, twenty

11:17

twenty three, my siblings and I were at my house.

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We got a group O and we wore pajamas

11:22

and we just sang and

11:24

we cried a tiny bit, but then we laughed. And

11:26

now it's like, I don't care what anyone thinks

11:29

what I should do on my Mom's Day. So

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it's whatever you feel.

11:33

Like.

11:33

If you feel like you want to go and visit your mom

11:36

at her grave, then you do that. You

11:38

know, if you don't want to go one year,

11:40

that's okay. If you want to go to Disneyland on

11:42

your Mom's whatever is going to make you feel

11:45

good. But I will tell you

11:48

have to get to the point where you're

11:51

not crying for all

11:53

the time or you know, because they

11:56

want you to be happy, they

11:58

are in a better place. Once you

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understand that, like it helps you

12:02

know, there are times when it just hits me. I oun't know where still,

12:05

and I'll cry out of nowhere. I could literally be driving

12:07

down the freeway and I'm like, oh my god, my mom's out here

12:09

and it's like this crazy feeling. I don't even

12:11

know how to explain it. It's so freaking

12:14

crazy, and I start crying and

12:16

I'm like, oh my god, I can't believe I'm here

12:18

and she's not here. You know, it's the craziest thing, and

12:20

I allow myself to feel it. So just allow yourself

12:22

to feel it and don't feel guilty if

12:24

you are happy on that day. You know

12:26

things are gonna change. It's still very new, so

12:29

just be patient with yourself, be compassionate

12:31

with yourself, and just go with whatever

12:33

feels right to you, is

12:36

my advice. So thank you so much for your

12:39

for your question and

12:40

the okay,

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so our last question comes from a nice.

12:49

Hey their Cheeky's. First

12:51

off, I would like to say I love

12:53

you, I love your siblings.

12:56

I love Jennica's podcast, and

13:02

lately I've been on a spending

13:04

spree over at your mom's boutique

13:06

online. I've been stalking on

13:08

the patrona shirts

13:10

and hoodie and oh my god, I just love

13:12

that image of your mom. It's so badass.

13:15

I love your mother as well. I

13:18

got my boyfriend into your mom's

13:21

music and everything, and

13:25

whenever I'm watching anything that has to do

13:27

with your mom. He's just there watching as well.

13:30

So much love from us both. But

13:33

I can't really think of a specific

13:35

question. But I have been wondering

13:38

about something. I

13:40

know that you have a dog named

13:42

Ryu, but I

13:44

want to know what happened to your little

13:47

dog.

13:48

Lyric.

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Much love from Saffernando Valley.

13:53

Love you, girl, and I yes,

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I love you.

13:56

I love your energy. Thank you so much

13:58

for all those beautiful things that you said, and

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that is so crazy. I love these questions. See you

14:02

guys, You guys can ask me whatever you want, literally anything.

14:05

Lyric. Lyric is my baby. He's still

14:07

alive, thank goodness. He's a shit

14:10

sue. For those of you that that don't

14:12

know who Lyric is, he was

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I just I was it a point in my life where

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I was so busy with my music in twenty eighteen,

14:18

twenty nineteen that it was just it was too much.

14:21

Having a little puppy was just too much for me.

14:23

So I decided to

14:26

give him to someone else.

14:29

Actually, he used to be my assistant Ezra.

14:31

His husband, Robert is still my road

14:34

manager. And anyways, they had just

14:36

lost their puppy and they were very, very sad.

14:39

He got ran over. It was like really really sad, you guys.

14:42

So I just felt it in my heart. I said, you

14:44

know what, I'm gonna give my puppy to this beautiful

14:46

gay couple and they love him

14:49

and he's their baby, and I just it

14:51

hurts me. But it's nice that it's still he's

14:53

still with someone that I absolutely love so

14:56

and they'll send me pictures and he still remembers

14:58

me and it's really cute. So

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that's where Lyric is. He's living a great

15:02

old life. He's so happy with parents

15:04

that aren't as busy as I am. So it

15:06

was a tough decision. But thank you for asking about him

15:08

on night Is. I appreciate that. So you guys. That concludes

15:11

this episode of Dear Cheeky's. And

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