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Hi cheek Ees just want to say that

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you have such a beautiful heart. You are

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a beautiful person inside

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end out. I

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love your podcast. I listen to it every

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morning when you upload all my way to work though.

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It's just that piece that I need in the mornings.

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Anyways, my question to you is

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how do I tell my boyfriend that

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I feel like it's time for us to get our own place.

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So I've been with him for about three years,

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I've been living with him for about two. We

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do live with his mom and his siblings. Recently,

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moved back in with their kids. And

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don't get me wrong, I love his family. We

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get along super super well. I just

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feel like we're in that point in our relationship

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where we need our own space and our own

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privacy, you know. So how do you suggest

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I bring that up to him without sounding like

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I'm being ungrateful or

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like his family bothers me. Thank

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you girl, Hopefully you're for me soon.

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You are so sweet, Jocelyn. Thank you so much

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for everything that you said. You guys always make me feel

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so good. I don't get tired of saying that. It doesn't matter

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if it's the first, second, third season now, you guys

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always just make my heart so happy. So

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thank you. And in regards

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to your question, Okay, it's

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tough because there is a very thin line, but I

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completely agree with you, and there's nothing

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wrong with you wanting your own space.

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Actually, it's very healthy. It's healthy

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for you, for your relationship and for

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the family. I think more than anything, you should

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just maybe take them to dinner somewhere where it's just you

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and him outside of the house. I would

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suggest for it to be somewhere outside of the house and

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just tell him like you just told me. I

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love your family, We get along great. I

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don't want to separate you from

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them, but I do feel that it is time for

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us to get our own place. Would you be open to that?

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Or can we at least set a timeline. Can

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we say okay in the next six months or

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in a year, like something where you have something to

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hold onto and you're also happy

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and he is too. You don't want to do it just they won't

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be at Paoltro, you know, But I think

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it is important for you to bring it up because it's going

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it's gonna bother you, and little by little

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it'll start, you know, you won't

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even know it, but it'll start just

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creating some resentment just towards the situation,

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not anyone in particular. So I

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think before that happens, you need to kind of like nip

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in the bud and talk to him. I'm telling

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you outside, take him to dinner, calmly, tell

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him like I've been thinking. Are you open to it?

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Can we at least give ourselves six months to make

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this happen? But I think that it's

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it's the healthiest thing for you guys, to have a long

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lasting relationship. And then that way when

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you see his family, You're going to see them and

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happiness. You know what I mean, Not that you don't

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now, but I'm telling you, if you continue

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in the situation feeling the way you're feeling, it's it's going

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to create some tension

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without you wanting it, you

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know. So, Jocelyn, again, thank

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you so much for all your beautiful compliments

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and comments. You cute thing. Okay,

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so our next question comes from baou that hey,

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cheekis.

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I wanted to start off with saying that I

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ad marry you so much and I

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can see how you have improoved over time and

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how you've become a better artist, a

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better sister, like you have

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just improved so much, and I'm really proud of you for that,

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and God bless you. You're such an amazing

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person. My situation is

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I'm nineteen and I'm getting married, but

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me and my fiance, we don't know if we wanted to do

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a party because many people

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in my family have been like talking bad

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about the whole situation, like

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because we're getting married at sibil and

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all, like in a church and that's

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what they expect. But like my parents have nothing

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to say about that. It's just my family, you know,

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so like if I make a party, I

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don't know if I want to invite those family members

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or if I should just invite them and ignore

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them. But yeah, we

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just wanted to do it like like that

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because we've been doing long distance for a long

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time. We just wanted to close the distance

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as soon as possible. And we're really sure of

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what we're doing and we're we're

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for each other and this

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is what we wanted to do. So I was just wondering,

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what do you think I should do, Like if

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I should go ahead and do a party, or if

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I should maybe do something

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more private and not care what my family

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members think.

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Baola, thank you so much, gaelin that thank

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you, thank you for those beautiful words.

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And in regards to your question, I'm going to speak to both of us,

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okay, because I sometimes

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have an issue. I've had an issue my whole life

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being a people pleaser and i want everyone

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to be happy, and I've done things to make

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other people happy and doesn't necessarily make me happy.

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Santo me so like an obligation.

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So I just want to remind you that

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this is your day, this is your wedding.

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By the way, congratulations on that okay. I

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hope that you guys have many, many, many

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many years of happiness. Remember communication

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is key. So as long as

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you communicate and you have got your in your relationship

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in the middle of it, I have faith it will work

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out. So just keep that in mind. Anyway, So that

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being said, I do feel that this

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is your day. You should invite

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whoever has been happy and is

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supporting your relationship. Those are the people

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you want there. So if there are people in your

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family that have been talking

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crap, don't invite them. Of

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course, celebrate your your your

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wedding, your marriage. Yes,

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if if you fill in your heart, you guys want to have a celebration,

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absolutely, like they

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are not invited for a reason, so they have

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to kind of think twice about the way

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that they act. So that's on them. But if

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your parents are good and it's they're

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only going to be ten people at that party, so be

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it. I think you should definitely have a

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celebration, even if it's small. Definitely

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have a celebration. And if you don't want to

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invite certain people, then that's okay. That's a boundary

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that you are setting because you want your relationship

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and your marriage to be successful and you don't

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want to just have someone there because you feel the obligation

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of inviting them because they're your family member.

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No, they shouldn't have that privilege if they

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have not been supporting and are

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talking crap. If they're not supporting

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your decision with getting married. Tuquiras

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was l the

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Metalos. You don't have to invite them. That's just my

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personal opinion. You can take it or leave it.

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But girl, I would say, absolutely, celebrate

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your day. It is your day. Don't

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forget that. Okay, So

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our next question comes from Kayley.

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I love you, and I loved your mom, and I love the

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show when I grew up with you guys. You guys are

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so amazing. My question has to do with my career

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and future. So since I was little, I've

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always been fascinating by crimes, mystery books,

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putting the puzzle pieces together, sitting

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up for what I believe in, and that led me to want to become a

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lawyer. So now I'm in my thirty year of college and

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I'm gotta go to law school after But I've

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been I've been doubting that

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because I feel like, okay, well, I'm

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shy, I'm not out going. I hate presentations.

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Speaking in front of people is difficult for me. And it's

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like if I can't even give a presentation in class for

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two minutes, how I'm supposed to stay in a courtroom and

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do my job. I also work at a law froom,

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and I said, I don't want to be stuck in office all

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day for the rest of my life. I also feel

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like I don't speak proper professionals, so people won't

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take me seriously. So started thinking like if I don't want

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to do that, then what do I want to do? But

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there's nothing else that makes me feel a

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burning passion, like super happy

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to like that I want to do that for the rest of my

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life, like anything. I sort of kind of like it's

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just men, Like it's I don't want to do that for the rest

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of my life. So I don't know what to do. I

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was thinking like maybe I guess I had a utube channel becau I'm gonna

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wait loss journey, So maybe when I lose the weight,

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I can, you know, motivate other girls, and

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that makes me super happy. But it's like

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I don't know if people are going to watch that, and I don't know if I

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want to do a good job at it. I don't know if I want

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to keep at it. And I still have the love

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for like crimes and helping

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other people and like, you know me maybe a family

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attorney, but I just I don't know. I

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just feel like I'm not enough,

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Like I'm not going to be good at anything.

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Kayleie, you got to get out of your head. That

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is all in your head. These are false

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illusions, false things that you are creating.

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So I'm gonna tell you straight up, like you need your

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being your worst enemy right now. And

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I say that respectfully. You

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sound very well spoken to me. I

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think it's just you like thinking how are

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people perceiving me? But once you get over that

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and you're like, you know what, I know, my shit, I

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know what I'm talking about, especially

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with lawn everything. By the way, I love like

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all those shows, the crime shows and all that I have, like

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all night every night I go to sleep sometimes watching

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that. So I get you, and I wish I would

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have gone to school for that, to be honest. So anyways, I

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think you should definitely pursue it, pursue

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your dream and don't let that little

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thing that may seem like a big thing in

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your mind. Stop you from chasing

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this dream that you have in this passion more than

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anything. So I would say, just

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speak to yourself in the mirror every day, okay,

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and just talk like if you were in a courtroom

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or just get over that. Try to just say,

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you know what I know my shit, I know what I'm doing.

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And once you're confident in that, in

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the knowledge, that is

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just going to give you the confidence that you need to

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stand before anybody and talk

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about what you got to talk about and defend whoever you got

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to defend. So I think you need

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to get yourself out of your way.

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You need to just say I got this, I know who

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I am, I know what I can do, and

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stop worrying about what other people think. You're

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too worried about how people are seeing

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you. And believe me, I'm telling you this from

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personal experience because I

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used to once. I got that whole

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idea of like how people are looking at me

10:08

when I'm on stage and thinking about

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what other people are thinking, Like I

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kind of just stepped into my own on stage,

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you know, and I just feel different. I'm like, I

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know what I'm here for. This is my calling, This is

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part of my testimony, and it just changed

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everything for me. So that's why I'm telling you this,

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and I hope that it does help. Okay,

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and thank you for watching the show. By the way, give me updated

10:28

all right, do it?

10:29

Do it?

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Okay? So our last question comes from Chantelle.

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Hey Cheekyes, I just want to

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say thank you so much for answering

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my question about my boyfriend

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not sharing his phone password with me. I

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just really value to your feedback and sis

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stay the advice, you know. So I

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did take your advice, and I'm pretty

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much on the point where I'm like, you know what, God,

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you will let me know if that man is doing

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something he's not supposed to. But for the

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most part, I have really good intuition, so

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I'm fine, you know. But my question

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for you today is do

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you have any tips for first time car buyers?

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I really don't know how

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or what steps

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I need to take in order to purchase a vehicle.

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My parents were kind of absent

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in my life and they haven't

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They're just not useful when it comes to these things, to

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be quite honest, and I'm really frustrated

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because I don't have that father figure

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to you know, ensure that I don't get

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screwed over at a dealership. You know. So,

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is there any big sisterly advice you can give

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me when buying a car?

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I'd really appreciate it.

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And thank you so much for answering my question. Love

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you so much, girls, sending you blessings,

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good vibes, everything, everything

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that's good all around. Love me you bye.

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I love your energy. Sean Tellen, Thank

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you so much for updating me. It makes

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me feel so happy that my advice helped.

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Because girl, you can't torment your mind.

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So I love what you said. I'm gonna leave

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it in God's hands. If there's anything I need to know and he's

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doing anything behind my back, the Lord will put it

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in your face and he will give you that intuition girl

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that you're let sums up. So trust

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that now in regards to you buying a car. Okay,

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So the first thing I suggest is do you have

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a down payment? Okay? You have to have that you

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know set to the side. To have a down payment. Okay,

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you have to know where you feel comfortable as

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far as you know a

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monthly payment is it three hundred five

12:29

hundred dollars? And don't let anything or anyone,

12:31

especially the salesman, Okay, do not let

12:33

him like be like walk in there and say, look, I have this

12:35

amount that I could put down and this is what

12:38

I want my payment to be. And that's

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that. Don't let anything move you from there. And of course credit

12:43

girl. I always tell you guys, you can have a bunch

12:45

of money in your bank account,

12:47

but if you don't have good credit, if you're not taking care of your fycal

12:49

score, it's gonna be very hard for you to get

12:51

a good interest rate. So it all also depends

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on your fycle score,

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your credit score, So make sure you're taking care of that, your

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down payment and knowing what you feel comfortable

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with, remembering you still need to pay

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car insurance, okay, like what you feel

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comfortable paying a month. Okay, So those

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are those are that's my advice first and foremost.

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But I mean, there are some

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great dealerships online.

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They can actually help you get an

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estimate online. So

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just make sure you do your research, okay, and

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don't worry. I didn't have a daddy either and I learned

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all this, so it's okay, we got this,

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Okay, So Jocelyn about Kaylee

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and Chantelle. Thank you guys so much for your

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questions. I hope I was able to help.

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And you guys, everyone that's listening and

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watching, Happy Valentine's Day. I

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hope you have a day full of love, a

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year full of love. Yo.

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I'm very grateful for you guys, so you're

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definitely part of my Valentine's Day. I love

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you, guys. Okay Esa La Broximac

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der Chikies right here, let's get on mucho. This

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