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Cheeky's, I'm just wondering what happened

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to the lady that used to clean your house

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when you guys had the big mansion and

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then see.

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No, oh, Jesse, that's

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a different question. Okay.

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So Melele, we used to call her Melele. Her

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name is Mercedes. You

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know what.

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We talked to her, Johnny and I talked to her from

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time to time. We just, honestly,

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thank goodness. She made our life so much easier. When we

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lived in Sino, it was a huge house, so she helped

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us out a lot, and when

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we moved and I moved into a smaller place.

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To be honest, I really couldn't afford it anymore,

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like by myself. So I

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had to just let her go. But we're

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still cool. But that's what happened. I

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mean, I've thought about bringing her back here and

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there. To be honest, I'm not gonna lie because Rabbi,

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Yeah, but she made my life so much easier. But

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but yeah, that's that's what happened with her. Now,

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now you got me thinking I've been looking

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for someone, so maybe I should call her.

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Thank you, Jesse. You just like little light

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bulb in my mind. Okay,

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guys, so our next question comes from Lisa.

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My question for you is what

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was the toughest thing that you have gone

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through in life and

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what was the lesson that you learned from

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it.

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I know you've been through a lot in life, and

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I don't know. I feel like we always learn from each other's

2:08

stories what we get

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through and how we get through them. So

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I know right now a lot of people are living some

2:15

very tough moments. I'm sure they

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would love to hear from you.

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Lisa. Oh wow, I love

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this question.

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Yes, I have been through quite

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a bit. I wouldn't even

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know. I think if I can think back

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and think of what really

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threw me to my knees

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and to the floor, I would have to say it

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was my divorce. And

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I know it sounds crazy because obviously I went through sexual abuse

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with my dad and that was tough, and I lost my mom

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and that was very tough. But when I lost my

2:46

mom, I had the kids

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and my siblings. They were so young and they needed

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me, so that kept me going. So it's like I

2:52

wanted to mourn, but I

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had to be strong. That was very painful.

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It was very very painful. But I would have

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to see say that my divorce was because

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not necessarily of who I was losing.

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I felt just disappointed. I felt

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vamboozled in a way. It was

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just tough. So it's really hard because I feel

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like God that goes at DNA like the

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lesson, you know, it has a lesson that I learned from

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everything. But I think, damn,

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you really got me here because I'm like, damn,

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no, I don't want to take anything away from every

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situation, you know what I mean, Because obviously losing my

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mom is very hard, and what happened

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with my dad. But I think what I

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learned from the separation and

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my divorce was not forcing

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things like listening to my gut,

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listening to that sixth sense

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that we, especially women

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have, and I ignored it. I ignored it

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for the wrong reasons. And I tried

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to fit my foot in a shoe that didn't fit, if

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that makes sense. And now

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that I have healed, and now that I have forgiven

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him completely, it's not really him, you

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know what I mean, Like he showed himself in

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the beginning. I just tried my best.

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I can change them, I can try to change them, and it just doesn't

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work. They have to also be willing. So

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I'm not mad at him anymore, like I accept and

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it just wasn't a fit for me, you know. And

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I put myself in that situation to be honest, and

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I knew maybe I shouldn't get married,

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but I did it. I wasn't listening to all of the

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red flags that were being shown,

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and I wasn't listening to the signs that God

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was giving me. So that's what I learned to

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really just not ignore reflags, listen

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to my intuition, and take

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action and not be afraid you know. So,

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yeah, you really made me think they're thank

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you for that, sending you a big

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kiss, Lisa, and

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now we're moving on to a question from.

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a sita roueno

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isabel. Okay,

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you guys, she was just asking what do I was

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on my skin, you know, because she feels

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that I have very nice skin. So thank you so much about that. But

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she wanted to know, besides my skincare, what do

7:07

I use or what do I do? In reality, I

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just use my skincare, I exfoliate, I wash my

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face morning and night, especially when I have makeup on. I don't

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sleep with my makeup. But yeah, I mean

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I use my products, and I use the mask,

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and I exfoliate and.

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All that stuff. And botox, I told her because I like

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botox. So that's it. That's really the

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truth.

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So is.

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All right, guys. So our last question comes from Natalie.

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I wanted to know how

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do you leave a marriage of eight years.

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We've been together for thirteen

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years, married eight we

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have four kids together. I

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have myself have seven

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kids in total. It is so hard

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to just leave or

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to just say I

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don't want to be with you, I

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don't love him anymore, I'm

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not in love with him. I love him because

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he's the father of my kids, but I

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am not in love with him. One

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of my daughters is sick. She got

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really sick, and I

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don't want to take that away from her now

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that she really needs him like a

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lot. I would just love.

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Do you what should I do?

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It is really hard. I don't know what

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to do. No say, I guess if I

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love you cheese?

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Oh, Natalie.

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This one is a toughie because

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there's children involved, because you

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know you have also a sick daughter, And I

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wouldn't want to tell you, Okay, leave him. But

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what I can tell you is you

8:50

can't make anyone happy, not

8:52

your husband, not your children, unless

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you're happy. And if you're not happy, then

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what do you doing?

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You know what I mean?

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As hard as it's going to be and as much as it's

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going to hurt people, we can't

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stay with people because we feel sorry

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for them or because we feel bad, you know what

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I mean. And I'm talking about your

9:12

husband, you know what I mean. Like, that's not a good reason

9:15

to stay with someone, or it's not a good reason to stay

9:17

with someone because of your kids. And

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I'm telling you this because my grandmother

9:21

did that. She stayed with my grandpa, even

9:24

though you know he would

9:26

cheat and you know he was he did what he

9:28

did and she would She did it for the kids, you know.

9:30

And by the time she was like, Okay, the kids are old

9:32

enough and she left him, she

9:35

say, wow, where did my life go?

9:37

You know what I mean? So I don't know. I

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mean, it's tough.

9:40

You got to think about that and sometimes just having an honest

9:43

conversation and just say, hey, I love you and

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I think we'd be better as friends and co parenting.

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And that doesn't mean that your daughter can't have her dad

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in her life.

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You know what I mean.

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And also, if your kids are old enough, hey,

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this is what's happening. Like, have an open conversation.

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Once you have it with your husband first, then

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you guys have it with the kids. Just say, hey, we're going to do

10:01

this, but we're still friends, we still love you. This doesn't

10:03

change anything or the love we have for you. But

10:05

this is going to make all of us happier. I

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think having that solid conversation or

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therapy. Have you guys tried therapy again?

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I'm not sure why you fell out of love. I don't know if he's been

10:15

a good husband. I don't know if he like things have happened,

10:17

but you have to take all of that into account and obviously

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maybe try therapy. Maybe once you guys have the conversation,

10:22

he's like, wait, what are you missing? Am I not giving

10:24

you enough?

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Love?

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Like if you are open with him, then maybe

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you.

10:28

Guys can give the relationship a chance and

10:30

make changes, maybe go on date night,

10:32

you know, all those little things, like you have to figure out

10:34

where the issue is. And maybe

10:36

he's not giving you something that you're

10:38

desiring, but that can be fixable

10:41

if he's a good man. So there

10:43

are different things here, you know, So you got to really just

10:45

look at everything at every angle. But I

10:47

do suggest having an open and honest conversation,

10:49

as hard as that is. You have to

10:52

you have to be honest because then

10:54

you're doing a disservice for him. It's not fair to him

10:56

if you stay with him just because you feel bad or for the

10:58

kids, like, that's not fair. So that

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is my solid and honest advice.

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So I hope it helps Natalie, because you do sound

11:06

like you're in a pickle, you know, and

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I get it. I hope I helped guys, And

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thank you guys. So much for your questions.

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Thank you Jesse, Lisa, Isabelle, and Natalie.

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I really appreciate I hope, honestly, from the bottom

11:18

of my heart, I was able to help you guys. I

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honestly love hearing from you guys. So keep the

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