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Hi Cheeky's. My name is Scierra. I

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just wanted to say that I love you and I'll make this

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a shortness I can. I'm in a relationship

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with someone. I've been in a relationship with someone over two

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and a half years. They

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were in a financially abusive relationship

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and unfortunately they are and not a

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lot of debt because of that, and

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they are in the process of still

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getting a divorce just because this other person

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is not agreeable and it's just a whole

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mess. But I've been in a relationship

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with this person, so legally he's still married,

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but he hasn't been with this person for

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four years and it's been

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a long mess since COVID and everything

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happened, unfortunately. But

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my question is this person talks about the future

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and having a house and having everything

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together. But I feel like with

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his background and the history

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and everything about like not being financially

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smart and everything, it kind of scares me just

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because I've been on my own since I was eighteen

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years old, and I've taken care of my

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college loans and pay rent and doing

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everything. And he makes a significant amount

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of money more than I do a week and

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a month, and he still struggles financially

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even though he still lives with his parents, and his

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parents only make him pay five hundred dollars

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a month in rent when and the others

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said, I'm paying like a full rent

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and all of that. I don't know, it's just it.

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Something just makes me feel uneasy about

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it, and it makes me feel like a horrible person

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because I bring these up. But he's like, I'm trying

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to get better, but I don't see any

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improvement, and I don't know what to do.

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Ook Kiata, This

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is a tough one. It sounds like your

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man needs a financial advisor. I feel

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like he's not managing his money correctly. He's

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probably spending on things that

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he's not supposed to be spending on and

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not having his priorities straight. Mind you,

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I know divorces can be very difficult,

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so I don't want to say too much about

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that. I mean, hopefully he's doing what he needs to do to

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get out of that situation. I just

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hope that he's not looking for

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someone to get him

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or save him in a way to get him out of his

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debt. You're probably a very

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seems to be like a very a very mature

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woman that has her ducks in a row.

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So I don't know. I

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feel that there are a few red flags there and

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don't ignore them. I don't know if he's

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a good guy. I mean apparently,

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I mean it seems like he is. I mean, you've been with him for you

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sound like a smart girl. But I'm a smart girl. I

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consider myself a smart girl. But I ignored red flags.

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So you gotta have to balance things out. I think

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it's asking yourself,

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do I really see myself with this person. You

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have to weigh out the pros and the cons right

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out, literally on a piece of paper, the good things

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about him and the not so good things about him, and

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you have to weigh that out because

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you're young and he does come with

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some baggage. And that's not to say again

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that he's not a good guy, that he doesn't love you, but

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sometimes in this one, my therapist told me love

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isn't enough, and that sounds crazy

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to me because we're out searching for love and it's like,

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okay, as long as they love me and they don't hit me and they're

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faithful. But finances

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are a huge thing in a relationship

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and they will cause a divorce. So it's

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nice to hear that he's talking about future plans

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with you, But is this something that

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you're going to carry is going to be more of

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a heavy burden. So I

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don't know. I just want

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you to think about everything that I just said and

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advise him to get a financial advisor,

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someone that's going to help him manage his

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money because he lives

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with his parents. And still they're no, that's

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that's I don't know. There's something there, girl, So

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listen to that intuition. If you are asking me

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this question, it's because you're feeling something,

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you're feeling uneasy, and if you don't have peace

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with a decision, then that's an indication

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that maybe you're not in the right situation. I

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think I don't know. I'm wishing you

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the best, and thank you so much for your question. I'm wishing

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you all the best, honestly. Our

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next question comes from Steph.

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Hi, Mama, I hope you're doing good.

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I just want to start off by saying that I love you so,

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so so much, and

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that I think you're so beautiful,

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literally so freaking beautiful to every

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time, like I go on and I see that you post

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something new, I'm like, holy

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shit, Like.

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This girl just keeps getting prettier and pretty,

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Like what the hell girl guesses

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guesses Bata. Okay,

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I'm going to track on your beauty.

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Anyways, I wanted to ask,

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so, how do you deal with friendships

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quote unquote that you

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feel that they're like those hater friends,

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like that you feel something You're like, there's

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something off about this girl.

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But like like.

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In my situation, like we're a group of five and

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one of my friends, uh brought in

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a girl about like last year to

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our group. But I just feel like there's something

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off of her, and like I just don't

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like her vibe. But like, I don't want to be like that weird

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friend to be like, if she's around, I'm not gonna

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be there because that's so not like me.

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So I just don't know how to deal with that. Maybe you

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can give me some advice.

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But anyways, I love you so so so much,

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and you and me are so freaking

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cute. I can't wait to see you

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guys, you know, and your journey and

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like getting married and stuff.

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I think you guys are gonna I think he's the one

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for sure, for sure.

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Okay, Sis, I love you by all,

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Steph, you are so cute. Thank you so much.

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Michivas Day, thank you, thank you.

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You're so sweet. Okay, Well,

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girl, like at

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our age, I don't know how old you are, but I just feel

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like at this age that I'm at, like I have no

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time, no energy at all, no mental space

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to deal with like hating ass people,

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especially friends, people that

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you are going to like let into your inner circle.

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If your intuition is telling you this girl,

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I don't vibe with this girl. My energy just completely

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blocks her in some way, then you

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need to just tell your friends. Look, I

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want to be cool with you guys. I just would

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rather us do things with her

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outside of it. If she can stand outside

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the circle while I'm around, that would be great

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because your intuition is telling you that for a reason.

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So you asked me how to deal

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with it. Girl, you don't have to deal with it. You don't have to

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deal with that energy if you're I mean, she's probably

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not a bad girl, but it's just there's something there.

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Obviously she's probably made comments. I don't know, there's something

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that's telling you this and to feel this way.

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So definitely listen to that because

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that is discernment. So the Lord

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is telling you you know, and

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there's nothing wrong with it. So tell your friends. Because if you

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guys were fine and everything was good, the energy

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was nice and peaceful before she came around,

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then talk to your friends and tell them that, you know what. I still

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want to be cool with you guys, but let's do things

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just us without her. There's nothing wrong with

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that. Okay, And thank you about

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Emilio. He's a sweet guy. Thanks.

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Okay, So our next question comes from Tatiana

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and Cheekies.

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First of all, I want to say that I

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love you so much, and I

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thank you so much for creating this platform

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and allowing us to be able to send you messages.

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It's like the beautifulest way to connect

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with you, you know, getting advice from

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your big sty and stuff.

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So shout out to your girl for doing this for

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us really really means a lot.

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So my question, I hope I

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am not asking anything I'm not supposed

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to ask, but I just

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really am curious because I'm such

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a fan from like I love Jenny Days,

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you know, whatever happened with

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Gerald? How

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is he doing nowadays?

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Yeah?

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I just kind of wanted to an update on

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on Gerald and how he is and stuff,

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because we haven't heard from him in a long time.

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And I just remember your guys' friendship.

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It was so funny and I loved watching you too

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and your Shenanigans back.

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In the day.

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So yeah, I mean, I hope I'm not stepping on a details

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asking this. I mean, if it's something that you can't answer,

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I totally understand. But

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I was just curious, all right, Mama,

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I love you so much.

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Oh, I love you too, Dadiana, Thank you so much

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for saying that, because dear Cheeky's

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is something that brings

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my heart so much joy. So I'm so happy

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to be able to have this connection with you guys, And

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thank you for your question. You were very respectful about

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it, so thank you. So people have asked

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me about Gerald quite a few times. For those of you that don't

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know who Gerald is. Gerald was my best

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friend and he was a part

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of my reality shows Cheek's and Roxy and

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then I Love Jenny, and he helped me

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out with my siblings. He lived with me for a little while

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and then a lot of stuff happened, a lot of things

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that I'm still not sure about, like clear

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about completely. I know that I made a comment

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to him jokingly and

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it just upset him, which was weird to me because I was

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like, wait, we always joke around like that. It was like

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just a joke and he didn't like it. I

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did apologize about it, but I think he has some other

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stuff that he's upset with me about.

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And there are times when I think about him, I wish

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him well. I see that he's doing comedy right

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now as well, So you guys, I think you guys can find him on

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Gerald Gamble if you guys want to see his colles

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is very funny, so I actually want to go see.

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They've been telling me that he does like stand up and stuff

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like that. So on Facebook he puts it

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and he you know, posts all that stuff.

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But anyways, that's what happened. I

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don't really know. I've heard a few things here in

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there, but i'd rather not say because I haven't talked

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to him personally. But there are

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times that I miss him because I had a lot of fun

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with him. He was very funny and

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he helped me a lot. So I'm very grateful with him about

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a few things. And I don't know. Maybe I'll invite

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him to the podcast one day to Cheeky's and chill and

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see if he wants to talk about it. You know, because

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I'm at a point in my life that I am okay

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with apologizing about being

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transparent. I know that maybe

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there are things that I did that hurt his feelings or

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maybe there's a miscommunication. So I'm

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ready. So if he sees

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this podcast, Gerald, I'm down

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if you're down. So yeah, thank you so

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much for your for your question. Okay,

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so our last question comes from Angila

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on the Cheeky's.

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He said, this is at h Town. First of all I got

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to say, I'm a hugean of you and your mama, and

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second of lot, I am so proud of you and your siblings.

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You have any major inspirations to

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me? And yeah, I am my

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prayers. I recently got very

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relationship and I started going to therapy. In the midst

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of going to therapy, I realized I wasn't

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a great friend to these individuals I

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say in the viduals because

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I feel like I lost the privilege

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of calling them friends. I would

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go to them and particularly

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this one, this one individual. I reached

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out to this individual and that I

11:22

you know, asked, asked them for forgiveness,

11:24

and they said they forgave me. But I didn't

11:27

go into much detail and we

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had a short conversation. The second

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time I reach out to this individual, I could send

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some resentment and the

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conversation was a little bit rocky. The

11:39

third time it was it

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went really smooth. Actually, you know,

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it was also based out because I didn't want to I didn't want

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to overwhelm them. So my question is

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how do I approach this individual and

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to asking them if they could potentially

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meet up with me so I can apologize to

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them in person and answer

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any questions that they may have. I understand

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that they may or may not want to

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meet up with me, So how do I potentially

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deal or prepare myself

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for rejection? I love you so much and have

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an amazing day.

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Oh Angela, this is so awesome

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that you asked this, because I feel like, while

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answering your question, I'm going to be

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giving myself advice because

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I was thinking about Gerald, you know, and I'm like, should I

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reach out to him?

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Like?

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What should I do? I have heard that he

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does not want to talk to me. I think he's really upset with

12:28

me. I just I don't know. I'm

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more of like you know anyways, And that's not about me,

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it's about you, girl. So remember rejection

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is God's protection. Always remember that. I know

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I understand because I also don't like

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rejection. Who likes rejection?

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Right?

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But what has helped me is that

12:44

statement is rejection is God's protection.

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So if they do reject you, if they don't respond, if they are

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mean, then that's your indication that you

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know what I tried, and they

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don't want to. And you have to respect people like

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you have to respect his decision or her decision.

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So I would just go for it. I mean, in

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order to live your best life and know

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what you are meant to do in this world is take You have

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to take risks. You have to just take a leap

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of faith and send

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a message and say say, I would love to speak to

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you in person. I have a few things to say, and

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I you know, would you do you take

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my offer? And maybe they'll respond. Maybe

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they'll say heck no, maybe they'll say f you. Maybe

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I don't know. We don't know, but at least

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you'll know I did my best. I

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did my part, and you

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can be the bigger person. I always help people be the bigger and

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better person. So just reach out

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and hopefully they're willing to sit down and talk to you. You

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can apologize, become friends again, rekindle

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that relationship or not. You know,

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you'll just have closure and you'll feel

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good. So that's my advice.

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That's my advice to you and to me girl. So

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I hope everything works out.

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Let us know.

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Keep us updated you guys. I love when you guys keep us updated

13:50

on Dear cheekys. Want to give you guys advice and then you

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come back and you let me know if it worked or not, hopefully it

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did. I want to say thank you to Kiata,

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Steph, That, Tiana, and Angela. Thank you guys so

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much for your questions and

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for you guys out there that want

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me to answer any questions that you may have in regards

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to love finances. Just maybe

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you want to ask a question about my personal

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