Have you ever felt so overwhelmed by the damage caused by your addiction that giving up seemed like the only option? In this episode, Luke Gordon, cofounder and coach at Choose Recovery Services, as well as a father in recovery, opens up about grappling with feelings of hopelessness when facing attachment wounds inflicted on his children because of his addictive behaviors.

Amie, Alana, and Luke discuss the crucial work of healing your own attachment trauma while simultaneously repairing the parent-child bond.

Listen to learn:

• Why addicts must examine their own attachment wounds and heal from them

• How to balance doing inner work while also parenting authentically

• The important role that repair plays in relationships

• How to overcome hopelessness, feelings of failure, and perfectionism so you can heal yourself and your relationships

Referenced in this episode:

• Now, Discover Your Strengths - book

• A.R.E. You There For Me? - past podcast episode

• Attachment Assessment - find out your attachment style

• Divorce 101 - Amie’s self-paced guide to learn the next wise steps for you

• Intimacy From Within - Amie’s self-paced course that leads couples through the seven levels of intimacy

Starting Soon!

• Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first! This workshop will help you know if you are ready to date again, understand how you’re showing up in relationships, tips and tricks for dating, and what a healthy relationship looks like. The next workshop is March 28th-30th. Register HERE.

• Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Learn practical tools and skills in a caring environment that fosters relational growth. Group begins April 3rd. Learn more and register HERE.

More from Choose Recovery Services

• Choose Healing - Support for women for women who have recently experienced betrayal. First four weeks are free!.

• Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn how to move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

• Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

• ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Support group led by Hali Roderick for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way.

• Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

• Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.

• Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and need support navigating their own experience.

• Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.

• Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C

Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee

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