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Are you a weary woman? Are
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you married to a weary woman?
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Do you have a friend who is weary?
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Perhaps the reason for the weariness is
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partly because of the expectations on
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Christian women today.
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Elise Fitzpatrick posted a question
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on social media a while back. She
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basically asked, what are the dumbest things
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people tell women concerning how
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to be godly? She thought
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she'd get a few responses. She
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was overwhelmed by the volume of response,
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as well as the depth of the comments
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and how they struck at the heart of the women
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who answered. I want you to hear from
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Elise today, because
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it takes all of us working together to push back
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against the errors concerning
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what a godly woman really is.
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I believe that, and we're going to talk
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about it straight ahead on Chris Avery Live, the program
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from the heart to the heart for the heart. And
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my guess is somebody is going to feel less
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alone today because of
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this conversation. You can find out more
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about our guest and resources we
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have for you at the website. Chris Fabry
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live. Org thanking our
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team as we start. Ryan McConaughey doing all
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things technical. Tricia's our producer in
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the chair. Lisa will be answering
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your calls today. This is our first
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live broadcast for a week. I
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was in Chicago last week, so
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it's great to get back to my regular broadcast
1:26
chair. And I have to tell you,
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I've been reading Glenna marshall's book,
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Memorizing Scripture, and
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it came across a passage in Ephesians
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four that Glenna mentioned, and
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I wrote it down. And I thought, you know,
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I don't memorize as much anymore
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because, you know, I've got it in my hand. I
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can Google whatever, I can remember a couple of words
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and get to the passage. But
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I haven't memorized as much lately.
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And I came to this in Ephesians four
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and it says, I'll read it. You
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know, I could close my eyes and try to do it. Bear
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with one another in love,
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eager to maintain the unity
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of the spirit in the bond of
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peace. And I
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just ruminated that on
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the in the airport and then on the airplane
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and coming in and just allowing
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those phrases to kind of wash over
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me. And something happened.
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It worked on me from the inside
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out. But a lot of people today
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say, hey, you don't know me. You don't know my brain.
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I can't remember a whole lot of anything.
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I want to send you a copy of Memorizing Scripture.
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See if Glenn his words will motivate
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you and give you
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a vision. May hope
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that you really can hide God's
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Word in your heart, no matter what your age.
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And that activity will
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change the way you think. Change
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the way you react in some ways
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which is God himself. Call or click
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This is our thank you and the month
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of March which we're all
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quickly getting on the other side of
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down the middle of anyway. Okay.
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You know what I mean. Elise Fitzpatrick
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holds an Ma as certificate in biblical
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counseling. She's written 25 books
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or so on daily
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living and the Christian life. She's a
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frequent speaker at national conferences,
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including the Called conference at
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Moody on April
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13th. We have a link to that conference
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at her website. Chris. Favorite live
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org? She's been married more than
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40 years to Phil, three
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adult children, six grandchildren.
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She's joining us today from Escondido.
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Elise, welcome to the program. How are you doing today?
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I'm really well, Chris, thanks
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so much for having me.
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Do you agree with me about the power of
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scripture memorization that I just talked about?
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Absolutely, absolutely.
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You know, it's interesting. I
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have I do think
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it's important to spend
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time, um, in
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certain passages seeking to
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memorize them, make them
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part of you. And,
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and in addition to that,
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just being in.
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Scripture as much as you
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can to just
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let it permeate your
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thought. You know, I've been I've
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been a believer since 1971,
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which makes me a little old. And,
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um, and I've spent
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pretty much every day.
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Not every day, certainly, but pretty much
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every day in Scripture and
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memorizing Scripture
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and just letting it,
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listening to it, letting it
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be part of
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how I think. And,
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you know, it's it's just so important,
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I think, particularly now, because
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there are so many voices
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speaking to us, I
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think particularly as women, um,
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and we and we need to have
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the truth embedded in our
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hearts. And memorizing
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it is a is a the
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best way to do that? Yes.
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Because you ruminate because it you
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give the spirit something to work with. And and
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you know, I've heard people say that, but
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what you just said kind of puts
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the finger on our topic today because
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there's there's someone listening, there's a
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woman listening who heard you say, I've been
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memorizing, I've been in the word
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every day for 50 plus years.
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And she's going to say, oh, no, at least it's
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going to tell me that I have to have an hour
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quiet time. She's going to tell me that I've got to
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memorize all of Romans and
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Psalm 23, you know, etc. Elise
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is going to give me a list about being a
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godly woman. And that's exactly
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the opposite of what you want to do. Um.
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You know, it really is. And,
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um, yeah, I've I've been
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a Christian for more than 50 years,
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but really,
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getting to know Scripture
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and getting to know the Lord
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is not, um,
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is not something that
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I want to codify
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by saying, okay, you need to spend an
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hour a day in Scripture. Listen,
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really, up until the last
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maybe 100 years, uh,
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most Christians didn't even have a
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Bible. And
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that's not to say that we shouldn't use
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the Bible or have it be part
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of our lives. We're so
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immensely privileged. But obviously
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there are people even today around
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the world that don't have the
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Bible. And so
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then they they listen and
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thank God. You know, I hate
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to even say this, but thank God for the internet,
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um, because people are
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able to listen to Scripture
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now in ways that they never have before.
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But the thought that
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and this is really what I'm trying
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to get at, the thought that
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if you don't spend an hour a day
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in Scripture, um,
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or you don't have a specific
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quiet time every day
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and listen, I read the Bible pretty
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much every day, and
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I have a have a time
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with the Lord pretty much every day
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and have had for 50 years,
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um, that if
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that if you don't do that somehow,
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somehow you are less
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than what God wants
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you to be. And
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so I think that
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the message that women are
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receiving is
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a message that really
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ends in condemnation
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or them feeling guilty.
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And, Chris, you know, you
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don't ever want to be around
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anybody that you know, disapproves of
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you. Uh, I
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used to I used to have an aunt
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that I was I was pretty sure
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she didn't really like me,
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but my mother would say to me, go
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visit Aunt Biddy. That wasn't her name.
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But anyway, go visit Aunt Biddy.
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Uh, because, you know, you should go see
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her. And I didn't want to go
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see her because I knew she disapproved.
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Uh, you know, if we come to
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quiet time or reading
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scripture or memorizing scripture,
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uh, because we think we're going to try
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to earn God's affection
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by doing it. Um,
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then when we
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when we don't do it enough.
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And honestly, for my heart, it's
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never enough. Um,
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then we'll think that God is somehow disappointed
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in us or disapproving
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of us, and we won't want to be around
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him. The thing that will make
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us want to be around
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the Lord is really
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ruminating on and remembering
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how he has loved us
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in Christ and
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called us already,
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uh, perfectly forgiven
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and perfectly obedient
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because of the work of Jesus
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Christ, His Son. And so
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because of that, then I want
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to be around him, and
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I want to know His word, because
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I know that
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he loves me. And what he
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has for me is is
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good. You know, as a grandma,
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um, my kids
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know that I love them, my grandkids
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to know that I love them and
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they, I believe, want
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to be around me probably more when they
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were littler. Now that they're
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all now that they're all teenagers are
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older, maybe not so
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much, but, uh,
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they wanted to be around me because
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they knew that if anybody
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on the planet loved them, it was me.
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See, we can tell people
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you need to memorize scripture.
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You need to pray. But you
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know, if you think that God really doesn't
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approve of you, or you're maybe
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not working hard enough that he
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would approve of you, if if
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you think that you're not going to want to do
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it, you can force yourself to do it, but
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you're not going to want to.
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Yes. So so
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I want to ask you, as you listen to Elise
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Fitzpatrick today, her
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question was, what are the dumbest things people tell
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women concerning how to be godly?
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You want to answer that question? What
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is the the misconception?
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Or maybe you think, no, this is this
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is what you've been told in order to be godly
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and you've been on that treadmill.
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I want you to call us today. (877) 548-3675.
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What have you been told or what is that you're
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you're concerned about? One
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of the questions that Elise asked
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in the video that I saw was, does your
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Christianity feel like rest
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for your soul, or
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does it feel like another obligation?
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Because Elise feels like there's an
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awful lot of exhausted
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women. And to talk about
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the the called conference that she's
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going to be speaking at, at Moody in April
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is like you feel too exhausted to be called
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to do anything more so
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and you don't need that. I mean, that's what you
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might think. I hope you call (877) 548-3675.
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That's our number. Go to the website Chris Fabry
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live org. You'll see
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a featured resource there where you'll see
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a link to
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the called conference, a
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book by Elise called worthy
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Celebrating the Value
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of Women. And if you
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are weary, I want to let
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you talk with at least today. (877) 548-3675.
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Elise Fitzpatrick is joining us today at the Radio
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Backyard Fence. She is one of the keynote
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speakers at the Called conference is a one
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day conference at Moody April
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13th. And if you're in
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the Midwest, be thinking about that.
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Equipping Women in Ministry Leadership.
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I wanted to have Elise on here today to talk about
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that, that weariness
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that a lot of women feel,
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the treadmill that you're on
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as as a wife and a mom
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employee, you could be single,
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you could be married. Uh, doesn't
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matter. You can, but you can feel the expectation
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that is growing. And maybe it's more
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from inside that outside. I mean, we
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have to deal with that. But
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I wanted her to talk about the restiveness
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that you want us to feel
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or you want us to at least consider.
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Um, but before we do that, answer
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the question when you posted that question
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on Facebook that, um, things people
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say about what a godly woman
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is or does, what
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was the response that you received?
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You know, thank you for that.
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Um, I was really I was really kind
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of shocked and, uh, I
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mean, I ended up receiving,
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uh, hundreds, if not thousands
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of responses from women
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across the country. And really pretty
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quickly, um, I
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mean, everything from decorate
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your home so that it looks like a
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magazine to
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making your own laundry detergent
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so that, you know, you're sure you're washing
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your, uh, your family's
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clothes in organic,
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um, suds. Yes.
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To, uh, to having,
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you know, this hourlong quiet time every
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day or, um,
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making sure that your voice
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is always moderated
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so that you are
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you are quiet. Um,
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all of those things I mean, just
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some of them were
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shocking, you know, like, never, never
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admit that you're struggling because that
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means that you're not trusting God
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or obeying the Lord,
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or don't ever be transparent
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about about the way you
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about the way you struggle. Um,
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on the other hand, there's things like,
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um, do all the things that
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you're supposed to be doing for the Lord,
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and then he'll give you whatever
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it is that you're desiring, the
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desire of your heart,
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which, you know, of course, all
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of this, every bit of it
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is really part of
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this moralistic system
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which which says that
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if you live in a certain way,
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um, and however you want to
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define that from the silliness of,
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you know, growing your own,
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growing your own wheat, and if you want to do that,
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do that, that's great. Or,
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uh, you know, all the way to
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never, never correcting,
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uh, your husband. Um,
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I all, all of that,
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you know, being quiet all
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the time is really simply
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a way to try to
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earn God's favor.
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And all of that
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really flies in the face
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of the gospel and what Jesus
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Christ has done. You know,
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we don't have to earn
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God's favor. We already
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have God's favor
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because of the perfect
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life, death, and
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resurrection of Jesus Christ.
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So it's folly.
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And honestly, it just
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will exhaust us
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to try to earn
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God's favor when we already
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have it. Yes, but then also
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our our hearts are never
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are never going to be satisfied that
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we've done enough. And,
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um, and then of course, whenever we,
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whenever we face difficulties
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suffering of any kind, that
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kind of thought that
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you have to earn God's favor will then
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come back around and say to you, see,
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God is mad at you. That's why you're suffering.
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So we want
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to encourage women
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and and women who believe
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that they're called to help other
17:03
women. And that's one of the things we'll be doing
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at the Called conference. But we
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want to encourage women to
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know that their confidence
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is in the Lord and what
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he has done, not
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in themselves and what
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they can do in order to perfect themselves
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or their ministry to others.
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But the the more comfortable
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controlling way to live
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is. Is the quid pro quo.
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If I do this, God's going to do that.
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And so then people walk away from their
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faith because God didn't do that. And I thought I
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did this. And so, you know, we
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call him on the bargain that we made,
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but he didn't, you know,
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and and so and then we try
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to figure it out. Well, what what did
17:48
I do wrong here. There's a there's another one you mentioned
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in the video. If your children misbehave,
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it's because you don't have enough faith. You
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know, if you're if life goes off the rails
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with your kids in some way,
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you're the problem. And sometimes
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parents, you know, parents are
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culpable for things that they'd done
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for the decisions they make. Absolutely.
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But your children's lives are
18:11
their lives, and they have to make their own decisions
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and find their own way. And for you to
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then take the responsibility of that
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and live under the condemnation, like you were saying
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of that is an exhausting,
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soul stealing
18:25
proposition, isn't it?
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Absolutely. And I think particularly
18:30
for parents, because so
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much has been
18:34
said about the things
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that parents should and
18:39
should not do, that
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would, in essence, assure
18:44
them that their children
18:46
would become, you know, super
18:49
star believers. Um,
18:51
and I know that when my kids were
18:53
young and they're, they're all in their 40s
18:55
and 50s now, but when my kids were
18:58
young, I really felt like
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there was if I could just be a
19:02
good enough parent, my husband
19:04
could just be a good enough parent.
19:07
Then our children would
19:09
serve the Lord. And honestly,
19:11
thankfully, and not because of anything
19:13
I did. Uh, out of sheer
19:15
grace. My kids do love the Lord,
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but, um, I,
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I know that I really
19:23
drove them because
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I was afraid that
19:28
they were not going to be
19:31
the kind of the kind of people
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I hoped that they would be. And
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I've talked to parents, really, across
19:38
the country who carry
19:40
so much guilt and
19:43
shame because their
19:45
children, um, that they
19:48
raised hopefully
19:50
they fought to serve the Lord
19:52
have have turned their back on
19:54
the Lord. And what I wanted,
19:56
what I want to say to
19:58
to parents who have kids
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in the home right now is,
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um, you're
20:06
not you're not responsible for your
20:08
children's salvation. And I say that
20:10
to parents whose kids are out of
20:12
the home. There is only one
20:14
person who's responsible
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for your children's salvation. Salvation
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belongs to the Lord.
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And, um, so
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that's something that the Lord has to
20:26
do by his spirit.
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And he may or may
20:31
not use the
20:33
work you do with your kids.
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And honestly, I think we exhaust
20:38
them and we exhaust
20:40
ourselves always
20:42
trying to look through what they're doing,
20:44
what they're saying, trying to
20:47
assure ourselves that we're doing the right thing.
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Parenting is just one of those
20:51
one of the many, many
20:53
areas where where
20:55
women are just exhausted.
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Yes. Um, I want to go
20:59
back to something you just said a minute ago about
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struggle, though, that the
21:04
one of the things that exhausts women
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is don't tell anybody else
21:08
about your struggles. Keep it to yourself.
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It's almost like, uh, we are
21:13
told some are told, uh,
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don't, don't have struggles. Because
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if you have struggles, then you're a failure.
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And you know, you don't want to be a failure
21:23
as a Christian. And I think
21:25
exactly the opposite. And we were just talking
21:27
about this last week, um,
21:29
with a couple of friends of mine. It's like struggle
21:32
if you are if you're asking the question, have
21:34
I committed the unpardonable sin? You
21:36
you haven't because you're asking the question.
21:38
You're worried about it. You know, you're
21:41
you're struggling in your relationship with
21:43
God and you want to feel okay.
21:46
And that desire to feel
21:48
okay. I get
21:50
it. But at the same time, you've
21:52
got to exercise that faith muscle
21:54
muscle at that time to
21:57
allow God to show you this is not
21:59
about you. Try and harder. It's about him
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at work in your heart. Talk about that.
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Mhm.
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Yeah. And that's
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really something that you
22:09
know there's, there's this that we
22:11
have to hold in tension. There
22:13
is a balance which you know that's
22:15
a difficult word, but there
22:17
is a balance between really
22:20
understanding the ways in which
22:22
I continue to live. The way
22:24
Paul talks about in Romans seven,
22:26
the things I want to do, I don't do
22:28
the things I don't want to do. Those are the
22:30
very things I do. So there's
22:33
that part. But then there's
22:35
also then there's also
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an understanding that
22:39
it's the grace of God that's causing
22:42
me to grow and change.
22:44
So what I don't want
22:46
to do is be the sort of person
22:48
that says, uh, I've got
22:50
my act together, be like me.
22:53
On the other hand, I don't want to be
22:55
a person who says I.
22:57
I'm not growing at all in the
22:59
Lord. I want to and
23:01
you know, Paul, the one who wrote Romans
23:04
seven also said, I
23:06
am I am pursuing
23:08
basically with everything I
23:10
have, God's upward call
23:12
of my life in Christ Jesus
23:15
so that, you
23:17
know, we we hold that intention.
23:20
Chris, I am
23:22
both a sinner and
23:24
a saint at the same time.
23:26
And so I want people
23:29
to know, hey, I'm no different
23:31
than you. I'm just like you. So
23:33
you can have hope that the Lord will use
23:35
you. But also, on the other hand,
23:38
I want to say I
23:40
want to press hard after
23:42
the Lord and what he's called
23:45
me to do, which means that I
23:47
live a life of confession and repentance.
23:50
Yes. Um, and
23:52
it strikes me that as far
23:54
as the struggle goes,
23:56
it's when people have called.
23:59
Well, it's when the psalmist really gets
24:01
real and says, how?
24:03
How long? Oh, Lord, you know, why
24:06
aren't you listening to me? Why aren't you hearing the cry
24:08
of my heart? I feel like this. And
24:10
the psalmist, usually by the end,
24:13
brings himself around
24:15
to the truth of who God really is.
24:18
But on on this program, when people
24:20
will call in and we'll talk about their own struggles,
24:22
that is so comforting
24:25
to other people to say, I'm not alone,
24:27
I don't. There's somebody else that's
24:29
in the same. So admitting
24:32
that and talking about that can
24:34
be one of the most freeing things that you
24:36
do for yourself and others in the body,
24:38
don't you think?
24:40
Absolutely. And I love
24:42
it when my pastors
24:44
and I have two,
24:46
two elders in my church who
24:49
carry the primary preaching
24:51
of, you know, the messages
24:54
to my church. And I love it
24:56
when they are transparent
24:58
and say, you know, today we're
25:00
talking about, let's say, anxiety.
25:03
Uh, and I want you to know, this
25:05
is how I struggle with anxiety.
25:09
See that that,
25:11
you know, I think some people think, well, you
25:13
know, when you say that, then that means
25:15
that you're not really you, you
25:17
know, walking in faith or something. Listen,
25:20
that really encourages me, that
25:22
somebody that I know loves
25:24
Christ also struggles
25:27
in a way that's similar to ways
25:29
that I do. And that gives me hope
25:32
that God can use me as well.
25:34
Amen. All right. Is this striking
25:36
a nerve in your own heart? As you listen
25:38
today, I'll open the phone lines again. (877) 548-3675.
25:45
At least Fitzpatrick is with us today.
25:47
Find out more about her at the website Chris
25:49
Fabry live org. Rolland
26:04
Warren sent an email a little earlier
26:06
today. Rolland is CEO
26:08
and president of Coronet. And
26:11
he told a story about Valerie.
26:13
Valerie said, I'm a miracle.
26:15
When I'd been in my mother's womb for almost
26:18
three months, the doctors declared a miscarriage
26:21
and performed a DNC abortion.
26:23
Two weeks later, my mother knew she was
26:25
still pregnant, and around her initial
26:28
delivery date, I appeared
26:31
a healthy £9, 22 inch
26:33
baby without a scratch on me.
26:35
I met the doctor who performed the DNC.
26:38
Years later, Valerie, I
26:40
know I did a good job. You shouldn't be here
26:43
is what he said. That
26:45
experience reminds me, Valerie
26:48
says, every time I sit across from
26:50
a woman considering abortion, that life
26:52
is a miracle. It
26:54
was never my plan to work at a pregnancy
26:56
center, but here I am every
26:58
day, embracing my
27:00
own God given story.
27:03
How I survived. Only
27:05
God knows. But I'm alive.
27:08
And in the mornings I pray I am living
27:10
God's plan when I offer a hope and a future
27:13
to women frightened about the unknown.
27:15
That's the kind of person working
27:18
with and for can't
27:21
today click the green button at the website
27:23
Chris Fabry live. Org. There's
27:25
a welcome there to you as a
27:28
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27:30
can download a free devotional,
27:32
A lifeline of Hope.
27:34
It's a 40 day free
27:36
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27:38
that the other really
27:40
good thing is that you'll start to pray for
27:42
people like Valerie on the front lines,
27:45
and for the men and women who are struggling
27:47
to make this life
27:49
decision. Click the Green Connect
27:52
button. Find out more about the Pro Abundant
27:54
Life Ministry of Connect right there.
27:56
Go to Chris Fabry live. Org.
27:59
Elyse Fitzpatrick is joining
28:01
us today at the Radio Backyard Fence.
28:03
She's written a book called worthy Celebrating
28:06
the Value of Women. We have that click
28:08
through today's information and the audio,
28:10
and you'll be able to see that. She's also
28:13
speaking at the Called conference
28:15
at Moody Bible Institute on Saturday,
28:17
April 13th. And
28:19
there's information about that as well.
28:21
We have a we have a green button for everything for
28:23
you today. Just go to Chris Fabry live
28:26
org. And if you are
28:28
a woman in the Midwest
28:31
and you feel like there's something
28:33
more and this is not to add
28:35
anything, at least this is not to add
28:37
to a woman's, uh, you
28:40
know, expectation. You have
28:42
to do this in order to be a godly woman. Right?
28:46
Right. You know, um, yes.
28:50
We're we're we're spending, uh, some
28:52
lovely time here this morning talking
28:55
about how it's important,
28:57
uh, to to rest
29:00
in what Christ has done. And
29:03
then we're talking about attending a
29:05
conference on being called
29:07
to serve others
29:10
your sisters, your family,
29:12
those around you, um,
29:14
because of what Christ has done for you. And,
29:17
you know, I think, Chris, that the
29:19
thing that that really makes a difference
29:22
is, do
29:24
you do you want to serve God because
29:26
you're trying to earn
29:28
something or prove something?
29:31
Or are you serving God out
29:34
of gratitude? And
29:37
honestly, if you're serving
29:39
God because you're trying to earn something
29:41
or prove something, or you think
29:43
things really depend on you,
29:46
uh, then then that's
29:48
going to be onerous. It's going to be really, really
29:50
difficult. But if
29:52
instead you're wanting
29:55
to serve those around you and you can
29:57
do that really well by coming to the called
29:59
conference, um, you
30:01
can learn about how to do that.
30:03
If you're doing that because
30:05
you recognize that you are loved
30:08
and that you are called to
30:11
rest, uh, to
30:13
do your work from a place of
30:16
peace. And you
30:18
you are filled with gratitude
30:20
because of what the Lord has
30:22
done for you. Um,
30:25
then that will make all the difference in the
30:27
world. Uh, recently,
30:29
Chris, I had an opportunity
30:31
to, um, to visit
30:33
a ministry here in San Diego,
30:37
and I was really touched by the fact
30:39
that there were people who
30:41
were who were suffering,
30:44
um, in, in my in my lovely
30:47
city in San Diego. I was really
30:49
I was really touched by that.
30:52
And I thought, you know,
30:54
Jesus saw me in
30:56
my suffering, in
30:59
my, um, uh,
31:01
in the, in the troubles that
31:03
I had in part made for myself,
31:06
but also that, you know, we're just part
31:08
of living life. And he
31:10
didn't look away. Therefore,
31:14
I don't want to look away
31:16
from the suffering that I
31:18
see around me. And you
31:20
see, it's that motivation,
31:23
Chris, that makes the difference
31:25
between whether or not I'm
31:28
working to try to get
31:30
approval, to try to get
31:32
the approval of others, or to try
31:34
to get the Lord's approval, or even
31:36
my own approval to try
31:39
to prove something. Or if
31:41
I am working because
31:44
I'm filled with gratitude
31:46
for what the Lord has done
31:49
for me. Uh, even
31:51
though of course I, I don't
31:53
deserve any of it. But
31:55
you see, if if there's that gratitude,
31:58
Chris, he didn't look away from
32:00
you, and he hasn't
32:02
looked away from me. And
32:05
those of you who are listening
32:07
here today, the Lord hasn't looked away
32:09
from you. Therefore,
32:12
because of that, how
32:14
can your life be spent not
32:16
looking away from the suffering that surrounds
32:19
you, but instead pouring
32:21
your life out to help others
32:23
find that that joy
32:25
and rest that Christ talked
32:28
about.
32:28
Or feeling like I have to soar.
32:31
I'm. I have to solve all the problems
32:33
and taking on and then
32:35
feeling like, well, if I can't solve
32:37
all the problems in the world, I'm not going to do
32:39
anything. You know, it paralyzes and
32:42
the enemy loves to do that. He loves to
32:44
show that in your heart that it seems
32:46
like, don't do that, because then you're going
32:48
to have to do this and this and this, and you're not enough
32:50
for that. And, um, looking
32:52
away, that's a really good way to, to
32:55
put it. And maybe there's a woman listening
32:57
today who feels like, I feel like God has
32:59
looked away from me. Let me, uh, bring
33:01
Stephanie into the conversation. Hi,
33:03
Stephanie. You're on with Elise.
33:07
Hi, Elise. Hi, Chris.
33:09
Right to have you.
33:14
To go right ahead. Stephanie. What did you want to say?
33:18
Um, I just wanted to thank Elise for bringing
33:20
this topic up. Um, in regards
33:22
to us women and in the church,
33:25
and where we're not sharing
33:27
and being authentic with each other, where the
33:29
enemy has us in a place of
33:31
bondage, um, when we're not
33:34
sharing with each other. This is something that I've
33:36
been struggling with for a while.
33:38
And in this season, he just shows me that,
33:41
you know, silence keeps, keeps
33:43
us in bondage and creates
33:45
more victims.
33:47
Um, and it seems as
33:50
the church, we're focused
33:52
on the outward, on the world
33:54
and doing good and doing work,
33:56
but we're not addressing the issues
33:59
within the church and within our
34:01
family. Um, that's
34:03
all I you know what.
34:04
Stephanie, I and.
34:05
I, I hear a little voice behind
34:07
you, too. How do
34:09
you have a child there?
34:11
I do. She'll be two on March 30th.
34:13
I actually have four children.
34:15
Do you have four? So?
34:17
So this whole of
34:20
feeling exhausted and there's
34:22
got. I got to do more. I got to that.
34:24
That kind of resonates with you as well,
34:26
right?
34:27
Yes. As I sit here in front of my
34:30
online schooling, going back to school
34:32
for, uh, Christian ministry. Yes.
34:34
Wow, wow. There's
34:36
a lot going there at least. What do you say?
34:39
Yeah. Well, first of all.
34:42
Uh, Stephanie. Thank you. Thanks
34:44
for calling. Thanks for being
34:46
the woman that you are, that
34:48
you're. That you're seeking
34:50
to, uh, minister, uh,
34:53
to your
34:55
children, your family,
34:57
and also to women around
35:00
you. So you're taking courses
35:02
to do that? That's really. That's
35:04
really beautiful. Um,
35:06
so thank you for that. I,
35:08
I, I really agree with you
35:11
that there
35:14
needs to be a place
35:16
and, and it needs to be a safe
35:18
place where you
35:20
can talk about
35:22
the kinds of struggles that you have
35:25
with others who, uh,
35:27
agree with you, who
35:29
are in the fight with you
35:31
and who can be
35:33
encouraged as they as they
35:36
watch you, um,
35:38
as they watch you, even in the struggle
35:40
and continuing to persevere.
35:43
So, you know, thank you.
35:46
Thank you so much for that.
35:48
And, you know, I, I really
35:50
want to encourage the women who are
35:52
listening. You
35:54
know, there's there's a thing that goes
35:56
on, on social media where, you know,
35:58
your house is supposed to look a certain
36:00
way and your kids are supposed
36:03
to look a certain way, and you're supposed
36:05
to be, you know, healthy and fit
36:07
and all these things. And, you know, none of
36:09
that is wrong in itself.
36:12
But so many women
36:14
don't feel like they're measuring up,
36:16
and then they keep that as
36:18
a secret. Or perhaps
36:21
they're even being sinned against by someone,
36:23
and they keep that as
36:25
a secret because they think that they're
36:27
not supposed to talk. And
36:30
I just want to I want to encourage
36:33
women who are listening to,
36:35
to find 2 or 3
36:38
trusted allies
36:40
with whom you can share
36:42
what's going on in your life,
36:44
and then that you can pray
36:46
for and encourage one
36:49
another. And, you know, we we
36:51
need to stop pretending
36:53
that we are somehow
36:55
better than we are. And
36:58
then remember that the Lord
37:00
is with us through it all.
37:02
I was just going to ask you, so how do you find a safe
37:05
place? Because I agree with that and
37:07
you just answered it. But let me ask
37:09
you again. Do you say find 2 or
37:12
3? How do you find those 2
37:14
or 3? How do you know this person
37:16
is safe and is
37:18
an ally, rather than
37:20
someone who will
37:23
bring more expectation to you?
37:25
Or do you? Or can you know that.
37:28
Uh, you know that that happens in relationship?
37:31
It happens in community and
37:33
it happens over time. So,
37:36
you know, obviously you
37:38
can go to someone who by
37:41
vocation is a counselor
37:43
and can help you. And
37:45
I believe that that's a really
37:48
wonderful resource for
37:50
women, but also
37:53
to to build relationships
37:56
with people with whom perhaps
37:58
you share a little bit of
38:01
your life to see, okay,
38:03
are they going to be trustworthy
38:06
with what I've given them?
38:09
Uh, are they going to
38:11
point me toward Jesus Christ?
38:14
And, you know, he's the one that
38:16
says, come unto me, all
38:18
you who labor and are heavy
38:20
laden, and I will give
38:22
you rest. Take your
38:25
take my yoke upon you,
38:27
and learn of me. For I
38:29
am gentle and humble in soul,
38:32
and you will find rest
38:34
for your soul. So Jesus,
38:37
is this a person who's going
38:39
to point me toward the Lord
38:41
and the rest that he's offering
38:43
me? Or is this a person who
38:46
just wants to give me some
38:48
easy fix? You know, five
38:50
steps to Being a Better you?
38:53
Um, that happens in community
38:55
and relationship, and it's
38:57
not something that generally
39:00
happens overnight.
39:01
It also strikes me that we've been
39:04
talking about struggle. And Stephanie, thank you for
39:06
being totally vulnerable and
39:08
honest with us here today. God bless you, friend.
39:11
Um, when a person
39:13
who is okay with your struggle
39:15
or okay listening
39:18
to what is really going on and
39:20
even asks more questions, well,
39:22
you know, tell me more about what what what is going
39:24
on and is not there so that
39:27
they can give you, you know, five
39:29
verses and, uh, send
39:31
you a link to a sermon that they just heard,
39:33
although that can be good too. I'm not saying
39:36
don't give it, but if but if their
39:38
desire is to to be with
39:40
you, to be present with you, I think that's
39:42
a hint. This might.
39:44
Be.
39:44
The kind of person that Elise Fitzpatrick
39:47
is talking about. If you go to.
39:48
The website Chris.
39:49
Fabri Live, or you can find
39:51
out more about that called conference
39:54
that's coming up in April at,
39:56
uh, in Chicago at Moody Bible Institute.
39:58
Just go to Chris Fabry live.
40:01
Org more straight ahead.
40:03
On Moody Radio. Elise
40:14
Fitzpatrick, author speaker,
40:17
is joining us today at the Radio Backyard Fence,
40:19
and I wanted you to get this on your radar.
40:21
If you're a woman and you're in the Midwest
40:24
or maybe outside the Midwest and can
40:26
make it to Chicago in April,
40:28
the called conference, we have a green
40:30
button for you. Click the called conference. You can
40:32
find out more about all the speakers, all the workshops,
40:35
all the worship that's going to go on.
40:37
But Elise is one of the keynote
40:40
speakers, and she's written a number of
40:42
books, including one that she
40:44
wrote with Eric Schumacher called worthy
40:47
Celebrating the Value of
40:49
Women. And that plays into our
40:51
conversation here today. So click
40:53
through today's information. You'll find out more about
40:55
that worthy celebrating the Value
40:57
of women as well as information
40:59
about the Called conference.
41:02
Hey men, this might be if you're
41:04
your wife is just feeling this,
41:07
uh, call to be called
41:09
and to do, you know, be all she can be.
41:12
Uh, this might be something that you can
41:14
help with as well. So
41:17
again, it's at the website. Click the green button
41:19
for the called conference at Chris Fabry
41:21
Live. Org Elise
41:24
what gives women
41:26
value then if it's not in
41:28
what I can do the treadmill I can get
41:30
on the success. You know here's Elise,
41:33
she's written all these books, she's a plenary
41:35
speaker, etc., etc.. So you're
41:37
saying that's not the value of women?
41:39
Where is that value? Uh,
41:42
where does it come from?
41:44
Yeah. Thank you Chris. Um,
41:48
well, of course, first of all, my
41:50
value comes from the fact
41:52
that as a woman, I
41:54
have been created in the image of God.
41:57
And so, you know,
41:59
in Genesis, God
42:02
says, let us make mankind
42:05
in our image and in the
42:07
image of God. He created them
42:10
male and female. He created
42:12
them. So as a woman,
42:14
I have value simply
42:17
because. I
42:19
am created in the image of God.
42:22
And, um, I
42:24
think it's really important for women
42:26
to rest in the fact
42:28
that they are created
42:31
in the image of God, neither
42:33
more nor less
42:36
than their brothers. So
42:38
both male and female
42:40
are equally created
42:42
in the image of God. So
42:44
that gives me value to start
42:46
out with. But then secondarily,
42:49
as a believer, as
42:52
someone for whom Christ
42:54
died, then I
42:56
have ultimate value
42:58
to the Lord because
43:00
and not because of what I have
43:02
done. You know, it's that it's that song
43:05
that we sing all the time. Nothing
43:07
in my hands I bring simply
43:10
to thy cross I cling. So
43:12
it's because of the perfect
43:15
life, sinless
43:17
life, the substance,
43:19
missionary death, the bodily
43:22
resurrection, and
43:24
the bodily ascension of Jesus
43:26
Christ that I have
43:29
put my faith in. And
43:31
of course, that faith is a gift. Ephesians
43:33
two tells me that faith is a
43:36
gift. So I have
43:38
that faith in Christ
43:40
and what he's done for me, and that
43:42
gives me ultimate
43:44
value. What that means is,
43:47
as Jesus said in John 17,
43:49
that I am loved
43:52
with the same love
43:55
with which the father
43:57
loves the son. So
43:59
why do I have value? Do I have value
44:02
because I write books or, you
44:04
know, speak? Or because I'm a grandma?
44:06
Or because what? You
44:09
fill out the list. Now, those
44:11
are not the things that that give me value.
44:13
Those are many of them, things that I
44:16
have done out of gratitude
44:18
for the fact that I
44:21
have been declared
44:23
a person of a human
44:26
of value because of
44:28
the work that God has done for
44:30
me. And so what we
44:32
did in the worthy book was
44:34
just basically start in Genesis
44:36
and go all the way through the book of revelation
44:39
and highlight all the ways
44:42
that God said,
44:44
this woman, because
44:46
of who she is as a
44:48
daughter of mine, is a person of value.
44:51
And that's to what we hope to do
44:53
at the called conference
44:55
is to say, you know, you're feeling
44:57
a call to serve God. That's wonderful.
45:00
Don't think for a minute it's all about
45:02
you. It's because
45:04
of what the Lord has
45:06
done and will do
45:08
by his power and grace
45:10
through you. Yes. So,
45:13
um, I have great hope.
45:15
I have great hope that even
45:17
though I fail, and I'm not just
45:19
saying that, you know, willy nilly.
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Oh, yeah, I'm fail. I'm like, no, actually,
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actually, uh, my
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heart tends to be kind of a dumpster
45:29
fire. Even though I
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do that, I know that
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I'm a value to the Lord
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because he created me and
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he redeemed me, and he will
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bring me home. Um.
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You know, it makes me think, uh, let
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me tell you, the code conference is we have
45:46
a link at Green button at Chris Fabry live org,
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and you can find out more about Elise
45:51
Worthy celebrating the value of women.
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But it makes me think, especially coming up to Palm
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Sunday. And then all that happens during Holy
45:58
Week, the vital place
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that women played in
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that, in the way that that story
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worked itself out and God
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and his kindness involved
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men and women, you know, doing
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being being there to see the risen
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Lord to to see his
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suffering and his agony and to be there,
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um, it's really, really great to think about
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and at least our time I knew would fly by.
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Thank you so much for joining us here today.
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Come back again. Okay.
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Thank you Chris.
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Thank you so much.
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Elise Fitzpatrick.
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She's going to be speaking at the Called conference. We
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have a link at the website. If you're
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in the Midwest, April 13th
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is the date for that. Chris Fabry Live
46:41
for our.
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Program is a production of Moody Radio,
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a ministry of Moody Bible Institute.
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Thanks a lot for listening.
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