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for details. Girlfriend. Wants

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to kick my brother out of the by

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guest house? That's.

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A touchy subject so, but he doesn't

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elaborate as a sailing else about it.

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Yeah. It's tough when your friends,

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your family don't like your girlfriend

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and your girlfriend doesn't like them.

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The. One thing that's important, understand because I had.

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Hard. Can count the number phone such as they had

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over the years were. Guys. Are

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in a relationship in a doozy?

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The problem is the woman and

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so. He. Brings the girl over

1:03

to the family and then the our.

1:05

Summers family members urges. Their.

1:07

Ass Holes? Yeah and so they're not nice to

1:10

or. And. The guy will let.

1:12

The. Family parade and give the girlfriend or

1:14

the wife a hard time and then

1:16

she doesn't feel safe. Been around the

1:18

family she is a feel like. He

1:21

is protecting her and that can ruin attraction.

1:23

I had a New Years ago I had

1:26

a a guy was a coaching session I

1:28

think is a coaching session there with him.

1:31

And. He he and

1:33

his fiance were meeting with

1:35

their preacher. To. Do the

1:37

wedding and the wife just did not

1:39

like the priest it all. Now they

1:41

got to the point where and was

1:43

just something like that. You know the

1:45

priest was given our a hard time

1:47

about things and he just sat there

1:49

and basically let the priest. Parade.

1:52

His fiance or give her heart on

1:54

armor with specific were but the bottom

1:56

my she didn't feel safe and she

1:59

was extremely unhappy. The and then it

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got to the point like when I was

2:03

doing a phone says rhythm is why she's

2:05

like ready to call off the whole wedding

2:08

and everything and we told me what was

2:10

going on was like yeah, your your fiance

2:12

doesn't feel like you're protecting earn as a

2:14

man, your duty is that even if

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it's not your girlfriend, your significant other. Has.

2:19

A man. All women that are in

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children for that matter that are in

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your presence or under your protection And

2:26

so therefore whether it's your priests awards

2:28

family members, you can not allow your

2:30

family members to abuse her or talk

2:32

shit or make her feel bad because

2:35

and she's not gonna feel safe with

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use necrophilia. You can protect her, they

2:39

keep her safe and when that happened

2:41

she's gonna lose attraction. She's gonna lose

2:43

interest in sex. And

2:45

will spend less time around you like in

2:47

cases like this. she's not gonna wanna. Come.

2:50

Over and hang out of other cases

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where. I. Have guys that

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are in business with their fathers and

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the out dad's older and they run

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a very successful business and a girlfriend

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or otherwise you'll come into visited the

3:03

office and just far as a dick

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to or. And the sun

3:08

allows it to hadn't as it is

3:10

Dad and his dad's the main shareholder

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in the business and so it it

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creates problems. To. The point where she

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does he want to come to the office. Because

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the new, the step or the father

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is made her feel so uncomfortable and

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so and all those cases. What

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I've instructed the guys to do it

3:29

on a personal time it's always worked

3:31

out effectively is that like in this

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case if the brother is cause and

3:35

his girlfriend feel unsafe for whatever reason

3:37

she doesn't want him there then he's

3:39

gonna have to go to his brother

3:41

or the priests to the father or

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would that's made her feel confident say

3:45

hey. As wants you to

3:48

know that. And. As get

3:50

was you eggs and example Carolina's of

3:52

your control com or the office. She

3:54

doesn't feel comfortable with your because what

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you said what you did and so

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she's upset with. You. And.

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Indirectly, it creates a problem and and

4:04

our relationship because and she doesn't feel

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like I can protector and it's your

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job. As. A man again

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to protect all the women specially

4:12

your your intimate partners. Are.

4:15

You female friends or female family members,

4:17

you can't let. People. Come over

4:19

and attack your girl and not stand

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up for and so like like at

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like the case with the guy whose

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father he works were in their business

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partners is like that. It would really

4:30

appreciate if you do me a solid.

4:33

Go. Speak Caroline apologize for we said what

4:35

he did because she has a feel comfortable.

4:37

I've told her it's okay to come in

4:39

the offices. No big deal, But.

4:41

You need to go to her and talk

4:43

to her and apologize for treating or harshly

4:45

are making her feel uncomfortable. What other I

4:48

would really appreciate if you do that because

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I wouldn't make a world of difference in

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our. Relationship. We

4:54

have to approach it from that

4:56

perspective that whoever the person is

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whether it's a priest or a

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father or in this case a

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brother or female family members are

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that are given the girl a

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hard time. they have to go

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to that person, apologize for their

5:12

behavior and what that does. It

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shows that you. Heard her,

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you understood her and your

5:19

rectifying the situation by having

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the people the cause her

5:23

to feel uncomfortable go to

5:25

were. And. Apologize. Go to launch,

5:27

go to dinner, whatever. Hug it out,

5:30

Work it out. And. Smooth things

5:32

over and so I don't know one

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with the guy of as is weddings

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about the be called off see I

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went me sat down as priest and

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told him what happened and freestyle horrible

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people in absolutely awful and so he

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got in touch with the guys fiance

5:47

and met with her one on one

5:49

and apologize profusely apologize for make her

5:51

feel uncomfortable they talked it out and

5:53

see just totally changed your attitude towards

5:55

him. She was excited to get married

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they went through with them in the.

6:00

Reading and he sent me an email after

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at his legs they were great. So literally

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the dude on the verge of not getting

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married because the the minister the priest when

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I was caused the problem. So as a

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leader in the release of the man goes

6:13

to the priests to the person's causing the

6:16

problems and says hey I would really help

6:18

me off you would call my fiance and

6:20

talk to her to she doesn't feel comfortable.

6:22

Silicon Weicker, whatever happens to be and will

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you do that a woman's gonna appreciate it

6:27

because you stood up for with is important.

6:30

And like in this case he a whatever

6:32

the issue is, you need to go talk

6:34

one on one. With. The

6:36

brother. An era. First you gotta

6:38

find out what it is that she's upset about

6:40

and why she feels or cultural and then he's

6:42

gonna have to go to the brother and he

6:44

obe up for he does he know say well

6:46

if I could get if if my brother does

6:48

this is a nurse Are you in? Be cool

6:50

with him staying. And or

6:53

he what would it take to make you

6:55

feel comfortable and and he's gonna have to

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go to the brother. Get the brother to

6:59

agree to do what is necessary and then

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go back to his. He did the British

7:03

guy go to the girlfriend apologizing and smooth

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things over and as long as she's cool

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with it and feel safer control that was

7:10

smooth things over. But as a man you're

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the leader, your the protector. It's your job

7:14

to resolve those things because if you don't.

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Do. Not going to trust you should. I

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can trust your mask and course feel like

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you're not going a protector and that can

7:24

ruin your relationship and your intimacy. Done.

7:26

You don't wanna let outside any energies

7:29

affect your relationship. You know if there's

7:31

nothing wrong with things you to personally

7:33

yet? An extra third party

7:36

is. Putting. In their two

7:38

points. Just like, why not just get rid

7:40

of that six that. And. Be

7:42

okay with your significant other arm.

7:45

But my question would be. What

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is? A brother or

7:51

whoever. Is the issue didn't

7:53

do anything It's can adjust the wife

7:55

or girlfriend. Just.

7:57

Been. Around Media.

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So in other words, the brother won't

8:02

change his behavior or apologize or whatever?

8:04

So for example, like I my grandma actually

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told me this story not so long ago

8:09

about it, that I don't really know, but

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she told me her history with her

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previous boyfriend or

8:16

husband, and they were together for years,

8:18

like 15 years or something. And

8:21

I guess the son that was like 30 years

8:23

old at the time, lost

8:25

his job and he had to move back in

8:27

with them. Well, with

8:30

a dad, and he was staying in

8:33

a room or whatever. It was a big house, but

8:35

he I guess he was staying longer

8:37

than she expected, like three months or something. I

8:39

guess he told them, oh, I'll just stay for

8:41

three months and then I'll get going. You know,

8:43

he's 30 years old, so he doesn't want to

8:46

live at home. But I guess my

8:49

aunt didn't like how long he

8:51

was staying and basically

8:53

put a boundary that

8:56

if he doesn't leave in a month,

8:58

then I'm leaving. And

9:00

it wasn't really that the guy

9:02

was bothering her or, you

9:05

know, just sitting around not doing anything like he

9:07

would be at work all day and then come

9:09

and sleep at night. But she just still felt

9:11

like she wants her own home, her own space.

9:13

And it was like a bother. And eventually

9:15

the husband boyfriend, I think it

9:18

was, chose the son, you

9:20

know, it's my son, I'm not going to kick into

9:22

the curb and leave him on the street. So if

9:24

you're not okay with it, he's not causing us problems.

9:26

He's aware that you feel this way, but

9:29

I'm going to stay loyal to my family.

9:31

And you're more

9:33

than welcome to go. And she did. And

9:36

that relationship after 15 years, they

9:38

left and she lost that. And now she's

9:40

single. So it's like, what

9:42

if the brother hasn't done anything

9:46

and she just doesn't want him there? Well,

9:48

yeah, you're going to have those situations where, you

9:51

know, for whatever reason, your girlfriend or I guess

9:53

it was a girlfriend, right? Wasn't a wife or

9:55

anything. Yeah, I think it was a girlfriend. So She's

9:57

basically giving them an ultimatum. It's either. Brother

10:00

or me. And the reality

10:02

is that. I

10:04

mean if you're out in an intimate release visits

10:06

the to you and the i guess family living

10:08

with you unexpectedly. It's not like you can have

10:11

sex in the kids anymore you can't She's not

10:13

to be able to walk, make it through the

10:15

house or whatever or you vice versa cause. You.

10:17

Never know when the the brothers gonna walk

10:20

in and stand. If you're really ship is

10:22

going to survive than is the to you.

10:25

Your. Relationship needs to com. First.

10:28

But. Select in this case the guy that own the

10:30

house. it was his son that was living with them

10:32

again via and see he was going to be There

10:34

are three months with any one of the stay longer

10:36

any like while much of the my son are you

10:38

can leave brain. And. She left

10:40

here on in. That.

10:42

Sounds like that was a relationship there was

10:44

on the way out anyways. But I mean

10:46

if you've been together for fifteen years and

10:49

your.sun moves back in his voice was be

10:51

ninety days. Part of the issue is that's

10:53

what was told. Hey. It's only ninety

10:55

days and I'll be gone within the ninety

10:57

days goes by as like well, you still

10:59

taking time to get back on his feet

11:01

and then so he lets him slide and

11:03

par. The problem there is that he gave

11:06

his word to his girlfriend that he's out

11:08

ninety days and then he went back on

11:10

his word so that's not going to make

11:12

her feel safe, trusting of mass and cork

11:14

as he says something and then he didn't

11:16

follow through. So.

11:18

And and that particular case, I'm a if

11:20

it was me. And

11:22

I got my own kid living there.

11:24

It's I mean that. as

11:27

that's a tough tough situation if you

11:29

really love your girlfriend and your relationship

11:32

is great and you want to keep

11:34

it. A Messy as a if.

11:36

He gave the word that a sun's out

11:38

ninety days and Sundays be out ninety days

11:40

and he can help set him up in

11:42

a new apartment. her or whatever it happens

11:44

to be. Awesome to me.

11:47

I've had situations like that with

11:49

my brother. And. My father. It's

11:51

like my brother will come. And.

11:53

Ask yourself whether it's money or a place to

11:55

stay or whatever and it's just feel he limits

11:57

Live in one of my house is years ago

11:59

when I lived in Orlando and it was just

12:02

gonna be for a month or two. Yeah as

12:04

six months later he was still there he was

12:06

posts we pay me monthly rent the he never

12:08

paid me a dime and read and stuff like

12:10

that for came and. He. I

12:12

was moving away with my with my English girlfriends a

12:14

matter of fact divide saw the other house and I

12:16

was moving in the one that we are renovating. And.

12:19

A like. Know. We're moving in here

12:21

and he was always was bitter cold months

12:23

so I had asked him to leave and

12:25

so you talk to staff. And.

12:27

A move. but it's important that you gotta

12:30

keep your word in that case your I

12:32

guess when your uncle's he went back on

12:34

his word, but he was well into. Black.

12:36

The girl walked out and Sledges told me

12:38

he really didn't give a shit. that much

12:41

better way. she wasn't that important to. Have

12:44

would you also put in perspective

12:46

that family comes first before anyone

12:48

else? Yes but your relationship

12:50

comes first is what? if you have

12:52

kids you guys have to be a

12:54

united front. You care and kids are

12:57

famous for Know go into mom, Mom

12:59

says no then they go to Dad

13:01

they are sequestered. Dad says yes, has

13:03

no idea the kid already as mom

13:06

and then the old. Now the child

13:08

is cause a problem between the man

13:10

and woman them and the relation between

13:12

a man or woman needs to come

13:15

first. A deal including with. His.

13:17

Son is. He. Should have moved

13:19

a son and do a different place album. good

13:21

job. figure it out but if you give your

13:24

girlfriend your word that he's either and ninety days

13:26

then after ninety days is so big you basically

13:28

said tough to the you know ray live with

13:30

a yeah my way or the highway it's like

13:32

she left and partly the reason she left as

13:35

eating keep his word so she didn't trust as

13:37

masculine core and it does the sally he really

13:39

misses or. That was a long time

13:41

ago. Find I just heard of

13:43

the story, but I think that's reasonable.

13:45

Yeah, I didn't think about it in

13:47

that way. I just

13:50

saw it as more like he's gonna stick with

13:52

his family. obviously. I personally if I had a

13:54

kid allen and kick them out I would try

13:56

to help them that if it's like there's only

13:58

so much you can do that. Blood.

14:02

Blood. And. Has been and

14:04

just like I'll just find a new one. I

14:06

guess that's. Been. Tokyo a new health family members

14:08

our beds he said bickley what happens like

14:10

in that case maybe he lost his job

14:12

or wasn't making much money is like all

14:15

be her ninety days. I'll. Get a job.

14:17

Within ninety days later he sits in his room

14:19

playing video games and stuff. When you get our

14:21

interview yeah of like that. you're like a man

14:23

of i'll give you some money I hope you

14:25

get into a new place. gets on your feet

14:27

but I need my house back so my girl

14:29

and I can. We get our free gone there

14:32

and with you here. it's like we're not comfortable,

14:34

it's interfering in our relationship. We can't. Can't.

14:36

Just walk around naked in the house or

14:38

stay up all night netflix and chill on

14:40

the couch because. You're. Walking in

14:43

and out, walking through where we are going

14:45

of the kitchen eating. oh yeah we love

14:47

you but it's there's no privacy and and

14:49

know intimacy. It's just like the know one

14:51

I feel. Guys are living at home mom

14:53

and dad and the girl that they're dating

14:56

a woman home with their mom and dad

14:58

is like no place for privacy or intimacy.

15:01

You gotta have a place where you can go below

15:03

your significant other and you're at your job as a

15:05

man if you're providing now that you gotta continue to

15:08

provide that if you tell your girl and ninety days

15:10

is gone and then you go back. and I was

15:12

like. She. Trusts it's got

15:14

closer to lose attraction, lose respect. Because you

15:16

said one thing, he did another. But

15:19

of I it for like the

15:21

opposite like the mail because I've

15:23

heard lots of stories and my

15:25

mom has been in that situation

15:27

where the guy just doesn't want

15:29

deal with the woman's children. Anything

15:32

the has to do with them like oh, once

15:34

they hit Serenades, they have to be gone. Ya

15:36

don't want them here anymore, but I feel like

15:38

that as a how to do with anything but.

15:42

Mail. On.

15:46

Like toxicity. Like. I'm like our dependency

15:48

where they need to feel like they're

15:50

the only. Priority.

15:53

Of the person. Whoa! The

15:55

reality is that is a man

15:57

is going to date a woman

15:59

who. Children. If.

16:02

He doesn't like her. children are kids. It's

16:04

like. Whether. They're adults. Who

16:06

they're teenagers are little kids and

16:08

the woman should have enough self

16:10

love to say it's like if

16:12

we're not gonna treat my kids

16:14

like party or family and and

16:17

we know family here is some

16:19

dude on fucking basically thin and

16:21

in that case it's. Health.

16:23

That the guy the guy gonna have to

16:26

leave the especially if it fits her place

16:28

frame. So. No.

16:31

I. See especially the red pill

16:33

guys. bitch about single moms a

16:35

lot and but in the reality

16:37

is that. If you're

16:40

going to do something that has kids, you

16:42

should love children. And if you don't love

16:44

kids, you should never date a woman that

16:46

already has kids. and in that case, for

16:48

whatever reason he's not in the kids did

16:50

want to be around. I'm an. Was.

16:53

It your mother than it was your mother that had was

16:55

one of her boyfriend. Yeah. Then.

16:57

Yes sir kicked kick the due to the

16:59

curb as if he's like care what your

17:01

daughter around, are your other kids around as

17:03

like me and my children If you don't

17:05

want to have a relationship with my kids

17:07

in need of white them and. Their.

17:09

of their part of me how to go.

17:12

As it is the full package it as. Fast

17:15

as you

17:17

know, Like

17:19

a single

17:21

on down

17:24

the road

17:26

France.