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the most of it at Best Western. How

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to get rid of my crazy baby

1:02

mama? LOL, yeah. I know I should

1:05

have wrapped up the love rocket. Well,

1:10

at this point in life, dude,

1:12

you're just dealing with the consequences

1:16

of failure to pull out and

1:19

making the decision to

1:21

finish inside of her.

1:23

And so now, for the next two

1:27

decades, whether you like it or

1:29

not, you're gonna be co-parenting with

1:32

the, I guess the crazy

1:35

ex-baby mama of yours. And

1:38

so it would behoove you to learn, to

1:42

really spend time on things like how to win

1:44

friends and influence people, and really

1:46

learn and develop your people

1:49

skills and your communication skills,

1:51

and getting to the

1:53

point where you make your ex feel

1:55

heard, understood as much as possible. Hopefully

1:58

she's not too much of a... crazy girl or

2:00

a lunatic and is determined to make your life

2:03

hell because there's plenty of

2:05

horror stories on the internet of guys getting

2:07

involved with women like this that don't

2:09

let them see their kids or they're

2:12

constantly using the courts to

2:14

browbeat a man who broke her

2:16

heart in essence just so she can get

2:19

revenge. Women

2:21

could be very mean and very vindictive.

2:24

I have women that I know that are married to

2:26

friends of mine and I was friends with both of

2:28

them and I know one

2:30

in particular, they

2:33

had agreed to how they were going to split

2:35

the house up and the investment properties but

2:38

like a dunce, he

2:40

went ahead and quick claimed

2:42

their primary residence over

2:45

to his ex-wife to be when

2:47

they were in the middle of the divorce and

2:50

she was supposed to get the

2:52

big house and he was going to keep

2:54

the investment properties that they had and

2:57

when the settlement

3:00

agreement came, she

3:02

wanted to keep 100% of

3:04

the house that they live in and keep in mind,

3:06

he quick claimed it. Even though he was on the

3:08

hook for the mortgage, he no longer owned the house.

3:10

He had no legal right to it even though legally

3:13

he was obligated to pay the mortgage and that was

3:15

on his part because he was stupid. She

3:20

wanted half the rental properties and so

3:22

he had to give her

3:24

a bunch of cash for those

3:27

particular rental properties and

3:30

after all was said and done, when they

3:32

finally got divorced, he was like, what

3:35

happened? We agreed and

3:38

she said, I wanted to make

3:40

it so you did

3:42

not have enough money to have another family because

3:46

they had had a couple of kids together and

3:48

he ended up leaving her. Things were bad for

3:50

a lot of years. They had not had sex

3:52

in three or four years and

3:54

it was not a good marriage, not a good relationship

3:57

and he finally left and she

3:59

looked him right. eye and

4:01

oh yeah you know you get

4:03

all the invested property they just went to

4:05

house and smiled to his face and

4:08

meanwhile she's got the knife behind her

4:11

back and just waiting for the right

4:13

moment to to

4:15

shank him with it and

4:17

he like a dunce being trusting just

4:20

quick signs a quick claim deed over

4:22

to her and she

4:24

she was doing it to scheme and

4:26

the plot against him because to her

4:29

it was trying to get as much of his

4:31

money and his assets as possible and sweet talk

4:34

him into it and then of course he signs

4:36

a quick claim deed so he

4:38

has no legal claim to it and even in court

4:40

he was talking to these like asking the judge he's

4:42

like this is what we agreed he says you

4:45

signed a quick claim deed so legally she

4:47

owns all of the house doesn't you know

4:49

and in the state of Florida when it

4:52

comes to real estate the contract has to

4:54

be in writing consideration

4:56

has to be

4:58

exchanged and in this particular case they

5:00

had a verbal agreement for a piece

5:02

of real estate but the legal

5:04

documentation was she got the deed he signed

5:06

over all of his ownership interest to her

5:10

and she went back on her word and quite

5:12

frankly she had no intention of honoring her word

5:14

it was just a ploy to get

5:16

him to relinquish all of his

5:19

rights of ownership to their primary

5:21

residence and he was still

5:23

on the hook to pay the mortgage

5:25

that's insane and I asked him about

5:27

it I was like why didn't you call

5:29

me yeah he's like I

5:31

didn't want to call my friend and admit that

5:34

I've been a bitch with my wife right and that

5:36

she did that to him I mean I learned about

5:38

all after the fact I was like I

5:40

was shocked I was shocked that this woman

5:42

did this to my friend

5:44

because I knew both I love them both I

5:46

still do and she came from a very extremely

5:49

wealthy family so it's like they didn't

5:51

need the money right but

5:53

it was a revenge thing for her it

5:56

was cold it was calculated

5:59

even though she's one of the nicest people I've

6:01

ever met. It's like, she was willing to do

6:03

this to the father of her children just to

6:05

make it, at least in her mind,

6:07

she thought that she would take so much of his

6:09

money because he's older, around

6:12

my age, that she would

6:14

prevent him from getting remarried and having

6:16

kids, which that didn't

6:18

work out, because he ended up getting remarried and started

6:20

having kids with his new wife, but

6:23

with a lot less equity.

6:25

We're talking a million

6:28

dollars plus in equity that

6:30

he lost. So that one mistake cost

6:33

that dude a million dollars of money

6:35

that was his that he was entitled

6:37

to. One fucking million dollars. That's

6:40

one moment of stupidity and

6:43

you're out a million bucks to your

6:45

ex-wife. Lie

6:47

to your face. I

6:50

have a friend that she

6:52

was dating a guy that

6:55

was still married to his

6:57

wife or whatever. And he

6:59

was in the

7:01

midst of signing papers of the divorce.

7:03

They already separated and he

7:05

was already living out of the house

7:07

and stuff. And he started dating my

7:10

friend. And once

7:12

the wife found out, she

7:14

was still a wife, she

7:17

threatened him and said, oh, well,

7:19

I heard you're talking to some lady

7:22

and she's really ugly or whatever. And

7:25

if you think you're gonna divorce me

7:27

after being with this lady,

7:29

I'm gonna get child support on you.

7:32

You're not gonna be able to see the kids anymore.

7:35

Forget about holidays and all this stuff

7:37

and basically threatening his whole life. And

7:39

he was just like, why? If we

7:41

both agreed to a divorce,

7:43

why are you so upset? But obviously

7:45

that triggered the wife's baby

7:48

mom. She wants revenge. Yeah, and she

7:50

was just like, no. Especially

7:53

if you're gonna be with the ugly woman or

7:55

whatever like that. She Got offended. So It's like,

7:57

it ended up... Surprise

8:00

in a relationship with my friend and she

8:02

ended up leaving him cause she was like

8:04

if you're not going to the voice her

8:06

arm. I don't want to be with you because

8:08

I feel like I'm. Committing with

8:10

the adult adultery. Oh yeah and to

8:13

me to her she was like the

8:15

me. it feels like you're never gonna

8:17

leave her in fear of what? Are

8:19

we? losing? Your family and cyber? So

8:21

the relationship ended up. They've.

8:23

Ended up breaking up. So.

8:26

Yeah, they answer that question. don't don't let.

8:29

Your baby mama try to ruin your

8:31

life for a future relationship. Yeah.

8:34

When you're dealing with women in a

8:36

break up and you got kids and

8:38

alimony and child support and assets to

8:40

disposal. if you're thinking about getting divorced

8:43

because I deal with that, a lot

8:45

of people it on don't phone sessions

8:47

with and it's like you've got to

8:49

talk to an attorney and your city

8:52

your country where you have no because

8:54

laws are different everywhere on there were

8:56

people all over the world and if

8:58

you're gonna have. Divorce.

9:01

Your significant other it's with before

9:03

you do there, before you file

9:05

papers. You. Need to sit down

9:07

and attorney and for an hour you're right

9:09

or what you're entitled to and what the

9:11

likely outcome is going to be base and

9:13

was in your city, state and country for

9:16

for you. You do anything because I've seen

9:18

or remember there was a guy that when

9:20

I was in a row seat it worked

9:22

for man. And he's

9:24

kind of like car he was he

9:26

swallows really religious Me a christian guys

9:28

he was really arrogant about his religion

9:30

and had the attitude like I'm a

9:32

christian I'm saved and or a see

9:34

all gone and own arm be all

9:36

we or our guard chrysler minivan and

9:38

are three point three kids and my

9:40

wife so hard and we were college

9:42

sweethearts and we're doing this We're we're

9:44

we're awesome and were gray were make

9:46

our money and. They. Had

9:48

a bunch of our investment properties

9:50

houses that they had bought fixed

9:52

up and lot I'm a rented

9:54

out some i'm they were flipping

9:56

and. At

9:59

some point they. This was after he

10:01

had laughed and started his own thing.

10:04

Because I remember his wife, she was also in

10:06

the business and we knew her. And.

10:10

I remember I she came in do

10:12

or office and sat down with one

10:14

of my other guys. I. Think

10:17

she was looking to offload or sell some

10:19

these properties or by somewhere I can't remember

10:21

what was and as she proceeds to tell

10:23

this no one of my other guys my

10:25

top guy that she had split up with

10:27

this other dude and as she starts hitting.

10:30

On. Him to see obviously

10:32

like them. And.

10:34

Hour And then we later found out from

10:36

this other guy that I guess when he

10:38

was at work or he was away during

10:41

the day she went into their company bank

10:43

accounts and emptied all the cash. And.

10:45

As she reopen bank accounts at a

10:47

different bank and just her name and

10:50

put all their. Their. Personal

10:52

bank account cash there and

10:54

all. The investment money from their real

10:56

estate properties like hundreds of thousands ours

10:58

is clean them out. He. Had

11:01

no idea. And then she served on

11:03

my divorce papers. And. He's on

11:05

nothing. He's got nothing in his business accounts. He's

11:07

got nothing in his personally tell because he and

11:09

her run. Together

11:11

and I doubt it. Direct him

11:14

pretty good was a big blow

11:16

to his ego. And

11:18

I remember after the fact that it was interesting to

11:20

get into like the pick up in the seduction community

11:22

and. And I want my friends and

11:25

I were your we would see I'm downtown. We were in

11:27

our early thirties and he was all like seven nights a

11:29

week. Trying to pick up

11:31

girls. he was fall like the

11:33

mystery method and in a pretty

11:35

good and he was always gone.

11:37

gone home with a different church

11:39

and. it was so interesting

11:42

to see this guy who was so

11:44

proud who's so arrogant and teams christian

11:46

he was saved and he's a snare

11:48

and his wife and their marriage perfect

11:50

neurons and they're all going to heaven

11:52

and the rest of us are going

11:54

to hell and and his wife just

11:57

destroyed him clean them out wrecked his

11:59

confidence and then And all this stuff

12:01

happened in the previous bus cycle. And

12:04

so he ended up getting out of

12:07

real estate all together. He doesn't even have

12:09

a real estate license anymore. And

12:13

last I heard, he was working in a mall,

12:15

like at a Macy's or something like that in

12:17

a men's clothing department. And

12:21

that dude was making multiple six figures

12:23

and killing it in real estate when

12:25

things were really good 15, 20 years

12:28

ago before the last bus cycle. And

12:31

his wife just destroyed his

12:33

self confidence, destroyed his life.

12:37

And I don't think he's not even religious.

12:39

He was taking home a different girl every

12:41

other night. He was just keeping score. To

12:43

him it was like the thrill of the

12:45

hunt. And so

12:48

he works in the mall at an

12:50

hourly job when he had been this

12:52

big dog in the real estate industry.

12:54

She really discouraged him. She demolished

12:56

him. And it happens. Because

13:00

what she did to him is totally irrational. They

13:03

knew each other most of their lives. They had

13:05

kids together. And for

13:07

her to do that, it was like a sneak attack.

13:10

She just cleaned the guy out. He couldn't even go hire

13:12

an attorney because he had no cash. She took all of

13:14

it. It's like a flash bang. Yep. Like

13:17

an EMP. Nuked his life. Yeah. She

13:20

did the Men in Black flash.

13:22

Yep. He had a reset

13:24

button on his life. You

13:27

get to the end of the game. You got all these

13:29

lies. You got all these special powers. Plug it out. And

13:31

then you lose everything. And then you go all the way back to the

13:34

very beginning of the game. Start over and get nothing. She

13:37

just threw out that game and just said, whatever. Taking

13:40

a different route. Yeah. Because afterwards she

13:42

was trying to come after him for Alamo. And he's like,

13:45

part of it was like, yeah, I'm going to... She

13:47

was making more money than he was. Because, you know, he was

13:49

working, I don't know, making 15, 20 bucks an hour

13:51

or whatever it was. And he's still

13:53

doing that. And it's like... Well, maybe

13:55

he's happy doing that now. Maybe.

13:58

Maybe. I don't know. Maybe

14:01

it was a stressful because that life is

14:03

kind of hard. Real estate is kind of

14:05

stressful to keep going and maybe he was

14:07

addicted to high. I never

14:09

talked to him about it because we were all out of the

14:11

industry by that point. It was like 2008 to 2010,

14:13

2007 to 2010. It

14:17

was a horrible time to be in real

14:19

estate. You really couldn't make much

14:21

money in the industry at the time because

14:23

nothing was really selling. Nobody wanted to buy

14:25

because everything was going down in value.

14:27

He was like, yeah, I let my real estate license go.

14:30

He was burned out. He was done with the industry

14:33

just because things had imploded

14:35

so much in the industry plus when

14:37

his ex-wife-to-be had done to him, he

14:39

was just like, fuck

14:41

it. I'm not going back. Yeah. Maybe

14:44

it's easier for him at Macy's now. It's

14:47

chill. I had another guy that

14:49

he was a personal trainer when he came to workforce and

14:52

he knew a lot of people. We get

14:54

referrals and he did

14:56

well working for us. When

14:59

the industry crashed, he

15:01

lost his house and

15:03

he ended up getting into

15:06

a relationship with a woman who did real well.

15:08

Last I heard, he works at Home Depot. I

15:13

don't like working at Home Depot. It

15:15

was fun, but they didn't treat

15:17

you nice. They didn't care about you. The

15:20

raises were by sense. It

15:22

was horrible. If

15:25

you actually did crazy sales or

15:27

something, they would congratulate you with

15:29

a little sticker. You'd

15:32

be like, oh, great effort or

15:34

whatever. I'm just like, okay. How

15:37

long did you work at Home Depot for? I think like

15:39

two years. Two years, really? Yeah.

15:42

I got raised, I think, 50 cents at most. Nice.

15:47

Big bucks. Yeah. If

15:50

I did do really good, it was

15:53

just like a sticker. Or they'll have

15:55

a cool little pizza party if we

15:57

were in high school or something. in

16:00

high school, middle school, in the

16:02

lobby. I'm just like, okay, this is my way

16:04

of praising me for all

16:06

my hard efforts and sales. How

16:09

old were you when you started working there? I

16:12

was like 17, I think. So you were

16:14

up in D land? Or were you down? I was

16:16

down here, yeah. So you started

16:18

working there in high school? Like after high school.

16:20

Like once I graduated, that's when I, because I didn't

16:22

work when I was in high school. My

16:26

mom never forced me. But

16:29

right after high school, that's when I wanted to make money.

16:31

And that was like one of, I think that was my

16:33

second job. And my

16:36

first one was Spirit Halloween. And I actually

16:38

got raised like a dollar there, or $2

16:40

for the season. Because it was season. What was it, like three,

16:43

four months they would be open? Yeah, it was like

16:46

August to October.

16:49

Because you have to set up. 90 days. Yeah,

16:52

and they actually would raise you good. Because you're setting

16:54

up, doing a bunch of things. I

16:56

got paid more there for those three months

16:58

and was appreciated more for my work there

17:00

than Hondipo. Something.

17:04

So you got to work in retail? Yeah. I

17:08

worked at Service Merchandise for three years?

17:13

Yeah. Back in the day. They're just online

17:15

now. Yeah, I know. The

17:17

original owners, they relaunched the website and so

17:20

they just sell things online now. And

17:26

it's also crazy. I don't know why I'm

17:28

crapping on Hondipo. But

17:32

even like the guys who do the

17:34

trees, like they help you with

17:36

the trees, you're not allowed to accept tips. It has

17:38

to be like undercover. Which

17:41

is sad, because you're doing all that hard

17:43

work and Hondipo doesn't even let you get the tip

17:45

for it. Well, what happens is

17:47

then people start expecting it and then they

17:49

start being an asshole to people that don't

17:51

tip them. That's where they run into the

17:53

issue. True. I

17:56

think it's like Publix. You know, we're shopping is a

17:58

pleasure. At

18:01

least that's what it used to be. They would have

18:03

it written down, you know, don't tip this as part

18:05

of our service. Right. Tip or what?

18:08

If somebody takes your groceries out. Oh,

18:10

they do that? Yeah. Never

18:12

heard of it. Well, I've seen old people, which is the

18:14

reason. Well, usually they're like, oh, can I take this off your

18:16

car? And they take the car like they're going to push it out. I

18:18

was like, hey, man, I can get my own car. Oh,

18:21

interesting. Because that used to be part of the service. Really? I

18:24

assume they still do it. No. No.

18:27

I've never seen that. Really? I mean, if

18:29

it's like a really old lady with a

18:31

cane, I've seen that, but not like a

18:33

regular young person or something like that. You

18:36

could do it yourself. Yeah.

18:38

They're not as aggressive as they used to be with it.

18:41

But in the past, like 20 years ago, it's

18:44

like they would just grab your cart and start walking out

18:46

the door. Really? You know, because that was that. I was

18:48

like, hey, I can get the cart myself, dude. Yeah. I'm

18:51

an adult. I can help you. Yeah.

18:55

Plus, you want to put the stuff in your car anyways, because they

18:57

put it in there. If you got bleach or weather, shit ends up

18:59

tipping over and reeking. Then you get a

19:01

stain in your carpet. Mm hmm. I

19:03

mean, they have curbside now, but you kind of have

19:06

to. Like, it gives you the option to tip. Oh,

19:10

so you can tip at Publix now. Curbside. I

19:13

did not know this. That's when you wait in the

19:15

car and they already packed your groceries for you.