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I'm Coach Cory Wayne and this is my

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video coaching newsletter. And the topic of today's

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newsletter is going to be if you pay

0:59

her to hang out and sleep

1:01

with you, she's not your

1:03

girlfriend. She's an employee. I

1:06

was going to say a different word for that, but obviously

1:08

some of these social media platforms I can't

1:11

put in there what I really want to

1:13

say. I don't want to get

1:15

demonetized, but we all know what it means.

1:17

So this particular email is from a guy that

1:20

met a girl on seeking arrangement

1:24

and he gave her an allowance

1:26

of $1,000 to $1,500 per week. And

1:31

so what's interesting is after I don't know how long

1:33

he was seeing her for, but his business started to

1:35

struggle and he's like, I've got to cut your allowance

1:37

down to $500 a week. But

1:40

hey, we're all about love and family.

1:42

It's a great relationship. I

1:44

want you to be with me not because of the money, but because

1:46

you love me. And

1:49

she's like basically ghosted him. He's like, oh,

1:52

what's going on here? I can't believe

1:54

this coach doesn't make any sense. So,

1:58

you know, I'm sure. There's some of

2:00

you guys that are going to find this amusing. I

2:02

do have, sometimes I do phone sessions with guys like

2:04

this. They meet a girl on a seeking

2:07

arrangement type of website which is, they're

2:09

hookers. I like them. They're hookers. And

2:12

most of those girls are girls that come from

2:14

broken homes. They've got no dad in their lives.

2:17

And they're just, they're in survival mode. And

2:19

they're typically pissed off at men and they look at men

2:22

as a cash register. They have the mentality

2:24

of a stripper. I'll give you a lap dance if you pay

2:26

me. I'll go out on a

2:28

date with you if you pay me. I'll have sex with

2:30

you if you pay me. That's their attitude. And

2:32

so when you go on a website like that and then you think

2:34

you're going to turn your hooker into

2:37

your housewife, you're going to turn a hoe

2:39

into a housewife, that's just

2:41

delusional thinking. Maybe

2:44

one out of ten thousand turns into

2:46

a little happily ever after but the

2:48

overwhelming majority of them, that's why you

2:50

see these, especially the Red Pill Podcast

2:53

and that's all they have is

2:55

these only fans, girls and girls from Seeking

2:57

Arrangements or strippers or sex workers on there

2:59

and they're trying to convince all guys that

3:02

watch this shit that, oh this

3:04

is modern women, this is the dating pool. It's like,

3:07

yeah, if you've got no social life and no

3:10

social circle and you're too afraid to talk

3:12

to women out in the real world and

3:14

your only way to meet new

3:17

women is on a dating app, unfortunately

3:19

what you're going to see is a lot of the women

3:21

that are on dating apps is their hookers and

3:24

that's the regular dating apps. I

3:26

saw that probably going back five, six, seven years ago when

3:29

I was living in South Beach. I

3:31

was like, wow, this is really weird. It went from

3:33

just being a great dating app to now there's always

3:35

sex workers on there, these really pretty girls that come

3:37

from broken homes and you look at some of their

3:39

pictures and you go, that kind

3:41

of looks like a strip club. It's like, you're

3:44

supposed to be a stripper. And then

3:46

you see stuff like this, you get a message, oh

3:48

this is what I'm looking for, $1,000,

3:50

$2,000, $3,000 a week. If

3:52

you want to spend more time together, we can talk

3:55

about that. The women phrase it

3:57

is like, you're investing in me. In essence, I'm investing

3:59

in you. investing in a business. You're

4:01

gonna mentor me and help me. I was like, what?

4:04

What the fuck are you doing on here? That's

4:09

another reason why I stopped

4:12

messing with them a long time ago, because I've always

4:14

done better in person. It's like if you're a social

4:16

person, it's like especially if my buddies and I when

4:18

we go out, one of my good friends was in

4:20

town a few weeks ago, and we just went out

4:23

to have a few beers and to eat and shoot

4:25

the shit and catch up, because we

4:27

know each other for almost 40 years now at

4:29

this point. And within like 10

4:31

minutes, we know like 10 people

4:34

at the bar around us. We're just

4:36

having these interesting conversations. I was talking to this older

4:38

couple who was sitting next to us, and

4:41

he's retired, but he's an attorney, and

4:45

he works with veterans, and

4:47

helping them get their benefits

4:52

if they're struggling, because there's stuff they can get. And

4:54

what's interesting, the things we start talking about guns, and

4:57

he says the big thing all these guys are scared of

4:59

is that they don't want to go to the VA and

5:02

get antidepressants or mental health or anything. So he's

5:04

like, I don't want my guns taken away. And

5:08

so it was really interesting, because it's like one of

5:10

the things that he struggles with is like, he spends

5:13

a lot of time with these guys convincing them what

5:16

there's all this information

5:18

that's out there, and plus there's always

5:20

programs and resources where they can

5:22

get medical help. And these guys, a lot

5:24

of them are just willing to forego any kind of medical

5:27

help and struggle, because they

5:29

don't want to give up their weapons. I

5:31

find that interesting. But it's like, when

5:34

you go out, and you can just try to

5:36

strike up a conversation with them, and there's, so

5:38

we're talking to old people, we're talking to younger

5:40

girls, there's a whole group of people that are

5:42

just talking and sharing and having a good time

5:44

together. It's like, if you

5:46

can go out and do that and be the life of

5:48

the party, and just be sincerely interested

5:50

in the people that are around you and next

5:52

to you, it's like meeting women is not hard.

5:54

Meeting other human beings and making friends is not

5:56

hard, you have to get off your couch. So,

6:01

back to our regularly scheduled email, I

6:03

hope you enjoyed the little diatribe. He

6:06

says, Hi Coach, I appreciate all that you do

6:08

for men. I have a situation I'd like your

6:11

input on. I've been

6:13

seeing this girl for almost two years now and

6:15

I feel like she's pulling away from me and

6:17

it's really driving me crazy. She

6:19

is 25 and I'm 41. I

6:22

met her on a dating app called Seeking

6:25

Arrangement. She was smoking

6:27

hot and I wanted her so

6:29

bad. So again,

6:31

Seeking Arrangement is basically, I'll spend time with

6:33

you, have sex with you if you

6:35

pay me money. That's what the website is for. That's

6:39

it. And if you see any of the commercials, it's

6:42

older, successful guys that have money

6:44

can basically hang out with always

6:46

hot, call it co-eds because

6:49

they like the lifestyle and the fun and all the

6:51

things that they can do with them. So

6:54

it's like a, you know, and it's just kind of

6:56

like a legal way, a legal

6:58

prostitution, if you will. I

7:01

don't know how legal that is depending

7:03

on the state, but that's what it is. You're

7:06

dating hookers. If you're on Seeking Arrangement, you're

7:09

dating hookers. It's plain and

7:11

simple. Call whatever you like but you're dating a

7:13

hooker. The woman is willing

7:15

to trade her time in her body for

7:17

cash. She's a hooker. She's

7:20

a sex worker. And

7:22

so if you're running into problems, you date somebody like

7:24

that. You

7:27

know, again, that's why all those Red

7:29

Pill podcasts, they do so

7:31

well because it's entertaining. It's like

7:33

Jerry Springer type of

7:36

entertainment. But it's not really

7:38

representing the dating pool. But then again, if

7:40

guys are only online because they're socially weird

7:42

or socially awkward and they don't go out

7:44

in the real world to meet people, they

7:47

can't just walk into a bar or

7:49

a restaurant or any kind of venue and

7:51

within five minutes be talking to 10 or

7:53

15 different people and have everybody included in

7:55

the conversation. You

7:58

got to develop your social skills. And if

8:01

you're only going to rely on

8:03

online dating, you got to remember it's like

8:05

they're really beautiful family-oriented girls that have an

8:07

active social life. It's like they don't need

8:09

to be on a dating app. They're

8:12

constantly meeting guys just by living

8:14

their life and hanging out with their friends and their

8:16

family and what they do socially. But

8:20

when they come from broken homes or don't have

8:22

a lot of friends or

8:24

can't make friends or they got

8:27

issues, yeah, they're going to be in a dating app also.

8:29

And so there's just a higher incidence of people that are

8:31

fucked up on the apps. It doesn't mean you can't find

8:33

anybody good on there, but statistically, especially

8:35

the stuff that I saw going back several

8:38

years ago when I see these things in

8:40

the emails, guys that strictly rely on online dating,

8:42

it's trying to make up for the fact that they're

8:45

weird or they're socially awkward in person. And at the

8:47

end of the day, if you're going to meet

8:49

somebody online, you're going to have to

8:51

be able to converse with them in person.

8:55

And so you got to learn to be a

8:57

social animal, a social human being. You go meet

8:59

other people. But

9:03

in this case, this guy is just hot for a body and

9:05

he's willing to part with his money. She

9:09

said, I want a man who can protect

9:11

me and provide for me since this is

9:13

what the gender rules should be. He

9:16

says so since we've been seeing each other and I've

9:18

been giving her an allowance of $1,000 and

9:21

$1,500 every week so she could

9:23

feel supported and taken care of. This

9:26

has been going on for two years now. So

9:30

you're spending what, 50 to

9:33

70 grand, 50 to 80 grand a year for this girl?

9:37

Because that's the allowance. And if you go out

9:39

on dates and stuff, then obviously whatever that costs,

9:41

unless she's just coming over, hooking up and then

9:44

leaving. But

9:47

you're hanging out with a hooker. You're not

9:49

dating her. You're fucking a hooker, bro.

9:53

He said, just recently we got into an argument because

9:55

my business was not doing well and I told her

9:57

I may need to reduce her allowance a little bit

9:59

to fire. Hundred a week and she got

10:01

mad and said that was unfair. We.

10:04

Got into a big fight that she started pull

10:06

away from me. I so venmo her five an

10:08

hour week but she still not talking to me.

10:12

So now years. Yeah you set of five

10:14

hundred a week. which is bob two thousand

10:16

a month. Twenty. One Hundred

10:18

One Thousand Two Hundred Zero, One Four Four Point

10:20

Three weeks of a month. And you

10:22

doing nothing. So.

10:25

The hooker is not want to spend time with you

10:27

because it up in or enough. And

10:29

on top of that, she's ignoring. His.

10:33

As I started looking for a solution on

10:35

line of found Your videos I now realize I've

10:37

been living in illusion and someone under the

10:39

spell first fell for two years. Why?

10:42

Try to ask her to come back to

10:44

me she said in order for her to

10:46

consider. this is this perfect This is so

10:48

this to stripper hooker. And

10:51

the statement when I try to

10:53

ask her to come back to

10:55

me she said in order for

10:57

her to even consider another relationship

10:59

and her life. She. Wants

11:02

double allowance of what she is currently

11:04

making and or new job because she

11:06

now as a good job and does

11:08

not need a man. Heard

11:10

she just doesn't need you and she doesn't like

11:12

you enough to want to hang out with you

11:14

unless you're paying or thousand or fifteen hundred a

11:16

month. That's what she really means. So.

11:19

She not hang out with you because she's

11:21

super tried to do and new the lover

11:23

alive. She's hang out you strictly because it's

11:25

a business transaction. Simple.

11:29

That you stop a interface. She said screw you

11:31

and on top of the analyses like it's two

11:33

thousand a week. She. Wants

11:35

to. I don't know what she's making and her job so.

11:39

He has to sounds like you gotta find

11:41

a cheaper hooker Disappoint. I

11:43

told him that I want to restart

11:45

and build a better foundation this time

11:47

around. A base A relationship on love

11:50

and not money. Dude, it's always and

11:52

based on not on money because she's

11:54

on C D arrangement. That's what it's

11:56

for. That's. The whole thing, last

12:00

time we texted and I told her I won't give her

12:02

that kind of amount because that's something I would only do

12:04

to a wife and

12:06

that I realized she hasn't even introduced me

12:08

to her family yet because

12:11

you're one of her Johns. You're one of

12:13

the guys she's having sex with for money,

12:16

which was something I never brought up because I

12:18

wanted her to take the initiative in the past

12:21

and I feel like she's just taking advantage of me.

12:24

It's just business, dude, nothing personal. But

12:27

I'd love to see her in person so we can talk about

12:29

this. She said

12:31

she will always love me. She doesn't like, she

12:33

loved your money, but realize that she's young and

12:35

knows her value. In other words,

12:39

unless you're willing to pay double what she was making

12:41

before, she doesn't like you enough to want to spend

12:43

time with you. This girl's not into you, bro. She's

12:46

not. Trying to date women from seeking

12:48

arrangement, trying to turn the hoe into your girlfriend,

12:50

it's like, come on.

12:52

It's been four weeks now and she still hasn't responded. It's

12:57

like you were in an impasse. She

12:59

doesn't care about you. She cares about the money she

13:01

was getting. You were unwilling to

13:03

pay her fee and so she left. She

13:06

fired you as a client. And

13:08

now she's giving up the pussy to whoever else she's giving it up

13:10

to. He says, really

13:12

killing me inside to know the kind of

13:14

fuck up I've been doing. Well, you should

13:16

have never been on seeking arrangement to begin

13:18

with if you were looking for a

13:20

girlfriend. It's delusional of men with money

13:23

to think, oh, if I pay this girl to hang out with

13:25

me enough, she'll see what a great guy I am and then

13:27

eventually I just won't have to pay anymore. That

13:31

very, very rarely ever happens. Again,

13:34

you're hooking up with girls from broken homes. I mean,

13:36

you listen to her talk, it's just

13:39

business. It's like arguing with somebody about the

13:41

lawn service. They're like, I want

13:43

double the fee. You're like, no. It's like I

13:45

could hire Bob, Bob's lawn service

13:47

from down the street and they'll do it for cheaper and

13:49

you can probably do a better job. Or

13:53

negotiate with your pool person. What

13:57

are you thinking? You're just going to cut your pool

13:59

person's, you know. So, fee and after, like

14:01

fuck you, I'm not coming to clean your pool anymore. I'm

14:04

not going to like mow your lawn anymore. I

14:07

spent so much money in this girl and so

14:09

much time and effort just to realize that everything

14:11

was an illusion. Well, it's an expensive lesson. I've

14:14

lost millions of dollars over the

14:16

course of my life on shitty consultants

14:19

or people that were incompetent or stupid or

14:21

have no idea what they're doing and that's

14:24

life. Nobody cares. Suck it

14:27

up. Don't be trying to

14:29

date women from seeking arrangement. Seeking

14:31

arrangement if you're on there, those are hookers. It's

14:33

plain and simple. You're

14:35

paying a girl money to hang out and

14:37

have sex with you. That's it. If you

14:39

want to date, be on a dating app

14:41

but even then, a lot of these girls with the same

14:43

attitude mentality are on the dating apps. So,

14:46

they'll pretend to match with you and what

14:48

I would see in the past was that

14:50

they'll match and once you exchange phone numbers

14:52

and start talking, they will unmatch with you

14:55

and then they'll tell you what they really want, like how much money

14:57

they want a week to hang out and all this stuff and you're

14:59

like, what? This is a dating app. Then, of

15:01

course, when

15:03

you're like, someone I'm looking for, I was the dating

15:05

app, they dip. That's

15:09

why it's just better to meet somebody in person. Like

15:12

I said, get out of your house and go participate with

15:14

humanity. Everybody's on their phones all the time. I

15:17

still believe in the values of a traditional role

15:19

of a man to provide, protect. Any

15:22

advice would be greatly appreciated. We

15:24

need to read my book 10 to 15

15:26

times because it's clear you have no game,

15:29

you have no charm, you have no charisma,

15:31

you have absolutely no idea or clue how

15:33

attraction works. You're a complete

15:35

novice. You might as well be a

15:37

18-year-old kid that's hoping to lose his

15:39

virginity on spring break because

15:42

with your mentality and your attitude and the

15:44

way you interact with women, you're just not

15:46

going to get anywhere. You're just going to

15:48

make a constant rejection. You need to learn

15:50

what creates attraction in women

15:52

towards men if

15:55

you want to do better. If you've

15:58

got a question or a challenge. Go

16:01

to my website, click the products tab to top your

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screen on any page, and book

16:05

a coaching session with yours truly. Until

16:07

next time, I will talk

16:10

to you soon.