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slash tech. Hi, I'm Coach Cory Wayne,

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and this is my video coaching

1:05

newsletter. And the topic of today's

1:07

newsletter is going to be why

1:09

patience and perseverance can eventually overcome

1:11

any setbacks in life. This

1:14

email is more of kind of a

1:16

success story of a guy who started

1:19

going through a lot of difficulty and

1:21

challenges. He said before

1:24

the spring of 2020 and all the

1:26

lockdowns and all the shenanigans with Fauci

1:28

and the other stuff. Unfortunately

1:31

Trump enabled this guy. I'm not a fan at

1:34

all of the way Trump handled the

1:36

lockdowns and COVID and all the rest of that

1:38

stuff. But beside

1:40

the point is that what happened to

1:42

this guy was that he lost his

1:44

job. He's living with a,

1:46

his girlfriend was a nurse. So he

1:49

goes from having a good income to losing

1:51

his job and she's busier

1:53

than ever is making money and

1:55

eventually things spiraled out of control and he

1:58

couldn't find any work. And he

2:00

broke up with him. Eventually

2:03

he ended up moving with his parents, lived with

2:05

them for a couple years, finally got a new

2:07

job writing and it was going well. And

2:10

then last year, apparently he got replaced

2:12

by an AI. So

2:14

they decided to have an AI write stuff instead

2:17

of paying him to write it. And

2:19

so he lost that job. And since

2:21

then, he's finally found a new job and

2:23

things are going so well. He likes the

2:25

job, he likes his boss, that

2:28

they're even talking about him eventually buying

2:31

the company from the boss when he

2:33

decides to retire. And

2:35

so we're in April of 2024 at this point.

2:39

And so things just

2:41

went sideways for like four years

2:43

in this guy's life. And that's

2:46

a long time, especially if you're

2:48

a younger guy, it's a long, you

2:50

know, when you're older, like me, you're

2:52

54, you get some perspective of

2:54

life's up and downs. But especially

2:56

when somebody who's younger hasn't been through it, it's

2:59

like, you know, a 30 year old guy

3:01

spending four years of his life really struggling.

3:03

It's like, you're going to have days where

3:05

you're getting up and life's going to feel hopeless. It's

3:07

going to feel like it's never going to get any better. And

3:09

you're going to have many, many days and weeks and months that

3:12

it just feels like you're not making

3:14

any progress. And I wrote about that

3:16

extensively in mastering yourself because part

3:19

of being self reliant, being

3:21

a self actualizing human being

3:23

is all about becoming

3:25

what we can be. In other words, whatever

3:29

your grandest goals and dreams reaching

3:31

your full potential, if you're a

3:33

self actualizing person, that's what life

3:35

is all about to you. But

3:38

a big part of that is going to

3:40

be dealing with what's going on between your

3:43

ears every day and your mind and your

3:45

brain and how you handle

3:47

things like this where you're, I mean, this

3:50

guy, he lost everything. And

3:52

so it's a good story of inspiration because I know

3:54

there's always lots of people that are watching these videos

3:56

that are struggling and they're probably right

3:59

now where this guy. once was and

4:01

he seems to be coming out on the other side of

4:03

it but he wanted to write in and share

4:05

everything he's learned everything he's been through in

4:09

hopes that he would inspire other guys that

4:11

are in the worst part

4:13

they're in the shadow of the valley of death

4:15

they're going through the real hard times in life

4:19

so he says hi coach last time I wrote

4:21

you you made a video on my email called

4:23

women prefer alpha males well

4:25

I have another adventure to share one

4:28

that is almost five years in the making

4:30

but the lessons people can take from it

4:32

men especially are far more significant so here

4:34

we go and one

4:36

thing that just pops my mind it was a

4:39

of all people the original John

4:41

D Rockefeller mr. Standard

4:43

oil himself the

4:46

one who had you know psychopathic

4:48

grandchildren especially David Rockefeller is definitely

4:50

not a fan of that jerk-off

4:54

but one

4:56

of the things that the great

4:58

the grandfather said was that persistence

5:02

overcomes everything in life

5:04

even nature and

5:07

so no matter what's going on in your

5:09

life I mean you hear the old cliche

5:11

I would never give up it's like what

5:13

does that means like means you you persist

5:15

without exception no matter what's going on in

5:17

your life you're always persisting because

5:19

eventually someday and you know

5:22

it looks like he was had turned things had

5:24

turned the corner things are going well and next

5:26

thing you know he gets replaced by an AI

5:28

you're thinking god that's the way life is soon

5:31

as you think it's getting better something else might

5:33

happen and it's you know it's like what Jaco

5:35

willing says like when things when you lose your

5:37

job how should you respond

5:39

good means I can get a better job your

5:42

girlfriend left you good means

5:45

you're gonna meet somebody else you

5:48

lost your best employee good that

5:50

means you're gonna hire somebody else and

5:53

so you just have to look at everything as an

5:55

opportunity or as Henry Ford

5:57

said failure is just

6:00

Basically an opportunity to

6:03

begin again, but more intelligently. Meaning you

6:05

learn from your mistakes, you learn from

6:07

your failure, you learned what didn't work,

6:10

and now you're changing and adapting your

6:13

approach until ultimately you figure out what

6:15

does work. So

6:20

he says, I started reading Mastering Yourself in the

6:22

Spring of 2020, just in

6:24

time for my life to fall

6:26

apart. Pre-COVID, I had a successful

6:28

freelance writing business, was in

6:30

a relationship with a woman I thought would be

6:32

the mother of my children, and

6:35

was focused on a mission of

6:37

becoming a successful fiction author. Everything

6:40

was going great until the lockdown.

6:43

Yeah, Fauci, Dr. Burks, it's

6:46

like, man, those, they

6:48

all belong in jail. They all

6:50

lied. They lied under

6:52

oath, and nothing happened to any

6:54

of those people. And a

6:57

lot of people lost everything and lost their

6:59

lives because of their

7:01

incompetence, corruption, and stupidity. And

7:04

unfortunately, if Fauci's in his

7:06

80s, it's like, you know,

7:08

Elon Musk was saying his

7:10

pronouns were prosecute

7:12

Fauci. But what's going

7:14

to happen to the guy? Probably nothing.

7:17

There's too many people in the government that believe that

7:19

the news is real and think he's some kind of

7:21

saint, and so nothing will happen. But

7:23

that's beside the point. And again, Trump

7:25

enabled this guy. So I'm not a

7:28

fan at all. Trump fucked up big

7:30

time with his lockdown

7:32

policies. That was like so hugely

7:35

disappointing that he allowed

7:37

those people just to bamboozle him.

7:40

He trusted the science, and

7:43

the science turned out to be a lot of BS,

7:45

and a lot of lies, and a lot of dishonesty,

7:48

and a lot of propaganda. But

7:50

I digress back to our regularly scheduled email because

7:52

it's all about being inspired. So everybody went through

7:54

that. You know, it's like I went through it,

7:57

and it really pissed me off. I didn't like

7:59

that shit at all. I didn't like

8:01

the lockdowns. I didn't like dealing

8:03

with neighbors like yeah, yeah, you're a mascot. You're

8:05

gonna kill me What's wrong with you? Like

8:08

I came that close many times and knocking

8:10

some people out in my buildings and my

8:13

elevators It's like a nay would have deserved

8:15

it But

8:19

It's just better To let

8:21

the idiots be idiots Being

8:23

trapped in a box with my

8:25

ex brought issues. We had the light

8:27

I tend to be more libertarian I'm

8:30

very masculine. She tended to be more

8:32

on the liberal side with feminist tendencies

8:36

Before lockdown, I knew her politics would

8:38

become an issue in our relationship. However,

8:40

I ignored it

8:42

because well the punanny Some

8:47

good pussy it bamboozles a lot

8:49

of guys Good pussies

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like kryptonite to most men Covid

8:54

19 hit in March 2020 and

8:56

my business was completely gone in

8:58

October and the downward spiral began

9:01

I started getting depressed stopped writing

9:04

and despite trying to find work. I couldn't

9:07

Meanwhile my ex a nurse had plenty of work.

9:09

I was like, yeah Her

9:11

bread-winning abilities and feminist tendencies drove her

9:14

to try to be the man in

9:16

the relationship Well,

9:18

it's but I mean when you've lost your job and

9:20

you can't find a job and you can't provide it's

9:23

You know, it's pretty hard as a man

9:25

to feel confident and courageous and excited about

9:28

Your future especially when you're if you're like living

9:31

in, California Like you know, a lot of people

9:33

were it's like you were imprisoned in your house

9:36

So you really had no choices you just I

9:39

think was something like 40% of all

9:41

small businesses Closed down

9:43

during the lockdowns and they never reopened They

9:45

said think about all those families that lost

9:47

everything You had businesses that had

9:49

been around for over a hundred years and they

9:52

closed up shop Because the lockdowns

9:54

just bankrupted them and nothing happened

9:56

to the people that in that caused all the

9:58

lockdowns So

10:01

disappointing. You think

10:03

you live in a free society when something

10:05

like that happens you realize it's not as

10:07

free as you thought. Compine

10:10

this with a hyperpilitization of the lockdown

10:13

and you have a recipe for our

10:15

relationship breaking into seams and

10:17

it did. I should have put my

10:19

foot down at the start and communicated that I

10:21

wanted a teammate in a relationship not

10:23

a referee to throw flags whenever I took

10:26

action and did what men do. Well

10:29

obviously you weren't feeling

10:31

your best and despite the fact your

10:33

girl is a feminist leftist

10:38

on top of that you're you're not

10:40

feeling at your peak anymore and

10:43

so you're beat down and so instead of

10:46

building you up and being your biggest cheerleader

10:48

and fan what does she do? She's critical.

10:50

She nags at you. She's trying to be

10:52

the man in the relationship. It's just that's

10:55

not what a good teammate should do and so you

10:57

went through a difficult time and you realize that that

11:00

chick didn't belong in your life. Your

11:02

values and your goals were not aligned and she

11:04

was not a good teammate. When

11:07

I finally asserted myself she broke up with

11:09

me and said that I was a practitioner

11:12

of toxic masculinity. I take

11:15

full responsibility for all of this. I ignored

11:17

the red flags and moved

11:19

the relationship forward. I put myself in that position.

11:21

I was like yeah that's

11:24

why you know I roast a lot of the red pill dudes

11:26

about you know it's like they sign on

11:29

the dotted line. They chose to marry that girl.

11:31

They put a ring on her finger. They chose

11:33

to get married in the state that had those really

11:36

difficult divorce laws that are completely

11:38

slanted against them. So that

11:41

was their best thinking at the time. Wherever you

11:43

are in life no matter how good or how

11:45

bad things are you can take great comfort in

11:47

the fact that it was your best thinking that

11:49

got you there. And real men

11:51

like this guy I take full responsibility. I did

11:53

it. I invited her to my life. I

11:56

got into a relationship knowing that she

11:58

was a feminist leftist. And he

12:00

was a conservative libertarian. But

12:03

the day they, Trump still locked the country down.

12:05

So such a

12:07

big disappointment. My savings gone,

12:10

my business destroyed and my relationship

12:12

over. I found myself

12:14

driving across the country to move into

12:16

my parents' basement in Omaha, Nebraska.

12:22

And that where Buffett's from, the Oracle

12:25

of Omaha, they call him. I

12:27

rebuilt my life and in two years of suffering

12:29

and hard work on their couch, I

12:32

had an apartment and a new job in

12:34

copywriting. I had my shit

12:36

together, savings, an apartment and a car

12:38

payment. But I was puzzled

12:40

at why women wouldn't even look at me. I

12:44

learned the answer to that, even though it had

12:46

been in my heart all along, thanks to 3%

12:49

Man, about a year

12:52

into my copywriting position, chat GPT

12:54

hit the market and

12:56

a year after that, I was let go

12:59

in December and replaced with AI, conveniently before

13:02

we got our Christmas bonuses. You

13:05

received National Lampoon's Christmas vacation where the boss

13:07

like screws everybody out of bonuses because he

13:09

wants to save money. Yep,

13:13

Merry Christmas. And oh, by the way, you're

13:15

fired and no bonus. That's

13:19

pretty shitty, but that's life. Being

13:22

unemployed sucks. However, it does give you

13:24

the gift of hindsight. I realized that

13:26

I was coasting and wasn't happy as

13:29

a copywriter. I started to believe it

13:31

was my lot in life. And there

13:33

is the reason why women

13:35

didn't notice you. If you're not happy,

13:37

if you're not excited, it's like you in plus

13:40

working out to lift and weights. I don't know

13:42

what it does. Does something invisible. It's like I

13:44

noticed why I don't lift weights. I

13:46

stopped for a month or so, usually like around the

13:49

holidays. I get lazy and, you know, I take a

13:51

couple of months off. It's like

13:54

I go from how all these young women staring at

13:56

me, checking me out to becoming almost invisible. So

13:59

we're going out again. and all of a sudden they

14:01

start noticing it, there's something about it that you're

14:03

basically a life

14:05

seeking, growth oriented organism.

14:08

And so if you're pushing against weights, if you're

14:10

pushing against the world, if you're excited, if you

14:12

have enthusiasm, if you have something to light you

14:15

up on the inside, it's gonna show in your

14:17

eyes. And if

14:19

you don't, that will also show in

14:22

your eyes. And women will sense this,

14:24

they will pick up on it. If

14:27

you're not excited about your life, you're not gonna be able

14:29

to get a girl excited about it. That's why you gotta

14:31

fall in love with yourself and your life first, and

14:34

have a damn good time hanging out by yourself.

14:36

Because if you can't enjoy your own company,

14:38

you won't let anybody else enjoy

14:40

it either. He

14:43

says, this fed into my body language and demeanor

14:45

and became a limiting belief that worked its way

14:47

into the fiber of my being, and

14:49

this is what was driving women away. I

14:51

was not doing what I live and breathe

14:54

writing fiction. And that was

14:56

causing me to suffocate. I was building an empire,

14:59

but it was with dirt. Who

15:02

was it? Johnny Cash, about 20 years

15:04

ago, was somebody else's song, it was

15:06

My Empire of Dirt? It's a really,

15:09

really good song. Which

15:12

is not a good material to

15:14

use to construct something worthwhile. I

15:17

networked like hell, worked my ass off, and

15:19

now I'm a foreman in construction. I love

15:21

my boss. I adore the day-to-day,

15:24

and am now in line to buy the

15:26

company when he retires. That's

15:28

a pretty good turnaround. However, that

15:30

has not made me lose sight of my purpose, writing,

15:32

which I do every day. Yeah,

15:35

it should just be your side hustle. If

15:37

you're a fiction writer, write it, publish it,

15:39

self-publish it, write a blog. Just

15:42

do what you love. The better you get at it,

15:44

you'll develop better stories. I was

15:46

let go for my job as a copywriter before we

15:48

got our Christmas bonuses, and I missed out on that

15:50

cash. Despite that, what they

15:52

gave me was priceless, a baptism by

15:55

fire, and the rest of my life. When

15:57

I walk down the street, it's with purpose, and I cash

15:59

it out. women checking me out again. Everything

16:02

is falling back into place because I'm doing

16:04

what I love. To all

16:07

the men out there who are feeling down

16:09

and hopeless, ignore the noise, forget

16:11

the feminists, and don't swallow the

16:13

red pill. Get off

16:15

the dating apps, start living in the

16:17

real world, and do what makes you

16:20

happy. The universe will bring you the

16:22

right woman. Remember, when you

16:24

build your empire, do it with blood, sweat, and

16:26

tears, not dirt. The product will

16:28

be everlasting. Thanks

16:31

for what you do, Cory. I don't know where

16:33

I'd be without your teachings. I'm now my tenth

16:35

read of mastering yourself. That's

16:37

awesome, dude. Congratulations. Thanks for sharing

16:39

that success story, and also thanks

16:41

for going through all that shit.

16:44

Because now that you've gone through it, you

16:47

know the way to get through it, and

16:49

now you can help other people because you've

16:51

been there. You've been in the worst place.

16:53

You lost everything. You lost your job. You

16:56

lost your girl. You lost your house. Sleeping

16:58

at your parents. But

17:01

like the Phoenix, you have

17:03

risen from the ashes. So tip of

17:05

the cap to you,

17:07

sir. Thanks for sharing. And

17:09

if you've got a good question or a

17:12

success story you want to send in, send

17:14

it to questions at understandingrelationships.com. And

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if you would like to book a coaching

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session with yours truly, go to understandingrelationships.com, click

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the products tab at the top of

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your screen on any page of my website, and

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book a coaching session with yours truly. Until

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next time, I will talk

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to you soon.