0:00

Are you saying you faked with

0:02

me ? Yeah , I

0:05

just can't say oh

0:07

, oh , oh , oh , I can't wrong

0:09

now you're single .

0:10

What do you know about sexual relations

0:12

? Is it true that if you don't use it

0:15

, you use it ?

0:16

I'm a little worried about being a slut . You're

0:18

listening to the Come With Us podcast Talking

0:21

the good , the kinky and the ugly . Here

0:23

are your hosts , beth and Erin

0:25

. Hello

0:28

, hello , hello .

0:29

Are you sexy ? Hold and hold . We're

0:32

gonna talk about sex as you get

0:34

older . Oh my God , for

0:37

all you young folks out there , I

0:39

can't believe I'm so fucking old . But

0:41

yeah , I'm like 58 years old

0:43

. That's fricking old . But God

0:45

, sex is so good and here's the coolest

0:47

thing we're gonna tell you why

0:50

and how it's so fricking good for you

0:52

. Anyway , this

0:54

is obviously a topic close to my heart

0:56

, but also universally significant

0:58

, and we'll talk about not only

1:00

why having great sexy fun

1:02

is important , even as you get older

1:05

especially maybe when you get older but also

1:07

how you can keep having great

1:09

sexy fun at any age , despite

1:12

whatever health things and things are going

1:14

on . So fulfilling

1:16

love life it's not just a luxury , it

1:18

is essential . Anyway

1:21

, I'm Beth Darling , so glad that you're here with

1:23

us . You can find me . You can find my

1:25

book , the Five Kinds of Intimacy , which will

1:27

help you keep a good , happy , romantic

1:30

, sexy love life going . It's

1:33

called the Five Kinds of Intimacy how to Keep

1:35

your Love Alive . You can find it on Amazon

1:37

or on my website , bethdarlingcom

1:39

, and I'm here with Erin who oh

1:41

my God , you're so fucking young now .

1:44

I am not .

1:45

You are , you're in your 30s and something like

1:47

I forget that there's this huge

1:49

age gap between us . It's just

1:51

sometimes it shocks me when I think about it , because

1:53

I mean okay , my

1:55

birth certificate says I'm in my 30s .

1:57

Yes , but if I were to die right this minute

2:00

and be not modified

2:02

but buried and then experts were to dig up my bones

2:04

later , the bones would show

2:06

that I am like 50 or something

2:08

like that , because my knees are shit , my ankles

2:11

are shit Like . I

2:13

have lived a hard life of jumping

2:15

bike ramps and being a dumb ass

2:17

and moving cars

2:19

and all kinds of dumb stuff .

2:21

Yeah , that is stupid .

2:22

And my body is paid for it . My body is now paying

2:24

for it , when I thought I was invincible . Clearly

2:27

, 19 year old Erin was fucking

2:29

wrong .

2:30

Well , they say age is in the mind and I'm like

2:32

, no , no , no , that's bullshit . Age is in the body , because

2:34

my mind I'm still like 28 years old

2:36

. In fact , sometimes I'll find myself

2:38

I'll be running through an airport because I'm late

2:40

or something , and I'm thinking

2:43

I'm just this 28 year old running through an airport

2:45

. And then I have this out of body experience

2:48

and I go , oh shit , like other

2:50

people see this old lady running through

2:52

the airport . Why are you running through an airport

2:54

? Because I was going to miss a flight and

2:56

I had forgotten my iPad because

2:59

I had forgotten my iPad why

3:01

Las ? Vegas airport at the security

3:03

and I had to run all the way fucking back and they

3:06

had that pilot was nice and help the plane

3:08

for me . But yeah , now it's

3:10

sweating buckets and I was coughing

3:12

like crazy because I get asthma with that

3:14

, Anyway , so anyway . So

3:16

we're not going to talk about bad

3:19

health things just because

3:21

I'm old . We're not going to talk about vitamins

3:23

and shit .

3:24

No , but you're forgetful at

3:26

20 . You have the memory

3:28

of a 90 year old .

3:29

Yes , I know it's ridiculous

3:31

, it is insane .

3:32

It is insane you need an actual oompa

3:34

loompa to follow you around . No

3:37

, I just keep track of all your shit . Yes

3:39

, I do , I need to .

3:41

Exactly . That is absolutely true Swallow

3:44

, I know , to eat dinner , yes

3:46

, something other than a milkshake , anyway

3:49

. So All right , but

3:52

anyway . So we're going to just , we're going to

3:54

just myth bust here

3:56

, which is the myth that intimacy

3:58

, that sexy fun , diminishes

4:00

as we get older and

4:02

that it's not important and we

4:05

can just let it go by the wayside because that's just bullshit

4:07

. So

4:09

, all right , you want to tell them about the article and the research

4:11

that you that you found , Aaron , because

4:13

I loved it .

4:14

Yeah , I mean . So researchers

4:16

were looking at men and women in

4:19

their what some people call golden

4:21

years , 62 to 74

4:23

. And

4:26

those that actually describe two

4:28

researchers their sex life as

4:30

very pleasurable or enjoyable or whatever

4:32

, saying that they enjoyed their sex life , had

4:35

better brain , cognitive , like

4:37

scores and

4:40

like better brain activity

4:42

, which now

4:44

makes me realize every single person in Congress

4:47

is not getting laid because they are all dumber

4:49

than a brick . So

4:51

good for them , yeah .

4:54

So now I'm thinking , oh , does my

4:56

my bad memory these days ? Does that mean I

4:58

need to have more sex ?

5:00

You probably should . Wow , I

5:03

mean there was a whole . There was a whole Seinfeld episode about

5:05

it . Elaine got dumber the more she didn't have sex . George

5:07

got smarter the more he didn't have sex . Oh

5:09

, I didn't know that . That's funny .

5:11

But I mean , but , but I like that

5:13

. And then what also people should

5:16

know , and I love this for people age

5:18

75 to 90 , sex

5:21

didn't even have to be that good . It

5:23

just had to be frequent to have

5:26

a beneficial effect on their

5:28

brain health . Right , yeah , isn't that

5:30

freaking awesome yeah

5:32

.

5:32

Yes and no , because

5:34

I hope you're still having good sex , like

5:37

at least mediocre like . Oh

5:40

, it's not about the quality , oh , I

5:42

still hope quality is there .

5:44

Well , I don't enjoy it . But maybe people

5:46

are saying they enjoy it , but it's not like maybe

5:49

, because then maybe their mobility

5:51

isn't that great , so maybe it's not the the

5:53

wild sex that they you know , who knows ? It

5:56

didn't go into that sort of detail , but that's

5:58

why you're young .

5:59

Young for the wild sex . When you're old

6:01

, you're yeah , you're trying to break a hip . Yeah

6:04

, there you go . Is it swinging from

6:06

a freaking chandelier ?

6:07

No , are you doing ?

6:08

it no , but guess what ? You're still

6:10

getting it in . Have fun with that .

6:12

Yeah , yeah , but I love that . So truly

6:14

having good sex

6:16

, Good sexy fun , helps

6:19

improve your brain function . All right

6:21

, do people , married couples

6:23

. I think you need to write this down . This

6:25

is why , right , wanting a good

6:27

, sexy life is not Trivial

6:30

, it is not meaningless . Even

6:32

if you don't believe a word I talk about

6:34

in my five kinds of intimacy , where I tell

6:36

you that sexual intimacy is Just

6:38

as important as emotional intimacy . If

6:41

you don't believe me , at least believe the science

6:43

, the research that shows it helps

6:46

your brain stay healthy .

6:47

So I say I not to lose your

6:50

shit Laughing at Thanksgiving dinner

6:52

when your grandfather can't remember where

6:54

his fork is , when it's sitting on his fucking plate

6:56

.

6:57

Okay , so you should send him this article , because

6:59

I already sent it to my dad , who's 83

7:01

, and I sent it to my dad and his girlfriend

7:03

. They're like we agree . In

7:08

fact , we were just talking the other day . My dad

7:10

was saying that his he

7:14

said like he just is realizing his

7:16

memory is not as good as it used to be and his

7:18

memory used to be fantastic . So now

7:20

his memory is still way better than mine

7:22

, but it's not as good as it used to be .

7:24

It's not difficult right but .

7:26

But so now it's like , oh , maybe if he has more sex

7:29

his memory will be better how

7:31

old 83 he

7:33

still works full-time . I mean , they travel

7:36

all over . Yeah , they're , it's awesome , it's

7:38

really it's wonderful to see . But and

7:40

he had a prostate removed . Sorry , I'm just airing

7:42

my dad's laundry . Yeah , I'm sure he

7:44

loves this knowing that we do

7:47

he does because he

7:49

told me that . Um that , because

7:52

when I have clients that have had prostate cancer

7:54

and stuff which is why my dad had his resume he's

7:56

like no , make sure they know they can still orgasm

7:59

. He's like a week after my surgery

8:01

I could orgasm Okay

8:04

.

8:04

I don't want you doing it that soon , but no , I

8:06

don't think they want you doing erections and stuff

8:09

, but that's harder .

8:10

That's separate . Yeah , that's not funny , but

8:12

anyway . So , um , so

8:14

they're thinking that , um , let's

8:17

see why . Why does sex help our brain

8:19

? So

8:21

what they said ? They think that it's

8:23

the stress relieving benefits , that

8:26

those are good , as well as the

8:29

release of the pleasure hormone

8:31

, dopamine , which also

8:33

, like , not only helps us , it helps

8:35

us feel good and it helps

8:38

keep our brains healthy because , like depression

8:40

and stuff is , when you don't have a healthy

8:42

brain and the more depressed and stressed

8:44

you are than the more your body doesn't work as well

8:47

. So , yeah , um , and

8:49

then , okay , I also I didn't know this that

8:52

stress prevents the formation

8:54

of neurons in the hippocampus

8:56

, an Area of the brain that's associated

8:58

with memory .

9:01

No God , then I ? How do I remember

9:04

?

9:04

Yeah , I don't know , but

9:07

I'm always stressed yeah , so

9:09

that's part of how much better my memory

9:11

would be .

9:11

I'd be like that dude in limitless . I'd remember everything

9:14

, ever .

9:15

Yeah , cuz you remember shit , tons of trivia and stuff

9:17

already I know , yeah , and I'm stressed

9:19

all the time , right , so yeah

9:21

, you could be fucking brilliant . I could be

9:24

yeah , yeah that would be good

9:26

, but um and

9:28

Okay . So yeah , higher

9:30

levels of dopamine is linked to

9:32

improved memory in older adults

9:35

. So sure it's older adults

9:37

, but I gotta believe that's throughout lifetime

9:39

. That a higher level of dopamine

9:41

is Improves your memory . So

9:43

maybe that means that before you had take

9:46

a big test and stuff , or while

9:48

you're studying , you know , and preparing

9:50

for exams and stuff , you should be having

9:52

lots of sex to get lots of dopamine . Because

9:55

, you're stressed that yeah , so

9:57

that's a .

9:58

What is sex ? A stress reliever

10:00

.

10:01

Yes , exactly . And now you can say but

10:03

I need it , it's gonna help me do I don't know

10:05

. I mean most of our .

10:07

I've seen the demographics most of our listeners

10:09

are , unless they're doing like post grad

10:11

or graduate work .

10:13

The bar exam . Yeah , CPA

10:15

.

10:16

Past the test , the regular

10:18

test taking thing .

10:20

Yeah , that's true , and I don't know .

10:24

It will not help you pass that test if you're not past

10:26

the test taking point . Well here

10:29

, good luck on your next test . I don't know what it's about

10:31

, but study hard and yeah

10:34

.

10:34

I like that and okay , and also

10:36

so people , 75 to 90 , it's

10:38

funny . I'd say , oh , I need to

10:40

tell my dad to listen to this episode , but maybe

10:43

he'd be annoyed at me talking about it , so I won't

10:45

tell him . But 75

10:47

to 90 . When I said the sex didn't have

10:49

to be good , it just had to be frequent . You know

10:51

what frequent is for 75

10:53

to 90 year olds .

10:54

I'm gonna say once a month .

10:56

No , just once a week . Oh , oh , once

10:59

a week . So people should be able

11:01

to do it , and it doesn't necessarily

11:03

steering wheels .

11:03

Right now there are guys in their

11:05

30s and 40s and 20s

11:07

punching their fucking steering wheels Right .

11:09

I know , because they're not having it once week . But so

11:12

also note that it doesn't have

11:14

to be intercourse , it doesn't have to be penetration

11:17

and it doesn't have to be orgasm

11:19

. The orgasm certainly helps , because

11:21

with orgasm we get more of

11:24

these happy chemicals .

11:25

Yeah , yeah . As far as the you know being

11:27

jealous that old people are getting on more

11:30

than you guys , I will say this my

11:32

wife and I have had this conversation of Like

11:35

yes

11:37

, we both want

11:39

it more right now , but we

11:41

also both work full-time jobs , we

11:43

both live life and all that stuff . The

11:46

reason you're gonna have more sex when you're old

11:48

provided you and your partner are

11:51

compatible and still doing it is

11:53

because you're retired . You ain't got shit to do

11:55

, you're watching TV

11:57

, you're going taking your grandkids on a walk and

11:59

then when they're gone , guess what ? You look at each other and go

12:01

knock it out Like that's

12:03

another benefit of staying married for retirement

12:06

and all that stuff . Yeah , but

12:08

that couple who last from last week they've

12:10

been married 43 years Right

12:12

, right . They're at the point I have . I hope

12:14

they're at the point where they're

12:16

both retired and especially now

12:19

using your book to help with the intimacy thing . They

12:21

look at each other every couple of days and they're

12:23

like , fuck , what else we got to do ? Right , right

12:25

, let's get some time . We watched this episode of SVU

12:27

so many times . Fuck it , no

12:30

, let's fuck each other . Yes .

12:33

Yes , yeah , and for those of you who didn't listen

12:35

, one you should go back and listen to last week , because

12:37

we talked about secrets behind couples and

12:41

fantasies and things like that that they have

12:43

even in the midst of sexy fun

12:45

together . But it was a couple that

12:47

the wife wrote to me and said

12:49

that after 43 years of

12:51

marriage with ups and downs , that

12:54

her husband , she had already read my book

12:56

and her husband wanted to read it because he liked

12:58

that I talk about sexy fun and

13:00

that sexy fun is important , so he's reading it

13:02

. And she was like thank you , it's given us a new lease

13:05

on our relationship .

13:06

So yeah , it was really good Enjoy your retirement

13:08

, enjoy your time together , I mean you've

13:11

only talked . Yeah , you've

13:14

run out of things to say . You know each other , like

13:16

once you get to like . This is the thing is that if

13:18

you're married , like if you're getting married right

13:20

before retirement , that's one thing , but if

13:22

you're married 20 , 30 , 40

13:24

years and you retire together , guess what ? You've

13:26

heard every fucking story that the other

13:28

person has .

13:29

Right , so you need to do something fun .

13:33

So many times . Guess what gets different a little

13:35

bit every time sex .

13:37

Well , and especially if you're willing to .

13:39

There's always a tiny bit different . Right and

13:41

to get new , like you can get new vibrators

13:43

. There are devices and

13:45

products that are geared for people

13:48

who are older . There are different

13:50

loops that will help make things more pleasurable

13:52

for the Volvo

13:54

owners . There are all sorts

13:57

of things .

13:58

I know that's the PC term , but anyway , we're not using

14:00

that for the women .

14:02

Okay so , but

14:05

or for people doing ass play right

14:07

and maybe you've never done , and that's the thing . You can

14:09

be a virgin , it's something at any age , but

14:12

okay , wait . One more fact thing that I thought

14:14

was really interesting is that

14:16

the size , the effect of good

14:18

sex later in life was comparable

14:21

to the advantage that people

14:23

got by a longer education

14:26

. So in other words , people who

14:28

who's like . If you

14:30

go to college versus not finishing high school

14:32

, your brain tends to be a little

14:35

bit more developed and stuff , and so

14:37

having good sexy can make up for that . So

14:39

if you haven't gone to university , have

14:41

lots of sex and help your brain get to

14:43

the point of being like you had gone

14:46

. It won't give you the particular information

14:49

or knowledge , perhaps , but it'll make

14:51

it strong if you will .

14:53

But I think it's kind of cool . Here's my fun

14:55

side Ran . If you didn't go to college or whatever

14:57

and you were turning a wrench at a car

15:00

factory or you're an electrician or whatever , you

15:02

went to the military . Guess what you

15:04

probably had ? Well , unless you were in the military . But

15:07

you probably were less stressed in your career

15:09

than the guy who had to handle 18

15:11

law cases at a time because he just kept going

15:13

to school and ended up , you know , Drowning

15:15

in books and paperwork and shit . At

15:18

least I hope so .

15:19

Yeah , I don't know .

15:21

There's something cathartic to me when working with my hands and

15:23

fixing stuff , so right , and that's the thing people

15:25

I'm good with .

15:26

I think people should do whatever their passion is , and

15:28

it doesn't necessarily have to be going to college , but

15:31

you do want to keep your brain in the best

15:33

shape possible , right ?

15:34

We'll never stop learning . Yeah , we

15:36

both agree . Yeah .

15:38

So I'm not trying to put anybody

15:40

down , I'm just saying that's a good

15:42

, good reason even more to say , hey

15:44

, honey , I really I got to have more sex , just

15:47

gotta have more sighting . So I think

15:49

that's gonna be good so and

15:51

Okay . So , and the way that

15:54

you can do that is one you do want

15:56

to kind of keep your body in

15:58

somewhat decent shape . Some mobility

16:00

is helpful , and

16:03

so Any sort

16:05

of cardio can help you improve

16:07

your sexy Activity

16:09

and your your pleasure in it

16:11

. It's really hard to have a great

16:13

orgasm . It's hard for you to breathe

16:16

and

16:18

some flexibility . You

16:21

know , take up some yoga or something or just do

16:23

some stretching and things like that . But

16:25

partly because just getting cramps and everything

16:28

and not being able to move is

16:30

just decreases your own pleasure

16:32

, that's all . It's not like you have to do the whole

16:34

comma sutra , but you do want to be

16:36

able to move and and Make

16:38

room for somebody to get in between your legs

16:40

Everybody's seen somebody doing the old

16:42

man shuffle .

16:43

You don't want to do that , yeah . Yeah , so

16:45

you want to In bending

16:47

your joints as long as you can , and

16:50

hopefully that's till the day that you know . So you

16:53

, you get called home or whatever . So

16:55

, yeah , stretching like I'm bad about

16:58

it too , I try to . I know I

17:00

had talked to somebody who works out a

17:02

Fuck ton About

17:04

being busy and not having time because I'm chubby

17:06

. Now I've stopped working out and they were like dude , just

17:09

get up the first three , five

17:11

minutes there every morning . Stretch , if

17:13

you're like , because I'm 35 , I can still touch

17:15

my toes . That's something stupid

17:17

. I never thought . If you had asked

17:19

again 19 year old erin , do you think you'll be able to do

17:22

that ? I would have been like you're out of your fucking mind

17:24

If you think when I hit 35 I'll still be able to , like , touch my

17:26

toes and do you know ? Oh

17:28

, wow , squat , thrust and all that stuff . But

17:31

yeah , stretching is

17:33

definitely a good thing . I need to be better about it and

17:36

practice .

17:37

Practice your tongue exercises Right

17:39

, keep that in shape , because oral , oral

17:43

can still be so much fun , even

17:45

if it's just laying on your side , right , if

17:47

nobody can get on top of one another , lay

17:50

on your side and just sit down and

17:52

have a good , strong tongue . So

17:54

, um , you know , can't you see lessons

17:56

at the nursing homes and stuff ? Okay

17:59

, let's do our tongue stretches .

18:01

You found a new business or a new

18:03

, uh , a new nonprofit

18:05

thing to do .

18:06

I should do that . It would be so much fun .

18:08

Teaching old people to have sex ?

18:10

Yeah Well

18:12

, how to have really good sex these days

18:14

? Yes , absolutely so , um

18:16

, and Recognize

18:19

again , loop is so huge because menopause

18:21

is one of the things that it affects women

18:23

, as some women

18:25

so powerfully right . Whether it's just

18:27

being miserable from hot flashes , whether

18:30

it's just being so dry , whatever

18:33

fear our bodies change

18:35

and then we're unhappy with it . So , whatever

18:38

those issues are , just recognize

18:40

, like , stop trying to compare yourself to

18:42

what you were when you were 19 or 20 or 30

18:44

and just again

18:46

. I just always think about my old cottage

18:49

. You know , my shop , darling Way , was in

18:51

a cottage that was over 100 years old and there

18:54

were holes in the floor and the windows

18:56

wouldn't open . It was

18:58

the air conditioning didn't work well

19:00

, but it had so much

19:02

warmth and so much goodness and everybody

19:05

loved being in there . So your pussy

19:07

might be dry , your cock might not

19:09

get as hard as it as it really was

19:11

, but , good God , it can still have warmth

19:13

, you can still have power and pleasure and

19:15

enjoy .

19:16

Did you just compare a postman apostle's

19:18

woman veg to

19:20

a 100 year old cottage

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in the Houston Heights ?

19:24

Yes , yeah . Actually I think if we all

19:26

looked at our bodies , like some people really like the woods , now see if

19:28

you did that and it's okay , I do that

19:31

, and oh fuck , aaron's an asshole for saying that . No

19:35

, I'm just saying that we should appreciate right

19:37

people like the antiques and stuff . There is value

19:40

to being old .

19:42

Oh my God , hey , it's , yeah , you're

19:44

right , it's a good thing , guys guys

19:46

, do not say you love your wife's

19:48

pussy at 65 years old because you love

19:50

antiques . Dear God , for your

19:53

sake , for mine , so

19:55

she doesn't fucking kill you . Do

19:57

not compare your wife's pussy to an antique

19:59

.

20:01

That's probably in this stuff .

20:03

And if you do that was best fault

20:05

Beth at darlingwaycom

20:08

or Beth Darling .

20:11

Beth Darlingcom .

20:12

Send your emails to

20:14

her , not to me , not to come with us . Confessions

20:16

at gmailcom .

20:18

Great .

20:21

I did not say that you should be calling

20:23

your wife's badge an antique . Don't

20:25

ever call anything on your wife an antique

20:27

. I don't care how

20:29

antique she is .

20:31

Oh my God , I love . It . All

20:34

right , I really did .

20:35

I totally correct myself Somebody's gonna

20:37

get shot in our audience 68-year-old

20:41

woman two 72-year-old husband

20:44

over calling her an antique when asking

20:46

for sex , the story coming

20:48

up at 10 .

20:49

Right , I'm gonna have clients that are gonna now

20:51

rag on me forever and calling me

20:53

an antique . I know it , I deserve

20:55

it , I get it . I'm sorry .

20:59

I hope that your 88-year-old client

21:01

from Loveick or whatever . Oh yeah

21:03

, you gotta be what ? 90 something by now .

21:05

Yeah , I gotta reach out to Helen . Helen

21:08

, if you are out there listening

21:10

to me , please let us know how you're doing

21:12

.

21:12

She did not call you an antique , Helen . You're not

21:14

an antique .

21:15

No , you're freaking awesome . Oh , my God , I'll

21:17

never forget when she came into my shop and

21:19

all of her energy and telling

21:22

me about her , her boyfriend and her great

21:24

sexy life at 85 and she

21:26

took my blowjob class . Yes

21:28

, she is still my role model

21:30

.

21:31

That is who I want to be like , so , yeah

21:33

, Also be careful not

21:36

that I've done this , luckily , because I have my

21:38

filter sometimes works between my brain and my tongue

21:40

Don't , no matter what age , call your

21:43

wife a cougar . I

21:45

know somebody who did and his wife was not happy

21:47

with it and he was like , well , like we're at that

21:49

age range , like that . She was like I don't

21:51

give a shit , you don't call me a cougar Like wait

21:54

.

21:54

Why was she Trump ? Because he was younger than she

21:56

.

21:56

No , just in general , like saying

21:59

, like , saying , like I

22:01

know friends who have had a kid and

22:04

now he calls his wife a milf .

22:06

Yeah .

22:07

Yeah , well , there's another older

22:09

couple that I know . When he called her

22:11

a cougar one time and she was like I'm not a fucking

22:13

cougar , oh , and he's like , and she , she

22:15

basically took it as he was calling her old , oh

22:18

, okay , okay . So like

22:20

she understood that he was calling her sexy but

22:22

also at the same time , was like yeah

22:24

, I'm not fucking old , don't call me a cougar , because that means

22:26

I'm old .

22:27

Oh see , because when I was dating younger guys , I

22:30

got well that's the definition of .

22:32

That's the definition of a cougar .

22:33

I just didn't like that because I was like I'm not

22:35

, I'm not looking for younger

22:37

, it's just that I happen to be like to

22:40

me , a Looking for

22:42

youngers , and I just fell

22:44

into it . If you will , I got , but you enjoyed

22:47

it , oh hell yeah . But

22:49

young and dumb they

22:51

just . You know , it wasn't the best sex , don't

22:53

get me wrong , but I mean it was fun , it was flattering

22:56

and and it was interesting

22:58

. But no , they're

23:00

, they don't know Again

23:03

. Nothing personal , but if you've learned everything

23:05

you possibly can , but you're only

23:07

24 years old , then somebody

23:10

who's 48 years old , who's learned

23:12

everything possible , is gonna have had 24

23:14

years to learn more . So

23:16

and if they haven't taken advantage of that , then

23:18

they're just foolish . So you know , don't

23:20

let that happen .

23:21

So young and dumb .

23:22

It's not a judgment , it's just a statement

23:24

.

23:24

Just doesn't matter , You're never

23:27

gonna learn everything , right ?

23:28

But I mean it's just you can only learn so

23:30

much in 24 years . Oh yeah 48

23:32

years , you can learn more . So it's that's

23:34

what I'm saying . It's not judgment to be .

23:36

This is why , and and don't make me

23:38

go down the the path that there should be an age maximum

23:40

on presidency . But there's also an age minimum on the presidency

23:43

and the reason that was put there was because

23:45

at 28 years old you

23:48

don't know shit . You don't need to be in charge of the most powerful

23:50

country in the world at 28, . Right , I agree

23:52

, that's seven years ago for me , and I was

23:54

dumber than shit . I was married , I

23:56

had a house . I was still dumber

23:58

than shit .

23:59

Oh my god , I had like four kids at 28

24:01

or something . Yeah , you know , I had my fifth kid

24:03

at 31 .

24:05

I'm still young enough that I look back and I'm like

24:07

dude . That was only seven years ago , but I was still stupid

24:09

. I wouldn't trust myself to run the entire

24:12

world at 28 years old .

24:14

I know I remember thinking like

24:16

that . I was so mad at my mother that

24:18

she couldn't . She got mad at me every time I was pregnant

24:20

and I was like , oh , but I know everything

24:22

right . So for 10 years , from 21 to 31

24:25

, god I did . I thought I knew

24:27

every fucking thing and I was so stupid

24:29

, so stupid . So now my

24:32

kids are older than you know . Then I was

24:34

when I had my first three kids and I'm

24:36

like all right , I'm really sorry mom , I

24:39

actually I am sorry . I Get

24:42

it . I would be upset if my kids had had five

24:44

kids by now . So anyway

24:46

, so Okay , well

24:48

, I think we should probably go , because I think

24:50

we're both getting a little slap happy . Yeah

24:53

, I don't want to insult anybody else here .

24:56

Ladies , you're not Antiques

24:58

, your badges aren't antiques

25:00

. And what else did you call them , good Lord

25:02

?

25:02

Yeah , I don't know , but cottages

25:05

and . Um

25:08

, to be fair , this it is

25:10

my birthday , so age is like on my

25:12

mind today .

25:13

Wait what .

25:14

Yeah , yeah , today's my birthday .

25:15

Oh , happy birthday . I'm the biggest dick of a co-host

25:18

ever .

25:18

No , don't know . No , no , no , I didn't want to

25:20

tell you because I knew we just had to record today

25:22

because it's just Life is busy , so

25:24

but I think that's part of why I'm

25:26

like all about this age . It's like , oh

25:28

my god , I can't believe I've been around

25:31

this long . It's crazy , it

25:33

is fucking crazy .

25:34

Well , go get laid and get your plane activity

25:37

working .

25:38

Okay , okay

25:40

, I'll just call up one of my stable

25:42

of studs .

25:43

There you go .

25:44

That's it . Yes , I will

25:46

do so and I'll just say hey , I

25:48

need some brain power .

25:50

Yeah . Yes okay

25:52

, or call up one and then , when he's done , you go

25:54

oh , I didn't get enough brain power and call up another one

25:56

.

25:57

Oh , that would be , I was just talking to somebody about that

25:59

plus one room .

26:00

Yeah .

26:01

That's what I need tonight .

26:03

We were just talking about my birthday .

26:05

Oh , yeah , yeah , well , and I told somebody

26:07

I have another friend . I was like you would really

26:10

like that . Oh , and for listeners Sorry

26:12

, if you don't know what we're talking about , you need

26:14

to go back . I forgot the name of the episode or

26:16

when it was , but it was TJ from the good

26:18

fellows and it was the plus one room

26:20

in naughty New Orleans . So let's

26:22

go listen to that , because it still gives

26:25

me , still makes me hot

26:27

just thinking about it . There you go . So

26:29

Anyway , if TJ

26:31

was local , I'd be calling him up tonight .

26:33

I bet you would yeah

26:36

.

26:37

Bring some friends , let's have a birthday party , I'm

26:42

sure he knows somebody here . It's good that

26:44

my dad isn't going to listen to this episode

26:47

. Okay

26:49

, again , slap happy . So I know

26:51

I've not been drinking . By the way , people tend to

26:53

think that , nope , this is me sober Anyway

26:56

all right If you're older , have lots of sex . Yes

26:59

, that's it , that's

27:01

right , yes brain power brain

27:03

better . That's right . Instead of weedies

27:05

, we just need fucking . Okay

27:08

, all right , this is Beth

27:10

Darling signing off . Sorry

27:13

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27:15

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27:47

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27:49

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