0:00

Are you saying ? You faked with

0:02

me yeah .

0:05

I just can't say oh .

0:07

Oh , oh , so cool , I can't

0:09

wrong now you're single .

0:10

What do you know about sexual relations

0:12

? Is it true that if you don't use it

0:15

, you use it ? I'm a little worried about

0:17

being a slut . You're listening to

0:19

the Come With Us podcast Talking the good

0:21

, the kinky and the ugly . Here

0:23

are your hosts , beth and Erin

0:25

.

0:28

Hey there , all you holes and poles . I

0:30

am obviously not Beth

0:33

Darling , I am Erin , and

0:35

usually you don't hear from me until about

0:37

2-3 minutes into an episode

0:39

. But welcome to Come With Us podcast . Beth

0:42

actually had a family emergency so

0:44

she couldn't be here today , but you're

0:46

stuck with me . I think we're gonna have fun

0:48

, because today we're going to talk

0:51

about sexy holiday stuff

0:53

, and with that I'm

0:55

gonna bring in Sarah Tomcheson , who

0:58

is the resident sexual wellness

1:00

advisor for Love Honey . Now , love Honey

1:02

is an awesome website . They've got

1:05

all kinds of sexy

1:07

props , outfits , lube

1:09

, anything that you think

1:11

might enhance the sexy fun that

1:13

you and your partner are having , or even having by yourself

1:15

. Love Honey's got it . I

1:18

found them years ago and

1:20

, not gonna lie , wife and I have spent

1:22

a good paycheck or

1:24

two on Love Honey's stuff . Sarah

1:27

, welcome to the show . Thank you for being here with us . Thank

1:30

you for having me . So

1:32

we'll get to the main

1:34

course of this in a little bit , because

1:36

Love Honey was awesome enough to

1:39

come up with an advent calendar

1:41

, and we will get into that in a

1:43

little bit . But right

1:45

now I just wanted you to talk about your

1:47

job . I mean , your actual title

1:49

is resident sexual wellness advisor . That

1:53

is awesome so if you

1:55

wouldn't mind like talk about how you got involved

1:57

, how you started with Love , Honey and all that stuff and just let

1:59

our listeners know you know all about your job .

2:01

Yeah , yeah , I have been

2:04

slinging sex toys

2:06

since 2007 , so

2:09

I am a bit of a sex

2:11

toy evangelist , of

2:13

course , working for e-commerce

2:16

and retail businesses . You know you wear lots of

2:18

hats , you do lots of things , so I

2:20

do content creation for

2:23

Love Honey . I support marketing

2:25

efforts , pr , and

2:28

I am a certified sex educator

2:31

. So that's where the sexual wellness

2:33

advising comes from . I've been teaching

2:36

sex ed to adults Pleasure based

2:38

sex ed for over

2:40

15 years , so

2:42

I am really

2:45

invested in the ways that

2:48

pleasure can improve

2:50

people's lives as

2:53

a whole . You know we can reduce our stress

2:55

, we can increase our confidence by

2:57

having more access to pleasure

2:59

. So that's a little bit about me .

3:02

Awesome . Well , yeah , that's

3:04

kind of what we do here . We talk

3:06

about love , laughter , relationships , sexy

3:08

fun , all kinds of stuff With

3:10

you know our audience are

3:12

mostly male , but we kind of think

3:15

with the things between our legs from time to time . And it

3:17

doesn't lead you down a bad path if you control

3:20

it and you have some fun with it . But yeah

3:22

, I mean , you said 2007 and I started thinking

3:24

. Our audience knows my wife is

3:26

the only one I've ever had sex with . Not

3:28

, of course , we didn't wait until we were married . But long

3:30

story short , and it was what

3:33

? 2007 ? 2010

3:37

, I guess for people who want to know way

3:39

more details than they are , who

3:41

are going to get more details than they want to know . But

3:43

yeah so , and when we started

3:45

dating we'd known each other for years

3:47

. Once we became sexually active

3:50

we kind of jumped into the whole like okay

3:52

, what else is out there ? Like toy

3:54

market ? Foray pretty

3:57

quickly .

3:58

So you've seen lots of changes in

4:00

sex toys over those 13 years

4:03

, I take it .

4:04

Unbelievable amounts and actually

4:06

Beth and I met because

4:08

she had a store here

4:11

in Houston . I was working on a

4:13

radio station in Houston where she was doing

4:15

a weekly segment and

4:17

one day my wife and I were driving through

4:20

the the heights in Houston A little neighborhood

4:22

that the shop was in and I was like , hey , I want you to meet

4:24

this really cool woman . Well , I've met a couple

4:26

of times and brought

4:28

her in there . You know Her and Beth hit it off

4:30

immediately and then come COVID

4:33

, we started talking about stuff and my

4:35

wife , of all people , who is one of the most

4:37

shy people ever , who doesn't even listen

4:39

to this . When friends listen to it and

4:41

they try to talk to her about it , she puts her hair , her

4:44

fingers in her ears is like nope , nope

4:46

, I don't want . I . It's fine that you know it

4:48

, but don't talk to me about it . She

4:50

looked at both of us and said why don't you guys

4:52

do a podcast together ?

4:53

So you know that's the

4:56

origin story Right right , right right right

4:58

here we are .

4:59

She said this pre-COVID and

5:01

then we started doing things

5:03

like fall of 2019 . We

5:06

recorded a couple episodes which I

5:09

don't think we've released . I think we recorded them

5:11

and then looked at each other and went , yeah , this is kind of rough

5:13

, we need to know the design cat and things . I

5:16

think one day we end up we probably will

5:18

maybe for like a fifth year anniversary . You can just hear how

5:20

awkward it kind of was to start out . But

5:23

yeah , then , you know , covid hit and we

5:26

all started looking at each other . We're like , alright , well , there's two

5:28

of us . And then we added Tina , who was our

5:30

old co-host for a while . So , yeah

5:32

, I've been around seeing

5:35

sex toys and , as Beth

5:37

calls them , sexy props because she hates the word toys

5:39

I like toys , because I call

5:41

anything that I can spend a lot of money

5:43

on and get pleasure out of toys four-wheeler

5:45

toy , boat toy , all

5:48

kinds of stuff like that . So I have no problem with using the word

5:50

sex toys . So what

5:54

did you do prior to getting to love

5:56

honey ? You said you've been slinging sex toys since 2007

5:59

.

5:59

Yeah , that's art . You

6:01

know it's funny . I I feel like

6:03

I got dragged in by a

6:05

friend I was doing . I

6:07

was in a performance group , a

6:09

burlesque group , in my early 20s

6:12

, and one of the

6:14

Folks in my group is like you know , what

6:16

you would be really good at is

6:19

Teaching folks about their bodies

6:21

and sex , and so I was like you know , I'm gonna

6:23

try this out , and I got my

6:25

training . There's a retailer

6:27

, a nationwide retailer , called Beyblant

6:30

, which is a women focus

6:32

sex toy store , and they also

6:34

have a peer training

6:36

and education program there

6:38

and that's where I got my start

6:41

. And you know , once

6:43

, I have a background in theater

6:45

, I grew up in the theater , that's what

6:47

I majored in in college , and

6:49

there's this kind of Amazing

6:52

thing that happens with sex ed , where

6:54

it can be performative , but

6:56

you're also really helping people

6:59

, and so it was just this beautiful

7:01

marriage of things that matter to me . And

7:03

you know , that's where it all started .

7:06

Awesome that . Yeah , I I

7:09

wasn't in the theater part , I was in the choir part growing

7:11

up . So , and you know , being

7:13

on a stage , being in front of people , a lot of eyes being

7:15

on me , it never really bothered me . It actually kind of fueled me

7:17

and gave me that like excitement that you know you

7:20

get when you're you're performing , yeah

7:22

, and I carry that into radio . And I was like this is

7:24

even cooler because I can say anything , do anything

7:27

and I don't have a million people looking at me with immediate

7:29

hatred or looking at giving

7:31

me an immediate feedback , like you have to wait for the

7:33

feedback and radio . And then that turned into podcasting

7:35

and , yeah , I , as you can see , I like to

7:37

talk and they've been told since I was

7:40

a kid hey , you'd be really good to talk because

7:42

you know , yeah , yeah . So

7:45

, love honey , this is the

7:47

what third year you

7:50

guys have been doing advent calendars , or second

7:52

.

7:53

Oh , yes , yeah , we've been doing advent calendar

7:55

for a few years now , so we've

7:57

honed the products that are

7:59

in there . We were the first ones to come

8:02

out with a sexy

8:04

advent calendar and

8:07

you know , love honey has been around

8:09

for 20 years , okay , and one

8:11

of the things that I think love honey

8:13

is most successful

8:16

at is making their own

8:18

toys . So we've got a lot

8:20

of expertise in manufacturing

8:24

and producing

8:26

really just high quality toys

8:29

that work incredibly

8:31

well with for couples

8:33

, for solo play and and

8:36

so , with this depth of

8:38

product selection , an advent calendar

8:40

just makes a lot of sense for us because

8:42

we've got a little bit of Everything

8:45

, and I know that you said that your

8:47

audience is mostly male

8:49

. I really think that the

8:51

advent calendars are such a nice

8:54

gift for To

8:56

give your partner . It's not only awesome

8:59

for self exploration , but

9:02

there are a number of things in there that

9:04

couples can use together , and we've

9:06

got a few different styles , but you've got

9:08

one of our 12 days with you .

9:10

Yep . So I grew up Doing

9:13

advent calendars as part of like a really a religious

9:16

countdown to Christmas and as a child . You

9:18

had an advent calendar and it was a different little piece of chocolate

9:21

in each day . Yeah , and starting

9:23

December 1st , you know that was . That was the way

9:25

of keeping a child kind of satiated until

9:27

, because they knew , oh

9:29

my god , and in just a few weeks Santa's

9:31

gonna come and I'm gonna get so many presents or , you

9:33

know , hanukkah's gonna start . I don't know if you have children do that . That

9:36

would be actually a good question for Jess , or I mean for

9:38

up . Sorry , that would be a good question for Beth

9:40

, because I don't know if

9:42

they did that . I don't think they did , but

9:45

as a Catholic kid being raised , that was what we

9:47

did . Is you count down to Christmas with a little advent

9:49

calendar ? And then the

9:51

first time I saw him , I think was three

9:54

years ago , I

9:56

showed my wife and I was like this is like the

9:58

coolest marketing thing ever , because

10:00

what person doesn't like

10:02

still counting down ? To like like

10:05

a countdown for anything fun

10:07

related is awesome . Like people

10:09

do count , like I've seen people on you know , through

10:11

my wife's Pinterest and stuff like that , who do like fancy

10:13

countdown Stuff for vacations and stuff like

10:16

that . But any big event or

10:18

any Anything you're counting down to

10:20

gets better when you add in

10:22

like little pieces to kind of build

10:24

up that drumroll to get to it . And

10:27

it's just , I remember seeing it and being like this

10:29

is awesome . My wife was like , okay

10:31

, cool , let's get one . Yeah , let's go

10:33

. So yeah

10:36

, I'll show every . If you're watching on YouTube

10:38

, you can see it . If you're listening

10:40

, I will describe it as best I can . It is

10:42

a rectangular shape box , kind of like the

10:45

size you would get clothes in

10:47

. For the most part it's

10:50

it's long , it's fairly

10:52

wide and it's a couple inches deep . But

10:54

it's red . It's got a giant heart on it

10:56

which is the love honey logo , and

10:59

then when you open it up , like

11:02

Sarah said , I have a 12 day one . Well

11:04

, let's see if my green screen will let me . Oh , no

11:06

, no

11:08

you're getting little glimpses of

11:10

the doors . So yeah , let

11:13

me see I can . I could turn off my green screen right

11:15

now . It's just everybody's gonna freak out about what's in

11:17

my background because my We'll

11:20

blur the background right , that

11:23

works . So Not

11:26

that . Now it's blurring the doors

11:28

, so that is what it would look like . This

11:31

one , like you said , is a 12 day one , so

11:34

I've got all the little doors on

11:36

their number one through 12 , which is really

11:38

awesome . And what I

11:40

thought we would be fun to do is and I know

11:42

Beth wanted to do this too is just kind of

11:44

go through and Unpack one of these

11:46

and talk about all the little fun surprises

11:49

that are in them . Yep , so let's

11:51

do it . Oh , you know what ? I'll turn

11:53

this over to you because you're the expert and I have a feeling

11:55

you had a big say in how they designed

11:57

and how . So we

12:01

will go on you where you can . Either just we

12:03

could start at one and work our way through , or you can

12:05

call them out in Specific numbers and I'll

12:07

go through and we'll take things out and

12:09

start . You know , not playing with them

12:11

so much because we get kicked off of

12:13

YouTube , but we'll talk about what

12:15

it is .

12:16

Yep , why don't you start

12:18

with door number one ? Because

12:21

, the thing that is really nice

12:23

about the advent calendar is

12:25

it is designed to take you on

12:27

a journey , and I love that you Mention

12:30

kind of the nostalgia of advent

12:32

calendars and the playfulness and

12:34

the anticipation . So what

12:37

is it behind door ? One you can use

12:39

with a number of things that are in the calendar

12:41

cool whoo

12:43

, all right .

12:45

So behind door number one , if

12:49

you're playing at home or if you're just learning

12:52

because you want to get one for yourself Sorry

12:54

, spoiler alert you will find a

12:57

bullet vibrator . I Know

12:59

what these are yes . So

13:03

, yeah , this one actually looks to be rechargeable , which is

13:05

even better because finding watch batteries back

13:07

in the early mid 2010s

13:10

was a pain in the neck .

13:12

Yes , yeah

13:14

, rechargeable toys are great . This

13:16

is a rechargeable bullet and it's multi

13:19

speed . You can use it on its own , but

13:21

it also is compatible with

13:24

a number of shapes that are in

13:26

the advent calendar . So you can use

13:28

it basically to create lots

13:31

of different toys , because it's gonna

13:33

be able to make those silicone shapes vibrate

13:36

. So it's an exciting

13:38

thing to open . You're like oh , look at this , we

13:40

got a vibrator . We can use it together

13:42

. I can use it solo . And

13:45

then , as you go through the calendar , you're

13:47

gonna see that we've got a number of

13:49

things that you can insert that powerful

13:52

bullet into . So if you go to door

13:54

number two , I'll show you

13:56

one of those shapes .

13:58

We put number one back because I know I'm gonna

14:00

put them , my wife is gonna come home

14:02

and be like hey , there's sex toys all over the Number

14:08

two , okay , cool . So

14:10

I'm not

14:13

gonna use the actual name for it because you're

14:15

better at describing the name , so

14:17

I'll let you , while I just hold this , I'll

14:20

you know prices , right ? Host

14:22

Assistant

14:24

. While you just talk about what I've got in my

14:26

hands for door number two .

14:28

Yes , so you have a beautifully

14:30

shaped red G-spot

14:32

dildo and it can

14:35

be used internally . You can slip

14:38

the vibrator , the

14:40

bullet vibrator , into the

14:43

base of the dildo , and the

14:46

thing that I love about Insertable

14:49

toys is that you can use

14:51

them in lots of different ways . So

14:53

the nice little curved shape

14:56

that you've got on the head of that dildo can

14:58

be a great way to warm up

15:00

the body , because it just fits nicely

15:02

in the folds and it can

15:04

be used externally and

15:07

then Can also be

15:09

used internally for any

15:11

kind of exploration that you're interested

15:14

in .

15:14

I will also say the material it's made out of is

15:16

soft , like it's awesome

15:19

, like I don't know what it is about certain

15:21

Sex toys , that the material

15:23

you feel it , you're like , oh , that's kind of rubbery , that's weird

15:26

. This is what I .

15:30

Did I ?

15:30

yeah , it is and it it reminds

15:32

me again . Let's call back to my history

15:34

, because this is what all I do petting

15:37

a dolphin at SeaWorld when I was a kid like

15:39

I feel like you're gonna be like weird

15:42

and sticky and everything , but they're actually really soft

15:44

like cuz . They have the Wet

15:46

on them and they were really soft

15:48

and smooth . This is soft and silky

15:50

and smooth and , like I showed everybody

15:52

who is watching , yeah , there's a good hole

15:55

that will fit Not only the

15:57

bullet , but if you

15:59

decide you know you want to use it on

16:01

your partner , my , the

16:04

finger of the average man will

16:06

fit inside too . So you have a little bit better

16:08

control of what you're doing versus , you

16:10

know , doing it by you

16:12

, like wrapping your hand around it .

16:14

I love that you've used toys before

16:16

, because clearly you are creative

16:19

, and that's the thing that I love about

16:21

sex toys , pleasure props

16:23

, pleasure products , whatever you want

16:26

to call them is that they're a really

16:28

fun invitation

16:30

to get creative and

16:32

to get playful , and so that's

16:34

really what the advent calendar is about , and

16:36

number Door number three is

16:39

a great example of this sweet All

16:42

right .

16:43

So I should probably get a little bit closer to the microphone

16:45

while I'm opening these doors so they can

16:47

hear exactly because it it's noticeable

16:49

that these are , these

16:51

are shut and locked in for a reason . So

16:54

number three as as

16:56

I sit here in my hand talking to a primarily

16:58

auditory audience , is very

17:01

soft , it's very red . It's

17:03

again silky , a different type of silky

17:05

, but this is

17:08

a blindfold . Yes because

17:10

it's , like I said , soft and silky , but

17:13

it's got the oh Velvety

17:15

on the inside . You

17:18

know what ? Sure , why not ?

17:20

I'm put it on .

17:22

Let's see if I can get this over a hat

17:24

, a baseball cap and headphones . Yeah , that's

17:27

actually a really good blindfold too , because I have

17:29

it on , my eyes are open and I just bumped

17:31

into the microphone . I can't see

17:33

anything . This is , and it's nice and soft

17:35

and you can Blink your eyes without

17:37

it , you know , pushing in . There

17:40

have been a lot of blindfolds that I've tried that push

17:42

so much pressure on your eyes . It hurts at the end .

17:45

So yeah , but yeah , this is a nice

17:47

padded blindfold which actually

17:49

does have , because you know , some blindfolds . You can

17:51

kind of see down between your

17:53

like the bridge of your nose and

17:56

you're like I'm gonna pretend

17:58

like I can't see , but actually

18:00

I kind of know what's going on . And a padded

18:03

blindfold Actually really does

18:05

take away your sense of sight

18:07

. And the thing that's really great about

18:09

this , from a pleasure and Sensation

18:11

standpoint , is that when you take away one

18:13

of the senses , you heighten

18:16

the other . So , particularly in a

18:18

context where you and your partner have

18:20

good Communication and there's trust

18:23

between the two of you , introducing

18:25

a blindfold Brings

18:27

in that extra element of surprise

18:30

. So all of the sensations

18:32

that you explore or perhaps you

18:34

like Engaging in dirty talk

18:36

with a partner all of that

18:38

gets heightened when you take

18:41

away the sense of sight . So

18:43

it's a really fun way to just kind of turn

18:45

the volume up on the kinds

18:47

of play that you already really enjoy .

18:50

Yep , and you know I

18:52

was not the biggest comic book nerd

18:54

, but I was that kind of was when I

18:56

was a kid , daredevil being one of

18:58

them , who was a kid , who was blinded

19:00

and then could , he could see

19:03

by Hearing and all you know

19:05

, when you take a , like you said , when you take

19:07

away one , sense the other four kind

19:09

of compensate and it's , it's very

19:11

interesting . I remember being

19:13

blindfolded as a kid and , like you said , you can

19:15

Kind of look down and like see

19:18

what's going on around you . So you're not really because

19:20

I don't like jump scares , I don't like people popping out of nowhere

19:22

, I hate horror movies because of that stuff . Mm-hmm

19:24

, I learned that at very young age and so

19:26

anytime somebody would like blindfold me for a surprise

19:29

party or pin the tail on the Donkey or anything

19:31

like that , it was really easy to adjust

19:33

my eyes so I could see out the bottom of it . I

19:35

had that one on . I had no , I like I couldn't see my

19:37

note like . No , if you cross your eyes , you can

19:40

see your nose . I couldn't do that . So

19:42

it's , it's really soft , it works

19:44

really well and if you haven't tried blindfold

19:46

play with your partner , I highly

19:48

recommend it because it's

19:51

, and it doesn't even have to be

19:53

sexual play . It can be just an intimate act

19:55

of feeding your partner food

19:57

that you know they don't know exactly

20:00

what you brought home for dinner , but you know

20:02

you leave it somewhere , leave

20:04

it in the walkway and go tell them put on a blindfold

20:06

and sit at the table and I'm gonna feed you and it

20:08

heightens all kinds of it . So not

20:11

only does it heighten your hearing , your feeling

20:13

of you know the actual feeling of your skin

20:15

being touched and stuff like that , but in

20:17

the smell , the taste , all kinds of stuff it's

20:20

the human body is very unique , very

20:22

weird how you

20:24

can take away one of those things and

20:27

everything gets a little bit better and more intense

20:29

.

20:31

Yep , I love that . Okay , we're gonna jump around

20:33

a little bit because we're kind of talking about

20:35

couples play . So let's go to number

20:37

eight , because there is a

20:40

game in the advent calendar

20:42

number eight .

20:43

Now number eight sits a little bit smaller then

20:46

One , two and three so

20:48

far . So I had to guess . If

20:51

you took like a dollar bill and folded it in half

20:53

and then folded it in half again , that's probably

20:55

the size of number eight . And I

20:57

can see why Because now in

20:59

my hand , as a guy who just went

21:02

on vacation to Vegas recently , I

21:04

have a pair of vests in my hand and they

21:06

are not your typical six-sided dice

21:08

.

21:09

Do you want to roll them ? And ?

21:11

six numbered dice .

21:12

Yeah , you want to roll them and see what you get .

21:14

Yeah , let me see if this is gonna make noise on my

21:16

on my desktop . But we'll see how this goes

21:19

. All

21:21

right , so I got a question

21:23

mark oh , Okay and

21:26

I got what looks like the

21:29

bullet .

21:30

Yes , okay , so

21:32

this these dice have

21:35

some of the Toys

21:38

and activities from the advent calendar

21:40

and then you get a length of time

21:42

or a suggestion . Like you

21:45

know , the question mark means

21:47

you get to decide . And

21:49

the thing that is nice about games

21:52

and I think sometimes they get , I

21:54

don't know , undervalued in the world

21:57

of Sex toys because they don't

21:59

have motors and a whole bunch of power

22:01

behind them , but sometimes you just

22:03

need an idea or

22:06

something to jump start play

22:08

. And this is the nice thing is

22:10

it kind of takes the pressure off of everybody

22:12

. You know , I don't know if you've had this with your

22:14

wife or you both like , of course , want

22:16

to connect , but it's just like getting

22:18

it started is a little

22:21

hard , I would imagine , especially after 13

22:23

years . So games can just be that

22:25

fun way to be like , well , we're

22:27

gonna leave it up to the dice to decide

22:30

and then you get to take it wherever you want to

22:32

go .

22:32

It is . It is fun . Dice

22:34

like these are a blast because , concentrally

22:38

, of course , everybody's got their limits . Everybody's

22:40

got things that you say no , that we say no to . Beth

22:45

and I are kind of two proponents of that . You

22:47

know , do things that you and your comfortable your

22:49

, you and your partner are comfortable with and agree on

22:51

. Just because you don't agree

22:53

on it right now doesn't mean you won't agree on it in the future . Absolutely yeah

22:57

, dice like these are so much fun and yeah

22:59

. So I showed everybody watching

23:01

on YouTube the question mark . But yes , there is a two , there's

23:05

a 15 that I just had upside down , there's

23:07

a 10 which

23:10

is a lot of fun , and then just , I'm

23:12

not gonna show the toys and the options that are on the other die right now , because That'll

23:16

spoil the surprise of some of the rest of the calendar that we're

23:18

about to dig into . But yeah , dice Do

23:21

give you that way of playing without

23:24

you know . So

23:27

I want to say kind of like guilt , like oh

23:30

well you know , last time we focused on

23:32

you know the position you wanted to do or the toy you

23:34

wanted to use . Now it's

23:36

a shit . It's just the way the dice

23:38

rolled . Yeah you can't get mad at me

23:40

if you get a thing that says hey

23:42

, you know you have to go down on me for ten minutes

23:44

because the dice did that . I didn't .

23:46

Yeah , yeah well , and imagine

23:48

you had rolled 15 minutes and

23:51

the bullet vibrator right . Most

23:53

likely Using that

23:55

bullet vibrator in a targeted way

23:57

is going to get someone

24:00

off fairly quickly . But now if

24:02

you have 15 minutes where you've

24:04

got to find a way to use it like all

24:06

over your partner's body

24:08

or each other's body , then all of

24:10

a sudden you've got a real game

24:12

going right , exactly yeah

24:14

it breeds that creativity

24:16

.

24:17

Totally talking about earlier , yeah , you

24:19

know , using any

24:21

type of toy for 15 minutes

24:24

, if you would actually sit down and think

24:26

about 15 minutes straight Not

24:28

15 minutes You're , you know , doing something at

24:30

the house . Not 15 minutes , you're talking to a friend

24:32

, 15 minutes when it's just you and your partner and

24:35

you have to entertain them with

24:37

one thing only that's

24:40

that's a long time . Yeah , that

24:42

automatically makes you start going outside the box

24:44

and going Okay , well , you

24:46

know . Yeah , this vibrator usually , you know , works

24:49

really great on her clit . Okay , cool , try other

24:51

body parts , try nipples , try tongue

24:53

, try ears , try all kinds of stuff . And

24:56

, as Beth said , taught me years ago

24:58

for a good vibrator . You want to

25:00

know how it feels and I know we've talked about this in the past

25:03

. Put it on the tip of your nose because

25:05

it tickles and it gives you the sensation of what

25:07

it actually feels like down there , but

25:09

it also it's just

25:11

an interesting feeling .

25:16

Okay , I am curious if you

25:18

and your wife have used what

25:20

is in number 10 number

25:23

10 .

25:24

Okay , so this

25:27

will be the fifth door of 12 . We've

25:30

used five out of our

25:33

Four out of the four so

25:35

far . This Is

25:39

Okay . Here we go , something that we

25:41

have not used . So

25:45

, what you can hear jiggling

25:47

in my hands right now and , by

25:49

the way , on this advent calendar , every time

25:51

you open a door , the backside of the door tells

25:54

you exactly what you've got in your hand . So when you open

25:56

it , if you open it and you think , oh man

25:58

, this is gonna intimidate me , I'm not gonna know what to do , or there's

26:01

a little instruction thing right

26:03

there telling you exactly what you've got to play with . But

26:05

in my hand and as you can see

26:07

on YouTube and here are nipple

26:09

clamps .

26:10

Yes , yeah

26:13

, so nipple clamps can

26:15

be used on all

26:17

bodies and they

26:19

are usually adjustable , and so

26:22

you can gauge

26:25

the intensity of the firmness

26:27

based on your

26:30

partner's preference or your preference . And the

26:34

idea with nipple clamps is

26:36

, I mean , they're fun there . The

26:38

aesthetic of them is really sexy

26:40

to a lot of people , but

26:43

it actually brings

26:45

blood flow to

26:47

the nipples , and some people don't know that

26:49

the nipples are erectile tissue , just

26:52

like the penis , the clitoris

26:54

, and so it , this

26:57

erectile tissue , is really responsive

26:59

to arousal . But nipple

27:01

clamps are your little cheat sheet

27:04

sort of you know . They bring

27:06

the blood flow in quickly and

27:08

then when you take them off , you've

27:10

increased sensitivity of

27:12

the nipples . So it's a really

27:15

fun way to warm

27:17

the body up and then

27:19

give lots of attention To

27:22

your your own or your partner's

27:24

nipples for some really

27:27

increased sensation , yep , and I

27:29

don't again .

27:30

I have never used them before . I don't know

27:32

if they all have this little tiny jingle bell

27:34

on here , but or if this is just

27:36

a Christmas thing . Yeah , but I like it so

27:39

. To hear

27:41

your partner coming down the hall exactly

27:44

so being a version

27:47

or a newbie to nipple clamps it

27:51

. I'm trying to figure out a

27:53

way to describe it , but it's

27:55

basically If you unwound

27:57

part of a paper clip and let two

27:59

of the legs go out and kind of spread and

28:02

then there's an actual little Washer

28:05

on there that moves up and down to

28:07

determine how

28:10

tight I'm guessing . Mm-hmm and

28:12

so basically the

28:14

the interesting thing to me , or

28:16

anybody else who's not using nipple clamps , people who do

28:19

all the time , or any Any of our friends in the King community

28:21

are gonna go . God , aaron , you're such an idiot sometimes . Uh

28:23

, basically , would

28:25

you put the nipple Like in

28:28

between the two or around in this

28:30

little like eyelet fishing part

28:32

?

28:33

So you see at the ends that there those little

28:35

rubber , red rubber stoppers , yes

28:38

, so that you're gonna put in a little there

28:40

, because it's gonna be just a little bit more

28:42

comfortable , it's really sensitive tissue

28:44

, right , yeah , so now that's

28:47

not to say that someone who's

28:49

either a little mean or just

28:51

really likes more intense sensations

28:53

Might not stick the nipple into

28:56

the metal part of the nipple

28:58

clamp . Certainly you can do that , but they're

29:00

designed with the little bumpers .

29:02

Okay , cool , that makes more sense because , see , I'm

29:05

sitting , you're holding them like kind of like

29:07

more of a chef would have like oh

29:09

hey , these are like actual grips

29:11

so I can use these tongs . But no , that that

29:14

makes more sense and yeah , that would probably feel a lot

29:16

better to me at least . Then , just cold

29:18

steel that , yeah , for me

29:20

yeah .

29:21

I mean , everyone has different taste . Oh

29:24

okay , number 11 , 11

29:27

. All right , let's see , this is also

29:29

something that some folks perhaps

29:31

have not tried before .

29:33

Let's see . So as

29:35

I open number 11 , whoo

29:38

, you know what ? Just

29:40

to give everybody an idea of the way that they work

29:42

. When you open the door

29:44

to number 11 spoiler alert you

29:47

have anal beads and it says these

29:49

silicone anal beads feature a sturdy finger

29:52

loop so you can remove them at the

29:54

point of climax for spine tingling satisfaction

29:56

Compatible with bullet vibrator behind

29:59

door number one for safety and user instructions

30:01

, see the included leaflets , which , by the way

30:03

, yes , there are two

30:05

little books that are attached here

30:07

so you can learn even

30:09

more about what you've got in your hands . But , as I show

30:12

everybody on YouTube , if it'll not blend

30:14

it with my green screen , yeah anal

30:16

beads .

30:17

Yes , and that loop down at the bottom

30:19

. You can put your finger in there

30:21

. You could put the bullet vibrator

30:24

in there , but it's also meant as

30:26

a stopper . So this is one thing for folks

30:28

to know who are gonna play with toys

30:30

. Analy is that we've got these

30:32

two sphincter muscles in the anus

30:34

. One of them is voluntary

30:36

, one of them is involuntary

30:38

, and the process of becoming aroused

30:41

and building up to orgasm is Actually

30:44

involves a lot of contraction and release

30:47

of muscles throughout the whole

30:49

you know genital

30:51

region . So when

30:54

someone becomes really aroused , these muscles

30:56

start contracting and releasing and it can create

30:58

suction . So you want to

31:00

make sure that anything that you use analy

31:02

has a base on it , because it acts as

31:04

a little stopper if there is

31:07

some suction from these muscles

31:09

. And anal beads are Really

31:11

a fun starter toy because

31:13

they can just help to give you a sense of what the

31:15

sensation feels like . You can try one

31:17

bead . You do want to make sure that you

31:19

use lubricant with anything that you're gonna use

31:22

analy , because the ass does not

31:24

self-looper . There

31:26

is a little bit of a mucus lining in the rectum

31:28

but it does wear away with any friction

31:31

and so you get these

31:33

lubed up . You can insert one and

31:36

you can like slowly build up to the

31:38

next one . And I do think that

31:40

anal beads are probably best known for

31:42

that idea of like pulling them

31:44

out at the point of Climax

31:48

. But you can actually do some light

31:50

penetration in and out

31:52

with them and for some folks , because the

31:55

anus , that external portion

31:57

of you know , the whole area

32:00

is really where all the nerve

32:02

endings are , just that feeling

32:04

of you know , the in

32:06

and out kind

32:09

of Ridges Just

32:12

can feel Really

32:15

arousing and even orgasmic for

32:17

some folks .

32:18

Yep , and just like the

32:20

G-spot toy that I opened

32:22

up much earlier . Same type

32:25

of silky , soft

32:27

, smooth texture , same material

32:29

. It's awesome . It's

32:32

actually kind of fun to just like wiggle , like

32:34

between your fingers , like put your finger . But

32:36

yes , as Beth and I

32:38

and Tina , who

32:41

had given her

32:43

tale of sex , sent me to the ER

32:45

, kind of thing , yeah , use something

32:47

with a flared base anytime you play with

32:49

your butt , your partner's butt , anything like that

32:51

, because and I'll clue

32:53

you in on this they used a bullet vibrator

32:56

on a boyfriend of hers at one point in time and

32:58

just like you said . Is a

33:00

giant vacuum . At times it takes

33:02

it away , yes , and

33:05

if ?

33:05

you've got it nicely lubed up , it

33:07

makes it really slick , and so small

33:09

toys I mean it's you know . If it's happened

33:11

to you , there's no reason to be embarrassed about

33:14

it . We don't get good sex ed in this country

33:16

, right Like there's no way to know until

33:18

it happens . So you want

33:20

to make sure you use a base , and also that

33:22

material is silicone , which some

33:25

folks have maybe not heard

33:27

this term porous versus non

33:29

porous in relationship to sex toys

33:31

before . But non porous

33:34

materials like silicone , any

33:36

kind of metal , certain

33:39

kinds of medical grade plastics

33:41

it means that there's no pores

33:44

in the material to absorb

33:46

things like bacteria . So

33:49

for some folks Engaging

33:52

an anal play , one of the big hurdles that they

33:54

have to overcome is the cleanliness

33:56

question . The thing that's great about using

33:58

a silicone toy is you can totally disinfect

34:01

it and it is

34:03

100% non porous .

34:05

There you go . And so , yeah , if that has

34:07

been your your big hiccup , there

34:10

you go . You don't have to worry about it . Just , there

34:12

are certain things you could do . Keep

34:14

clean to begin with . You know shower

34:16

wipe correctly if

34:18

you're gonna play . Beth

34:20

has talked about before , animals are something that you can buy

34:22

at your local grocery store and you can do it and clean Yourself

34:25

out a little bit if you're gonna have like a really

34:27

intense but play session . So

34:29

do that .

34:31

Okay , you ready for the star of the show number

34:33

12 .

34:34

I am number 12

34:36

. Let's see that leaves . One

34:38

Was

34:40

there . I've got what three

34:42

left that are gonna be hidden mysteries

34:44

to me until right before Christmas . I

34:46

like this yeah , oh Wait

34:49

. No , I opened the wrong one , never . Oh

34:52

, seven , I didn't see what was in there . I closed my eyes

34:54

so I didn't see what was in there . Number 12

34:56

. Oh , number

34:58

12 is a giant rose . It

35:00

is like an actual flower . Same

35:03

same silicone material , but

35:05

oh , yeah , I should probably read this

35:07

love honey rose . Clitoral

35:09

suction stimulator . So rather

35:11

than reading and boring everybody with my

35:14

monotone instructional

35:16

voice , sarah , why don't you tell me

35:18

what I'm holding in my hand ?

35:20

So this toy became

35:22

tick tock Instagram social

35:24

media famous last year

35:26

, and it's because it's so dang cute

35:29

and it is . It

35:31

has pleasure air technology

35:33

in it . So if you've never heard of pleasure air

35:35

before , it is an incredible

35:38

Sex toy development . It's

35:40

used in the womanizer toys and

35:43

it is different from suction in that

35:45

it uses air pressure to

35:47

stimulate the clitoris , which

35:49

means that it's not making any direct

35:51

contact with the clitoris . So , unlike

35:53

other suction toys that can kind of create

35:56

some numbness , pleasure air

35:58

is designed to stimulate without

36:01

numbing and it Simulates

36:04

the sensation of oral sex

36:06

. So there has not been a toy

36:08

on the market before now that really

36:10

does that well . And the

36:12

love honey rose is just so cute . You

36:15

can leave it out on your bedside and you just

36:17

don't have to worry about , you know , anyone

36:19

being shocked and appalled . It's waterproof

36:22

so you can take it into the bath or

36:24

shower . It's just a

36:26

really nice Um

36:29

sensation and just

36:31

a very well-designed toy . So it's

36:33

understandable why it was

36:35

all the rage when it came out .

36:37

Oh yeah , and I mean eight , it's

36:40

a giant rose . So , like

36:42

you said , you could leave this out and your

36:44

friend , who doesn't you know , you

36:47

know you don't have those kind of intimate conversations about

36:49

your each other sex lives Walks

36:51

in and sees it and goes , oh okay , they

36:53

think it's like a decoration or something or

36:55

like an air diffuser or anything like that . It

36:58

is so Non-descript

37:00

, non-offending , like you look at it and you're like

37:02

, okay , that's cool , it's a , it's a rose , and then , when

37:04

you you know , close the doors behind you or

37:06

you don't even have to close the doors behind you . If you

37:08

don't want , do whatever you want . But

37:11

yeah , this Seen

37:13

these before , bought them before

37:15

. I know my wife

37:17

has one . I don't know if it's this

37:19

one , I don't remember because

37:21

she's the one who bought it but yeah

37:23

, they are Amazing little toys

37:25

to play with . So guys , especially

37:28

If you're looking for

37:30

now , don't make sex toys the only thing you get

37:32

her for Christmas or whatever don't

37:34

do that . but yeah , this

37:36

, this being the final , the

37:38

coup de gras of a 12-day advent

37:40

calendar through love , honey , a

37:43

very well done , because

37:45

Any woman

37:47

that has seen it on tiktok

37:49

or seen it on Twitter or seen it on red , it goes

37:51

, oh , what's that ? And then

37:53

from emails we've gotten

37:56

and you know my wife's experience

37:58

they get it and they go oh , oh , okay

38:01

, cool , this is gonna go like right next

38:03

to the number one toy I had for a long time and it's gonna

38:05

sit right there and one in one A

38:07

for me . Yes .

38:09

And you know I've heard a lot of folks describe

38:12

using this toy as well to

38:14

I mean , the orgasm gap , I'm sure is

38:16

something that you've talked about on the show , and

38:18

it's a really nice toy to integrate

38:21

into couples play . You know , if you are

38:23

kind of struggling with both of you

38:25

being able to achieve orgasms , like

38:27

not certainly this can be used solo

38:30

, and I encourage folks

38:32

to use toys on their own as well as

38:34

with their partner . But it is really easy to

38:36

bring into your couples play and there

38:38

is actually a pleasure air

38:40

toy that has been designed for penises

38:43

as well . I don't know if you've heard about it , but I'm

38:45

gonna just share it because I've not

38:47

. I've heard that you have a lot of

38:49

penis havers that listen to the show . So

38:51

it's called the arc wave ion

38:54

and it is a masturbation

38:56

sleeve where the pleasure

38:59

air targets the underside

39:01

of the head of the penis , the frenulum , and

39:04

it , I mean , is also a

39:06

really popular toy

39:09

. So you know , you can get

39:11

an advent calendar for your partner

39:13

and pick yourself up a

39:16

arc wave ion while you're at it .

39:18

I like that . That's going on my on my Christmas list

39:20

now because , well , I've gotten asked

39:22

questions a million times hey , what do you want for Christmas ? Hey , do

39:24

you want for cool ?

39:26

I know what I'm putting on mine , so

39:28

we won't open .

39:29

the other three will leave those as surprises for everybody

39:31

else . But love honeycom

39:34

, correct , yes for

39:36

it . I mean what

39:38

? We're still a week out from Thanksgiving . So , guys

39:41

, girls , holes , polls , everybody

39:43

. You have what ? Five

39:45

weeks , five and a half weeks until Christmas

39:47

. So if you want to do it as

39:49

an actual Christmas gift , cool , that's

39:51

awesome . You also can order it now

39:53

, before it sells out , and you

39:55

can use it to count down your way to

39:58

a sexy Christmas with your partner . There's

40:01

also a 24 day one , correct ?

40:03

There's a 24 day and we release

40:05

our couples 12 day

40:07

later in the season . So it just

40:10

came out , and the reason for

40:12

that is that we want it to be able

40:14

to last until Valentine's Day . So

40:17

there now is a 12 day

40:19

dream one calendar as

40:21

well , up on love honeycom and

40:23

love honeyca , if you happen to have

40:25

some listeners in Canada .

40:27

We do . We actually have listeners all over the world , which is was

40:30

really fun . The first time we sat down and looked at numbers

40:32

and went oh yeah , we have a

40:34

lot of listeners in Ireland . We have a lot of

40:36

listeners in South Africa . We have a lot of listeners

40:38

all over the place . So it's

40:40

been Beth and I is kind of joke

40:42

, but dream to go on a world tour

40:45

and just do live

40:47

episodes for fans all across the world who listen

40:49

to us because we wouldn't

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be here without any of y'all listening for us . But

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, yeah , so , sarah Thompson , thank

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you so much for being here . If

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you just tuned in on YouTube

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or anything like that , beth is out , had a family

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emergency , but rather than doing

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just two back to back episodes of just Sarah and I

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, sarah's going to come back in just a couple of weeks when

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Beth gets everything sorted out , and we

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will do a whole another thing . Actually , that actually

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makes a lot of sense . Let's , let's aim for

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doing this in like January , so we can do it as

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a primer to Valentine's Day and all that

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fun stuff .

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Sounds like a blast .

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Awesome . Well , thank you so much . Everybody

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get to love honeycom here . I'll even you

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know I'll do this on the fly , because I usually

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do this while Beth is talking , and

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everything will be in the show notes as

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well , so you can get it . But if you're watching

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on YouTube , there's a banner at the bottom love honeycom

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or love honeyca , depending

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on where you're located . Get the

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advent calendar . Get

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the solo advent calendar . Get the couples advent calendar

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, Get it all . Have fun , have sexy

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fun . Sarah , thank you so much

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for being here with us . Is there anything else you think our

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listeners should know ?

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going into a sexy holiday season , oh

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well , aaron , thank you so much for having

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me , and I think that

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you know the

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holidays can be stressful

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, so make sure that you're making

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time for pleasure and

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sneaking away from the family

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events connecting with your

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partner , because you know

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, we all can sometimes find

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ourselves at the other side of

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the holidays , just completely frayed

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, and this is a nice time

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to not only enjoy family but also

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settle into some pleasurable

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intimate experiences with your

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partner .

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Exactly , and that's what we want . That's what Beth preaches

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. I mean , she's got a book right now . You

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know the five kinds of intimacy . If you don't have it

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also , maybe throw that in

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the stocking for your lover . So , thank

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you for being here . Thank you for everything with

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us . We love love , honey . We love , you

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know , just getting to do these kind of fun things and having

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these talks about sexy

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, meaningful fun and relationships

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and all that stuff . You can check us out

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. If you have something you want us to talk about , if you have a question

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about your love life , if you have anything

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we've had plenty of those Come with

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us confessions at gmailcom . That's , come with us

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confessions at gmailcom . Sarah , thank

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you so much for being here and

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we will see everybody next

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week to actually right before

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Thanksgiving .

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Enjoy your advent calendar . Oh , I will

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Thank you .

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Thank you , guys , for listening . Everybody . Have a great

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and sexy time this week and

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we'll see you next week . Bye .

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Thanks for listening to the Come With Us podcast

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next time , keep it fun , flirty

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and naughty .