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says so cool , I'm not

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wrong .

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right . So today we are what

1:33

? Less

1:35

than a week away from Christmas , christmas falls

1:37

itself at what ? Six

1:40

days now , five days from now . I

1:43

figured we'd talk a little bit about last minute holiday

1:45

ideas , last minute gift ideas

1:48

, stuff

1:50

you can do , and so this is

1:52

going to be a little bit shorter one . I'm recovering

1:54

from being sick lately and just

1:57

trying to cram this in . Make sure I give

1:59

you guys something to listen to . Guys and

2:01

girls , some do

2:04

make your day brighter . Hopefully it does make your day brighter

2:06

. Let's find out . Well , we

2:08

talk about last minute Christmas gifts

2:10

, birthday gifts , whatever , anything

2:12

like that . I mean , I'm guilty of it . My

2:14

birthday is a couple days after Christmas and

2:17

I still don't have all of her gifts

2:19

bought for neither Christmas nor her birthday

2:21

. Bad husband mark on me

2:23

, see , I don't always , like

2:25

I said , I'm not the perfect husband . I'm not the perfect guy

2:28

. Don't try to claim I am . There's

2:31

your proof . I still got

2:33

a scramble to figure out what the hell I'm getting her for

2:35

both . But

2:39

something I will bring up and if

2:41

you listen last week about romance and your wife , this

2:43

kind of falls a little bit in line with that but

2:45

more from a gift giving idea is you

2:48

want to find her something with meaning , something

2:50

that shows that

2:53

you listen , that you care , that you pay attention

2:55

to the person that she is . What

2:58

are her interests ? What are her interests that she thinks

3:00

you don't care about or you don't want to

3:02

care about . Find

3:04

something in line with that that

3:08

she's going to like and , you

3:10

know , is

3:12

the gift going to be good ? Yes

3:14

, hopefully , knock on wood for

3:16

you . But also the

3:19

thought that you put into it also

3:21

registers with her to know that

3:24

. You know , hey , he pays attention

3:26

to me , hey , she pays attention to me . She

3:29

, you know , knows

3:31

what I like and know what I care about

3:33

. So stuff like that

3:35

, you know , think about the things that will

3:37

have a meaning and a good meaning

3:40

. You know that will show

3:43

them that you pay attention

3:45

, that you care , that you care about their outside

3:48

interests , stuff that

3:50

again you might not

3:52

care about , like you know , hey , you

3:54

know the . The ballet is not my cup of tea

3:56

or whatever , but I'm going to buy her a pair

3:59

of tickets or season tickets or whatever

4:01

, to the local ballet . Who

4:03

knows something like that ? I

4:05

will advise , and I've read

4:07

a lot of articles on this lately . It's the

4:09

holidays . There's a lot of articles , there's a lot of

4:11

, as we say in radio show prep

4:14

content coming

4:16

out about what not to get For

4:20

me and somebody's

4:22

going to tell me I'm wrong . Beth would probably

4:25

be here to tell me I'm wrong because she likes

4:27

doing that and she likes trying

4:29

to ruffle my feathers from time to time . Something

4:32

, not a need , and

4:34

I know as a guy that seems kind of

4:36

the opposite of the way we're programmed

4:38

. Because I

4:41

mean , when people ask , what do I want for a gift

4:43

, I have no idea I . I have

4:45

everything I I want , and then what I want

4:47

, that isn't reasonable price . I

4:50

buy . You know , I'm

4:52

a grown man , I have my own job , I have my own money

4:54

. I just buy the things that I want . But

4:57

and so more times

4:59

at least personally , when I make my

5:01

Christmas list I'm I

5:03

put things I need on there that I

5:05

just , you know , haven't wanted to spend

5:07

the money on or haven't wanted to bite the bullet and , you

5:10

know , just purchase yet . So

5:12

I put things that I quote unquote need and

5:15

we're not talking about the actual literal

5:17

need of , you know , food

5:20

, shelter , stuff , like that

5:22

sustenance , but

5:24

don't try to think of something

5:26

that she quote unquote needs . The

5:30

need part kind of makes it cold

5:32

to women , from my understanding and from what

5:34

I've been told . Again , I could be wrong

5:37

, ladies , let me know , tell

5:39

me , like I said , I'm okay here

5:41

and then I'm wrong , but I learned

5:43

a while ago going with something that

5:45

is a need quote unquote

5:47

Kind of sends

5:50

the wrong message . So

5:52

Just keep that

5:54

in mind when you're making

5:56

the list or when you're checking

5:58

to to scramble

6:00

and buy something , especially this close to Christmas

6:02

. So One

6:05

more , I guess a

6:07

small group of things not to buy

6:09

Self-improvement

6:11

stuff and I know

6:14

, again , it seems

6:16

like a duh , I'm not that stupid . Well

6:18

, I'm not saying you're stupid , but

6:21

Somebody's done it

6:23

, or else they wouldn't have written this article . You

6:26

know Workout stuff

6:28

, weight loss stuff . You

6:30

know self-help books , stuff

6:32

like those things . Maybe

6:36

it's on Her Christmas

6:38

list or maybe it's on her Hanukkah list

6:40

or holiday list or birthday list , whatever . That

6:42

doesn't mean it needs to come from you . Just

6:47

in general . Now , relationships vary

6:49

. If you have that kind of relationship where

6:51

you know you guys are super

6:53

gung-ho workout people

6:55

and she , you know , wants a

6:58

new pair of weightlifting gloves , okay

7:00

, or something like that , who knows . But

7:02

if your wife , you

7:04

know , complains , oh , I need to get in

7:06

shape , I need to lose weight , oh , don't go

7:09

and do something like that , don't buy her . You

7:11

know vitamins or any

7:14

of that stuff , workout

7:16

supplements , gym membership

7:19

, anything . Don't do that . That's stupid . Be

7:21

smarter than that . I expect you guys to be smarter than that and I

7:23

expect you guys to be rolling your eyes right now and going , aaron

7:26

, I'm not that dumb . I hope you're not Not

7:29

saying I've done that . I'm like

7:31

to pride myself on that being not quite

7:33

that dumb , but yeah

7:35

, so I hope you're not . You haven't thought

7:37

of that . If you have put it on the back

7:39

burner , let's , let's not go that far

7:42

with it . When

7:45

it comes to sexy , when it comes

7:47

to toys For the bedroom

7:49

and beyond what , you're enjoying

7:52

your sexy time with your partner , those

7:55

are something you need to consider

7:57

what kind

7:59

of relationship you have as

8:02

a young man , you know , in

8:04

a committed relationship with my wife . Before she

8:06

was my wife , I Did think

8:08

it was a good idea to buy

8:11

a Sexy

8:13

toy or two for holiday

8:15

occasions . And some people are rolling their

8:17

eyes and going , oh , you dummy . Some

8:20

guys are going , oh , it's wrong with that . It again

8:22

, it depends on your relationship . Our relationship

8:24

was committed , but

8:26

it was still . I mean , I

8:28

learned stuff about my wife all the time . You know

8:30

, yeah , I don't know everything about

8:33

her and I don't you know . I

8:35

like to say I know her better than everybody in the world , like

8:38

I do , but that

8:40

doesn't mean I know her every move

8:42

, thought , need , feeling , every

8:45

time . I'm still learning

8:47

, but this was an apartment

8:49

or relationship where I still had a lot

8:51

To learn compared to where I am

8:54

now . And , yeah

8:56

, know your wife girlfriend

8:59

, know the relationship , know the

9:02

way

9:04

you look at it . And Was

9:06

my wife girlfriend at

9:08

the time , upset that I bought sexy

9:11

toys for Christmas ? Yes

9:15

and no , but it was more

9:17

of a hey , sexy

9:20

toys , buying Exploration

9:23

, all that stuff Is

9:26

viewed as a us thing , a

9:28

let's go pick them out together , let's do

9:30

this together . Not a hey

9:32

, you pick it out and give it to me and then I'll

9:35

figure it out . So just keep that

9:37

in mind with your partner , the

9:39

way your relationship goes . You know your relationship better

9:41

than I do . Some wives

9:44

or girlfriends will be ecstatic with it

9:46

. Some will look at it like mine did

9:48

and went . I'm

9:51

not mad , but

9:54

it's not the right thought process

9:56

. So Just

9:58

something to keep in mind . Like

10:01

I said , know your wife , know your girlfriend

10:03

, know your relationship , know the dynamic

10:05

. You know if

10:08

you don't Spend more time with

10:10

your partner , look in the mirror , Think

10:12

about it . Put a little bit more thought into it

10:14

. Like I said , I know if

10:17

you're listening to this and you're trying to

10:19

jot down notes and stuff , you're probably scrambling

10:21

already . Definitely

10:24

, at least put some thought into it while

10:27

you're driving to the sexy store and trying

10:29

to figure stuff out . Just Just

10:32

keep that in mind . One

10:34

thing I will mention and

10:37

I try to take up too much of your time

10:39

today , like I said , it's gonna be a shorter episode than normal

10:41

Something

10:43

that has worked in the past and probably

10:45

will work in the future . For me again , sexy

10:49

getaways and I know Everybody's

10:52

budget is different . It depends on what you can't

10:54

afford , what you can't afford , whether you have

10:57

kids , whether you can get away , whether you have a babysitter

10:59

. I'm not saying a week-long

11:01

vacation in Europe , I'm not saying , you know

11:03

, a month at sea

11:06

or whatever , two

11:08

days a day even . You know

11:10

, find a hotel in

11:12

your , in your clothes , the closest big city

11:14

to you . You know , go get a hotel for

11:16

the day , night . You know , enjoy

11:18

it . You know , book the , book

11:21

, the massage treatment at the hotel , if you're doing it for the

11:23

day , or Give her , give

11:25

her a massage , make that , make her the little

11:28

coupon that says , are you ? Oh , like you were

11:30

going to this hotel together and you

11:32

get a full body massage out of it , one

11:36

of the best things and I've

11:38

referenced it before I don't know if I've referenced it so much that it'll give it away but

11:42

just like a sexy getaway for

11:45

for my family or my wife , the

11:48

, the sexy getaway to the middle of nowhere . That's what she likes , that's what I like

11:50

. We

11:53

both like being off the grid , at a cell

11:55

phone range , just the two of us . We can

11:57

do whatever we want , whenever we want , and nobody tells us anything . So

12:00

there are . There's

12:04

a company right now that has cabins

12:06

all over the United States in the closest forest to your major city . Oh

12:10

, what is it called ? I think it's called getaway . What

12:12

? Let me you know what ? Here you go before

12:15

I , you know

12:17

, tell you that I'm wrong or tell

12:19

you something wrong before you Google

12:21

it . Getaway

12:24

, getawayhouse . They

12:26

have my little modern cabins all around the country . If

12:31

that's something that you , you and your significant

12:33

other , would like , take

12:36

a look at them . That's definitely

12:38

. Those are on my wife's and my bucket list

12:40

when we get some time off . But

12:44

there are also plenty of other places you can

12:46

find through Airbnb or VRBO or whatever . Find

12:50

something , you know , just

12:52

short term . Like I said , two days , three days If you got the budget

12:54

, four days , five days , whatever , depending on

12:56

what your life and your schedule is

12:59

like . Figure

13:02

it out . But that's also a good , you

13:04

know , thought induced

13:08

and Gift . That signifies you

13:10

want alone time with her or

13:12

him . You want to be together , the two of

13:15

you , and you want that Intimate

13:21

time together . Not sexy time , just that intimacy to spend with just

13:23

that other person . No

13:26

distractions and no other jobs or kids or whatever . Just

13:29

time the two of you . Something

13:32

to keep in mind . Also a benefit of

13:34

looking out for stuff

13:36

like that is Find

13:40

those secluded places . You find a place with a little hot tub or a pool or

13:42

a big shower If you don't have one at home . We don't have

13:44

a big shower at our house . It's

13:47

kind of something we put on our list when we go

13:49

to travel is trying to find hotels and or Airbnb . They

13:53

have larger showers so we

13:55

can enjoy shower time together

13:57

. But just something like that to

13:59

keep in mind While

14:01

you're doing this . So If

14:07

you're , if you're running late on the

14:09

gift buying , those

14:11

are some ideas . That's

14:15

at least where I'm coming from . Like I said , Beth

14:17

likes to lawyer

14:19

me all the time and point out where my

14:21

ideas are flawed or what

14:24

have you , where I'm getting things wrong . So

14:28

that's what I got , and again , you

14:30

don't have Beth here to tell me I'm an idiot or

14:32

tell me I'm barking up

14:35

the wrong tree or anything like that . So

14:38

take what I have to say with a great assault . So

14:40

there's some ideas for you on

14:43

what to do If you're scrambling

14:45

, if you need something or

14:48

just in general . I mean , there's other holidays

14:50

that come up where you're gonna buy your

14:52

significant other a gift . Maybe Valentine's

14:55

Day is one thing coming up , birthdays are coming up , just

14:58

stuff to keep in mind together

15:00

. Don't be that guy who

15:02

gets his wife a vacuum and goes huh

15:04

, thought that was a good idea . Eh

15:08

, that's a very

15:10

risky . That's a big gamble

15:13

there and not

15:16

a high payoff , to me at

15:18

least . So , like

15:20

I said , and going along with last

15:22

week's episode paint engineer

15:24

partner , you know who she is

15:26

, know your relationship and that'll

15:28

definitely help you figure out

15:30

the good idea . But sometimes

15:33

it's the idea that's right in front of you that you

15:35

haven't seen . Sometimes it's something you gotta dig deep

15:37

and really think about and kinda think

15:40

about something that's gonna mean something important to

15:42

her . You never

15:44

know . So

15:46

that's kinda what I got this week . I

15:50

will have more for you next week because I will

15:52

not be sick the entire week

15:54

. Between when I recorded this last week , the

15:56

last week's episode , and within

16:00

the last you know , probably 72 hours

16:02

, I'd just gotten over it and had a lot of

16:04

work to catch up on and stuff like that . So

16:07

if you have anything you wanna hear , if

16:09

you want me to tackle something before the end of the

16:11

new year , if you want just

16:13

me to tell stories , or you have any questions

16:15

about me in my life , I'll tell you . I'm an open book

16:17

. I don't care . Come with us confessions

16:19

at gmailcom , that's . Come with us confessions

16:22

at gmailcom . Facebook

16:24

at come with us podcast . Twitter

16:26

at come with us pod . Just

16:29

hit me up , let me know . I appreciate

16:31

you listening . Like I said , I'm sorry it's a little bit

16:33

shorter than an episode . That we're used to , but

16:37

gives you more time to go and think and

16:39

shop and spend time with your wife

16:41

, spend time with your loved ones . Go enjoy

16:43

the holiday . I will talk to

16:45

you before the new year , but

16:49

everyone have a great Christmas . If

16:51

you celebrate Hanukkah , I hope you had a great Hanukkah

16:53

and also keep Beth and

16:55

her family in your prayers as

16:57

they mourn Kaya . All

17:00

right , we're getting out of here , guys . Have

17:02

a great week . Like I said , have a merry

17:04

Christmas , see ya .

17:09

Thanks for listening to the come with us podcast

17:11

. Be sure to follow us on social media at

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17:16

, comments and confessions to come with us

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. Confessions at gmailcom . Until

17:20

next time , keep it fun , flirty

17:22

and naughty .