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So now how do we deal with rejection?
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Now I'm going to read a scripture. Everybody's
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going to, your eyebrows are going to probably
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go up. You're going to go, what? Don't
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turn this off until you hear what I
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say. Welcome
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to conversations with John and Lisa
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Bevere. And I'm super excited. I
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am too. I just, I think
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this is an important topic.
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We've already talked on part one, so
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we're going to dive into part two,
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but listen, we want you to know
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we love it when you join us,
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John, I've had so many people on
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Okay. This is possibly my favorite, which is
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why I really wanted to host today. Okay.
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This is from justice. Baldo Vino's.
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I think that's an Italian. It's Italian
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or Spanish. He says so good. The
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last episode. And he said, signed
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your spiritually starving was so amazing.
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I'm 14 years old and
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I have listened to it four
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times already. Your
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tea, your tea just went
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off. Okay. So everybody, Lisa just
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punched me because this is,
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this is why right before
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we started this episode, I had my
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hand while looking at my notes and
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knocked over an entire cup of freshly
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brewed tea. Hot. I felt absolutely
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terrible. I mean, it literally baptized Lisa.
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She had to change outfits. And then
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I went back to make another pot
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of tea and that's the beep beep
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beep. You just heard. Which is
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why I punched him. So here, so it was the baptism
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of tea. Honey, let's talk about
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justice. I'm more interested in justice right
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now than my blunders. Okay. So
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good. Last episode signed you are spiritually starving.
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That was the name of the episode was
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so amazing. I'm 14. I've
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listened to it four times already.
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I can't wait for the next episode. Just
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for you, Justice. I can't even
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tell you how happy it makes
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up for my husband dumping hot
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tea on me. You have
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made my day. Way to go. You
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saved me. We're doing part two on rejection. Yes.
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So let's do a quick review on part one. The
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recap. So the common ways, Lisa, we can
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experience rejection, number one in relationships. And there's
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all kinds of ways. Betrayals, backups, divorce, ghosting,
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neglect. We could go on
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and on. Ghosting is? Yes, it's crickets.
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And so that means they
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go silent, honey. Very well. Okay, thank you.
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Job and career. Okay. We
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overlook for a promotion, dismissed from a job,
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not chosen for a position. Social
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situations, rejection can occur by not
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being invited to something. Yes. Excluded,
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not being picked. Can I say this? This
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happens a lot. People have traveling ministries. People
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forget about it. Social media. I don't like
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it. Social media, negative comments and strife, cancel
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culture, all of that. What cancel culture? That
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means you get canceled if I don't agree
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with what you said. Instead
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of... It's extremely aggressive. Yes, it
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is. Extremely aggressive. Sales and business,
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like in the refusal of a
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product or your service. Racism,
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mistreatment as a result of skin color. Unbelievable.
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When we are spirits and have souls and
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live in a body. It's like saying, you
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got a blue house, I got a red
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house, I don't like you. It's ridiculous. Can
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I tell you something that was really beautiful that
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happened to me this week? Yes. We
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had hosted an event and
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at the end of it, John, they were so tired. I
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went into the swimming pool for the first time. We'd been
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there for like six, seven days or whatever.
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I went into the swimming pool and there was
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a group of three black women
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in the swimming pool. You
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could tell they were friends, they were laughing, they
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were talking. I was by myself, but I needed
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to walk over to the exit where they were
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near. One of the women made
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eye contact with me and she smiled and I
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smiled back at her. She
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got up and we started talking with one another.
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She looked at me. You know, I
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just shared with my heart about the mothers rising
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up fighting for the children and she looked at
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me John And just out of
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the blue. She doesn't know me from Adam She
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looked at me and she said I
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love you. That's beautiful Can I just
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tell you it did something in me
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because I feel like there's been so
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much racial tension That
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in the last few years for that
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woman to actually reach out and say
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I love you when she doesn't even
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know me It was like a healing
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balm and I just want to challenge
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people out there if I
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feel that way You know because it feels
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like we live in a culture where everybody
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feels guilty or shamed about something before
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they even Connect with somebody
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else. I'm just gonna challenge you. Maybe you need
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to look at somebody I mean, I took away
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that lesson. I thought I'm going to be intentional
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about not just Making eye
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contact, you know for me it reminds
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me a couple years ago I was walking
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into Hyde Park in London, England and
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as I was walking in Islamic
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lady was walking out she had the Lady,
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yeah Muslim lady She had the whole head covering
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on and her head was down and she had
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this sad sad look and I I looked
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at her When I was about five paces away and
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I said good morning And she looked up and she
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saw my eyes right into her eyes and
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at first she was shocked and then a smile
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came on her face Great
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if we started surprising people with kindness. Yes Okay,
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so John after people who are rejected here
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are some of the common responses first of
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all anger and offense the
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fate of Satan Yeah, when people
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feel rejected they reject. Yeah
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when people feel judged Yeah,
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you're my problem you stop this
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you're and they just turn turn
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against other people Yeah, that's really
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good. And then we've got some other ones here
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shame and embarrassment Yeah, was was
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there anything embarrassing for you in high school? I
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kind of feel like you were just like a
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little athlete and a little science math
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nerd and no everybody experiences
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embarrassment and shame in high school the
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question is what are you going to
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do with it and that's why we're
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having this program. Can you tell me
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one incident of human embarrassment? Oh people
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called me helmet hair like
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I did I know they call me blow dryer
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boy and you know because I I I you
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were a little obsessive I was a little obsessive
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of my hair but I wouldn't you know anyway
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but that's not really mean that was just like
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they probably were jealous. It was a
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lot worse things but yeah okay okay all
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right I'd have to dig to get it
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but okay well you know you know
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I was freaked out you know they
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called me cyclops one eye and we
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might have anything that kind of stuff
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which I would actually be proud of
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mafia mother probably right now but now
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yeah I didn't know okay
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self-doubt right people have constant
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rejection they begin to think
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they're worthy of it yeah we're like maybe
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there's something wrong with me response right
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and here's the thing you know one of the things I love
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is when God calls you to
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begin this is what God told us I've
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called you to begin not just belong when
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God calls you to begin something
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there's often rejection at first because it's never been
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done before you're the first person to do it
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so people are like we don't believe in that
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we don't think you should do that isolation is
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a big one that's a response and I mean
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Cain did this to avoid from the virus says
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when he disobeyed God and he brought that offering
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of the fruit of his hands the
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Bible says the Lord rejected Cain and his
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offering right but he said hey if you
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just obey me you'll be just like your
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brother well he's ended up going to the
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isolation and he says his brother well
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yep he kills his brother and then becomes a
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fugitive and a vagabond yeah so that's
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what happens a lot of times when
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we experience rejection will become a Cain
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who becomes a vagabond
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and a wanderer we're wandering from safe
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place what we think is safe place
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to safe place and
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then yeah I'll self want and you know
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I think with this one's worth talking about a little
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bit there's it is the projected and
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then the protected self. People
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will project the one that they
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think people will love and interact
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with and social media has really,
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really caused an upswing in this
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projected self. And
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so we need to have an awareness. Lisa,
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that's what Ananias and Safire did.
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They wanted to project something that
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they weren't doing. They were saying we
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are sacrificing everything we sold, we're giving
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it, and they were projecting
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a false image. They did it in
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the presence of the glory of God,
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and then they were immediately judged. Well,
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it's interesting that you would say that, because
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there's three things that make ourselves an enemy
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of God. And I love how the message
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paraphrase, or the message translation addresses it. It
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says, of course, we know it's the
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lust of the idol, lust of the flesh, the pride of life. And
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the message says the pride
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of life is wanting to appear important
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in the eyes of others. And
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so they did everything. They really casually
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said, make us the enemy of
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God. And yet the
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New Testament says it. Right. Well,
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I just was trying to recap. It's
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amazing. I mean, James talks about if
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you love the world, you make yourself
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an enemy of God. And so
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I don't think any person listening
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to this podcast would ever want to
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make themselves an enemy of God. But
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that's our choice, not his. Well, it doesn't
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say if you love the world. It says,
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basically, friendship with the world. And I think
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we need to have a clarity. We're supposed
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to love people that are lost.
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So that's not what John and
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I were talking about. But there's a difference between
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being a friend with the world and
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a friend to the world. So if you're
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a friend with the world, you pursue what the
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world pursues. But if you're a friend to the
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world, then you have an under. You live to
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be accepted by the world, right? No, only
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if you're a friend with. If you're a
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friend with the world, you're living to be
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accepted by the world. But
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I was saying for your friend to the world. So
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the difference would be understanding
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that the world is
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lost and hurting. So
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a friend to the world is bedside, but a friend
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with the world is in bed with. Oh, Lisa,
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that's so good. There's the difference. So we
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want to be bedside, not in bed
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with. We're not going to be in
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partnership with what they're pursuing. We're
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going to be outside of it
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understanding that those things are going to end
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up making them feel a void in their
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life. Okay, so now how do we
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deal with rejection? Now I'm going to read a
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scripture. Everybody's going to... Your eyebrows are going to
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probably go up. You're going to go, what? Don't
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turn this off until you hear what I say.
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Matthew 10, 14, Jesus said, in
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whoever will not receive and accept
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and welcome you nor listen to
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your message as you leave the
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town or the house,
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shake the dust of it
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from your feet. So
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here's the instruction. Shake
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it off. Yeah, the rejection. Shake
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it off. Don't carry it. If
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you carry it, you're going to
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now start having behavior that's going
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to be reactive instead of proactive.
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Yeah, and I want again, I think
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some people would be really excited about thinking,
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I'm shaking this off and I'm cursing. We're
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not saying that. We're saying
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don't carry it forward. We're
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saying let go of it. Absolutely. So
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Jesus is saying, hey, that rejection, don't
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carry it in the next town because
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then you go into this defensive posture.
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And now I'm already acting like they're
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going to reject me. And then you'll behave in a
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way they do. Yes. You'll actually
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invite it. So when you
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have a rejection complex, please
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remember you invite rejection. And
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so Jesus gave his disciples one
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clear directive and that is shake
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it off. In
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Luke 10, 16, Jesus says, he
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who hears you hears me and
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he who rejects you rejects
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me and he who rejects
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me rejects the father who
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sent me. A lot of rejects.
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Jesus absolutely was
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rejected. And if you're ever experiencing
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this please remember Jesus
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is easily touched with the feeling of
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your affirmities because he was despised and
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rejected by man Isaiah 53 verse 3
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he was rejected
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by Israel his people that's John
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1 11 right he was rejected
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as brothers that's John's
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that's his half brothers John 7 verse
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5 he was rejected by
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his team Peter denies Jesus I
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mean I love the voice changing
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not only does Peter
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deny Jesus but all but
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John flee for their lives
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in his hour of greatest
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need yeah the only the only
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people that stayed which I'm just gonna have to call it
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out with the women that's right the
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women I'll one out for the women right
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there so rejection is a
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part and a parcel of God's
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calling so what you're saying to
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everybody is if they're experiencing rejection
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people unfollowing them on social media
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people that they thought they
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had a relationship with cutting them off that
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actually they can bring that to Jesus people
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leaving your Bible study your home group people leaving
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your church people saying
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hey I'm not choosing you to be a part of
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our team you know I'm hearing so
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many of it and I'm hearing so many parents
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right now who are going through a season with
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their children where their children have rejected
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what they've been raised in all of
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their life and I just want to say as a word
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of comfort to the parents out there this
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is not the end of the story yes you can
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reject something on one season but just
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always keep that door open for the
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next season the father had two sons
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and one was a prodigal talk about
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rejection your son just goes away give
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me what and violates everything you raised
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him to do but the
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story wasn't over it came to
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a senses and I know we have this promise
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Lisa that if we raise a
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child in the way that they should
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go when they are old they'll not
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depart from it right and so we
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have that promise we've got so much
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rejection in the Bible got Joseph rejected
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by his own brothers we got King
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David who is rejected rejected by his
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father. Think of it. His father brings his
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seven brothers out and doesn't even think about
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bringing David out. God doesn't tell the prophet,
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uh-uh, it's none of these guys, right? So
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we've got, it looks like we have an
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abundance of examples. Yeah. What do
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they do? How do you move forward from a place of
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feeling rejected, feeling wounded,
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feeling like an outcast? How do they begin to
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move into a place of healing and strength? Well,
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we've got several ideas,
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thoughts to share.
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Number one, receive God's love and
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acceptance first before seeking
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love and acceptance from others.
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I believe that when you truly understand
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how valuable you are to God and
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just meditating, I mean, it's like Jesus,
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Jesus was given to pay
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the price for us to be purchased back
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to God. What a price that he
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paid. What a price. You
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were accepted by God, and
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he did it long before you accepted him. Yeah,
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and, you know, I want to just kind of
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emphasize, it's not just resect, accept it. It's
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adopted, and it is loved.
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I mean, God isn't like, oh, I'm going to
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tolerate them because Jesus died for them. He
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sent his son because he loves us.
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So first you would say,
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receive God's love and acceptance. Yeah,
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I feel to say this, you're sitting
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there and you're thinking, how valuable am
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I? You're worth your
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value. I mean, Jesus said, if you give
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up your soul to gain the entire world,
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so if everybody in the world loves you
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and you get all the valuables and all
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the resources, you've made a non-profitable
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deal because you're more valuable than the wealth of
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the whole world or the acceptance of the whole
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world. What is your value? The
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price of Jesus Christ. That's why
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the Bible says God bought you
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at a high price. The
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redemption of your soul, the Bible says, is costly.
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It can't be purchased by any human
15:56
being or anything this world has, but
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yet God... purchased your soul. We're
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talking to you right now. I just feel
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like there's somebody listening right now. I feel
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it by the Spirit of God. You
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absolutely feel at the lowest point
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you've ever been. You've even contemplated
16:12
taking your life. I feel
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this so strongly right now. You
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are so valuable that God paid the price
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to go through all the gruesome agony, shed
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every drop of his blood so that you
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could be his. You
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are accepted and speak to these lies.
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I speak to these lies of the
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enemy that is telling this
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person, you're worthless. You are of
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no value. I break those words
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off of them. My brother,
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my sister in the name of Jesus, even
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if those words were spoken by a mother,
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a father, if they were spoken by a
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spouse, a close friend, I break in the
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name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. We
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break those words off of you
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and we set you free and
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you are accepted in the beloved.
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You are accepted by Him
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who lives in eternity and
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who holds eternity in His
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possession. Boy, okay.
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Sorry, I just felt down. Listen,
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I want anybody out there listening to
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this to understand that was a message
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for you. And a lot of times,
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I hope you heard what John said
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about maybe a parent said, I
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wish I never would have had you or you know, you've
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ruined my life or whatever it is.
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God always had you in His heart. God
17:27
always had a plan and so we need
17:29
to stop self rejection. We need to stop
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thinking, well, you know, God might love me
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but I hate myself or I'm rejecting myself
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and John, we have a lot of people
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out there right now that reject
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themselves. Yes. And you know, I know for
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me, there was a season of my life
17:44
where I felt like every single day was
17:46
just a failure. I was a young mom, you
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know, every single day I had a list of all
17:51
the things I didn't do right. And I felt like
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God was just getting ready to like say,
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all right, that's it. You're just never gonna make it.
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Or if I confessed it like, oh, I shouldn't have
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yelled. or I should have done this,
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I felt like I couldn't receive forgiveness
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because I had to punish myself. And
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you know, rejecting yourself, self-punishment,
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that's just ridiculous. When Jesus
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already paid the price, we
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don't make ourselves our own sacrifice.
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So accept yourself in the beloved
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and then heal from the root
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of rejection. So there's roots of
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rejection. And here's what I love.
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Maybe as John was praying, you just felt
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a quickening, just a quickening. I'm
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going to ask you to sit with the Holy Spirit
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and say, is there a pattern in my
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life where
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there's been a root of rejection? Because
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it can be shocking how little things
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can come in and plant
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a seed of rejection through
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school, through childhood, through friends, or
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whatever it is. And I'm going
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to tell you, God wants to
18:52
heal that because when that rejection
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thing is in there, the enemy
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puts lies in that wounding. And
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God wants to bring healing
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because not only does
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He want to actually have you receive
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His love, He wants
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you to be a vehicle of His life. And I feel
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to say this so strongly right now. The
19:12
Bible says that the weapons of
19:14
our warfare, they're not fleshly, but they're mighty
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in God to the pulling down of strongholds.
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What are these strongholds? It
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says, casting down every imagination or the Bible
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says reasoning. And every high thing that exalts
19:25
itself against the knowledge of God. Now we've
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given you the knowledge of God. The
19:30
knowledge of God is that God paid a very
19:32
high price for you. God accepts you. So
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who in the world can tell you
19:37
that you're rejected? What happens
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is these words, they're like
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bricks and they build strongholds in our soul.
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So this is what the Lord's, I'm telling you, I
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believe the Spirit of God is telling me to tell
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you this. Every
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time you hear something, you feel
19:52
something. Let's even go there. You
19:55
feel something. Chances are
19:57
you are feeling you're worthless
19:59
because... with
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His loving kindness. I love it, Lisa. Okay,
22:03
so there's been like a lot. I mean,
22:05
I love that you just did the little
22:07
slip into the prayer time. Well, anyway, I
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want to thank you for tuning in. I
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really, we love it if you rate, review,
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subscribe. It really helps us get the show
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that's really helpful. And if you haven't already,
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please, please, please download Messenger X. John, I
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am hearing everywhere I go, so many people
22:27
are finding freedom and truth
22:29
and stability and tools to
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lead home groups through Messenger
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X. And if you
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haven't already, a lot of people already have.
22:38
Check out our other podcasts. We have At
22:40
Home with the Beveres. More
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new ones are coming in 2024. We got
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some prizes. Yep, we do. So
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until next time, this has been Conversations with
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John and Lisa. We
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hope you enjoyed this episode of Conversations
22:54
with John and Lisa Bevere. If you
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23:00
listen. Also, if you haven't already, go
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Bevere and other great messengers. Again, thank
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you so much for joining us and
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we'll see you next time on Conversations
23:12
with John and Lisa.
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