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right now. Welcome to the Create

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Your vibrant life podcast.

1:19

Hello, hello, hello, how are

1:19

you? Today I just wanted to chit

1:25

chat with you about what is in

1:25

as we approach this is already

1:30

June, we have just six more

1:30

months in the year left. Six

1:35

months have passed already. And

1:35

just to check in with you all to

1:40

see where you're at what's

1:40

happening. And also how do you

1:44

approach summer, especially if

1:44

you are a mompreneur or a is

1:51

there an equivalent of a father

1:51

printer. Because this is what's

1:56

on my mind. And this is what I

1:56

hear from a lot of my clients

2:00

about where they're at. And even

2:00

if you're not a mom, and but

2:05

you're a business owner, this is

2:05

going to be relevant to you

2:08

because I just want to share a

2:08

few things of how do you set

2:12

yourself up, especially when

2:12

you're dealing with a lot of

2:17

uncertainty, as I'm noticing is

2:17

what's happening in the world.

2:21

So this is going to be more like

2:21

a check in session, we'll see

2:25

what's happening with you. And

2:25

also, you know, most of what

2:31

I've noticed, this is really

2:31

funny for all you podcast

2:34

listeners. So when I share

2:34

personal stuff, I get so many

2:41

more downloads, it's very

2:41

interesting to me, same thing

2:44

with my Instagram, or even my

2:44

email list, it's just a very

2:49

interesting thing for me to

2:49

observe. Because in general, my

2:53

tendency is not to be very

2:53

personal in my sharing. And it's

2:59

really surprised me and then

2:59

because, you know, many of you

3:03

know that my training is in

3:03

therapy and in when you go to

3:08

therapy school, you are taught,

3:08

do not bring your stuff into the

3:14

session. And I practiced as a

3:14

therapist for 23 plus years. And

3:21

so it's like, ingrained in me Do

3:21

not bring your personal stuff

3:25

into the work that you're doing.

3:25

So now when I am in a place

3:29

where a more I'm coaching, and

3:29

people want to hear about me,

3:36

it's a very, very, it's very,

3:36

it's it's like a it's like I

3:41

have to work on sharing personal

3:41

stuff. And then I realized that

3:47

this is happening because most

3:47

people want to see how can they

3:51

apply what is happening in

3:51

someone else's life to their own

3:56

life. So I was like, okay, I can

3:56

get on board with that. So

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that's what this episode is

4:00

going to be about a personal

4:04

share, especially as we approach

4:04

summer. And also what's what's

4:11

on my mind with parenting with

4:11

business and with my own

4:15

personal life experiences with

4:15

spiritual my spiritual

4:20

practices. It's just going to be

4:20

a touch point session or episode

4:25

for you all. And what I want you

4:25

all to do is apply this to your

4:31

life. This is not about me, this

4:31

is about how can you apply this

4:37

to your own life. Okay. All

4:37

right. So I'm going to share

4:43

even just how I'm recording this

4:43

episode is going to give you a

4:48

sense of what's happening. And

4:48

I'm sure you can relate to this

4:52

especially if you have kids in

4:52

your life. It is five At 40 9am,

5:02

on a Monday morning, on the

5:02

Memorial Day weekend, this is

5:08

when I'm recording these

5:08

episodes. Because I'm not only

5:15

solo parenting for two weeks, my

5:15

kids are out of school. In

5:21

Arizona, we get out of school

5:21

much earlier than the rest of

5:24

the of the country. So and, and

5:24

their camps haven't started yet,

5:31

it's going to start this week,

5:31

which means that, oh, my

5:36

goodness, so much balancing act

5:36

of parenting, and my kids are

5:41

young. So just so that you, you

5:41

have your kids maybe older,

5:44

younger, I don't know, my kids

5:44

are six and nine. So they're

5:48

still young, they still need my

5:48

time and attention. And it is a

5:53

lot of balancing act. And many

5:53

days, most days, I feel like I

6:01

have failed. Like, honestly,

6:01

this, I'm being transparent with

6:05

you. Because most days I set my

6:05

intention, I'm going to be

6:09

patient, I'm going to do

6:09

everything with to my best

6:14

ability. And most days, I feel

6:14

like, Oh, my goodness, what did

6:19

I do, because I lose my patience

6:19

a lot of times. And especially

6:26

with my younger one, who tends

6:26

to be just the most beautiful,

6:30

amazing, very spicy, feisty

6:30

child and full of life. And she

6:40

tends to push my buttons most

6:40

days. And I get my buttons, but

6:46

it's not her right, like, the

6:46

like they say, you know, when

6:48

when I used to be nice to have

6:48

dogs, they always said there are

6:53

no bad dogs, only bad dog owners

6:53

or dog owners who haven't

6:58

figured it out. Obviously, as a

6:58

parent, there is no good or bad

7:02

or right or wrong. It is just

7:02

how they impact you. And how

7:09

much are you what is what is in

7:09

your capacity to hold for

7:15

raising these beautiful beings

7:15

that have entrusted that they've

7:18

come into your life. This is a

7:18

sacred contract between these

7:22

beautiful beings and you. And

7:22

it's a lot of responsibility.

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And especially when I'm solo

7:28

parenting, running a business

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and also taking care of my own

7:31

needs. Many times I feel like I

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don't know what the heck I'm

7:35

doing as a parent. Now, that's

7:39

not really true. But those are

7:39

the stories and narratives that

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I've often told myself when I

7:42

feel like oh my god, like what

7:46

has How has this day been. And

7:46

then I have my nine year old,

7:51

who's pretty independent. He's,

7:51

he's no, he's a very, very, very

7:57

smart child and likes to do

7:57

things on his own, which is

8:01

great. But yesterday, we had an

8:01

incident where he's like, they

8:04

were in the pool. And when he's

8:04

bored, it's very interesting. He

8:11

starts to like, you know, get

8:11

under her nerves. And then

8:13

there's a lot of like, all the

8:13

entire time in the pool, I

8:17

always hear Stop, stop, stop. It

8:17

was getting to me. And so I was

8:22

like and plus the pool, I always

8:22

feel like I have to be on guard

8:26

because you know, it's the water

8:26

and whatever. And then he says

8:30

to me, so I was kept telling him

8:30

like you need to stop. Like

8:33

she's saying asking you to stop,

8:33

you need to stop. And he comes

8:38

to me and says You always side

8:38

with her more than you side with

8:41

me. Guys, I'm saying all of this

8:41

for a reason. Because parenting

8:46

and business are so

8:46

interconnected. Like it is not

8:51

even funny how connected how

8:51

much of your parenting skills

8:56

you can apply to your business.

8:56

So as this is happening,

9:03

obviously like, you know, we

9:03

manage to do it, we figure it

9:06

out. We end the day, and then

9:06

I'm reflecting and so this is

9:11

another practice I want to share

9:11

with you every night or self

9:14

reflect. I'm like, Okay, how did

9:14

the day go? What worked, what

9:17

didn't work? And many days I'm

9:17

like, oh my goodness, my

9:22

attention goes to what I didn't

9:22

do. Well. Can you see the

9:29

pitfall in that? This is a age

9:29

old habit for me where my my

9:35

brain always goes into how can I

9:35

improve? How can I do things

9:42

better? On the surface? It may

9:42

sound like that is an awesome

9:46

thing. Like you're self

9:46

reflecting how however the

9:51

pitfall is where your attention

9:51

is. If your attention is on what

9:57

you're not doing well what are

9:57

Are you creating more of what

10:02

you're not doing? Well, and this

10:02

is an active thing, I have to

10:07

constantly remind my brain of

10:07

what I'm also doing well, so I

10:13

have a pact with myself, which

10:13

is like, I cannot go into what

10:18

I'm not doing well, without

10:18

going into what did I succeed

10:22

with today? And what are my wins

10:22

from today? My first win was I

10:29

kept two kids alive. I'm joking,

10:29

guys, but it is true. There are

10:34

days as a parent, I am sure you

10:34

can relate

10:39

that their basic survival

10:39

becomes the focus, right? Like,

10:43

did you feed them? Did you keep

10:43

them clean? Did you take care of

10:48

their emotional well being? Did

10:48

you give them a hug? Did you Did

10:51

you just spend time with them?

10:51

Right? Those are the that

10:55

survival. So they go great kept

10:55

them alive today, we actually

11:00

also organize their whole closet

11:00

so that they have access to all

11:05

their, we can even see what toys

11:05

they have, what what activities

11:11

they can do on their own or play

11:11

and all that, because it was a

11:16

complete mess. We hadn't done

11:16

any of that for the last year,

11:21

since school since school

11:21

started the fall of last year.

11:26

And so we did that together as a

11:26

family. So the three of us sat

11:30

down, and we went to all their

11:30

things and organized. So now

11:33

they know where their toys are,

11:33

where their art projects, all

11:37

those things. And so it was a

11:37

big day. And then we went to the

11:42

pool, they had fun. So it was

11:42

like, Alright, okay, I did these

11:46

things. Well, so what did I not

11:46

do? Well, okay, I lost patience.

11:50

Okay. All right. How can we

11:50

regroup today. So this self

11:55

reflection works, really, it's a

11:55

very important thing. And then

12:00

plus, I also reflected in the

12:00

middle of all of this, I planned

12:04

for what I have to do for June,

12:04

because I'm also taking July,

12:08

mostly off, which is something I

12:08

had been wanting to do for a

12:12

long time, I really just wanted

12:12

to take a month off, where I am

12:17

not thinking about anything

12:17

related and just being in the

12:20

present moment. Because the

12:20

present moment is where what we

12:25

create, where we create, and I

12:25

need this time this downtime to

12:29

really regroup and see what is

12:29

needed for my work for my for my

12:34

business and also for my own

12:34

evolution. So that was my that

12:41

is my that was most important to

12:41

me about July and so can how can

12:45

I how can I structure my

12:45

business in a way that I can

12:48

actually take July off, because

12:48

balance is off most importance

12:53

to me at this point in my life,

12:53

because, you know, the kids grow

12:58

up so fast, already nine years

12:58

of his life has passed by and

13:02

I'm like, wow, how did that

13:02

happen? I'm sure you feel the

13:06

same way, whether you have

13:06

children or not, you can look

13:09

back and go, How did all this

13:09

time fly by the only limited

13:16

thing in this planet is energy

13:16

and time, everything else is

13:21

plenty available. And you can

13:21

always create more of what you

13:24

want. But time and energy are

13:24

limited. So how can you work

13:30

with that? And so, really taking

13:30

an inventory of your life

13:35

especially now, it is six months

13:35

of the year has passed six

13:40

months are yet to come? How what

13:40

has worked for you for the last

13:45

six months? And what is it that

13:45

you want to create in this next

13:50

six months? So, really taking a

13:50

moment to see what do you want

13:56

to create. So important and as

13:56

you do that, you can

14:00

recapitulate and see what has

14:00

worked for you what are the

14:04

winds from these last six

14:04

months? And what is it that you

14:07

would like to create in the next

14:07

six months, because this will

14:11

help you regroup again. And we

14:11

have to keep doing that because

14:17

change is necessary change is

14:17

inevitable. And the more

14:23

consciously you can start to

14:23

shift and change how you do

14:27

things, the different you will

14:27

find different results. And so,

14:34

very, very important, very

14:34

important for you to just take a

14:38

moment. And the reason again to

14:38

start with the wins is because

14:42

whatever we pay attention to is

14:42

what will expand if you only

14:48

focus especially if you are the

14:48

kind of person who is focused on

14:54

growth. It is not a what is the

14:54

word It's not unusual for very

15:04

driven people to focus on what

15:04

they can improve on. This is

15:11

good. However, you need to also

15:11

not that you need to do anything

15:16

but my invitation to you is to

15:16

also bring in what are the wins

15:21

that you have. I did this

15:21

recently with my mastermind

15:26

students, we have weekly calls.

15:26

And I said, From now on, we are

15:31

going to start with wins, each

15:31

one of you share one win that

15:35

you've had in this week. And

15:35

then we're going to now collect

15:40

a in evidence of all the things

15:40

that you are doing well. And

15:47

it's amazing, my mastermind is

15:47

very small, I keep it small,

15:51

because I like giving the one on

15:51

one attention to my students,

15:56

and that we can go deeper into

15:56

things. And so we go around, and

16:01

we share the wins. And it is so

16:01

powerful. And I do that with my

16:05

kids too. What is one thing you

16:05

love about yourself today? Like

16:10

what is one thing that you are

16:10

so proud of today? And it is

16:17

such a beautiful practice to do?

16:17

And so this is where I want you

16:25

all to start to see what are

16:25

your wins, then look at what is

16:29

it that you want to create such

16:29

a powerful way to start doing

16:33

this? Okay, so this was the main

16:33

goal I had for today just

16:40

chatting with you all. And

16:40

especially sharing what is how

16:47

do you focus on creating what

16:47

you want while also having your

16:52

attention on what is working. So

16:52

take a moment and write this

16:58

down if you haven't already. And

16:58

you can pause the episode if you

17:02

want, and then come back to this

17:02

after that. Now once you do

17:08

that, then once you write down

17:08

your wins, and then what is it

17:12

that you want to create? Then a

17:12

look at, okay, what hasn't

17:18

worked? But when you do that, I

17:18

want you to look at it from the

17:22

angle of not like Okay, I did

17:22

this wrong? Or how could I say

17:28

if the guilt comes in, that's

17:28

very important to work with.

17:32

Because guilt, in my opinion is

17:32

a very useless emotion. guilt

17:38

comes in because we you feel you

17:38

really care about whatever the

17:45

person or whatever happened,

17:45

that circumstance you care about

17:49

the outcome. However, there's

17:49

nothing you can do to change

17:53

that whatever has happened. So

17:53

now comes the repair work. What

17:59

does repair work, we mean, in my

17:59

therapy practice, repair was one

18:05

of the biggest things I focused

18:05

on when couples would come to

18:07

see me or even with their own

18:07

selves, because whenever there's

18:12

regret, it means that something

18:12

hasn't gone the way you wanted

18:16

it to go, which means you have

18:16

this notion of where you think

18:21

it could have gone. And so

18:21

repair work sometimes involves

18:24

other people, or it involves

18:24

repairing with your own self. So

18:30

like I was reflecting yesterday

18:30

of like, oh, okay, I didn't do

18:36

that really well with my

18:36

children. So first, it started

18:40

with me saying, Okay, I have to

18:40

repair it with my own self,

18:45

because beating myself up on top

18:45

of everything else that has

18:48

happened is pointless. So I

18:48

started off with that saying,

18:53

Okay, this is this is what has

18:53

happened, what can I do

18:56

differently? This is where you

18:56

have to change, change is

19:02

necessary without change, you're

19:02

going to create the same

19:06

outcome. So I started to look

19:06

at, okay, how can I change

19:10

things? How can I do things

19:10

differently going forward, and

19:14

then also forgiving myself

19:14

forgiving myself for having lost

19:18

patience or whatever happened

19:18

yesterday, forgiving myself. And

19:23

then now, this morning does the

19:23

reason I'm recording it at five

19:28

549 this morning because this is

19:28

the only time I have so when I

19:34

see them this morning to really

19:34

open up a dialogue about how

19:39

they perceived yesterday,

19:39

whatever happened and how in

19:44

allowing them space to express

19:44

how they feel. Because that is

19:51

often what makes people feel

19:51

better when they feel heard and

19:54

understood. They're going to

19:54

feel better me and so I'm going

19:58

to make space for that before We

19:58

start our day today. And that is

20:02

also going to allow us to see,

20:02

okay, where where am I? What

20:06

what is it that these children

20:06

need? And how can I do this with

20:10

them differently? So this is

20:10

where I want to, I'm going to

20:18

pause the session again. Are you

20:18

hard on yourself? Because again,

20:25

I noticed this, a lot of the a

20:25

lot of very driven people tend

20:32

to be hard on themselves. It's almost like a programming

20:35

that, if I'm hard on myself, I

20:38

can get things done better. This

20:38

is where again, I invite you to

20:43

pause and see, because is that

20:43

really going to help you? Or is

20:47

that going to? Is that going to

20:47

benefit you? Or is it going to

20:52

add fuel to the fire? Right? And

20:52

so when you can see it, that it

20:57

doesn't really serve you, then

20:57

you can start to do things

21:01

differently. So that is my

21:01

invitation to you take a look at

21:07

your life. What do you need to

21:07

change? And without this added

21:11

pressure have I did something

21:11

wrong? So what are you taking

21:18

away from this session? Share

21:18

with me, I love hearing from you

21:23

send me a DM on Instagram or

21:23

send me an email and share with

21:27

me what your takeaways are. And

21:27

if there are specific topics you

21:31

would like me to talk about,

21:31

because the more we interact,

21:35

the better it is for me to share

21:35

whatever questions come at me

21:39

versus me just sharing things.

21:39

Okay, so and then also, I would

21:47

love to hear what are some of

21:47

your favorite episodes that

21:50

you've listened to? Because that

21:50

also going to help me see okay,

21:55

what are the topics that are

21:55

resonating with you? This is a

21:59

co creation process with you all

21:59

because the more you interact

22:03

with me, the more I can share

22:03

things that are going to be

22:07

beneficial for you. So with

22:07

that, I come to a conclusion. If

22:11

this episode, if if you found

22:11

value in my podcast, please

22:16

leave a review. I would love to

22:16

have this reach more people. And

22:23

like I said this episode, I've

22:23

kept it super simple, because

22:26

it's more like a check in point

22:26

with your own self check in

22:30

point with me and bringing this

22:30

pointers in so that you can

22:33

really intentionally create

22:33

whatever you want to create in

22:38

the next six months. And I'm

22:38

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