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you guys walking back to the dad tired podcast today,
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we are continuing series on what
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it like to be a spiritual leader in your home
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really practically this is part two of a
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two-part series so if you missed last week, definitely recommend
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that you can download that, man
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listen to that one before you jump into today's
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episode also, if you listen to
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last week's episode and you listen to today's
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episode in your like man, this is really good,
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i feel encouraged but i
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just need more like i just need somebody
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to like give some really practical
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stuff on how to leave my family dejesus
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we have those tools we have that
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was called the family leadership program this is a
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four week course where you go through
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with a group of guys are going to be course guys paired
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up with you and some other guys in your cohort
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were really get a challenge you and push you towards
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daily practical steps in
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leading your family well week one where can just talk about
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you what it looks like for you as a man to love jesus
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we do we're gonna talk about what does look like for
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you as a husband to lead your wife toward
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jesus week three reenter about what is it look like for
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you to lead your kids or jesus
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and and lastly we were going
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to talk about what is it look like to be on mission
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at work to see the gospel transform the way
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you think about war then after
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those four weeks you're still part the program you'll jump
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into the monthly live trainings you'll stay
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connected with your cohort near course guys
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and everyone else that's part of the program
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that in a continuation of the program
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even after the four weeks for the first four weeks or
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intense like you you commit to i'd
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say realistically tend to thirty
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minutes a day to get after the homework
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there's daily bible reading plans there's
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an assignment for you to watch and
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then there's some homework to do then there's
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some stuff the process with your course guy you
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can go as you know at your own pace
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so if you want to take those four weeks and spread
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amount over four months of four years at soy up
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to you but he writes i just tell you
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that causing a lot of guys are like you listen to podcasts
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new love it and it's helpful for you and encouraging
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to you you just a minute i just
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need to make a really really practical me what
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to do day one tell me what to do day to
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indicate things of that's you you feel like
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you just you're ready to
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have some
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more practical tools the
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would not have you join our program what you'd jump
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and if you were to sign up today you would jump in on the
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first of the next months or whatever you
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start the first of every month is how that
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that works for me have a small group your
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cohort that you go through every month with those group
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of guys anyway if you have any questions on
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that hit us up and let us know we we'd be happy
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to answer those forty if you ready to dive and you can go to
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data are dot com forward slash lead eli
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your family wealth that a with all that said the
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same into week to have what it looks like to lead
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our family well when it comes to school to leaders
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the us and we talked about the attitude
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of spiritual leadership and some of the myth
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that kind of surrounded that to be
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a spiritual leader of your household you should be waking
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up every morning before dawn and
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making sure that you're executing the original
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greek at all times and that all
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your kids have a home school education
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in the original latin you know like all
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these is kind of crazy stuff and without
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a proper guideline or without
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a kind of a can and are measuring
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stick we don't really know how we're doing sometimes
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in this category and so i want to a simplify
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it for us by using scripture and
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be not over simplify it or it's
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make it so easy that for gonna let off
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the hook with that were called to be as fathers
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and as husbands and so what does spiritual
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leadership look like and so
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last week we talked about the attitude of
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a spiritual leader we looked at flipping shepherd
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to and what jesus consider to be a proper
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attitude of leadership we talk
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about closest leadership about birthday
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birthday expectations the difficulty
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of been a husband and a father and
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that means for all of us and had a burger look
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at what are some of those actions what are ways
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that we are able to in
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the categorically look at our lives
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and say how am i practicing the
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work of spiritual leadership
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in my household in what are some of those tips
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that i could walk away with or it's simple thing
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they could put an upright this may be are you new
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to face or you're new to caring
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about that you are the spiritual leader
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of your household and you really want to dive
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into what that looks like better if you
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want to turn with me once again we always want a gram
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what we say in scripture so that doesn't
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become a self help book or the gospel according
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to chris but instead what the scriptures tell
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us so if he ever bible to bring an open the
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second corinthians chapter five so
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my favorite chapters the bible synchrony
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sector five it it contained
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my favorite first in the bible which
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is second for these five twenty one which
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says god made him who had no sin
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to be sin for us so that in him
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we might become his righteousness
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but it's all about sing capsule
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he did in the context of
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a greater chapter one of most helpful things
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that you can ever have as a spiritual
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leader of your family is when you go to read
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scripture or if you are doing
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a devotion or something else like that i had
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a professor one time tell me and it's stuck
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with me ever since never read a bible verse would
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you gonna backwards because you think wait shouldn't be
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tell me to read more bible verses but it's his
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point was readable paragraphs read
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bible sections but
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don't read the bible verse bible verse without
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context is almost you can make the bible
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say almost anything you want if you read bible
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verses yellow really
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hard time manipulating the texts if you read
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bible paragraphs bible sections or
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books or the bible so that we want to be able
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to do so we start here and second instructor
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side
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it said
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the sixteenth
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the no one we regard no
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one more worldly point of view though
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once we regarded christ in
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this way we do so no longer before
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if anyone is in christ the
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new creation as com the old creation has
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gone the news here this is
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from god okay so it's saying
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if you are in christ and that's again that's a starting
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point for all conversations of spiritual
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leadership and leading our families
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and maybe you're not adidas follower and you're listening
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to this the bible seems to indicate
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that the our that we have to lead our
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families spirits is other we kits mimic
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as nonbelievers what use is called us to do
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it's that the source by which in the
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spirit in which were empowered to do these
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things comes exclusively
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the the spirit of god and our life so it's
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not that as nonbelievers we can mimic these
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things it's just out of the
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the pure in his of the spirit of god
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brought able to tap into the strength
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and the source of what gives us the power
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to do these things so it says therefore
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it begins if anyone is in christ
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there a new creation the fact
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of you do the things in in the negation if anyone
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is not in price they are not a new
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creation their part of the old self
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description talks at the old adam this old
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way of thinking then again
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all you can do that is mimic and mock
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what someone in christ should do
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but you won't actually be tapping into power
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of the spirit in your life all this
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is from god who reconciled
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hey that's the same what we would use like fixing
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a relationship so genesis chapter
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three says there was a war between
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god and mankind because we
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committed treason against god we were
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in our nature at war we were
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enemies romans tells us we are enemies
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with god
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but
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chapter five of roman says
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from his fibrous a big got demonstrates his love for us
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in this while we're still sinners christ died
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for us to we were enemies and then
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god reconciled us to himself
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by his death lacrosse he paid the price
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of the war that we started then in his
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resurrection he promised us a newness
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of life in him there were able
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to tap into now we don't experience
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heaven when we die we get the start experiencing
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it now not in the pain
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free suffering free grief
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free life but we the tap into
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heaven now because we have christ enough the
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increase in us is what we can expect the rest of
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eternity and john seventeen says we
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have that
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now
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so we look forward to the kingdom of god some
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day in it's former the right now we're
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still able to experience it because we're able
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to have god living inside of us the
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reconcile the us to himself to christ and gave
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us than the ministry reconciliation so
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as dad's we've been given the
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ministry the ability that the power
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and spirit we have it on
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call to be ministers
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of reconciliation a minister is
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is someone who who gives or who
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administrators or who
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execute reconciliation
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you did that god was reconciling the
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world to himself and crisis guy was doing
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god used jesus who
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make peace with the world that the that says
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instead of counting people's sins against them
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instead of holding them copa born accountable
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and judging them and punishing them for their
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sins god held
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jesus accountable and caught the ball and
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punish him for our sins that
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he has committed to us the mess a reconciliation
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are just the mystery of a but also the message of
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we are therefore price
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ambassadors the jesus came
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as an ambassador for the kingdom of god the
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game and he made himself nothing and he took
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the form a surfeit and he was executed in crucified
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to make reconciliation between god
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and mankind the know god has given
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us the ministry of reconciliation
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and we like guthrie ambassador as we
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like christ we're
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going to do the same thing with those around us
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as father's as has been we are
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christ's ambassadors it
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as if the next vs as though
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god we're making his appeal the
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through us as if we were walking
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into walking foreign country as citizens of
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our home country
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then we were
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the ending reconciler in between
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our king and there's between our
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king and the citizens there that
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we have a good great king that all
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mankind has sinned against and we
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as ministers a reconciliation as ambassadors
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we put on the robes of our home country
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would put on the robes of righteousness of jesus christ's
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we walk to the foreign countries that's
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the sinners and the simple people around us including
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but not limited to our own family
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we walked up to them as ambassadors
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of christ
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then we appeal
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to them
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on behalf of jesus the
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be reconciled jesus we
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implore you on christ behalf that
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me cry the father before anything else
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in your child's life should
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not be god gives them a great wife
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gives him a great has been given the great job
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given the great career it
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would be lord use whatever
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necessary who turn
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their heart to you whatever
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it is it it comes to trial
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through pain through success to joy through
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anything before they are a ceo
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before they are and mbp i want
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them to know you as father god
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may i as father may i as
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dad not seen in the way of
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the great work you're doing in my kid to
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draw his heart towards you may i
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be a minister of that may be
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helpful that process may
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not miss the importance of
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g o d and instead replace
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it with mbp the i care much
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more about his character in
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g o d that is g p a and his mvp
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these are all important letters but
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god is the most important may
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i first and foremost see myself
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as a minister that once
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god on behalf of geez to make peace
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between my son between my
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daughter
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they're save you
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dot if you transform my kid into nothing
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else they achieve
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nothing but they are found in new
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my work as father will be
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complete everything else
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we do flows other the reason that we discipline
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the reason that we want them to go to a good score the recent
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we do all these things is that they would
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know jesus
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that's it
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imagine have a very successful very
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profitable very well liked
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respected member of the community that
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you bring up but they don't know jesus
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they can look forward to a life that was free
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from the suffering of poverty
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and that they would have a great at human
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in that they would be well known in that their voices beats
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persuasive in the community that
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that we knew at the end of their life that they would face judgment
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apart from that would any of
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us as father's ever take that trade we
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are first and foremost ambassadors for
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god the be reconciled
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you guys god made him who
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had no sin to be seen
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for us that we might
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become the righteousness of
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god the in there i think it gives
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a great idea of what are the actions
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the spiritual leader and it's that
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we are ambassadors we ambassadors
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which is a verb to
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ambassador which is a kind
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of a funny word but it means that we
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properly represent
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we are the one in
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charge of demonstrating
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what it's like to be part of
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the kingdom of god can you got it
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invisible our job as
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dad's is to make the invisible church
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the invisible kingdom of god visible in
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our kids life so
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what does an ambassador do how
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do we invested on behalf of god's
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kingdom for our kids ibooks
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hundred for things as we wrap up the
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super cheesy but it's not a difficult as it
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may seem a s a
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m which has not already spell seen like this
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but more like seem like a book or
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whatever but i think of the word seen as
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a m the great way that i've used in my
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life to remember what does it mean to be
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christ and basket or as a father and
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as a husband as a
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hamburger cases the cross stitch i feel like i have
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to have simple things and kind
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of mnemonic device is in my life so
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that the difficult parts my day i don't have the going
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poet my binder and figure out what this
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guy talked about but instead i can just drop to minds
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this was this has been really helpful for me when
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i met my best when i'm embezzling for christ
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best here's what i'm doing
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here's what
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to embarrassing for
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christ
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simply put it when paul talks about incessant
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he says follow me that
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follow jesus i really
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think that's the action of spiritual leader follow
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me as i follow jesus which
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is scary because of our families following
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us and follow his anywhere they can also follow
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us into bad thing so we want to be well aware
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of what we're doing and how we're doing it the
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burden we place in ourselves and we say the phrase to
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our family follow me like i follow jesus
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the names will hold us accountable and
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make sure that we are culpable to our actions
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and behavior in the things that we do the
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bible doesn't say every day you need to get at five
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thirty and make sure you you start your day in prayer
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everyday you need to make sure that you are
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teasing out and old ancient him and it's original
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language is it it it he doesn't say that
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we need to make sure that we're in a one as be times a week
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and that our kids are winning the a one
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is trivia able to be a championship
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this is not woods or that cannot be good
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things out of know but they want to seem to have a job
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in itself as soon as the good things in our life
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for sure that's
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what you feel like you're calling his as
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christ's ambassador or if we're that's the
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only way the only discipline that you can
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think of to keep you on track with ambassadorship
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for christ then by all means do it the
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bible does not implicate us on that
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they didn't talk about that and it wouldn't make sense
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for a first century do who's reading
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the track to think like that because
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they would never act the to a bible personally
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though the bible can't mean that
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the only way this is for wives to
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for listening to this that her husband possibly
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can match up to what it means be a spiritual
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leader is that we're having daily devotions
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and we're diving deep into what i'd i'd say
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what i'm a pastor and i'd take
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the word of god very very very seriously
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the outset of a few times where it's
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fit into what we're doing this is
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not what i'm doing i'm not holding daily
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devotions with my family instead
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i modeling and modeling pasadena
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for christ's work in my life
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and again i never want to make the bible
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seymour that says i don't
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think that simple and for us this is what jesus took
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issue with with the ferriss the fares these
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took the law they took the simple commands
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of god and they added sensors around
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them right from the bible says don't
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dance or the premises don't have premarital sex
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or vs would say well done don't dance because
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dancing scan the degeneration generation
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to lead a lust and lust can lead to
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premarital sex therefore no dancing of
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i wouldn't censor jesus came toward another fences
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and he said my law was good my
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petitions were good the way that i
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am asking you to lead your family is good
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you don't even make new rules then
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we don't need to hold people accountable to the rules
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that maybe your dad did that
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you know think this is what all men must do
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really i think what we should hold on to live
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us in the last one do they have the attitude of jesus
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that to have been to doctor about to the show
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meekness power under control or the a humble
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man it certainly do the
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ambassador in their actions do they show
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the work of jesus in the whether they act and hear
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the way that here's a here's the arguments
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i could probably make from scripture simply that
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show this is what it means to
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ambassador in into act as a spiritual
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whatever family the first one again
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it's it the academic news is seen as
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the a and the first one is to seek gospel
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to netease gospel kennedy's are gospel
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opportunities in our families gospels
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unity a lot of the times as a father
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is moments where our kids slip up or mess
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up the can also be an opportunity let's
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say you're watching a movie that has some steam
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in it that goes against
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who jesus is or maybe you're watching
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cs lewis's chronicles of narnia
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and you can do the opposite you can pause it
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and go okay the plan who
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had always strength of alliance and all the power
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that comes and way more powerful in the white which
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why did he lay himself down on
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that alter humiliate himself
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an allowance of to be executed who
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deserve to be on the altar right
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who deserve to be up there why
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weren't they have their instead these
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are the way that we can show gospel tuna these
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it's pointing conversations back to
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jesus editing what paul does it over
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and over again and just as the same thing he's walking
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along in the desert and he
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comes upon ab a garden and he says
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the kingdom of garlic a farmer who had some seeds
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a jesus is constantly pointing
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his people towards gospel thanks
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the father i would be remiss
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to let days go by without reminding
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my kids that the world
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that we see is not the way it seems
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the siemens of this world are not primary
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they are not prim they are not that the point
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though the moments like and taken see something
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in a movie that goes against what we believe
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as christ followers and i can pause the movie and
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say guys as for me and my household
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here's what we believe concerning this this is what jesus
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cause us to the can be seated
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happened over nobody we see paul do it with
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the paul offer correction an admonition
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we see jesus do the same thing he takes
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simple things every time until the parable
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it's an earthly store that has a heavenly meaning
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he points conversations to heaven
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how can i share the gospel right now
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this is what it means to seek gospel tuna
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eighties and were disciplining our kids
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we want to align with the sin
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of their life and say but i
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saw you hit your sister and trust me i
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know what it means a loose of control i
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do it all the time i mess up
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all the time in god forgive me for
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it and inside you buddy is
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the same power that is able to resist
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what you just did sometimes
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it our flesh we do what's contrary
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to our but we do the wrong thing even though we know
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the right thing is been is that what just happened the
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oh god loves you and god god forgives
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you and i forgive you the consequences
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for her actions and that's where we're going experience
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discipline right now but i want you know
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that you are loved you accepted
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and you belong here the
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the
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the gospel communities when we lead
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our family well we seek those on a daily basis
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in the second one he asked his
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seek gospel to me second is engage
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readily the way that the greeks described
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their gods was apathy they
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are gods you were apathetic who are far
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off i would guess if you look
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at modern father and on television
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you could describe in the same way
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it's the peter griffin's the homer simpson's
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the guys from modern t v or cartoons
20:29
or king of the hill or bob's burgers these
20:31
these men are apathetic they're not engaged
20:34
they see children as a burden they
20:37
they're excited for night that with the guys they have no
20:39
responsibility and all those moments can
20:41
be fun we need to find
20:43
deep meaning the
20:46
engagement and net meaning
20:48
in moments where we are free from engaging
20:51
your free from responsibility how to engage
20:53
readily it means i'm i'm aware
20:55
and attentive of what my kids
20:57
needs are and what they're struggling with
20:59
him with their attitudes are and whether disrespecting
21:02
my wife when they're disobeying
21:04
when there are in when they're being dishonest there's
21:06
one thing that i've noticed when i talk to
21:08
people i i do some like premarital counseling
21:10
in that i also get to do had the honor of
21:12
getting to walk through some young families and
21:15
do some workshops and parenting worked as a
21:17
discipline workshops and how to carry
21:19
out discipline properly this is my favorite things
21:21
to do but i hear people say sometimes i
21:23
watch my kid do this and i just ignored it because
21:25
i didn't want discipline them as if the
21:27
authority of discipline
21:30
has been given to them as parents
21:33
you decide whether or not they want to execute the
21:35
discipline and it's not god
21:37
has placed us as ambassadors
21:40
and when our kids break our laws
21:42
when they break the laws of our household
21:44
they're also breaking god's laws in
21:47
dot has it imminent permission to let
21:49
things go sure
21:51
we can show mercy and explain
21:54
grace and we can withhold
21:56
punishments but our kids better understand
21:58
in those moments of that's what's up the we
22:00
can't be epithet we can just see
22:02
from a distance and go on not gonna get off my but
22:05
and go i just watched my son
22:07
smack my daughter and he really should have done
22:09
that but if i pretend like a ignored it if i paatelainen
22:11
see it were gonna be fine know that
22:14
the the jesus follower
22:16
that's leading their family will engage
22:18
mainly they will be primed
22:21
and ready to engage with
22:23
the needs wants behaviors disciplines
22:26
encouragement admonition warnings
22:28
of their families they're active participants
22:31
in what's happening in the world around them the
22:34
got will tune it is engage readily
22:37
a third one and this is one that i think is missed
22:39
a lot to apologize often
22:42
the man we need to be great insisted
22:45
and ready apologize years let
22:48
me be great apologize if it means and we apologize
22:51
we use proper apology language that
22:53
means we don't say i'm sorry you felt
22:55
that way i'm sorry you made me do
22:58
this i'm sorry if that hurt your feelings
23:01
i'm sorry but i'm only human i'm sorry but
23:03
everyone does it i'm sorry but this is just the
23:05
way that it's going to be that we apologize
23:08
well and we apologize often
23:11
which means i acknowledge
23:13
what i did wrong i ignored that
23:15
what i did wrong hurt you and
23:17
i acknowledge that i will do something different
23:19
moving forward that i asked
23:21
for your forgiveness that i
23:24
do what i need to to make the situation
23:26
right so far as i can we
23:28
, often it even means apologizing
23:31
to those teenagers that we're raising it means
23:33
apologizing to my seven year old that times
23:35
i didn't see the day he wanted to stay up late
23:37
and play a game with dad know like
23:39
his big thing for the any ask me seventy seven
23:41
thousand times that day if i remembered
23:44
that we were gonna play gonna game and a game it is
23:47
the game that i love playing
23:49
with my friends and it's not a big deal with
23:51
like twenty two dollars on amazon god
23:53
kings of tokyo and we
23:55
did like to play and my son
23:58
has been trying to play with his friends my seven
24:00
year old but he left the pieces out in a lot of and
24:02
got like bent in damage there
24:04
is waiting all day to have special time at night
24:06
with his dad we were plagued things a tokyo together
24:09
that he got the game out and i saw some the pieces were bed
24:12
honey hardboard twenty
24:14
two dollar game would
24:16
i be a bigger child you
24:19
know their don't answer that question that i
24:21
had a just gonna head like a little hissy
24:23
fit inside i would a but
24:26
only pain
24:27
i told you if you're going to play this game
24:29
he needed care of it as a cue seven he
24:31
shine impresses friends
24:33
i bet you are younger sons that are destructive
24:36
leo in brady and a very well could
24:38
how to play a hand in it but then i'd
24:40
i'd just the whole rest the thumb we're
24:43
playing together it's like i knew that i need to punish
24:45
him for the fact that but i did it just
24:47
by being a little bit passive and i was
24:49
already annoyed because i just than a full day of
24:51
parenting and the get the moments
24:53
even that day where he was disrespectful
24:55
that is like i needed to show him in that
24:57
moment that i was hurt
25:00
this is embarrassing i hate that
25:03
i hate that i act like that and so he
25:05
went back upstairs that we played the game and i did go back
25:07
in his i what the only with him and i just
25:09
said hey man sorry you
25:11
get you excited to play that game and
25:14
it is acted like a child and
25:16
i i have to be better than that
25:18
for you and that that who got called
25:20
me to be as your dad and some
25:22
shopping you to forgive me but and and if you get
25:24
a redo maybe he played that game again tomorrow
25:26
night and i'm in have a better attitude and that
25:29
is not who i want to be for you and i'm sorry
25:31
that that kinda ruined our night together
25:33
and he apologized back so
25:35
on so sorry that i ruined your game and it
25:38
it just kind of it became a mutual moment
25:41
of does deep bond but
25:43
it was predicated on me
25:46
taking my stupid pride walking
25:48
up those steps these are him
25:50
for forgiveness and i can
25:52
do that all the time
25:53
and i
25:54
i'll be in the car and all yelled the backseat
25:57
not the us my kids for forgiveness and
25:59
the
25:59
that i've learned from
26:01
talking to a lot of students gay so i've i oversaw
26:03
student ministries for ten years at my church and
26:07
good cited ministry hundreds of of students
26:09
per year and which means in the course of
26:11
ten year you talking about close to ten thousand
26:13
students have come in and out of the ministry at different
26:15
times and when i realized is that
26:18
a lot of the students in this generation
26:20
have been more affected by their parents perfection
26:22
than by the mistakes then it
26:24
again i think a lot of the times our
26:26
kids will be more marked negatively
26:29
by are perceived perfection
26:31
or projected perfection than
26:33
by are honest repentant
26:35
mistakes the notion
26:38
that they have perfect parents that never
26:40
make mistakes is going to lead our kids to think
26:42
that they are anathema that they are not
26:45
worthy that they are weird that
26:47
their desires and that they're
26:49
they're selfishness is crazy
26:51
then we'd have to walk in it is in a room
26:54
where are kid is messed up and we say to them how
26:56
could you do this or if you just
26:58
listen to me as adults
27:00
don't adults the same thing all the time what
27:02
associate go the man but i
27:04
know exactly what just happened
27:07
i know that feeling we have to
27:09
work but are controlling it that's really what jesus
27:11
has called us to do but dude i get
27:13
it i make that mistake i sin just like
27:15
that constantly but we just go do something different
27:17
there we apologize often the
27:20
gospel tude it is engage readily apologize
27:22
often and lastly model disciple
27:25
ship model disciple ship one
27:27
of the things i was really struck by growing up my
27:29
grandma she died a few years back
27:32
but a member whenever with theater house outbreak
27:34
of in the morning and i would catch her reading her
27:36
bible then she never once said
27:38
you need to read bible just watched
27:40
to do it then i think we would do well
27:42
to ever family catch us modeling
27:45
disciple ship in about be weird at first you
27:47
might be sitting there like read your bible i get this is awkward
27:49
this is weird but there's no mistaking
27:51
at the bible makes it very clear that we are
27:53
as men to be men of the word the
27:56
be listening for me it's it's for
27:59
we're also going to turn on worship music
28:02
in the car they're gonna they're gonna listen to me
28:04
listen to sermons they're going to watch
28:06
me engage in the word we're
28:08
going to watch me wrestle with the truth of scripture
28:11
to model the say bullshit remember
28:13
being in youth ministry in one of the expectations i had
28:15
with our leaders that always bugged me
28:17
as i would i would go to cancer i would go to
28:19
retreat as other churches or even
28:21
starting out in it's in the church that i was out
28:24
in the leaders soon
28:26
as worship would start they would go to the back and they would
28:28
grab some food or they would go outside never talk
28:30
while the kids would sing in
28:32
the kids would engage in worship or slave
28:34
go to the back of the room snouts i would tell
28:37
me die i want the kids
28:39
to watch you worshipping i want
28:41
you to be in the middle of them if worshipping
28:43
is what kids do that
28:45
our kids will think it's a baby thing to do
28:48
reading the bible engaging in worship
28:51
and praying at all these things are
28:53
what we just gonna teach our kids about modeling
28:55
it for them than we've rejected one of the key
28:58
rules of disciple shit discipleship
29:00
is caught more than it's tough the
29:02
dad make no mistake
29:05
your kids the word
29:07
that you say like an amplified
29:10
speaker the words you say registered
29:12
about a one the things we do
29:14
register at fifty seven citizen
29:17
if i'm drinking a beer and telling you that it's
29:19
bad to drink are you going to listen to
29:21
what i say about drinking bit know you're in a watch when i'm
29:23
doing in the same way if i tell you
29:25
that praying is important but i'm not a prayer i
29:28
tell you that said he is important i'm not a steadier
29:30
if i tell you that serving mom
29:32
is important but i don't do if i tell you i
29:35
don't do it the i don't even know
29:37
what you catch me being a disciple if
29:39
you don't see it then when i get
29:41
older and you tell me it's important
29:43
the back my managed to think well why wasn't
29:45
it important for you
29:47
the gospel communities engage
29:49
readily apologize often in model disciple
29:51
ship and it's gonna feel weird at first if you don't model the
29:53
site bullshit but you're not praying and reading and doing
29:55
these things and getting caught doing them off and
29:58
gonna feel weird at first maybe little bit contrived in
30:00
force but i promise you it's better
30:02
than they get yourself well i don't wanna look fake
30:04
some is not going to do it it's like atrophy
30:07
it's like going to the gym you have to develop the muscles
30:09
to go get this is part of my discipline
30:11
here that the bible make you
30:13
really clear we are to be met of the word and that's not one
30:15
hour on a sunday listening to a sermon that
30:18
should be supplemental to our personal life walking
30:20
with jesus where you find
30:22
a man engaged in the word of god you
30:25
are going to find a model of disciple ship
30:27
that translates to the rest of our family where
30:30
can we as price investors model
30:33
display in do the things
30:35
that spiritual leader said it's not this super
30:37
high brow have to always be taking
30:40
level four hundred bible classes
30:42
or speaking for we have we have sing songs
30:44
sing along with our family and writing
30:47
new music for the church
30:49
says not what it means to be a spiritual
30:51
leader of our household we are to have the attitude of
30:53
christ and we are to practice the actions of
30:55
jesus never doing those things
30:57
we can look at that grade school that god gives us a
30:59
spiritual leadership and know there
31:02
were doing a good job the other
31:10
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31:12
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31:15
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