0:01

Never give up, fighting till the end,

0:03

gotta get back up No

0:06

time for loss, fighting till the end no

0:09

matter what the cost Keep

0:11

moving, gotta get back up one, keep

0:13

moving, gotta get back up Keep

0:16

moving, gotta get back up one, keep

0:18

moving, gotta get back up Is that

0:20

your personal philosophy? I

0:24

can tell you this, anything you want in

0:26

your life you gotta move, we know that

0:28

right? You gotta keep moving till you

0:30

get what you want and if you're moving, there's a

0:32

really good chance you're gonna fall from time to time,

0:34

it's just gonna happen And the

0:36

more you move, the more aggressively you move, the bigger

0:38

your objectives are if you will The

0:41

more you're gonna fall and the harder the fall is gonna

0:43

be, that's okay As long as you're doing

0:45

what you love to do, you just get back up right, so if that's

0:47

your philosophy you're gonna do great Now today, conversation

0:50

I've been having a lot lately about triggering

0:52

yourself, being triggered That's

0:55

crazy, I know, we decide what we want, we get

0:57

our habits in place, we start going after it, then

0:59

something, something, something happens and we open our mouth We

1:01

stick our foot in our mouth, whatever, something happens, right?

1:03

Mess with it, we eat some food, who knows what

1:05

it is, being triggered There's a way to

1:07

kind of get yourself and break yourself from those triggers, we'll talk

1:09

about that today Easy, easy,

1:11

easy, easy, all you have to do is do it, you'll be fine

1:14

It is the Daily Boost from Motivation to

1:16

move.com, the positive boost you need every single

1:18

day Since 2006, almost

1:20

5,000 episodes now, very simple mission, just get

1:23

up and be it, just keep up, that's

1:25

it Just, here we go, right? I

1:28

cannot tell you how many

1:30

times I have such a hard time getting out of bed and

1:32

getting stuff done But I go do

1:34

it, and then I can't tell you how many times that

1:36

happens and somebody will see me on Facebook

1:38

or something and go wow, that's inspiring Like

1:40

yesterday I bench pressed 319 pounds, that's

1:43

a crazy amount of weight Posted

1:45

a picture on Facebook and people are like, man, that's inspiring, I got

1:47

to get to the gym It's

1:49

crazy, and the show is that simple, so I promise you if

1:51

you'll hang out a little bit I promise

1:53

you if you listen between the lines, you're going to pick up a

1:55

few things you might not hear otherwise, so pay attention, okay? My name is

1:58

Scott Smith, I'm the founder of the Daily Boost and the Chief

2:01

Motivating Officer here at motivationtomove.com. Happy to

2:03

have you here today. I

2:05

am inspired to do

2:08

this show today by a couple

2:10

of reasons. We just had a

2:12

really busy April, a non-stop April.

2:15

I had family in town. I think every possible family

2:17

member that I have and my wife has, has been

2:19

at my house. And then we had a wedding on

2:21

top of it and everybody was there too. It

2:24

has been crazy. So we had lots of conversations, endless

2:26

conversations because we live in different parts of the country

2:28

in many cases. And I was

2:30

sitting at the dining room table and I was talking to my

2:32

kids. My kids now are a little bit on the older side.

2:35

They're right at 40 years old. And

2:38

so you guide them a little bit. You help them all you

2:40

can. And with what I

2:42

do for a living, they know what I do but they

2:44

probably have listened to three podcasts in their entire life. So

2:46

I'm not going to stick my motivational thing

2:48

in their face. I'm not going to do that. That's

2:50

not wise, right? But I

2:52

was sitting there kind of listening and paying attention and they're learning

2:55

all this stuff anyway. And that

2:57

conversation came around about being triggered and

3:01

about how their default behaviors, the behaviors they've decided to

3:03

do and they said, this is my routine, this is

3:05

what I'm going to do. And

3:08

they were wondering why they kept faltering on it. And they

3:10

were putting out all these charts because they tracked their stuff

3:13

and had all this data.

3:16

And it was interesting to watch them discuss how

3:18

they were dealing with being triggered and messing things

3:20

up. So that's where this conversation came from today.

3:22

That sound familiar to you? Does

3:24

that ever happen? Have you ever caught yourself saying or doing

3:26

something? You just swore you wouldn't do?

3:28

Go on a diet. Yay. I

3:31

am never going to eat anything bad for me again. But it is

3:33

the weekend and I should have a free day, right? Boom.

3:36

Ever happened? You're triggered. It

3:38

happens all the time. It's an emotional thing. Very,

3:40

very frustrating. Because you set some rules

3:42

for yourself and then you don't follow them. And how crazy is that?

3:44

I know you're the boss of you. I'm the boss of me too.

3:48

I can set my own rule because I'm the boss of me. You

3:50

go do this. And then later on I say, I'm not going to

3:52

do that. You say, you're fired. It's crazy, right? Sometimes

3:55

you put your foot in your mouth. Absolutely. For

3:57

me sometimes it's pizza. that

4:00

I shouldn't be having. A little bit

4:02

okay, right? Moderation. Access on a few

4:04

things. Any case, your emotional

4:07

habits are triggering your actions usually before you have

4:09

anything to do with it. Now, before

4:11

I get into how you deal with it, how you think about

4:13

this, I want to put a concept in front of you I

4:15

don't talk about a lot on the podcast. I'm actually spending a

4:17

lot of time on my facial fashion coaching group with this. I

4:20

have become convinced over about 20 years of doing this work

4:23

that forget going backwards, forget going

4:25

forwards. Everything that you are doing

4:27

today, everything can be picked up

4:29

in what you're doing today. When we become

4:31

aware of our thoughts and our actions and we track

4:33

those, take an inventory if you will, over say

4:36

three or four weeks. If I get

4:38

you to track what you're doing over three or four weeks

4:40

period of time, if I do that, we

4:42

can look at that and I can pretty much with 100%

4:44

certainty tell you, well, this is you in a nutshell. That's

4:47

not me, it's not what I think. Yes, it is

4:49

what you think about. It's not what I want to

4:51

do. Well, obviously it is because you've been doing it.

4:53

It's not who I've been. It is evidently because you're

4:55

doing it. Across the board I can say that. So

4:58

with my coaching clients and facial passion, we capture that

5:00

awareness and we start to see these little itty-bitty things

5:02

that are happening, which is what we're going to talk

5:05

about today. These things and come here real

5:07

close. Let me tell you something. We actually do a daily

5:09

awareness diary and we capture certain things. There's a

5:11

certain way of doing that. I don't have time to cover that today.

5:14

But the theory is this. If

5:16

you've set yourself a goal, something you want to

5:18

do, and then you get

5:21

triggered and you go off your goal and you're honest

5:23

about capturing it, become aware of it, writing it down

5:25

and seeing it again and again and again, how

5:28

many days can you go before you say, I got to fix this?

5:31

Not long. Four or five

5:33

max and you say, all right, evidently it's

5:35

me that's messing things up. So I pay attention to it. So

5:37

the first thing is I want you to become aware of everything

5:39

you're doing. If you have any frustration at

5:41

all, if you feel like people trigger you, food triggers

5:43

you, stuff triggers you. Why is that? Become

5:47

aware of it and don't get mad, just become aware. So what do

5:49

we do about it? Well, step number

5:51

one, when it comes to controlling your triggers and

5:53

never being triggered again, if that's possible or human,

5:55

I think it's going to happen to some extent.

5:57

Obviously, we're human, right? Let's accept it. Number

6:01

one, catch yourself

6:03

after you've done it. Notice

6:05

your mistake and find it

6:08

sooner the next time. That's the basic rule. So

6:10

become aware of what happened. Don't get a lot

6:12

of... Honestly, a lot of people do

6:14

things and not even aware they did it because it's so

6:16

habitual to them. So I want you to

6:18

open up your awareness and say, all right, I did it

6:20

again. Don't get mad at yourself to say, I did it.

6:23

Oh, well. Somebody says to you, why

6:25

did you do that? You said you weren't. Ignore them. Put

6:27

it on yourself. Don't take their weight.

6:29

Catch it, catch it, catch it after the fact. As frustrating

6:31

as it may be, as real difficult as it may be

6:33

for you to course correct and go back,

6:35

it's easy to say, man, I just can't figure this

6:37

out. It's too hard. It's easy to do that.

6:40

But at least capture and say, hey, man, I caught

6:42

myself. I'm going to try better next time. So

6:45

now what you do is you pay attention. Now what I personally do

6:47

is when I'm knowing I'm going to get in that situation, say it's

6:49

food. Well, dinner and lunch and breakfast, that all

6:52

comes up about the same time. Maybe you go

6:54

out on the weekends. Maybe you go on a Saturday night,

6:56

you go to a big steakhouse or something, and you know

6:58

you're likely to get triggered at the steakhouse. Great. Just

7:01

think about it in advance. And as

7:03

you go out there, as you start to make the movements

7:05

yourself, catch yourself before you're

7:07

triggered. You're going to get better at

7:09

it. So say you walk into that big old steakhouse and it's

7:11

like, here we go. We're going to get the biggest steak I

7:13

can. We're going to go to the porterhouse. I

7:16

want some of the mushrooms on the side. Give me that bread.

7:18

All that bread they got over at Longhorn or Texas Roadhouse. That's

7:20

good stuff in it. Instead of having

7:22

the whole basket, I'll have one. You

7:25

catch yourself in the act of doing it. It doesn't feel good.

7:27

If you don't like it, you will later,

7:30

but you don't like it now. Catch yourself.

7:33

You're getting better when you do that. So first thing is catch yourself after the fact

7:35

and go, why did I do that? Second thing is

7:37

next time you come upon the situation, and I highly recommend you

7:39

just do it again. Get some practice. Catch

7:41

yourself in the act. And if you mess up, who cares? I

7:44

really mean that. It's like if you mess up

7:46

and you catch yourself in the middle of it and you just can't hold

7:48

yourself back, who cares? Just do what you're going to

7:50

do. Let's try it again. This is a

7:52

process. This is

7:54

changing the neural pathways in your

7:56

mind. This is interrupting the

7:58

patterns that you've had. built in for so

8:01

long. This is all science. It just works. So

8:04

number one, catch it after. Number

8:08

two, catch it while it's happening, real time. Number

8:11

three, catch yourself before and

8:13

act to stop it. Now you hit your goal.

8:16

That's it. You've done this before. Eventually, like I've said

8:18

before, if you become very aware of this and pay

8:20

attention to what you're doing, you're going to have to

8:22

write it down, by the way. You're going to have

8:25

to give a bit of a diary on this. Don't

8:27

trust your brain. You're not going to remember it clearly.

8:29

It's emotions. If you don't write

8:31

it down, you're not going to catch this. So

8:33

you have to notate this. So you're going to

8:35

catch yourself before you take the act and you're going

8:37

to stop it. If you catch yourself, become aware of

8:40

it. Eventually, you will stop. And what's going to happen?

8:43

Well, you're going to be very happy that you

8:45

changed that. Now you want one more thing to

8:47

make this a little bit easier on yourself? Here's

8:50

what I would do and I actually do do.

8:52

I find something, I had

8:54

this conversation with my trainer the other day when we go

8:56

to restaurants. He said, I have things on the menu

8:58

that are good for me that I like that

9:00

are not going to mess with me. They're just

9:03

as good as the bad stuff I want to order. So instead, I'm

9:05

just going to get the thing that I know is not that bad for

9:07

me. I'll order that instead. But the key

9:09

is it's something you actually like. Once

9:12

you understand that, when you can take one behavior and replace

9:14

it with the other, replace it with the other, everything

9:16

changes. Is it easy? Hell no, it's

9:18

not easy. How do I know that? Because you're human. Well,

9:21

you can probably hardly get yourself to listen to this

9:23

podcast every single day, even though you want to, right?

9:25

But it happens. Something gets in the way. What are

9:28

you going to do? I was busy. Some other podcasts

9:30

come up. I listened to the radio, God forbid, and

9:32

TV, maybe news. Oh no, how'd that happen? I promised

9:34

myself I'd never watch the news ever like that. It's

9:36

so negative. I know. And

9:39

then what do you do? Yeah.

9:42

We all know. Listen, this show a little

9:44

bit of time, you got to figure out that we just go to the real

9:46

stuff. We don't play around. Take

9:49

it for what it is. Go fix it. That's all there is to it. So

9:51

catch yourself after the fact that's

9:54

human. Just be aware, notate

9:56

it, catch it. Don't get upset. Catch

9:58

it during the act. Yeah,

10:00

then, catch yourself. Before

10:02

you do it, you fix the problem.

10:06

But in every area of your life, before you know it, everything is just the way

10:08

you want it. No need to be

10:10

triggered. See you tomorrow. Bye.